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Hi Lori. We have read and talked about the same St. Nicholas story with our children. And while we do let our kids enjoy the magic, we remind them that the magic of these Christmas stories is simply a mirror for what they represent. We talk about St. Nick and his legacy. Which of course, leads us to talk about why gifts matter. We believe God gave us a gift, which St. Nick reflected in his own life. And our fun stories of Santa on television are really just mirroring that. Though, I much prefer "A Charlie Brown Christmas" to the claymation stories. :)
11 months ago on A Different Santa Claus Story
@Lori @Bryan Thompson I love the old George Carlin quote: "...People who read self help books....if you're looking for self-help, why would you read a book written by somebody else? That's not self-help, THAT'S HELP! There's no such thing as self-help. If you did it yourself, YOU DIDN'T NEED HELP! You did it yourself! Try and pay attention to the language we've all agreed on!" :) // Off-topic but the picture of the books made me think of it.
1 year ago on Is Your Brain on Cruise Control?
Hi Lori. The picture of all the brain-help books you posted drew me in on my email this morning. Turns out your content was about something different, but I enjoyed it. I have to admit, sometimes my brain is indeed on cruise control. I can't remember the last number besides my wife's that I actually knew by heart. What's more, as my kids grow, it's crucial they remember those critical numbers for safety - "No matter what happens, you can cal XXX-XXX-XXXX from any phone to reach me." Or the standard "911" emergency calls. Not something we want to take for granted. Appreciated this.
You have to copy the entire link - the link gods cut the hyperlink off. :)
1 year, 3 months ago on Why it’s Hard to Be In The Moment
Hi Lori. This reminds me of a Jon McLaughlin song that says "There are times every now and then, I forget why I'm breathing out and why I'm breathing in // I get so sick with the little things, I can't relax when they're happening 'til I know what it means" (Here's the song: http://grooveshark.com/s/Beating+My+Heart/4wBepl?src=5).
It IS hard to live in the moment. There are so many scriptures and holy texts from all world religions telling us not to worry and to live in the present. We read books about it, and yet it is so hard to adhere to it.
I am not there yet, but what I have found is slowing down in those worrisome (or even moments of excited anxiety) and breathing in and out slowly help me to calm down and focus on the task or issue at hand. How have you found ways to focus on the moment? (Besides taking a vacation?) :) Enjoy your time off.
@Lori @Bryan Thompson Here's where I have issues - the control thing. I confuse it with holding out hope. You can hold out hope for things and keep your mind fixed on what you want, but you can't beat your head against it. That isn't faith at all. That's just trying to be a control freak. This sounds like a sermon but it's one I preach to myself all the time. We can believe and take action, but we can't lose our minds to it.
1 year, 3 months ago on How to Let Go
@Lori @Bryan Thompson Yes, I have to let go of the same things every day sometimes. :)
Here's the problem with letting go: when you get obsessive about things, it really messes with your head. :) In all seriousness, our need for control is very different from the reality that we can really do anything with whatever the outcome. When we try too hard, we lose perspective. We get tunnel vision (not always a bad thing) and it becomes difficult to see the different angles of a situation.
@Lori @Bryan Thompson Wow. Good point. What has television done to us? And how did "All My Children" turn into "Jersey Shore?" I gotta tell you, Lori, I'm not always a consistent blogger but I love chatting with you and your community. :) Keep up the good work!
1 year, 3 months ago on Messages from Movies: Reality – or Fiction?
Hi Lori! I must admit, I am a sucker for a good well-written quirky romantic comedy, and "As Good As It Gets" is one of my favorites. But it's true, those great one-liners rarely work in real life. If you've ever seen Mindy Kaling's sitcom, "The Mindy Project," she plays a doctor that is trying to live her life like it's a romantic comedy and it just doesn't work the way she thinks it should. It's hilarious but so true in how so many people live. Hope you're well, my friend!
