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Hi Lori,


Been a while since I was here, but glad to be here today - I knew I just had to take out the time, somehow :)

I think I am a perfectionist, at least that's what people around me tell me! I don't think it's bad at all because you have everything in place, at the right time, right order, and nothing misfires if you work on your set routine, because perfectionist do everything with perfection! However, sometimes you also need to let go and I do that at times, when I know I should just take it easy and not let things bother me - perhaps over the weekend, a little break, a holiday, an outing....I just don't bother about the imperfection of things - but that's done consciously - it's not in my nature to be that ways though.


Good to know about your book too, must be taking you time writing it! I wish I had that kind of time at hand as well to sit and write, another to-do task on my list of things. 

Thanks for sharing. Have a nice weekend :)

5 days, 8 hours ago on Do You Strive for Perfection?

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Hi Leigh,


It's been a while, but I am glad I am here today :)

I wonder if I congratulated you on the new bundle of joy, and Charlie sounds like a delight! I was just reading through your post and remembered my good old days when my kids were that young. I could never think of sitting to write! I guess your attention does get diverted, unless you make sure the kids are busy with their work, or the younger ones are sleeping - those little hours we get off, such a relief!!


I would just say to take it easy and don't stress yourself. Once they grow up a little and are on their own, you'd find ample time to get down to your work and writing once again. I think all of us understand that, as we've been through it all, at least some of us have. Happy parenting....enjoy these days, they never return :)

Thanks for sharing, and you are truly blessed for having such lovely kids with you. Have a nice week ahead :)

1 month, 1 week ago on In between the moving parts, we write

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Hi Nathan,


Interesting question that something that most bloggers ask themselves and their readers, some time or the other. 



I'd also conducted a survey on my blog to find out about what my readers wanted to read and that guided me in the right direction. Surprisingly, they wanted me to blog about blogging, writing, and other things, which i slowly added to my existing categories, so it does help. But overall, write for your readers and yourself too, about what interests you as well, then you never go wrong.


Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead :) 

3 months, 3 weeks ago on What Do You Want to Read on My Blog?

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Hi Leigh,


Happy Mother's Day :)

Yes, Moms are special people I feel for the amount they manage to do, and I sure am proud to be one, just like you. Being writers and bloggers, or even the other working moms, I think we manage to create a perfect work-life balance - we make it happen I would say.


It's certainly not easy to do it all and at times something or the other takes a back seat, but if you have a supportive family, it gets easier and once your kids grow up, they understand and start respecting you for all that you do, isn't it?


I think Motherhood is bliss...and wishing you once again on this wonderful day for the Mom you are :)

Thanks for sharing. Happy weekend :)

4 months, 3 weeks ago on And that’s why mamas make the best writers

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Hi Leigh,


Wonderful post indeed :)

Ah...I don't believe in writers block at all and I just wonder how people don't have any ideas or anything to write about, while my head at times seems to be about to explode with the number of ideas! Perhaps those of us who reading and writing consistently don't face this issue - just my thoughts about it.


It's good you joined this writing blog hop and I wish you the best with it. Honestly speaking, I think with time I am becoming more of a blogger now than a writer!! I hardly get any time to really read good pieces, and the little time over the weekend is spent with kids and doing up the blog - maintenance part of it. Anyways, I think we all have our own reasons for writing, and like you, I write every single day, whether it's the blog posts, emails, journals, or even comments - especially long ones like these! 


I think I am more of a heart writer and even though I write posts and articles, they always have my two cents attached with it, so it's kind of a blend of both I would say so that my readers always take back something from my work, or my purpose of blogging isn't met. I know how tough it is to finally convince yourself that it's all done and hit the publish button - ah...the never ending edits, and each time you read, you feel something more can be added or deleted. The complete satisfaction doesn't come easily, isn't it?


Thanks for sharing this with us. Have a nice week ahead :)

5 months, 1 week ago on What is my writing process & how can it work for you?

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Hi Leigh,


Interesting indeed :)

Yes, I can well imagine such a tweet making your day when you least expect it - congratulations for that! I loved your story and the way you traveled such a great deal - I didn't know that earlier. I do envy friends who manage to get away, or perhaps I've never had the chance to do so myself, other than the 15 odd days twice a year, when we visit my Dad - or a nearby place, but that's about all. It's never been to a different country or continent so far.


