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As I pondered it I realized we not only have the ability, we do make thought more real than anything else, regularly, whether or not we are aware of it. We are all operating according to our conditioning, which formed our beliefs, and we see the world in a way that matches our beliefs. So if, for instance, if we believe we are unlikable, no matter how people respond to us, we would interpret their actions in a way that conforms to that belief.

What I'm suggesting is that if our deepest beliefs were ones that favoured us we would be living more full and happy lives. Is there a way to remove ALL beliefs? I don't know.

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We know that what we focus on expands. Add to that something Dispenza says in this video, “Observation is a skill, just like anything else, and we can develop this skill” and we have a simple yet powerful plan for re-writing our conditioning with the words of our choosing!

I think it is a process that may have to begin (at least for me it does) at rewriting and recognizing that we are generating the thoughts which create the reality. You're in the advanced class Rula ;-) Wait for meeeee!

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Did you notice something new here on the LFI porch!?! Click on the question mark next to the “Sidenotes” bubble just below the post to see how you can single out a thought or paragraph and post a brief comment there!

LOL No, you can still comment generally to the whole piece. The Sidenotes are just a way to pull out a thought of idea you want to say something about!

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What words, other than Guided, Protected and Supported, would you choose? Would you focus on each word every day or spread them out as I do? What beliefs help you to navigate your way through life?

Hmmm... Interesting way to look at it :-)

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Louise Hay writes about the connection between the mind and body. In this book she suggests “new thought patterns” to replace thoughts which were the “probable causes” of each disease. Among the new thought patterns she provides there these two thoughts appear frequently: “I am loved” and “I am safe.”

Yeah :o True!

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That idea intrigued me.

Hi Rula! It was an explanation of how Sidenotes work LOL How cool is that!

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Did you notice something new here on the LFI porch!?! Click on the question mark next to the “Sidenotes” bubble just below the post to see how you can single out a thought or paragraph and post a brief comment there!

For instance, this is a sidenote! :-)

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Which probably explains why my neighbor is mowing his lawn in nothing more than a Speedo.  I want a Fortress of Mostly Quiet and I want it now.

I'll take a Fortress of Mostly Quiet too - can this extend to the noise in my head :o

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@blogaks Hi Ashvini! I haven't had time to read your post but will today. A task sheet is a great visual for small wins! I love crossing things off on a To Do list! Thanks for the reminder!

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@SteveVernon Hi Steve! Welcome to the LFI Porch and thanks for taking up the challenge! Isn't it funny how we have to get to know ourselves, as if knowing ourselves doesn't come naturally. And yet it's true. I agree with you that we can't be authentic with others until we are authentically in relationship with ourselves but the latter is a process we're continually involved in.


What is your process for coming to understand yourself? Is it through blogging? (You can put your links in your Livefyre ID so we can follow you back to your blog, if you are a blogger.) Do you meditate, read a lot, ask questions? :-)

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Aw! I saw it coming, but then, I'm a mom!

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It’s official! Spin Sucks is now available!

Congratulations Gini! I'm very happy for you! :-)

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Thanks for this Josh! It looks like it will add a whole new dimension to commenting! Can't wait to start using it!

Lori

5 days ago on WIll Livefyre Sidenotes Save Blog Commenting?

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This looks great! I'm excited to begin using it!

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@Joshua Wilner/A Writer Writes So true Josh! :-)

5 days, 15 hours ago on Do You Celebrate Small Wins?

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@Susan Ekins Those are great small wins, and not so small in my books! Eye emergencies are scary - good that you could be there for your daughter.

Catalogue cards! I remember those! I wonder if I remember how to use them now :o I bet you have to teach the parishioners how to use them? Especially the younger ones who have never seen them!

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@JoyChristin Hi Joy! I was thinking just that today - that joy helps to manifest more joy (just wrote a draft about that ;-)


Yes, as I waited for a long drive-around the road washed out with recent flooding not far from here, I was focusing on good things. So we have to tack an extra 15-20 minutes on each drive to town? We can still get there and we can count many more blessings. Too easy to be distracted by the negative things, isn't it? The brain tends to pay more attention to those and we tend to follow the focus of our brains (sort of an autopilot) when we're not consciously thinking about it. So the brain notices what is not finished and we have to say, no, this is finished and it is good! With enough of this insistence, do you think we can change that autopilot? How hard was it for you to learn to celebrate each moment?

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@eddyfy_ Blogging certainly can teach us a lot about life, can't it! And I don't mean because we teach what we need to learn, but that the efforts of making something of the blog can be very challenging and I suspect what worked for the present-day A-listers doesn't necessarily work today because the blogosphere has changed so much so quickly!


I go through this myself. Not long ago I struggled with this and considered stopping the blog but now I've just completely rebuilt it with a new theme. What made the difference for me was the galvanizing of my goal (one of them) to teach people about community building and this is the forum for that.


I, too, am in a hurry at times. I find it so valuable to slow myself down and remember to be happy. That's the door through which all the wonderful things flow in.

