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Slave owning society was very keen on labelling the offspring of BW WM relationships. These images also take a parting shot at BW, by showing them to be antithesis of white womanhood and motherhood. Even I am struck at how often BW in this "random" sample are shown as quarrelsome, violent and needing correction or instruction from the white partner. That the child is often appealing to the father for protection from the mother's violence... and in two cases trying to hold the mother off the father... 16th & 17th century media showingBW keepin it real. :-( The reference to Ham, was a common myth to explain the origin of dark skin, link it to biblical sin. This idea in the Redemption of Ham, that the WM is washing the sin clean over generations - white man as savior - isn't new. we can see where ideas still bouncing around today came from. Thanks for posting this - gorgeous images.
@Shulamit Do your idea anyway. I love your ideas too. Just have to give Chris the prize for speed and cutes.
You know those other moms are just trying to keep up with you... LOL
Everyone is saying you don't need to leave the US to find love. This is a truism. From what you write, there is plenty more you can do to open up your options in your own backyard.
That being said, if you ARE interested in working in Europe, you might want to look into taking some international or particularly European Law courses while you can. Also talk to some of your teachers, put out some feelers as to what sort of actual jobs are out there and how you could shape your profile. Find out if you would need further specialized training, or a licence to practice, would learning a foreign language be helpful etc, etc.
Tanisha, great to see you back! I was having some withdrawal symptoms, so I was going through your old posts - especially the ones about makeup and color - I got a feeling that there were a few missing.
You started out with Red bones and Yellow bones and the makeup recommendations for each. Then you started with dressing for each (I think Yellow bones dressing was missing), choosing a red lipstick for each, and then a compare/contrast post. Could we get a redux?
Which leads me to my next question: Are there 'rules' for white vs. cream?
@Shulamit @Law Wanxi Can someone explain how Hello Kitty manages to survive so long? I loved Hello Kitty as a kid, and little girls are still rocking it today!
@mzsunshine It wasn't til you corrected yourself that I realized you had a typo. LOL!! The brain is primed to read meaning - Florida sounds perfect for nautical wear... or is that too cliche?
@Morenika LOL. The only difference is that he couldn't find Melody Hobson's email online, but he could find Christelyn's. So he figures that makes her an easy target...
Christelyn, there's a game called 'Bullsh*t Bingo'. We play it in boring meetings. You draw up a 5 x 5 table. Into each box goes the usual predictable phrase. And each time you get a rant like this, then you mark off the boxes as they come up. If you get 5 in a row, then you got B-Bingo!
@BWWithOtherBrothers @LorMarie I think I read something like that before - that these BM are jealous of BW for getting with the WM that they want... I dunno... in a sexual way? or a power way? Can you elaborate?
@Smilez123 @Christelyn What was her problem? Does she identify as a black man or what?
@VintageNarcissa "There's a special place in hell for people like that."
He's already in his own little Hell, because he's found out that ladies like us exist, and there's not a gosh-durned thing he can do about it - rant or no rant. Hehehehe.
@EnJay LOL!
Agree! Doesn't every woman want a man to hang around, marry her and help raise the kids? ROFLMAO
@GoneInternational Valid point. However, this isn't something that he can fix. Does this mean she cannot enjoy a movie unless there is a black character?
@mzsunshine Agree. Will it escalate to the point where he's got a role, but she's thinking a BP should've gotten it or could've played it better?
@Nikki J @Brice Cameron Well, I was actually in a rut like that. I know it is possible to snap out of it.
It's the type of conversation that is not conducive to relationship-growth or bonding in any way or form.
Sometimes BW feel guilty about being in a IRR and 'escaping' - or even that they don't deserve this. And consciously or subconsciously self-sabotage.
If you are reading this, Chris' friend's girlfriend, then you do deserve this love. Your ancestors - from slaves on up to all those who fought and suffered racism more recently - suffered so that you could ENJOY the relationship you are in now. You are standing on their shoulders and are enjoying what they fought for - the freedom to love irrespective of color. You know they'd smack you upside the head if you throw away a perfectly good relationship on because of this ish.
If you feel frustrated, then ask yourself what are you doing about lack of of BW representation in media? Maybe you could develop some ideas with your boyfriend and then get in touch with Tony Goldwyn. Christelyn can hook you up LOL! Amiright?!
I'm going to have to bookmark this and come back to it often. Thanks for this.
I've learned from my kids that some people naturally have more of some traits than others... but you can work on the slightly weaker ones.
@Christelyn @starzzzy @Brenda55Christelyn, did you ever hear back from that Asian guy who was dating a BW and was in conflict with his mom?
@AndreaLThorsen He DID get shot in the head, remember - that'll do that to a guy.
As for Verna, she would've enjoyed her last 15 minutes, had she kept her mouth shut. But you know, once you start confessing, you just sometimes can't stop...
And for this hairstyle, are you using combs on the sides? I can't tell from the photo...