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@eddyfy_ Hi Eddy! Thanks for all the recommendations!  I see that you, like @SocialMediaDDS  are a reluctant kindle owner. We do like the feel and smell of a book. To me a library is a special, nearly sacred place. All those books in one place, treasures waiting to be discovered! :-) To find the classics in one place, and also free (on Kindle) is a treat!


Zero Echo Shadow Prime sounds fascinating! Though the idea of AI scares me, especially after I heard Stephen Hawkins say we should never go there. Irkadura  sounds good too! 


How is everything else in your world these days Eddy? 

1 week, 6 days ago on What Are You Reading?

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@Rileyhar Hi Riley! :-) So good to see you! Thank you for the recommendation. I'm planning on seeing the Movie The Imitation Game tomorrow night and there is a WW II series on CBC called X Company starting this Wednesday that looks intriguing so your recommendation is falling on fertile ground! I've added it to my Wish list at amazon. Wow - it's only 6 months old and has 52 reviews already! 


Hanson's information about the negativity bias came as a relief to me. You know how long I've been trying to work out this happiness thing and I know it all goes back to the wiring on the brain. Let me know what you think of it after you read it okay?


Are you having a bad winter too? I say "bad" but I really enjoy it ;-) It makes for good writing time! Take care and keep in touch!

1 week, 6 days ago on What Are You Reading?

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@SocialMediaDDS Hi Claud! Seeing you here makes me nostalgic for the early days of LFI!  I miss you too! 

I do use my kindle a lot. It's hard to resist a device which can hold so many books and yet fit in your purse! Yet there is something exciting about a stack of books just sitting there waiting for you.


Yes, you're going to become a grandmother! SO exciting! And if your daughter lives near a school which offers this program she could approach them and offer to be a part of it! I imagine the parent learns as much as the children do. What a great opportunity for her!


My husband is shovelling out now - not sure how much fell in the last 12 hours but I'm guessing it's about 2 feet. Still, we should be able to get to town this afternoon. I can't imagine how high the snow banks will be there. We are running out of places to put the snow. But, like you, I don't mind at all.


2 weeks ago on What Are You Reading?

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@Gelacacine Hi :-) I love how you'd go back and save the contents of the library in Alexandria! You've got  lot of interesting ideas! Welcome to Life, for instance Gelacacine!

2 weeks, 4 days ago on If You Could Time Travel, Who Would You Visit?

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@Sabrina Bolin And your visit drew me back to the porch to hear again my own message! Funny how we can forget out OWN MESSAGE. LOL It's so important to stay connected to the message, to see the gift in every thing, even those with horribly ugly wrapping paper.


I've gotten a bit sidetracked this month with personal projects but I hope to get back to the writing in February. I've set a deadline to get it to my First Readers by my Birthday. (Would you like to be one of my Readers?  I'd love to have your take on it.) It still feels like it has a long way to go to get to that point, though. Happy end-of-January and eve of a new month!

1 month ago on How Does Life Support You?

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@HYakBack Hi Holly! Nice to see you too! The Right to Write. I'm going to look that up :-)  So what will your book be about? I don't know what else can be as much fun as writing a book.


I agree, Life may be sending a lot of magical messages to us and we may be missing them. I think we miss the gifts with ugly wrapping paper because we just don't care to open them, but everything is a gift.


Good luck in your writing :-)

1 month, 2 weeks ago on How Does Life Support You?

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@Joshua Wilner/A Writer Writes That sums up 444 words very well Josh! :-)

1 month, 3 weeks ago on How Does Life Support You?

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Bon Voyage Barbara! Have a wonderful time! 

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Ready To Go On A Holiday?

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Hi Gini, Hi Everyone!

I'm afraid I'm not so skilled at goal-setting (should I read Traction, hmmm....) but I have 3 goals for 2015 just the same. One is personal, one is recreational and one is a business goal. That should keep me busy. And balanced.

I'm raring to get into the new year but the holidays just don't seem to want to stop :o I LOVE this time of year, the organizing, the purging (clutter-clearing: what fun1) , the clean slate just lying there waiting for us to fill it up!

:-)

1 month, 3 weeks ago on 2015 Business Goals

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This is beautiful Barbara! I wish I were so inclined with the camera to have captured 2014 so well. Perhaps this year I will put my new iPod to work :-)

Yes, why think of years end, though I've never been successful in NOT being HYPER aware of it, and also of being wary of the upcoming year. Who knows what a new year will bring. Perhaps it is as you say, "Every year has its ups and downs." 

