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while most of you are salivating at this GOSSIP, poor Condola has to deal with the world thinking that she broke up a "happy marriage"
1. SHE IS NOT in a relationship with Orlando
2. SHE IS in a relationship w/ another man (Joseph) according to a recent Broadway interview she did.
3. shame on some of you for falling for the bait that the catty white women at People and Daily Fail put out for you.
I just read the tweet Condola put out and...omg bless her heart she is hurting right now: https://twitter.com/phloella
Can you imagine...you're JUST starting out your career so you aren't known around the world....and your FIRST introduction to the world is RUMORS that you had an affair with a famous married man??? Plus she's a beautiful and THIN black woman so that is guaranteed to get her more hate from the rabid ww that are obsessed with Orlando
I'm praying for this young woman. She is really hurting right now. I NOW see why Hollywood parents like her own go to great lengths to shield their kids. No parent should have to witness their daughter being called a home-wrecker by every online publication :(
12 months ago on What in De Cuss?! Orlando Bloom DIVORCES Wife for Phylicia’s Rashad’s Daughter?!!
@Toni_M I throw Hollister & AA in there as well. Having known folks who worked at both places...well lets just say they tend to carry that mindset with them OUTSIDE of work as well. very unfortunate.
good thing about America is that we have the choice to shop where we want and can essentially vote with our dollars and they will lose out.
1 year, 5 months ago on Abercrombie’s CEO Michael Jeffries Created a Public Relations Disaster When He Decided to Diss Fat People | Beyond Black & White
seems my exchange below sparked a blog post by SojPass. glad to have bw in high places in my corner :D
1 year, 5 months ago on Gabourey Sidibe on Jason Collins:"Every Woman Has Dated a Gay Man At Least Once"
its times like these where you need to have your sister or other close friends casually meet him to see...what's up LOL. there's no shame in making sure....only less time wasted :)
He's a british actor named Tom Mison :)
1 year, 5 months ago on Four Reasons to Turn on Your TV: Defiance, Mad Men, Game of Thrones, and Scandal | Beyond Black & White
"they should get on twitter and live tweet....it saved Scandal."
THEY SO SHOULD. someone should tweet that to Nicole.
Deception tried doing that but it was only a few of the cast.
They should do it Scandal style....ALL OR NOTHING :)
"hey are confused and hurting inside.You're right! There is no reason to declare that you are LGBT. My point is, that no matter how you spin this...being a homosexual still isn't easy in most parts of the world. No, it doesn't excuse you for abusing the partner you have. You should know better. "
I feel you girl :)
some shows w/ bw as main characters or recurring characters you ladies may want to check out are:
Scandal, Veep, Person of Interest (LOVE), Suits, Justified (LOVE), The Good Wife, The Carrie Diaries and The Neighbors(LOOOOOOVE)
RIP Deception. NBC canceled it and I will forever hate them for it!!
Good News!!! Nicole Beharie has a new show on in the fall on Fox called Sleepy Hollow.....let's just say there is a GOOD chance that she will be swirling with the other leading man :) bad news is there seems to be a bm cockblock similar to Deception. Regardless, it looks great:
The Neighbors is AMAZING!!!
Also checkout the show Veep for another funny (thin and beautiful) black actress :)
@Ladybug7 @DWB @Brice Cameron @Brenda55
Ladybug, I think we're getting off topic here and its CLEAR to me you are not as informed as you think you are with folks who lean right politically. I'm cringing at the opinions you try to pass off as facts *shakes head*
"I would say that I know many women who aren't black who have dated, married, and have children with men who turn out to be gay. It isn't about admission nor denial. The black community doesn't make it easy for black men to come out."
1st you say it happens in non-black collectives and then you point the fingers at the black community. at this point the black community IS black women, and I am comfortable saying the overwhelming majority of black women are not homophobic. keep in mind being against gay marriage does not make one homophobic. Lord knows I and other bw attract gay men, in my case white gay men, like a flame attracts a moth lol
Correct me if I'm wrong but I used to attend meeting promoting diversity on campus, including LGBT. The speakers there had an end goal of gay people not NEEDING to declare to the world that they are gay. straight folks don't do it, so why should we, they said. All Jason and the gay men like have to do is, idk.......NOT GO OUT with women. Unless that relationship was were you finally got the clarity to realize you are gay, there's no reason to be fooling people into thinking you're straight.
