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Is it insensitive to say, I don't give a rats patootie about a commercial featuring bm/ww?
We, black women have our on issues and gripe to worry about, let black men wave their fist and fight for their right to love blah blah blah....
Question for the outraged black women, had this been a commercial with a bw/wm couple, would black men stand for your honor and right to love whomever you want? Would they be outrage by the slurs and insults coming our way? I highly doubt it...... moving right along, nothing to see here.
6 months, 1 week ago on How Far Have We Really Come? Cheerios Commercial Draws the Ire of Rabid Racists
I love her personality! You can tell she is full of life and hope... It was only a matter of time before she took what was meant for her
Congrats!!! You look MAAAARVELOUS :).
6 months, 2 weeks ago on Swirling Success in Sweden!
It's great that he made his feeling known to you while you are young. They say when someone shows you who they are, believe them. He has shown himself to be controlling, self-centered, racist and clearly does not care about your well-being or feelings. If it wasn't about dating IR, it would have been something else.
If you desire to date and later marry IR, and have bi-racial, he may treat your children like second class citizens... He has done you a great favor by making this known now. Kick his ass to the curb, BEFORE he does it to you. Tell him where to go and how to get there.
Black people and their ultimatums, can take several seats. I bet you his ass would date a Kim K look alike without blanking, because he has options, but you're suppose to be the backbone of the community...GTFOH!
6 months, 2 weeks ago on Question of the Week: "My Brother Says He Will Disown Me If I Date White!"
When I first found this blog, the first thing I did was check the ABOUT section on the top of the page next to HOME. I did that to avoid looking like a stupid troll with too much time on my hand. *hint hint*
7 months ago on BET Heiress Marries a Rainbeau! Just Goes to Show Rich Folks Want Ratchet For Eveyone Else EXCEPT Their Own.
I don't understand the big hooplah. He wants what all fathers should want for their child. Why would he what otherwise? Do drug dealers take their own poison? hell no! Just because they sell it, doesn't mean they use it. BET is a business, his source of income...that's it! He knows what sells and he puts it out there. I as a consumer, disagree with EVERYTHING BET stands for, so I don't watch or support anything or anyone associated with it.
He is not the moral police or gatekeeper of the BC. Just like we can't blame the food industry for the roll around our waist, we can't put the blame of a decaying community on BET. Is BET helping the decay? maybe, but BET wouldn't exist if WE didn't watch and support it. if we're going to throw stones at him, make sure we leave some for ourselves. We support his lifestyle and the sh8t he allows to be broadcast on BET.
I remember an article a few years back when Lourdes (Madonna's daughter) was about 9 or 10 years old, Madonna said she doesn't allow her to watch TV or listen to music she feels promotes promiscuity, um ma'am you are the Queen of promiscuity....hilarious! These artists, executives, producers and so on, don't give a rats ass about the "community", not yours or mines. They are in it to stay relevant enough to remain rich. If you don't see and understand that, that's your problem, not theirs. They throw it out there, if you buy it...... cha-ching!
It's not personal, it's business.
I'm in for squats and push ups! Where do I sign up?
7 months, 1 week ago on BB&W Fitness Challenge Part One: Sign Up and You Could Win $100 Visa Gift Card!
Don't know who this Rose person is, judging from the comments I don't care to search.
Never understood the obsession some have with celebrities. How they dress, keep their hair and live.
Whether Blue's hair is nappy, soft, unkempt, blond or what have you, at the end of the day she is the daughter of the King and Queen of music, meaning what you think wont make or break her. And her life doesn't affect your pocket or mine. Let's focus and write about Boomshiqua "raising" little Quajanay, who's well kept hair, Timberlands, and Jordans are all funded by my tax dollars.
7 months, 2 weeks ago on Black Women Have a Sickness When It Comes to Hair
Congrats ladies!! This sounds AWESOME :)
This is how I feel right now...
7 months, 2 weeks ago on My Semi-Formal Announcement...The "SheThrives" Network is Set to Launch in Two Weeks!!
Charlize is absolutely STUNNING!
7 months, 2 weeks ago on Gwyneth Paltrow, 40, Makes "People's" Most Beautiful Woman
Hmm, I often wonder who decides these things? Is she pretty, yes! Most beautiful in the ENTIRE world, not so much.
We need a love button. I love every bit of this post from beginning to end. Awesome job @Toni_M !!!
It's funny how our society expect us (black women) to support the community and black men no questions ask, yet, very little is expected from the community and black men in relation to how they treat us.
7 months, 2 weeks ago on Why We <em>Don't</em> Talk About Black Men: A Response Post Of Sorts...
"What are your specific thoughts on what ‘reciprocity’ means? How do you you reconcile your idea of reciprocity with the idea that a black woman should be a good citizen of any community–including the national community–which she inhabits? Do you even believe that black women should choose to be good citizens of their local, national, and global communities?"
