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@Kimduo37  It's mind boggling but that is how privilege works.  Everyone else has privilege: white men, white women, black men. Now it's time for black women to create our own privilege: the privilege to date who we want, to marry who we want, to become as financially successful as we desire, to live in the best communities... This is what I want for all black women.  I am so over everybody turning their nose down at black women.  Don't they know we are the first original woman :)) They can try and duplicate but it will never be authenticated!

1 week, 6 days ago on From a Black Man’s Mouth: About All That Hate…

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@marie_christine2 I remember those days.  In the military interracial dating and marriage is nothing....unless you are a black woman.  Can't count how many "brothas" had white, Asian, Hispanic wives that snubbed me when they saw a white guy talking, laughing, or showing interest in me.  A great majority of black men went buck wild in  Germany trying to hook up with a German woman but a sister dating a German man was almost burned at the stake!!

2 weeks ago on From a Black Man’s Mouth: About All That Hate…

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Thank you for addressing this.  There is a long history of black men with mental/physical disability and police brutality. When you combine male, black skin, and a slow reaction time--you have a recipe for disaster.  I have a nephew that has a sever speech problem caused by a botch surgery.  His vocal cords do not produce legible sounds.  He was teased mercifully growing up and has virtually morphed into a hunchback that doesn't talk.  I too fear the day he has the courage to go out and about and is confronted by cops just for his look and size. 


I think it is a combination of corrupt absolute power, skewed race relations, a warped sense of hierarchy and privilege at work. Many people don't like to admit that black skin means guilty until proven innocent in far too many parts of the world.  It's not a regional thing or a red state problem. It is a people problem.

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Ferguson, MO Reminds Parents With Black Autistic Young Men of Their Worst Nightmare

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@Kimduo37  Awesome--another Sleepy Hollow fan.  I am laughing at the Katrina'stans.  Everybody knows there is zero chemistry between Katrina and Ichabod.  As soon as certain women saw how cute and in shape Nicole was they went in.  By episode 2 they were saying she was a horrible actor and that Lyndie Greenwood should take her place.  Major shade that meant Nicole and Tom looked hot together and he looks to have a crush on her by looking at their off screen videos.

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Video: Are Black Women Who Swirl a THREAT to White Women?

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@Keioni  100% agree! These sentences--"Men who are interested approach. It is that simple. People keep saying men are simple but based on all the clues and hints they appear to need that clearly is not true".

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Letter: White Men are Catching a Clue…

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@ChocolateDiva  Bulls eye!  Guess you didn't get that memo declaring black women are responsible for everybody's actions, speech, thought, mind--their very existence :))  We are supposed to take all the debris heaped upon us and roll over....

3 weeks, 2 days ago on People Magazine Shows Racial Shade During Shonda Rhimes Big Network Television Night

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Sad they didn't let this guy enjoy his moment. People can and will be cruel regardless of skin color, gender, socio economic class.  This unfortunately is human nature.  The only thing social media has done is given "nastiness" a bigger more visible platform. Society somewhat rewards bad behavior as you can see reality tv has some of the highest ratings.  It should be no surprise because children are attacked because of their natural hair, bi-racial women are attacked because they have married a man that is unattractive and old in some people's eyes.  We have even seen ugly statements launched against the blog mistress Christelyn.  It will not stop...the only thing we can do is not participate and educated those in our circle. 

3 weeks, 4 days ago on The Nation of Social Media Hate Comes for Omari Hardwick’s Wife….

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@Swirlgirl28 @Driving Miss Britt  That's right lady!  Only one original....the rest are fakes.

3 weeks, 5 days ago on Video: Black Women, Capitalize On Your Unique Assets!

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Back down memory lane!  Forget a childhood thing, I plan on rocking some braids and beads next summer when my hair grows out.

1 month ago on TBT: Brown Girls Rocking Beads on Braids

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@WendyH  Great minds think alike :)  I am a sucker for beautiful eyes.  I saw a guy in Iraq with the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen.  I wish I could have taken a picture.  If he ever left Iraq he would be an instant super model.

1 month ago on MAN CANDY MONDAY: 50 Shades of Bae’

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Good gracious!!!! I love a man with beautiful eyes.....

1 month ago on MAN CANDY MONDAY: 50 Shades of Bae’

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@Maxine @Tipper2 I am not just singling them out.  The above poster was discussing her dealings with some racist segments of the hispanic community.  Trust me, everybody takes advantage of a clueless black.  I already addressed that in another post.

