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@Harleena Singh Hi Harleena and an early Happy Blogiversary to you too. (Did you know "blogiversary was a word?)


"Such is life" is something my mother used to say. Whenever I hear it I feel that she is near! Yes, live carries on and blogging helps us to stay the course, doesn't it. That's great that you started a forum at your place. I must go over and see! Connections is what it is all about :-)

11 hours, 2 minutes ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@Heraldm Hi Marquita! So you're coming up on your fourth anniversary or you recently celebrated it? (Was there cake? :o )


"A journey both glorious and humbling" Nice! And yes, we can learn so much here online. In the past it would have taken trips to libraries (which I love - just returned with four books!) to amass the volume of information which is right in front of us now. It seems our personal journeys are accelerated because of our presence here and our participation in blogging which makes us, though writers who are typically loners, social creatures, porch-hopping, visiting and learning lots of new things every day!


12 hours, 52 minutes ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@jaypeebalroop Hi Balroop! Thanks for sharing that article. There are so many benefits of writing. I wonder about the evolution of writing to immediate publishing of the writing which we experience with a blog. Do you think this amplifies the therapeutic benefits? 

12 hours, 56 minutes ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@eddyfy_ Aw Eddy! We've all been circled by snails at one time or another.  Write the book :-)

1 day, 9 hours ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@eddyfy_ LOL "edifying"! How cool that you can claim that word as your own!

1 day, 10 hours ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@speculationsimpressed Glynis! With sleep still in my eyes I replied to you without asking for your reply! Does blogging feel therapeutic to you? Has it made your life better - and how?

1 day, 10 hours ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@Late_Bloomers Barbara! You always ask such good questions! (Thanks to Roco for the congrats!) :-) What will I wish for? Well FIRST I'll wish for a CAKE! It's strange that my Blogiversary corresponds to the anniversary of the registering of our first business. 


You must be coming up onto an anniversary too, no? And tell us; does blogging make your life better?

1 day, 10 hours ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@eddyfy_ LOL You must be on the tear today!


I find it interesting that you say you are putting your ideas out into the universe! Sometimes I have an idea and I have no idea why but I feel it's important to get it out there. It's almost like it grips me. Strange! And other times I too find it cathartic.


500,000 words!?!?!? Are any of them to go into a book in the near future? 

1 day, 10 hours ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@eddyfy_ Thanks Eddy! But you didn't tell us if you find blogging therapeutic! Does it change your life for the better?

1 day, 10 hours ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@KDillabough Thank you Kaarina. Your Blogiversary must be coming up? Do you find it therapeutic to keep a blog?

1 day, 13 hours ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@eddyfy_ We are always right in our own worlds! I remember learning that everyone is doing the best with what they know to get what they want. And so we manifest that, don't we. I'm with you on the idea that each generation helps the next one improve. Our children are the evolution of us just as we are the evolution of our parents. I believe as parents our jobs are not to just toss the young out of the nest but to throw them as long and far as we can so they can far exceed what we have done.


I feel the way you do about education too. We have much work to do.


Finally, I love this Eddy, "To understand that everyone lives in their own world. Then they can find a way to connect all these different worlds." 

I could not agree more. This is what my second book is about.


Going to look for the Tao of Physics, thanks! :-)

1 week ago on If a Tree Falls in the Forest…

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@eddyfy_ Hi Eddy! Okay okay, I agree with you. If there is any consciousness in the forest, the tree does make a sound :-)  (Sorry rocks and grass and plants, to have disregarded you :-)


You say, "We all create our own reality. You don't need to go into quantum physics for that." I wonder if quantum physics is HOW we create our own reality, the underlying mechanism for it. When I saw that movie I felt as if I'd found a missing piece in my theology of life. I had read about quantum physics before and was already taken by it but this movie gave visuals, particularly about the functioning of the brain, which is also fascinating to me.


The story of your father's love for you is an age-old story of parenthood, isn't it. When you are a parent and your child chooses, say,  to go off-world, you will understand your father even more than you do now because in a way you will have become him. I've been both the child and the mother so I speak from my own experience at least. The world continues to evolve away from what the last generation considers prudent and familiar and safe. You are both right, aren't you, each in your own reality.


And on the world stage, what are we to do? It's the personal play grown up and off into the world. Everyone believes they are right, that they have all the answers, not realizing that all they have are their own answers. Sigh! Trees are falling everywhere! What are we to do about that? I think we need to go even deeper for answers. 

1 week ago on If a Tree Falls in the Forest…

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@SocialMediaDDS Mine hurts too! I love "maybe it will spill over onto other people's realities..." Maybe that's HOW we change the world, even if we only change our own in the process.

