Recovering journalist. Sometime tech blogger. Lifelong sci-fi geek. Mommy. Bacon queen.
@LiLo335 inorite? It's like the son and mom never bothered to learn ANYthing about this country. And that the daughter is so blinded by her wealthy white American upbringing that she believes she has the right to say whatever she wants to whomever she wants, without regard to the repercussions it could have on that person. But at least she knows what a cesspool this country is.
6 days, 19 hours ago on FX’s ‘Tyrant’ Exceeds Low Expectations
My main problem is that of all of Barry's family, only his daughter has a brain and her shrill complaints are getting annoying, even though she's on point. His wife is an idiot. How could she be so unaware of what his home country was like? Did she never watch the news? Did she decide to not learn anything about his home or his family because he didn't talk about it?? I yell at the TV every single time she opens her mouth, practically.
1 week ago on FX’s ‘Tyrant’ Exceeds Low Expectations
@Ike Ha! Love that.
1 week, 3 days ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of the Twitter Block
@Tinu @Danny Brown Interesting points, Danny. I do agree that we throw the word "hate" around way too much. I don't hate much, because that takes a tremendous amount of energy - as much as love, as it's as strong an emotion. That said, people do use it to mean stupid things like this.
But Tinu is onto something when she talks about the blowback against Sandberg. There are people who really feel this venomous hatred for her and it's troublesome. Disagree with her, dislike her, sure. Hate? That's strong language, but there are definitely people out there who are really hating on her.
1 week, 5 days ago on Can We All Just Agree to Stop Hating Sheryl Sandberg Already?
@Tinu It actually takes effort not to be judgy - Not enough people make the effort to not be judgmental. Wait. Did that sound judgmental?
1 week, 5 days ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Disagreeing with a Co-worker’s Non-Work Behavior
@amvandenhurk Absolutely. If people would just talk to one another, and realize we're all different, so many things would be better.
@Kelly Whalen Absolutely, Kelly. It's so short-sighted and I don't understand why, purely from a business viewpoint, this keeps going on. SMH.
1 week, 5 days ago on Booth Babes Are Still A Thing, Apparently
@Ike Absolutely, Ike. One of the things I try to deal with in my #SMEtiquette posts, too, is that we all use social in different ways and there may be multiple reasons that something happened. I find that often it comes down to: If you have a problem with someone, TALK TO THAT PERSON. (Side note: Livefyre trapped you in moderation hell and I only found this comment today.)
1 week, 5 days ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of the Twitter Block
@Danny Brown Right? Just deal with it. Who cares? (Side note: Livefyre trapped this comment in moderation for some reason. Maybe it was "ASSHATS" - just found it today. Sometimes I have to do multiple searches to find things.)
1 week, 5 days ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of the Mass Unfollow
@Howie Goldfarb Absolutely. Especially because the Twitter unfollow bug does seem to still exist. But the people who follow just for a follow back are so lame.
@SEOcopy Well said, Gabriella! (Side note: Livefyre had buried this comment in moderation and I had to do several searches today to find it.)
1 week, 5 days ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of #FollowFriday
@leslieposton Gasp! :)
Look, everyone uses social media for different things. None of them is wrong. Unless you're using it to be an ass to someone. Then that's wrong. :)
1 week, 5 days ago on The #SMEtiquette of Sharing Old Photos
@leslieposton I have my Facebook settings so that I have to approve tags. Most of the time, I do, but there have been cases where it's been of my son or a bad photo of me, and I just prefer not to have the tag there. :)
@photo chris Excellent point. And as @ginidietrich says, women do talk more about their families, but I think that's in part because they're asked more about their families.
There are these societal expectations that sometimes even when the question isn't asked, it's brought up.
1 week, 5 days ago on What Having it All Really Means
My big issue about "having it all" is that men are never expected to. Until we start looking at the family as a whole and stop expecting the mom to do everything, women won't be able to have it all. I'm fortunate in that I have a husband who has chosen to be the primary caregiver. But what works for my family doesn't work for many others. Both employers and parents have to recognize that all parents need to participate in home life.
