introvertedwanderer
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@CocoaFly Preach. This is so true. The man decided to help when he saw something going on, so yeah, regardless of his past, what he did in this situation is a great thing, and he deserves to be acknowledged for what he did.
I'll honestly say that I cannot stand my thick, unruly, tightly coiled hair. But that's me and what I feel about my hair. I would never go out of my way to make remarks about other black women's hair, and especially not about a child. There is no need for it. No point. And I agree that this behavior does often stem from self-loathing tendencies that's projected onto others.
@LoveToLiveLife I totally agree, which is why I no longer support anything that Halle does. To me, Halle Berry just seems like an empty shell of a person. What happened to Aubrey last year was disgusting, and an incident like that should never have occurred. I hate to think the worse of people but I truly believe that Halle Berry most likely supported Olivier's behavuor and knew that something like that was going to happen. But it's funny how we haven't read anything since that incident, which leads me to believe that Halle and Olivier knew they were in the wrong and Aubrey had the upper hand in that situation after the incident, and they had to back off and let him be with his daughter without any more of the dramatics.
I don't get upset if people mispronounce my name, either. I just politely correct them and get on with my day. But like you said, if a person has known me for a while, and I have corrected that person on more than one occasasion, and that person still mispronounces my name, then that would be annoying and I'd consider it insulting. The least a person can do is take the time to try to get someone else's name right when interacting with that person.
I'm glad I listened to Janet Hubert read Wendy like a book just now because it gave me my first good laugh for the day, because of the truth coming out of Janet's mouth. Wendy is always coming for someone, and Janet is right that she invites people on her show, and then tries to tear them apart while they are sitting with her. It's ridiculous and is one of the reasons why I stopped watching her show early on. She think she knows more about people and their motivations for doing things than they themselves do. Wendy has been told off more than once, so I can understand exactly where Janet is coming from. Her line about wendy slobbering at the mere mention of food will be replaying in my mind for the rest of the day, LOL.
@MrsGlam Yeah, Im looking forward to that as well, so hopefully I take after my mother in that regard : ).
Wow, yeah, she was a beautiful woman before all of the work, just a naturally beautiful, unique face. I don't watch this installment of the Real Housewives, but the first time I saw a trailer for the show, and saw how Mama Elsa looked, I was like "What is this at which I am looking" It's mean, but she looked like a monster, and I couldn't believe that any of the other cast members could stand to look at her for any length of time. I don't usually go after peoples looks, but for someone to willingly get that mucn work done, and end up looking like that, not a nice thing at all. And the sad part is that a lot of women are only a few procedures away from looking just like her. They get a lot of unnceccesary work done and if an intervention isn't done about thier behavior, they keep going back, and end up looking similar to her. Have youn ever seen Adrienne Maloof from the Beverly Hills installment. I don't watch that show either but I keep up with the cast stuff on AllAboutTRH so I've seen her a few times, and she is starting to look like Mama Elsa.
@KingsDaughter @The Working Home Keeper @FriendsofJay
Well, Lil Kim like some other people, are special cases, who just go overboard because of issues with self-loathing. Lil Kim doesn't even look like herself anymore. As Toni had implied, if a person has discreet work done, it can enhance that person's looks, but in a lot of cases, people just go overboard, and instead of looking like a "better" version of themselves, they just look like they've had too much work done, and Lil Kim is a great example of that.
I actually want to have a bit of facial work done to reduce the size of my lips, because I've always thought that my lips, plus the skin around the philtrum area were just a bit too much, and my profile would be enhanced if I could get a reduction on those areas of my face.
@Toni_M @KingsDaughter @The Working Home Keeper @FriendsofJay
Yeah, it's really sad when people who would have aged gracefully and maybe even looked better with age, ruin it for themselves by getting surgeries done, that consequently only end up making them look like they've had work done.
@KingsDaughter @The Working Home Keeper @FriendsofJay
Yeah, especially if they have surgeries to get features that do not compliment thier facial structure, such as white women who get lip injections for fuller lips. They don't look right with fuller lips, and end up having trout mouth.
@MrsGlam Yeah, I can relate. I'm sometimes told I look my age as well, and I am nearing 30, but I think that has a lot to do with the fact that I have a more serious dispositon and am introverted, so people think that I am older because I guess I act older, or they equate my disposition with being older, not because I truly look older. Becuase there have also been a lot of people wno have seriously mistaken me for a teenager, and I guess that was more because I was more open and friendly with those people. My younger sister always tells me that I never seem to age. My mother's facial features also froze after she turned 30, hahaha. Every time I see my mother now, I am amazed at how youthful she looks. She is nearing 50 now, and looks at most like she is in her mid to late 30's, and she carries herself well, and has lost a significant amount of weight over the years. She was never a big woman, but she was rounder in her 20's and 30's, but now she's slender.
