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I am actually suspicious as to how you found us and why you are here.

Me too, when I saw this in my email, I asked myself "which moderator is going to reply first and send him on his way" lol

Good job and thank you.

12 hours, 14 minutes ago on It Should Be a SIN for Women Like This to be Dateless!!

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There were a couple of young blonde White American women at the table next to us and they were just confused...just not understanding what had happened for the past hour.

Lol, I would have loved to see their faces.

15 hours, 22 minutes ago on SHARE: Dating Outside of the States

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@Windsinger @Andrealindy @ibetnoonehasthisusername True beauty of the soul attracts, an can turn a 'plain Jane' into an incredibly attractive person - because of their beautify personality and heart.


This is so true.

21 hours, 58 minutes ago on It Should Be a SIN for Women Like This to be Dateless!!

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Cool!

2 days, 15 hours ago on SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: Body Art

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Amazingly beautiful.....all of them.

2 days, 15 hours ago on SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: Body Art

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Nice pic..you are quite handsome. Your avatar does not do you justice.

2 days, 15 hours ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall

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Neil, thank you for sharing.  An amazingly adoring story of love across the pond.

2 days, 22 hours ago on Neil’s Story: The Overseas Wedding that (Almost) Never Happened

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Instead, try listening. Both ears open. Both eyes open. Take in, and empathize.


Yes!!!

3 days, 19 hours ago on My Strong Is <em>Not</em> Your Strong, My Swirl Is <em>Not</em> Your Swirl: On White Women Entitlement Issues And Epic Cockblocking

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Since you went on retreat, I find your columns more upbeat, positive and proactive.

I agree!

4 days, 18 hours ago on Leona’s Love Quest:  The ABC’s of Finding Love 

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@stephanie88 Beautifully said.  I wondered if she even watch the video because this is EXACTLY what Christelyn expounded on.

4 days, 22 hours ago on “Dear White Guys Who Like Black Women, Please Stop Saying This…”

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I love this video ! I will be showing it to my daughters. I like many black women HATE the "strong black woman" meme. I once tried to live up to the title which resulted in morbid obesity, hypertension, acid reflux and depression.  When I decided to shed that armour, I realized how contorted I had been emotionally, spiritually and physically. I'm so glad I did. Now I strive to be the woman God intended.....feminine, compassionate, and yes vulnerable at times.  I am looking to be affectionately pursued and desired..and that's unlikely to happen proclaiming to the world I AM A STRONG BLACK WOMAN!!!

4 days, 22 hours ago on “Dear White Guys Who Like Black Women, Please Stop Saying This…”

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@Swirlgirl28 @mzsunshine hehe, not much luck online ,better luck in person.

5 days, 11 hours ago on AAWG: Tell a white guy

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Tango, I like Rule #3.  Be a Man.  Be a Man with a Plan.  Be a Man of Action.  Be a Man of His Word.


A pastor at a concert I attended last night stated his buddy from 1st grade said "make a plan, work a plan" when he asked how he should ask his girlfriend(now wife) to marry him. So this post is so timely. A commenter once stated men are " purpose driven" which is why this theme of planning and taking action keeps recurring in discussions with and about men.


I'm definitely looking for a man of his word; honesty and integrity are very important to me when it comes to vetting for character.


Great article! Now try and find a way to get this to the white guys in the Tampa Bay area.

5 days, 15 hours ago on AAWG: Tell a white guy

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@caligirl94117 The world is ours and the only limitations are in our minds.


 I Cosign this 100%

6 days, 22 hours ago on From Uganda to Serbia, Rose Bugarčić’s Incredible Journey

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@trinigirl1 Need I say more?


No you don't. You both look like you're very much in love. You're a lovely couple.

1 week, 1 day ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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Wow,  something as simple as a "wave over" hand gesture. I work in different emergency rooms around my county and sometimes I catch the clinical staff staring. I don't think the wave over would be appropriate in such a venue. I do smile at them, though.

1 week, 1 day ago on OMG…Matthew Hussey Gives the Most BRILLIANT Advice on How to Get the Guy to Make a Move!

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Don’t date outside your race because you really just want a black man and you want to manipulate him into wanting you.It’s not likely to end well for you.


Thank you for this caveat.


Many of us swirl and it has nothing to do with black men.  They are not in the equation to why I prefer non-black men when it comes to dating.

1 week, 1 day ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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@MarthaLankford She thought you were going to break out with the "bitter black woman" diatribe about how the brothas don't want us. I say kudos to to you for your quick response.

1 week, 2 days ago on Listen Ladies! If You’re Going to Complain About How “Black Men Hate You” While Scoffing at Expanding Your Options…Then You’re Just Begging.

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ALL hail the Afro!!

1 week, 2 days ago on SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: AfroPunk

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@bellechose Thanks for the tip. I'll be using it next time I apply eye shadow.:-)

1 week, 2 days ago on Your Favorite Stars without Make Up…Don’t Be Afraid to Enhance Your Features!

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@UhuraLovesSulu  I would love to see an etiquette column.


I would as well. You've stated you were self-taught. Can you recommend any literature that was instrumental to you?

1 week, 3 days ago on Open Thread: Brainstorm Session -The Forum

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All of them are nice.

1 week, 3 days ago on Man Candy Monday: A Well Dressed Man

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@ShunJack @ibetnoonehasthisusername

I use eye shadowns from anyone...Mary Kay, Avon, Revlon...who ever has pretty colors


Me too

1 week, 3 days ago on Your Favorite Stars without Make Up…Don’t Be Afraid to Enhance Your Features!

