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@trinigirl1 Need I say more?


No you don't. You both look like you're very much in love. You're a lovely couple.

14 hours, 52 minutes ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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Wow,  something as simple as a "wave over" hand gesture. I work in different emergency rooms around my county and sometimes I catch the clinical staff staring. I don't think the wave over would be appropriate in such a venue. I do smile at them, though.

22 hours, 42 minutes ago on OMG…Matthew Hussey Gives the Most BRILLIANT Advice on How to Get the Guy to Make a Move!

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Don’t date outside your race because you really just want a black man and you want to manipulate him into wanting you.It’s not likely to end well for you.


Thank you for this caveat.


Many of us swirl and it has nothing to do with black men.  They are not in the equation to why I prefer non-black men when it comes to dating.

23 hours, 22 minutes ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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@MarthaLankford She thought you were going to break out with the "bitter black woman" diatribe about how the brothas don't want us. I say kudos to to you for your quick response.

1 day, 17 hours ago on Listen Ladies! If You’re Going to Complain About How “Black Men Hate You” While Scoffing at Expanding Your Options…Then You’re Just Begging.

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ALL hail the Afro!!

1 day, 22 hours ago on SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: AfroPunk

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@bellechose Thanks for the tip. I'll be using it next time I apply eye shadow.:-)

1 day, 23 hours ago on Your Favorite Stars without Make Up…Don’t Be Afraid to Enhance Your Features!

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@UhuraLovesSulu  I would love to see an etiquette column.


I would as well. You've stated you were self-taught. Can you recommend any literature that was instrumental to you?

2 days, 17 hours ago on Open Thread: Brainstorm Session -The Forum

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All of them are nice.

2 days, 19 hours ago on Man Candy Monday: A Well Dressed Man

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@ShunJack @ibetnoonehasthisusername

I use eye shadowns from anyone...Mary Kay, Avon, Revlon...who ever has pretty colors


Me too

2 days, 19 hours ago on Your Favorite Stars without Make Up…Don’t Be Afraid to Enhance Your Features!

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@notchocheese1 There are just too many things I want to do with my time on earth than spend half of every morning applying this much makeup to my face.


AMEN!!!

2 days, 19 hours ago on Your Favorite Stars without Make Up…Don’t Be Afraid to Enhance Your Features!

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@The Working Home Keeper your skin is absolutely gorgeous and flawless

2 days, 19 hours ago on Your Favorite Stars without Make Up…Don’t Be Afraid to Enhance Your Features!

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I too, either play up my lips or eyes...rarely both. I try to refrain from wearing foundation especially here in Florida. Fortunately, I have a great complexion so it's just eyeliner, mascara and lipstick or gloss.


When I'm not working, I give my pores a break and go au naturel.

2 days, 19 hours ago on Your Favorite Stars without Make Up…Don’t Be Afraid to Enhance Your Features!

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People will show you who they are; we just have to be willing to see it. When I look back on my relationship with my ex-husband, he showed me exactly who he was with a freaking billboard before we were married but I REFUSED to see it. Sigh

3 days, 21 hours ago on On Vetting: How Men Run Game By Telling the Truth!

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Same here, at this stage in my life (the. Awakening) I have little tolerance for any shenanigans.

3 days, 21 hours ago on On Vetting: How Men Run Game By Telling the Truth!

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@dani-BBW @Keioni Great analysis, Dani. Also Savage was  responding to a question asked of him. I feel he has been quite transparent and forthright with his views on dating. I realized it's not everyone's cup of tea, I just personally enjoy reading how a non-black man entered into the world of swirling.

4 days ago on AAWG: SavageTango tells it. Why I Swirl.

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Savage, I always enjoy your perspective on things. LOL

4 days ago on AAWG: SavageTango tells it. Why I Swirl.

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This absolutely great news and I'm so excited about the new forum.

6 days, 13 hours ago on We Broke $5,000 in just THREE Days! Get Your “Troll Tears” Sippy Cup Today!

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Indulge in your femininity.

YES!!! There is nothing like embracing your femininity. I'm not talking solely about wearing dresses or makeup ; it's about exuding confidence and a healthy well being.