1 week, 1 day ago on If a Tree Falls in the Forest…

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@SocialMediaDDS Hi Claudia! So nice to see you here (may I pour you a cup of tea?) :-)

I hear what Tony is saying about the concern that we might not care about others if we knew we were dealing with projections. It makes me think about why nice people do nice things for nice people. I used to think if someone did something nice for me it was because I was nice, but I don't think that's the case. Sure, if I were a miserable person I might not garner such support, but I think if someone does something nice for someone else it is because THEY are a nice person, and not because I am.


The idea is that we are what we are and when you squeeze us, what comes out is what is inside (like lemons, you know ;-)


And we can't escape the fact, hologram or not, it is all very real to us. It's the only reality show in town LOL So to not care about others is to feel badly about ourselves. We don't want that! It's a lot to think about, isn't it.



1 week, 1 day ago on If a Tree Falls in the Forest…

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@patweber We will have to try it and see :-)

1 week, 1 day ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@patweber Hi Pat :-) I like how you group things by color!  The "outline" could actually be the ends of the puzzle. (I never use a very good outline :o ) Writing really is like a game, then, for you too! Tell me; do you think our writing would benefit by some time spent doing actual jigsaw puzzled? I use games to sharpen my strategic thinking (like Sudoku or Free Cell). I wonder if doing jigsaw puzzles affects the part of the brain we need for writing!

1 week, 2 days ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@glynisj Hi Glynnis,

So your puzzle doesn't have straight edges. That does sound challenging. How do you fit the pieces together? Do you start in the middle? :o

1 week, 4 days ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@blogaks Hi Ashvini! That's interesting! You created small pieces that you knew would fit together! Now you can add to them. Enjoying the process is the whole point, I'm beginning to think! Isn't it fun to craft a book!

1 week, 4 days ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@Becca Thomason Hi Becca! This is interesting how you relate the analogy to your life process. I wonder if there is a correlation between the activity of doing a puzzle  and the way you make sense of events in your life. I find that when I do a puzzle it actually helps me to put things together! It's as if the action of placing pieces together has an affect on my brain, training it to know how to do this. I feel the same way about strategy games like Free Cell or Sudoku. I use these activities to affect the way I think and to learn to think more efficiently.


What analogy would you use to describe your process in life?

1 week, 6 days ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@Late_Bloomers Barbara, as it often happens when I read what you say here, I am thinking that you should have written this post rather than I. I like what you added about turning up the pieces so you could see them and about the frustration when it seems no two pieces are coming together. I can relate to the obsession and the need to back away too.


I like the way you look at life.

2 weeks ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@Julie Barrett How interesting Julie! The faces of the people in your life comprising your puzzle. Your comment about death strikes me as I've just returned from my uncle's funeral and what was there but people, all the people he was important to. The final face of the puzzle?


Do you like the fact that you don't know how your picture will turn out (between now and your funeral, I mean ;-) Does it make life more interesting for you?

2 weeks ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@Vidya Sury That sounds like it's going to be wonderful Vidya! We all need to tell the stories, don't we. And how satisfying it feels when we can express it well, as you do.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@Vidya Sury Hi VIdya! I love what you added to the analogy! "we must leave that space for them so we may fill it with forgiveness or kindness or simply peace." So beautiful and so thought-provoking! I like the idea of a tapestry of scenes too, and of people. All the people who are important to us in some way, large or small, provides pieces of the puzzle of our lives.


You're doing NaNoWriMo! Brave girl! I don't think I'd handle that pressure well but you enjoy it! Good for you! I think I started this book late in the winter and if I get it out by next fall I'll be doing well. It seems to want to take a lot of time to percolate, even though it is already longer, much longer than The Happy Place. Maybe much of that length will not survive the final edits ;-)


What are you writing about? I always enjoy so much whatever you write. You have a beautiful way with words.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@jaypeebalroop I like that Balroop! You catch the shoe! You turn things around, stop them mid-air! Good thinking! :-)

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Do You Wait for the Other Shoe to Drop?

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@Larry Lewis at the RU Hi Larry, Wow, you went through a lot and turned it all into something of great value! I like how you say, "Once we free ourselves of guilt, blame and generally feeling sorry for ourselves and instead be driven by our dreams, everything can change." Well said! So trusting your wings comes with experience (which you speak from) as well as the other things. Thanks for sharing these thoughts here!

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Do You Trust Your Wings?

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@Eddie de Jong I agree, Eddie, finding the balance is the key, that and knowing you can't always do it perfectly, much as you may try! You take immediate action and don't wallow in regrets. Another essential key to dealing with our unavoidable, perpetual state ofimperfection! ;-)

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Do You Strive for Perfection?

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@holly Hi Holly!  I hear you. What you say sounds familiar and makes me think of just yesterday when the feeling we talk about was much stronger in me.  I believe it shifts with experience which comes in time. Do you think we need to focus more on the positive feelings that come from the success experiences and get them into long term memory and also quickly release the negative ones as temporary and fleeting? 