2 weeks ago on What Having it All Really Means
@Tinu I consider myself a recovering journalist. Kind of like the Marines (though I'm sure most Marines would shudder at the analogy) - you're never a former journalist. You're just no longer an active journalist. :)
2 weeks ago on The Long and Winding Road that Leads … Somewhere
@Joshua Wilner/A Writer Writes Completely agree. It's hard not to shake our fists at young'uns when they're completely discounting the fact that Gen X is actually the generation of digital natives. Tech grew up with and evolved with us.
2 weeks, 5 days ago on There’s a Storm Brewing Between Gen X and Gen Y
Honestly, I don't think it's brewing - I think it's been here for a while. Gen Y gets pissed at us. Gen X says, "Get off my lawn, you whippersnappers." Boomers roll their eyes. We stomp our feet and go upstairs to our bedroom and turn the punk music up to 11.
2 weeks, 6 days ago on There’s a Storm Brewing Between Gen X and Gen Y
@iancleary Absolutely! I do love to have my phone with me sometimes, to check directions or take a photo of the boys. But I've been trying a lot harder to just be in the moment.
3 weeks ago on You Deserve A (Digital) Break Today
@AmyMccTobin @hessiejones @smoestoe
3 weeks, 1 day ago on The First Millennial Think Tank: What We Learned When We Asked THEM
My condolences. So sad. :(
3 weeks, 1 day ago on Saying Goodbye to a Trusted Friend
@AmyMccTobin @hessiejones @smoestoe Honestly, it doesn't matter if you're in tech or not - we're going to be on this roller coaster until we retire, period. And I read that LinkedIn post, Amy. It was really good.
smoestoe - I don't know enough about Canada or Canadian politics to even begin to respond to most of what you said. But I think you had a very important point early on - that those who have achieved positions of power "are there because they were just born into the right class". I'm afraid that no matter what generation you're in, there are distinctions of class and wealth that are always going to be there. And right now, those who are wealthy appear to be working hard to ensure they remain that way, at the expense of everyone else.
@Tinu Ah, yes. Re-reading, I see that now. :)
3 weeks, 1 day ago on Heathers: As relevant today as it was the day it was released
@Tinu Interesting perspective. But Veronica *does* want to force the status to be a little less quo. She finally embraces that at the end, but knows that without the scrunchie, she can't have the power to actually do that. She embraces the power as a means to flatten the playing field.
But I just saw my high school, pretty much. :)
I do get a little tired of Gen Xers being tarred with the same brush as boomers, as in this quote:"We weren’t the entitlement generation; the entitlement generation is the generation before us, and the one before that, that felt they were entitle to make all of these sweeping, big picture decision without thinking about what would happen afterwards"
Xers never felt entitled to anything, because we never had anything. We have much more in common with Millennials than we're given credit for - we graduated into a recession, were the first generation not to do as well financially as our parents. However, I have a feeling that that quote wasn't even referring to Gen Xers, because we're usually just forgotten about anyway.
We were called the slackers because when we graduated there were no jobs to be had. Almost everything said in here can refer to Gen Xers, too - as @hessiejones notes in her reply comment to @smoestoe - whose comment could almost have been written by me, with some slight changes of the details.
And as soon as we were finally in management and able to start making any changes to how things were, the Great Recession hit, and we were all laid off. The first dot-com rise was due to Xers. The current dot-com economy owes a lot to Xers. I don't ask for credit, nor expect it to be given (I am, after all, an Xer). But just stop pretending like we don't exist.
@ArielaRoss I agree, to an extent.
But I also think that users of these games need to really just be more considerate. It's extremely easy to NOT send game requests to people who don't play. It takes as many clicks to not send as to send.
I block game requests often, because I know how to do that. But it's honestly easier for the game user to not send than to block the request.
