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Amen to all you wrote, and much like Mark's comment: it's not what you think of yourself, it's what others thin of you. My favourite line? "we've taken something organic and good, and destroyed it." I was just lamenting with our pal Jayme that the 'raderie, fun, frolic AND formative information has become a dog's breakfast of people telling others "do this, don't do that", with few people actually writing content (as opposed to writing about how to write content.) Always enjoy your posts Ken :)

1 week, 5 days ago on The Problem with Social Media; or, Why I Don’t Seek to be an Influencer

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It's an issue I deal with all the time, and hence why I hate the moniker of coach, business coach, life coach. It pigeon holes immediately, and most folks don't really understand the purpose and benefit of coaching. They often lump it into the other detested word: consultant.


My background is Olympic coaching. My job was to assist others to achieve excellence. To flame the fire already within them to reach their goals. To oversee progress and be the tough task master when needed, and the shoulder to lean on when needed. A good coach doesn't look for glory. We do our work in the background, assisting others to find the tools necessary to attain what they define as "success". Progress is an inside-out job: the coach doesn't make the athlete or the successful business person or individual. The person who seeks out a coach already realizes that they can benefit from the insight, support, wisdom, experience, perspective and knowledge (oh yes, we must have the technical knowledge too). They realize the sum of the parts is greater than the whole.


I've been coaching individuals in business and in life for 30 years now, long before there was a moniker for it. It's difficult to see someone take a weekend course and call themselves a coach, because I believe coaching is a calling as much as it is a "job".


I could go on and on. Suffice to say, today it's an over-used word and title, and when something becomes over-used (and in some cases poorly applied), it raises the very questions you ask (good questions), causes confusion and white noise for the profession and makes it difficult to separate the wheat from the chaff.


When someone asks me "what do you do?", I often reply, "what do you need done?" Or if they ask if I'm a business or life coach, I answer "yes". It always opens the floor for conversation, because a good coach is as much about the person as it is about their skills, and there needs to be a chemistry, trust and mutual respect. For me, it's an honour and a calling to be a coach, not a job. My (more than) two cents. Cheers! Kaarina

1 week, 5 days ago on The Ambiguity of the Word Coach

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@Lori Yep: February 7th will be 4 years for me, although I've been a bit MIA online for a little while now. I've been at a crossroads/threshold of making some changes with my branding and blog, so I'm hoping that by the new year, my new direction will re-infuse my interest and energy in blogging.

3 weeks, 2 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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Happy Blogiversary Lori :)

3 weeks, 2 days ago on The 4th Blogiversary of LFI and Why You Should Blog

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We are on the same wavelength Ken. I commented today on another's blog whose post touched me as this does: "I've become tired of all the same-old-same-old online. What I'm seeing online is like reading a never-ending instruction manual, rather than a rich piece of writing. I mean really...how many times can we hear about the latest Facebook change, or google authorship, or how to get ten zillion people to subscribe. Is this what our world has come to? A constant barrage of information with little wisdom applied?

I've been quite MIA online, because it's difficult to find "content" (yes, that most over used word that seems to be sorely lacking in innovative, creative thought) that inspires, educates, entertains, informs and enriches." Perhaps you felt a little of some of the same thing? Cheers! Kaarina

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Blogging: The Rise and Fall of an Addiction

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@Late_Bloomers Well, I can't "Like" that because I know you don't like roller coasters. Sending you lots of support and smiles, hugs and positive vibes.

3 months ago on 99 Things My Mum Loved

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@jennwhinnem FANTASTIC TED talk:) Will share:)

3 months ago on Tips For #ReturnOnOptimism

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A most beautiful tribute to your mother: she's smiling from the rainbows I'm sure. Hugs, Kaarina xo

3 months ago on 99 Things My Mum Loved

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Well my #RockHot friend, you got your groove back. Not that you ever lost it, mind you. But sometimes our grooves get a little worn down, and I was happy to be a rock to your #RockHot. Cheers! Kaarina

3 months ago on Tips For #ReturnOnOptimism

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@ExtremelyAvg I must rally the troops!

3 months, 1 week ago on Team Blog Jack #TBJ: Vote on the new LOGO design!

