Moncton, NB Canada
An outdoor enthusiast, rock & ice climber, backpacker & mountaineer...with a creative side :D
THIS IS SOOOOO TRUE! Sandi is correct, there is NO finish line, and we HAVE to learn to enjoy the journey and not just be so focused on END result.
"QUIT until tomorrow" THat is the best advice I've heard in a long time;Sometimes clearing your head, and 'forgetting' (even momentarily) about the problems/details can allow some clarity.
I've wanted to QUIT many times in the last few years, but have had many wonderful people/things who have motivated me to keep going; my students, a loving partner, my children, my close & dear friends.
Sometimes we just need to sit back and realize that the world indeed will continue to exist EVEN if we don't fix those 'details' today or maybe even tomorrow.
I think we can't/don't know how to allow ourselves to sit back and enjoy what IS. We always want to better things to have things in a more acceptable light in the present!We need to learn to enjoy our present for all it's imperfections
2 months, 3 weeks ago on Do You Have Days When You Want to Quit?
apparently I am too verbose as I'm getting an error that my comment is TOO long and to re-edit...off to 'limit' my thoughts :S
@Lori @StaceyMJCouturier off to read! Thanks Lori!
5 months ago on Do You Know the Secret?
@Lori @sdekins I agree with what you are saying Lori. We have the power within to make choices, every day EVERY single 'action' out there is neutral. WE choose to make it positive or negative. Though had to believe with some very painful things, I believe that even our heartaches make us stronger, and perhaps we (as mere humans) simply can't see or comprehend if something may be 'better' than the way it appears at face value?
WOW - I LOVE this! <3Though I'll be honest, I've never successfully concentrated enough to have the desired outcome, as clearly as you indicate.I've often found people i love and care about focus on the negative, and then when it comes, they say 'well see I told you it was going to happen'. When in fact they don't realize that their negative energy and thoughts are helping to manifest everything.Any suggestions on how to try to 'turn' people to see the power of positive thinking...because you see, even with the power of positive thinking, you TRULY have to believe...and that is difficult for some people.
HAPPY? hmmm - what IS happy?
My initial phrase that I wanted to type was 'Happiness is over-rated'
I'm FAR from a negative person, to be honest, I am borderline on annoyingly positive...and yet this phrase still sticks...NOT because I think that Happiness IS over-rated per se...but that simply I think our lives are meant more to have a daily contentment about them, as opposed to pure happiness.
When I think happiness, I think of the baby in the picture...no worries, life ahead, everything is 'perfect'.
Which as adults, we know either doesn't exist, OR doesn't exist (perfection that is) for long...as reality sets in and we have to deal and cope with life because you see..even though ONLY we are in control of our own happiness, the actions of those around us (including strangers) does indeed contribute to the actions we have to deal with and choose to be 'happy (rather content) despite or because of.
5 months ago on Are You Happy?
Am I stubborn? hahaIs the Pope Catholic? :) hehe
You're right - given a new or more *positive* name - we would more gladly accept this as part of who we are...we're too sensitive to the negative idea of 'stubbornness' :)
It's like starting a group therapy session of:
Hi, my name is Stacey and I'm stubborn...will you join me?
I am stubborn when it comes to my opinion, I love 'stubbornly', in that you're hard pressed to lose my love once you've got it.
I am me, stubborn and loving...:)
5 months, 4 weeks ago on Are You Stubborn?
Good morning from the East Coast - sometimes I feel like I've fallen off the wagon (or in this case, the porch)...but also always feel welcome'd home :)I am with you Lori, I can't seem to meditate in the 'traditional' way. If I *close* my mind to the internal chatter, it's only me falling asleep! :)However, I find peace sometimes as I'm hiking through the woods, or listening to a quiet brooke as it bubbles along. I'm struggling now to find a new inner calm, and am working towards allowing myself to just 'be' in my own quietness.
6 months ago on Is Meditation the Only Way to Realize Divinity?
@Carolethat is PERFECT! The mirror analogy is ideal indeed and I believe you're correct!!
7 months, 2 weeks ago on Do You Give Unsolicited Advice?