I guess when kids are young, you can still manage to getaway, because once they grow up, you need to see to their education, as in our case, they have regular schools, tests, and can't afford to miss them. Moreover, if either of the partners is working full-time, it becomes all the more tough. So many things stop you, don't they? Yet, those who want to will always find a way :)

Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead :)



6 months, 2 weeks ago on How telling your story empowers you! Plus, I’ll tell you mine.

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Hi Leigh,


Informative post indeed :)

Yes, a lot of people just pick up images from Google, without really bothering about the copyright issues they could have later, and many have been caught and fined for it too. I think it only makes sense to attribute the photographer in your posts, and I do that always as well.


I do use Flickr and Creative Common too, though they aren't my favorite ones. I prefer Freedigitalphotos as it's quicker to find image there, or perhaps the loading is faster my end on that site, and you just need to attribute the site, which is enough. Yes, if you want to add your own quote or modify the image, you need to be very careful and use the free domain ones, because even if people allow you to do that, how would you attribute the photographer after cropping or changing his or her image to suit yourself. I usually use a free domain image for that, so no one needs to be attributed there, but all this takes time, so prefer the ready to use one as of now.


Thanks for sharing. Happy weekend :)

7 months, 2 weeks ago on How-to find images for your blog without getting sued

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Hi Adrienne,


Lovely to read and know more about you and yes, you are a brand for sure :) 


I'm glad you mentioned about this interview in your post yesterday, and we all had a chance to read through, thanks to Zac. Awesome as always, with something always to learn from you dear friend :) 

Thanks for sharing. Have a nice weekend, both of you :) 

8 months ago on Adrienne Smith – Personal Branding Spotlight

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Hi Leigh,


That was a lovely post indeed :) 


Yes, rejection is something most of us have dealt with I think. Being a freelance writer, I've often faced rejection, especially when you send articles for approval or apply for work etc. But as you mentioned, such setbacks are no reason to stop trying. 


In fact, these kind of rejections should be taken in a healthy way and help us to gear up for things later in life. These very rejections make us strong by inspiring and motivating us to move ahead and succeed, provided we take them in a positive way. Learning from the mistakes and making amends help us get better, isn't it?

Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead :) 

8 months ago on Why failure is a key ingredient to succeed!

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Hi Leigh,


Good to be over at your blog too :)

This is such a wonderful topic and I think most of us can easily relate to it, more so writers, because our work just never ends!! Whether we are writing for clients, or blogging, or even through the emails and comments - we are forever writing, it's a never ending task I'd say.


I enjoyed this post just like @SusanNeal and I think unless you say and put a real 'stop' to things, you'd just be hooked to things, where one thing leads to another. It happens ALL the time. You are right about closing the Internet connection or your computers and taking a real break - I wish I could do that, but I will in the next holidays that come up....I surely need to try that once!


I guess that's why people say your work should be focused on doing what you have to do and nothing else, and you can achieve a great deal by doing that, but for which you need to remove all other kinds of distractions around you. However, that choice is something we all need to make for ourselves.


Oh yes...the abundance jar is a nice concept, and though I recently learnt of it, I think expressing gratitude is a way of life we all need to adopt.


Thanks for sharing an inspiring post with us. Wishing you a very Happy New Year as well :) 

9 months ago on It’s time to put aside your goals for something far more important

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Hi Klaudia,

Good to be over at your blog :) 

Yes indeed - technology is fast progressing and with such devices it does become easier for the patient and for the doctor too to keep a check on things. I think Smartphones are making good progress in this regard. However, I wonder how they test patients that require certain tests, or perhaps it works only with and for some kind of medical problems, isn't it?

Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day :) 

1 year, 1 month ago on How Smartphone Can Change Healthcare – Wireless Medicine

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Hi Hajra,

Nice to hear from you after long, and I guess all of us understand that it's not easy to blog, more so when you have your studies also to take care of. So, don't worry - we are all here and would be around. In-fact if there is anything we can do for you, let us know :)

Take care and wish you the best - always :)

1 year, 3 months ago on Will I be back

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Hi Vishal,

Nice giveaway and nice themes shared here. Makes me rethink about starting my older Genesis blog that is lying just like that for sometime now.

