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I think her hobbies are perfect when it comes to swirling. I find that there's a large group of nerdy white guys who are really into the comic book/sci-fi scene. I think she just needs to socialize a bit more like going to some comic book conventions and just meeting people with similar interests, she is bound to meet a lot of guys there.
1 year, 2 months ago on QOTW: Quirky Girl Wants to Date Interracially. Some Tips…
As annoying as Chris Brown is, these quotes break my heart. I heard Lil Wayne mention something similar, where he lost his virginity very young (I believe he was around 11). I think he mentioned he was at a party and there was an older woman (probably a stripper) who he lost his virginity to. I remember everyone was laughing and clapping as he told his story as if it is something something to be proud of but you could tell he seemed sad and intoxicated. It was obviously rape. It's sad.
1 year, 2 months ago on Who Raped Chris Brown? Sexual Assault Has No Gender
“Nobody wants you, you dark, ugly creature of the deep! See! These white dudes will date interracially with every other race in the world except for you! So just go kill yourself!!”
"I know. You’re all crying right now. It will be okay. The heart will heal."
For some reason you had me rolling with laughter with those lines, plus the photo of the eligible bachelor did not help either lol
SMH, he acts like BW are crawling over hot coal to get to him.
1 year, 2 months ago on News Items This Week We Didn’t Cover (But Should Have)
The first thing I noticed about the lady is how beautiful, elegant and how well put together she is. You can tell she is very feminine and loves herself, she has a good job and swirls with her wonderful white boyfriend. She is not a mule, a mammy or a loudmouth. She is a threat.
I find it funny that people are always criticizing BW for being angry, strong and not submissive enough. That we don't know how to take care of our men, yet we have this woman proving them wrong and they are still complaining.
I bet these WW feminists are the same who cosign foolishness like Monique not shaving her legs and Gabourey Sidibe being overly obese saying "Go girl!Love yourself just the way you are!No need to improve yourself" Yet they have no problem staying fit, healthy, marrying well and having men protect them and love them.
1 year, 2 months ago on A Traditionally Feminine Black Woman Under Attack!
I don't like Evelyn and yes, I can totally believe she really was thirsty to get married to a baller. All those ladies in that show are not wives and she probably felt superior by finally marrying an athlete. Chad has a slew of kids by a million women, he is not exactly a catch.
Also these women were very nasty and physically abusive to one cast member who was the ONLY wife in the entire show which led me to believe they were simply jealous. They made some color struck comments about her being dark skinned and her features being ugly- I guess it burned their toast to see a black woman who does not fit their twisted standard of beauty happily married to a man they desired.
1 year, 3 months ago on Reality TV Star Evelyn Lozada on Why She Married an Abuser: "I Just Wanted to Be Married"
Wow, the story sounds so good, I'm going it watch it right now lol This couldn't have come at a better time, just yesterday I was looking for a good IR on TV or movies to watch, now think I have found one.
1 year, 3 months ago on Soaps: Interesting Interracial Love Triangle on The Bold & The Beautiful
@AshleyFisher I think I have seen that telenovela,was the lead role played the beautiful Taís Araújo? If so it was a very good show. It's sad how they they treated her character simply because she was black. And yes, it is very rare to see black people on telenovelas even though they do exist in Brazil and South America, they are hardly represented in the media.
@reem11 sounds like the movie "the purge".
1 year, 3 months ago on On The Death Of Christopher Lane
@Dandelion100 @mzsunshine @Elegance "You also brought up Snoop Dogg (or lion, cat, honey badger, whatever animal he's choosing to go by nowadays). "
^^I hollered at honey badger!lol thanks for the laugh
1 year, 4 months ago on Harriet Tubman Sex Video is Also a Slap in Face for Black Women/White Men Relationships
@LorMarie @Imani she goes by the name of Shanna Malcolm on Youtube. Brace yourself, her channel is full of ignorance.
the woman in the video is a Youtube 'comedian' and she is terribly annoying and a total mess. If you think this is bad, pls go see her channel. I'm not shocked she signed up for this. Basically she plays up the ignorant, fat, loud stereotypes to get viewers. And you know how people love laughing at ignorant, fat, loud BW. Don't they know non black people are not laughing with them but at them??
She calls her viewers McNigglets, has white friends who do skits with black faces and of course their favorite impersonations are the ghetto BW skits. I cringe every time I see her because she does a good job at acting ignorant. I wish people like her would stop doing this mess because it is not doing us any favors.
This is her with one of her friends who has on a black face:
As for Russel being involved, is anyone surprised??
