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This is the first I have heard about your son's passing. I cannot begin to fathom a loss of this magnitude. You clearly have two vital assets to carry on and thrive; your own inner strength and the strength of your loving family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
1 year, 10 months ago on How Do You Accept the Unthinkable?
My natural problem solving intuition comes through when I can quite my mind of the old "NO's". I call it my "NO Free Zone." The NO-Free Zone is a place of relaxed silence where I can be passively watchful, serenely ready and calmly focused. This non-hostile state of mind is incredibly powerful. Relaxed and quiet, I can simply put that old NO in its place, back in the past, where it belongs. I believe there is no limit to what can achieve in truly NO-Free Zone.
2 years ago on How Does Your Intuition Come Through?
Hi Galen, well said. We certainly create our own reality! Successfully seeing new perspectives requires that we value being teachable more than we value the bogus self-satisfaction of defending old points of view. It is amazing how attached we become to old thoughts and views. It takes courage to challenge old opinions that we preciously hold as valid. Sometimes, challenging them can leave us feeling deserted and helpless. We find ourselvesasking, “What am I to think next?” When we are open to fresh opinions, it becomes apparent that a lot ofour current self-talk is nonsense.
2 years, 1 month ago on Blue Or Green?
@Deeone Higgs Hi Deeone. It is always a pleasure to interact with you, no matter where we may happen to meet. Your life history is an incredible example of someone who has confidence that help is always on its way from the 'authentic you', no matter what the conditions may be. Have you lost confidence in yourself? NO. Can you no longer believe in your dreams and hopes? NO. Are you unable to trust the truth about your unlimited nature? NO. ..... EXCELLENT! MARVELOUS! CONGRATULATIONS! There is no stopping you. I will see you at the top! You are just the sort of person for whom is blog is written. Blessings.
2 years, 2 months ago on What Will Change Your Life?
@rdopping Hi rdopping. Pathways to perfect living are offered through many books, aren't they. Reading books help us get to the ultimate teacher - our selves! Self-knowledge is a state of total understanding. Only our own intelligence can win true happiness and success for us. This is what I believe, and what many great minds teach. Your comment reveals wisdom, which has you aware of things that no book can teach. Have you felt this more and more lately? Thank you.
@TheJackB Hi Jack. There are times when life can seem very unfair. I'm not going to say that you should turn a lemon into lemonade. That doesn't work for me. Yet it is true that when we seek higher visions, and if we persist - we receive special and superior insights into life and into our selves. I find that the insights keep destructive emotions from overtaking me while I put my life back together. The only real solution to suffering is to know that we are taught to live in division, in separate parts - but in the meantime - within the soul there is the exquisite whole, the eternal beauty to which every divided part is related. When I meditate on this, Jack, I am able to stop suffering thoughts from draining my energy. I hope there is something in this response for you. Thank you
@galenpearl Hi Galen. If my new book was printed (it's being published now), I'd think you got 'victim to victor' from me. This is exactly what I say in my new book (A Second Chance At Success): WOE makes you a victim. WOW makes you a triumphant victor! Mingling Minds are able to pick up one anothers thoughts - are our minds mingling right now? The eagle does not pursue the sky in which it soars, does it Galen. It simply glides with an attitude of WOW. Thank you.
@Harleena Singh Hi Harleena. I like your distinction between 'the way we think' and 'the way we want to think'. There can be a grand divide between these two ... can't there be, Harleena. I have found the first step toward self-rescue is to make it my conviction to think the way I want to think even in the most adverse conditions. And I want to think the truth - "I am marvelously made and destined to win at whatever I set my mind to ... and I am worthy of all that is good and beautiful." Sometimes I don't think this way. Self-rescue is about not only thinking this way but BEING THIS WAY in every moment. There's the challenge, isn't it, Harleena. Blessings
@Sabrina at MyMiBoSo Hi Sabrina. WOW means 'Wonderful Obsession with Winning' to me. And WOE means 'What On Earth' to me. WOW inspires me. WOE deflates my attitude. It is playful, and it is powerful, isn't it. Thank you for noticing. Here is a friendly fact for you to absorb right now - "self-reliance is not only a natural power, it is a pleasure." I teach you this so I may learn it deeper. Thank you.
