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 @tlakins 

Thank you so much for posting this.   I want to move to Germany and she has videos about Germany in her playlist.  :D

 

http://www.youtube.com/user/AbbytheEmigrant/videos?view=0

1 year, 7 months ago on Are You Afraid of "Coming Out of the Closet" About Your Preference to Swirl?

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 @Bren82  "Ben Barnes makes my heart MELT!"

 

Yes, that long hair and those deep eyes are heart stopping.

1 year, 7 months ago on Are You Afraid of "Coming Out of the Closet" About Your Preference to Swirl?

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 @MySmile   "I know how they come to that conclusion...mostly your demeanor and the vibes you give off."

 

That is so creepy!  It happened to me once and I was struck dumb.

o_0

1 year, 7 months ago on Are You Afraid of "Coming Out of the Closet" About Your Preference to Swirl?

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Wow, it looks beautiful Christelyn, very classic.

1 year, 8 months ago on Day Two of the Curly Twist-Out

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 @Toni_M @KolaBoof1 ""Facebook has refused to take the offending pages down""

 

That's disgusting, FB won't take down "rape-joke pages", ugh.  But they banned Kola for a month because she offended some DBR BM who can't mind their own business?

 

Oh, I forgot BM are an endangered species, so it's perfectly acceptable for them to be angry about BW talking about other BW on a Black Woman's website! 

<Fuming>

 

BM are the definition of the word "entitled".  They think they have the right to come into our spaces and rant, even when it is a BW/non-BM article or blog BM still think they are invited and have the right to lecture us..... I'd like a restraining order.

1 year, 8 months ago on Kola Boof: Billionaires Prefer *Black* Women

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 @NijaG Here:

http://www.facebook.com/TheREALKolaBoof

 

It's the January 5th post.

1 year, 8 months ago on Kola Boof: Billionaires Prefer *Black* Women

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"Miri" sounds like a BM to me:  "many black females", "about black females", "benefit black females", sounds like DBR-speak.  

And this comment:  "feel that their self esteem is boosted":  we can't have that now can we?  

It's mostly DBR BM that have an _I-must-prove-this-wrong!!!_ reaction to things that uplift BW.  They are so eager to shout down anything positive about BW, and need to prove that anything that isn't degrading or insulting BW is untrue.   If this article was something slandering BW, "Miri" would not be hunting and pecking to disprove it .

 

  Kola, refuted all of your proofs BlackManri, go back to your cave and brood over our awful "self esteem boost".  ;D

1 year, 8 months ago on Kola Boof: Billionaires Prefer *Black* Women

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 @mzsunshine  " one of the people on the page suggested putting a 'bullet in her brain'.  This person was of all people, a black male."

 

Of course.  A lot of angry BM have chosen to take their anger out on BW, because the "Black Community" has given them permission to. 

1 year, 8 months ago on Kola Boof: Billionaires Prefer *Black* Women

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 @Seenyc "There ar probably so many more we haven't heard of yet."

 

But why would anyone want to hear about BW leading happy, privileged lives, when instead we can hear about how unattractive/undesirable/un-marriageable/unfeminine/unsophisticated/etc. we are?    BW might start getting "ideas".

1 year, 8 months ago on Kola Boof: Billionaires Prefer *Black* Women

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 @Kels "Norwegian shipping tycoon. He died in a mountain climbing accident some time ago."

That's sad, poor Diana.

1 year, 8 months ago on Kola Boof: Billionaires Prefer *Black* Women

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 @Brenda55  @Butterfly1 "[Gremlin-speak]"

Oh god, even when they are saying something "positive" it sounds repulsive.  I wish they would stop talking about BW, period.

1 year, 8 months ago on Kola Boof: Billionaires Prefer *Black* Women

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 @mzsunshine "Besides having a 70% chance of losing their fortune in 5 years"

 

That's hilarious.

 

"Comparing men with money and no values to men with money AND values is not a fair comparison."

 

Well said.

I've always thought it was strange that some BW think that you can compare successful-responsible men to man-children, just because the man-child in question happens to be black.

 

Black people have taught BW to grade BM on a curve, and that bias is hurting BW and children.   Comparing men objectively is not "racism" just because most BM would end up with an F-.

1 year, 8 months ago on George Lucas Got a Fiancé for Christmas!

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 @Hallyu Love 

Ok, now I'm in love. 

