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@Brenda55 @Lili2009 @Alannah I rarely heard the word fetized until I visited interracial dating blogs. I usually would see the  term in connection to having an unusual attraction to a body part like feet.


I have to admit I even questioned if I was fetising white men but after careful evaluation of my attraction to them I came to the conclusion....Nope I just find them damn sexy!

1 day, 4 hours ago on QOTW: College Guy Asks, “How Do I Date a Black Girl?”

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....we want to feel pretty and feminine, we like compliments.


This is so true. Great advice, Christelyn.

1 day, 5 hours ago on QOTW: College Guy Asks, “How Do I Date a Black Girl?”

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@harem great advice because I've been trying to find ways to update my profile without paying for a professional.

2 days, 4 hours ago on Ask a White Guy: The Online Dating Quandary

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So glad to see that the blog mistress, decided to tap in your invaluable talent of "telling us like it is" writing.


Great writing and welcome to the inner sanctum.

2 days, 4 hours ago on Ask a White Guy: The Online Dating Quandary

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@321ZYX @RhondaSpeights @mzsunshine Most lobotomy-free people know that the term reality show is a misnomer.

2 days, 17 hours ago on Are Black Women Extra Clueless When White Men Approach Them?

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@RhondaSpeights I agree with your rant, lol just trying to give an example of the term "conventionally beautiful".

2 days, 22 hours ago on Are Black Women Extra Clueless When White Men Approach Them?

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@Daisy_inthe_Field The media, they have a "look" that they deemed to be the idea of beauty. I don't watch reality shows but most of the women, black and white shown during the trailers have a " cookie cutter" look.


If you're not vigilant, you can internalize this to mean this what men like aesthetically in women.  It's a gross generalization but accepted as fact by many.

2 days, 23 hours ago on Are Black Women Extra Clueless When White Men Approach Them?

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Christelyn, you forgot the disclaimer...DO NOT CONSUME FOOD OR BEVERAGES WHILE WATCHING THIS VIDEO (OH YEAH DON'T DRIVE WHILE LISTENING TO THE VIDEO).


And you may need take the babies to the doctor for a checkup because I'm pretty sure they are now suffering from Shaken Baby Syndrome!

3 days ago on Video: Sh$t Black People Say to Black Women to Keep Them Stuck in the Matrix

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Those like myself who are not considered conventionally attractive think that men find us boring. We, erroneously lump all men together and convince ourselves that men have a "type" (and of course we are not the type).

But, we are the type for some hot and hunky guy, we've just been brainwashed to think otherwise. When a cute guy is engaging me I have the tendency to ask him "are you talking to me???".

4 days, 2 hours ago on Are Black Women Extra Clueless When White Men Approach Them?

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@beneal you are so cute! and that smile. Please take notice of a guy when you smile because, you will be pleasantly surprised at the reactions you receive from men.

4 days, 5 hours ago on Are Black Women Extra Clueless When White Men Approach Them?

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Never underestimate super conservative environments. on the Black Female Interracial Marriage blog there are NUMEROUS pics of interracial marriages depicting WM/BW in the Mormon church.

I was pleasantly surprised.

5 days ago on Are Black Women Extra Clueless When White Men Approach Them?

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@SavageTango ha ha..I don't think so.

5 days, 5 hours ago on BB&W Writer Joins Tinder…Check Out the Results

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@SavageTango So far, there have been no "viable" returns on those online accounts.

6 days ago on BB&W Writer Joins Tinder…Check Out the Results

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..but I still think the best way to meet people is to 1)push back from the computer and 2)find the front door then 3) go the Hell outside and participate in life.


Yes!! I agree. I've been researching museums and historical venues to visit. I live in Florida and there are so many opportunities to get out and meet people, yet I've become a slave to my boring routine of work, eat and sleep ( the rinse and repeat syndrome). Sigh

6 days, 1 hour ago on BB&W Writer Joins Tinder…Check Out the Results

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I love the Blind Date Commentary with Brenda55 & SirloinBeef...lickin and lookin, lickin and lookin lol.

