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@The Working Home Keeper Sorry to hear about your mother and husband's job. I hope things work out.
Persistence, not perfection indeed. I've figured out if you put effort in you'll definitely see some results. :D
7 hours, 8 minutes ago on BB&W Fitness Challenge Part One: Sign Up and You Could Win $100 Visa Gift Card!
...Boy am I glad I can edit my comment. :D NO MORE TYPOS!!!!
13 hours, 54 minutes ago on Vetting Aabaakawad
@Christelyn I honestly think it's a shame a post like this is even necessary.
I almost feel like this entire situation was "baiting", which is why should it spark discussion and gossip elsewhere, I have no interest in seeing links posted here.
That is a pre-emptive notification to whomever it should concern: Let Bill's willingness to defend himself against the charges laid at his and BBW's door be the beginning and end of the matter.
Some of you newer folks may be unaware of past drama, the players involved, and the subsequent splintering among BWE related blogs. BBW for the record is NOT a BWE community, even though there are members who are and even though there are contributors who are and choose to submit topics relating to BWE.
The reasons aren't worth going into, but if some people want to hold the rights to exclusive membership and "street cred" close to the vest, that's their right.
It's not about who is an accredited member of what group or what individuals need approval from which bloggers to think about what topics: You as an individual black woman have the right to welcome or remove whoever you want from your circle of associates, friends, loved ones, etc. And ultimately, black women should be about their own best interests, not waiting for ANYONE'S approval regarding those best interest.
Even in BW-centric or BWE-centric circles, not everyone is liable to agree. Heck, we agree and disagree like mad. Doesn't automatically make someone a troll or the person who opts to discontinue communications wrong.
I think ultimately "you do you" is the message. Do bigger and better things and live your life. Leave drama in the past. o/
13 hours, 58 minutes ago on Vetting Aabaakawad
People are gonna be mad about that no doubt, but he didn't lie: Discrimination and "life is hard for the BM" is no longer remotely considered an excuse for continued bad decision-making and certainly not making and abandoning children, and thus creating hardships for them and their mothers.
Life is tough all over at this point, and people aren't interested in ANYONE'S sob stories. It's about getting up and going out and doing.
15 hours, 5 minutes ago on President Obama Addresses the Importance of Personal Responsibility During Morehouse Commencement Speech
I don't think I've ever bought something so fast in my life. O_O
Yeah, I need to know what happens next. Excuse me. o/
1 day, 1 hour ago on Weekend Read:
This looks like a cute concept. :) I wish her luck.
1 day, 2 hours ago on Author Spotlight: Fairy Tales Especially for Our Little Girls...
Congrats to them. :D
1 day, 2 hours ago on "Young Teach," Former BB&W Blogger is Getting Hitched!!
I don't know where else it was that I saw this mentioned, but my comment remains the same: Never liked A + F, never will. As such, I never had any intention of giving them my money.
They've always been discriminatory and rude to "undesirables", whether it's race, weight, or class. Now they're on the record with their petty behavior. Given the fact that the quality of their brand is questionable, at least to me, I never understood why people put up with the abuse just to wear their ratty clothes.
You're better off spending your money elsewhere. And maybe people are realizing that finally.
2 days, 9 hours ago on Abercrombie’s CEO Michael Jeffries Created a Public Relations Disaster When He Decided to Diss Fat People | Beyond Black & White
I love all of these. :D
But I especially like the third one.
2 days, 15 hours ago on 3 Ways to Wear This Spring’s Wardrobe Staple: White Tee | Beyond Black & White
@KendraTaylor @Statuesque That is sad, and totally not the first time I heard this about the French. I wonder why other countries get it but they don't?
2 days, 18 hours ago on You Think You Had it Rough?! Check Out This WWII Swirl Couple
@beautyisdiverse Wow, it's very lovely. :O
3 days, 4 hours ago on Well It's About Time! Kerry Washington Finally Lands the Cover of a Major Fashion Magazine
@beautyisdiverse Thanks a bunch!
@JQAbroad Someone pointed out that this was made ahead of Scandal and her turn in "Django", and since here career is taking off and she has buzz behind her, it's doubtful. At least I hope she makes smarter decisions regarding roles she accepts.
You're right now that I think about it. The timing WAS awful. Can't say I'm sad.
Just knocked out my challenge exercises for the day. I really like doing sets since it breaks up the monotony. The end does seem a bit intimidating, but I'm already halfway.
I'd be lying if I said I didn't look at those numbers and say, "No thanks." Or if I didn't lay there with my face in the mat at the end of a pushup (yeah, in the mat....I left an impression) and ask myself why I was putting myself through the torture.
But you feel REALLY good when you get at the end and you've done it. :D
I hope everyone is keeping on. More than halfway! o/
3 days, 5 hours ago on BB&W Fitness Challenge Part One: Sign Up and You Could Win $100 Visa Gift Card!
@mzsunshine Do what you can handle. We're trying to get healthier....not keel over. :S
3 days, 6 hours ago on BB&W Fitness Challenge Part One: Sign Up and You Could Win $100 Visa Gift Card!
@foreverhopeful YAY, YOU'RE BACK. :D
Just to highlight the difference since it was mentioned:
When you live vicariously through someone, you cannot separate your identity from that person. They make up your self worth because you feel you have no other value. Their happiness and success is as close as you will get to being happy or successful so you bask in THEIR light. You feel ownership over them. You become upset when they try and separate themselves from you, because you have no other way to live and no other way to experience life.
When you are happy for someone, you allow their joy to be their own. Their success is their own. You feel the glow of their triumph because it inspires you to be all you can and know that you can go forward and succeed. Also, people who are living their own lives and doing well are free to be happy for other people. Because they have healthy alternative sources of joy.
Being happy for someone else is not validation-seeking behavior nor is it living through someone else. I have to laugh when I see people being salty over black women being HAPPY for another woman doing well, rather than doing what so many other petty people do and look for ways to tear them down and play down their achievement.
Perhaps people just don't know how to handle black women being secure in themselves, and offering shine to someone else? Things that make you go, "Hmm...."
3 days, 6 hours ago on Well It's About Time! Kerry Washington Finally Lands the Cover of a Major Fashion Magazine
@Jamila @beautyisdiverse Ah, okay. I missed that. :D
@Brenda55 Thanks for the head's up.
@beautyisdiverse Do you know what the cover was? I'm actually trying to figure out what it was. Drawing a blank.