Thanks for sharing :)

1 year, 4 months ago on ELEGANT THEMES GIVEAWAY: 2 Developer Account of 89$ Each (ENDED)

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@BetsyKCross  I agree with @BruceSallan  there - well done Betsy - you just made our day :)

1 year, 4 months ago on 12 Most Potatoey Portraits of Social Media Goodness

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Hey Stan!

Thanks so much for this lovely post and for including me with so many well known people in the Blogosphere - humbled indeed. :)

I still can't stop smiling from ear to ear on seeing the awesome potato pictures - thanks so much Betsy for these great pieces of art. I think each one is looking just wonderful in their new look.

I think I do know most of these fellow bloggers, except a few who I'd be soon checking out now. 

Thanks once again, both of you. Have a lovely weekend :)

1 year, 4 months ago on 12 Most Potatoey Portraits of Social Media Goodness

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Hi Lori,

I would love to choose more of peace and harmony int the world, and on a personal level - more of love and understanding with our dear ones. I agree, never losing your close ones comes first too :)

I wish these life rules could really happen and life would be so good. But like they say - not all wishes ever come true - yet there's no harm in wishing and hoping for the good things to happen in our lives.

Thanks for sharing. Have a lovely week ahead :)

I heard of bloglovin too, though never tried it out. I'm trying out FeedBlitz, but am unhappy with their support, and looking out for a better option too. Let's see what people say about this. I was using Aweber, but that goes well with marketers or affiliate or those wanting to sell something, and am none of those, so changed over. But looking for something better. 

1 year, 5 months ago on What Life Rule Would You Make?

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 @Lori  @Sandi Amorim Never tried it as I always loved the original, except when I sometime forget the words and might just use some of my own :)

1 year, 5 months ago on What Are Your Favourite Things?

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 @Lori - That IS my priced possession Lori :)

 

Yes, the smell of it hitting the parched land is what I meant - it just livens you up I think. And even when we have heavy rainfall our end, just sitting by the window or the porch and watching the rain, while we sip a cup of tea/coffee makes you feel nice - isn't it?

 

The sound of music was my first movie when I turned 16! My parents made sure we went to see it on my birthday, especially for that song...you are 16 going on 17...and it made me feel on top of the world - that's another favorite moment in time for me, which I can never forget. :)

1 year, 5 months ago on What Are Your Favourite Things?

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HI Lori,

 

I just love that song from the movie too- an all time favorite. I remember the movie so well, even after having seen it years ago - I think somethings leave a deep mark on your heart and mind. It's always been the song I chose to make myself feel good or happy too. :)

 

Nice list of favorite things, and I think anything that you can connect with and keep in your heart becomes your favorite. Mine would be very simple things....like a diary my Mom wrote while she was expecting me - all those treasured words, feelings, emotions are something I value to date. Things like the first rain, especially when it falls on the parched land or sand - that lovely feeling to dance in the rain -- brings back memories of my childhood. Or then just going out for a long drive - away in the wilderness with my hubby, and keep talking all along - never to return to the daily routine :) Ah...the list can be endless :)

 

Thanks for sharing, and making me drift away in such lovely thoughts. :)

1 year, 5 months ago on What Are Your Favourite Things?

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Hi Hajra - nice to have you back :)

I know about your Dad - and am just glad that all's well now. I can well imagine how it gets to see your parents collapse like that - where can we ever think of blogging at such times!

I also know about you becoming an aunt, and am glad that brought in much joy and happiness to all of you. I guess He has his way of  giving us joys and sorrows in his own time - isn't it?

I agree, not everyone can post like Jack does, he's indeed a tremendous blogger - and I guess you would have been here had things not caught up the way they did. Not to mention your studies in all of this. So, don't worry - we all understand. No problem at all about you not visiting our blogs and commenting - we are all here whenever you have the time to back online. 

Just take it easy for now, and be with your loved ones who need you more than us presently. I'm sure your sisters bundle of joy would be loving to have you around all the time too. :)

Thanks for sharing more of you with us. Wishing you much happiness and success. :)

1 year, 6 months ago on Life slipping, miracles happening and life!

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Hi Lori,

 

Time flies, but I know you must be thinking that all of this just happened yesterday. For those who undergo can only feel the real pain, while for us, we can just sit and read or share part of your pain. Yes, as I'd mentioned in an earlier comment on this porch, your blog has been a way to express yourself and your feelings with all of us, which we love to hear.

