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@Lori Great question about whether we can teach this or not - but I think the answer is YES. Most important to remember is all the ways we unconsciously "teach" those around us those, so the words we speak become secondary to the way we embody this trust in our own lives. In order to help others most deeply, I always feel it comes back to doing our own work so that we can "show up" as fully present, aware, and connected as possible.

Thank you as always for the great conversation! Now to go watch those unhurried, unworried squirrels ;).

4 weeks, 1 day ago on Do You Trust Your Wings?

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The quote you begin with is so beautiful Lori, and it reminds me how there's always trust when we look around the natural world...rarely do you see a squirrel with his head in his hands worrying about the future :).

In answer to your question, yes, I trust my wings, most of the time. I still have moments where I feel like the baby bird who cautiously approaches the edge of the nest with a bit of trepidation...but ultimately I step forward and either my wings kick in or I come crashing down. What I've learned is that something is always there to break my fall, so I simply trust in that, and I know all will work out.

1 month ago on Do You Trust Your Wings?

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Ah, my mind immediately went to this..."life" may not always seem fair, but I feel we all have the same opportunities to expand on our soul's journey - and THAT is where the balance is.


By that I mean that I believe each soul has different lessons it came into this life to learn, and so the circumstances (whether seemingly fair or not) aren't as important as the "fair" opportunity we have to connect to our deepest self and grow through them.


Doesn't really answer the question...but I love when you ask questions, Lori, that spark new ones within me :).

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Is Life Fair?

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@Lori Love that you recognize the "process" in it all - I suppose I do practice that cycle more often than I realize!

3 months, 1 week ago on The Power of Anticipation

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Lori, once again I hop on the porch to find we are on the same wavelength as my post this week was also prompted by the latest in mind research! I love when that happens - it's all energy after all, isn't it? :)

I harness the power of anticipation all the time - allowing myself to dream big about the possibility, while mindfully practicing presence and releasing attachment to the outcome. It's not necessarily easy, and I DO get tripped up from time to time (losing out on the presence part and sometimes getting too attached to the outcome), but when I balance it all just right, life just seems to flow!

3 months, 1 week ago on The Power of Anticipation

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@Lori Yes, he does! And here's a video for you about our minds and our connection to one another through them:


http://youtu.be/UyyjU8fzEYU


A friend shared it with me and I am blown away - it is so deeply connected to WHY I do what I do, as hypnosis allows us to access that state she describes!

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Could This Be Your Superpower?

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Yes, very fascinating! Just started watching the great video you shared from Bruce Lipton - thank you for that contribution to the conversation!

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Could This Be Your Superpower?

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Oh I love this riddle! I remember walking around the halls of my elementary school and just hoping I could catch the eye of someone to make them smile - I guess I knew how powerful it was at a young age!

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Could This Be Your Superpower?

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@Lori Ha! Sounds like your Spirit needed a little humour too - I can just picture your swatting Qigong exercises!

4 months, 3 weeks ago on Zen Time Revelations About Grief and Happiness

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Lori, what a GORGEOUS sacred space to create your meditation practice from! And your conversations with Alex sound like exactly what your soul needs from your "meditation" time.

Meditation has literally saved my life, and by that I mean that it keeps me from staying stuck in dark shadowy places for longer than I feel safe to stay.

For me, the habitual nature of it is what makes all the difference.


Some days it's 5 minutes, in bed, with a wandering focus.


Others it's 20 or more in the peace of my own backyard bliss.


But it happens just about every single day, and I'm so grateful that it's a gift I choose to give myself.


I'm looking forward to hearing more about where this journey takes you, Lori!

4 months, 3 weeks ago on Zen Time Revelations About Grief and Happiness

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The other thing that struck me as I was reading your reply is how malleable memory actually is - I'm essence, everything but the present moment is like a dream! A beautifully connected one that deepens our experience that is :).

5 months ago on Could You Tell Your Life Story in 400 Words?

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My favorite is when someone text messages "what have you been up to?" Goodness! I do my best to focus on ONE thing - this moment - and then offer a phone call if they want more! But writing my life story in 400 words - that would be challenging to say the least!

5 months ago on Could You Tell Your Life Story in 400 Words?

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First off, I just have to say that I've MISSED you, Lori! Pulling out of the blogosphere the last couple of months has been wonderful on some levels, as I've plugged back into nature (I see that was just your last post!), but there was definitely an aspect of connecting with my community that I missed.