Wow, amazing story!Brought tears to my eyes. Goes to show happiness can be found even in the darkest of times. I read Disney is making a film about her, I hope they pay her well for using her name/story and she gets enough money to go to school to pursue her dream of becoming a doctor. I had never heard of this young lady! Heart warming.
1 year, 4 months ago on Good News You Can Use: The Story Behind the New Book "The Queen of Katwe"
OT: But George Lucas and Melody just had a baby girl (via surrogate), congrats to the happy couple!
Now back to Oprah, I am glad the store is getting the backlash that they deserve. And it's laughable how the store owner is trying to save face smh. Why not admit and apologize, making excuses is only making the issue worse. I think Oprah handled it the proper way.
1 year, 4 months ago on How To Be A Strong Black Woman: Follow Oprah’s Example
@Elegance I agree with everything you said!I know people like to joke about WW tears, but crying is one of WW biggest weapon along with being soft, feminine and womanly. It doesn't mean they are weak, WW and other non BW just know the game and play it well. That is why they have men go above and beyond to open doors for the, save them, protect them, marry them and provide for them. Men are usually attracted to feminine traits and they know it. We have been know for being "strong" and "independent" for a long time now, hows that working for us?
And I would never want to date a man like the one in the video, who expects me to stand up for him, provide for him and all that mess. As a man, that is his job, not mine. I am a woman, I deserve to be loved, protected, have men open doors for me and be treated like a lady just like any other non BW out there.
1 year, 4 months ago on Do We Have To Get Rid Of The Strong Black Woman?
To me the strong BW image seems to do more harm than good. Everything is good if it is well balanced. The problem is the whole strong BW thing is off balanced when it comes to representing BW. We are seen as masculine, mean, untrustworthy, asexual, bitter and that is the last thing any woman wants to be associated with.
I think you can get your point across and stand up for yourself without using the strong BW stereotype. For example in your situation at the store, you weren't loud or aggressive, just firm enough to get your point across, which is probably why even the store clerk respected you and ignored the jerk of a bully. The situation turned out better than if you would have started hollering and cursing the bully.
I think it is time we as BW drop the strong sista soldier thing. It is not helping us at ALL IMO. Yes, one can be strong, but strength comes in different forms, not just masculine. Strength can come from being a good listener, politeness, kindness, patience, charm, intelligence. We need to play up these attributes instead of the usual asexual, loud aggressive ones we are sometimes associated with.
trust me there are very few roles in Hollywood for BW and most BW are just happy to get work period. I doubt they would turn down a role simply because they have to work with a WM actor.
Take for example the role of Olivia Pope. Every black actress knew they would be acting opposite a WM love interest and almost every black female actress wanted that role BADLY. Why?Because they knew it meant a steady pay check. Gabriel Union recently said how fierce the competition was for that role was and almost every black actress wanted it- because roles like that written for BW don't come everyday.Women like Viola Davis have talked about it, pls watch the Oscar Round table discussion where she says she gets turned down all the time because of the way she looks despite being a phenomenal actress. She is reduced to playing a maid and a mammy. Yet people like Zoe equate it to laziness.
I have friends in the industry who are BW actress so I see it first hand, it is cut throat and very tough because there are so little roles, especially if you don't fit the "exotic/racially ambiguous" look. Which is why most actresses like Rosario Dawson, Rae Dong and Zoe are quick to throw in the "I'm mixed, Indian, Latina etc" they are not stupid, they know it works to their advantage. It is the same with the story of the lady who changed her race on a job resume/internet dating profile from black to other/mixed and got more offers/replies. These things are real and it is sad when people pretend that the are not.
1 year, 4 months ago on Watch Zoe Saldana and Christian Bale in the First Trailer for 'Out of the Furnace'
@PaigeinPhilly @Uvo she said that most black actress who complain about racism in HW are simply lazy. That there is no racism/colorism and they need to get over it. It was something along that line. She doesn't want to acknowledge the racism/colorism simply because she is among the people who are gaining privilege from such a matter. She can play the I'm Latina/Dominican/racially ambiguous black girl card but not every actress can. I'm sure if she was on the other side of the coin, she wouldn't make such nasty remarks and discard other people's struggles as "laziness". She can deny it all she wants but it is the truth, there is a certain type of actress that is favored over others, that is why women like Rae Dawn Chong was mad at Oprah (who doesn't fit the type) for being more successful than her. Because society has told everyone for years girls who look like Zoe and Rae are the ones who fit the beauty standards, the ones who get the gf roles.
