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I'm loving these posts on make-up. Christelyn, you're making me rethink my ban on fake eyelashes. Still debating.......anyway as always you look stunning.

5 hours, 14 minutes ago on Day Two of the Vice 3 Palette: “New Mexico Sunset”

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@jazzyfae45 Isn't the whole point of marriage is to STAY married in the first place????


PREACH!

1 day, 17 hours ago on Propaganda Ramping Up On Black Women Dating and Marrying Interracially

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Help a Hoe charity.. LOL

1 day, 17 hours ago on Propaganda Ramping Up On Black Women Dating and Marrying Interracially

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Congrats, Matthew on your 180 degree turn to a healthy lifestyle.

4 days, 17 hours ago on Matthew’s Weight Loss Journey: “I Was Living a Lie…”

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I really the " less is more" look. Christelyn, your face is flawless.

4 days, 17 hours ago on Creamy, Smooth, Holiday-Photo-Ready Skin and Make Up!

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I like #1. Being able to accept failure as part of the process.  I have to admit I'm not looking forward to spending the holidays as a single woman again. It's hard not to be envious of those who are fortunate to have found love.  


Leona, are such a brave woman. Thanks for sharing such intimate moments in your quest for love.

5 days, 17 hours ago on Leona’s Love Quest: Taking the Fear out of Relationship Failures

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Christelyn, I feel for you AND my prayers are with you. I have a twenty four year old daughter who too, is 150 pounds over weight. Her primary doctor has suggested she lose weight before the chronic diseases related to obesity take hold but to no avail.  I realize that the eating is a symptom of something deeper.....I just don't know what.

6 days, 16 hours ago on Obesity Wins Again. My Half-Sister Is Dying.

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@MizzCinderella I am an emotional over eater and have a food addiction that many people cannot understand.


Many of us understand, because we are still struggling with the addiction.  Two coworkers noticed the Excel spreadsheet on my computer chronicling my calorie intake for the day and asked me about it. I told them I record my calories to help me lose and maintain my weight. I could tell by expression on their faces and the awkward silence they didn't understand, and one is obese herself. I've resigned myself to the fact my food addiction will be a lifetime time struggle.

6 days, 16 hours ago on Obesity Wins Again. My Half-Sister Is Dying.

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@Cami2210 @mzsunshine I agree that the inner city culture encourage girls to fight.


It brings to a time my female cousin in Detroit pointed to girl we saw afar off and told me how she was jumped by a group of girls just because she thought she was "cute".  The culture deemed it acceptable for this girl to be assaulted just because others were jealous of her...and my cousin co-signed this behavior by the way she presented the victim as someone who needed to be put in her place.

1 week ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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@Cami2210 @mzsunshine We understood the aggressiveness was the result of coming from a violent home but non-black females come from abused homes as well yet this hyper-aggressiveness is not observed among them, at least not more so than the males.

1 week ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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@ole'skool I had never seen anything like this prior to working in those settings.


Me too. That's why I brought it to the attention of the seasoned educators, and they had no explanation at that time.

When I was attending middle school, the boys were the aggressors or bullies. It was the boys you gave wide berth to in regards to avoiding violence.

1 week ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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I remember working in the public school system,and each school professional had to do lunch monitoring on a rotation. I was totally aghast at the aggressiveness of the black females and this was middle school!

They were more aggressive than males, and the vile that spewed from their mouths would rival a sailor' s.  The black educators and supporting staff would sometimes quietly and secretly talks among ourselves about this phenomenon.  Seasoned educators were baffled as to the reason why the black girls were so angry and aggressive. We knew many of these girls came from abused homes, but so did many of the boys.  It was quite sad because I believed the hyper-aggressiveness was reaction to feeling helpless in other areas of their lives.


1 week ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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She told me after she had prayed; she knew the magic she was looking for was right in front of her if she just opened her eye.


Priceless!!

1 week, 2 days ago on Jim’s Story: He Was Never Going to Be Her ‘IBM,’ But…

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@MariaAm same here

1 week, 3 days ago on Open Forum: What’s the deal McNeil?

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@zipporah @mzsunshine absolutely! The correct interpretation of the Bible requires BOTH men and women to refrain from having sex before marriage.

1 week, 4 days ago on Latest Foot-In-Mouth Cuisine Highlights How the BC Blames Black Women for Everything.

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@mlank64 @mzsunshine  Yeah...he's looking for a pure girl so he can cheat on her later. 