1 week ago on Just for Fun…What Makes a “Creature Like No Other?”

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Get plenty of sleep. Research shows metabolism and weight is tied to the the amount of sleep we get. Chronic sleep deprivation may cause weight gain by affecting the ways our bodies process carbs.


So plenty of sleep and rest is vital to our natural and unique beauty.

1 week ago on Just for Fun…What Makes a “Creature Like No Other?”

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It's his nephew, Tommy, a co-host on his show.

1 week, 1 day ago on Steve Harvey Has a New Dating Websites Aimed at ‘Teaching Women to be more DATEABLE’

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I like the purple hue. My issue with glitter make-up is the glitter seems to appear on other places on my face where it wasn't applied.


BTW, I love your necklace.

1 week, 1 day ago on Loose Glitter Makeup For Holiday Parties!

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I want to know when he is going to release  " Think like a man AND act like man"  edition for men (not holding my breath).

1 week, 2 days ago on Steve Harvey Has a New Dating Websites Aimed at ‘Teaching Women to be more DATEABLE’

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@Brenda55 BB&W is worth fighting for and supporting.  Absolutely!! Just like Scandal, BB&W has its gladiators, and we are behind fighting for the empowerment of black women.

1 week, 5 days ago on The Death of Beyond Black & White…

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@darkandlovely @mzsunshine @BWC Yes he did. The second chapter to this is the college had Open House where it allows the opposite sex to visit in the dorm rooms (  it's a Christian college, so there are strict rules regarding dorm visitation.) Some friends and I visited a room in which he was present..can't recall if it was his room or not.  I happen to be having a conversation with him when he just grabs me the waist and pulls me between his legs (he was sitting) up against his chest like we were dating! It took me by total surprise, not to mentioned I felt so awkward and humiliated. I'm thinking during the incident what the heck is he doing? We are NOT a couple. He NEVER asked me out. He NEVER came and visited me at the dorm. He NEVER acknowledge me other than a cursory greeting. I was able to slowly wiggle from his embrace, still feeling embarrassed.   It wasn't  until years later after visiting this blog and other black women centric blogs did I realize, he wasn't interested in dating me, he just wanted to"claim me" especially from the white ballplayer that was interested in me.

1 week, 6 days ago on From a Black Man’s Mouth: About All That Hate…

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Ditto to everything you said!

1 week, 6 days ago on From a Black Man’s Mouth: About All That Hate…

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@BWC I agree with everything you said. When I was in college a black football player who didn't give me the time of day, saw me wearing the college's team baseball cap. He knew there were no blacks on the baseball team , so he yells across the cafeteria "hey who's hat is that?" I was walking to dispose of my tray. just ignored him, but he just got louder; now everyone's attention is on him loudly demanding that I answer him. I never did. As I returned to my table his eyes followed me like a tractor beam where he saw an attractive white male waiting patiently for my return.  Oh yeah, this Negro only dated white women.


While there isn't credible research that I know of, this may explain why black males have a high divorce regardless of what race of women they marry.  It's about the conquest and not love.

2 weeks ago on From a Black Man’s Mouth: About All That Hate…

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You look absolutely stunning and thanks for sharing your makeup tips. I too, play down my lips when wearing eye-popping eye makeup.  

I was just at the Mac counter, wish I knew about the blending brush then.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Highly Pigmented, Color-Popping Shades…You Asked…All About BLEND Cosmetics.

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@Maxine No, I haven't heard of 6pm.com. I will check it out.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Fabulous Boots For Fall

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@KingsDaughter oh please share a pic when you are finished.  I love polka dots.







2 weeks, 1 day ago on QOTW: “Men Stare, But Don’t Make a Move. What Gives?”

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@EarthJeff I agree it is very feminine and therefore garners many compliments. While I personally believe you don't have to wear flowers and dresses to be feminine, I feel today's women don't embrace their femininity.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on QOTW: “Men Stare, But Don’t Make a Move. What Gives?”