 

It makes us feel we are nearby and wish at times we could reach out and just give you a close hug too. I know the distances are much and we have to be where we are. But never feel that you are alone or can't share more of your feelings or about Alex with us, because we are here for you anytime. We hare your grief and feelings this way - on this platform, and need to thank you for thinking us worthy enough to share it with too.

 

Thanks for sharing all of this with us. Take care, and have a nice week ahead :)

1 year, 6 months ago on Thank You

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Hi Andrea,

Yes indeed, haven't we seen so many of these floating around and then we tend to compare them with our real life or things we've come across otherwise. I guess if we don't use them for our personal growth or self-development they really don't have meaning, or we shouldn't give them much thought.

Thanks for sharing. :)

1 year, 6 months ago on Advertisements with Subliminal Messages: are they a real Threat?

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Beautifully written Alice,

I loved the three cases you shared above, each one different from the other yet with a lot of meaning. Life happens for me, or at least with time I am trying for it. I say that because there are still many moments I feel that life is happening to me as I go with the flow of it, especially when you have a family and kids to see to - it's tough to take out just the 'me' time in such cases - but yes, like I said - that's what I'm trying for. :)

Thanks for sharing this with us. :)

1 year, 6 months ago on Life Is For You

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You are not alone to feel this ways Lori,

 

We all have our weak moments and sometimes we just don't feel that courageous all the time - the strength seems to vanish and those weak moments seem to surround us. But then there are those good moments that sometimes come and go, which tend to lighten us and make us feel better - aren't there?

 

Or sometimes it's a little chat, a small message, or talking with someone that might change our mind set or the way we feel. And even if that happens for a moment -- it's worth it I feel, as we are back to ourselves in that moment at least. In short, I know I've said this a lot many times Lori, that things do take time, and it's not easy. In-fact, when I saw you come back online after Alex, I really didn't expect you to - to be honest. I'd thought you would perhaps come later or take your time to return, but you didn't, and that for us - is courage.

 

You came, and you were and have been here with all of us, sharing a part of you through these posts. It does help in some ways - doesn't it? I guess it's an outlet we get through our blogs in a way, and am sure with time things WILL get better - just keep the faith. :)Thanks for sharing. :) 

1 year, 6 months ago on Are You a Wimp?

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 @Lori Got it :) Back to you too :) 

1 year, 7 months ago on How Do You Manage Grief?

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 @Lori - The job kept me pretty busy, and other than that it was prayers and meditation that helped me overcome the loss, but yes - it took time. :)

1 year, 7 months ago on How Do You Manage Grief?

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It's not easy Lori,

 

Yet, I guess we all learn to manage the grief,though it takes times. I remember the time after I lost my Mom and how things were. There wasn't a moment when I wouldn't miss her and everything around the house just had her presence. Even if we try to keep ourselves busy doing things, the thoughts don't leave us and sooner or later they keep coming back - the good and bad - all of them. But yes, it does help if you have a kind of an outlet, which for you Lori I feel is this blog where you share your feelings with all of us. We are all here for you - always.  I never had anyone that time as I wasn't blogging, but I picked up a full time job that kept me busy, though when I was back home those memories would return.

 

Gradually, with time, they lessened and just the good ones remained. She turned to become my guardian angel as I so often say. And I feel her presence and her guiding me so-so many times, especially the times when I am troubled or in a fix. So, those who leave us, don't really leave us. They remain...we just need to feel them. :)

1 year, 7 months ago on How Do You Manage Grief?

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Nice to be over at your blog Andrea!

I liked the example of the lemon you gave here. One could never imagine the power of Hypnosis in this one. :) I agree, it does help a great deal for achieving better health, though I guess when you want to go deeper, your would have to change things.

It's all after all in the state of mind we want to be in. If we want to be happy and enjoy the moment we can, whereas if not - nothing in the world will make us do so - isn't it?

Thanks for sharing. :)

1 year, 7 months ago on Better Health with Hypnosis

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Ah...interesting topic for discussion Lori!

 

Honestly speaking, one's so dead tired to really notice what lies around one's bed :) But you made me look around for a change, and because I like to keep it all clear of things, I just have my mobile that acts as my alarm clock too. Nothing else. :) Perhaps a glass of water for the night if need be. It's said even the electronic devices have their side-effects of radiation etc - so I prefer to keep everything away or at a little distance. :)Thanks for sharing. :) 

1 year, 7 months ago on What’s on Your Nightstand?

