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@Lori I think you take your cues from the natives. People in Moscow will stare at you but won't smile. It's disconcerting but perhaps you get used to it in time. Yes, when in Rome...

1 week, 4 days ago on Do You Give a Little Love?

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Hi Lori, Yes, I am very much a "smile at strangers" type of person. That can throw some people but usually my warmth is well-received. Josh is right, though. you do have to be careful. When I lived in NYC I learned to avoid looking people in the eyes. It's very creepy to make eye contact with strangers there and you have to be on your guard. 


I remember once when I had recently moved to New York, I was headed home on the subway and a guy kept staring at me. I was creeped out so I got off at the next stop. He followed me and I hoped that I could make it up the stairs to street level before he caught up to me. He grabbed my arm on the stairs and i froze until he said, "Carolyn!" It turned out he was a friend from law school. If only I had returned his gaze I would have recognized him! But I was so well trained not to look directly at people that I didn't look at him directly.


I still avoided looking at people directly in New York. But I don't live there any more!

1 week, 4 days ago on Do You Give a Little Love?

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@glynisj  Glynis, I am very sorry you are struggling with your disability. Have you ever met anyone, either online or in person, with your type of disability? Have you learned some coping tips from them or shared some of your own? I can understand your grief at the loss of what once was your fully functioning body. The daily struggles sound overwhelming and I wish you many blessings from afar.

1 week, 4 days ago on Do You Give a Little Love?

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Uh oh. I had no idea that I needed an invitation to visit The JackB. Oops... Silly me, I thought your hosting issues were why I couldn't read your blog last month.


I will tell Ashvini from Bangalore to stay away. He can be pesky at times. ;-)


I struggle with trolls too. I delete about 2 dozen spam comments a day but I stick with CommentLuv because I want to reward my commenters.


I use Stop Spammers to block email addresses and IP addresses of spammers. There is a form for legit commenters to request to be put on the White List so you can see if your besties were accidentally excluded. 


Maybe you should try a new title for your blog: The JackB -- By Invitation Only. That could give an air of exclusiveness to serious readers and scare away trolls. Just a thought.

2 weeks ago on What Should We Do About Uninvited Guests On A Blog?

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I can't speak for all women, Jack, but I know for me size definitely matters. As I recall, you have one of the biggest and best, isn't that right?


I'm talking about your Samsung Galaxy Note 2... Isn't it always about tech?

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Women Who Say They Don’t Care About Size Are Lying

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You didn't answer your own question. I was very curious to learn which one of yours you think is the least honest.


I would get skewered if I wrote a dishonest post at The Wonder of Tech. Plenty of techies who read my blog would call me out if I tried to put one over on my readers. 


I have a dream of writing an anonymous guest post for a friend's blog so I could get really bold. I'm wondering if anyone would guess it was me from my writing style. Hmm...perhaps you could start a series of mystery guest authors and we all could guess who it was.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on What Is The Most Dishonest Post You Have Ever Written?

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Hi Lori, I think the older you get the more you realize how important feelings are. When you feel something isn't quite right, pay attention! Your gut can often tell you more than your brain can. 


You're right, so often we are in a rush to find contentment that we suppress our feelings. But that's when we make mistakes. Our feelings can really guide us effectively if we let them.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Do You Run From Your Feelings?

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