@Julie | A Clear Sign Hi Julie. It's nice to chat with you on another website ... it gives a whole new perspective. YES, negative events offer positive opportunities for a person to be brave for herself, don't they, Julie. We are brave for ourselves when we correctly tell ourselves how to live, and allow no one to toss foolish advice our way. This is something you're great at doing, aren't you. Blessings
@Rileyhar Hi Riley, It can take a long time to escape the NO's that howl in the recesses of our minds. The howling NO's don't care if they cause you grief, do they. We need not worry, we need not strive, when we truly believe that happiness will just arrive. This occurs when we learn to change our focus, as you mentioned, Rileyhar. Thank you for offering your wisdom
@Sandi Amorim @Lori It does take courage to interrupt negative thinking patterns. One way I do this is to imagine myself sitting quietly by a stream that runs to a fruit orchard. I see all kinds of sweet fruit floating down the stream. Each has an encouraging thought to offer me, if I bite into it ... and then I choose one! What happens to the negative little worm that was crawling about on my field of my consciousness? It disappears in my fantasy. There are so may ways to support your effort and courage, isn't there Sandi. Thank you.
@Vidya Sury Hi Vidya. I love your boarding school story. It proves that your life is not predestined. You can create yourself anew over and over again before the truth about your unique unlimitedness is revealed to you. You have accepted that this is the path to higher dimensions of living, and as you mentioned - it has strengthened you. The wisdom of your original nature is beginning to shine through - feels great, doesn't it. Blessings
@annedreshfield Hi Anne. Yes, those moments when we step outside of our dead zone (comfort zone) and are brave for ourselves. They prove to be great moments, don't they. When the brightly colored butterfly emerges from the caterpillar, it is a very different creature - able to travel on the planet in a very different dimension. I like how that feels, as I can see that you do, too. Thank you for sharing . Blessings
@bdorman264 Hi bdorman. It seems no one can escape the 60,000 No's that all children here (to a greater or lessor degree), between age two and five. The 'terrible two's' are so terrible because that's when the NO's begin - that's when the children begin NOT believing in themselves like they did when they came from the womb. Oftentimes negative thinking creeps in, in tricky ways. If we did not participate in negative thinking in any way, then all of our dreams would manifest immediately. This is rarely the case for me. Dedication to positive thinking develops an invisible force that countermands the negative thoughts. It seems you have mastered this to a great degree. Congrats on that! Thank you for sharing a piece of your life. Blessings
@johncharlesowens Hi john. All galaxies follow the same pattern, and wise men (like those you quote) understood this, didn't they. It seems that universal clarity offers self-help, and this delightful fact comes to all persistent seekers, like yourself. The same divine perfection is offered to all of God's children. T'is a pity that so few know this. Those who escape the whirlpool of fearful emotions gain the freedom to express their divine originality. Sweet liberty! Thank you for your contribution.
Hello 'Late Bloomer'. Each life you give yourself is a consequence of being brave for yourself, isn't it. You began blooming when you decided to be brave for yourself. And every opportunity of blooming that you offer your daughter in the years to come will be because you support her when it is important that she be brave for herself. The entire cosmos and everything in it is made in an orderly fashion, and when we get involved in the orderly unfoldment of our lives - miracles happen! Blessings
Yes indeed Barbara. There is genius in simplicity, one of my heroes, Albert Einstein knew this well.
Simplicity and clarity lead to deeper understanding, and deeper understanding leads to pure knowing. Pure knowing is a profound state of being that leads to unshakeable beliefs. This can only occur at the subconscious level of the mind. This deep-level thinking part of our mind is where our true power lies. The subconscious is ready to listen and is ready to set us on a course that is inline with our goals. However, it can only do this if we communicate this understanding to it with simplicity and clarity.
2 years, 2 months ago on How Focused Are You?
This is a good one. I believe this about myself and believe all of us can add it to our label (although its a bit of a cheat :) ) --> marvelously made, destined to win.
On a more personal level: Author, Philosopher, Teacher, Entrepreneur
2 years, 6 months ago on How Would You Describe Yourself in Four Words?