I'm telling you. When we start to see more men like this in the media stringing these girls along (yes she should NOT have been w/ him for 8 years), they will start to lose a lot of sympathy from their allies.
"Maybe that's something only black women say."
EXACTLY. This may happen to ww MORE than bw but ww actresses in general aren't DUMB enough to be broadcasting their business like this.
this is yet another case of a bw OTHERING herself.
im wondering if this has to do with our suppression of things like "gaydar". people get super sensitive when you say that you can pretty much tell a guy is gay, but we're encouraged to stick around because maybe he's just SUPER metro and sensitive *rolls eyes*
i've seen this happen to some ww friends in uni. they had their suspicions but friends told them to stick it out. many months or years later BOOM, dude is out and proud.
"Which is quite scary."
which makes it even more important that bw get their partners tested BEFORE any sexual activity/hold off until marriage or they're in a LTR.
i hate when people just suggest condoms thinking that it prevents the spread of HIV/AIDS and other STDs. lowers risk does NOT equal PREVENTION.
your comment contributed nothing but making fun of her for being obese. at least be honest about it. im young not stupid.
as you were....
white folks like you are bold these days aren't you?? i've seen your comments around the bwe hood for awhile so this comment doesnt surprise me...
Do you remember all the hate that Jason got from the media and how they rejected him?
Yeah ... me neither."
black men can no longer claim victimhood in this country.
they threw a straight WHITE WOMAN under the bus in favor of a gay BLACK DUDE. i wonder how long this type of public treatment will last tho before ww start whining about it.
as for me and other smart bw, we'll be sitting quietly on the sidelines NOT GETTING INVOLVED. both sides are more than capable of hashing this out themselves.
Betty Chamber's post is on point about this mess:
Jason is nothing but a coward and an opportunist. From lying to his girlfriend for 8 years about the nature of their relationship to orchestrating that bizarre PR phone call of congrats with Obama.....its all so messy.
Being gay or choosing not to tell people you are gay doesn't give you the right to be an a-hole. He gets no sympathy from moi. Gays want to be the new black? you got it!! I don't coddle grown men who make childish CHOICES. its 2013 not 1955. Folks would do well to remember that.
*cue the "you're a homophobe" comments*
as for Gabby, she needs to have several seats....actually she needs to get up and take a nice LONG walk....
i hope she goes the Jennifer/Mo'Nique route and loses the weight. I can't imagine how uncomfortable she is at that size :(
almost every white actress ive seen has had to do SOME type of cosmetic change whether it was hair color, prosthetics, a tan, staying out of the sun, starving themselves, etc to fit the bill for a role and black actresses should have the FREEDOM to do the same.
people haven't even seen the darn thing and are crying like Zoe shot their puppy. if folks have a problem they should take it up with the CASTING DIRECTORS, not the actress. its a cheap shot to go after Zoe imo. people actually had the nerve to ask Zoe to"do the right thing" and "step down" from the role. *blank stare*
sensitive black folks and white social justice warriors kill me with their concern trolling.
"But i'm certain there are actresses out there who would fit the role much better. "
I had other actresses in mind to but....$$$$$$$$$$$. none of the other ladies would have brought the attention and audience that Zoe can and I'm sure their are other reasons we will never know about for why she was chosen. if its not this role, then people are picking on her for identifying as a black AND Latina woman as if she shouldn't have more than 1 identity. i hope she continues to ignore the naysayers.
Zoe Stan #1
1 year, 5 months ago on Why Not Give a Guy in Prison a Chance?
@kia I have no problem agreeing with this even though I have upstanding and successful bm in my own family. HECK my own father is warning me to be careful. He's made it quite clear what his expectations are and that I shouldn't bother bring home any bums.
I cracked up when he mentioned that my future husband could be white and that it was okay with him as long as we had similar values. I wont repeat everything my dad said about the state of Black America bc i know someone will get their panties in a bunch, but please believe Black fathers that care about their black daughters know what time it is and they will do everything in their power to make sure their daughters do not end up with Lil BooBoo, LeTroyTroy and DoRayMeFamonte from the block :)
"I think black men have the SAME educational opportunities as black women. Black women and black men grow up side by side together in the SAME NEIGHBORHOOD OR COMMUNITY."