All the best to you in 2015!

Lori

2 months ago on 2014 In Pictures

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@Late_Bloomers Thank you Barbara! Happy Holidays (as good as they can be) to you too!

2 months ago on Merry Christmas

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@speculationsimpressed And to you too  Glynis! :-)

2 months, 1 week ago on Merry Christmas

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@HYakBack That's such wisdom too Holly, "focus on the little joys and the present moment." :-)

3 months ago on Do You Confuse Expectation and Anticipation?

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@HYakBack Hi Holly! You already feel the losses :-( Why is this holiday so charged? I guess it wouldn't hurt so bad if it never felt so good. Once when we were at our summer place one of my kids commented, on our last day, that she hated to leave. My cousin commented, "Why would you ever want to go anywhere that you wouldn't hate to leave?" Such wisdom in that. We all have a lot of Christmasses inside us, don't we? They are all there, like layers of time, simmering in a pot we call Christmas-to-come. Well it's here and we may as well soak up the joy that comes with it. Do you think managing the expectations and anticipations can help?


Yu are closing your psychology practice for the holidays or for good? What will you write about?

3 months ago on Do You Confuse Expectation and Anticipation?

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@glynisj Isn't it fun collecting Santas?! I used to look at the craft shows for a really unusual one. But I have so many now.


"Because of your husband's work...he'll be working that day."  Is he Santa Claus ;-) 

Quiet is alright in my books. Sometimes the heightened expectations set us up for a disappointment. Those are hard to live up to.

3 months ago on Do You Confuse Expectation and Anticipation?

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@Julie Barrett No, they don't collect them (good idea though) as they are visiting before I'm ready to take the decorations at the time they are here! I give them a "map" telling them how many Santas they have to spot in each room.


Hmm... you've traded chaos for quiet? Sorry about your first Thanksgiving without your husband home. :-( He'll be missing some great turkey I bet. Wish I were close enough to come and break the wishbone with you. Better days ahead.

3 months ago on Do You Confuse Expectation and Anticipation?

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@HYakBack So true Holly! I knew so much more when I was younger too! The older I get, the more I know I don't know! LOL I'm trying to recall a quote I read in a book, I think Dandelion Wine, where the character says when you're twenty you have all the answers but if at fifty or sixty you still believe you do, something is amiss.


Acceptance really is the only way through this obstacle course. Knowing that all is "unfolding as it should" helps me to remember to practice acceptance. :-)

3 months, 1 week ago on Do You Have All the Answers?

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Happy Anniversary Barbara :-) I understand the gaps in your posting schedule only too well. We all need a break to recharge our batteries now and then. I"m just so glad you started four years ago because otherwise we'd not have met at all :o

Lori 

3 months, 1 week ago on Has It Really Been 4 Years?

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@glynisj Hi Glynis :-) I am a planner too so I get what you're saying. What's that joke, if you want to make God laugh tell him your plans. But seriously, the plan is the destination and how can we move at all if we don't have that. Maybe we need to learn to laugh with God?

3 months, 1 week ago on Do You Have All the Answers?

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@HYakBack Front porch of not (of course, it's a symbol and a tool) it sounds like you've got a community there! I'd stay there too :-)

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@HYakBack That sounds wonderful Holly! Where do you live? Did you grow up with this neighbourhood or did you join it later on? Was it always like that?

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@AlliPolin Hi Alli, Those are smart kids you have :-) They know, as you put it, "It's not only about kicking around a ball but doing it with friends in the community." This makes me think of my first night in residence at university. As my mom and dad left me there Mom gave me some good advice. "Leave your door open so you can meet some of the girls going by." She was so wise! Maybe that's relevant to us today "to leave our doors open" represented by sitting on the front porch. You never know who you're going to meet or who your next best friend will be. 

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@Tina Barbuto Hi Tina :-) I'm glad you came to the porch! Can I pour you a cup of tea?


I think it's cool that you have both a public and a private space at your place, so you can honour the way you feel in the moment. We all need time to recharge and if being on the front porch means we're sharing energy we don't have it also means we'll not be very much in a space for community. It's like answering the phone to say don't have time to talk: wouldn't not answering the phone convey that message. :-) I've always wondered about that!