1 month, 1 week ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@kiki jones @jesslabellefleur @oceanspray Totally understand and I concur. I don't want people to go into stereotype mode when they see me either.  

1 month, 1 week ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@kiki jones @jesslabellefleur @oceanspray You might have misinterpreted my post.  I didn't allude to throwing away a group of people.  That would be insane :))  What I did say or meant to say was just because a person has skin similar to yours doesn't make them for you.  Sort of like that "skin folk ain't necessarily kin folk" deal.  We need to "vet" everybody, including other black people.  I have seen the black community attach themselves to people just because they fit into a minority category.  These same minorities don't give when they get.  That is the gist of what I am trying to convey.

1 month, 1 week ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@jesslabellefleur @oceanspray There ya go!  No amount of newbie gaslighters will change my mind about EVERYONE taking advantage of black gullibility.  Racist society's best friend is a gullible and "coloblind" black person.  They believe the "we are one" mantra.  Of course the only people the benefit are non-blacks. 

1 month, 1 week ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@oceanspray @Tipper2 @darkandlovely  I have never been to Australia.  I have seen documentaries and travelogues and would love to go one day.  You are 100% right in saying Black women need to be aware and cognizant of race warfare on the job and in the real world.  We can sing we are the world all we want to.  Singing that won't keep the racists at bey.  We have to be wise in navigating today's world.

1 month, 1 week ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@darkandlovely @Tipper2 @PaoloP  You are 100% right.  Like other world travelers, I have experienced racism in every single country I lived in.  Varying degrees but same racism among Hispanic, Asians, whites, and Arabs.

1 month, 1 week ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@Maxine @Tipper2  Exactly!  Notice how Hispanic special interest groups try and piggy back off of national policy aimed at protecting and empowering black folk? All of a sudden they want black groups (which are not that powerful to begin with) to have their back on illegal immigration and other protected rights.  Yet they are silent when black people are attacked, abused, and killed.  Dr. Claude Anderson talks a lot about the disparity and complicit attitude of many, not all, Hispanics.

1 month, 1 week ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@BeautyIAM @bellechose Mmm hmm..what you just said over and over.

1 month, 1 week ago on Ask a White Guy: Older Men, Younger Women?

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@FriendsofJay @ole'skool Thank you for you being thoughtful and kind towards women.  Sometimes I have to wonder about men....

1 month, 1 week ago on Ask a White Guy: Older Men, Younger Women?

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@ChristieRJohnson You look young and that probably translates to a lot of younger guys being attracted to you as well :))--nothing wrong with that.

1 month, 1 week ago on Ask a White Guy: Older Men, Younger Women?

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Interesting...won't waste time with the "nature or nurture" argument.  I'll chalk it up to a preference.  I have never been and never will be attracted to older guys.  I see older men that take care of themselves and are not trying to relive their youth by snagging a young'un.  That I can respect.  When I get approached by an older guy I am always courteous and take it in stride.  Before the conversation is over they know I am not into older men and they keep it moving. 


1 month, 1 week ago on Ask a White Guy: Older Men, Younger Women?

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@J Ndege No that is a horrible analysis.  I don't allow any person to tell me where I fit on society's skewed ladder of worthiness.  I have no problem attracting and having a quality relationship with any man.  Color is just that, color.  It doesn't affect a self-actualized woman from getting what SHE wants.  Don't believe this bottom feeder drivel intended to reinforce age old stereotypes. 

1 month, 1 week ago on Open Forum: Okay; We Know White Men Married to Black Women are 44% Less Likely to Divorce. But Why?

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@MySmile @mzsunshine @docwatson223 @Maxine @phillychick There ya go!  The man that snags me is getting an exquisite diamond.  Black women need to start "tooting" their own horns!!

1 month, 1 week ago on Open Forum: Okay; We Know White Men Married to Black Women are 44% Less Likely to Divorce. But Why?

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@Tammy_Ghalden I heard about Family Tree as well.  I would like to try multiple DNA companies for comparison.  I would actually like the specific breakdown on FTD.  The only thing I got from 23andMe was west Africa.  I uploaded my test results from there to another site and found out about the Bantu regions of my ancestry.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Lineage: The Extraordinary Gift of Knowing Where You Came From

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Good stuff.  I tried the 23andme DNA kit.  Seems as if the Nat Geo is a little bit more comprehensive.  What shocked me is those of African descent don't have more "Arab" DNA.  They enslaved Africans for centuries circa 14th century, even before white people got there, and are still practicing it today in certain parts of Africa.  My 23andme results were 88% SSA (sub saharan african), 9% european, 2% other, 0.3% native american.  I was pleasantly surprised to see the large amount of SSA.  A great grandparent was half-white.  Barring that genetic incident, my SSA would have probably been closer to 97% or more. 