It relates, too, to what I wrote about here http://lifeforinstance.com/2014/08/28/how-to-deal-with-problems-gracefully/ and what Martin Seligman said. 


Welcome to Life,forinstance Holly! Hang in there :-)

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Do You Wait for the Other Shoe to Drop?

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@Lea Bullen Hi Lea! You try to catch the other shoe - I love that! :-) That's proactive thinking. You remind me of something I used to teach my children: If you have to make an assumption, make one that makes you feel good. Would that I could remember my own advice :o

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Do You Wait for the Other Shoe to Drop?

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@AlliPolin Hi Alli! "We tend to turn towards the dark..." Yikes. So true and such an incentive to question this. I remember reading in an article about driving safely that if you come upon the scene of an accident suddenly, to avoid becoming a part of it, look where you want to go because we always go in the direction we are looking. So turning towards the light...a simple solution. Too simple?

Surrounding yourself with others who can support that is a great idea. Thanks for sharing these brilliant thoughts Alli.


So the question have you ever waited for the other shoe to drop? Even though you know better now ;-)

3 weeks ago on Do You Wait for the Other Shoe to Drop?

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@Becca Thomason Hi Becca! Thanks for this! The quote indicates that doubts are not a bad sign but perhaps a sign of wisdom? That puts a different spin on waiting for the other shoe to drop! 


Do you ever find yourself waiting for the other shoe to drop?

3 weeks, 1 day ago on Do You Wait for the Other Shoe to Drop?

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@holly Hi Holly! That's an interesting distinction - perfection and excellence. It even feels different, doesn't it? You make a strong case for it (and a succinct one ;-)  I'm with you - excellence is a much better thing to strive for! If you miss, you'll at least be in the vicinity of it, right? Thanks for adding to this conversation Holly!

1 month ago on Do You Strive for Perfection?

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@Harleena Singh Hi Harleena, It's funny how we nearly "confess" that we are perfectionists, as if it is a bad thing. ;-) Maybe we need to distinguish between perfectionism and obsessive compulsive disorder because I want to believe they are at two far-away points on a very long spectrum. LOL But I guess when things that aren't imperfect bother us, we know we need to let go at least a bit.


I also think it's a good thing to know yourself, and knowing where you are on the perfectionism spectrum (There! Now it IS a thing LOL) is a part of that. I know I am more peaceful inside when physical things in my environment are organized. For a little dose of that I can simply empty a messy drawer, organize the contents and put them all back. I don't do this as a matter of routine, but I know it makes me feel good when I do. Or when my desk is organized my mind is organized. It's as you say,"everything in place, at the right time, right order, and nothing misfires" Isn't everyone like that?


As for my book, I have been at it for months. I don't have a lot of time to write. Usually I find time on a Saturday when I am not harvesting and cooking from the garden or entertaining (of which I'm doing both today). But I find time where I can. Only problem is that I work better when I have a good chunk of time and those times these days are rare so I'm trying to find a way to work in less than perfect circumstances. :o


Glad you came by. Have a perfect--or imperfect--(whichever works best) weekend Harleena!

1 month ago on Do You Strive for Perfection?

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@Ngobesing Romanus Hi Ngobesing and welcome to Life, for instance! You raise an important aspect of perfectionism, the reason we seek it. How can we break a habit, if I can call it that, without knowing why we developed the habit in the first place? You're saying that perfectionism is a part of our performance output, something that gives us praise--or not. So we are seeking it to create a reflection in the eyes of others that pleases us. This gives us a hint as to where this habit could have been formed, or should I more accurately say when. If parents instil this desire in children, which may not the only place it originates (surely some children take things more seriously, try harder to get it right? I speak from experience) then how do we, as parents, inspire a different response, or can we? Any ideas?

1 month ago on Do You Strive for Perfection?

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@speculationsimpressed @glynisj I love the idea of visualizing the outcome. Some say that is the most important part and I believe it. For instance, it's a good idea to think about how you want something to feel before you set out to do it. I try to remember to do that, but I'm still learning.


Scrutinizing the outcome is part of the learning process. We try, we produce, we scrutinize, we correct. Would that we were aware of this at all times. Sometimes I find I'm just running and not taking enough time to think about things before I begin. :-)

1 month ago on Do You Strive for Perfection?

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@glynisj Hi Glynis! So you're saying we should shoot for perfection but not be attached to the outcome. That makes a lot of sense to me. Though I bet it's not easy to do.  Though as a route to happiness, it sure beats the "I've-got-to-get-it-perfect" way. How do you set the bar high in your life? Do you ever put too much pressure on yourself in order to achieve the best?

1 month ago on Do You Strive for Perfection?

