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@HYakBack So true Holly! I knew so much more when I was younger too! The older I get, the more I know I don't know! LOL I'm trying to recall a quote I read in a book, I think Dandelion Wine, where the character says when you're twenty you have all the answers but if at fifty or sixty you still believe you do, something is amiss.


Acceptance really is the only way through this obstacle course. Knowing that all is "unfolding as it should" helps me to remember to practice acceptance. :-)

1 day, 12 hours ago on Do You Have All the Answers?

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Happy Anniversary Barbara :-) I understand the gaps in your posting schedule only too well. We all need a break to recharge our batteries now and then. I"m just so glad you started four years ago because otherwise we'd not have met at all :o

Lori 

2 days, 1 hour ago on Has It Really Been 4 Years?

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@glynisj Hi Glynis :-) I am a planner too so I get what you're saying. What's that joke, if you want to make God laugh tell him your plans. But seriously, the plan is the destination and how can we move at all if we don't have that. Maybe we need to learn to laugh with God?

5 days, 11 hours ago on Do You Have All the Answers?

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@HYakBack Front porch of not (of course, it's a symbol and a tool) it sounds like you've got a community there! I'd stay there too :-)

1 week, 1 day ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@HYakBack That sounds wonderful Holly! Where do you live? Did you grow up with this neighbourhood or did you join it later on? Was it always like that?

1 week, 1 day ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@AlliPolin Hi Alli, Those are smart kids you have :-) They know, as you put it, "It's not only about kicking around a ball but doing it with friends in the community." This makes me think of my first night in residence at university. As my mom and dad left me there Mom gave me some good advice. "Leave your door open so you can meet some of the girls going by." She was so wise! Maybe that's relevant to us today "to leave our doors open" represented by sitting on the front porch. You never know who you're going to meet or who your next best friend will be. 

1 week, 4 days ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@Tina Barbuto Hi Tina :-) I'm glad you came to the porch! Can I pour you a cup of tea?


I think it's cool that you have both a public and a private space at your place, so you can honour the way you feel in the moment. We all need time to recharge and if being on the front porch means we're sharing energy we don't have it also means we'll not be very much in a space for community. It's like answering the phone to say don't have time to talk: wouldn't not answering the phone convey that message. :-) I've always wondered about that!


Do you think the need for privacy and recharging is why we have so few porches these days?

1 week, 5 days ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@Late_Bloomers Hi Barbara :-) You both community build without a porch and hide at the back of the house :o I love the idea of honking as you go by! I remember when I was old enough to be noticing and returning to the small town where I was born. Sleeping at my grandparents house I recall hearing a lot of horns honking at night. I thought there must be impatient drivers in this town. But then I was driving in a car with my cousin and noticed he honked at many cars in greeting just as they honked back. My initial assessment of the town as impatient was replaced immediately by one of a friendly town.


What matters is the connections we make, not the porch or deck or even where it is. I'd meet you on your porch, front or back for that glass of wine. :-)

1 week, 5 days ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@Joshua Wilner/A Writer Writes That sounds so nice! My grandparents porch had a swing on it where we'd sit with Grandpa who had all the time in the world for us when we visited! In our summer place there is a sofa (and old one) on the porch, one of my two favourite spaces there (the other being the shore). Dreaming of a porch...and a comfy chair :-) Way to manifest one!

1 week, 5 days ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@glynisj Hi Glynis :-) It's all about the chairs, isn't it. And watching the world go by. How succinctly you captured the feeling of the front porch!

1 week, 5 days ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@PennyK That sounds so nice Penny. Do you feel connected to the neighbours then? Does it feel good to know you only have to go out to your (front) deck in order to do so? What kind of cookies do you have today? ;-)

1 week, 5 days ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@Vidya Sury That's wonderful Vidya! You're so fortunate! It sounds like a wonderful place where you live. Do you have a porch - a photo to post here? 

1 week, 5 days ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@BrendaXena How does the photo sparkle Brenda!? What a view too - what is that lit-up building outside the window? Cool! Will your beach be in Greece? Imagine retiring there! :-) I'd surely take you up on that glass of wine in Greece!

1 week, 5 days ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@BrendaXena The trip of a lifetime, I'd say!!!!  Wow - what a great photo! I still remember fondly my trip to Greece with my daughter in 2010! What an amazing place! Which island were you near? Is that the famous Santorini Sunset?