And to one of your first points - I completely agree that we must live before we can create anything of value really - whether it's writing or in my case coaching! That said, it's also important to value every little bit of our experience and not discount any of it, even if it doesn't look like someone else's journey.

5 months, 2 weeks ago on What Makes Your Heart Sing?

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First off Lori, this video is such an amazing find!


And the message is such a powerful one - one that I struggle with because I DO tend to seek the silver lining, the potential, the opportunities for growth. It's my nature and it's the result of a lifetime of building those habits.


As you said above, even though no one else could say those words to you, by saying them to yourself you were able to survive and give yourself exactly what you needed.


But you - and Brene Brown - are right. Sometimes that pain needs to be honored and not brushed over or changed or made better so quickly.


I think in my personal relationships - my family and friends - I practice empathy a lot better.


With my clients, I practice it to an extent, but as the nature of the relationship is different - i.e. that they hired me to help them move through the "stuckness" and overwhelm - I often guide them out of that space more quickly than I would with a friend.


Perhaps there is space for more of this though even with my coaching clients...opening my heart to tune in around this so that I can truly honor my clients' journeys too.

8 months ago on Do You Give a Little Love?

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@Lori Synchronicity! This is probably the 3rd (or maybe 4th!) time I've heard the name Donna Eden - typically a sure sign from the Universe for me to check it out, so I will do that NOW! Thanks for always expanding my mind - and the tools in my toolkit.

8 months, 2 weeks ago on How Do You Deal With Fear?

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Lori, I love learning new simple mind and body shifts from you! I've been a big fan of EFT for myself and with clients, but I had not seen this "fear" point yet! I think it's brilliant the way you complement your deeper daily practices of energy work with quick and easy tricks! I do the same, and it makes all the difference in the world to keep me grounded (and sane).

8 months, 2 weeks ago on How Do You Deal With Fear?

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But of course! My ego does her best to disempower me - but I always see through it (eventually).

9 months ago on I Got Hacked! What’s the Meaning of This?

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Oh I love this, Lori! I agree - we are always in CHOICE. And your choice is brilliant as it empowers rather than disempowers you! It's where we realize our own control - not over hackers, not over technology, but rather over your own relationship with the thoughts and feelings that came up!

9 months ago on I Got Hacked! What’s the Meaning of This?

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@Lori Ha! I love when we're synchronized!

9 months ago on The Key to Success: Discovering Your Success Process

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Love the image and quote you chose for this Lori! I also love how you dig deep so that you can bring this sense of FLOW to more of your life!

In fact, our "success processes" are QUITE similar!

9 months ago on The Key to Success: Discovering Your Success Process

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@Lori Simple acts of giving every single day - I love it, Lori! Balance isn't the "sexiest" topic, but I stand behind it 100% because everything is energy, and when we allow it to flow out, we're only opening ourselves up for more to flow in.

9 months, 3 weeks ago on What’s Your Prime Directive?

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Love this as much as I love Captain James T. Kirk of the starship Enterprise! Former Trekkie here, hee hee ;).

I love this alternative approach to the New Year, Lori, and I'm down to play!


My prime directive as a human being is to be a vessel for love, and I'm getting even more specific with it this year to include not only flowing that love outward toward my man, my friends, my clients, but to also be a vessel that simply HOLDS that love, receiving it fully for MYSELF too!


Thanks for helping me get clear on this Lori!

9 months, 3 weeks ago on What’s Your Prime Directive?

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@Lori And a very happy holiday to you as well, Lori!

10 months, 1 week ago on How to Live Without Regrets

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I love this post for so many reasons:

1. You were a calligrapher! How amazing is that?
2. That poem speaks volumes about how consciously you choose to live your life.
3. And I agree with you on releasing regrets...our ego minds might try to pop them in there, but they only serve us to the point that they inspire action toward changing our lives for the better in the NOW - not by keeping us stuck in the woulda coulda shoulda of the past. As your friend said, we are doing the best we can - it's our nature. Compassion and forgiveness flow more easily when we accept this.

10 months, 1 week ago on How to Live Without Regrets

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Sandi, of course you pop into my mind as I'm reflecting on this past year and those who have influenced my path...and then I see this beautiful message.


"The truth is, we all touch each others’ lives in some way."


Yes, yes, you do.


P.S.

I love Calvin & Hobbes - Watterson is genius!