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@Sabrina Bolin Ha ha Sabrina - a squirrel with his head in his hands worrying about the future :-) Seems in the natural world they don't overthink things like we do. But you know there is always something to break your fall which is just as valuable as trusting your wings, I think. Funny how long it takes to develop that confidence in life, though you have arrived at it much faster than I. Do you think this is something we can teach to our children, accelerate the process or at least guarantee it? Or do you think that experience is the only teacher? 

1 month, 1 week ago on Do You Trust Your Wings?

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Cool new theme Josh!  And I like the summary of the past twenty years! It's hard to imagine how much has happened in this time!


My kids were older when I started blogging and they didn't ask me questions like your children did. I think they were a little amazed that I was writing and publishing a blog ( or was that just in my head!). I know they were some of my earliest supporters. I can still find the comments Alex left on my posts a couple of years ago, and treasure them.


I keep wondering if I'll run out of post ideas and tell myself that when I do, I'll know it's time to stop. It hasn't happened yet. I've got at least 2 half-formed book ideas to work with after I complete my second book. What kind of writer does that make me? I don't know but I'm enjoying it. :-)


One thing I do know; it's fun connecting with other bloggers/writers. That was an unexpected area of writing that I discovered since I joined the Blogosphere nearly four years ago!

Lori

1 month, 1 week ago on What Kind Of Writer Are You?

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@Steve_Rice As you learn to soar :-) Yes, it come with experience, doesn't it? Do you think we can teach people to trust their wings? Do you think it's something we learn by looking back on our lives?  How are you learning to trust your wings Steve?

1 month, 1 week ago on Do You Trust Your Wings?

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@blogaks What a wise response Ashvini! "We have only a choice about looking at them without any prejudices." Would that it were easy! How do you look at pain and grief without prejudice?

1 month, 2 weeks ago on The Giver: a Thought-Provoking Perspective on Life

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@EndGrind Hi Steve! Long time no see - welcome back to blogging! :-)

So you believe life is fair or unfair depending on how you reach to each situation? You say you've been a pessimist for some time. Do you think life made you a pessimist, and if it did, how is that fair LOL I agree that we can choose our attitude and our reactions. I think it's easier at times to do that than it is at other times. That's not fair either LOL

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Is Life Fair?

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Happy Blogaversary Gini! You are our senior member in the Blogosphere and you well deserve all your success :-)

Lori

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Happy Birthday, Spin Sucks!

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@Joshua Wilner/A Writer Writes It's a kid movie but also an adult movie. Maybe we should talk about it on a Hangout after everyone's seen it.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on The Giver: a Thought-Provoking Perspective on Life

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@Steve_Rice Hi Steve! I like this: "the greatest joy sometimes comes after the deepest disappointment."  So true. This is a perspective born of experience. I wonder if children, who might like to have Christmas every day, for instance, can have this perspective when they have yet to scale those mountains.

It's funny too that we say this but when we're in the middle of difficulties, we really don't enjoy them, do we? Maybe that is the next stage of the journey?

1 month, 2 weeks ago on The Giver: a Thought-Provoking Perspective on Life

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@blogaks So true Ashvini and so interestingly put: "We ask this question only because we can afford to ask." And when we do ask, we can come up with so many arguments for both sides of the question.

Do you ever struggle with this question or is it something you don't even bother to ask?

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Is Life Fair?

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@eddyfy_ @rshin Imagine that Eddy! LOL :-)

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Is Life Fair?

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@rshin Hi Rula, You always get me thinking! I think I agree with you LOL Imagine that! "Comparison is the cause of pain" and that's what this idea of life-should-be-fair is all about. I wonder how children (like yours) come to this idea though. Do you have any idea where this idea is born in us?

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Is Life Fair?

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@eddyfy_ wow Eddy! What a perspective on fairness, and after being robbed as you were :o I like this: "I make myself happy or sad, not life." You separate an omnipotent "Life" person from the equation, leaving a completely hands-off system of what is. (Not sure I explained that right). This way of looking at life is more empowering, even when you've been robbed. My sites were hacked last January, and my business site was down for 11 days. It really gave me pause.

So life is neither fair nor unfair, but humans have some work to do when they target one another with short-sightedness and out of "a wrong moral sense". 

So much more in this, but I'm on the tear! Be back later!

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Is Life Fair?

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@Vishnu's Virtues I like this Vishnu! It's all up to us. Do you think that the question of the fairness of life of lack of it depends on how we look at life itself? You indicate it is about growing, building our wisdom and strength. That shifts the perspective away from fairness onto attitude.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Is Life Fair?

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@Sabrina Bolin Hi Sabrina! Thanks for this perspective on life. It seems to rise above the issue of fairness, rendering it meaningless. So, yes, you did answer the question! We all have the "fair opportunity to connect to our deepest self and grow" We just need to shift our perspective accordingly.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Is Life Fair?

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