@Lori @Bryan Thompson you handled it absolutely perfectly. Knowing now what I do, my thoughts and prayers are with you as you continue to shine his light on the world. You're doing pretty awesome at that, too. Thanks for sharing your heart, Lori! (Oh, by the way, I started the follow-up books to "The Dreaming Highway." Hoping to finish "Father Wiley" and "The Quantum Highway" in the next year. Wish me luck. ;) Thought you might like that. )
1 year, 4 months ago on Problem or Opportunity; How Do You Tell the Difference?
Oh, and Happy Canada Day! Hope you enjoyed. I've never been and have given much thought to it recently!
Lori, I don't know the story behind your son, and my imagination can only lead me to how difficult this post and challenge must have been. It isn't just a website, it isn't just code. It's the very important thing that the site and code represent. I think THAT'S why the opportunity showed itself in your brilliant new team of designers. They weren't just designing a website. They were a team embodiment of something begun by your child. And that makes them all the more valuable. This story got to me emotionally. And I'm so glad the site was a success. It looks great.
Hi Lori! My favourite things (and I'm going to use the proper spelling of "favourite" for my non-USA friends) are: the smell of laundry being done (particularly the smell of a warm dryer going when it's chilly outside), the leaves changing colors (or "colours") in the fall - and there is no prettier fall than an autumn in the Midwestern USA. Hope you're well!
1 year, 6 months ago on What Are Your Favourite Things?
My belief about the universe? it is ALWAYS abundant. ALWAYS energetic. ALWAYS giving. ALWAYS life fulfilling. And ALWAYS friendly. My belief about people? People have an innate sense of POSITIVITY and can achieve anything that aligns with the friendliness of the universe within which they live. But we have a tendency as a species to often align ourselves with the very OPPOSITE of the nature of our universe. We don't believe we can be successful, and the energy the universe brings us is what we believe. We don't believe others will like us, so we build weapons.
I believe we can change anything. And I believe the sooner we change our attitudes toward the FRIENDLINESS, we will see a much friendlier universe.
1 year, 7 months ago on Is The Universe a Friendly Place?
Lori, I have had quite a few of those instances happening lately - those serendipity moments. It started recently when my wife & I decided to step out and do something we've talked about doing for years and never did because of fear of the unknown. I found the moment we stepped out in faith, those serendipitous events began happening! It is so cool how life works that way.
By the way, I am back into the blogosphere! I don't want to get in over my head but I've missed LFI! And I love the new page you direct us to here! Those conversations are priceless and I wonder if some of the conversations have even changed your perspective on the topics you wrote about. Oftentimes that would be the case for me.
1 year, 8 months ago on Have You Ever Experienced Serendipity?
@TheJackB I don't think there are actually "random" events, but that's just me.
2 years, 3 months ago on The Key to Creating Fortunate Coincidences
@Rileyhar Thanks Riley! I agree that our mood almost always depicts our perspective. The thing is, we can choose to be in a good mood all the time. The biggest misconception in the world is that our feelings are dictated by outside sources. What do you think?
@Lori @Late_Bloomers I tend to think it's more "both/and" than "this/or/that." I think the answers beyond our understanding are beyond our understanding because of the perspectives that we don't see. Does that make sense?
@Late_Bloomers Well, I believe our steps are ordered by a force much bigger than us, so my personal belief is that there are no "accidents." There are merely "opportunities." I think we make choices everyday that open a variety of options that are laid out for us. If we sit back and choose not to act, we choose not to open that door. Thanks so much for your comment!
@Sabrina at MyMiBoSo Hi Sabrina, I love this: "Action + Awareness = Seeing & Receiving the gifts coming your way!" That is a great formula for deciding to live your life to the fullest!
@Lori What a cool story! And it all happened when you decided to take action and make SOMETHING happen. It turned out to be a dream come true!
@Julie | A Clear Sign "Serendipity!" I didn't even think of that, but that's a wonderful way of seeing that!