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 @Lori - Yes, none of us are perfect, nor can we ever become, though we can always try to become better, which might help make the world a better place to live in :)

1 year, 7 months ago on Would You Like to Live in a Perfect World?

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Ah...wouldn't we all like to live in such a perfect world Lori!

 

But just as you mentioned, if everything would be perfect and there would be nothing wrong anywhere in the world - would life really be worth living - I wonder!

 

Speaking of myself, I think I am rather content and happy with life as it is, even though it has it's ups and downs - because I prefer to choose to remain happy. As I often say, it's our state of mind, and we can be happy and enjoy the moments life puts forth us - if and when we want to - isn't it? We are the ones who make the world a better place to live in, so how and what can one expect from others. Are we perfect ourselves? I doubt it - so it makes sense making ourselves better, and with that the world itself will become a perfect place to live in.

 

Thanks for sharing. :)

1 year, 7 months ago on Would You Like to Live in a Perfect World?

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Nice to meet you Jane, and surely a nice series Lori!

 

Yes indeed, I couldn't agree more with the isolation and lonely life writers lead, being one myself. I guess with Bloggers too it's the same, though comments or social media they get an outlet or way to convey their feelings. :)Speaking of myself too, I think blogging is one sure way of expressing what I feel, and that doesn't make me lonely any longer. What I write is what I feel and it's almost like I am speaking to my readers, and I get their instant reactions through the comments at my blog. However, when I write for my clients, that's surely does get lonely and one does feel isolated and often bored too, if the topic isn't much of an interest to you. Nevertheless, I am glad we are all part of the Blogosphere and have each other to share our feelings with - isn't it?Thanks for sharing more of you with us. :) 

1 year, 7 months ago on The Liminal Life of a Blogger

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Loved what you wrote Lori!

 

Yes, we all do survive and that time does pass. :)I remember the time when I had lost my Mom and it seemed like the end of the world for me too. It was almost like everything had collapsed and I had lost someone whom I could never imagine I could lose because we never think of our loved ones ever leaving us - such thoughts never strike us.

 

After her, now when I hear news of other close relatives passing away - it does have an effect, but not all that great because I've now come to learn to accept this as a part of life. So much so, one starts preparing oneself for the unforeseen too, or like - what if so and so happens or something happens to this person or that. Yes, that's where prayers play a vital role for me - just praying that He keep them hail and hearty.

I agree, like can be tougher and we know that it can, which is what makes us feel more grateful for what we have. I guess we learnt o value people much more, especially the ones who are left now in our lives - I do at least. The value of life is something we learn to appreciate after such losses. And yes - you too can handle this...and this phase too shall pass...:) 

1 year, 8 months ago on You Will Survive

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Wonderfully written Kevin!

 

I wouldn't be able to feel what you might have felt when you wrote this, because no one can be in another person's shoes as they say. But yes, I can say one thing for sure that death or suicide is an easy way out to get away from all your worries and troubles - isn't it? It takes lots of courage and will-power to stay alive and fight the odds...for which each one of us has to be ready and willing. Ups and downs are part of our lives, and will always remain so. What matters most is that we learn to deal with them and fight our fears. I am glad you are through that phase of yours. :)Thanks for sharing, and nice to be at your blog too. :) 

1 year, 8 months ago on I Live On

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 @Lori  @StaceyMJCouturier - I guess by not thinking beyond the NOW - I know it's not easy and it's taken me quite a while too, but if I do, then I tend to just worry myself and tend to make my thoughts go all over, which solves no purpose. The best IS to embrace what we have in our hand, live with the present, deal with the situation - and while you do that - do it to the best of your ability. It's the satisfied and peaceful sleep that I get at night, knowing that I've tried and done my best that I love most of all. :)Life couldn't be any better. :)

1 year, 8 months ago on Are You Trying to Change Your Life?

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Ah...the mantra of life!

 

i think it would be a simple one for me - live each day as it comes - to the fullest (I know I repeat this so often, but that's what I truly believe in!)

 

I don't say that we shouldn't change, but do that only if and when it's required - be ready for adapting to good change, because that only betters you and in some ways people around you. I AM grateful for all that life has given me and wouldn't ask for more, but being human we do tend to strive to get better in more ways than one. 