I've made it a habit to always shoot for excellence, not perfection. Perfection is a self-sabotaging mechanism that keeps us stifled, stuck and procrastinating. However, when we see the unique perfection in everything we do (which includes our failures) we can achieve excellence every time. When you look at a newborn baby or a blossoming flower, what do you see? Do you recognize the unique perfection? When you look in the mirror, do you see your unique perfection? If you cannot see your unique perfection, the Counterfeit Self has blinded you to the truth - you’re participating in the act of self-corruption.
2 years, 6 months ago on Are You a Perfectionist?
You have the right attitude, Jeremy. Indeed the entrepreneurial mindset is something I bring to all aspects of life. One may not want to become an entrepreneur in the world of business, but when it comes to the mind we all feel most alive when we are wonderfully obsessed and inspiringly addicted to forwarding our inner revolution.
2 years, 6 months ago on What is the entrepreneurial mindset?
Well said Melody. There was a time when I was offended by tall dark and handsome types with a full head of hair. Why? It simply reinforced an area I felt inadequate. There was a time when I thought that my discouraging self-talk offered good advice. It never occurred to me that I could live with a mind, untroubled by discouraging opinions that made me easily offended.
There is one thing that I’ve proven to myself many times: It is a harmful error to think that I can experience a higher existence of living while clinging to doubting opinions. I simply cannot learn new and empowering things about myself when my mind is occupied with with feeling defensive and reactionary – it’s like running on a treadmill and expecting it is taking me somewhere.
2 years, 6 months ago on What Offends You?
I love this story, Lori. You and your family were so Marvelously Obsessed with your goal you had no interest in what you could NOT do. Talk about mingling minds! Mingling our minds with other like-kind minds arouses a common interest to accomplish a singular outcome. When the minds align in the name of the agreed upon outcome, disquieting confusion and doubt quickly dissipates. Each mind is able to plug into universal mind, and think beyond the usual.
2 years, 7 months ago on A Story of Faith and a Whole Lot of Family Fun
Thanks for sharing these, Jeremy. Gary is the epitome of an Entrepreneur of business and life. When you grok his quotes you grok the ultimate understanding of yourself: We are marvelously made and destined to win at whatever we set our minds to, and worthy of all that is good and beautiful!
2 years, 7 months ago on 6 Motivational Quotes by Gary Vaynerchuk
Hi Jeremy and Farouk. I love your take on acceptance here. In my life I've denied the lie of the Counterfeit Self and refuse to accept anything less than my full creative expression as and author and teacher. We must arrive at a place of acceptance in consciousness that allows the Authentic Self, with its rich qualities, to blossom fully through our personality. When you create wonderful obsessions, you feel incredibly compelled to set goals that make your life more interesting, more meaningful. You’re willing to take more risks. With greater risks come greater insights. Greater insights help you find better solutions to problems that stand between you and your goals.
2 years, 8 months ago on Why you should never settle for less than what you want
Indeed Lori, January is a fabulous month and 2012 is one of taking Atomic Action for me. I love your pragmatic system for staying on target with Whole Mindedness. Greater insights into knowing "thyself" help us find better solutions to problems that stand between us and our goals. When we act with singleness of purpose and waiver not (which is what Whole Mindedness is about), the whole universe throws itself on our side, and we stand in awe when we see the results that we get.
2 years, 8 months ago on How to Hit the Ground Running in January
Ah, what a beautiful way to express love and gratitude for the season. How invigorating it must be. Enjoy your break with family. We all have to be reminded from time to time that yes, life is lived without a laptop!
2 years, 8 months ago on Who Wants to Go Christmas Caroling?
Fun questions. I love it...
1. Shakespeare - My best friend and Parrot of 30 years.
2. Emerson's collected works - I have a cherished collection of works that I read over and over and over again.
3. Typewriter - And unlimited paper!
4. ... And one of those new Book Binding Machines so I can keep on producing & creating my own works...
2 years, 9 months ago on What Would You Bring to a Desert Island?
This is an interesting topic, Lori. I've been known to water up in public from time to time. I'm a passionate one and I think it comes with the territory. I harbor no resentment or embarrassment when I am moved in such a way. This was not always the case - it came with spiritual and emotional growth. So many folks are so stuffed up an repressed that they can't embrace and experience the joy of truly 'feeeeeeling.'
2 years, 12 months ago on Do You Cry in Public?