@Lori @galenpearl God-Winks. Maybe that would have changed the course of the discussion. :)
@galenpearl Galen, I agree, if we can be aware to them as they're happening, it will change our perspective. Often, I find we aren't even close to aware (at least I'm not) until much later. I am able to go back and see just how far things have come. Right now is one of those moments I am needing to have that perspective, too. :)
@johncharlesowens I'm learning more everyday how not to get the wool pulled over my eyes. :) Thanks John!
@annedreshfield Hi Anne. I'm with you there. A LOT of those "fortunate coincidences" were in some very seemingly "UNFORTUNATE" times. Looking back, it's easy to connect the dots. Going through them, it's very difficult. Thanks so much for adding your voice!
@Lori I'm from the South originally, where everything is "Coke." ("Yeah, give me the Sprite Coke.") In the Midwest it's pop. I've always adopted the Northeast's "Soda." Maybe a little off-track but there you go. :)
@Lori So you do call it "pop" in Canada! :)
@Lori Thank you for hosting. I am in the Central Time Zone, just so you know, but some of that includes three little girls I have to get ready for the day. :) And I'm hoping to raise them to watch for those God-winks, too. :)
@bdorman264 Thanks Bill! I'm having a great time and grateful to be here. I don't usually like to look back at the "what ifs." I know my own inaction has led to a lot of stand-stills. (Wow, go figure!) And I have certainly had my regrets on some of my actions, but even there, I found there were God-winks going on.
@johncharlesowens Good call on that! Often, I find you don't see "the hand of God" working when you're going through it. And like @Lori mentioned earlier, sometimes those are the most uncomfortable times. But it's often neat to look back and see that Higher Hand had indeed been working behind the scenes.
@Vidya Sury Vidya, I'm glad you've learned to watch for those "God-winks." And your attitude about those fortunate coincidences has probably made a lot of difference!
@Lori Transitions are indeed difficult. They're uncomfortable, but I think that's when we really grow as people. I'll step out on a limb but I think it could have even been transitions (even uncomfortable ones) that led you to starting a blog. I could be wrong, but I'm curious. (Per your insight)
@CrossBetsy Well hello! I know what you're talking about. My family is actually in the midst of yet another one of these transitions. And while there are some good things happening, it's always difficult to trust in the unknown. None of us know the future, but I think the more you keep moving, the more apt you are to "stumble" into it. And by stumble, I think you'll find exactly what you need, even if you're not sure what that is. Keep us posted here on how things go!
First of all, I am grateful to @Lori for posting my guest post today! As part of my own "fortunate coincidence," the story I shared above actually led me to blogging and to "Life for Instance." It's actually kind of amazing how things turn out!
Hi Lori! It's funny you mentioned arthritis early on. My grandfather had it as long as I knew him, and my dad lived his life as though he were going to "catch" it. But what's more alarming is that my dad also "inherited" his dad's depression, and my dad has wrestled with this for several years now. He will often say, "It's hereditary" or "you need to watch out for the warning signs." And while there may be some truth to 'hereditary' sicknesses or imbalances, I think it's far more likely that we buy into urban myths so much that we believe them.
Each one of us is a product of our beliefs. Those beliefs shape our identity and we have to make sure we're thinking for ourself. To quote @blogaks from below, we have to do our "own research."
2 years, 3 months ago on What Do We Really Know About Health?
Hi Lori! Such a challenge to just be still and be present. I don't know why we fear the silence so much. Not that everyone has this view, but my first thought was of those who have experienced a hard time. Sometimes it's just about being there to listen. Being there to comfort.
In other times it's about showing support and love. Even when the situation is great. We all desire to be listened to and when we show that, I believe we get shown that.
2 years, 6 months ago on Your Reality – or Mine?
Hi Lori! Believe it or not, we Type Bs are pretty bad about perfectionism, too. :( We can get really in over our head (and when we have ADD like I do), we OBSESS about ridiculous things that NOBODY in their RIGHT MINDS cares about. Why do we do it? Sometimes, for me, it's about avoiding other things I NEED to be doing at that moment. Sometimes it's easier to obsess. And I don't like the behavior, either. Make no mistake. So there. :)
2 years, 8 months ago on Are You a Perfectionist?