10 months, 1 week ago on Day by Day Everything Changes

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Love that you found a balance in how you shared this story with your children - giving them an opportunity for embracing the true SPIRIT of Christmas (the generosity!) rather than the aspects that might fade (or get shattered!) over time.

As for me? I still believe Santa is real because it's the energy of Santa that I always looked forward to - the time with my family, a time for storytelling, a time for giving and receiving gifts.

I suppose I was always a funny child (and am still!), straddling these two worlds of what we could experience with our senses while still believing in pure magic and the unseen mystery of it all.

10 months, 3 weeks ago on A Different Santa Claus Story

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Lori, I love this post SO MUCH! This "forgetting and remembering" that we do throughout life is one of the reasons I do the work I do...to give us tools to remember more often and more quickly HOW the Universe is supporting us.

My daily gratitude list (recently renamed "Moments of Appreciation" help me keep that perspective before I go to bed each night, as I literally list all the ways the Universe is continually supporting me.

That said, of course I still forget from time to time, and fortunately I have beautiful souls like YOU in my tribe to remind me through posts such as this :).

11 months, 1 week ago on Is Life Supporting You?

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@Lori What a Divine intervention Lori! The post that was shared as my "latest" was quite old - but clearly one the Universe wanted you to see!

Thank you so much for your kind words and I'm honored to be a part of your life and your amazing community!

11 months, 3 weeks ago on It’s the Third Anniversary of Life, for instance!

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Happy anniversary, Lori! 

You take up so much more than "just space" here - in fact you, CREATE, CULTIVATE, & NOURISH this community! I'm so grateful you typed those first words and that you continue to show up here to share all of your insight, wisdom, and mind-opening questions with us :).

11 months, 3 weeks ago on It’s the Third Anniversary of Life, for instance!

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So much of this applies to work as a coach as well, and I especially love integrating #3 into my work as the power of HOW we communicate and the words we choose reveals so much about what's simmering underneath - great post!

11 months, 3 weeks ago on Conversation @ http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/229788

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@Lori Indeed it is!

1 year ago on How Much Control Do We Have?

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@Lori You bet - I believe that time is relative anyway and our brilliantly complex mind and soul can handle this balance of being/doing with much more ease than our ego would have us believe! In fact, let it go and take action at the same time is one of my big messages in the world :)

1 year ago on How Much Control Do We Have?

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Lori, I love how you balance this article between letting go AND taking action. I read a great concept in The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks that I think you'd love.

Worrying IS useful - but only IF it's something you can change and that you can change right now.

You allowed that annoyance of the telemarketer to open up a well of resourcefulness inside! 

1 year ago on How Much Control Do We Have?

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Isn't it amazing how quickly we forget the POWER in our inner radiance? I say WE as I most certainly fall into this camp more often than I like to admit.

Coming from the world of acting, there was always a big emphasis placed on outer beauty, weight, physical "perfection" and I was constantly swimming upstream to remember who I really was.

I am so grateful for my own spiritual journey to reawaken this awesomely powerful light within, and I have no doubt that my conscious attention in keeping my light bright is part of what keeps my man so attracted to me.

Beautiful video and message, Bern :)

1 year ago on How to magnify your inner beauty to get his heart

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I just had to pop in here to say how much I love your choice of this image to illustrate your point, Lori! That's exactly how I feel when I make assumptions!

1 year ago on Are You Making Assumptions?

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@Lori One of the things I love about the online world is that it gives an opportunity for introverts like me to PLAY with being more outgoing and connected to beautiful communities such as yours!

It's funny that you ask about having too many friends - whenever I ask that question of myself, I remember that there is nothing wrong with having friends that complement my life in different ways (and I theirs!). There are those whom I interact with every day, then there are those whom I may only see once a year - but as long as I choose to be fully present with them whenever I do connect, I know that I am being the best friend that I can be.

1 year, 1 month ago on Can You Have Too Many Friends?

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Oh so many wonderful questions Lori!

YES, I believe we need friends - probably more than I care to admit at times, as I am a "hermit" introvert by nature, so socializing (on and offline) often requires me bucking against my inclinations to "go it alone."

What I feel is most important, for me at least, is to be OPEN...open to the connecting with friends new and old but also open to listening to myself when I need to unplug from my community and recharge with some "me time."

1 year, 1 month ago on Can You Have Too Many Friends?