But we were talking about icebergs (none in that photo - augh I digress again!) You deal with the icebergs, if you can't avoid them, by taking care of the issue. What other choice do we have, really, that serves us. Except curling up in a ball for a time, which is okay too when you need to :-)

1 week, 5 days ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@BrendaXena So true, Brenda, in some climates, we cool off inside. I guess in 1928 that wasn't really an option, especially after cooking the evening meal warmed up the house! 


Is this your porch? I'm coming over for a glass of wine!

1 week, 5 days ago on Where Have All the Porches Gone?

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@Lea Bullen Wise words Lea, "I've done this before and I can do it again." :-)


1 week, 6 days ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Late_Bloomers Hi Barbara! I am not enlightened enough to tell whether or not you are ;-) But if you have weathered storms and trust the insights you gained from them, maybe....


I like how you explain the curling up in a ball thing! It really likely is a biological response! I had never thought of it before. So...not such a bad thing. At times. When you need to. For a while.

2 weeks ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Lea Bullen I like that quote! I've noticed a pattern in the challenges I've faced in 2014 so far! It seems that what starts as a seeming catastrophe turns out to be a magic flying carpet which transitions us to a better place. I actually reminded myself of that during the midst of the last one and, yet again, it proved true. The question is, now that I see it that way will it just continue to be true because it just IS true, or because it's what I expect? :-)  Do you experience challenges this way?

2 weeks, 1 day ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Lea Bullen I love that you admit to being enlightened Lea! Makes me wonder if someone has to have faced a lot of challenges in order to know they are enlightened. Have you?


Yes, when too many things happen at once it IS a challenge. Sometimes life is like that.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@HYakBack I hear you Holly. I want that grace and equanimity too. How do we get it? Can we purchase it somewhere :o


We do the best we can. Maybe what we need to learn is that it doesn't help to beat up on ourselves for not achieving, yet,  the thing we're still working towards.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Becca Thomason Hi Becca! I so resonate with what you say! Do we ALL wish we were more enlightened than we are!?!?


They do say, however (whoever "they" are) that an inquiring mind is the best one because it's open. There is always more to learn. Otherwise life would become....boring?


I like the "technology bubble", though I don't really like it, just the name you give it I think we need to let this thing evolve, and see where it goes. Doesn't every generation view critically the new technology? I had to laugh at Downton Abby (for me, a living history show!) where they are suspicious of the "wireless" radio, thinking it will be the ruin of society! (It's also funny how that, like our modern wifi, was called "wireless".)


So much to learn....

2 weeks, 1 day ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Julie Barrett Yes Julie, "don't invite the lessons in the form of difficulty"!!!  Seems we more often learn our lessons when they're difficult, though, doesn't it. As if it has to be difficult in order to move us. But I like that way of looking at it. I read somewhere recently that either you win or you learn, and either way it's a win.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@eddyfy_ Hi Eddy! Isn't it funny how we forget the storm once its passed? So often I've grappled with an issue which was large and difficult and then, two days later I can't even remember what the issue was. 


So we learn not to run from the storm and to be in the moment (love that) so we can enjoy the force of it rather than cower and hide from it. Just yesterday I faced what could have been a big crisis in my business. I fought back panic and considered my options. Then I realized that I could have some impact on the situation by thinking of it as potentially having the most positive outcome I could imagine. That calmed me down and allowed me to think of the action to take that lead to an outcome better than I had imagined. For this entire year, with site challenges and hacking and hosting problems it seems at the resolution of each problem I realized I was in a much better place than before it. Funny how that works!


I love how you say, "Problems still come but I either don't think of them as problems or maybe I'm so in the moment that I just don't notice the storm." Pure poetry Eddy! :-)

2 weeks, 4 days ago on How Enlightened are You?

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@Steve Rice Hi Steve! I like this, "I try to never believe any thought my mind thinks because it's all narrative.  (Even that belief--that it's all narrative LOL) "  It kind of puts everything in perspective, doesn't it? It's all narrative. You would think if we knew that we could remind [re-mind] ourselves of it and calmly handle our thoughts so they serve us.


Do you think this is how we empower our children when our iceberg moments impact them?