I just read some of Stefan Ludik's comments on youtube, and I fully take back the very unkind things I said about his song, and beg forgiveness. 

 

Stefan Ludik (LudikTV)

"I actually wrote this song out of a personal experience/relationship. The dad didn't like me dating his daughter. So the video just tells my story."

 

"...Unfortunately there are still some people who are ignorant to believe you are better or worse than someone, because of the colour of your skin.. That is one of the reasons I wrote this song and deliberately accentuated the "black and white" to "get in the faces" of the haters who have a problem with it! It's all one love :)"

 

"Not actually. If you know me and know where I come from you would see it differently.. For me there is no "skin colour", we are all one people. I was lucky to grow up in a culturally diverse country, Namibia where we are different, but one nation. I went to school and grew up with a lot of friends from different cultures and backgrounds so for me that is normal..."

http://www.youtube.com/all_comments?v=7O0mX0LT93c

1 year, 8 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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 AceChica. "Disgusting. Black men can do whatever they want to black women and women in general because they make themselves out to be victims to feel sorry for."

 

^^This^^

 

   Most of the "men" these non-vetting-women are dating are self-pitying children who think that they have the right to harm anyone they want, especially BW, because THEY are victims.  BM are committing most of the murders in the country, but still consider themselves to be victims.

 

   BW need to remove the rose-colored glasses they put on for BM, and start looking at them objectively, because 1 in 3 BM have been to prison, yes **ONE IN THREE**.

BM are catching the disease in prison, and then infecting female partners once they are out of prison.

 

"In 2009, black men who have sex with men (MSM) represented an estimated 73% of new infections among all black men, and 37% among all MSM. More new HIV infections occurred among young black MSM (aged 13–29) than any other age and racial group of MSM."

 

"In 2009, black men accounted for 70% of the estimated new HIV infections among all blacks."

http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/aa/index.htm

 

   Many BM are having unprotected sex with other men and keeping it a secret because they don't want to be called "gay" or "bisexual", and these men have the highest STD infection rate. 

 

"Unprotected receptive anal sex is the sexual behavior that carries the highest risk for HIV acquisition. For sexually active MSM (men who have sex with men), the most effective ways to prevent HIV and many other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are to avoid anal sex, or for MSM who do have anal sex, to always use condoms."

http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/msm/

1 year, 8 months ago on Don't Get Caught Up in the Feeling: Not Using a Condom Can Do Worse Than Get You Pregnant.

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 @Hallyu Love     "However I do like the song"

 

You're right, it is a good song overall. 

 

"and his boldness to make such a song."

 

He's bold and he can work a guitar.

1 year, 8 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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@JQAbroad  " Stefan got a lot of heat for the video. Looks like there's issues about IRR in Nambia as well. The leading lady in his video is also a widely known model in Nambia and peps were pretty upset about that"

 

How awful, Nambian women can't date who they want either!

 

"Anyway I commend any man who will proudly proclaim his love for BW especially through media. It shouldn't be committed as crime or that something is "wrong with him". Just another way to guilt WM out of being interested in us."

 

Yes, and I hope there are plenty more sexy WM/BW music videos and movies coming.

1 year, 8 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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 @JQAbroad 

There is another BW/WM music video?  Thanks for telling us.

 

The video is really good, even better than Elle Varner's video, but the chorus line is a little cheesy:  "Black girl, white boy, can I get some?"

 

Here's the live performance.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SdHz4rwENHM

1 year, 8 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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 @CutieBlkBarbie "The fact that she made a sex tape with her boyfriend at that time. No. Probably half of y'all have more sex partners than Kim had ."

 

Speak for yourself, CutieBlkBarbie.  Your Kim-Kardashian-sex-partner comparison chart is yours and yours *alone*.

You have no right to insult the women on this forum by comparing them to a Kardashian.

1 year, 8 months ago on An Open Letter to Kim Kardashian Regarding Her Preggo News

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Good points, Christelyn.  Many BMale activists and Black Nationalists married WW, and black people supported them.

http://dateawhiteguy.blogspot.com/2010/01/whose-zooming-who.html

The idea that you can't speak on Black issues if you are married to a non-black person only applies to BW.

 

Lady A

"They bring up slavery and all kinds of things to guilt shame black women into even thinking about considering love outside of her race/community."