@DawnNadeau yea thanks, i needed a good laugh ^_^
@DawnNadeau I always laugh when people equate personal opinions to hating. I don't see any "hate" towards Zoe here. None of us know here know her personally and we have never claimed to. I am judging her based on the public comments she made as she judged other fellow black actress. If you can dish it out, then you should be able to take it back. It was not some personal attack on something she has no control over, it was based on her ignorant comments.
@Uvo Yep, it's usually the same old "safe" black actresses. I can't stand Zoe for some of her comments towards other black actresses anyways. Very disrespectful.
@Seenyc @uninterracial Yep, Wendi and her kids are set for life financially. She married well and her kids (and probably grandkids) will live off that for the rest of their lives.
1 year, 4 months ago on Another Rich and Powerful Man Grabs a Sistah--Former Chicago Mayor, Richard Daley's Main Squeeze
@uninterracial Wendi is not the only one. There's several other examples I can name of older rich WM dating non BW. That is just one example. Anyways, my point was that while he might be older, not exactly "hot", I am sure this man has a lot to offer to make the lady happy. He is well accomplished and probably very intelligent and brings a lot to the relationship. I am happy for them and wish them the best.
@uninterracial Well he is rich, powerful and successful so I can see why he can pretty much get any woman he wants. Its very common for such men to have PYT on their arms. Other races of women have no problem seeking out an older man who can be great provides (Wendi Deng anyone?) They are pretty shameless about it too. I don't see why BW can't either, he is not some bum, so he obviously has something to offer her that most men her age don't.
@thecrazyartist @sonyaaaaa Yep, and sadly his fanbase is probably majority black people including BW who he expects to go buy his mixtape because I am certain non black people are not checking for him smh
1 year, 4 months ago on This is one of the Reasons So Many White Guys Think Black Women are Off Limits.
@sonyaaaaa Good point about the movie Fruitvale Station. I also noticed his gf is a non BW but of course we BW are the ones who are expected to march to the cinema and support the film. Just like we need to support the likes of Reggie Bush and OJ. This is an on going circle, we have to support these men yet would they do the same for us? Seems like an abusive relationship, how many rappers (with non BW gfs/wives) have insulted and attacked BW yet we have to keeping capping for these men?ugh
Just recently I read a story of a Chicago rapper who set up a BW "friend" to be badly beaten up outside his apartment so he could video tape it to promote his mix tape. http://www.hotnewhiphop.com/king-louie-accused-of-setting-up-a-videotaped-assault-of-woman-for-publicity-news.6532.html
He even uploaded it on YouTube. Oh yeah, and he still signed on his record label, just like lil Reese, the other BW beater. I wonder if he would do this to his non BW gf? I doubt it!
My mother is always discouraging me from get married, especially when I'm in my 20's. What's interesting is that she is African. Most African mothers love their daughters to get married and start a family when they are still young.She got married and had kids when she was young (mid 20's) to my my father who I love dearly but still he has cheated on her and hurt her a lot and sometimes I think she secretly regrets her decision, hence she doesn't want the same thing to happen to me. So every second she mentions how I should never trust a man, be on my own, men ain't shit etc I would like to get married in my 20's and I fear what her reaction will be when I tell her I am getting married, she will probably flip out. All her marriage talk depresses me sometimes.
I think all this negativity towards marriage comes from fear (like my mom), especially if one has been disappointed (or watched a loved one be disappointed) so many times in terms of marriage and men. The interesting thing I noticed about WW is that they have no problem getting remarried. No matter how many failed marriages, they still go ahead and find love and believe in marriage. I hardly ever hear a WW pull the "I don't need a man" bull, they are wired from a young age, to marry and if they are pretty decent looking then they may even be taught to marry well.
1 year, 4 months ago on Why Do Some Black Women Consider Marriage "The Enemy"? Part II
@JustMyopinion12 @EnJay And she has a tendency of constantly throwing shade at her boyfriend's ex on twitter and instagram like a high school mean girl. Mind you when she started dating him, I believe he was still married, and she still mocks the mother of his children until now. I have heard she has a bad attitude.
1 year, 5 months ago on Rae Dawn Chong's Comments About Oprah Exemplifies Intra-Racial Hateration
Rae comes across as mean, bitter and very color struck and allegedly she used to claim everything but black.She seems to think she is superior especially in the looks department, especially compared to a "fat BW" like Oprah who has black features and cannot pass as racially ambiguous like a lot of black actresses/entertainers the media loves to put on a pedestal, so she is angry that Oprah is doing way better than her. In her eyes, she probably thinks she should be the one on TV, not Oprah.