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As a former TV broadcaster, trained in voice, I of course pick #1:) And if you're looking for a narrator, you know where to find me:) Cheers! Kaarina

3 months, 1 week ago on Seeking Your Opinion

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You rock! That.is.all. Cheers! Kaarina

3 months, 3 weeks ago on The Toronto Police: Building a More Social Service

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Best comment in your post? "It’s critical to never plan too much on a trip like this." Part of the adventure should be to adventure...come across things unexpected, get a little lost sometimes, stumble over finds and treasures. When I set out on a "road trip" to take photos, it's never charted out fully. I let the roads take me along with them. Sometimes it's frustrating, most times it's fun, but it's always like opening a package that arrives in the mail unexpectedly...one never knows what will be discovered. Cheers! Kaarina

4 months, 1 week ago on Adventure Day 23 – Zion National Park

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Your writing makes me feel as if I'm on the journey with you. And re: dirt biking or anything else - go for the gusto - do it all! In the words of William Penn: "I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good therefore that I can do, or any kindness or abilities that I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now. Let me not defer it or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again." Cheers! Kaarina

4 months, 2 weeks ago on Adventure Day 18-21 – Last days in Arizona, 4G to the Rescue

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I don't know why, but the song Born to be Wild was playing in my mind the whole time I read your post:) Get your motor running....Cheers! Kaarina

4 months, 2 weeks ago on The 987,928 Most Dangerous Job

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My running buddy and I run trails where there's a portion we call "the damn dam" because it's a long stretch that borders water but gets quite hot (and did I say long?:), that is a dam. And I was just having some good- natured fun on the spelling:)

4 months, 2 weeks ago on Adventure Day 17 – a Different Place, a Different Pace

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Was that the damn dam? Just pulling your leg! I think when we slow down to speed up, the world's a much finer place. I'm enjoying being along for the ride. Keep the good times rolling...at your pace. Cheers! Kaarina

4 months, 2 weeks ago on Adventure Day 17 – a Different Place, a Different Pace

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So sorry for your loss:( Shadow became part of our "online family", on the porch and off. Words fail, but know I'm thinking of you at this tough time.

4 months, 2 weeks ago on Saying Goodbye to a Trusted Friend

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Ah, my least favourite thing to do: the techno stuff, because I'm a techno-not. But I do realize how important it is, and I strive to ensure that whatever I put out there is readable on mobile as well as desktop. And of course, you know the most important thing is to: JWBJW :) Cheers! Kaarina

4 months, 3 weeks ago on What Every Aspiring Writer Needs To Remember

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Both my sons have them and wear them all the time:) Cheers! Kaarina

4 months, 3 weeks ago on How To Become A Superhero

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The Orenda by Canadian Joseph Boyden. It's long, and although quite disturbing in its historical relevance: a book that stayed with me long after I finished it, and the winner of Canada Reads competition. As an aside, I'm reading Hocus Pocus by Kurt Vonnegut right now. I picked it up for $1 at a used bookstore:) Cheers! Kaarina

4 months, 3 weeks ago on My June Reading Challenge Update #150Books

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@profkrg That makes me happy:)

4 months, 4 weeks ago on Quotable: Saying No

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Congrats on the house! And hey...you need to provide the flickr link, haha! I did hunt you down and found it though:) Now following. Cheers! Kaarina

5 months ago on Adventure Day 6 – Extended San Diego Stay and a Toast

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Yes:) I'm good at saying no. It didn't used to be that way. I over-extended myself for many years, and didn't set clear boundaries for myself and well-being. But that was many years ago. With age and experience comes wisdom. I'm able to clearly see that saying "yes" to things I really don't want to do, aren't a priority or are agreed to out of "guilt" really aren't good reasons to say yes, and in fact, open the doors to more and more abuse (self-permitted) of one's generosity, talents, expertise and kind nature. And I like step #3: when I say no to something, I like to offer an alternative to the asker. For example, if I choose not to take on a client, I suggest peer(s) that I know, like and trust who might be able to take on the work. If someone's looking for volunteer assistance (volunteering is something I do a lot of), and I say no, I try to suggest other ways and means of finding volunteers, through local volunteer associations/sports groups/others who might be interested. I strive to continue a thread of relationship, good will and connection even when I say no to something. Cheers! Kaarina