Reciprocity means an exchange, you scratch my back, and I'll scratch yours. I go to hell and back for you, because I know, if push comes to shove you will do them same for me.
I do agree that black women should be good citizens and help the community, if they so choose. But, Black women, like any other race of women are not obligated to help, support or rally for causes on the basis of race. Supporting every and any cause that affects black people, doesn't make me any more empathetic or "black" than a woman who choose to look away.
As humans we are wired to care and feel empathy when another human is hurt, but we are not obligated to join the Pickett line. Many of us can't afford to join the Pickett line, while some have been there, done that and too tired to care. They gave all they could, but received nothing in return, the "community" got comfortable and expected them to come to the rescue. But, when her issues are bought to the table, she is left to plan and execute the plan solo.
In the pass few yrs I've notice a staggering amount of internet activist. They sit in there homes, completely removed from the realities of the "community", but take it upon themselves to tell others how they are not doing enough for the community, because data compiled by so and so proves as much. They feel more could be done and should be done, but offer no real plan, other than telling other women what they should do, but leave a question mark and an optional box for BM. After all, the world is falling apart, and it's up to women, specifically black women, to put it back together.
If we are to stay true to the meaning of reciprocity, many of us would never entertain helping or supporting anything black, because we seldom, get back what we've put in.
7 months, 3 weeks ago on Reciprocity: What does that word mean to you?
HILARIOUS! I'm not sure where the majority of posters on here live, but I"m from NYC, I know and see both sides. Racial profiling and injustice is an everyday occurrence here. As such, I know the role we play in its existence and refuse to play victim.
7 months, 3 weeks ago on <em>REVISITED in light of Trayvon Martin verdict</em><br /> -- <br />Black Murder Versus White Murder: Why Jamie Foxx Haters Represent More Than Racial Hatred
@WriteToLive @JennMJack @kia @Brenda55
The real solutions is for black men to step up and teach black boys how to be MEN. These boys are seen as dog poop because their fathers don't give a rats behind about them, but want society to do their jobs for them.
These responses reminds me of rappers/singers like Drake, don't know a lick about the hood and the people who live there, yet have so much to say about it. I don't rely on Jamie Foxx, CNN or other media outlets to tell me what is going on in the hood, I am there!
We are a dying breed because we have way too many women doing it alone, while the men sit around blaming everyone but themselves.
@JennMJack @kia @Brenda55
Jenn, I'm far from a black man hater ( was married to a BM for over 15 yrs and have black children), and definitely not a "pearl clutcher". I am not blind to the politics you speak of, but I refuse to close my eyes and pretend we are not helping the agenda. I marched for Trayon Martin, Amadou Diallo, Patrick Dorismond, and countless others. I've lived and seen the politics you speak of, up close and personal. While I may not live in the hood, I work and volunteer there, my response is not one compiled from stats on the net, but real life as it happens. Our community is part of the problem and enables the politics you speak of. Why is a brown/black life less important than a white life, because WE have allowed it.
Are black men targets of hate and racial profiling? ABSOLUTELY! But let's be real for a minute, for every black boy/man who dies under the hands of cops and thugs like Zimmerman, hundreds are killed by their own, because their life didn't matter.
My mother has a saying " The way you treat your home, will set the tone for others when they visit". For years black men have made it their business to portray themselves as careless thugs, they devalue their lives and the lives of others.... They live to die. It was only a matter of time before others joined them in the belief that, Black life is worthless and unimportant. You can't treat your own like trash, yet expect others to see their value.
There are thousands of music videos where rap artists revel at their ability to survive countless bullets, murder attempts and glorify death and the prison system. Songs written and sung by rappers. about their loyalty to the "game" and gang of choice. Songs that ignite rage, and glorify violence and death. Just a few days ago, DMX ( a rapper?) interviewed by Iyanla Vanzant, talked about his time in jail, like it was a visit to grandma's house.
How do you respect people who have little, to no respect for themselves? Why should an outsider care about your death, when those closest to you, could care less.... when your self don't see your value.
We've set the tone for this. A tone that can't and wont be change by others in the community. Black men are the sole culprit in this war on black teens. It is their responsibility to fix it.
"One questionable letter is not going to stop black women from tap-dancing towards the exit,"
8 months ago on Abiola Abrams and Mollena Williams Address Now-Infamous Letter That Called Interracial Relationships Into Question
@The Working Home Keeper @JJDPRO @EarthJeff
The poster knows the difference between porn and sex between married people. He wants us to believe that white men desire us for sex and only sex, to fulfill their wicked fantasies.... blah blah blah.
Her main concern was regaining her "sexual attraction" for her husband... what?!
I'm kinda disappointed with Essence, a magazine full of well educated people, yet this made its way to the public?
@The Working Home Keeper @DeepWater @Toni_M @Brice Cameron
Hate crimes are labeled "hate" and given publicity, when the victim is black and male. Any other scenario, is a case of being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
8 months ago on All The People Crying About Letters And Conspiracy Theories: Go Get Your Life!