 

Yes, slavery is the number one weapon black people use against BW who date/marry WM.  It needs to be made public knowledge that most caucasian Americans are not descended from slave owners.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slavery_in_the_United_States#Distribution_of_slaveholders

If we took the slavery argument away from our detractors they would lose their sense of entitlement to condemn BW/WM relationships.

1 year, 8 months ago on Question of the Week: Pro-Black Girl Feels Conflicted About Interracial Dating

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 @melissamak007 It's refreshing. To say the least."

 

It must really make being in a foreign country easier, when you find men who are so warm and welcoming. 

 

"But, I will say that there were patterns."

 

That is interesting.  Expat women talk about there being a big difference in the way Northern and Southern European men court and date.

1 year, 8 months ago on Are the Brits Down with the Swirl? YES.

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 @Toni_M To be honest, that doesn't make me happy."

 

I don't mean every woman who calls herself a feminist will self-destruct.  I'm talking about the women who hate and detest men while receiving benefits from those same men.   What I'm saying is that when you bite the hand that feeds you for long enough, eventually there will come a point where you'll stop being fed.

 

Hmm, I'm trying to tell you that sunshine and happiness are just around the corner, but the above imagery doesn't really express that.  What I'm _trying_ to say is that there is a natural tendency for the misguided to demolish their own house.

1 year, 8 months ago on Why <em>I</em> don't call myself a "feminist" (and probably never will...)

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@FriendsofJay

"How can this hypocrisy exist?!  What's wrong with the BC in general and BM in particular that they don't see this double standard as ridiculous?"

 

Thank you, thank you, a thousand times: "Thank you!”.

 

The hypocrisy is maddening. 

A BM not being interesting in BW is fine and perfectly acceptable, and said BM is even free to express his preference by loudly insulting BW.   On the other hand, a BW not being interested in BM is traitorous, and proof that she either hates herself, thinks BM are inferior to non-BM, or thinks she’s better than other black people.

 

“How can this hypocrisy exist?!”

 

It would take a short novel to fully explain.   So in a few words:  Black Nationalists starting in the 60’s and 70’s claimed to promote “solidarity” and “kinship” between black people (BP), and fostered an Us vs. Them mentality in many BP.  They vilified WM and IRR while pursuing WW, because according to them all WM are oppressors and slave owners, but WW are innocent.  The “loyalty” they advocated was increasingly BM centered, until finally the obligation rested entirely on BW.

 

"I have personally witnessed WM approaching a BW very respectfully and being treated like they're trying to grope her"

 

These women are acting as gatekeepers for BM by making absolutely sure the man in question knows that BW are off limits, and that he should never encroach on BM's territory again.

1 year, 8 months ago on Elizabeth the Intern asks: "Are African-American Females Truly Free to Pursue Lives of Happiness?"

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*Applause*

Well said Toni.  Don't be afraid of the femi-nazis, extremists are always fated to self-destruct.  And articles like this are a sign that the tide is turning.

1 year, 8 months ago on Why <em>I</em> don't call myself a "feminist" (and probably never will...)

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@Toni_M

Off topic review of "Deception".

 

I just watched the pilot.

The storyline is a little grim, the BW is a police officer, so there are a couple "strong BW" scenes, but the actress is very feminine otherwise.   The bulk of the story is set on a grand estate, her love interest is a darkly handsome doctor (I think). The pilot is 99% suspense, family dysfunction, and psychotic women. 

 

This show is aptly named - the BW is sleeping with her BM coworker, even though they promoted this show as an IR romance, just like "Scandal".   But in the promo for the 2nd episode she has a lot more scenes with her WMale admirer, so I'll keep watching.

1 year, 8 months ago on The "White Guy Pass": Does It Exist?

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 @Browncow "Now we need to get another supernatural witch show like Charmed, but with a BW, AW, HW and WW. That would totally rock!"

 

We think alike.  I would LOVE to see a supernatural romance starring a BW.   I've had enough of these shows/movies with the beautiful BW standing alone in the shadows while her caucasian BF gets seduced/pursued/romanced/and fawned over by every supernatural guy in town, good grief.   Maybe the next BW series will give us what we want.  *fingers crossed*

1 year, 8 months ago on The "White Guy Pass": Does It Exist?

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**Off Topic News**

 

There is a brand new BW/WM romance/murder mystery series called "Deception", it airs Monday, January 7th on NBC.

