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Beautiful couple. Congratulations.
1 year, 1 month ago on Swirling Eye Candy: Victoria and Brad Rose
She is a beautiful young lady. Happy Birthday to her and best wishes in all she does. Congratulations Christelyn for raising such an amazing girl.
1 year, 1 month ago on Maxi Me Turns 15 Today!
Looking forward to this and participating!
1 year, 1 month ago on Come Hither: Get Your Sex, Love, Relationship Questions Answered With No Shame
@uninterracial Zing! On the saliva swap.
1 year, 1 month ago on ABC's "The Bachelor" is back -- with four Black Women!
@Jamila @JennMJack Jamila "I didn't see the movie in a theater (*cough*) so I didn't get to see audience reactions. " I didn't see it in theatre either *cough cough* and on my side of the world it will not be screened in theatre, at least not the licensed ones! Jamila & Jenn I did not have a Django moment while watching Django - due to my private screening ;-) but I have experienced 'Django moments' with white colleagues relating to real life experiences wherein their reactions reflected how desensitised they are to issues that negatively affect black people and other people of colour. When I highlighted their 'desensitisation' and expressed my opinion about it and the situation, the conversation was shelved, shutters came down and political correctness set in - and no I was not being emotional or accusatory - just curious. While I do think people's reactions/experiences are or will be different based on race and class, I wonder how much so and to what effect?
1 year, 1 month ago on Messages from 'Django Unchained': The Black 'Damsel', the 'Django Moment', and Phrenology's Centerstage Show
@JennMJack @Veron I recall Calvin Candie's repetitious reference to and explanation of phrenology and I agree with Jenn that without a rebuttal in the film itself, some people may not comprehend the fallacy of phrenology. I have university level educated colleagues at the office who, without conducting a thorough analysis, repeat narratives gleaned from mainstream films/media as if they were self evident truths.
@JennMJack @chilljill I had similar thoughts. Django has encouraged conversations about narratives of black women and their role and position in American society, slavery, race relations, violence (to mention a few issues). People are talking about the various issues, interpreting the movie and having discussions - constructive or not. Any movie that can engage people and stimulate conversations about historically sensitive/controversial issues such as slavery and racial discrimination has achieved some measure of success
@VictoriaAntoine The second time he was referred to as 'Big Daddy' in that scene was when I realised what Quentin/the writers had done right there!
1 year, 1 month ago on Regarding Broomhilda: Was she worth being rescued and why was she waiting on her man to save her anyway?
I watched the movie and I have a range of opinions about different aspects of the film. There are narratives in the movie I oppose and others I agree with - can't please everyone.
As for the character of Broomhilda and her role in the film; I was thrilled to see a black woman as the subject of a "I will rip apart the country(ies), mow down anyone in my way, blow things up, shoot things down to find you, rescue you and protect you" film. Heck yeah, we need more representations to that effect for black women.
For me the bewildering response of some black women asking all these questions without reflecting sufficiently on the film generally and specifically shows how deeply ingrained in our psyche the 'black woman you are not worthy" meme is.
"3. We don’t know alot about Broomhilda, all we know is that she was just a pretty house slave. We want to know why Django wanted to rescue her."
Yes, perhaps her character could have had more depth, more history, more background. That's the reason critiques, critics, articles, reviews and university courses were invented - they can help the directors, producers and actors/actresses do better next time around. This time, I preferred to enjoy Broomhilda's character per the script - Django loved her and when provided the opportunity, he did whatever he had to do to get her back.
@onmywayup I first read about Naomi in the 90s from my mom's magazines. She was the first black model I came across and she was as stunning then as she is now. Over the years she's had bad press but I love Naomi because she is stunningly beautiful, confident, independent and unapologetically Naomi. As for the bad press - she's a black woman living life on her terms and successfully so - of course she'll get bad press.
1 year, 1 month ago on Kola Boof: Billionaires Prefer *Black* Women
This is a message all generations of black women globally should receive often! Kola as usual, priceless information with a powerful message.
Best wishes to the couple. Mellody - heck yeah!
Christelyn: reading your story about your friend reminds me of my friend, a wonderful woman I met in my first year of university. Beautiful and smart with a big heart, we became close friends through our university years. Her dating choices were woeful - damaged men who hacked away at her radiance and self confidence. We sometimes argued about her choice in boyfriends - she said I was too uppity and selective, I said she was destroying herself by not having standards.
I watched that train wreck happen in slow motion, it is difficult to keep picking up the same kind of pieces different times. They kept breaking her heart and she kept breaking mine with her choices. I was frustrated by the fact that she did not want to change her behaviour or actions and was surrounded by people who encouraged her dysfunction i.e. family and friends.
She taught me a great deal about friendship and life but one of the greatest lessons she taught me (without even trying to teach me) was to be selective about the men I choose to date.
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1 year, 2 months ago on Congrats are in order! Our very own Eugenia is expecting her own little bun!
Congratulations to the happy couple!
1 year, 2 months ago on Good News! Another BB&W Engagement!
Happy Holidays everyone!
1 year, 2 months ago on A Very Special Christmas to My BB&W Family!
@JaiyeMuse I can relate. I love dancing and it is one of those moments I do not mind being the centre of attention.
1 year, 2 months ago on Romancing an Introvert: Striking Up a Conversation
@MySmile "Also, in my experience..introvert and introvert doesn't work...my last relationship was more like introvert (me) and super introvert (him). I think I need somewhat of an opposite..."
I've enjoyed the company of introvert and extrovert males. I tend to prefer extrovert males because of our differences and the ones that did manage to engage me proved to be barrels of fun whereas I sometimes tend to be serious. With some extrovert males I got the best of both worlds - intense and humorous conversations as well as spontaneity and fun!
Small talk - I've always thought it's a waste of precious time - go big or go away i.e. either bring a meaningful and insightful conversation to the table or risk a glazed over look with monosyllabic responses. Talking for the sake of talking? wasted energy.
I am reserved and quiet - not shy which confounds my extroverted friends who demand my company and when I agree, they drag me to events with large crowds of people but are perplexed when I selectively mingle or prefer to study the crowd (unless of course there is a dance floor and dance music). I like their company (my extrovert friends that is) because (besides my affinity for each of them) I pick up social cues that on my own I do not or would not bother with, I learn some extrovert (and thereby survival) tactics. My extrovert friends are okay in controlled doses.
I learned early in life to be comfortable with my introversion and I am not bothered by people who try to box me or peg me and unless it is positively strategic on my part, they fail woefully. Those who are interested in understanding me, I indulge them - those who aren't, note the "they fail woefully".
I try to strike a balance in my interactions with people because I understand there are billions of people on this planet and there is a plethora of personalities so there are situations wherein I exhibit extrovert tendencies
@The Working Home Keeper hear hear!
1 year, 4 months ago on How Blackistan Deals with 'Fast Girls'
@Christelyn The matriarch of our family - my maternal grandmother propounds the theory of silence. She insists on keeping it in the family and covering things up. Fortunately, my mother was not of the same school of thought and taught me better. Other members of the family that support my grandmother defend her dubious decisions and call it wisdom of old - uhmm yeah right - uh no I do not think so! This culture of silence is hurting us and our girls and it goes so far back!