Livefyre Profile

Activity Stream

I'm ashamed to say that I once asked a stupid question of my gay coworker. I asked "why do some gay men like to date men who look and dressed like women"?  He bluntly stated he didn't know , that he liked his men masculine and walked off.


I then realized I was the heterosexual equivalent of "white people who ask black people stupid questions."

2 hours, 2 minutes ago on QOTW: “Help! My White Friends Ask My Black Girlfriend Dumb Questions!”

Reply

...a hot man is simply a hot man.


YES!!!!

2 hours, 20 minutes ago on Man Candy Monday: Lustful Arabian Knights of Hot Indian Men

Reply

Just read the article on intimacy...as a Christian, I agree 100%.

1 day, 3 hours ago on Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?

Reply

Dani, this is a great article loaded with applicable wisdom. I agree while there must be a physical attraction in the beginning, there has to be an emotional connection or true intimacy to have a healthy relationship.....something missing in my last marriage.

1 day, 3 hours ago on Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?

Reply

@Public123 @jdependance you are not playing a team sport. Pay attention to you OWN stats.


THIS!!


I attended a predominantly white college in the late eighties/early nineties and always was hearing negative stats regarding black people.

"Blacks were least likely to graduate..blacks were least likely to get hired...blacks were least likely to even get a job interview."  To be honest with you, i used to cringe when these stats regarding demographics were discussed in class because I usually was the only black student  and had to listen for hours how blacks were so undesirable in the work place.



However, this didn't deter me  from seeking a degree. It just meant I had to bring my A game which I did. I was hired on my first interview in a management position right after graduation ( praise God).  Lo and behold, many blacks especially black women are doing quite well in the global  job market place.


Public123 is correct that trends mean nothing, you decide for yourself your environment, presentation and criteria for dating. You jdependace hold the reigns to your destiny.


2 days, 18 hours ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

Reply

@Christelyn That is why this blog is needed....I'm almost in tears seeing how ALL the wonderful residents of BB& W are coming to the rescue of someone who is feeling somewhat unworthy. The words of encouragement are truly amazing!!!!


I've felt this way many of days and have come to to this site foe encouragement.

3 days, 2 hours ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

Reply

@trinigirl1 Thank you for sharing, so many of us didn't realize we were worth being love unconditionally in our younger years. While my mom loved me unconditionally, I didn't know what unconditional love from a man looked like.


I allowed  loneliness and  pride ( trying to save face) to keep me prisoner in a bad marriage.


I admire your great courage.

3 days, 2 hours ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

Reply

OMG, this article is timely. This morning I'm wearing my "fro" again after eight weeks in a protective style and I'm loving it.

I missed my natural hair so much...I'd receive so many compliments. Now I just need to update my profile pic.

1 week, 4 days ago on Open Thread: Does Being a Natural Make You Feel Like a Different Person?

Reply

I love the fuchsia, it's stunning on my dark-skinned sisters.

1 week, 6 days ago on Sirloins’ BB&W Babe Wednesday!!

Reply

@KalEl72 ..a man's skin color will not bring you validation and protection.



THIS!!!!! It must come from within, otherwise, you will be a prey to predators of any race.

1 week, 6 days ago on Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’

Reply

@Karla what an excellent analysis of her thought process.  I think she is still a "slave" to the black collective matrix.


I don't judge her, because at one time I was too, however I didn't have any struggles with my attraction to white men, I just felt they weren't that attracted to me.

1 week, 6 days ago on Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’

Reply

They're all "bloody" hot! 


Hey, Tracy can I suggest a Cowboy Man Candy Monday? I'm watching the Big Valley and the way that gun belt hangs on Nick Barkley (Peter Breck) hips...um, um, um.

1 week, 6 days ago on Man Candy Monday: Farewell True Blood Edition

Reply

I wondered what happened to Weird Al....now I know.

2 weeks ago on Hilarious Weird Al “Tacky” Has Aisha Tyler and Jack Black Acting Ridiculous

Reply

@Swirlgirl28 I have to agree with you, Swirlgirl28, this blog and other BWE blogs changed my life as well. There is nothing more profound then an "awakening".

2 weeks ago on It Started with Just a Few Voices, and Now a Cocophany: The Forces Speaking Up for Black Women Are Being Heard, and Some Folks are Scared

Reply

@bellechose I didn't think  I could give up sugary treats, now I have to watch out for hidden sugar.  It's hard but if you make it through the first three days of no sugar, your probably on your way to greatly diminishing your cravings.  

2 weeks ago on More Black Women Taking Up the Fight to Tackle Obesity

Reply

@QuiQui @mzsunshine no, just cutting out sugar and processed food. It's working lol

2 weeks ago on More Black Women Taking Up the Fight to Tackle Obesity

Reply

Okay, the lady in the gym has the body I'm trying to attain. I've just starte weight training and can see results, though minute.  I've also have"cleaned" up my eating. No more sugar, processed food and bought my first package of grass-Fed beef. After three grueling days of no sugar, I no longer have sugar cravings.


As for emotional eating, my triggers are stress and anxiety. When I received a letter from the IRS, I started to crave sweets and something salty, mainly chips. I literally had  to talk myself out of the carvings when I realized what was happening. I've read when you have cravings, your brain is looking for a reward, you know dopamine.


So, glad to see more black women are investing in their health.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on More Black Women Taking Up the Fight to Tackle Obesity

Reply

@SavageTango i have yet to abort a mission due to their presence.


LOL

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Caption This. ESPN, The Body Issue.

