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@trinigirl1 @TeeVee  I think you are right.  From the time they set eyes on me, they placed a roving bulls eye on my back. 

8 hours, 33 minutes ago on My Strong Is <em>Not</em> Your Strong, My Swirl Is <em>Not</em> Your Swirl: On White Women Entitlement Issues And Epic Cockblocking

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@Neil Marsden @jazzyfae45  Thx, I retired 5 years ago but sometimes it seems like I am still in :)

8 hours, 35 minutes ago on My Strong Is <em>Not</em> Your Strong, My Swirl Is <em>Not</em> Your Swirl: On White Women Entitlement Issues And Epic Cockblocking

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@stephanie88 @jazzyfae45  I told them it was too much for me to carry and one of the complainers actually started going with me for pickup and hence became a nuisance as well.  What fun............

8 hours, 36 minutes ago on My Strong Is <em>Not</em> Your Strong, My Swirl Is <em>Not</em> Your Swirl: On White Women Entitlement Issues And Epic Cockblocking

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@TeeVee  Yes lady!  They showed out over there.  I couldn't believe even in war time they were showing their entitled behinds.  They didn't care that using up all of the water put all the other soldiers in a bind.  No water to drink, wash hands or flush the toilet in 120 degree weather.  Shows you how WP is a type of mental illness. 


These same women, as soon as they met me told me that they were going to have to fix me up with a boyfriend fast.  Really? Who does that in a war zone?  Who is thinking about a boyfriend? Now I know they were doing it because they didn't want any of the guys they were calling dibs on to see me as a cute single, unattached, fit black woman.

1 day, 21 hours ago on My Strong Is <em>Not</em> Your Strong, My Swirl Is <em>Not</em> Your Swirl: On White Women Entitlement Issues And Epic Cockblocking

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@TheBlkQAmidala  @jesslabellefleur @caligirl94117 @SweetGardenia  Wow, they should have went back to school themselves....I have found in my time in the church and having traveled extensively--many non black "Christians" in the church can be the most racist, which is sin in itself.  I hate to admit it but its true.

2 days, 9 hours ago on My Strong Is <em>Not</em> Your Strong, My Swirl Is <em>Not</em> Your Swirl: On White Women Entitlement Issues And Epic Cockblocking

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Loved how @jazzyfae45 defined white privilege (WP). I had several episodes when I was deployed to Iraq several years ago.  I was the transportation, building custodian, vehicle (and everything else) officer. I was constantly hit in the face with  WP.  We did our physical training as a group and would go back to our quarters to shower.  That didn't work for these white women that were in my squadron.  They wanted to take a shower at work and change there.  God forbid they would have to take their entitled behinds two miles in a truck back to their quarters.  The water was rationed because of the heat and location.  When they took showers, that emptied the whole building of water.  Think about the heat and no way to flush a toilet....When I told them the situation they turned up their nose, pouted and told me I needed to call civil engineering to have the tanks filled again.  Can we say selfish, "it's all about me whenever however I want it".  They even told the 3 star general I worked for that I wasn't doing my job.


I was also in charge of getting the 3stars breakfast.  I did a weekly run stocking up on cereal, milk etc.  The other people in the office (white guys) suggested I get enough food for everybody since they liked cereal as well and they didn't always get a chance to eat breakfast.  Mind you the dining facility was open to all 24/7.  When I told them I was just getting food for the commander they again ran to the commander and said I needed to be counseled.  Pretty much they wanted me as a field slave running around like Kizzie, Aunt Jemima, and Mammy rolled into one.  It was a challenge but I learned privilege deadens empathy and acts like a tornado destroying all in its path.

2 days, 9 hours ago on My Strong Is <em>Not</em> Your Strong, My Swirl Is <em>Not</em> Your Swirl: On White Women Entitlement Issues And Epic Cockblocking

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@darkandlovely @Sfbta And there goes the power of privilege...have been told it's a heck of a drug and those that partake of it are rendered selfish :)

3 days, 21 hours ago on “Dear White Guys Who Like Black Women, Please Stop Saying This…”

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@Keioni ""Why do some want to force black women to hold on to this mythical super human strength when some of us are trying to distance ourselves from it. I am starting to think that those that are trying to push us to identify with it are doing so because they gain something from it." <-- 

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Bingo! Now we get to the crux of the matter.  Everybody benefits from labeling and pigeonholing black women: entitled white women/white men, and color struck damaged black men.  Guess who comes out on the losing end as usual????