6 days, 23 hours ago on Do You Celebrate Small Wins?

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Aw Barbara! You responded to the challenge! Isn't it fun! Please go and post this link in the comments of that post so others can find it.

I love how you talk about the outer shell and the inner person! Does it seem sometimes that we don't have the answer to questions we haven't yet asked. Sounds foolish, doesn't it; how could we? But it makes me wonder about how many more questions we could be asking, how much more we could learn!


My favourite part: "I have hundreds of ideas and dreams, some of them are very unrealistic but I want to publish a book before I turn 100."

 

 XOX Hang in there!

Lori

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@Art of Breaking Out Hi Craig! It is amazing what you can accomplish one small win at a time :-)


How did you come to know how to do this? Was it an experience you had or something you learned and applied?

1 week ago on Do You Celebrate Small Wins?

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@Tope Fabusola Hi Tope! It's funny how themes go around! It's like we're all connected :o


How do you celebrate your small wins? Do you ever get impatient for the destination?

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@Susan Ekins Hi Susan! The small wins add up to the big ones :-)

How are things in your world? Lots of small wins to celebrate?

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@eddyfy_ Hi Eddy! I'm glad I'm not the only one struggling with this.To be fair, the final destination is why we take all those steps but it's more fun when we can enjoy those steps.


You're right; doing it myself provided more satisfaction. I wasn't in a hurry, either, so that went in my favour. I think that is one of the keys - patience. I wonder if the "are we there yet" attitude is more connected to a lack of patience than an inability to enjoy the process. What do you think?

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@Steve_Rice Thanks Steve - it's a whole new theme with more bells and whistles :-) It wasn't a hassle to do, either, but a lot of fun! It just took a while to resize all those photos!


Yes, funny how you can learn a thing by doing it and recognize that in retrospect. It makes me wonder how much we could be learning but are missing. ;-)

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@rshin I don't know either Rula. I think we can only do the best we can do until we learn something better. Maybe by trying to do different things, we can get closer to that. When you find an answer, let us know, ok?

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@SocialMediaDDS No, thank YOU Claudia for sharing who you are! I do love the way you call it your "love circle". :-o and how you love the thought of yoga rather than actually doing it! LOL I, too, love the thought of doing yoga but all I do is think about it!

It occurs to me as I read that you're an introspective person and so you know yourself well. I wonder if people who aren't introspective, or if at times we have non-introspective (is that a thing?) phases do not know themselves as well? In either case, when you're a part of a true community, you do get to know everyone in the group - including yourself :-) I wish you had more time to join the Hangouts - we're doing some community-building over there!

Thanks for popping up on the porch. I hope it's sunny where you are (it's not here) and that you enjoyed your tea. <3

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@rshin Ah, so much here got me thinking Rula! I love the perspective of sympathy as a "second hand sadness." So true. We care but we don't dare to come to close, or we don't want to. I agree, both states are related to ones's self. We can't NOT relate things to ourselves, can we? 

I wrote on another post, yesterday, that I am happiest when everyone is on the dance floor. I think you, too, are that way. You speak of it in relation to witnessing another's pain. We want to make it end because it is too hard to watch. Nothing wrong with that, though. It's very hard to witness someone's suffering. I don't know if my grief makes me more or less able to bring comfort. When I see someone's pain I remember so well the hopelessness of mine in the earliest days, and how long those early days last.


It takes guts to see that what we do is not for the reasons we'd like to believe but at least then we know. We can do something different. No one is judging us -- but us.

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@rshin Hi Rula!  I guess it doesn't matter whether we fail or succeed, does it, unless we say it does ;-)

It's about the trying. What fun would life be if we had all the answers? I don't know. Do you?


And my "friend" is the largest pine on our property. We call her "the Grandmother" after Pocahontas ;-)

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@eddyfy_ Hi Eddy! Thanks for taking part in this exercise. I know it's a hard question to answer, but that's what makes it fun, right? Imagine if it were simple, how utterly un-complex we would be LOL


The madness does continue, doesn't it, even when we know it's there (which should dispel it, no?) The part that strikes me about this madness is that we judge ourselves by judging others judgements of us when we don't even know what anyone is thinking of us. It is us, only us! I remember reading a cool quote about this, something like, don't worry about what others are thinking about you - they're really not thinking about you all that much.


Knowing is one thing but really knowing, is another. Know what I mean?

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@saramac Thanks for being so quick to write a response! Fun - and challenging - isn't it? I love it Sara! The words, the emotion, the picture <3

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@Steve_Rice Great Steve! I look forward to it! Make sure you post it here! :-)

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Hi Josh,

I do believe words are important. They are our most-often method of communicating - anything! It's funny that we grew up with the sticks and stones cry - it was so inaccurate. Our worlds are built with the words which define us and so much damage was done to us by children when we were children ourselves.