Exactly! And when the young lady seeks counsel in the church about her wayward louse of a husband, that same pastor or deacon will tell her to "stay and pray".  

1 week, 4 days ago on Latest Foot-In-Mouth Cuisine Highlights How the BC Blames Black Women for Everything.

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I've heard similar misogynist views before in a traditional black church I attended during my freshman year in college. The pastor or deacon was admonishing the young ladies to keep "pure" (no sex) because when a man is looking for a wife he isn't going to the bar to find her but the church. 


Interpretation: When a man is finished sowing his oats and ready to settle down, you best be a virgin so you will be the lucky one to be chosen as his wife!


I did put up deuces and left that congregation.

1 week, 4 days ago on Latest Foot-In-Mouth Cuisine Highlights How the BC Blames Black Women for Everything.

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@_Toni_ That was very creepy and wrong. :/


Yes!!

1 week, 4 days ago on So…I Got Accosted In Cancun…

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Glad to have you back. The. Dish looks. Delicious!

1 week, 5 days ago on Chef Bob: Individual Beef Wellingtons

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How I hate reality shows of any kind.

1 week, 6 days ago on I’m Taking a Hard Line. Either You Are With Us, Or You Are Against Us.

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Great advice Chris and I'm so thankful for sites like these. It's evident many of our young black women need encouragement about their desirability. We all need encouragement in some areas of our lives. The letter writer needs to stay away from toxic sites and people. As already stated visit the many BWE sites available.

2 weeks ago on QOTW: “How Do I Stop Believing I’m Undesirable?”

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@thecrazyartist I noticed drinking heavily undo many black women as well.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Ageless Advantage’

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Fairer skinned women are Sun worshippers. They worship the sun as young as twelve laying in the sun for hours. They must have forgotten how animal hide was processed in the olden days.  Maybe they are thinking white privilege will give them a pass.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Ageless Advantage’

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What a lovely lovely couple!


Agreed

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Justin and Krystal – 18th Century Class and Elegance

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@SavageTango @mzsunshine Oh yeah, don't forget that Southern Comfort.  Wave it around and taunt the people on the beach and let them see what they are missing.


This stunt could get someone arrested. Lol since I don't like alcohol, Coke Zero will have to do.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on AAWG: Wow her with your Whiteness by Savage Tango

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You look great. I hope you take a "real" break meaning no BB&W until you get back. We have the moderators (wink) to keep us occupied while you and hubby enjoy the sun.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Off to Cancun…

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A coworker visited the. Viking museum. Is that museum in Norway? Or do all Scandinavian countries have one?

2 weeks, 4 days ago on SHARE: Dating Outside of the States 2. Gems from the Thread

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I like the canoe picnic on the lake. I've gone canoeing in the Ozarks, the scenery breathtaking. I'm planning to go on my first kayaking trip to see the sea cows...manatees. you never know I may meet my future rainbeau, hehe.


The beach and bonfire would be my next choice but my county doesn't allow alcohol on our beaches.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on AAWG: Wow her with your Whiteness by Savage Tango

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He says I should give him time to think and talk about culture and stuff.


Errrrr what does stuff include? How much time is he requiring? Like Christelyn said there are just too many  men out there ready to swirl. He is definitely not an Alpha man. Alpha men know what they want and pursue it without doubt or distraction.  MOVE ON!

2 weeks, 5 days ago on On Vetting: When a Guy Expresses Doubts About Interracial Dating…

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I love to see black women thriving outside the box. She is definitely the antithesis of usual black candidate....very democratic...very liberal.  I'm sure many people including black people are saying "this does not compute".

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Mia Love Elected for Congress!

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I'm looking forward to her quest for love.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Honest Question: What Do Folks Expect Quality Black Women to Do? Shrivel Up and Die?

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I'm glad you had pics with the father included. All the mothers are beautiful. 

2 weeks, 6 days ago on SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: Madonna

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@darkandlovely @PamelaFoster @caligirl94117 Unfortunately, being overweight is not a safeguard against rape.


So glad you brought this up. In Florida there is a high incidence of sexual assault against the elderly, of course this is due to the high percentage of elderly in the state.  Predators are not seeking the attractive, they preying on those they perceive to be vulnerable.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on So…Street Harassment is Important Now That White Women Are the Focus?