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Sandi, this is by far one of your most inspired posts to date, and the strength you exude through your vulnerability is one of the reasons I've been attracted to you since day one. Thank you for bringing this beautiful message to the world and for sharing this amazing new process the way that you are!

1 year, 1 month ago on 8 Truths to Getting Unstuck and Reclaiming Your Freedom

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@sharialexander Ha! I've had my fair share of #2! And you're right - always worthwhile.

1 year, 1 month ago on Conversation @ http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/228277

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#4 is probably the biggest challenge for me as a slight introvert (or as my dad calls it "a hermit through and through") - but who said I'm not up for a good challenge? :)

These tips are brilliant!

1 year, 1 month ago on Conversation @ http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/228277

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@Lori I couldn't have said it better myself - we "know and forget repeatedly." Perhaps the forgetting and remembering is all part of the process? And the process is what it's all about?

1 year, 1 month ago on Are You Living Your Ideal Life?

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This is a gorgeous post Lori! What you share here is becoming the heart of my message in my coaching practice these days:


I believe it is important to have a picture of the life you want to be leading while at the same time recognizing all the blessings that surround you in the one you presently occupy. The picture is the course you chart.


So many of my clients come to me ready to get to that next stage - for that big vision to happen now - but life is not such that everything happens at the "go, go, go" pace society would lead us to believe is best. So in order to balance that, what you share about being grateful for the NOW is so important!

1 year, 1 month ago on Are You Living Your Ideal Life?

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@Lori You're absolutely welcome!

1 year, 1 month ago on What’s Your Emotional Default?

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These reminders are so important, Lori!

But we know now that there is no reality, only perception. We know now that we can change the very wiring in our brains which formed through old understanding and we can create a new version. Therefore we can alter our emotional defaults and this can change our lives!

I just began reading The Happiness Trap by Dr. Russ Harris, and I am LOVING the tools it shares. The gist of it is this: no matter our default, we will ALL experience high and low emotions throughout our lives, so the key to reducing the struggle is to accept them all and remove the "charge" from them. It's based on mindfulness principles which I love, and it's all about acceptance - which I also love!

Let me know if you're familiar with it - or if you check it out!

1 year, 1 month ago on What’s Your Emotional Default?

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Lori, this is one of my favorite posts of yours...you're absolutely right. The present moment does not exclude taking a moment to reflect on the past given our new tools and perspectives.

P.S. I HIGHLY recommend The Happy Place, as Lori combines her intuitive gifts with her gift for working with words to empower and shift our consciousness!

1 year, 2 months ago on Why it’s Hard to Be In The Moment

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@Lori Since this staycation was unplanned, it has been a lovely experiment in truly living in the moment! That said, it was filled with lots of little things I love - impromptu sushi lunches with the man, bike rides around my neighborhood, a beach day with my dogs, reading nonstop for hours, lying in the sun and catnapping, camping in my backyard...pretty amazing (and I'm trying not to be sad as it comes to an end!).

It has been hard staying away from my business...I did well the first week, and I've actually eased back in with partial days this week (but only 2-3 hours per day if that).

I'm excited to read the changes you're making to your post on meaning - that's definitely a topic close to my heart as much of my life coaching practice revolves around :).

1 year, 3 months ago on How to Let Go

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Lori, such a timely post and exactly what I'm practicing right now as I unplug a bit from my business and enjoy a mini staycation at home (releasing the sadness around not being in Italy, where I had planned to be!).

I love what you've said about meaning in life - indeed, we do create it and are always in choice (albeit not always an easy one).

1 year, 3 months ago on How to Let Go

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This, this, this:

The compulsion to understand is a powerful motivator, but when it gets in the way of what feels good, you’ve got to take a step back because. . .understanding is almost always the booby prize.

I mean, right? Oh sneaky ego, sometimes I just have to let go of the need to "figure it all out" and let life simply be what it is, in all its amazingness.

1 year, 3 months ago on There is No Finish Line

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I love this Sandi, and I agree with Joy - let's start a movement. Real, paper and stamp, old-fashioned mail - a shot right to the heart sent and received just when needed.

And for me, my act of self-love today will be a hot cuppa matcha green tea....even when it's sweltering outside, I still love my sacred tea time :).

1 year, 3 months ago on A Surprise in the Mail

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@Lori Thank you so much Lori!

1 year, 3 months ago on Problem or Opportunity; How Do You Tell the Difference?

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