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Love the article and your thoughts. This is a practice that has become a part of me over the past couple of years. So many thoughts about it that I could sit and talk with you for hours ... I have little doubt about that! To mention just one or two things briefly, I really enjoy noticing myself throughout the day. It's often amusing.
The mind loves to judge (a valuable skill at times ... especially when confronting danger or important choices.) Most of the time (at least for me) the judgments are rather automatic and either useless or potentially detrimental. My practice is to simply notice and allow them. Then, many times I smile and laugh at my brain and its antics. I believe the attempt to control is counterproductive. This keeps me from judging myself too!
Also, I find it fun and helpful to realize that everything and everyone are no different than me -- perhaps an extension of me and my created or perceived world. I may think of the phrase "but for the grace of God go I." Then I'll immediately realize I AM there, whether I realize it or not. I accept that all people and situations are an extension of myself or my potential. And that fascinates me! Observe and accept ... so much fun!
Argh! I was NOT going to write so much. Anyway, Lori, I've missed you. I've been off / away for some time. And this next week we're off on a trip to National Park around the west! Hey, more chances to notice how this interesting brain and "self" work! Neat, huh?
7 months ago on Do You Judge?
@Sabrina at MyMiBoSo @Lori Oh yes! you're so right. In fact, I had love in mind. And the neat thing is that our truth (love) can be expressed in so many ways that can be unique to us! Life is so much richer that way, isn't it? :-)
1 year, 10 months ago on Is The Universe a Friendly Place?
@Lori LOL ... he would be fun to talk with and debate, wouldn't he be? I have a feeling I'd be a bit overwhelmed ...
Your points are excellent, Lori. If our goals don't match the universe's then it will forever seem like we're at the mercy of the cards or dice. I guess it's a matter of perspective - do we see things from our inner being truth (our universal being) or from the outer, environmentally influenced self? And, do we see it as the hand we're dealt or as a pre-emergent choice we made?
All in all, yes, we decide! Decisions are easier when we let go of long held limiting beliefs. Thank you for the tea, Lori. :-)
Let’s look at it this way: We ARE the Universe, not separate from it. We don’t “deal with it” we simply represent our own manifestation of it. We could say it’s in our minds, yes. Jesus (and others) said, the “kingdom is within you” or, in my words, IS us.
It’s not friendly or unfriendly in that sense – it’s a canvas upon which we and all things evolve according to choices that are made (we could say jointly and individually if we want.)
Yes, we are truly influenced by our circumstances in life from the very beginning. (perhaps even by a predetermined choice.) We don’t all have the same opportunities or belief systems. It might sound horrible for me to say this but is it possible that whatever hand we were dealt (or chose) is exactly what we needed in order to express this Universe in all its versions whatever the ramifications might be? Whether “good” or “bad” doesn’t it all contribute to the advancement of consciousness?
Some choose to change their circumstances and the ways they express the Universe. Some don’t. Through awareness and allowing we can move beyond our current circumstances and recreate our surroundings.
Should we fight for change? We could, as we do love to overcome and fight the good fight, but I see that as separation and self-defeating, a judgment. And another battle will always find its way to us if we take that route. Do we want a life of struggle or a life of peace? If we see ourselves as trying to relate to the Universe rather than being the Universe, the battle will never end.
@Lori @DrAliceChan The walks aren't based on music, no music. You could say there are different intentions but mostly it's a unique awareness I focus on for each. I isolate senses, combine them differently, etc. It's not the routes - basically the same route although mixing that up at times is nice. It's all about discovering various ways to activate awareness and centeredness.
Yeah, we have a table tennis club in town. It's fun. :-)
1 year, 11 months ago on Are You Doing the Rarest Thing in the World?
Getting out of my head has been my practice for quite some time now ... even though I'm a natural-born thinker. (if there is such a thing!) Nature is such a beautiful example of just plain living. @DrAliceChan mentioned tennis and sports can also be a great way to stop analyzing unless you're too intense and critical. I play a lot of table tennis (ping pong) and find that it's so fast and requires so many instant decisions that it's really the body that decides, not the brain (simplistic explanation! ha!)