5 months ago on Quotable: Saying No

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Remember to play every day:) Cheers! Kaarina

5 months ago on Adventure Day 4 – Unpacking and Office Setup, US Ties Portugal

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Stay calm: for every "problem" there are multiple solutions...we just can't see them when we're harried or hurried. Fish, have fun, enjoy:) Cheers! Kaarina

5 months ago on Adventure Day 3 – La Jolla, Friends, Food and Fixing Stuff

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Thanks Shonali, for the lovely H/T:) I see I have a few of these posts yet to read:) Cheers! Kaarina

5 months ago on Monday Roundup: Content Rules

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Happy trails, wishing you lots of adventure and memory-making experiences. Cheers! Kaarina

5 months ago on Saying Goodbye to Danville, for Now

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Happy and safe travels to you:) There are many who think and dream about such an adventure, but never take the first step towards it. Kudos to you for having the dream and then taking action. Take lots of photos. Enjoy every moment. Write when the spirit hits. Cheers! Kaarina

5 months ago on The Adventure Begins

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@Soulati | Hybrid PR Writing a post that I'll publish today that revolves around this topic. You will see a kindred spirit in it:) 

5 months, 1 week ago on Should Bloggers Write With Key Words?

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Yes, yes, yes! Oh my goodness, I wish every employer would ascribe to his and expect this of their employees.

5 months, 1 week ago on The One Thing that You Should Tell Every Employee

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My fatigue, overwhelm, disenchantment and disillusionment with the online world, and the constant hue and cry for keywords/SEO/panda/hummingbird/write here/do this/do that/longtail/....has taken so much of my spirit. I haven't blogged in weeks. Can't abide all the regurgitated verbal vomit. Not including you in this. Your writing has been, and is, great. And Jon is absolutely correct in his counsel. I'm just so over working so hard to get it "right" that I don't even feel like getting to it. I'm doing my writing offline, in lined ledgers...poetry/haiku/cinquain/fiction. Maybe it will see light of day one day. You're doing great my #RockHot friend, and you and Jon have worked to create an awesome site. I just can't get enthused about what's going on generally online. And that's a shame, because the gems have to shine so much brighter to cut through the clutter. Cheers! Kaarina

5 months, 2 weeks ago on Should Bloggers Write With Key Words?

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Love this, and although #14 seemed like an option I might do the opposite of recently, I got over it:) Cheers! Kaarina 

5 months, 2 weeks ago on 29 Ways To Stay Creative Plus Some Other Stuff

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I was with, and within, every moment. Thanks for this.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on This Is What Life Is Made Of

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@Lori Most definitely something we can teach youngsters, and what a wonderful gift and practice to give them from an early age.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Zen Time Revelations About Grief and Happiness

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"Grief distorts the lens through which we look at life." What a true statement, and what a "coming to terms" recognition. I've now completed Mindful Meditation courses and training, which I use in my practice. I meditate daily to guided meditation tapes, and encourage everyone to meditate, even if for only 5 minutes a day. The "monkey mind" will try to creep in, but as with everything, practice allows us to come to a place of peace easier all the time. I know how deeply the loss is felt, but a focus on what brings happiness, peace and contentment is a strong tool, and one I know you are employing.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Zen Time Revelations About Grief and Happiness

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I think a) I signed up for too many newsletters when I started out online that b) got read in the early days that c) got followed up with more pushes from so many to sign up for newsletters that d) got to be too much white noise that e) prompted me to unsubscribe to many to f) become much wiser about what I need and want online. Cheers! Kaarina

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Do You Really Want Another Email Newsletter?

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It's like "management by walking around" right? When I work with clients, I have them wander and walk, pause and ponder, ask questions and listen, as if they were entering their business for the first time. I ask them: what did you see? what did you hear? what did you notice for the first time? Asking questions and leading with the senses (including common sense:) is a great way to see one's business through the eyes of the beholder. Congrats again Ken: I know you will bring a wealth of benefit to the business, and enjoy the experience. Cheers! Kaarina

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Getting Business Insights from Your New Employees

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@KenMueller I've had some change WAY too long a time in coming, and it will be exciting. I look forward to hearing all about your new adventure! 