I've come to realize that it is human nature to be a bit lazy. Folks don't mean to harm you, but there is a mentality of entitlement which shows up as doing the bare minimum. Many folks believe that the circumstances of life and other people in the world are the cause of their attitude.This believer takes no ownership of his life; this is the ultimate ‘helpless victim’ position.
The most powerful position to take is to simply learn to be 100% accountable for our own lives. When you are feeling confidence and have an attitude of competence, you are motivated to go into your day in a very different way than if you are feeling doubtful and your attitude is fearful.
With an attitude of competence, you respond to life in decisive ways; you set lofty aspirations, take more chances, re-take your miss-takes when you fail at something, and you eagerly learn from your failures so you can improve your skills of success. You are living in a reality of accountability – you hold yourself accountable for your actions. This reality gives you a feeling of self-worth and self-trust, which reinforces your attitude of competence. Now, with a reinforced attitude of competence, you relate to others in a way that have them quickly accept and like you, and thus raise their level of accountability. You see life as a treat, and you love your relationships with others. What a wonderful world!
3 years ago on How Do You Manage Expectation?
Indeed, Lori. A first impression is a lasting impression - I don't think there is any getting around that. The Authentic Self is always on it's game, working to be on "ones game" implies an unnaturalness to me. Trying to look good or say something smart for ego-satisfaction, will leave the impression of someone trying to satisfy their ego! The more we exult in our Authenticity the more we express it and thus there is no need to worry about making an impression - that, to me is the greatest impression one can make.
3 years ago on How Important are First Impressions to You?
That's a good one Lori. We can always cross over to the shore to peace, calm and ease when we take command of our mind. If we don't fill our minds with purposeful self-talk that support us, you can be sure that the old negative-self talk is waiting to fill the void. For most of us, negative self-talk is all we have known our whole lives - we can't expect it to just disappear. Wherever we go we engage in Self-Talk, I've decided that wherever I go I want to be ahead of my Self-Talk, I don't want it to be ahead of me. So, I fill my mind with my Marvelous Obsession of writing my book. I look out on the world (whether in traffic or on a nature walk) and "ask what does this have to do with me?" I always find something to appreciate or a new thought I can expound upon.
3 years ago on What Do You Think About?
What a wonderful honest, sharing, Frank. It is truly a gift to all. I've learned that when I am opening to gleaning the lesson of the mistake, the time I invested is never wasted. Understand that a disturbance to your daily plans of winning is as much a part of winning as your planned action. If you feel off track don't waste precious energy with feelings of angst and cravings to get it all figured out. The fact is, no matter what we are up to there is no way to figure it all out ahead of time - learn to see the journey in a new and triumphant way and we will find ourselves patiently progressing toward success.
3 years ago on Are You Really Prepared?
I love your perfect example of the power of the subconscious mind. You were able to banish a big 'NO' which was nothing more than a conditioned pattern of thought. By re-conditioning your thinking you conditioned your swing in the offseason. An important first step for anyone is to become conscious of the unwanted 'NO' that laughs with contempt at their attempt to be free. See these NO's as imposters, pretending to have our best interest at heart. We can use our mind to heal our mind of the toxic effect of subconscious NO's
3 years, 1 month ago on Are You Born to Succeed?
Indeed it is essential to strike the right balance of learning from the past, imagining our future and taking action in the present. The future may never come, and when it does, it is nothing more than a movement into the present – I've learned to stop using it as a waiting room. Real valor never falters. It arises from the moment and gets things done.The only way to do this is to become so aware of this present moment that I have no excuse to falter. When I become this aware of the moment, I find myself living with valor – I find am unhesitatingly doing the right and perfect thing that uplifts me. By doing this we avoid foolish action. This puts US in control of our lives and awake in the present.
3 years, 1 month ago on Past, Present, Future: Where Do You Spend Your Time?
@Lori Indeed, we never own anything - our "stuff" owns us. That is something I have learned. As long as we are surrounded by "things" and materials we are beholden to them to some degree. It takes a bold inner decision to take bold action of that nature - very true!
3 years, 1 month ago on Does Travel Set You Free?
That's powerful, John. Indeed, no matter where we go we have to make it inside first. Lot's of folks believe that a change of environment is all it takes to fix what ails us. Travel is a fools paradise when we think we can pack up and leave ourself behind - we simply must be willing to do the inner work no matter where we go (or stay).