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I remember an exchange student from. Finland and have wanted to visit ever since along with Denmark. Sweden and of late Iceland. We had a post about Iceland earlier this year which stoked my desire to travel internationally.

I liked that the flight from. New York to Iceland is approximately four hours. I get anxious and restless on long road trips so four hours on plane doesn't seem daunting.

3 weeks ago on SHARE: Dating Outside of the States 2. Gems from the Thread

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Nothing will make a situation seem as threatening as a white woman being victimized by a black man.

This is very true. The ultimate victims in our society are always white. The ultimate predators black, specifically black males. I've noticed lately how predatory BM have been portrayed in television. I can recall two shows where the police needed a witness or suspect to cooperate and threatened to put them in a cell with a big beefy BM who made sexual innuendos toward them. It's like the black males are portrayed as even a threat to white men in regards to sexual violence.

3 weeks ago on So…Street Harassment is Important Now That White Women Are the Focus?

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@melissamak007 @mzsunshine She no longered delivered babies due to the high cost malpractice insurance.


But yes she delivered wisdom. She was a no-nonsense type of health professional. I sensed she was tired of hearing young women feign naivete about being pregnant with the availability of birth control.

3 weeks, 1 day ago on I’m Beginning to Think that Many Black Folks are Contented in Dysfunction.

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@BrownZara 


Not offended at all because I've experience this somewhat as a military dependent. My father had the option of staying  for an extra tour in the Philippines or coming back to the United States.


I told my parents I wanted to go back to the U.S. I can recall my mom saying there would be no more live in maids, yard boys as they were called, custom made clothes from the local town seamstress and other amenities  provided by cheap labor that most Americans could afford. Americans basically lived as royalty in this developing country.


Also, a co-worker who lived in Saudi Arabia ( she was married to a Saudi )under their strict sharia law told me while she witnessed women getting beat publicly for violating the law, she went unscathed when she drove or went unescorted by a male relative because she was an American. 

3 weeks, 1 day ago on SHARE: Dating Outside of the States 2. Gems from the Thread

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@pyrrhicvictorylap @mzsunshine you are correct. I should included the Netherlands...and to think I'm from Michigan where they have the tulip festival in Holland, MI.


If you are from Holland, I apologize because I hate when people think Mexico is not part of North America.

3 weeks, 1 day ago on SHARE: Dating Outside of the States 2. Gems from the Thread

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@pyrrhicvictorylap @mzsunshine you are correct. I should have said  the Netherlands as well. 

3 weeks, 1 day ago on SHARE: Dating Outside of the States 2. Gems from the Thread

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@Karla f  But to say it's an "accident" because you had consensual sex and consciously didn't use birth control?  No bueno. 


Exactly.


I remember the midwife asking my teenager daughter was her pregnancy planned. My daughter answered no. The midwife then asked her had she used birth control. My daughter again answered no. The midwife then said "if you didn't use birth control, then this is a planned pregnancy."  The silence after her statement was deafening.

3 weeks, 1 day ago on I’m Beginning to Think that Many Black Folks are Contented in Dysfunction.

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I, too am interested in travelling abroad. My years as an Air Force brat has allowed me to have a global view and an appreciation for other cultures. I lived in Japan and the Philippines giving me an appreciation and love for Asian food i.e. fish head soup, lumpia, kimchi.


I get so excited reading about the traveling adventures of many of our commenters. I'm starting to feel the itch of the dormant travel bug within me. Top on my list is the Scandinavian countries (Denmark,Holland, Sweden) followed by Italy, Spain, and Australia...I heard white water rafting is awesome down under.

3 weeks, 2 days ago on SHARE: Dating Outside of the States 2. Gems from the Thread

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I am actually suspicious as to how you found us and why you are here.

Me too, when I saw this in my email, I asked myself "which moderator is going to reply first and send him on his way" lol

Good job and thank you.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on It Should Be a SIN for Women Like This to be Dateless!!

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There were a couple of young blonde White American women at the table next to us and they were just confused...just not understanding what had happened for the past hour.

Lol, I would have loved to see their faces.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on SHARE: Dating Outside of the States

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@Windsinger @Andrealindy @ibetnoonehasthisusername True beauty of the soul attracts, an can turn a 'plain Jane' into an incredibly attractive person - because of their beautify personality and heart.


This is so true.

3 weeks, 4 days ago on It Should Be a SIN for Women Like This to be Dateless!!

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Cool!

3 weeks, 6 days ago on SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: Body Art

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