 

Thanks for sharing. :)

1 year, 8 months ago on Are You Trying to Change Your Life?

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None at all Hajra!

 

I might sound like an old woman who is content with the barest minimum but that's just the way I have been right through. :)

 

Yes, I too have seen those advts. that can make you go crazy and wish for things out of this world, or sometimes you feel you need it and deny yourself because of the limited budget, or you feel you should wait for the right time or a better version. There are so-so many reasons people don't go in for  such things, depending on the situation the person faces - while of course, some want an instant change for various reasons again.

 

I honestly feel these things add to our clutter because they keep coming in the market every second day, so what do you do with the old ones - exchange, or throw, or sell? And how much do you really need them - just as you mentioned. There was a time while my Dad was in the army and we got posted and had to travel long distance to our new place of posting. Our main luggage would take a week to reach, so we carried the barest minimum for that week. You will be surprised that we did so well with those limited things in a clutter-free house - everything was just so normal and we never missed anything! But once our main luggage came - it occupied all the empty space and filled up the place. Yet - how much were we really using those things? 

 

I know for sure, even now if I take out things from my house to give away - I can take out more than half of my things and yet survive beautifully. Very little is needed to lead a happy life, though few of us realize that.

 

But as you asked a question in the end....more than such needs - I would want a happy and content life. A family that loves and stays together always - who wouldn't :)

 

Thanks for this wonderful post :)

1 year, 8 months ago on I don’t need you

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 @Lori  - Guess I missed it....the time zones are to be blamed I guess. :) Must have been great though. :)

1 year, 8 months ago on What Gives Your Life Meaning?

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 @smargo  @Lori  @Ali Mac  @Carmelo - I agree with Smargo there - such connections aren't lost, yes, their presence is what we miss the most. But like I mentioned earlier too Lori, they always remain with us - around us - don't they?

1 year, 8 months ago on What Gives Your Life Meaning?

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I think for Moms - it's always their kids and family Lori!

 

I know for me presently it IS them and everything that runs around them. I really don't find the time to do anything else, besides the blog posts and yes, my writing projects, which again I am careful to do when they aren't at home and in school. 

 

I too have thought much about this question and if this is what the meaning of my life is, and a little voice just said - presently yes - and that's what I am focusing on. I know there's a lot more I want to do, and I will do once my kids are on their own - but till then - it's for them that I live. :)Thanks for sharing this with all of us. :) 

1 year, 8 months ago on What Gives Your Life Meaning?

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 @Lori - It's not exactly a story, yet it can be called one because most of us came into blogging for a reason. Mine was mainly to be able to be home with my family and kid's and give them the utmost before they leave home (just as all kid's do), which made me leave my full time job and switch roles :)

1 year, 8 months ago on The Introspective Life of a Blogger

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Sounds like a wonderful idea Lori!

 

I think this is really a nice idea to start these series, and am sure everyone would be excited to share their stories just the way you did too. I would surely be getting in touch with you, though after a few days once I sort out my blog that's getting a new look now. :)Thanks for sharing this with all of us. :) 

1 year, 8 months ago on The Introspective Life of a Blogger

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 @Hajra   - No one seems to be scared any more it seems. The poor girls passed away, though still I see no action really being taken - wonder when the things will really start taking shape in our country.

 

 @HollyJahangiri - That's amazing! I guess there needs to be a severe punishment given to such criminals than just jail.

1 year, 9 months ago on Will the real men please stand up

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I hope so too and join you in your prayers Hajra!

 

I've been closely following this story right from day one and it amazes me that it took this long for the people to come out on the streets - more so when such incidents happen every second in our country! Not to mention that even infants as young as a few months aren't spared from this horrible crime - what about them? Do they wear clothes that 'lead' to such offence or do they step out at 'that time of night'?

 

And what about another case where a 42 year old women was raped by someone she knew for the past 5 years? She took a lift from him (as she had come from out station), and on the way he took 2 more men - and the crime was committed at 9.30 at night for an hour, again all over Delhi (this was yesterday's news!)

 

In our papers, while this news was always on the front page, but there wasn't a day when more rape cases were carrying on alongside - every single day! This one incident didn't or doesn't stop such acts from taking place - nor did it make anyone realize what they were doing - they just carry on with it - amazing!