Do you think the need for privacy and recharging is why we have so few porches these days?

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@Late_Bloomers Hi Barbara :-) You both community build without a porch and hide at the back of the house :o I love the idea of honking as you go by! I remember when I was old enough to be noticing and returning to the small town where I was born. Sleeping at my grandparents house I recall hearing a lot of horns honking at night. I thought there must be impatient drivers in this town. But then I was driving in a car with my cousin and noticed he honked at many cars in greeting just as they honked back. My initial assessment of the town as impatient was replaced immediately by one of a friendly town.


What matters is the connections we make, not the porch or deck or even where it is. I'd meet you on your porch, front or back for that glass of wine. :-)

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@Joshua Wilner/A Writer Writes That sounds so nice! My grandparents porch had a swing on it where we'd sit with Grandpa who had all the time in the world for us when we visited! In our summer place there is a sofa (and old one) on the porch, one of my two favourite spaces there (the other being the shore). Dreaming of a porch...and a comfy chair :-) Way to manifest one!

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@glynisj Hi Glynis :-) It's all about the chairs, isn't it. And watching the world go by. How succinctly you captured the feeling of the front porch!

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@PennyK That sounds so nice Penny. Do you feel connected to the neighbours then? Does it feel good to know you only have to go out to your (front) deck in order to do so? What kind of cookies do you have today? ;-)

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@Vidya Sury That's wonderful Vidya! You're so fortunate! It sounds like a wonderful place where you live. Do you have a porch - a photo to post here? 

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@BrendaXena How does the photo sparkle Brenda!? What a view too - what is that lit-up building outside the window? Cool! Will your beach be in Greece? Imagine retiring there! :-) I'd surely take you up on that glass of wine in Greece!

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@BrendaXena The trip of a lifetime, I'd say!!!!  Wow - what a great photo! I still remember fondly my trip to Greece with my daughter in 2010! What an amazing place! Which island were you near? Is that the famous Santorini Sunset?


But we were talking about icebergs (none in that photo - augh I digress again!) You deal with the icebergs, if you can't avoid them, by taking care of the issue. What other choice do we have, really, that serves us. Except curling up in a ball for a time, which is okay too when you need to :-)

3 months, 2 weeks ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@BrendaXena So true, Brenda, in some climates, we cool off inside. I guess in 1928 that wasn't really an option, especially after cooking the evening meal warmed up the house! 


Is this your porch? I'm coming over for a glass of wine!

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@Lea Bullen Wise words Lea, "I've done this before and I can do it again." :-)


3 months, 2 weeks ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Late_Bloomers Hi Barbara! I am not enlightened enough to tell whether or not you are ;-) But if you have weathered storms and trust the insights you gained from them, maybe....


I like how you explain the curling up in a ball thing! It really likely is a biological response! I had never thought of it before. So...not such a bad thing. At times. When you need to. For a while.

3 months, 2 weeks ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Lea Bullen I like that quote! I've noticed a pattern in the challenges I've faced in 2014 so far! It seems that what starts as a seeming catastrophe turns out to be a magic flying carpet which transitions us to a better place. I actually reminded myself of that during the midst of the last one and, yet again, it proved true. The question is, now that I see it that way will it just continue to be true because it just IS true, or because it's what I expect? :-)  Do you experience challenges this way?

3 months, 3 weeks ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Lea Bullen I love that you admit to being enlightened Lea! Makes me wonder if someone has to have faced a lot of challenges in order to know they are enlightened. Have you?


Yes, when too many things happen at once it IS a challenge. Sometimes life is like that.

3 months, 3 weeks ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@HYakBack I hear you Holly. I want that grace and equanimity too. How do we get it? Can we purchase it somewhere :o


We do the best we can. Maybe what we need to learn is that it doesn't help to beat up on ourselves for not achieving, yet,  the thing we're still working towards.

3 months, 3 weeks ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Becca Thomason Hi Becca! I so resonate with what you say! Do we ALL wish we were more enlightened than we are!?!?


They do say, however (whoever "they" are) that an inquiring mind is the best one because it's open. There is always more to learn. Otherwise life would become....boring?


I like the "technology bubble", though I don't really like it, just the name you give it I think we need to let this thing evolve, and see where it goes. Doesn't every generation view critically the new technology? I had to laugh at Downton Abby (for me, a living history show!) where they are suspicious of the "wireless" radio, thinking it will be the ruin of society! (It's also funny how that, like our modern wifi, was called "wireless".)