SMH Nobody is even checking for you Rae so you need to go back to where you came from.While Oprah is no perfect, she has still accomplished a lot and she will go down as a legend, while Rae is just a nobody.
Aww beautiful couple <3
1 year, 5 months ago on Nenh & Ladi Trenh - Full Bloomed Blasian Love
I have a very similar story to share as @DeaElmi . I was bullied relentlessly in school, not just high school, but even college almost to the brink of suicide by none other but black girls, no other group of people has ever bullied me as much, or at least I don't recall. I had moved to college abroad and I thought since we were all black and from the same area so everything would be ok, gosh how wrong was I! I am very quiet and I mind my own business, I don't fight, I am not loud and these girls were vicious. It was only when I expanded my horizons, moved out and made non-black friends, started swirling that things settled down and now I am happy.
To be fair I did meet one black girl who I became close with, but she too was an outcast, she spoke good English, she was polite and concentrated in school and of course in the other girls' minds she was "stuck up".
And one sad thing I learned from studying abroad is that this mentality of "she is ignorant but doesn't represent me" doesn't work. Sorry to say, most people abroad see all black people as the same. They don't care who has done what. Sometimes you have to distant yourself because otherwise they will lump ALL black people together. One black person talks ignorant on TV, then they equate it to all black people- sad but true. You have to constantly prove them wrong.
1 year, 5 months ago on Do You Feel The Need to Distance Yourself from Other Black Women?
@Brenda55 @Bellatrix79 Their definition of not good enough= not Tony Goldwyn lol
1 year, 5 months ago on Kerry Washington Marries a Black Man, And Yet She STILL Remains the Embodiment of What BB&W Is About
Yeah, not the most credible source in the world. I'm not saying the guy is an angel but I wouldn't trust random sites. Some Kerry/Tony shippers despise Nnamdi and they are out for blood. There is no athlete out there who has no groupie/gay/baby mama rumors so I would take it with a grain of salt.
Also I think it's funny that some people think Nnamdi is not good enough for her because he is an athlete and *insert other excuses*, yet they have no problem pairing her with Tony Goldwyn, who has been married for like forever and is like 17 yrs older than her. Wtf? So an athlete is a step down but being a side piece is okay? smh,wheres the logic in that?
@BeautyIAM Also for some reason I cannot tag Erica lol so it looks like I am responding to only @BeautyIAM , don't know why :/
@BeautyIAM Look, its one thing to like certain actors together and write fun fanfiction (although thats not my thing either). But its a whole other thing when people start making conspiracy theories even after the marriage license has been released. Again you can read these fascinating theories on Tumblr.
Also I agree with @BeautyIAM Tony's wife has been dragged several time by these nutty fans. They call her ugly, old and all other terrible things. Some even tweet these things to Tony and his daughters to see. I mean if that is not signs of delusions then I don't know what is. People are too caught up in their feelings over these 2 actors . They need to step away from this whole situation and face reality. Its not real!!
Just go on Tumblr under the Kerry Washington tag, won't be hard to find.
They had a whole following, not the characters, but the actors as well. This just shatters the fantasy.
It's sad that some Scandal fans on Tumblr are claiming conspiracy theories regarding the marriage. That she doesn't love her husband (eyeroll) and that Tony and Kerry are the ones meant to be together. And they are serious too.Really? They can't wish her happiness because they are delusion from the show. Some are even quitting the show smh They can't separate actors and reality!
Also this guy is a catch- he is young and in his prime, unattached, educated with no kids. They would rather her be a mistress of Tony, an older, MARRIED man with two grown daughters (no offence to Tony- he is all hotness but still). My point is she is happy, she found a great man and that's all that matters. Its great that here people are genuinely happy for her =)
@uninterracial Ha!I think Kerry might get a little less hate now on various sites cause she has married a black guy. I have already seen some comments like "welcome back Kerry" lol
I'm just impressed at how secretive she was about the whole thing. Goes to show if celebs want to be private they can. Just like Janet Jackson.
1 year, 5 months ago on On Your Guard: The ‘Blacklash’ Has Begun. Violence Against BW/WM Couples and Families Trending.
@uninterracial I'm so happy for her. The marriage is random, but I am having a fan girl moment!I love Kerry so I wish her all the best in her marriage!
@Avoc42883 wow, I'm shocked that these things happen in places like London, Stockholm, Copenhagen, Amsterdam and Paris. For some reason I thought Interracial relationships was a common thing in Europe, even for BW/WM, so I'm shocked to hear this, very sad :(
@TotallyNotGangster Beyonce and Tina Turner if I am not mistaken.