3 days, 21 hours ago on “Dear White Guys Who Like Black Women, Please Stop Saying This…”

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@jazzyfae45 @SavageTango I totally agree.  Sometimes social media can be a double-edged sword.  It is awesome in that it helps to bridge the cultural divide that exists.  However, it can be undermine true face to face interactions and developing true relationships.  Some people read a couple threads on sites, watch "buffoonish" reality tv/biased news, and look at watch mind numbing talk shows then make an assessment on what it is to be black: male or female. 

4 days, 19 hours ago on “Dear White Guys Who Like Black Women, Please Stop Saying This…”

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@MsB73  Perfect song...the good old days when people actually "sang"

1 week, 1 day ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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@Kimduo37  It's mind boggling but that is how privilege works.  Everyone else has privilege: white men, white women, black men. Now it's time for black women to create our own privilege: the privilege to date who we want, to marry who we want, to become as financially successful as we desire, to live in the best communities... This is what I want for all black women.  I am so over everybody turning their nose down at black women.  Don't they know we are the first original woman :)) They can try and duplicate but it will never be authenticated!

3 weeks, 1 day ago on From a Black Man’s Mouth: About All That Hate…

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@marie_christine2 I remember those days.  In the military interracial dating and marriage is nothing....unless you are a black woman.  Can't count how many "brothas" had white, Asian, Hispanic wives that snubbed me when they saw a white guy talking, laughing, or showing interest in me.  A great majority of black men went buck wild in  Germany trying to hook up with a German woman but a sister dating a German man was almost burned at the stake!!

3 weeks, 2 days ago on From a Black Man’s Mouth: About All That Hate…

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Thank you for addressing this.  There is a long history of black men with mental/physical disability and police brutality. When you combine male, black skin, and a slow reaction time--you have a recipe for disaster.  I have a nephew that has a sever speech problem caused by a botch surgery.  His vocal cords do not produce legible sounds.  He was teased mercifully growing up and has virtually morphed into a hunchback that doesn't talk.  I too fear the day he has the courage to go out and about and is confronted by cops just for his look and size. 


I think it is a combination of corrupt absolute power, skewed race relations, a warped sense of hierarchy and privilege at work. Many people don't like to admit that black skin means guilty until proven innocent in far too many parts of the world.  It's not a regional thing or a red state problem. It is a people problem.

3 weeks, 3 days ago on Ferguson, MO Reminds Parents With Black Autistic Young Men of Their Worst Nightmare

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@Kimduo37  Awesome--another Sleepy Hollow fan.  I am laughing at the Katrina'stans.  Everybody knows there is zero chemistry between Katrina and Ichabod.  As soon as certain women saw how cute and in shape Nicole was they went in.  By episode 2 they were saying she was a horrible actor and that Lyndie Greenwood should take her place.  Major shade that meant Nicole and Tom looked hot together and he looks to have a crush on her by looking at their off screen videos.

4 weeks ago on Video: Are Black Women Who Swirl a THREAT to White Women?

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@Keioni  100% agree! These sentences--"Men who are interested approach. It is that simple. People keep saying men are simple but based on all the clues and hints they appear to need that clearly is not true".

4 weeks ago on Letter: White Men are Catching a Clue…

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@ChocolateDiva  Bulls eye!  Guess you didn't get that memo declaring black women are responsible for everybody's actions, speech, thought, mind--their very existence :))  We are supposed to take all the debris heaped upon us and roll over....