6 days, 3 hours ago on Two BB&W Fans Sitting in a Tree…Real Life Meeting on Two Regulars. Sparks?

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@DWB OMG those are gorgeous!

6 days, 5 hours ago on SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday:Foot Loose

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@DWB She has lovely feet!

6 days, 5 hours ago on SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday:Foot Loose

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@radioactive_kat Encourage your sister to have another yard sale just to lure him back.  This time give the green light (flashing).

1 week ago on Are Black Women Extra Clueless When White Men Approach Them?

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@tonyrog that's okay, he's excersing his options just like we are. 


#NOHATINGHERE

1 week ago on Man Candy Monday: The Blacker the Berry

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Looks have little to do with a man's charisma....

So True.

1 week ago on Man Candy Monday: The Blacker the Berry

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@Lili2009  you two are such an attractive couple. I love happy endings.

1 week, 1 day ago on Are Black Women Extra Clueless When White Men Approach Them?

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@FriendsofJay WW know how to give a guy a little encouragement.


THIS!!!


During my tenure at a predominantly white college in the south approximately twenty- plus years ago, this became evident to me. WW who were interested in "gettin with the brothas" would hang around BW because at that time we were the conduits to BM.


At the time I was a card-carrying member of the black collective, so after every sporting event on campus, I had to wait around and lift the brothas up whether they won or lost.  Guess who was right there with  US sistas...uh huh, those WW who had eyes for BM.


It wasn't long before you saw that particular WW hanging out with a brotha ALONE.  She made it clear to the BM inspite of the campus meme that if "a WW dates a BM, no WM will date her" she was interested in him.


Sometime in between hanging with BW and going to class, these WW gave BM the encouragement to approach them or they took the chance to approach BM. Anyway, Mission Accomplished.

1 week, 1 day ago on Are Black Women Extra Clueless When White Men Approach Them?

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There is something sexy about Don Cheadle especially since I'm not attracted to most black men. He definitely is very underrated as an actor, he should have been awarded three academy awards by now.

1 week, 1 day ago on Man Candy Monday: The Blacker the Berry

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Wow, I'm so excited..and yes who said Black women can't or won't help each other?


#blackwomenunited

1 week, 1 day ago on Heard of “The Swirl World” Yet?

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I watched and loved Mork and Mindy as a teen...loved him in Mrs Doubtfire. He will be sorely missed.

1 week, 1 day ago on Open Thread: Share Your Favorite Robin Williams Moments

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This is so sad, can you imagine how many dark-skinned girls are going to internalize this hate?

I have a dark-skinned granddaughter and am obsessed with protecting her from such nonsense. Of course, I can't protect forever but her mother (my daughter) and I are making concerted efforts to prepare her for when she does have to face such stupidity.

1 week, 2 days ago on Blackistani Light Skinned Privilege: Aren’t You Glad You’re Free of It?

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@SirLoinDeBeef I don't see myself being a vegan or vegetarian.  I try to modify these different diets (Paleo, vegan, vegetarian, flexitarian) to my liking but have yet to embrace them completely. Anyway, I love meat too much and don't plan on giving it up in this lifetime.

1 week, 4 days ago on Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?

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@Lady Cheetah you are so right about buying more vegetables. I found a great produce place or as some say...a. farmer's market to purchase my fruit and vegetables.

1 week, 4 days ago on Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?

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@The Working Home Keeper thank you so much!!!

1 week, 4 days ago on Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?

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Could I be a vegan for most of the day? I don't know... I would need resources on recipes and variety of foods allowed on a vegan diet. While I've cleaned up my eating ( eliminating sugar, breads, processed foods, most dairy) it's challenging to find a variety of recipes to keep me motivated.


Does anyone have any suggestions?

1 week, 4 days ago on Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?

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@Brenda55 19 pounds down since May? That's fabulous!


I too, am finding it challenging to find a variety of breakfast meals.:-(

1 week, 4 days ago on Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?

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@Yorkshireman in Michigan Now I have the 2 best things in life God and a black Queen.


Yes,you're truly blessed.


I have God and still searching for my white King. Lol

1 week, 5 days ago on #OnlineDating Success…She Made the First Move.