WRONG. there is WAAAAAAAYYYY more attention given to black boys and black men than there is to the little black girls and young black women AND YET, black women STILL find a way to come out on top and succeed :)
And guess what? non-blacks know that. they may not say it, but they are aware if not become aware of what's going on. I'm just waiting for more black women to get their head out of the sand....
just thinking aloud here...
"Author Teri Woods, a self made millionaire and admits that she would rather have a man from prison than be lonely — in so many words."
looking at the amount of single moms in black Hollywood, i can tell a lot of people have taken that route. It's interesting to see how much black Hollywood/entertainment in general mirrors the black ghetto's lack of values while the black "old-money" community appears to still have their act together. Both groups have the $$$$ but the behaviors and values are different, and if they are the same, the old money crew has enough decency to keep that mess behind closed doors.
Just looking at that cover and the interviews of some black starlets, I wouldn't be caught dead taking ANY kind of advice whether it be dating or networking from black Hollywood, especially black actresses. A few of them have done well for themselves and have made brilliant choices when it comes to relationships and gaining more positive exposure for themselves like Gina Torres, Zoe Saldana, Naomie Harris, Nicole Behaire, etc, but most of them have not been as strategic and cutthroat as I see w/ white actresses and black actors. (Khadija's recent post about how black actors could care less about black actresses' progress was spot on!!)
You saw all the sh$! Zoe got for playing the role of Nina Simone. I'm glad she stuck to her guns and let the naysayers run their mouths. Zoe is looking out for me, myself , and I and it SHOWS in all of the roles she's taken (Colombiana, Star Trek, Avatar....rumor is she'll be in the new Star Wars films that JJ Abrams may be directing...i say good for her). This ME FIRST attitude is something I would like to see more of in black women entertainers who are WAYYYYY to giving and lenient. Haters be damned :)
<3 this comment!!!!
"Why Not Give a Guy in Prison a Chance?"
LOL because my standards are MUCH higher than that
oh God i shudder to think how my parents would react if i brought someone like that home. It doesn't matter if he was in for murder charges or drug possession. wrong is wrong.
what's sad is that bw have been tricked and duped into expanding their dating pool for more black felons than for your average upstanding white guy......
I have no time to pay attention to angry stares or bm's hurt feelings of my relationship choices. And now we have to worry about the ww being aggressive as well. smh
speaking of, just recently the HOTTEST and most HUMBLE guy imo in hockey, Brooks Laich (go look his fine self up), tweeted about Rihanna, making it ummm VERY clear he and the rest of the male population are attracted to her. BOY did I get some good laughs out of the responses of his white female fans. The reactions ranged from nervous LOLs to "ewww BARF". I like watching white fangirls squirm when their fav celebrities show interest in bw :D
tweet in question: https://twitter.com/brookslaich/status/329291346470920193
1 year, 5 months ago on What the Cuss?! "Once You Go Brown, You Get The Crown," Says Random Black Dude...
"Bey, Jay and other artists that made their money while damaging BW and our collective image."
they sure have and their daughter will unfortunately live in the anti-bw environment they both helped create.
1 year, 6 months ago on Black Women Have a Sickness When It Comes to Hair
different things will motivate people to get their health in check.....death in the family, health scare, limited fashion choices, limited choices in a mate, poor self-esteem, etc.
these are great resources!! ty :)
1 year, 6 months ago on Will Looking at Images of Fit Women Help Black Women to Become Healthy?
how much time do people have on their hands to STILL be visiting sites like Bossip, Sandra Rose, Clutch and other trashy sites. I've never heard this story (and neither have the Carters i bet) bc i choose not to CONSUME garbage like that.
out of sight out of mind i like to say. many of us could benefit from a "low negativity diet"....
@kisumai if you look at the justjared site, they are clearly NUTS. They want so badly for him to be GAY or BI than to admit that he is attracted to black and latina women (ex-gf Vanessa Hudgens).
