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He's 10 years my junior----but he's a hottie for sure.  Maybe I should move to California?

1 year, 9 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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This is an excellent and well researched piece about Black Nerds.  (And I'm not only saying that because I'm in it).  I really feel like that there is a cataclysmic shift in Black culture that is happening right now.  African Americans openly defining themselves as "Blerds" or "Black Nerds" is a part of this shift.  The stereotypes associated with us are finally breaking down and the idiosyncratic behaviors that are associated with ALL of us are starting to finally emerge from the fold.  I'm currently doing my own research to learn more about the AfroPunk culture movement (which has been around for quite awhile), but I am intrigued to know about the lives of black female skateboarders, surfers, and other extreme sports that the mainstream would either dismiss or assume that black women are not a part of.  Thanks for sharing this article and continuing the conversation about Black Nerds....and most especially BLACK FEMALE NERDS.  Let's be honest....there are hundreds of thousands of us out there that exist.  I used to think I was the only one, now I know for sure, that there are nations of us.  This is not only an American concept....its global.  I get so much feedback from women about my blog from Africa, Europe, and South America!  

 

So thank you again Jamila, Christelyn, and the BBW crew for this piece.  It's an honor and a pleasure to be within your company.

 

Huggz N Luvz,

Jamie

1 year, 10 months ago on "Blerds": The Rise of the Black Nerd Movement

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Thanks for writing this article.  You and I sound like the same exact person.  I actually wrote an article similar to this subject on my blog about solitude.  I relish in it!  I am DEFINITELY and introvert and there was a time, that I tried to pretend to be an extrovert by foolishly drinking myself into a downward spiral just to make friends.  Thanks for posting this, because I think many black women out there need to know that there are many of us introverted shy awkward black girls out there, that prefer to spend our Friday nights reading a good book or watching a program on the Discovery channel, rather than free before 11 at the club. 

1 year, 10 months ago on Romancing an Introvert: Striking Up a Conversation

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Hmm....I don't have a clue just yet as to who shot Fitz, but it's quite obvious that the First Lady is behind it.  I just can't figure out whom she's conspired with.  It may be a character who has not yet been introduced to the show.  

 

I'm also loving the voting machine scandal storyline!  Someone is about to get busted!

 

Okay...is it just me or does Harrison need a hookup?  Every other employee of Olivia Pope's firm (including the creepy Huck) has had a hookup on the show, yet he gets no love!  He is too fine to not have a girlfriend.  He needs to get "boo'd" up soon!  :)

1 year, 10 months ago on "Scandal" Spoilers, Updates and Commentary...HERE!

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I look forward to your future posts.  I mentioned in your last post that I plan on getting the book and I'm reading it now!  I just finished the chapter about the Jezebel, Mammy, and Sapphire stereotypes.  I'm really excited about this conversation and I really encourage readers of this book to buy or borrow the book.  It's an exciting read and explains so much about the images we see on TV, Film, Print, and Social Media.  

 

I would also add that the Jezebel stereotype is heavily perpetuated in the music industry and that there is a major disparity between the depiction of White women and Black women in the music industry.  Somehow or another Black women are painted with a broader brush in terms of hypersexuality than Whites and it goes all the way back in a historical time that we all would like to forget.  Reading this book thus far it slowly bringing the pieces together about Black female stereotypes and I'm encouraged to travel on this social commentary journey with you as you continue your four part series.  Keep up the good work and thanks for sharing this!

 

J.

1 year, 10 months ago on Commentary on the Crooked Room: Melissa Harris-Perry Reveals the Jezebel in All Her Glory

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Jenn I absolutely love this post and now I have to go on Amazon and download that book ASAP!  MHP and your commentary is absolutely right!  We suffer from our "tilting" in the "crooked room".  I also believe it goes beyond physical appearance as you articulated wonderfully in your piece.  I believe what I personally refer to as "wearing social masks" is what many of us have done for centuries to stay in alignment with the status quo.  What I mean is, we try to fit within the confines of a world that chooses to define us in a specific way to suit the needs and acceptance of others.  It took me a long time (not until I hit my 30s) that I realized I was not being my authentic self in the world.  That I was living a life of trying to be somebody I was not, just because society said it was "cool".  It wasn't until I endured a season of solitude (I moved out on my own with no roommates, no live-in boyfriend, and lived alone) that I was actually able to find myself.  

 

This can overflow into so many areas of our lives the idea of solitude.  I think that the "crooked room" theory applied to external influences in our environment that dictate how we should walk, talk, speak, act, etc.  A human being cannot truly know who they are until they have learned to live and love themselves by themselves.  That's part of the reason why I created my blog because I wanted to put out to the world that I am proud of who I am and I don't care what society thinks about that.  

 

Thank you for posting this and I'll be sure to get that book.  There may be more interesting content that I may still need to learn in this process of growth.

 

Huggz N Luvz

J.

 

 

 

1 year, 11 months ago on Commentary on the Crooked Room: Melissa Harris-Perry Shines a Light On How Perception Affects Black Women

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Love it. As an ignorant American, I must say, I've never seen a black woman speaking fluent German before.

1 year, 11 months ago on Watch this Short, Award-Winning Film on Interracial Relationships in Germany: Schwarz Weiss Deutsch

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I totally feel you on this one Jamilla. Now I haven't been rejected by a guy because of my financial status (yet), but I have been rejected because of his. Let me explain: I had 2 situations one guy white and the other wad black. The white guy on our first date took me out for coffee and wanted to take a walk downtown and that was the extent of our date. When I called him to setup a 2nd date and perhaps do dinner at a restaurant instead, he came up with a lame excuse and I never heard from him again. He mentioned many times during our coffee date about his financial income and its lack thereof, but I didn't let that faze me---but I guess it bothered him. As for the black guy, we didn't even make it to the first date. His issue was that he didn't have a car and even though we had great talks over the phone and texted each other constantly, he still couldn't muster up the courage to ask me out. I finally decided to take the initiative and ask him out for pizza at a local place. He said yes, and I got stood up at the last minute---another lame excuse. So I'm not sure what the deal is, and frankly I'm pretty broke myself, but finances do play a major factor in dating for sure.

1 year, 11 months ago on Jamila: "He said I was too broke to be in a relationship."

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@Jamila Now I'm sad again. So previous college students are left hanging out to dry? Boo-hoo.

1 year, 11 months ago on President Obama just made it easier for you to earn an advanced degree (including an MBA!)

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This is great news! It's a tragedy how much debt is facilitated by private student loans. Biggest regret of my life was taking out unsubsidized private loans. So in 20 years all is forgiven??? Hmmm...only 14 more years to go!

1 year, 11 months ago on President Obama just made it easier for you to earn an advanced degree (including an MBA!)

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I highly doubt this movie will receive lack of support because of the interracial romance between Denzel and his costar. Lets face it, his movies as of late have not exactly been Blockbuster hits, so I'm not certain if his love interest will be a game changer. I could care less to be honest. I love me some Denzel, don't get me wrong, but I'll still be able to sleep at night knowing he kissed a white woman on screen. I was a little disappointed many years ago when The Pelican Brief came out, that there was no romance with him and Julia Roberts.

1 year, 11 months ago on While Promoting 'Flight,' the REAL Reason Denzel Washington Avoided On-Screen Romances With White Women Is Revealed

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Homeland comes to mind when I think of a TV show to compare it to

1 year, 11 months ago on What Television Series Does the General Petraeus Story Remind You of?

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Totally "adorkable"!  That baby is precious!!

2 years, 1 month ago on BB&W Exclusive Interview with Austin Null, 1/2 of the Nive Null Duo!

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