Lori


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@Joshua Wilner/A Writer Writes LOL, seems you chose those words with care Josh! I like the succinctness of your response. :-) Now I am going to see which words you choose on your post.

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@Vidya Sury It's funny you noticed that this is the 250th post. When Alex died I had just published my 150th post and for some reason I always noticed, then, the post number. It was as if the were a line there - the posts published while he was with us and the  ones published after he died. It's hard to believe that this is 100 posts since then.

I look forward to your reply - be sure to put the link to your post here! Man you are an abundant writer Vidya! And blessed, yes :-)

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@amacaluso29 Still, I'm going to look more closely when I look in the mirror from now on ;-) Fingers crossed!

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@amacaluso29 my greatest strength and yet my kryptonite as well! :o

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@amacaluso29 Are you sure there was nothing funny on your Cheereos!? ;-) No, seriously, I want that stuff so I can have that experience!!! How cool is that! And how wonderful that it made you laugh! It reminds me of something I read of Carl Jung when he described returning from a near death/out of body experiences. He said it was all so strange!

Did you have any followups on that experience? Did you try to have it again or question it?


Nevermind the Cheereos sprinkles - just mail me that mirror!


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@Reba Linker That's a beautiful post Reba! I love the Morning Glory flowers. We had them in our yard for the first time last summer and you're right  - they are like a miracle!


Aren't we all like miracles, if we could only see that. Thanks so much for sharing. Another cup of tea?

:-)

Lori


P.S. I haven't mastered the Doumbek -  yet! But my heart still dances to it. Is your friend Lebanese?

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@saramac Hi Sara! I'm so glad you're going to participate (so good to see you on the porch - can I pour you a cup of tea?)


Please come back and reply here with the link once you finish, or if you don't put it on your blog, just paste it all here :-)


XOX

Lori

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@uncommonchick Hi Kesha! The trick is to develop the habit of catching yourself when your eyes go downward :-) And I've noticed that upon awakening, our eyes, while closed, are naturally in that position. Wake up - LOOK up LOL How complex are we human beings!


It's nice to see you on the porch Kesha!

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@Joseph DabonHi Joseph,

Welcome to Life, for instance! Sorry I am so late in responding to you - your comment seems to have gotten lost until just now :o

Yes, to be one with the person you are empathizing with. You believe it is easier to empathize with people we care about? I wonder if that's because we feel, or imagine we do, how they feel? We hate to see anyone in pain, particularly people with whom we have a relationship.


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@Melissa It's hard to be an empathetic person :-) Sometimes you don't know whose feelings you're feeling! It's great that you found a positive way to process that Melissa. It's enough to deal with your own emotions when you know they are theirs LOL


Welcome to Life, for instance!

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@wonderoftech I've never been in NYC but I can imagine how it is different there. That experience must have been scary for you. Yikes! So do you think it's a "When in Rome" thing? And how do we know what the natives do? We have to check it out at each new place? Can't we change it? Can't we "give a little love"? ;-)

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@Joshua Wilner/A Writer Writes Did you find it any different in Texas than in LA Josh?

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@glynisj I wonder if it is a "When in Rome" thing, that we catch on to the way people around us act and act the same. I know mu daughter saw this clearly when she was flying in from Ottawa (big city) to Sydney (small town.) When she got on the plane in Ottawa she did what everyone else was doing, tended to her stuff and didn't speak to the people around her. She didn't even realize how much she had adapted to the big city until she got on the final flight to Sydney where people were talking to one another, and to her asking her where she was from and who her family was in Sydney.


The video suggests we can change things. I wonder if we can. What do you think?

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@glynisj Hi Glynis,

I don't know the right of wrong of it (which is why I love to have discussions on it!) but I know that one of the most comforting, and empathetic, response I received when my son died was when my cousin called from out west and said, "I don't know what to say! I don't know what to say!" In that I could feel support and caring. Strange? In fact, I don't believe anyone ever really knows how we feel - about anything. We're too unique for that. We may have glimpses of it but we see what we need to see. I think one of our deepest needs is to be understood, however, and never is that need so great as when we are facing terrible loss. 


Am I wrong? ;-)

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@JacquelineSmithFahey It's hard to be there for someone who is hurting. It must be hard for you to be around so many who are. Maybe empathy is a learned skill? It sounds cold when you put it that way. I'm remembering a quote I found years ago, "If you do not understand my silence, you will not understand my words." Seems we need to cultivate the skill of understanding the silence, and holding them in it, when someone is in pain.

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@blogaks Oh dear - eyesight loss?! You are alright now, though, right? 

3 weeks ago on Do You Run From Your Feelings?

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@blogaks Hi Ashvini! Your sickness changed something for you? Did you make a connection between the illness and feelings you had been ignoring?

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@Late_Bloomers Hi Barbara! What a horrible experience for your mother! And for you! How wonderful that sharing it on Facebook gave you support, comfort and release. (Facebook is like a perpetual friend, no, always there asking "What's on your mind?")

Will you be able to recover the lost money? Is your mom okay?



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