LOL soo sad
1 year, 6 months ago on True or False? "White Guys Only Date Black Women After They've Had White Kids with White Women!"
speaking of age differences....Zac Efron just told reporters he has a huge crush on Tyra Banks and growing up had a poster of her in his room. ww on tumblr and twitter are ofc BUGGING at his harmless comment....and i love it LOL
...as you were :)
"I don't think the letter is fake. I'm an 50 year old Black man..."
I'm sorry AHAH
1 year, 6 months ago on Abiola Abrams and Mollena Williams Address Now-Infamous Letter That Called Interracial Relationships Into Question
im still waiting to read the letters from black women complaining about the black men (and women) in their life using the N-word *crickets*
"If this letter is real, it doesn't seem like she vetted this guy thoroughly before marrying him."
OMG thank youuuu.
you don't just wake up one day and have your bff or bf or husband call you a racial slur and you are completely shocked. c'mon folks. I find with people, especially w/ men, they reveal themselves pretty early on IF YOU ARE PAYING ATTENTION.
To be blunt, just because a guy doesn't punch you in the face on the 3rd date doesn't mean you can't pick up cues that he is an abuser. THERE ARE ALWAYS SIGNS. I wonder how many women truly understand that.
@Mercedes Keyes @MercedesHasLeftTheBuilding
your attempt at sympathy for bw is amusing.
Messence is fooling no one but the gullible among us. the letter is fake fake fake. Don't believe for a second this is their last attempt to derail bw trying to flee. it will get a lot worse than this and I'll be sitting on the sidelines chuckling as they kick and scream at the increase of bw waking up and taking off :)
these "letters" of concern WILL INCREASE. Detractors WILL NOT sit back and watch quietly as bw flee blackistan in DROVES. Their meal ticket, shelter, and access to free sex are dependent on black women staying put and staying scared of white folks.
As other bloggers have said, I don't believe for one second that letter was real and as Evia said the person behind the letter will never show their face. because its a lie. It's unfortunate that gullible black women and girls will believe these lies....oh well. I have enough common sense to know that non-bw are paying close attention to our movements and will do anything in their power to slow us down. Let the fake letter and fake sympathy on our behalf continue. I will continue to ignore them *puts shades on*
1 year, 6 months ago on All The People Crying About Letters And Conspiracy Theories: Go Get Your Life!
lol NOOOOO Chris.
you can't expect a message to be delivered like to be accepted by the people its meant to help the most. If this was for thin/in the process of losing weight crowd, that's why we didnt get upset. But if you are trying to reach the hard-headed fat folks, his attitude was not a good look. It's no ones fault really, its just a mismatch. that's why i listed the links below of fellow bw who are helping other bw lose weight :)
if you guy is as great as he seems (and a grown man at best), i hope he isnt taking the criticism to heart, which is what we are telling the upset posters "don't take it personally."
1 year, 6 months ago on A White Guy's Honest Opinion About Black Women...and Their Weight.
"This note that he agreed to share was more a stream of consciousness rather than some formal letter."
oh yeah we could tell :)
"I'm feeling like some of you need to make this guy evil so you can discount the message by killing the messenger."
nah. all but 1 or 2 comments calling out the dude CLEARLY said they agree many bw are too big and/or losing weight and staying healthy should be a priority. if you are trying to convert folks to ANYTHING, the messenger is everything.
"I think Black women need to be aware face the reality that most men don't prefer overweight women. Some do, but MOST do not. If you want to be desirable to MOST men then you need to be slim."
you are saying two different things here.
I agree w/ the first statement. the last statement is what prevents bw from making the necessary changes. You can not and will not be found attractive by every guy. They all have different tastes and preferences. The universal attribute is def having a partner they find attractive, but that will look different on each woman. Which is why it keeps going back to bw needing to get healthy and fit for themselves so that they can sustain it FOR LIFE. I'm not busting my butt for some short term gratification. I want to look good until the day I die.
There's a BIG difference between increasing your pool of eligible men vs. aspiring to be desirable to most men. I'll take the first option :)
What does Evia say...."You just need to find one."
Like I said earlier the message was delivered in a very tacky way. You may say too bad, but if the point of the post was to convert fatties to minis, the messenger screwed that up. If we are just preaching to the choir, then duh, of course people won't get upset.
