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I remember when I created a brand and 2 blogs using the name "She Thrives" with a similar mission in 2011. She Thrives! has always been my motto and I continue to brand it on everything I do. Nice to see others taking the lead :-)
3 weeks ago on My Semi-Formal Announcement...The "SheThrives" Network is Set to Launch in Two Weeks!!
@Leille @Toni_M @Christelyn I train with weights on a normal basis and it has been an essential part of my weight loss. I found out early on that a lot of the "bulk" I was getting in my frame came from the fact that I didn't seriously change my eating habits in the beginning. When I cut out the gluten, sugar, and processed foods, and started following a more plant-based/lean protein/non-diary diet, I no longer had a problem with getting bulky. Those who are afraid of bulk should consider changing their diet regimens instead of cutting out weight training all together.
3 weeks, 3 days ago on Leah Sarago, Creator of "Ballet Body" Chats with BB&W About 'Feminizing' Your Workout
@KendraTaylor I used to date south and east asian men exclusively as they most fit my preferences. South Asian men that I used to date caused a lot of stress for me. They were family men who depended on having their parents' and society's permission before doing anything . Be careful and vet before dating South Asian men: they will not choose you over their often prejudiced family members and you should not expect them too. On the other hand, the East Asian men I've dated seemed more confident and free with their preferences for black women.
3 weeks, 5 days ago on True or False? "White Guys Only Date Black Women After They've Had White Kids with White Women!"
@onmywayup @kia I second that, I love Kia!!
1 month, 3 weeks ago on The Chickens Have Come Home to Roost, and Single Mothers Whine About Being the New 'Whipping Girls'
@DWB @Jamila I agree with DWB in regards to economic equality. To speak of economic equality ignores certain factors of labor. For example, one important reason why engineers, doctors, and those in business make so much in income is because the products, services, skill, and talent they offer are in high demand. Instead of encouraging socialist principles, we need to encourage youth to become innovators, major in STEM while in college, and create businesses that produce jobs in America.
Someone who dropped out of school by choice and is confined to working at McDonald's or Walmart is not going to pull the kind of income of a Computer Science MS graduate who goes on to create software that hundreds of businesses use. Incomes are not equal because education level, skill, and talents are not equal-- and the fact that we don't have economic equality in America is understandable if you comprehend this.
I'll leave my opinion at that, as I'm more interested in how people feel about single motherhood as opposed to poverty and wealth redistribution.
Haven't watched cable since 2011. We gave it up and put our cable money to obtaining wireless internet instead. If there's a show I want to watch, then I'll get it through Netflix.
1 month, 3 weeks ago on We All Love You...But You Need a Media Intervention
@kia "I am not responsible for other people and their poor life decisions they made that may have ruined their life."
I agree 100%. There seems to be two types of thinking going on in this conversation right now: collective thinking and individualist thinking. Individualists are often demonized as being "selfish" from doing what it takes to breakaway from the collective in order to save themselves. Black women who learn how to escape Blackistan, grow their wealth, and find partners of other races who are just as prosperous (if not moreso) are manipulated into thinking that it is somehow our responsibility to "fix" society. For us to think otherwise is to be bombarded with studies, arguments, and complaints by collectivist-minded people in attempt to persuade or make us feel guilty about our stance.
I personally no longer feel responsible for what happens to black men, including those raised by single mothers. I also don't feel like I need to be any more active besides paying taxes that support public assistance programs in regards to helping low-income men in general. For the women who feel they are and want to fight that battle on behalf of the collective, good luck.
1 month, 4 weeks ago on Are Single Moms Raising Losers? New Study Indicates that's the Case.
@uninterracial Thank you for pointing out the obvious!
1 month, 4 weeks ago on Why we should be concerned about the attacks on Michael Jackson’s children
@Blackberry Macaulay Culkin did an interview in 2004 with Larry King where he denied being the kids' sperm donor.
@CAPT SMOOTH take away the big screens, dvds, videogames, and computers as punishment instead of sending them to their rooms.