3 weeks, 5 days ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Game Invitations
@JoeCardillo @Danny Brown I remember being out with a friend at a club on Miami Beach (a lifetime ago) and this guy kept asking me to dance. My friend danced with a friend of this guy. I kept turning him down, eventually being outright rude. A male friend of mine showed up about that time and I darted over to him and told him to dance with me briefly to see if I could get rid of this other guy. The creep's friend had the audacity to tell me that *I* was really rude to be dancing with this other person when I'd turned down his friend.
Fortunately, they left not long after, but it was astounding how this guy decided I was going to dance with him, and that I therefore had no right to dance with anyone else.
1 month, 1 week ago on Endemic Cultures and Why We Need More Logical Indians
@delwilliams I never cease to be amazed at how many people just don't understand some very simple things like this. :) I have a feeling it falls more under "clueless" than rude. Though I suppose I should never underestimate the power of rude, either.
1 month, 1 week ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Tagging Photos
@Danny Brown Admittedly, sometimes it's just easier to ignore. Takes less energy. But I've decided recently I'm no longer going to ignore. Like the time I was walking past a guy in a suit and tie on a NYC street and he looked at me appraisingly and said as he was right next to me, "Great ass." I just ignored it, because I was on my way somewhere and couldn't be bothered. I should have stopped right then and there and let him have it. Next time that happens (and it will, sadly), I *will* stop and say something.
Thanks for this post, @DannyBrown , and also for the link to my Lumi story. :) Just the other day, I was waiting for my sons' schoolbus and some teens on another bus yelled out the window to me, "Bitch, gimme some!" A part of me wanted to just ignore it because it's not like it was the first time something like that had happened. It gets tiring and you want to spare your energy for the times you *really* need it.
But if anything has shown we can't afford to do that anymore, it's recent examples, such as many of those you highlight. We all - men and women alike - need to stand up and refuse to allow the cretins among us to shape our society.
1 month, 2 weeks ago on Endemic Cultures and Why We Need More Logical Indians
@NancyDavis Exactly. Despite our Facebook wall being our place and we don't have to alter things to make others feel more comfortable if we don't want, there comes a point where it's being considerate of others. Sometimes intent doesn't matter - joking around in person is not as permanent as online. And yet people sometimes are MORE open online and more prone to making inappropriate jokes they'd never make in person.
As for your friend and her sex life, I agree. I don't really get it when people do that - but I think it's one of those phases some people go through. I'm guessing she doesn't have children, or else you could use that tack - imagine how she'd feel if she'd seen her parents posting about their sex lives when she was a kid, eh?
Thanks so much for reading!
1 month, 2 weeks ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Embarrassing Conversations
@Danny Brown Absolutely. I think about this a whole lot. But I'm also extremely open about the fact that I treat my Facebook wall a little differently than I act in person. I swear a lot IRL, but I tend not to on Facebook. It's a deliberate choice - not to make myself seem holier than though, but because of how I feel about the written word. I have dropped Fbombs on Facebook or Twitter, but in those cases people REALLY see how I feel because I use it so sparingly. It actually has the intended shocking effect.
In addition, on Facebook, we are around a whole bunch of other people. Part of it is being considerate of all these other people, who may not have the same feelings we do about language. I don't regard it as censoring myself for the sake of others, but rather being considerate of others. I am exactly the same person in real life as online, just with more swears. And everyone knows it.
There's a fine line here, absolutely. Thanks, Danny!
Sometimes the amount of choice we have drives me batty. I feel like I make one choice only to have to make three more choices based on that choice. It's especially bad in restaurants. It's like, THIS IS WHAT I ORDERED, JUST GIVE IT TO ME.
1 month, 2 weeks ago on The Dilution of Choice
@DonnaChaffins I've only done it a handful of times, and I've always warned first. I've had a few friends who've deleted their comments before I've even had the chance to say anything, because they realized they went a bit too far.
I think the main problem is that too many people don't bother thinking before they post. They feel as if they have the right to say whatever they want. To a degree, that's true. But just because you have the "right" doesn't mean that it is right to say it.