So much to learn....

3 months, 3 weeks ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Julie Barrett Yes Julie, "don't invite the lessons in the form of difficulty"!!!  Seems we more often learn our lessons when they're difficult, though, doesn't it. As if it has to be difficult in order to move us. But I like that way of looking at it. I read somewhere recently that either you win or you learn, and either way it's a win.

3 months, 3 weeks ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@eddyfy_ Hi Eddy! Isn't it funny how we forget the storm once its passed? So often I've grappled with an issue which was large and difficult and then, two days later I can't even remember what the issue was. 


So we learn not to run from the storm and to be in the moment (love that) so we can enjoy the force of it rather than cower and hide from it. Just yesterday I faced what could have been a big crisis in my business. I fought back panic and considered my options. Then I realized that I could have some impact on the situation by thinking of it as potentially having the most positive outcome I could imagine. That calmed me down and allowed me to think of the action to take that lead to an outcome better than I had imagined. For this entire year, with site challenges and hacking and hosting problems it seems at the resolution of each problem I realized I was in a much better place than before it. Funny how that works!


I love how you say, "Problems still come but I either don't think of them as problems or maybe I'm so in the moment that I just don't notice the storm." Pure poetry Eddy! :-)

3 months, 3 weeks ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Steve Rice Hi Steve! I like this, "I try to never believe any thought my mind thinks because it's all narrative.  (Even that belief--that it's all narrative LOL) "  It kind of puts everything in perspective, doesn't it? It's all narrative. You would think if we knew that we could remind [re-mind] ourselves of it and calmly handle our thoughts so they serve us.


Do you think this is how we empower our children when our iceberg moments impact them?

3 months, 3 weeks ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Kapil Gupta MD Very nice Kapil. Welcome to Life, for instance. I'm glad you came by and shared the link.


Have you ever seen, in retrospect, that a problem had value? Can you synthesize your way of remembering that all is well? :-)

3 months, 4 weeks ago on How to Deal With Problems Gracefully

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@HYakBack Hi Holly! Welcome to Life, for instance and thank you for what you said.


Do you find blogging to have therapeutic value for you? How long have you been blogging? If you want, complete your Livefyre profile (here: http://www.livefyre.com/profile/67590690/ ) so we can follow you to your blog an see what you're writing about.

:-)

3 months, 4 weeks ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@Vishnu's Virtues Thank you Vishnu! We do learn so much from one another. You find blogging therapeutic as well :-) I love how you say, "We are all in it together". For me that's been the foundation of my blog, this belief.


How many years have you been blogging? 

4 months ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@wonderoftech @Harleena Singh I am in good company! :-) Thanks for coming by to celebrate (now where IS that cake!?!)


Nevermind, we'll toast with the tea! Here's to many more years of blogging for you!

4 months ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@Harleena Singh Hi Harleena and an early Happy Blogiversary to you too. (Did you know "blogiversary was a word?)


"Such is life" is something my mother used to say. Whenever I hear it I feel that she is near! Yes, live carries on and blogging helps us to stay the course, doesn't it. That's great that you started a forum at your place. I must go over and see! Connections is what it is all about :-)

4 months ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@Heraldm Hi Marquita! So you're coming up on your fourth anniversary or you recently celebrated it? (Was there cake? :o )


"A journey both glorious and humbling" Nice! And yes, we can learn so much here online. In the past it would have taken trips to libraries (which I love - just returned with four books!) to amass the volume of information which is right in front of us now. It seems our personal journeys are accelerated because of our presence here and our participation in blogging which makes us, though writers who are typically loners, social creatures, porch-hopping, visiting and learning lots of new things every day!


4 months ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@jaypeebalroop Hi Balroop! Thanks for sharing that article. There are so many benefits of writing. I wonder about the evolution of writing to immediate publishing of the writing which we experience with a blog. Do you think this amplifies the therapeutic benefits? 

4 months ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@eddyfy_ Aw Eddy! We've all been circled by snails at one time or another.  Write the book :-)

4 months ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@eddyfy_ LOL "edifying"! How cool that you can claim that word as your own!

4 months ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@speculationsimpressed Glynis! With sleep still in my eyes I replied to you without asking for your reply! Does blogging feel therapeutic to you? Has it made your life better - and how?

4 months ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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