2 months ago on White Man At Odds With Black Wife's Family Over Spanking
My mother "had it all" when I was growing up. The 2 story house in a predominantly white elite neighborhood, 3 kids all performing well in school, 3 college degrees, a well-paying job as the EEO Manager and Assistant Director of one of the local hospitals, and a supportive husband. My dad worked nights to be able to stay at home with us kids while my mom was getting her many degrees and focusing on her career. Unfortunately because of this, I never saw her growing up. Our lack of relationship fostered into numerous arguments and disagreements when I became a teen. When my parents divorced after 16 years of marriage, I went to go live with my Dad and stayed with him until I left for college. My mother didn't know me, and I didn't understand her. She wasn't there for me when I was growing up and experiencing bullying, rejection, insecurity, and all the things young girls and teens go through, and truth be told, I resented her for it.
This is why I agree with Oprah: "women can have it all, just not at the same time". When it was time for my mom to be a mother, she bypassed that position in favor of her career. I don't blame her now. I'm older and now understand. I just wish things would have been different. So now, while I'm thinking about what kind of husband I want and what kind of mother I want to be, I'm determined to do things differently.
Women can have it all, just not at the same time UNLESS they have the type of job position or career that is considerate the role, duties, and time sacrifices it takes to be a good mother. There are some quotes in this article that struck me personally that support what I'm trying to say:
"Having control over your schedule is the only way that women who want to have a career and a family can make it work"
"Having it all depends on the type of job you have, the type of lifestyle you live, and the type of schedule (of time) you keep".
I work for the 3rd largest health insurance company in America. It is a job that I worked very hard and spent numerous hours of networking trying to obtain. I'm single, and now it is time for me to enjoy my growth up the corporate ladder. HOWEVER, when I do get married, I have no problem whatsoever taking off the corporate hat and exchanging it for another: the role of loving supportive wife and caring stay at home mom. This is why it's important for me to develop side ventures outside of my corporate position. For the past year, I have been doing online consulting for small businesses. My vision is to grow this business to become profitable. Why? Because when I get married, this will be the business I will be able to do from home on MY time. I can be a business owner from home on a schedule that honors my personal commitment to being a great mother someday.
For me, having it all means being able to call the shots and being in charge of your own schedule. I find it very unlikely that the corporate world will take important steps in supporting working mothers through flexible schedules. I know companies that do, but they are few and far between. Exceptions to the rule, but no where near the norm. As a business owner, I can be in charge of my professional life, run my consultancy from home, and make as much time for my kids as I want. This won't solve all the problems of being both a professional and a mom, but I'm determined to make it work for me
2 months ago on Can Women Have It All?
Like you said, it depends on your circle of friends. To date wealthy, you have to rub elbows with the wealthy.
2 months ago on Why I Think Black Women Need Tear Sheets on Elin Nordegren
@dani-BBW I love Bill too. I don't watch his show but I love his mix of intelligence with alpha-male aggression.
Do you have a source for that? I think this has already been dismissed as a rumor
2 months, 1 week ago on Do you plan to change your last name when you get married? If so, you might want to think a bit more about that choice.
I will be happy and honored to take the name of my husband when that day comes. By taking his name, I do not lose my identity as a person, but only switch one moniker for another.
@Brenda55 @dani-BBW When I was in grad school and would go to the pub to hang out with friends, I usually ordered a tonic water with shots of orange juice if I didn't want to drink alcohol. It looks like a miller light when served in a beer glass and no one could tell unless they tasted it.
2 months, 1 week ago on Turns out the Glass Matters.
"Almost everything I wear is from a thrift store, I get compliments, and people can’t tell"
Me too. I'll go thrifting to find pieces I like, then spend money getting the clothes altered to fit my shape. I also wear pearls, broaches, and some of my silver pieces of jewelry to make basic items look more classy as well. Great article!!
2 months, 1 week ago on DIY and Inexpensive Ways to Feminize Your Wardrobe
@Brenda55 Thank you for this. I collect pearls and I appreciate the tip about getting them restrung by a professional. Could a basic jeweler perform this job?
@MixedUpInVegas I agree! I rather host a dinner party at my place with people who I know can hold their alcohol then get down with the young mates at the local pub
I stopped going to pubs after grad school, but when I do have a good beer, it's usually Guinness or Murphy's. Irish beers are usually the best ones I've tasted, and after living in Chicago, I learned how to appreciate a good stout (especially during the winter).