@The Working Home Keeper @FriendsofJay
I actually think that more and more white women will age better if they take good care of their skin in thier younger years and practice healthy habits. A lot of white women celebrities (and yes I know they have a lot of money, so they can get a lot done) but a lot of them do age gracefully if they take an active interest in their skincare/beauty from an early age and don't take the cosmetic surgeries to an extreme. While there are others who didn't and really either look their age or a lot older, such as Melanie Griffith, Goldie Hawn.
You're right, a lot of them absolutely don't take it seriously. I remember when I was in school, and bullying was occuring in the form of insulting jokes and snide remarks, a lot of the teachers would just sit at their desk and not do anything, even though they could obviously overhear what was going on. They'd even look directly at the culprits, more so for making noise (not the actual comments), and then get back to whatever they were doing. I can definitely understand why some students do not trust teachers enough to make a complaint with them. As a couple of people have implied, if a teracher or anyone who is supposed to be in a position of authority seems weak, then the less likely a person is going to turn to that authority figure for help.
"Just recently I was at the office and I heard 2 of my co-workers, one Asian with major color issue (he mentions to anyone who will listen that he is like 5% white) and another white co-worker who is an undercover racist talk about BW. They were discussing how they would never date a black women, how unattractive they find them ect"
Wow, this type of behavior could have gotten them reported.
@eugeniaberg @MySmile @Dandelion100
Yeah, a good match between personality type/temperament and career is definitely important. The frustrating thing is that a lot of times introverts are the ones who have to be accomodating so that extroverts get what they want, and that's the annoying thing, because extroverts are less likely to have to compromise.
LOL, funny stuff. I used to work at a discount store, so I got a lot of that nonsense, with customers trying to haggle down prices, when products had just received a discount anyway. Greedy mofos lol. Seriously, I think that I must not be a true shopper because I do not shop the way these people do. I am not demanding, don't come in feeling entitled, don't nitpick over everything. I must not be doing it correctly.
My biggest pet peeve is when they just want stuff that just isn't available at the store at that particular time. They'll ask if something is going to be marked down to 50% off, when it has just been marked down to 25% off, and might not receive another mark down for a while. And if they don't get the item then, it might not be there once another sale comes around, DUH. I can understand waiting on an item sometimes, but sometimes people are just greedy to save a buck.
Retail is definitely a form of torture. In doing retail, I learned to just silently laugh at the customers sometimes, instead of getting annoyed or worked up by them, because at the end of the day, they aren't worth getting upset over.
"You are both bringing up good points.. I think this is more what made me upset....because group work was not required for the curriculum, and many times it wasn't even that relevant, just "busy work"....... I know it was the teachers own doing. I have had teachers who act just like you're talking about...like they don't understand how anyone would not want to work in groups and like we should be so excited we get to work in groups for the day. My reaction was the opposite of excitement lol. Again, I understand that this is beneficial, especially in classes where interacting with people is a must (Foreign language, etc).
This is a problem in school in general. They tend to go with the needs of the majority or what they think the students need. It's especially troubling when it comes to different learning styles (visual, audio, hands-on, etc) ....but I suppose we can't really expect schools to cater to every individual unless we were getting home-schooled or one on one tutoring. It would be nice though..."
Exactly, a lot of the group work experience i remember in school, wasn't exactly necessary. The teachers just thought it would be "fun" or a change or whatever, for students. And like you, I was like "No, no fun for me, I'd rather work alone. Thanks". I definitely understand how it can be beneficial, but in high school especially, the real importance of group work is often lost I think, because high school is so much about the petty stuff, as I mentioned in an above post, and then you get a bunch of people into a group, and the petty dynamics and social order starts coming out in the small group context.
As far as expecting the school to cater to every individual, no, that's no exactly possible but there can be some understanding and trying to incorporate at least some things that will make for a more comfortable student, such as allowing written journals, as I had mentioned before, over verbal participation all the time. I remember in college, I had one professor who loved the circle seating and verbal participation format. I always felt slightly uncomfortable in his classes because of that, because he loved randomly calling on people, which then put people on the spot for class participation. I woud have preferred to just answer after formulating a well thought out opinion, but his style didn't allow me to do that, and it turned me off of his teaching style.
Yeah, I also used retail work as a way to practice small talk, both with customers and coworkers. Before and even now sometimes, I was more quick to just let a conversation drop, but now I try to pinpoint certain things in the conversation and prolong the conversation by talking more about those points, so that the conversation branches out more. Sometimes it works and other times it doesn't.