Hey Srinivas, first of all, I never surfed where I didn't wipe out. And it's okay. It wasn't for me, but I appreciate those who do it well! Kelly Slater was my idol in high school! :)
On your post, it took me over a year to start seeing any financial results from ElevationLife. more than a year, and more than four YEARS after I began blogging at all. My first three years blogging were sporadic and unfocused. Plus I never learned how to network early on. It's all about consistency. One more day!
2 years, 8 months ago on Give it One More Day and Take Another Step Forward
Hi Stuart, Hi Erica.
It's true: talking about yourself on and on is a nowhere road that leads to loneliness (so Good thing if you're in love with yourself). It leads to ZERO business. I blogged for several years about my own life and experiences. That works okay if you're a multi-billionaire movie star who attracts tons of fans to who you are. But most people are looking for solutions. And when I started taking that seriously, I began connecting with people on a whole new level. Great guest post, my friend! Cheers!
2 years, 8 months ago on Why Talking About Yourself is Bad Networking
Lori, I'm with you. For me, I find I'm too easily distracted. This sounds like a copout, I know, but something you said struck me. You said "maybe I'm not trying hard enough." I think the whole point of meditation is that you're FREE from your thoughts, free from distractions. And that brings me to another question: is it possible that we meditate on things without even realizing we're meditating. Does meditating have to be an official "quiet time" thing where we sit on a rug or hold our head in a Bible or other sacred book? COuld it be that those thoughts we drift off to during the day that make us feel good about life are a form of meditation?
Curious as to your thoughts.
2 years, 9 months ago on Is Meditation a Practice For Everyone?
Srini, I love love love the idea of writing down the accountability. I think just being honest at the end of each day and asking myself, "What did I do toward my goals today? What did I do that MATTERS?" We get a lot of useless junk done easily, and we can easily let those be excuses not to focus on what we should be focusing on (I, too, am Adult ADD). Love this, man.
2 years, 9 months ago on 3 Simple Ideas That Will Accelerate Your Progress in Reaching Your Goal
My grandfather played the lottery every single weekend I knew him. We would go to the store and he would always get some kind of lotto sticker or play for the Powerball lottery on television. To my knowledge, I don't think he ever even won five bucks. It was just something he enjoyed, so he gave himself a limit each week to blow. SO bizarre!
2 years, 9 months ago on The Lottery Logic
Srini, I know Craig and I know Ken, and the rest are all new names to me. And blogs I will be exploring! Thanks for shining the light on some great folks! 2012 is going to be a kicking year, my friend.
2 years, 9 months ago on 21 People Who Will Change the World in 2012
@Lori Hey Lori, short "by the way" but I actually READ the Freud "dream analysis" book for research when writing The Dreaming Highway. :) Just saying.
2 years, 9 months ago on Why Do You Read?
Hi Melanie. We Thompsons are a rare but interesting breed. :) I'm sure there's no direct relation but I like Serendipity better. :)
I tend to try and mix it up. I don't have much time to read these days with 3 little kids in the house, but I am an audiobook junkie. I am able to get through a book a week usually (I've been a little slower with that lately, but that's the goal.) As I said, I switch between fiction and nonfiction. I tend to like to READ nonfiction better because as a reader, I'm typically more "engineer" mode, but the fiction helps keep my "creative/writer" mode intact.
I have a list as well. Currently reading Stephen King's "11/22/63" and Gary Vaynerchuk's "The Thank You Economy." Looking to start "Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard" and of course, "The Happy Place," by Lori Gosselin.
Have a great day! Great post!
Srini, I love your passion, man! Love it! And I understand! I think most people get stuck in their situations with a bunch of ignorant people who don't understand the power of the dream. As Wallace Wattles brilliantly put it a hundred years ago, "To think the way you want to think is to think truth, regardless of appearances."
Keep the vision, my friend! You're killing it, bro! In a great way!
2 years, 9 months ago on Your Circumstances Today Don't Determine What's Possible Tomorrow