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@notchocheese1 There are just too many things I want to do with my time on earth than spend half of every morning applying this much makeup to my face.


AMEN!!!

1 week, 3 days ago on Your Favorite Stars without Make Up…Don’t Be Afraid to Enhance Your Features!

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I too, either play up my lips or eyes...rarely both. I try to refrain from wearing foundation especially here in Florida. Fortunately, I have a great complexion so it's just eyeliner, mascara and lipstick or gloss.


When I'm not working, I give my pores a break and go au naturel.

1 week, 3 days ago on Your Favorite Stars without Make Up…Don’t Be Afraid to Enhance Your Features!

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People will show you who they are; we just have to be willing to see it. When I look back on my relationship with my ex-husband, he showed me exactly who he was with a freaking billboard before we were married but I REFUSED to see it. Sigh

1 week, 4 days ago on On Vetting: How Men Run Game By Telling the Truth!

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Same here, at this stage in my life (the. Awakening) I have little tolerance for any shenanigans.

1 week, 4 days ago on On Vetting: How Men Run Game By Telling the Truth!

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@dani-BBW @Keioni Great analysis, Dani. Also Savage was  responding to a question asked of him. I feel he has been quite transparent and forthright with his views on dating. I realized it's not everyone's cup of tea, I just personally enjoy reading how a non-black man entered into the world of swirling.

1 week, 4 days ago on AAWG: SavageTango tells it. Why I Swirl.

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Savage, I always enjoy your perspective on things. LOL

1 week, 4 days ago on AAWG: SavageTango tells it. Why I Swirl.

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This absolutely great news and I'm so excited about the new forum.

2 weeks ago on We Broke $5,000 in just THREE Days! Get Your “Troll Tears” Sippy Cup Today!

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Indulge in your femininity.

YES!!! There is nothing like embracing your femininity. I'm not talking solely about wearing dresses or makeup ; it's about exuding confidence and a healthy well being.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Just for Fun…What Makes a “Creature Like No Other?”

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Get plenty of sleep. Research shows metabolism and weight is tied to the the amount of sleep we get. Chronic sleep deprivation may cause weight gain by affecting the ways our bodies process carbs.


So plenty of sleep and rest is vital to our natural and unique beauty.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Just for Fun…What Makes a “Creature Like No Other?”

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It's his nephew, Tommy, a co-host on his show.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Steve Harvey Has a New Dating Websites Aimed at ‘Teaching Women to be more DATEABLE’

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I like the purple hue. My issue with glitter make-up is the glitter seems to appear on other places on my face where it wasn't applied.


BTW, I love your necklace.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Loose Glitter Makeup For Holiday Parties!

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I want to know when he is going to release  " Think like a man AND act like man"  edition for men (not holding my breath).

2 weeks, 3 days ago on Steve Harvey Has a New Dating Websites Aimed at ‘Teaching Women to be more DATEABLE’

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@Brenda55 BB&W is worth fighting for and supporting.  Absolutely!! Just like Scandal, BB&W has its gladiators, and we are behind fighting for the empowerment of black women.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on The Death of Beyond Black & White…

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@darkandlovely @mzsunshine @BWC Yes he did. The second chapter to this is the college had Open House where it allows the opposite sex to visit in the dorm rooms (  it's a Christian college, so there are strict rules regarding dorm visitation.) Some friends and I visited a room in which he was present..can't recall if it was his room or not.  I happen to be having a conversation with him when he just grabs me the waist and pulls me between his legs (he was sitting) up against his chest like we were dating! It took me by total surprise, not to mentioned I felt so awkward and humiliated. I'm thinking during the incident what the heck is he doing? We are NOT a couple. He NEVER asked me out. He NEVER came and visited me at the dorm. He NEVER acknowledge me other than a cursory greeting. I was able to slowly wiggle from his embrace, still feeling embarrassed.   It wasn't  until years later after visiting this blog and other black women centric blogs did I realize, he wasn't interested in dating me, he just wanted to"claim me" especially from the white ballplayer that was interested in me.

3 weeks ago on From a Black Man’s Mouth: About All That Hate…

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Ditto to everything you said!

3 weeks ago on From a Black Man’s Mouth: About All That Hate…

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@BWC I agree with everything you said. When I was in college a black football player who didn't give me the time of day, saw me wearing the college's team baseball cap. He knew there were no blacks on the baseball team , so he yells across the cafeteria "hey who's hat is that?" I was walking to dispose of my tray. just ignored him, but he just got louder; now everyone's attention is on him loudly demanding that I answer him. I never did. As I returned to my table his eyes followed me like a tractor beam where he saw an attractive white male waiting patiently for my return.  Oh yeah, this Negro only dated white women.


While there isn't credible research that I know of, this may explain why black males have a high divorce regardless of what race of women they marry.  It's about the conquest and not love.

3 weeks, 1 day ago on From a Black Man’s Mouth: About All That Hate…

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You look absolutely stunning and thanks for sharing your makeup tips. I too, play down my lips when wearing eye-popping eye makeup.  

I was just at the Mac counter, wish I knew about the blending brush then.

3 weeks, 1 day ago on Highly Pigmented, Color-Popping Shades…You Asked…All About BLEND Cosmetics.

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@Maxine No, I haven't heard of 6pm.com. I will check it out.

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Fabulous Boots For Fall

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