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@Kapil Gupta MD Very nice Kapil. Welcome to Life, for instance. I'm glad you came by and shared the link.


Have you ever seen, in retrospect, that a problem had value? Can you synthesize your way of remembering that all is well? :-)

3 weeks, 1 day ago on How to Deal With Problems Gracefully

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@HYakBack Hi Holly! Welcome to Life, for instance and thank you for what you said.


Do you find blogging to have therapeutic value for you? How long have you been blogging? If you want, complete your Livefyre profile (here: http://www.livefyre.com/profile/67590690/ ) so we can follow you to your blog an see what you're writing about.

:-)

3 weeks, 2 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@Vishnu's Virtues Thank you Vishnu! We do learn so much from one another. You find blogging therapeutic as well :-) I love how you say, "We are all in it together". For me that's been the foundation of my blog, this belief.


How many years have you been blogging? 

3 weeks, 3 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@wonderoftech @Harleena Singh I am in good company! :-) Thanks for coming by to celebrate (now where IS that cake!?!)


Nevermind, we'll toast with the tea! Here's to many more years of blogging for you!

3 weeks, 3 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@Harleena Singh Hi Harleena and an early Happy Blogiversary to you too. (Did you know "blogiversary was a word?)


"Such is life" is something my mother used to say. Whenever I hear it I feel that she is near! Yes, live carries on and blogging helps us to stay the course, doesn't it. That's great that you started a forum at your place. I must go over and see! Connections is what it is all about :-)

3 weeks, 4 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@Heraldm Hi Marquita! So you're coming up on your fourth anniversary or you recently celebrated it? (Was there cake? :o )


"A journey both glorious and humbling" Nice! And yes, we can learn so much here online. In the past it would have taken trips to libraries (which I love - just returned with four books!) to amass the volume of information which is right in front of us now. It seems our personal journeys are accelerated because of our presence here and our participation in blogging which makes us, though writers who are typically loners, social creatures, porch-hopping, visiting and learning lots of new things every day!


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@jaypeebalroop Hi Balroop! Thanks for sharing that article. There are so many benefits of writing. I wonder about the evolution of writing to immediate publishing of the writing which we experience with a blog. Do you think this amplifies the therapeutic benefits? 

3 weeks, 4 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@eddyfy_ Aw Eddy! We've all been circled by snails at one time or another.  Write the book :-)

3 weeks, 5 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@eddyfy_ LOL "edifying"! How cool that you can claim that word as your own!

3 weeks, 5 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@speculationsimpressed Glynis! With sleep still in my eyes I replied to you without asking for your reply! Does blogging feel therapeutic to you? Has it made your life better - and how?

3 weeks, 5 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@Late_Bloomers Barbara! You always ask such good questions! (Thanks to Roco for the congrats!) :-) What will I wish for? Well FIRST I'll wish for a CAKE! It's strange that my Blogiversary corresponds to the anniversary of the registering of our first business. 


You must be coming up onto an anniversary too, no? And tell us; does blogging make your life better?

3 weeks, 5 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@eddyfy_ LOL You must be on the tear today!


I find it interesting that you say you are putting your ideas out into the universe! Sometimes I have an idea and I have no idea why but I feel it's important to get it out there. It's almost like it grips me. Strange! And other times I too find it cathartic.


500,000 words!?!?!? Are any of them to go into a book in the near future? 

3 weeks, 5 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@eddyfy_ Thanks Eddy! But you didn't tell us if you find blogging therapeutic! Does it change your life for the better?

3 weeks, 5 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@KDillabough Thank you Kaarina. Your Blogiversary must be coming up? Do you find it therapeutic to keep a blog?

3 weeks, 5 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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@eddyfy_ We are always right in our own worlds! I remember learning that everyone is doing the best with what they know to get what they want. And so we manifest that, don't we. I'm with you on the idea that each generation helps the next one improve. Our children are the evolution of us just as we are the evolution of our parents. I believe as parents our jobs are not to just toss the young out of the nest but to throw them as long and far as we can so they can far exceed what we have done.


I feel the way you do about education too. We have much work to do.


Finally, I love this Eddy, "To understand that everyone lives in their own world. Then they can find a way to connect all these different worlds." 

I could not agree more. This is what my second book is about.


