asiancode9
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It is done. And I pasted it on my FB page for my friends to see. I'm sick of this garbage.
Hmmm, in many ways I can understand what she's going through. Her and I are not the same age but i understand the restlessness and the chasing dreams part. All the while wanting a stable husband. But there is a problem with that. The biggest story / lie that I think we are told is that you can have everything. That is simple not true. You have to compromise in life. You can not have the same life style being married as you had being single. This a hard lesson for me at the moment. I think that her story is the same case. It sounds like you are fighting with yourself and it all comes down to which one is more important to you.
*of course i could be way off.
Have you ever been kissed by a man with long hair? I have and ah.....(blush) It was a windy day.. and he kissed me... and his hair touched my face... and it smelled so good... and ahhhh *runs to the corner to hide* I can still feel his hair on my face to this day.
Honestly b/c of this topic I had to take a few days off from this blog. I came here to BB&W b/c I am a BLACK woman who happens to be interested in interracial dating. I just happen to have lighter skin. Yet b/c of this I find the same BS issues that I stay away from. Even though it is indirectly I find that I'm still being questioned. "...maybe light women don't always have it so great." "that maybe YOUR experience..." Don't doubt or discredit my experiences just b/c I happen to have lighter skin. I'm TELLING you. And yes. I am taking it personally so there will be a lot of "I" in this.
I get it from all angles. I've been called a N@gger before and can't go to certain places with my white friends b/c I'm black. (yacht club) I have to deal with the same type of BM that we stand against on this blog. They feel I owe them just as much if not more b/c they want "light skinned babies." Then on top of that i get questioned by darker women b/c they feel like they have something to prove. Lighter women get all the same damn "black card" responsibilities as any other black woman. We have to be strong, we have to be down, we have to produce children with dead beat BM b/c we're still black enough for that.
Another example, my half sister's mother hates me. Why? B/c she got with my dad thinking that she could have a light skin child. But when my sister came out as dark as her suddenly I'm the bad guy.
To my ultimate point is that I'm tired of being sacrificed. I'm tired of being sacrificed by other races, I'm tired of being sacrificed by BM, and I'm tired of being sacrificed by my own community of BW. I do not have to be sorry b/c I happen to lighter the same way someone else doesn't have to be sorry for being darker or anything else. We don't apologize for doing the things we love that don't fit into the black stereotype so why the hell should anyone have to apologize for something they have no control over?
I do think that more darker women should raise their voices and be heard. I'm not ignorant to their plight. But I'll be damn if i'm going to sit here and be made second or an after thought just like the way BW are an after thought of the BM and BC. I thought this was suppose to be a safe place for BW. What is happening?
@Dandelion100 @asiancode9 @Alana
I would expect that from kids but these are grown adults who keep asking me "what are you?" It honestly makes me feel like some sort of animal sometimes. TT_TT
@Alana 2 While that maybe true some people just stop claiming to be black b/c they are tired of being questioned. I stopped b/c I got tired of the "Naw, your not black.", "Gurl, your mixed with something.", "A.) Why does her hair curl and not mine? B.) LOOK ARE HER! THAT CHILD IS MIXED!" and my favorite "WHAT are you?" So I just started saying I was mixed whenever I was asked. I'm just tired of the "she's not quite one of us and I'm going to question her until she admits it" mentality.
*raises hand* I would like to volunteer my services. Oh wait, that was a joke? No? Really? *sad*
There's really nothing more to say about her case. I just feel like no one will be satisfied until she ends up on one of those memorial shirts or murals like Tupac, Biggie, and the rest. How sad indeed.
I'm trying to think of a PC way to say what I really feel about this but I don't think there is one so I'm just going to be honest. Having been a victim of the "your not black enough" attack, I will honestly say to black people like that " oh that's how you feel? Well, good then get out of my way." As far as I see it that's less competition for me or any other hard working person. Some one always have to be at the bottom and it might as well be the people who don't even try. The best part about it is I don't even have to waste my time feeling sorry for them b/c they never even tried to improve themselves or their situation. Its sad that its being passed down to children like that and I know how frustrating it can be as a teacher. But from a competitive self interests side this is great b/c it means less work for me. (Its cold I know) I must say though as someone who understands the concept of Social Darwinism that could why I feel the way I do. Sorry if I offended some people but I'm just being honest.
@MySmile Oh I remember the 4-5 hour church services. I hated them as a kid. My mom told me that I use to give the preacher the most evil look every Sunday. Of course I did. We came at 11am, its now 3 pm. I want to go home. I'm hungry, and this wooden bench hurts. Plus if you knew I did this every Sunday then why bring me? And even worse, why sit us in the front rows where I can mean mug the preacher? Hahaha I remember praying to go to the 8 am service. Not b/c it was better but b/c they HAD to stop at around 10 am to get ready for the 11 am service.
Hmm, I make my own path. I practice a mixture of Wicca/ Hinduism/ and Buddhism. I was raised Christian but I do not identify with it. Bad experience as a child I guess. I don't talk about it much b/c I believe it is a highly personal journey that no one has a right to tell you how you should go about it. I was actually told once that I should be burned at the stake. o_O What I couldn't just get a "Your going to Hell" like everyone else? I mean dang.