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@The Working Home Keeper. I absolutely love your vintage style and blog. It has been an inspiration in how I dress and shop for many of my clothes.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on QOTW: “Men Stare, But Don’t Make a Move. What Gives?”

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@The Working Home Keeper He went onto compliment me about a bow I was wearing in my hair and said I looked pretty.


What is it about bows or flowers in the hair, that make people notice? When I adorn my afro with a flower, I receive so many compliments. The men say I look pretty or nice. The women straight out compliment the flower. And the gay men seem to go bonkers over it...at my last job the gay guy just had to touch it. Lol

2 weeks, 1 day ago on QOTW: “Men Stare, But Don’t Make a Move. What Gives?”

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@PinkkBalloons yes it is! I just bought an oxblood faux leather jacket, so those boots in oxblood would complement it.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Fabulous Boots For Fall

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Are you looking forward to buying new fall boots? Yes,  and this season I'm looking to purchase oxblood/burgundy boots. Last season I purchased a pair of prospectress boots and received compliments every time I wore them.

If I could find No.1 in oxblood, I'd be one happy girl.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Fabulous Boots For Fall

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..but I can see they’re still looking with my peripheral vision. I usually have to stifle a laugh when this happens to me. I want  so badly to say "dude, I.can.still.see.you.looking.at.me!!"


I agree with Chris, sometimes we are visually appealing to men and they are just enjoying the view. I've observed men checking out  women who they find attractive and no move was made...at least not in my presence.


To the letter writer I say this, you are your own billboard. You will have to strategically "place" yourself in settings where you are more approachable. By that, I mean by join campus clubs, academic societies or anything where you are engaging with people. If you are already doing that, then kudos to you, it's just a matter of time , because whether you know it or not you are being observed. So go out there and be you.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on QOTW: “Men Stare, But Don’t Make a Move. What Gives?”

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Awwwww, how touching...love both perspectives leading up to the airport reunion.. They are a gorgeous couple.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on John and Jenese–You Will NOT Want to Skip This!

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Christelyn, Your hair always looks great, no matter what product you endorse.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on I’m FINALLY Ready to Talk About Hairfinity. Does It Really Live Up to the Hype?

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Congratulations!!!

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Another BB&W is Getting Hitched!

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In observation the answer is yes and no. It has been white women who have celebrated my beauty the most, by that they aren't stingy with their compliments.


However,like any woman if they think you are competition for the pool of available men, then YES, they feel threatened.


I've just noticed the charge nurse where I work somehow finds her way into the conversation I have with this particular paramedic/ fire fighter. He's gorgeous. And the nurses and other female staff were discussing how female patients swoon over him. One of the patients even asked him for his phone number to set him up with her daughter.


So anytime the paramedic and me are talking and laughing she finds her way over to join the conversation. She doesn't do this when I'm engaged with other members of the staff.  She is married, older and over weight yet she seeks the attention of ALL the male paramedics And receives because she is their boss.


This particular paramedic seeks my attention without any provoking on my part, and I'm now sensing this bothers her.



2 weeks, 6 days ago on Video: Are Black Women Who Swirl a THREAT to White Women?

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@EarthJeff The bigger issue IS that black women are not fitting that stereotype or role that everyone else has predetermined for them..


Exactly!!! We are like no other that God has created. As was said in a previous post black women need to celebrate their uniqueness.

3 weeks ago on Video: Are Black Women Who Swirl a THREAT to White Women?

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@ShunJack I agree with regarding the Jay-Z and Solange elevator incident. A coworker at work said there was a video that ad libbed Solange saying she was swatting at a spider on him. It was meant to be funny, but what's so funny about domestic violence?

3 weeks, 1 day ago on Do We Give Female Domestic Violence Abusers a Pass?

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@Geekette221B  Bed Wenches United!


LOL!!

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Wake Up, Black Women! IRR “Permission” Is Never Coming!

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Chris, I love the "vetting"advice of this blog; so wish I had this advice when I was younger. Even more, I like how you included a non-black male in the mix since some commenters believe that you "white knight" white men on this blog.

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Three men who say they are “good.” Three types of men black women should stay the hell away from.

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