David Hamilton
Colorado
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Ever-evolvin' myself and helping others do the same with deeply meaningful fun; and superficially wide seriousness.
Yes I have this experience all the time, especially as I challenge my own beliefs that limits my prosperity, and well-being.
I just came out of a very, very rough week and a half myself, but I finally figured it out, and it wasn't pretty when I did, but I've really learned from it.
From my NYC days I have many Indian and Indian American friends. I grew up in Colorado so didn't have much experience with other cultures until I moved to NYC, and lived there for 10 years, one of the best things I even did. I always new that White American women had some pressure on them to get married before they "expired" (much more than men) but until I had Indian friends, I didn't understand the immense cultural pressure there is for it, for both Indian men and women. It's definitely one form of the marriage story, and you're not expired at all in my eyes buddy. :) So though I can't experience what you experience, I feel for you man. You're rant is completely understandable!
Stop watching the news, yes, especially the financial news! I can't stand watching that, especially because it's all about creating urgency, worry and anxiety.
This article is a great point about what happens when we get stuck in our fixed mind or righteousness even, that we have to do it alone and get it done or we're a failure. Having the psychological flexibility to continue to open our minds so we can achieve things greater that us by asking for help and realizing our human-ness is a true strength, and I'm happy to see more and more people writing about this lately, seems like it's everywhere!
@SamanthaWoods @skooloflife @blathering Survival certainly is one definition of success, but the only one? That is simply your belief, blathering. One thing I know is this...while I'm grateful for my formal education, I learn more now than ever because I got interested in my personal education and not just what I'm told I should learn. What sets me on fire. Should everyone learn some math,science,arts,literature? Sure. But to have it force fed in a very systemitized way, discounts natural passion and interest children have. Here's something that has no "direct evidence" that I think should be taught in school - compassion, gratitude, joy, non-judgmental awareness (and personal finance, practical money management, too). Interacting with the world and with people that operate from this space, is a wholly different thing than competition for who has the highest IQ or best social skills.
@skooloflife Hey buddy will def. check out that book, thanks for the recommend. I just watched on Netflix a documentary on Joseph Campbell this weekend called "Hero's Journey". Check it out if you want some AV experience instead of a book. 1/2way through the Firestarter sessions today and synergistically Daniel quoted the exact thing I saw in Hero's Journey this weekend. I love trippin' like that. :)
Have you heard of Spiral Dynamics? Pretty geeky stuff, but very similiar to Maslow's Hierarchy, and goes into developmental stages which include individual through to cultural. I first ran into this during my coach training years ago, when I first came across Ken Wilbur. Check it out if you get a chance.
For me, self actualization is muy importante as well. Love that quote by Roosevelt, too.
I certainly can relate to that starving artist myth, being a musician. It's a strong one. I also love to thing of myth as not something "untrue" but simply as a story ala Joseph Campbell and The Power of Myth. For me, it makes it more shift-able if I treat it as a story, but not as something that needs to be true or untrue. Then it becomes easier to play in the realm of lightness and possibility, in creating that "story of me" that I want to be and taking action that supports it.
My favorite line from the interview... "There's this new age perception that once you figure out what your intuition is telling you, that it's easy to follow...and IT IS NOT THAT WAY AT ALL." Freakin' Amen. That's my experience, too, with the Law of Attraction mumbo jumbo being standard-fare these days...it's easy for those who are lost already, to get duped by this. But I will say as far as intuition is concerned, it as if the clarity (passion) of the voice within brings us through the fear, though the fear is still there. Cultivating a lifestyle of mindfulness has to be the most invaluable skill that continues to teach me everyday, as I face my fears in creating the life I want.
@skooloflife I'm so with you man. For the last two years I've done the same, and I "woke up" a few months ago to change my life to doing what I love everyday, playing in the field of personal evolution and human potential. And I appreciate the offer very much! I'll be in touch soon about it.
My two current favorites "focus on what matters" and "surround yourself with awesome people". Oh, and design, I'm getting that up to speed in the next two weeks.
T @skooloflife I totally agree, only one plan and that's the passionate plan. Efff Plan B!
Fantastic, inspiring post. I love big dreams and passion for sure. It's why I'm doing what I'm doing now with my passion for writing on personal development, developing programs and coaching people. The hours of the day slip by people I'm not moderate about my work schedule. However, I will say that I make time to exercise and do lots of well-being practices so I don't burn out, and have changed by diet so I cut out all those indulgences that put on weight and kill energy. So in this sense of "moderation" or maybe better termed balance, is a good thing, fo sho!