They're showing the pilot episode on NBC's website: http://www.nbc.com/deception/video/pilot/n30467/

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrZWgz8Dyls

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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**Off Topic News**

 

There is a brand new BW/WM romance/murder mystery series called "Deception", it airs Monday, January 7th on NBC.

They're showing the pilot episode on NBC's website: http://www.nbc.com/deception/video/pilot/n30467/

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrZWgz8Dyls

1 year, 8 months ago on Elizabeth the Intern asks: "Are African-American Females Truly Free to Pursue Lives of Happiness?"

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**Off Topic News**

 

There is a brand new BW/WM romance/murder mystery series called "Deception", it airs Monday, January 7th on NBC.

They're showing the pilot episode on NBC's website: http://www.nbc.com/deception/video/pilot/n30467/

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrZWgz8Dyls

1 year, 8 months ago on The "White Guy Pass": Does It Exist?

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 @LemonCrush "There I was in a sweater and jeans and I had each of the guys' attention and she couldn't handle it."

 

I love this story, thank you for sharing. ☺

1 year, 8 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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 @melissamak007 The men there were more "chivalrous" as you said. More gentlemanly."

 

Sounds lovely, I love being around traditional men.

1 year, 8 months ago on Are the Brits Down with the Swirl? YES.

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Congratulations!!!

You're a beautiful couple, I wish you all the best and a long and happy marriage.  ☼

 

"I was able to hide the box INSIDE of the Christmas tree."

 

♥ Very romantic ♥

 

"“I love you with all of my heart and i want to spend the rest of my life with you.  Will you marry me?”  She said YES!!!!!"

 

Of course she said yes, you can see in the photo how in love you two are.  Please remember to come back and post your future baby photos so we can gush over them.  ☺

Lots of love.

xoxo

1 year, 8 months ago on Good News! Another BB&W Engagement!

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 @MySmile I love posts like this...You should do more random interviews!"

 

Seconded.

 

@Christelyn

Love your blog, keep up the good work.

1 year, 8 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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@introvertedwanderer

"We don't know if this was really the case, and from the looks of it, Gabriel came out smelling like roses"

 

Oh, I don't know the details, I only know what I've overheard, I don't follow celebrity gossip.   Just pointing out that craziness tends to follow a more predictable path with men than with women.

1 year, 8 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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 @Oaktown Paul "Content rejected."

 

Perfect choice of words, they should make that into a rubber stamp.

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @thewayoftheid "If this is what passes for debate around here?"

 

You're debating things no one is talking about.  If you want to debate about single motherhood and OOW child stats, first begin by asking us our opinions on these subjects, and then we can discuss them.  Instead of making up opinions and then accusing everyone of having them.

 

"Won't be back, except maybe to point and laugh."

 

Sure, with all the defensiveness in your posts I think it's safe to assume that this discussion is rubbing a sore spot for you, and definitely not evoking hysterical laughter.

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @thewayoftheid "I just want to note that this is the exception, not the norm. And before someone comes at me with that TIRED ass 72% statistic"

 

You're projecting.  The words you're reading are not the words that are on this page.

We are actually talking about this BM's harem of 11 crazy women, and innocent children, but because of whatever issues you have you're hearing condemnation of single mothers, out-of-wedlock child statistics, and the "baby mamas" being called animals. 

 

*checks thoroughly*

Nope, that is nowhere on here, it must be in your own head, sorry!

 

*Goes back to the interrupted Buppie circle jerk*

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @thewayoftheidyour incessant need to slut shame women for being unwed mothers."

 

No one is shaming unwed mothers, we're talking about the 10 "baby mama" family above...  you know, that article and video you scrolled past to post your comment... with 11 children living in a madhouse... being broadcasted to 100's of millions of people's homes???

 

You must have seen it, it's right at the top, the big article shaped thingy.... Well, if not go take a look and come back.

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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nyaw.  "I cannot tell people who does not want to do the traditional thing to do it, this is about the family above. It is up to them to grow out of it"

 

I think the sanity-ship has long sailed in baby-mama-land.  The only thing that could be done to help these people is to have all of their children taken into custody, and to have Mr. Babby Daddy neutered for the benefit of all humanity.

 

"There needs to be more of the opposite of that on tv, in the media, to balance it out."