Going to look for the Tao of Physics, thanks! :-)

1 month ago on If a Tree Falls in the Forest…

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@eddyfy_ Hi Eddy! Okay okay, I agree with you. If there is any consciousness in the forest, the tree does make a sound :-)  (Sorry rocks and grass and plants, to have disregarded you :-)


You say, "We all create our own reality. You don't need to go into quantum physics for that." I wonder if quantum physics is HOW we create our own reality, the underlying mechanism for it. When I saw that movie I felt as if I'd found a missing piece in my theology of life. I had read about quantum physics before and was already taken by it but this movie gave visuals, particularly about the functioning of the brain, which is also fascinating to me.


The story of your father's love for you is an age-old story of parenthood, isn't it. When you are a parent and your child chooses, say,  to go off-world, you will understand your father even more than you do now because in a way you will have become him. I've been both the child and the mother so I speak from my own experience at least. The world continues to evolve away from what the last generation considers prudent and familiar and safe. You are both right, aren't you, each in your own reality.


And on the world stage, what are we to do? It's the personal play grown up and off into the world. Everyone believes they are right, that they have all the answers, not realizing that all they have are their own answers. Sigh! Trees are falling everywhere! What are we to do about that? I think we need to go even deeper for answers. 

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@SocialMediaDDS Mine hurts too! I love "maybe it will spill over onto other people's realities..." Maybe that's HOW we change the world, even if we only change our own in the process.

1 month ago on If a Tree Falls in the Forest…

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@SocialMediaDDS Hi Claudia! So nice to see you here (may I pour you a cup of tea?) :-)

I hear what Tony is saying about the concern that we might not care about others if we knew we were dealing with projections. It makes me think about why nice people do nice things for nice people. I used to think if someone did something nice for me it was because I was nice, but I don't think that's the case. Sure, if I were a miserable person I might not garner such support, but I think if someone does something nice for someone else it is because THEY are a nice person, and not because I am.


The idea is that we are what we are and when you squeeze us, what comes out is what is inside (like lemons, you know ;-)


And we can't escape the fact, hologram or not, it is all very real to us. It's the only reality show in town LOL So to not care about others is to feel badly about ourselves. We don't want that! It's a lot to think about, isn't it.



1 month ago on If a Tree Falls in the Forest…

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@patweber We will have to try it and see :-)

1 month ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@patweber Hi Pat :-) I like how you group things by color!  The "outline" could actually be the ends of the puzzle. (I never use a very good outline :o ) Writing really is like a game, then, for you too! Tell me; do you think our writing would benefit by some time spent doing actual jigsaw puzzled? I use games to sharpen my strategic thinking (like Sudoku or Free Cell). I wonder if doing jigsaw puzzles affects the part of the brain we need for writing!

1 month ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@glynisj Hi Glynnis,

So your puzzle doesn't have straight edges. That does sound challenging. How do you fit the pieces together? Do you start in the middle? :o

1 month ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@blogaks Hi Ashvini! That's interesting! You created small pieces that you knew would fit together! Now you can add to them. Enjoying the process is the whole point, I'm beginning to think! Isn't it fun to craft a book!

1 month ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@Becca Thomason Hi Becca! This is interesting how you relate the analogy to your life process. I wonder if there is a correlation between the activity of doing a puzzle  and the way you make sense of events in your life. I find that when I do a puzzle it actually helps me to put things together! It's as if the action of placing pieces together has an affect on my brain, training it to know how to do this. I feel the same way about strategy games like Free Cell or Sudoku. I use these activities to affect the way I think and to learn to think more efficiently.


What analogy would you use to describe your process in life?

1 month, 1 week ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@Late_Bloomers Barbara, as it often happens when I read what you say here, I am thinking that you should have written this post rather than I. I like what you added about turning up the pieces so you could see them and about the frustration when it seems no two pieces are coming together. I can relate to the obsession and the need to back away too.


I like the way you look at life.

1 month, 1 week ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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@Julie Barrett How interesting Julie! The faces of the people in your life comprising your puzzle. Your comment about death strikes me as I've just returned from my uncle's funeral and what was there but people, all the people he was important to. The final face of the puzzle?


Do you like the fact that you don't know how your picture will turn out (between now and your funeral, I mean ;-) Does it make life more interesting for you?

1 month, 1 week ago on Is Your Life like a Jigsaw Puzzle?

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