1 year, 5 months ago on Black Women: How <em>BOLD</em> Are You? Steps to Show You How.
OT: But Kerry Washington is on the cover of Vanity Fair, good for her. I think she is like the 3rd BW to be on the cover ever. Good for her, she looks fierce <3
When reading through out this entire post all I kept think of was Naomi Campbell (minus the crazy temper of course)
I think this totally something that women do (regardless of race) but yes I do agree, sometimes I feel like as black people, we are pressured or taught to believe that the world is against us/we have to stick together/we have each others back. Just like when you walk into a room and see another black person and you are expected to acknowledge them, I guess it's the same with friendships. We are sorta led to believe that we have each others back, that as BW we "get" each other and we only want the best for other BW and vice versa. But unfortunately it's not always true.
I think the most dangerous types are not the people who openly show that they are not happy for your success and happiness (those are way too easy to spot). It's the sneaky ones who act like they genuinely care about you. I think we have had trolls like that before (here online and offline), who show up and act like they care and have your back only later do you realize that they didn't have your best interest at heart. For example when something good is reported about an IR relationship or a BW, they sometimes show up to show their "concern" (aka rain on people's parade) telling BW "don't get too excited", "you sound desperate" " how do we know it can happen to us" .They just try to break other BW's spirit and "put us in our place".
1 year, 6 months ago on All's Fair In Love And War: Swirl Edition, Interracial Dating Saboteurs
@Lannie She said that black actress always complain about lack of Hollywood roles and that there are enough jobs, so maybe they are just lazy and need to stop complaining because she doesn't complain and manages to find jobs just fine(thank you very much!). It was something like that. She needs to understand that she is currently the token black girl, soon, after a while she will get knocked off that position just Halle(who can barely carry a movie now) then realize how little job there really are in HW for BW and that her peers are not just "lazy". After all there can only be one at a time.I have never heard Kerry, Viola or even Naomi Harris bad talk their fellow black actresses when they became successful, nor do they complain. Zoe though is always talking smack in interviews. She also plays up the "I am latina" card to her advantage(when needed) because HW loves BW with a certain "look", the type that can pass as "other" to play romantic roles.
As a fan of films and someone who wishes that there were more diverse roles for BW, I think that was very slick of Zoe. She should just be grateful that she is where she is today.
1 year, 6 months ago on Zoe Saldana and Marco Perego Take Their Relationship Public in Italy
I have a love-hate relationship with Zoe, I used to think she was pretty until she opened her mouth. Some of the things she has said especially about her fellow black actresses has been very rude and disrespectful and she comes off as really smug (like Gwyneth Paltrow).
But anyways, Zoe has no problem dating out, she has always dated IR, I'm glad she goes with who ever she wants and not feel the pressure from black people cause she does get dogged out some times for her preference.
Congrats!This is my fav IR site <3
1 year, 6 months ago on We're Number One!! DatingAdvice.com Votes BB&W Top on the List of Interracial Dating Sites!
Lovely couple <3
1 year, 6 months ago on Swirling and Marriage - Andreas and Zani
@kia You touched on a good point about him being a wrestler and working out. Have people seen this guy? He is cut and fit and probably works out a lot to maintain his body for his wrestling "career", yet Jen can't do the same? Very strange indeed.
1 year, 7 months ago on Beware of Weight-Loss Haters! J-Hud's Fiancé Gripes that he Misses Her Being a Big'n.
@onmywayup Your friends probably hate the fact that you made them realize that they need to go work out too and do something for their health. Even skinny people need to work out, it helps to stay toned and have a nice butt (lol). I'm skinny too, but I have noticed that as I get older, I pack on the weight a little faster than when I was younger so it's good to work out although I do get faster results when I control my eating.
If I were you, I wouldn't listen to them at all.
Hahaha, ce.le.bitchy is a site full of hating ass WW. First of all they go in on any attractive young woman, or just an attractive woman period. If she is a woman of color it's even worse, just go look at the posts and comments on all Fassbender(who they worship) related topics and see what they say about his GFs and preference. They are true undercover haters so no wonder they are hating on Ms. Jen who probably looks way better than them! If you wanna see how passive aggressive WW can be read that site lol OK rant over
Anyways, I'm glad Jen lost the weight. Sounds David is feeling a little threatened that she looks better, she has more (better) options when it comes to mates maybe? He is no different than those "BFFs" who encourage you to eat and eat and eat just because they hate the idea of seeing you healthy. I had a friend like that, we go out, she tells to eat a lot more just so she doesn't feel sad about HER weight gain. No thanks.