@wordwhacker Definitely true. However, some of us have moms who are older and/or not as cool as you. :) And even if neither is the case, we sometimes don't feel comfortable with the same language and conversations around our moms if we know it's happening around our moms, you know? :)
But, in general, yes. What you said.
I find it fascinating that Cosmo is calling on designers to stop with unrealistic clothing sizes when everyone on their cover is airbrushed seven ways to yesterday. Unless they've suddenly stopped that.
2 months, 1 week ago on The Power of Glamour and the Upsell of Dreams
@allenmireles Thanks, Allen! I was so pleased with the discussion in the comments here and am grateful to @jayblackcomedy for raising some very interesting (and respectfully put) points - as well as @jelenawoehr and @MirandaM_EComm for sparking this whole thing in the first place and helping me shine a light on this.
2 months, 1 week ago on Booth Babes Are Still A Thing, Apparently
@jayblackcomedy @AmyVernon Thank you so much for all your thoughtful comments. I have no idea how you managed to type so much on your phone. I get frustrated typing on my phone when I get about two sentences in.
I appreciate your insight, and I think you raised a lot of good counterpoints. I love the idea of MeaCul.Pa - ha! I bet we could get VC funding. ;)
Anyway, I think that @jelenawoehr and @MirandaM_EComm covered all the bases I would have, so I won't belabor this except to say that if I'm ever on the West Coast, I'll try to look up one of your shows.
@jelenawoehr Preach, sister!
@jayblackcomedy Wow. That was nearly as long as my post. My bigger issue here is, and perhaps it's not abundantly clear in the post (and thank you for the kind words about my writing), Cisco's reaction (and non-reaction) to the dustup.
It's hard, as a woman in tech (or a woman in almost any field, frankly), to just brush these things off because they happen all. the. time. The post I reference at the beginning that sparked this entire conversation in the first place discusses those points far better than I could at this point.
Say hi to Kevin! (Not that I know him or anything, I just wanted to say that.)
@DocSheldon Thanks, Doc! I've heard from many women that even if they're the most knowledgeable person in the booth, folks assume the dudes are the only ones who know anything. Sigh.
@LetticePeyton I'm trying to decide if it's better than a bottle. I mean, it's probably easier to break out of, right? Thanks for reading!
@bobledrew Thanks, Bob! The thing that really put me over the top was when he favorited the negative tweets and was all, "Aww, that's cute."
@JonAston Thanks, Jon! I am trying to focus here on #SMEtiquette for "real" people, if you will. I feel as if there are so many folks out there handling the subject of how brands/agencies/companies/etc. should act on social, but no one really talking about how to deal with these tricky issues in your personal life. Many of these lessons could probably apply to business, to a degree, but it's harder to make them apply the other way around, you know?
2 months, 1 week ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Friends Flipping Out on You
@Tinu Exactly. I still care about people I've had to emotionally separate from; it doesn't mean I still have to bear the brunt of their abuse.
@amvandenhurk Thank you, Ann Marie! It's so easy to be knee-jerk about these things, but it's never easy. I have done it before, and was not happy about the decision, even to this day, though I don't regret it.
@wordwhacker It sometimes makes it easier to know what's going on behind the scenes, but at some point, letting go is often the only answer.
@allenmireles There are times you need to do it, and only you know when it's the right time. It's never easy. Thanks, Allen.
Funny side note: The headline got totally garbled when I set it up to tweet this through Triberr. It was kind of comical.
I only think a few companies are affected by poor grammar - too many customers have no idea what proper grammar is. However, to me, it's like nails on the chalkboard.
2 months, 2 weeks ago on Does Poor Grammar Affect a Business’s Bottom-Line?
I was really upset to see that they are sunsetting CardMunch in favor of a tighter relationship with Evernote. CardMunch was a natural fit for LinkedIn and a few updates to the app would have made it an excellent contact management system. Instead, we get work anniversaries.
2 months, 2 weeks ago on What the New LinkedIn Updates Say about LinkedIn and Your Online Relationships