If there are bw who want to get inspired and get support on their weight loss journey, these sites are a HUGE help :)
wow @ the comments. yeah I'm in agreement w/ the minority. Love Chris's message of black women and getting their weight in check to INCREASE their pool of eligible men to choose from, but the messenger for this was a POOR choice.
keep in mind this is NOT the first time a white guy has brought up the weight issue, and the comments were MUCH more tame then they are now. Even the girls who fit his ideal body type are getting creeper vibes, including myself o_O
I agree w/ the poster below about vetting guys VERY CAREFULLY. I just showed this post to a friend (bw who runs marathons on the side) and she was like HAIL NO lol. she wouldn't touch this dude with a ten foot pole. I assumed this was a 20-something guy by the demands and grammar errors, but he's in his FORTIES??? lol oh Lord.
y'all there's no reason to get upset by his comments. he's ONE guy out of millions. All you need to take away from this is to get your body in check to IMPROVE the quality of your life which will INCREASE your pool of quality mates :)
"Well people who devalue Black women can go jump off a bridge because I won’t let them tell me I deserve less than non-Black women! I’m not going to “settle” for less if non-Black women don’t have to. I’m fully behind hypergamy or just marrying someone on your level."
Great post as always Elegance!!!
1 year, 6 months ago on Hypergamy and Black Women Marrying Up
LOL what a timely post!!!
1 year, 6 months ago on Whoa, Mama! Halle Berry Pregnant...Again!!
i wish i could say im shocked at some of the posters fully embracing dysfunction, but I'm not. the numbers do not lie.
oh i get it.
i think the Halle stans are the same folks who stan for Beyonce and her thug husband.
don't you DARE speak out and question their dysfunctional behavior lest you be labeled:
a black woman hater
a black woman hater who hates lightskinned bw
a black woman hater who hates biracial women
a jealous darkskinned woman
single and bitter
did i miss any other labels????
"And by the way, a marriage certificate doesn't guarantee happiness or security. "
you must be new here.
"Black women can not afford to have kids with any man who refuses to marry them."
looking at the current trend, its clear the BULK of bw will never understand this, le sigh. To the ones who do, their descendants will be forever grateful <3
the only thing "terrible and immature" is her and olivier's behavior in (allegedly) conceiving a child while she is going through a custody battle with the baby daddy of her first child. MESSY MESSY MESSY
"Not everyone believes that becoming pregnant without being in someone else's notion of "ideal circumstances" is the end of the world. "
this is the thought process that has now given us the embarrassingly high (75% +) oow numbers for black children born in the US. it has to be said.
can't say im surprised. she's like oprah and other bw we see irl. doesn't seek out the necessary therapy to heal wounds from traumatic events from their past. it explains O's disturbing relationship w/ tyler perry and his pain porn films. its so sad that Halle keeps repeating the same behavior. before it was picking the wrong guys, now she's 2 kids by 2 different daddies neither of which she has married.....yikes
she is one of the most beautiful women we've ever seen, but it means nothing if you don't use the old noggin. Now I get what Evia was saying about how average looking black women WITH common sense ALWAYS win over women who only have their looks to fall back on.
i hope no one takes this comment as "bashing bw". I'm just calling what i'm seeing...a hot mess. Just like i would tell a teen mom who has gotten knocked up.....not "Congrats!!!!" , but a solemn "Good Luck."
LOLZ @ the non-black women hating on her pose/outfit.
she is SEVENTY YEARS OLD, sweetie. who are you???
she has lived through times that I am grateful I was never born in. If she she wants to walk around BUTT ASS NAKED, that is her prerogative. Rather than get upset that she is 3x your age with a better body than yours, log off this site and start hitting the pavement!
*sidenote: as I have shed the weight the warnings of thin black women are oh so clearer. thin/fit/in-shape/curvy black women who take care of themselves at all ages are a THREAT. DeeDee's blog has great tips on how to handle oneself when these jealous women try dim your light.
Miss Linda, you look AHH-MAZ-ING and you're a fitness inspiration!! *bows*
1 year, 6 months ago on Mid-Week Inspiration: Over 70-Years Old, and STILL a Brick House
people should be writing, emailing, carving, painting some kind of thank you note and sending it to Shonda Rhimes. Her presence, talents, and accomplishments benefit US ALL.
1 year, 6 months ago on Interracial Romeo and Juliet Coming to Braodway!