 

We need to let go of the idea of having a "balanced" representation of black people (BP).  Because to be balanced is to have both good and terrible representatives,  "balanced" means garbage like this should stay on the air because the show Scandal balances this out.

 

Instead of spotlighting the sane and the insane, what we need is good/positive/normal BP shown in the media, only.    We have to stop giving degenerates a global platform to degrade their entire ethnic group.   These people should be sidelined, pushed to the fringes, held in the shadows, shoved under a rock... anything other than being showcased and rewarded for their pig-ignorance.

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @ReluctantGeekGirl "Being attracted to the same sex doesn't make them dysfunctional; it's society's judgment of LGT people.

 

Right, and it's very hurtful constantly hearing people say you are abnormal for the way you were born.

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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@FeministaJones ""I swear, as much as these rabid feminists wish all men would just die"

 "Oh, do we now?"

 

There is a qualifier there: "rabid".  So she was referring to a particular sect of feminists and not the entire group:  the faction of feminists who are rabid and man-hating.

If you're not a "rabid" feminist then those sentiments don't apply to you.  

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @JannaAshley "I just cut her out of my life and moved on"

 

Right.  I'm glad she didn't ruin things for you with your boyfriend.

1 year, 8 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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 @melissamak007 "A British guy named Alec and a friend of his showed my cousin and I around."

 

I've heard of that happening to other BW traveling in Europe several times before.  It makes European men sound so chivalrous! 

 

"Fun times! I would recommend going to anyone that hasn't."

 

Lucky girl, hopefully all of us aspiring travelers will get there soon. :)

1 year, 8 months ago on Are the Brits Down with the Swirl? YES.

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 @melissamak007 "Have you ever been?"

Not yet :(

 

"We should have BBWTravel!"

 

That would be fantastic, I love hearing about women's romantic experiences abroad...   Oh, and of course also about...... sightseeing and.... other... cultures.    :)

1 year, 8 months ago on Are the Brits Down with the Swirl? YES.

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 @IAOSingleMoms "I almost threw up when the dumbazz "girlfriend" began massaging his feat and picking his toes...<Vomits> pure baffoonery!"

 

The BM is Kang!  

Or didn't you know?  That's the treatment a black kang needs after a long hard day of mass impregnating his ungrateful baby mamas, and bragging to the other kangs about said mass impregnation!

If you don't treat a black kang right he might find an 11th, 12th, 13th, or 14th baby mama to do what you're not doing.   </idiot-think>

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @IAOSingleMoms 

Why can’t these suicidal idiots keep their dysfunction behind closed doors?   Why do we all have to be stigmatized for what the worst members of our ethnic group are doing?   Why can't DBR black people learn to have some shame, and stop broadcasting their derangement to the world?

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @cocoababe " The black Americans who still have common sense need to PUBLICLY DISTANCE themselves from folks like this."

 

YES, people like this are a disgrace to black people.   We need to cut all ties with them, stop letting them represent us, and condemn this madness before they take the majority of black people off the cliff with them.

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @Christelyn   That's the root of the "babymama" craziness.   Black people have worked so hard to indoctrinate BW and girls to hero-worship BM and never "betray" them by dating out.  So BM can cheat, abandon children, have harems, never marry, and still have BW knocking down their door.   Because they have to be with a BM and 99% of the BM around them are exploiting their attachment and devotion to BM.

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @nyaw Homosexuality isn't a dysfunction, some people are just naturally attracted to the same gender.   You're comparing apples and oranges: most gay people are more "normal" than these "baby mamas/daddy".

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @Tonnya She's obviously talking about "radical" feminists, who do condemn marriage and support single motherhood.... Crazy much???

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @Browncow "girl sat down next to us and stared at us and did not care that we saw her staring at us."

 

They are completely shameless.  They think BW/WM couples don't deserve the same courtesy as everyone else in the world.   We need to have a public service announcement telling these people that we are normal couples and not some kind of curiosity.

 

"I think that they (white women) look to see how we interact and what the guy sees in us."

 

Right, they're wondering:  "Why in the world would a WM date some alien-woman, when he could be dating one of us.  She must have some kind of strange hold on him." .

 

"I have noticed a lot of people of other races being upset seeing black women with white men."

 

Their world is being flipped, because they are used to placing BW last on the desirability scale, when they see BW/non-BM couples their heads hurt.

1 year, 8 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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