1 month ago on People Magazine Shows Racial Shade During Shonda Rhimes Big Network Television Night

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Sad they didn't let this guy enjoy his moment. People can and will be cruel regardless of skin color, gender, socio economic class.  This unfortunately is human nature.  The only thing social media has done is given "nastiness" a bigger more visible platform. Society somewhat rewards bad behavior as you can see reality tv has some of the highest ratings.  It should be no surprise because children are attacked because of their natural hair, bi-racial women are attacked because they have married a man that is unattractive and old in some people's eyes.  We have even seen ugly statements launched against the blog mistress Christelyn.  It will not stop...the only thing we can do is not participate and educated those in our circle. 

1 month ago on The Nation of Social Media Hate Comes for Omari Hardwick’s Wife….

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@Swirlgirl28 @Driving Miss Britt  That's right lady!  Only one original....the rest are fakes.

1 month ago on Video: Black Women, Capitalize On Your Unique Assets!

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@phillychick  pics?????

1 month, 1 week ago on TBT: Brown Girls Rocking Beads on Braids

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Back down memory lane!  Forget a childhood thing, I plan on rocking some braids and beads next summer when my hair grows out.

1 month, 1 week ago on TBT: Brown Girls Rocking Beads on Braids

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@WendyH  Great minds think alike :)  I am a sucker for beautiful eyes.  I saw a guy in Iraq with the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen.  I wish I could have taken a picture.  If he ever left Iraq he would be an instant super model.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on MAN CANDY MONDAY: 50 Shades of Bae’

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Good gracious!!!! I love a man with beautiful eyes.....

1 month, 2 weeks ago on MAN CANDY MONDAY: 50 Shades of Bae’

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@Maxine @Tipper2 I am not just singling them out.  The above poster was discussing her dealings with some racist segments of the hispanic community.  Trust me, everybody takes advantage of a clueless black.  I already addressed that in another post.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@kiki jones @jesslabellefleur @oceanspray Totally understand and I concur. I don't want people to go into stereotype mode when they see me either.  

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@kiki jones @jesslabellefleur @oceanspray You might have misinterpreted my post.  I didn't allude to throwing away a group of people.  That would be insane :))  What I did say or meant to say was just because a person has skin similar to yours doesn't make them for you.  Sort of like that "skin folk ain't necessarily kin folk" deal.  We need to "vet" everybody, including other black people.  I have seen the black community attach themselves to people just because they fit into a minority category.  These same minorities don't give when they get.  That is the gist of what I am trying to convey.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@jesslabellefleur @oceanspray There ya go!  No amount of newbie gaslighters will change my mind about EVERYONE taking advantage of black gullibility.  Racist society's best friend is a gullible and "coloblind" black person.  They believe the "we are one" mantra.  Of course the only people the benefit are non-blacks. 

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@oceanspray @Tipper2 @darkandlovely  I have never been to Australia.  I have seen documentaries and travelogues and would love to go one day.  You are 100% right in saying Black women need to be aware and cognizant of race warfare on the job and in the real world.  We can sing we are the world all we want to.  Singing that won't keep the racists at bey.  We have to be wise in navigating today's world.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@darkandlovely @Tipper2 @PaoloP  You are 100% right.  Like other world travelers, I have experienced racism in every single country I lived in.  Varying degrees but same racism among Hispanic, Asians, whites, and Arabs.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@Maxine @Tipper2  Exactly!  Notice how Hispanic special interest groups try and piggy back off of national policy aimed at protecting and empowering black folk? All of a sudden they want black groups (which are not that powerful to begin with) to have their back on illegal immigration and other protected rights.  Yet they are silent when black people are attacked, abused, and killed.  Dr. Claude Anderson talks a lot about the disparity and complicit attitude of many, not all, Hispanics.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”

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@BeautyIAM @bellechose Mmm hmm..what you just said over and over.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Ask a White Guy: Older Men, Younger Women?

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@FriendsofJay @ole'skool Thank you for you being thoughtful and kind towards women.  Sometimes I have to wonder about men....

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Ask a White Guy: Older Men, Younger Women?

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@ChristieRJohnson You look young and that probably translates to a lot of younger guys being attracted to you as well :))--nothing wrong with that.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Ask a White Guy: Older Men, Younger Women?