This is powerful --> "The only way to become mediocre is one step at a time – through the choices we make each day." If we are not 100% responsible and accountable for our choices, one day we wake up and realize that life has passed us by. I have made it my purpose to be wonderfully obsessed and inspirationally addicted! There is no room for mediocrity when we take life this seriously. The essence of feeling wonderfully obsessed with winning at life is creating a world where we uninhibitedly express our natural creativity.
3 years, 2 months ago on Are You Settling for Mediocrity?
Thanks for sharing your pragmatic system Lori. Clear and powerful. When we fail to organize it is empowering to realize it is our False Self running the show. We human beings don’t like it when placed under a microscope and having our False Self exposed. The False Self is that person who pretends to be up to something, but after decades of demanding and waiting, we realize it took its advice and have lost our way. It’s not bad to admit that we’ve lost our way, it is the first step in the right direction!
3 years, 2 months ago on Getting Off the Treadmill: How to Get Organized
Sometimes when I conduct seminars I hold a "cocktail party." Each attendee is to partner up and offer a compliment about the other person. It can be as simple as "I love your smile" or "I like your sweater." It is up to the receiver to then say, "Thank you. I know that about myself." I can tell you It is tough for folks to get those words out! It is an empowering way to notice our low self-esteem. Learning to receive compliments is no small matter -- it directly correlates to how we feel about our position and place on this planet.
3 years, 3 months ago on How Do You Handle Praise?
Great example, Stu. So many folks would take it personally AND let it ruin their whole day... maybe even hold onto it long enough to ruin their week. .True personal growth begins when we wipe our slate clean of defeating opinions - Rely on no opinions other than those that feel absolutely right for you.
3 years, 3 months ago on Do You Take Things Too Personally?
I laud your willingness to look deeply at this subject. Indeed, it is never your job (or mine or anyone) to fix or change someone else. Sometimes the greatest gift we can give is to simply be a solid presence and a deep 'listening.' Helping folks become conscious of the truth about themselves; to see themselves as they really are and not as the world implies they are requires that they find the answers within. Real lasting help can only ever guide folks to find their own answers.
3 years, 4 months ago on May I Help?
Great tips Daniel, all powerful ways of imbuing our goals with a feeling of certainty. When we feel certain that our potential is limited, we feel certain that we lack the resources to succeed and thrive in life. We all have references to prove the power of your certainty in matters both good and bad. It’s already clear that we know how to feel certain, but it’s important that we learn to put first things first - make it our first priority to give our feeling of certainty over to expressing our unlimited nature and achieving our goals.
3 years, 4 months ago on How to Focus on Your Goals
Indeed, Lori. The purpose of setting goals is to create ourselves to be a little more than we were the day before so we can achieve it. Success is not about making others lose but rather experiencing more and more or our unrealized potential. Healthy competition has us digging deeper and deeper and thus expressing and experiencing this potential.
3 years, 5 months ago on Are You Competitive?
Wow! Face to face with a Wolf - that is quite an experience! While we don't literally face howling wolves everyday we do have to face the howling of past "NO's." We hear echoes of the 60,000 NO’s that were spoken to us from age two to six. No one escapes the howls of NO! … otherwise, we’d all be super-achievers like Leonardo da Vinci! Fear of failure, fear of success, procrastination and excuse–making … all are a consequence of howling NO’s. Recognizing that I have these past echoes of 'No' has helped me to look at them as an "Impartial Witness." As long as we are reaching higher and higher there will always be fears to overcome. Declaring myself a writer was a big one for me. Now I live it and breathe it passionately and freely.
3 years, 5 months ago on What Do You Fear?
Great question, Lori. A lot of the time folks choose to fight in the name of persistence but are simply not looking at the ruthless rules of reality. Fighting through and thinking positive alone will never work. The only way to wisely choose between Fight and Flight is to take on the role of objective observer... seems your question set does just that. We must become the impartial witness to automatic tendencies that make the Fight/Flight decisions for us. We can begin noticing the rigidness of our tendencies, and thus take out the rigidity.
3 years, 5 months ago on Flight or Flight: How Do You Decide?