 

The girl wanted to live and she showed some good signs of recovery earlier before she had a heart attack, but her body just couldn't stand the brutality and gave up. My heart goes out to her and her family, and to every such women, infant, girl child, the innocent, and even the married lots who too aren't spared from being raped. 

 

Yes, what could have been done or can be done now too to stop such crimes from taking place is a big question, which again has many answers. Firstly, the men need to stand up and realize what they are doing (if they are real men, like your title mentioned!) - and I strongly feel it comes down to the way they are parented and raised, and of course their friend's circle. Secondly, the government and policy makers of our country need to come out with stricter laws and rules for people committing such crimes, and what the general public is wanting is correct  - to hang such men or castrate them - no ifs and buts. This is the ONLY way they are going to learn a lesson, and it will also warn others not to indulge in such things.

 

There's a lot more to be said on this topic Hajra, but I will stop here and just pray for her family, and for all such women who are silently suffering. Hope they raise their voice, and this collective voice leads the policy makers to take SOME action.

 

Thanks for raising this important topic- wishing the coming year is free of such news. :)

1 year, 9 months ago on Will the real men please stand up

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 @Lori - Oh no! They are well into their teens :)

1 year, 9 months ago on Merry Christmas from the LFI Porch!

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Nothing special our end Lori - but I love to see friends like you and so many other celebrate Christmas the way it is - that in itself bring me much joy and happiness. :)Yes, there was a time when Mom used to put up our stockings and tell us stories about Santa coming - but with time as my kid's have grown too, it's lessened down. And for the tree, we just go out and celebrate in one of the shopping malls where people do so together and have fun. Nevertheless, wishing you all the joy and happiness on this wonderful day, and the year coming too. :)Thanks for sharing, and meet you before this year ends :) 

1 year, 9 months ago on Merry Christmas from the LFI Porch!

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 @Hajra   @Lori - Yeah...walking does make you think, but I normally carry my iPod to listen to music and get busy seeing the natural surroundings. :)

1 year, 9 months ago on What Do You Do When You Are Angry?

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Lol...Hajra I think I should call you over whenever you are angry next - my house will be sparkling clean :)

 

Jokes apart, yes, you are right - all of us have a way of expressing or venting out our anger and that is but natural. It's good that we are still able to find ways to take out our anger as compared to those who keep the anger within themselves, which harms them internally and later leads to major health issues. Speaking of myself, I rarely get that angry, and even if I do, which is just when the kid's don't listen to something I've been saying repeatedly - I get more quiet and tend to write something online if I am not cooking or walking, which are my first ways of releasing my anger. I prefer cutting off from the issue totally and doing something totally different as that helps my mind shift focus to other things. Of course, introspection does take place, but that's later. 

 

Thanks for sharing, and always nice to see you here at @Lori 's place :)

1 year, 9 months ago on What Do You Do When You Are Angry?

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Oh - I really don't think about such things Lori!

 

Haven't we heard about such ' end of the world' days earlier too - and each time they come and go - don't they?

 

It's just another working day for me - especially because my younger daughter has her cultural week starting from tomorrow before her vacations starts - just like @Vidya Sury son's- while the elder one has her exam tomorrow. And of course, I'm just getting my post ready for tomorrow evening as well - so life goes one!

 

 So, no - with so much happening in my life and am sure in everyone else's too - it surely can't be the end of the world. And even if might be - I live for the present and for the NOW - and would just make sure to make my day tomorrow as if it were my last. :)

1 year, 9 months ago on It’s Not the End of the World

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Dear A.

 

I know it's easier said than done and all that you are undergoing isn't unusual, as I've often seen people your age go through the same. I guess it's just a feeling of losing out on things that makes you feel like this. More so once your kid's have grown up and gone their own ways, it becomes all the more difficult. 

 

Just as Lori mentioned, you will find many solutions to your problems on her wonderful blog, which I'm sure will help you. All I can say is that it is all in our mind...if and when we want to be happy and change our thoughts - we can...we just need to get down with it - isn't it?

 

No one is stopping you from doing or wanting the things you want, but your own-self, though those feelings of self-pity or worthlessness have to be fought. One way is to be around those people who make you feel good and young again, and it's not tough to find such people.

 

Take heart and remember this is a passing phase, though you need to have the will and courage to fight it out. :) Wishing you all the very best. :)

 

 

1 year, 9 months ago on Dear LFI, How Do I Deal with Getting Older in a World That Values Youth?

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