Livefyre Profile

Activity Stream

@scilibragirl85 Hi and welcome to the site!


At the top of the page you'll see the "Relationships" tab. Definitely access that area of the site for dating stories and advice that could be of use to you.


Also feel free to contact the blogmistress for advice. :)

4 hours, 6 minutes ago on Every Wonder What Maillennials Think About Interracial Dating?

Reply

I peaked at the linked video (didn't see it the first time I read through) and saw just enough to confirm that what you quoted was in fact FOR REAL.


I don't know why the audacity of these type of men continues to surprise me, but it just does.

4 hours, 6 minutes ago on When IBM Nonsense Doesn’t Go Over Well with White America

Reply

@kennaGransberg Those chapters are a parody of the garbage often hurled at black women as to why they are single and "nobody wants them".


It's obviously a lot of nonsense, but it doesn't stop the BW-haters from trying to push it on us.

4 hours, 11 minutes ago on When IBM Nonsense Doesn’t Go Over Well with White America

Reply

Wow....just...wow.


Did that guy really get on NATIONAL TV and say that ridiculous mess?


I don't know whether to laugh, face-palm, or lay my face in the palms of my hands while laughing maniacally.



These men swear up and down they are "God's gift", but don't know how to sell themselves to anyone but damaged black women. 


This would be hilarious if it weren't so sad...



4 hours, 12 minutes ago on When IBM Nonsense Doesn’t Go Over Well with White America

Reply

@Colorless With friends like that, you don't need enemies: Because honestly those friends ARE your enemies.


You may think it's a loss to be without black male friends, but if the men if your life put you down, you will always be better off without them!


I hope you know that none of that poisonous abusive nonsense that man said was true, and that you are better off without ANY person in your life putting you down.


Some people think they should be given a free pass to put you down just because you're both black. This attitude is AMAZING to me.


I feel no solidarity with mentally, emotionally, and physically abusive people. I strongly advice other black women to feel the same way, because this is one of the biggest okey-dokes going.

4 hours, 23 minutes ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@trinigirl1 @Neil Marsden


FIFTY EIGHT?! O_O


*nearly falls out of her chair*


Hand to God, I thought you were in your thirties. OH MY GOD!

17 hours, 27 minutes ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@formeonly People who are mentally deranged have no concept of logic or how to interact with women who don't have self-esteem issues.


It's almost fascinating to watch them act out, HONESTLY thinking they're getting anywhere with their abusive language...

17 hours, 30 minutes ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@ninamaria07 Girl, sit down some place.


I am a black woman and anyone who doesn't like it can jump into the nearest river and DROWN.


This video is a testament to our enduring strength, class, and love of self in the face of BLATANT HATRED.



We're free to celebrate ourselves and be celebrated by those who love us. 


If that's not you, don't let the door hit you on both cheeks on your way out...

1 day, 1 hour ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@elbesssr


I feel sorry for you.



You say this and you think this is going to make any sort of an impact. The reality is that you're dealing with women with healthy self-esteems and who are self-validated.


We laugh at lists like this, and that's what makes this comment so pitiful: You are TOTALLY serious and we were NEVER serious.


The video is a parody of the hatred that black women have to deal with for no other reason than we are black women.



Thankfully we all know that we are free to do better than the likes of you.



Aaaaaaand I'm out.



*drops mike*

1 day, 10 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@Christelyn  @elbesssr I knew we were going to hear from them. They probably came to your video ready to bash black women and are now mad that they look like fools because we're clearly black women who are loved and love ourselves.


It's crazy that these same black men probably will blubber to anyone who will listen how hard it is to be a black man and deal with racism.


Yet they can't wait to trash and bash black women for being black women....The disconnect is REAL.

1 day, 10 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@trinigirl1 @DonPeek I salute you.


Hours later and I STILL have no idea what he was even trying to say... 

1 day, 9 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@giantrafflesia @kennaGransberg @buicebaby


It's not even a debate: It's black women being free to LAUGH AT the stupid things that haters say about us.


I always find it funny that people get in in their feelings when they can't denigrate BW....

1 day, 9 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@trinigirl1 Aww, you look like a princess. :)

1 day, 9 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

Chris you have brought the BW-hating trolls out!


To said trolls:


Why are you mad, hmm? 


:(


Thought you were going to get a video of a self-hating black woman telling the world why African American women are no good and undesirable?


I bet you were all set to get an ego-boost, seeing some poor black woman crying about how "BW are no good these days, and if they were, BM would treat us better" or some other hot mess.


You were probably aaaaaaall set to type out a bunch of racist (yes I consider some of you black trolls racist), sexist, ugly mess...



All to find out that you were going to have egg ALL over you face.



You mad?



Mad that we are laughing at your hate?


Mad that we don't need your validation?



Mad that we are about self-love and upward mobility and not self-loathing and "pain porn"?