5 months, 4 weeks ago on Change is in the Air at Inkling Media

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Huge congrats Ken: I can feel the enthusiasm rippling out from this post. Many of us are in a time of personal and professional change, and it's wonderful to hear when people follow the beat of their heart toward their next adventure in life. Couldn't be happier for you, and I wish you every happiness and success in this new chapter in your life. Cheers! Kaarina

5 months, 4 weeks ago on Change is in the Air at Inkling Media

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Can I come work with you? I'll bring Canadian bacon and maple syrup. 

I, too, am backing away from the rabbit hole that is the online world. Not leaving it...just spending less time on it. Cheers! Kaarina

6 months ago on Marketing Notes from the Front Lines

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Great post Hessie. I've been reading everything I can get my hands on re: this legislation, and there are many grey areas. For example, the whole issue of "bundling". I couldn't get a straight answer on this question:

What if someone's opt-in box on a website has several things listed, like "updates and special offers". Is this a bundled opt-in? If so, it would be against the rules. And if it isn't considered bundled, and it leads back to a website with commercial offerings, is this against the rules?


The intention of the legislation is good...but we also know what road is paved with good intentions. Definitely the buying of lists will be out of the question, as there is no express consent there. That one's clear. But as for the grey areas...it will indeed be interesting to watch. My sense right now? People aren't thinking this will affect them...and it will. Cheers! Kaarina

6 months ago on CASL: The New Canadian Anti-Spam Legislation

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Margie, although I do use triberr, I do so much less frequently these days, and I always read posts before sharing. I also don't automate anything. I know...eegads... Not using the tools to schedule? Yep, that's me. When I'm online, I'm online. And I strive to use twitter to converse as much as possible. I thank people. I ask questions. I add my own little comments. There is such a glut of "stuff" online, i'm on a mission to bring bac convo, camaraderie, connection... And fun! Cheers! Kaarina

6 months ago on Ten Reasons Why Your Pre-Scheduled Tweets Hurt Instead of Help

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And I never want to lose my childlike love of life, so I'm with you Ken: "I don’t even want to lose my childlike love of anything, including what I do for a living. I want to wake up every day and get excited all over again. I get to do THIS for a living?? How cool!"


Thanks for the hat tips: much appreciated:) Cheers! Kaarina

6 months, 1 week ago on Think Like a Child and Enjoy Your Business

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Ah, now I get it:) Cheers! Kaarina

6 months, 1 week ago on Daddy, Why Are You Wearing Make-up?

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I think I was a day early, so now I get to wish you a happy-after-birthday! Cheers! Kaarina

6 months, 2 weeks ago on How Do You Celebrate A Birthday On Facebook?

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Like @RyanKBiddulph , I'm working to keep the glory days alive and well. I strive to speak with, not talk at, as much as possible, and although I do my share or RTs and shares, I also try as much as possible to inject conversation, 'raderie and connection as much as possible. And BTW...although I wasn't around in 2009, I do know of the Danny/Dino video:) Cheers! Kaarina

6 months, 2 weeks ago on I’ll Never Forget The Glory Days Of Twitter

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As you know, I miss the "early days" which for me, is only three years ago...a time when we commented like crazy all over the place, where the 'raderie (cue Jayme Soulati), blogjacking and banter ruled the day. We all had so much fun. Now, I find that, although many of us have kept in touch meaningfully, it's just not as frequent. I can give all kinds of excuses, but I won't. I believe that friends - online and off - "get it" when we're MIA or absent for periods of time.


I stick to the wise words you gave to me, and which sit prominently on my desk: "Just write baby, just write." And that's what I intend to do, even when sporadically. Cheers! Kaarina P.S. I think I wished you and "early" happy birthday my fellow Taurus. It's tomorrow, right? I think I thought it was today.

6 months, 2 weeks ago on Are You Burnt Out On Blogging?

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I like to think that reciprocating and paying it forward are in my DNA. And I don't give to get: I just think it's important to give, without expectation of return. Sometimes it's depressing or hurtful when the reciprocity isn't returned, but that's life. Some give, some get, and some do both:) Cheers! Kaarina

6 months, 2 weeks ago on The Lost Art of Social Media Reciprocation

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