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My flight to freedom began when I realized I deserved better. I removed myself from a toxic marriage and distanced myself from relationships with family members that were exhausting to maintain.

On my way to freedom, I ran into this site, and other than God's Word it has been such an inspiration to me.

I know the flight to freedom is a life long journey because there are so many areas of my life that need liberating but with help of God and His Holy Spirit I know it's a journey I don't have to travel alone.

1 week, 6 days ago on Ready to Flee to Freedom? Tips to Get You on Your Way…

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@The Working Home Keeper I agree, I remember that letter vividly. I'm thankful for my  mother who for the most part encouraged her daughters to go and conquer the world. She always said she wanted a better life for ourselves than she had. She stressed how we should get an education and marry well despite the fact she was a divorcee with a high school degree.


To me she was the epitome of courage and strength yet very much feminine. I in turn am trying to instill in my daughter to make good life choices so they can live a peaceful, prosperous, abundant life.


To the letter writer, Christelyn advise is right on..you have to be RESOLUTE to live your OWN life!

2 weeks, 1 day ago on “Help! My Mother is a Mammy, and Resents My Desire for a Nicer Life Than Hers!!”

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Oooh, number three with the green eyes and number eight. Can we also say Sean Connery and Patrick Stewart!

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Man Candy Monday: Big Bald Head and Those With Coiffed Beards

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@dippedingodiva it simply means I have quality options and I exercise my right as a black woman to choose whatever non-black man I want to date.


I agree 100%!!! Very well said.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on New Anti-Swirling Meme: “How Can You Oppose Racism And Be Attracted To White Men?”

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Awesomeness...Chile is one the top ten destinations I want to visit.

3 weeks ago on Guest Writer: A Black Girl’s Guide to Studying Abroad in Valparaiso, Chile!

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I'm ashamed to say that I once asked a stupid question of my gay coworker. I asked "why do some gay men like to date men who look and dressed like women"?  He bluntly stated he didn't know , that he liked his men masculine and walked off.


I then realized I was the heterosexual equivalent of "white people who ask black people stupid questions."

3 weeks, 1 day ago on QOTW: “Help! My White Friends Ask My Black Girlfriend Dumb Questions!”

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...a hot man is simply a hot man.


YES!!!!

3 weeks, 1 day ago on Man Candy Monday: Lustful Arabian Knights of Hot Indian Men

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Just read the article on intimacy...as a Christian, I agree 100%.

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?

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Dani, this is a great article loaded with applicable wisdom. I agree while there must be a physical attraction in the beginning, there has to be an emotional connection or true intimacy to have a healthy relationship.....something missing in my last marriage.

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?

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@Public123 @jdependance you are not playing a team sport. Pay attention to you OWN stats.


THIS!!


I attended a predominantly white college in the late eighties/early nineties and always was hearing negative stats regarding black people.

"Blacks were least likely to graduate..blacks were least likely to get hired...blacks were least likely to even get a job interview."  To be honest with you, i used to cringe when these stats regarding demographics were discussed in class because I usually was the only black student  and had to listen for hours how blacks were so undesirable in the work place.



However, this didn't deter me  from seeking a degree. It just meant I had to bring my A game which I did. I was hired on my first interview in a management position right after graduation ( praise God).  Lo and behold, many blacks especially black women are doing quite well in the global  job market place.


Public123 is correct that trends mean nothing, you decide for yourself your environment, presentation and criteria for dating. You jdependace hold the reigns to your destiny.


3 weeks, 3 days ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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@Christelyn That is why this blog is needed....I'm almost in tears seeing how ALL the wonderful residents of BB& W are coming to the rescue of someone who is feeling somewhat unworthy. The words of encouragement are truly amazing!!!!


I've felt this way many of days and have come to to this site foe encouragement.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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@trinigirl1 Thank you for sharing, so many of us didn't realize we were worth being love unconditionally in our younger years. While my mom loved me unconditionally, I didn't know what unconditional love from a man looked like.


I allowed  loneliness and  pride ( trying to save face) to keep me prisoner in a bad marriage.


I admire your great courage.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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