Well....you're just going to have to stay mad and...



1 day, 10 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@jazzyfae45 @hhonore68 This a BM-identified black woman who is so far up the rear end of BW-hating trolls that she would rather bash us for poking fun at the ugly things men SAY ABOUT WOMEN LIKE HER than to thank us for helping to recover some of her lost dignity.


It would be hilarious if it weren't so sad.

1 day, 10 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@hhonore68


As a black woman and a moderator, I find your comment to be ignorant and foolish and not productive at all.


Bye.

1 day, 10 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@sunflowerraven IKR?


The act of reading that gibberish was the only painful aspect of that paragraph. Clearly this person is too stupid for me to even pretend their opinion matters.


LOL!


Wow, and no periods...NONE.

1 day, 14 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@DonPeek


This is crack cocaine in  text form. 


O_o

1 day, 14 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

Almost 700 people listening!


Looks like you've got everyone's undivided attention, Chris! ;D

1 day, 16 hours ago on Video: Five Reasons Nobody Wants a Black Woman!

Reply

@Brenda55 @kiki jones @_Toni_ @Law Wanxi It's DEFINITELY AA women specifically. I've yet to hear any other group outside of AA women conditioned to think like this.


Except maybe some British black women.

1 day, 22 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

Reply

@Law Wanxi I don't understand either. 


You would think these women would want to drop-kick a number of black women out of the dating pool for the men they're competing with.


Especially since these same women often complain about man-sharing, too few men, and "baby mama drama". 


You wonder when the light bulb will light up over their heads about the obvious solution to their dating issues...



2 days, 12 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

Reply

@dani-BBW This is SO eerie...I LITERALLY started to write this into my article but I ended up cutting it.


I'm glad you made this comment.

2 days, 14 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

Reply

@kennaGransberg @_Toni_ Girlfriend would just have to have her feelings hurt while I got myself a date. :D


If she were really my friend, she'd get over it. LOL!

2 days, 15 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

Reply

Aww how cute!


This reminds me of the sea gull that kept stealing bags of Doritos:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kqy9hxhUxK0



The confrontation part cracked me up!

2 days, 15 hours ago on Friday Funny: I Was Robbed by Ghetto Birds!

Reply

@kennaGransberg


Part of me agrees, the other part of me felt like the black woman who was the target was too much of a chicken to check her friend.

2 days, 15 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

Reply

@Ri74


Do you see this ladies?


Some black women want to pretend like they have NO IDEA why they're alone and why the only men interested in them are bums.


How many of these same women will ever own up to scenarios like this?


SMH.

2 days, 15 hours ago on Anti-Swirling Black Women And You: Why Their Loudness Means Nothing To YOUR Happiness

Reply

@oceanspray


Um...I hate to break this to you, but the OOW rate among black women isn't a conspiracy theory crafted by anti-BW parties to make us "look bad".


This doesn't read like a joke at the expense of black women; it reads like a real person who made terrible decisions and is asking for help as to not make more.



I should also add that this looks like it was taken from Facebook, and that Zane was probably sent this by a young woman who is also on Facebook.


Rather than out her/put her on blast, Zane just shared the woman's question/request for advice.


2 days, 22 hours ago on ‘Ratchet’ Doesn’t Happen in a Bubble! Letter to Zane Shows Clear Timeline of What-the-Cussery

Reply

@Vivaforever @_Toni_ @ChocolateDiva



You've raised some interesting points here and I know I've written "open" letters before, but maybe we can address this in all seriousness.


Not because I want to talk to these persons but in order to alleviate the fears that BW like yourself have about these women "representing the majority" or putting sites like this in danger.





6 days, 8 hours ago on Take That, Haters! BB&W ‘Circle of Support’ In Action with Wronged IR Couple

Reply

@Vivaforever @ChocolateDiva


I feel for Key-sha. Her favorite quote is about never trusting anyone.


This is a woman who is clearly hurt and not in the happiest of places.



I could go in on her, but at the end of the day...she has my pity. :/




I also have to say, it didn't take me very long to find out who this woman was and what she was about. And I can objectively say, she's surrounded herself with poisonous individuals. 


One thing that stood out for me though is that on one of her pictures, she attempted to expose a white woman for racism and at least one BM in her circle DEFENDED the white racist.


Yet, she's woke and we're all sleep....mmmhmmm.....

6 days, 9 hours ago on Take That, Haters! BB&W ‘Circle of Support’ In Action with Wronged IR Couple

Reply

I wanted to participate in the meme contest but I can't think of anything witty to say. :(


So I'll just say that this is a beautiful family.

6 days, 9 hours ago on Take That, Haters! BB&W ‘Circle of Support’ In Action with Wronged IR Couple

Reply

@Christelyn  @wri316 I'm just cackling. How are you going to have the AUDIO OF THE ENTIRE INTERVIEW right there and then act like people can't pull soundbites from the show.