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Interesting...won't waste time with the "nature or nurture" argument.  I'll chalk it up to a preference.  I have never been and never will be attracted to older guys.  I see older men that take care of themselves and are not trying to relive their youth by snagging a young'un.  That I can respect.  When I get approached by an older guy I am always courteous and take it in stride.  Before the conversation is over they know I am not into older men and they keep it moving. 


1 month, 2 weeks ago on Ask a White Guy: Older Men, Younger Women?

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@J Ndege No that is a horrible analysis.  I don't allow any person to tell me where I fit on society's skewed ladder of worthiness.  I have no problem attracting and having a quality relationship with any man.  Color is just that, color.  It doesn't affect a self-actualized woman from getting what SHE wants.  Don't believe this bottom feeder drivel intended to reinforce age old stereotypes. 

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Open Forum: Okay; We Know White Men Married to Black Women are 44% Less Likely to Divorce. But Why?

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@MySmile @mzsunshine @docwatson223 @Maxine @phillychick There ya go!  The man that snags me is getting an exquisite diamond.  Black women need to start "tooting" their own horns!!

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Open Forum: Okay; We Know White Men Married to Black Women are 44% Less Likely to Divorce. But Why?

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@Tammy_Ghalden I heard about Family Tree as well.  I would like to try multiple DNA companies for comparison.  I would actually like the specific breakdown on FTD.  The only thing I got from 23andMe was west Africa.  I uploaded my test results from there to another site and found out about the Bantu regions of my ancestry.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Lineage: The Extraordinary Gift of Knowing Where You Came From

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Good stuff.  I tried the 23andme DNA kit.  Seems as if the Nat Geo is a little bit more comprehensive.  What shocked me is those of African descent don't have more "Arab" DNA.  They enslaved Africans for centuries circa 14th century, even before white people got there, and are still practicing it today in certain parts of Africa.  My 23andme results were 88% SSA (sub saharan african), 9% european, 2% other, 0.3% native american.  I was pleasantly surprised to see the large amount of SSA.  A great grandparent was half-white.  Barring that genetic incident, my SSA would have probably been closer to 97% or more. 


Think I will do the Nat Geo soon......

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Lineage: The Extraordinary Gift of Knowing Where You Came From

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@oceanspray I totally agree.  I take of me first :)

1 month, 4 weeks ago on DBRs Abound – A True Murder In The First

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@The Working Home Keeper Happy Anniversary!  Wishing you many more.

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall

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My new couple crush!  She really is a beautiful person inside and out.  She doesn't mince words or play "we are the world".  She tells it like it is, the good and the bad.  I like her honesty, boldness, and grace under fire.

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Paula Cooper Trajkovski Takes On Macedonia – And Wins!

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Oh my goodness!  I am living in Montgomery now.  I remember the second case being shown on local news.  I really hate how black women's lives mean absolutely nothing to the DBR black community and America at large.  Black women take care of the whole world and in return we are vilified and diminished. 

2 months ago on DBRs Abound – A True Murder In The First

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@mzsunshine @KingsDaughter Wow...can't stand this type of buffoonery.  First it was said "inside of every gay man is a black woman".  Utter nonsense!!  

2 months ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall

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@kiki jones @darkandlovely Yes, too many times those of African descent turn a blind eye to reality.  You really have to be honest with yourself first.

2 months ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@Maxine @jesslabellefleur @Browncow I have nothing good to say about this woman...Ann Coulter is one of the worst media pimps out.

2 months ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@darkandlovely I can tell you it was painful and liberating at the same time. Painful because I thought all I had to was "stay in the dotted lines" not knowing the lines were not made for me or people like me.  Liberating because it meant just being myself and caring one bit what TPTB thought.

2 months ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@dani-BBW You are absolutely right.  I used to be naive and took people for their word(s) but noticed their actions said revealed their true nature.  I learned by getting my getting stabbed in the back so many times I should have bled to death. 

2 months ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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Racism, sexism, ageism knows no political affiliation. There were just as many white conservatives as liberals that didn't give a flying flip about black people's plight prior to the civil rights era or now. I learned this a long time ago.  I have to look at the individual person rather than a group.

2 months ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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