@Toni_M @introvertedwanderer I understand what both of you are talking about. I hate it when K-pop and J-pop stars try to cross over to America. Rain, Se7en, and Utada have tried it. All were big failures. I don't like it b/c i feel that the American market corupts them by adding in people like Lil Kim etc. The whole reason why I like K-pop and J-pop is b/c they are not full of that nonsense. Trying to be hard, a baller, or what ever crap they think will make them sell in the US. That's just not them. Poor Se7en and Rain. I don't think they ever recovered in Korea since trying to debut in the US.
@Dandelion100 what area are you in? Places like New York, California , and Hawaii have it. Also I think Temple University in PA has a satellite campus in Tokyo if you wish to go. I was going to go there but Hawaii gave me better Fin. aid.
@sMoriarty Gurl !! I love me some Hibari and Hibird! No, I've never been to the Aarinfantasy site but i have many for her subs. I'll go check it out. Have you seen Lovely Complex the live movie? I love that too. I have the anime and the movie. WALLFLOWER! I've seen both the anime and live J-drama. The anime is better. I love how the main character transforms. It killed me when she changed into the military outfit in one of the episodes.
I'm not so much into American media. I did watch Avengers and it was great. I think the last American media thing i truly loved was Daria. Hahaha, nothing like teenage angst.
@adrienneart26 I'm 28 and I remember what is was like before everything got so popular. I remember my friends and I would go on hunts for find new stuff all the time in comic book store or other random places. *sigh* I miss the hunt. Do you remember the purple video tapes? We ran an Anime club at school and we use to have to buy our anime from fan-subers. They were always purple tapes.
No, there is nothing crazy about us. My interest in the Asian culture started back when I was in the 3rd grade. We had a culture day and we learned about Japan. We had fun learning origami, some words, and how to use chopsticks. Flash forward a few years it was time for middle school. My family learned about a special magnet middle school that had Japanese as a major and encouraged me to apply for it. I did. So now b/c of my 3 years of intensive Japanese language and culture studies I can read, write and speak Japanese. I'm still not fluent to my dismay. It was also here that my pop culture interest developed. It all stared with Sailor Moon..... hehehe memories.
High school and early community college days I was a hardcore anime, manga, and video gamer. It wasn't until I decided to continue my education for my B.A. that I got very serious and started to study history and the social issues of Asia. I went to the University of Hawaii all the way from Maryland to study. (one of the best Asian Studies programs in the country btw.) The professors were great and I met my mentor there and he helped my expand beyond Japan to other countries. Yes, I usually was the only black student in class but I didn't care b/c I loved what I was doing. Anyway my point is people like us are not crazy or are to be considered strange. And any one who claims otherwise can go $%#& themselves. ( I mean that in the most polite way possible * sweet innocent voice* ^_^)
P.S.- my screen name isn't some crazy Asian obsession. My mother given, birth certificate, government name is Asia. My mom and friends think I'm crazy and they can't understand me when I get excited hence "code" and 9 is just a pretty number. So Asiancode9. LOL
@sMoriarty Girl I co-sign every anime and manga you just stated. Love them all. I just did a Lovely Complex anime marathon last week. I just got my friend into Katekyo Hitman Reborn as well.
Might I suggest Sekai-ichi Hatsukoi for your yaoi fix and Fairy Tail since you like Katekyo. ^_^
@Honestly. Sorry for chiming late in this conversation. But i couldn't help but to address your second paragraph. I would like to say something as being one of those people who happen to be into Asian culture to the point to where I majored in it during college and am now living my life in South Korea. Your concern is most appreciated however many of us are very well aware of the situation you have mentioned. The fact that we DISTURB you is something that really gets under my skin. Please do not confuse our hobbies or what brings us enjoyment as ignorance. These POOR girls are not doing anything different than what normal girls do over any other favorite musician or entertainer. Let them have their fun and fantasies b/c they already know that the stats are against them. And to add on to it most of these girls end up with white guys or black guys who have the exact same interest in Asian culture like them.
I do agree that I need to smile more. Just the other day one of my friends asked me what was wrong as we were walking down the street. Nothing was wrong I was just walking. He wasn't the only one, my parents are always asking me too. But I noticed that this seems to happening when I'm just zoned out thinking about something. Another issue is the fact that I'm not a morning person. Until about 10 am my body is on full cruise control mode and smiling isn't part of my programming. I find it hard to remember to smile when I can barely remember my full name that early in the morning. Its funny. My friends actually timed me once. They picked me up at 7:30 a.m. and they said I didn't even try to make a full sentence until 10 a.m. Haha
@Christelyn Ahh okay. That was my grandma and grandpa coming out in me. They helped raise me and have a big influence on me. Men being a gentleman is very important. Oh how I wish they had classes for young men these days.
I think its great and very encouraging. Makes me want to go to Europe and check out the scenery. But I have this habit of not smiling while I'm out alone. However, when I'm out with friends and having a good time I get approached more often. Maybe I should go with some friends.
I'm happy for you Christelyn but I have one question for you. Did he help you with your boxes? I'm old fashioned so that could be why that question keeps nagging me.