Think I will do the Nat Geo soon......

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Lineage: The Extraordinary Gift of Knowing Where You Came From

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@oceanspray I totally agree.  I take of me first :)

1 month, 2 weeks ago on DBRs Abound – A True Murder In The First

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@The Working Home Keeper Happy Anniversary!  Wishing you many more.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall

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My new couple crush!  She really is a beautiful person inside and out.  She doesn't mince words or play "we are the world".  She tells it like it is, the good and the bad.  I like her honesty, boldness, and grace under fire.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Paula Cooper Trajkovski Takes On Macedonia – And Wins!

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Oh my goodness!  I am living in Montgomery now.  I remember the second case being shown on local news.  I really hate how black women's lives mean absolutely nothing to the DBR black community and America at large.  Black women take care of the whole world and in return we are vilified and diminished. 

1 month, 3 weeks ago on DBRs Abound – A True Murder In The First

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@mzsunshine @KingsDaughter Wow...can't stand this type of buffoonery.  First it was said "inside of every gay man is a black woman".  Utter nonsense!!  

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall

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@kiki jones @darkandlovely Yes, too many times those of African descent turn a blind eye to reality.  You really have to be honest with yourself first.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@Maxine @jesslabellefleur @Browncow I have nothing good to say about this woman...Ann Coulter is one of the worst media pimps out.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@darkandlovely I can tell you it was painful and liberating at the same time. Painful because I thought all I had to was "stay in the dotted lines" not knowing the lines were not made for me or people like me.  Liberating because it meant just being myself and caring one bit what TPTB thought.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@dani-BBW Excuse my typos.  Time to clean my keyboard :))

1 month, 3 weeks ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@dani-BBW You are absolutely right.  I used to be naive and took people for their word(s) but noticed their actions said revealed their true nature.  I learned by getting my getting stabbed in the back so many times I should have bled to death. 

1 month, 3 weeks ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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Racism, sexism, ageism knows no political affiliation. There were just as many white conservatives as liberals that didn't give a flying flip about black people's plight prior to the civil rights era or now. I learned this a long time ago.  I have to look at the individual person rather than a group.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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Great job lady!  Love to see the warriors 2.0

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Man Candy Monday: Able Bodied Men

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@chocolateadmiral @Yorkshireman in Michigan @MissFLondon @caligirl94117 Beautiful!  Sometimes we are eager to throw out the baby with the bath water.  Whenever I hear people mention "Shartpon & Jackson" in a sentence or phrase I get leery. No one is perfect and yes these two have had many missteps--but so have we.  The only difference is their mistakes are public as with any public official.  One thing I hate to hear is how people are saying Al Sharpton runs to these racial incidents seeking publicity and cash.  He was called by Trayvon Martin's family and lawyer to get the awareness out about his murder.  The grandfather of Mike Brown personally asked him on his show to go to Ferguson. No one is perfect. 

1 month, 4 weeks ago on How to Talk to Your Partner About Racially-Charged Issues

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I loved it in the early to mid 70s.  Just about everyone wore a natural.  The baddest afros on the planet.  The women were feminine and the men was masculine...those were the days.

2 months ago on TBT: It’s…………… SOUL……….TRAIN…………..!

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Works of art! @Karla Fears Wouldn't we like to have these bodies on our massage tables........................

2 months ago on Man Candy Monday: Arabesque, Allongé! The Beauty of Ballet

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She's smoking those boys....talented young lady.

2 months, 1 week ago on Throw Like a Girl; Take Your Team to the Little League World Series

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@tracyreneejoness You always do a great job.  Fine is fine......

2 months, 1 week ago on Man Candy Monday: The Blacker the Berry

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Thank you for doing this piece.  We have to give honor where honor is due :))  No matter how I feel about many black men, they still IMO have the most perfect bodies to ever grace this earth ;). Also let's not forget hottie Lance Gross.  That man is bar of dark chocolate!!

2 months, 1 week ago on Man Candy Monday: The Blacker the Berry

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@BeautyIAM WOW.............................

2 months, 1 week ago on Man Candy Monday: The Blacker the Berry

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@PeBo @dani-BBW This is some nasty business. It sounds like some old school KKK ratchetry.

2 months, 1 week ago on Feelings About Renisha McBride…

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