I think that is the key - we 'want' to help is that a female trait, a human trait? how do others learn to curb it - or is it that they are self-sufficient
well well well.. dear Lori' - you've done it again :)Are you IN my head? hahaDo "I" Stacey Marie GIVE unsolicited advice. URGh - I hate to admit it - but yes. I'd like to say I only give it when it's asked but I'd be in la-la land.I willingly give advice when asked - naturally - but like you - I willingly give what I feel is 'needed' advice. Sometimes, I fear it's not wanted, not even wanted to be heard.Why do we feel we 'know' so much - we are merely giving advice from our own lives, our own 'pictures'. our own values, pasts, experiences.It's hard to give "REAL" advice - because we are NOT in the other person's shoes, we haven't lived their life, we haven't experienced their memories.Is there a right or wrong? I'm unsure. Sometimes I greatly value others advice. I think the key for me (to help myself) is to be ok for the person receiving the advice to NOT heed it. That is where I struggle now - I get annoyed when I give unsolicited advice, (great advice IMO) and the person (who never asked for it) has the nerve to ignore my wonderful advice :S :D
I just joined ; it was to discuss The Sense of an Ending...we chatted/had discussion questionsI like the idea of delving into a self-help/developmental book! I most definitely be joining in if I can :D
7 months, 2 weeks ago on Have You Read Any Good Books Lately?
Sounds awesome! Look out amazon (I prefer to use amazon.ca - - lots of great used book prices). I'm ordering this one today. I too am an avid reader and like Lori (more so I believe) have some books new to me but unread. I need/plan on fixing that this summer with a new relaxing lifestyle. Some recent book purchases (all through recommendations are:)F**K It Therapy: The Profane Way to Profound Happiness by John C. Parkin
Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don't by Michael LosierDying To Be Me: My Journey from Cancer, to Near Death, to True Healing by Anita Moorjani
for a new book club I've joined.The Ten-Year Nap by Mg WolitzerThe Sense of an Ending by Julian Barnes
Inside by Alix Ohlin (new for this month's book club)
Dear Adrienne...I'm sorry to hear about your Dad...sick 50/52 years is a hard pill to swallow (no pun intended). I'm on the fence (quite literally), as I believe in karma/the SECRET/ Law of Attraction, etc. And I do believe it can start at a young age, I'm unsure what Louise Hay would say in regards to pneumonia...however, personally, I had pneumonia 3 times before I was two, yet have led a quite healthy life every since. Not knowing MORE of the story...perhaps search for silver linings? I know when my daughter Jeneca died at only 9 days old, I started to struggle with; what had my husband and I done wrong, why was that happening; now I focus on the positive, perhaps she'd have had a hard life, we wouldn't have gone on to have two beautiful & healthy daughters. Hugs & prayers for you my friendStacey
8 months ago on Dear LFI: Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?
Thank YOU Lori for sharing, and allow us to be part of your healing process. I firmly believe that being part of 'family'...online, blood, friendship can help us through anything. HUGS
8 months, 2 weeks ago on Thank You
speakers for piped in music? can you control that from your bed? or must you get up to decide?
9 months, 3 weeks ago on What’s on Your Nightstand?
Oh Lori - my bedstand is BORING! haha
I do like your idea of that app...I may have to look into it
On my nightstand:
Steve Jobs book that I started reading months ago, and while I was/did enjoy it - I seem to have fallen off reading at night in the last 6 months with a lifestyle change
earplugs - again from a previous life, but haven't moved them - sleeping alone doesn't require them...I should clean up and toss them
alarm clock (no radio)
Climbing magazines - older ones that had some interesting articles in them
Pushing the Limits book - - a new climbing book I ordered awhile back
Viktor Frankl's book: Man's Search for Meaning, which I read more in my chair in my room than my bed.
Absolutely! Snow days are the best (though I'm marking right now)... ever diligent teacher eh? :) hehe... but that is ok - it's beautiful and a good day for it!Snow angels - I've not done that in years, but yesterday walking back from lunch (to the car) my friend Lisa & I had a short impromtu snow ball fight...which I won (naturally) :) hehe
9 months, 3 weeks ago on Are You Doing the Rarest Thing in the World?
Oh Lori - do I EVER over-analyze....my life, my thoughts & words, OTHER people's words & actions!
It seems to be a never-ending cycle of over-analyzing! and you're right - it prevents me/us from truly just living (how many times do I reference living in the NOW).
Sometimes it's hard to just BE. Sometimes it's hard to just accept and know that whatever is going on is just that - and accept it at face-value!?
I cannot get to a point in my life where I accept that others do what they do because of their OWN issues/circumstances. From the four agreements, we're told 'NOTHING ANYONE ELSE DOES IS BECAUSE OF US!'...and I honestly believe we need to live each and every day, idea, circumstance this way - but it's SOOOO hard.
I do not have anything specific that gets me out of my head...perhaps the closest that comes to it is blaring my music loud, and singing at the top of my voice...NOTHING else can stay in there!
I think it SHOULD Be in us, but I do believe that there may be times when we do lean on others for that solid place. Sometimes we so need the support that even if we find that small rock to stand on, we're so weak, that we can't balance on the rock.
10 months, 1 week ago on Where is Your Solid Ground?