Reply

..Olive and coconut oil and of course water.

2 weeks, 3 days ago on Two Non-Bandwagon Products I’m Using to Keep My Locks Moisturized this Summer

Reply

Me too

2 weeks, 4 days ago on TBT: The Dukes of Hazzard

Reply

@MySmile You go girl! You look stunning!!!

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Sirloins’ BB&W Babe Wednesday!!

Reply

@Brenda55 Thanks, just purchased it.

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Our Favorite Interracial Romance Authors Made History This Week!

Reply

Wow, the last one with the flower in her hair is mesmerizing!

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Sirloins’ BB&W Babe Wednesday!!

Reply

@Swirlgirl28 I live in PInellas county and my observation is  a contrast to your commentary of the county. While there are more BM/WW couples, I've noticed an uptick in WM/BW couples.  I don't believe PInellas county is as swirl friendly as the Miami-Dade area but a BW can find love with a non-black man.

3 weeks ago on Interracial Friendly States, City by City, County by County!

Reply

I live in in central Florida, Weeki Wachee is very rural and may not be as swirl friendly as other parts of the Tampa Bay area.

3 weeks ago on Interracial Friendly States, City by City, County by County!

Reply

YES I AM

3 weeks, 2 days ago on July is My Birth Month! Countdown to 41!

Reply

@Justme65 girl, you are my shero!

3 weeks, 3 days ago on July is My Birth Month! Countdown to 41!

Reply

(Exhaling) Such a POWERFUL story, Ms. Bleu. I recalled a friend who wouldn't allow her son to hang out with the neighborhood boys, she kept him occupied in copious extra curricular activities. She wouldn't even allow him to ride the bus to school because she didn't want him to become part of the dysfunction of the "hood".


I salute Ms. Bleu and other mothers who are fighting the war on blAck male dysfunction to raise their children.

3 weeks, 5 days ago on One Black Mother’s Heartbreaking Story of Raising Her Son Amongst a Nest of Miscreants Intent on His Ruination

Reply

....JUST THAT IMPORTANT for black women to take charge of their health.


THIS, I totally agree. You look great, Christelyn and thanks for sharing your journey with us. I've just added weight training to my cardio since I've reached a plateau on my weight loss.


Your successful weight loss and "sexy" body has me seriously researching the Paleo diet as a weight loss option.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on July is My Birth Month! Countdown to 41!

Reply

Wow, another historic accomplishment by a black woman.:-)

3 weeks, 6 days ago on History Made: Michelle Howard Become Navy’s First Female Admiral

Reply

Congratulations, to a beautiful couple.

1 month ago on Another BB&W Reader Success Story! Remember April & Henry? They Got Hitched!

Reply

It looked like the whole block was having fun.  Christelyn, we understand your Number One job is that of wife and mom, no apologies needed. Get some rest.:-)

1 month ago on Valid Excuse? Why You’re Not Seeing a New Post Today…

Reply

I like the pic of her with her third husband , and to think she was almost eighty years old. LOL.

1 month, 1 week ago on Black American Matriarch Set Roots In New Zealand

Reply

@Brenda55 Get properly fitted for bras.


THIS!


I can't tell you how many times I've seen young women look "grandmotherly" with hanging breast due to I'll-fitted bras.

1 month, 1 week ago on QOTW: “Do Non-Black Men Like THICK Black Women?”

Reply

@lindsaynagle I think everyone should just work on being the best person you can be no matter what size you are. There is certainly someone out there who will love you for that.


I co-sign 100%!

1 month, 1 week ago on QOTW: “Do Non-Black Men Like THICK Black Women?”

Reply

I haven't read any of the comments yet, but I believe non-black men are like other men, they don't have just one "type" they prefer. This evidence by the above pics and my observation. Just recently a wm/bw couple moved into my apartment complex and she may be considered overweight by some. In other words, non-black men like women in sizes.


I agree with Christelyn, most men prefer "fit" women (not necessarily skinny) and in my personal experience as I stated to shed the pounds I noticed the double glances, and prolonged looks accompanied by a smile especially from white men.

1 month, 1 week ago on QOTW: “Do Non-Black Men Like THICK Black Women?”

Reply

Wow, absolutely splendid. He's gorgeous!

1 month, 1 week ago on Astrid & Maher “L’amore est eternal”

Reply

I grew up a military brat and attended predominantly white schools, so I have a strong attraction for white men. I've just recently made that public to my family.  My hairdresser asked me was I dating and said " I can see you dating a white man"  Hmmmm, I wonder what made her think that. LOL

1 month, 1 week ago on The Evolution of a Swirler: One Guy Tells His Story

Reply

This is my first year of watching the World Cup.....I have not been disappointed.:-)

1 month, 1 week ago on (Bonus) Man Candy Monday: World Cup Hotties!!

Reply

Wow, as much as I buy and eat tomatoes (fried green tomatoes are my favorite), I didn't realize they were God's version of Neosporin!

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Health Trivia: Why Every Cook Should Be Growing Tomatoes

Reply

This sounds sooooo intriguing. I'm now finishing a book and this novel may be part of my summer repertoire of books I plan to read.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Have You Checked Out Sienna Mynx’s Top-Rated Book, “Before Sunrise?” Here’s a Chance to Win One!

Reply

Thanks for the recipe. I've been trying to find a way to cook cabbage without adding pork.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Just As Good as Hair Vitamins: Why You Should Be (Growing) and Eating Cabbage

Reply