It's not that hard to call him out when his own words are still available to anyone willing to click "play".

1 week, 3 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

Reply

@Browncow @itsgoodtobeme People like her are lightning rods for schadenfreude, so I'd practically put money on it...

1 week, 4 days ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

Reply

@SweetGardenia @jazzyfae45 "I don't even understand why a woman would NOT want marriage to a man she loves, and respects."


These women want marriage in their heart of hearts...but black women like this have been trained to bury the "M" word and take what they can get.


They've been instructed to never ask for anything concrete because it will "spook" the man they're with.



I just shake my head at them.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Reader Weighs In: Wife vs. ‘Wifey’

Reply

@ncat aka gallagher1


This is a brilliant comment!


I just want to ad that another thing that CANNOT be overlooked and underestimated is the rapid spread of gentrification.


http://www.pbs.org/pov/flagwars/special_gentrification.php


"Gentrification is a general term for the arrival of wealthier people in an existing urban district, a related increase in rents and property values, and changes in the district's character and culture. The term is often used negatively, suggesting the displacement of poor communities by rich outsiders."


A few things coincide with gentrification:


- Increased upkeep in the location through rebuilding and financial reinvestment

- Increased police presence and cooperation with occupants.

- The belief that things are 'better' now that the poor minorities are gone, especially when their departure coincides with a noted decrease in criminal activity.


Gentrification has quietly been increasing since the recession as white families can no longer afford homes and have found it more affordable to rent.


I actually SAW A COMMERCIAL that advertised a family as living in a rented home, and it was the first time in my entire life I'd seen this on American tv. Single people and young couples did apartments.


The "American dream" for the longest time catered to the image of a family shown in its own home. When you see advertising deviating to represent a new paradigm shift, always pay attention!




As middle class families readjusting and wealthy hipsters "slumming it" increasingly move into areas occupied with poor black families (the poorest of which are of course unwed mothers and their children), the landlords see dollar signs.


If the housing is privatized, that's pretty much all she wrote for the poor minority tenants, which can see the rent skyrocket overnight.


https://www.boundless.com/sociology/textbooks/boundless-sociology-textbook/population-and-urbanization-17/urban-problems-and-policy-125/urban-gentrification-710-10232/




I think that gentrification combined with the things you mentioned suggest that a perfect storm is brewing and that a number of black women who do not decide to put themselves first at this very pivotal point are going to find themselves doomed, and with no one to turn to.





2 weeks, 1 day ago on Reader Weighs In: Wife vs. ‘Wifey’

Reply

Dear black male trolls:


It's a new year of us not caring what you think of us and who we date. We haven't and we will continue to not do so.


Perhaps you can take all this energy and concern trolling and invest in courses on how to properly talk to and court a woman.



You will not win over any self-respecting black woman through emotional and mental abuse and you are a lunatic if you believe otherwise.



To the writer:


Thanks very much for opening up about what had to have been a very painful experience. Hopefully this story will help someone who may be in a similar position right now.



2 weeks, 4 days ago on AM/BW: “Never Settle for Secrecy”

Reply

@robertucla


I am cracking up.


So let me get this straight:



YOU stumble across this black woman-centric IRR site on the way to a IRR site filled with non-black women (because we both know that's what you were looking for based on your "surprise"), and instead of hitting the back button, you decided to troll.



Because you, like so many black male trolls, assumed we black women need your opinion or blessing about who we do and don't date.


No one asked for your approval. No one cares.



Go back to looking for non-black women and take your pathetic attempt at a dangled carrot with you:


"however, I knew I would always marry a black woman, it was my preference and perception that I could ONLY be truly understood by a black woman".


This is a pathetic attempt at pandering at black women who you clearly never considered would be open to dating non-black men. 


Whether you marry or don't marry a black woman is no one's business but yours. 



I personally HOPE you aren't married to a black woman, because then I'd have to asked how and why you stumbled across a black woman-centric site on the way to a IRR dating site....?





2 weeks, 4 days ago on AM/BW: “Never Settle for Secrecy”

Reply

@Brenda55 @trinigirl1 I vote insane. After all, isn't it insanity to continue to do the same thing and anticipate a different result?


We've been banning these persons and deleting their comments for years, yet they sincerely think if they keep coming back with their stupid comments that no one here cares about, at some point we'll crack and see things their way.


You cannot be sane and operate like that.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on AM/BW: “Never Settle for Secrecy”

Reply

@InflectorGoldwaters 


"Love your enemy doesn't mean marry them".


So, how about that out-of-wedock rate?



*sips tea*



In any case, it seems you are teaching to an empty classroom, Professor Slappy.


We here believe in CHARACTER OVER COLOR. Which means just as we encourage black women to not be shamed, threatened, bow-beat, or guilt-tripped out of dating a man who isn't black, we strongly believe that a sensible woman looks at the actions and character of a man before (1) making her womb available to him and (2) agreeing to marry him.


In other words you could have saved yourself the trouble. Nobody here is interested in a pseudo-spiritual load of crap that's really about some perceived sense of entitlement to the bodies and resources of black women.


Besides, this is an IRR site. 


White women here looking for black women make more sense than black men looking for black women on this site. Assuming there was any point to your opening comment.



...I still don't know what that advertisement (?) is supposed to mean....

1 month ago on Watch Out for ‘Childmen’ With Pathological Entitlement Issues

Reply

@Browncow @GoldenPrecious FWB = Friends With Benefits = Booty call under the guise of so-called friendship.

1 month ago on Watch Out for ‘Childmen’ With Pathological Entitlement Issues

Reply

@ChristieRJohnson @BellaVoce I am going to go light a candle at church for all the brain cells that died so that I could almost understand what the heck this is supposed to mean. :S

1 month ago on Watch Out for ‘Childmen’ With Pathological Entitlement Issues

Reply

@ChristieRJohnson @Brenda55 @MeliaFavors @Keioni I hope Santa put a back-brace in their Christmas stocking this year....

1 month ago on Watch Out for ‘Childmen’ With Pathological Entitlement Issues

Reply

@Brenda55 @MeliaFavors @Keioni LOL. It's sad because someone might even look at that picture and think he's holding the world.


Nope, it's the black woman. She's holding him up on her shoulders AND The World AND caring for the child.


In other words its a sneaky way of trying to make the utter isolation and dehumanization of black women normal.

1 month ago on Watch Out for ‘Childmen’ With Pathological Entitlement Issues

Reply

@PaoloP @_Toni_ What he needs is a pie in the face. :|

1 month ago on Watch Out for ‘Childmen’ With Pathological Entitlement Issues

Reply

@MeliaFavors @Keioni I don't know whether to laugh, shake my head or both. EVERYTHING wrong with a segment of black people can be seen in this one picture.

1 month ago on Watch Out for ‘Childmen’ With Pathological Entitlement Issues

Reply

First off, Happy Holidays everyone! :)



You know what they told me? “A man brings his presence to your life.”


If I didn't wake all the dead with the laugh I let out just now after reading this, I must have woke at least half. So...if you see any dead people walking around on Christmas, my apologies. Totally my fault.


The fact that a person could say something like this in all seriousness, with a straight face? Wow


1 month ago on Watch Out for ‘Childmen’ With Pathological Entitlement Issues

Reply

As for AB, she is a messy, messy, young woman who despite all her reading lacks the sense to put that knowledge to good use.


I mean look at Eve:


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eve_(rapper)



You can actually witness the transition via her Wiki page. She came out as a tough, masculine rapper and now she's all feminine and wearing form-flattering dresses.


She went through her own history of rap-rivalries but notice where SHE is and were those rivals are.


Eve learned what her rivals didn't: The rap game was never set up to help any woman win.



As such, AB needs to catch a clue now rather than later and stop trying to beat her head against the brick wall that is the color-struck, black woman-hating rap industry.

1 month ago on The Battle of the Azealias: Who Gets Mocked, Who Gets Protected.

Reply

Eh, I think Iggy is losing a bit harder than you think.


First there's the TIMING of this entire event. Black people all over the country are mad as heck and here comes AB shining a bright-light on this one white woman who is profiting off of black people and lending no overt sympathy to their causes.


Iggy didn't speak up fast enough and found herself dragged from one end of the internet to the other. Google "Igloo Australia" to see what I mean.


She has people staging "die-ins" at her concert and was just in the news for giving the finger to her OWN fans. Now Anonymous is coming after her (and that is pretty much the last people on Earth you want angry at you. These people are life ruiners...)


Iggy may not "lose", but she has been completely and utterly exposed as a hypocrite. She has no authenticity or credibility. Color-struck black men may prop her up for a while, but as she ages (and that fake behind sags), they will be off looking for some new white woman to worship.


And good luck with her "re-inventing" herself. She has no real talent aside from looking like a white woman made-over to look like a black woman with white skin.


I doubt very much she even writes her own lyrics as she doesn't seem to possess any sort of wit.


She has just enough sense to leave a door open through which she can slide when her ride is over. If people are somehow "puzzled" as to why she refuses to distance herself from white racist privilege, that's part of the reason why.


...The other part is of course she's a racist white woman. But then, self-hating black men will always have time for racist white women. No surprise there. 


It's white people that's mostly buying her music anyway I suspect. So it's not like she's alienating her audience with her behavior. :/





1 month ago on The Battle of the Azealias: Who Gets Mocked, Who Gets Protected.

Reply