I'm also a walker, Lori. I've identified 30 different walks I take - some more than others. They range from walks that emphasize feelings, to emotions, to smells, to mantras, to dances, to sounds, to visualizing, to evolution and creation, to spiritual connections, to pure appreciation, to ... well you get the idea. Some involve thinking but not brain thinking. Nature and its animals play a big role. Each walk is grounding but also enlightening.
Getting out of the mind is about letting go. and that, in my mind, is the rarest thing in the world. I still have a long ways to go. But what I nice goal or way of life. :-)
We could probably talk for weeks on end about NDEs. My wife has read tons about it over the years. Of course the jury is out on what's going on (naturally.) While I am personally prone to believe that the "other side" is all around us I'm also intrigued by the complexity of the brain and its proclivity to do strange and wonderful (or scary) things.
It's quite interesting to see how NDEs are so often colored by the culture and experiences of the person having them. People "see" God, friends, family, hierarchies, and the here-after in different ways that are often directly related to their religions and other belief systems. Is the other side multidimensional or what else is going on?
As I spent many hours with my friend as he passed, I heard him speak aloud to famous explorers as if he was with them ... sometimes arguing with them. This happened shortly before he died so I could not ask him about what he saw. But, Brad was a history buff extraordinaire.
So, do NDEs mimic our deep-seated emotional needs? Do we somehow access what's beyond in the way we can relate to it most easily? Is someone actually guiding our experience? Are we particularly susceptible at this time of near death or are we exquisitely pure and clairvoyant?
I have no idea.
1 year, 11 months ago on What’s it Like on the Other Side?
@ginidietrich They will look great on you! And probably up your effectiveness 2x or more. Glad you like them!
1 year, 11 months ago on I Hate PR People: The Rules of Pitching Bloggers and Media
@ginidietrich @belllindsay What?!?!? Where the heck was I? Happy Late Birthday Wish Gini! Gee, I knew there was something special about yesterday.
Your birthday gift http://antranik.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/cx160-lake-cycling-shoes.jpg ... I just need to know your size! Spring is just around the corner, Gini.
@Lori Yes, I know, Lori. That is a most difficult thing and an understandable "hold-out" on your part. Maybe it's an understanding only achieved in the perfection of God.
1 year, 11 months ago on Would You Like to Live in a Perfect World?
@Lori Oh I think it's a great game to play! :-) (and you presented it exquisitely)
Yes, we're shaping the world we live in both in the evolutionary aspect of it as well as in the current perspectives we take as @razwanawahid said.
You know Lori, just as they say we can't become more (grow) until we are fully invested in, aware of and accepting of the way we are now, perhaps the world will not be more perfect until it is seen as perfect as it is. That's kind of an easy thing to say but a bit harder to swallow. It may hold a lot of truth, however.
Maybe the other question we could ask is just what is a perfect world?
Isn’t it all relative? As in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs there’s similarly a hierarchy of perfection, perhaps. If sickness and death disappeared then our other issues would move to front and center. Once they’re solved, what other things would then arise that we don’t even consider now?
Would we ever feel things were perfect or wouldn’t we continuously find other things that would give us grief?
In a perfect world maybe we would simply lose all our wants. You brought up the fact that struggle and necessity have spurred some of our greatest accomplishments. We can also say that passions and desires (perhaps even egos?) might contribute to the rest of human advancements. What if humans had neither struggle nor desire? Where would we be? What would our world be like or become?
Would we (and all progress) stop? We’re encouraged to live in the now moment, be accepting, forgiving, allowing and non-judgmental. Does this preclude us from making huge strides in the advancement of our lives? Some say it would be inevitable!
But, what if, absent these typical drivers of struggle and passion, an incredible inner creativity took hold and blossomed and we became free to contribute to the advancement of humanity simply because it was a blast? I’d like to think that fun and pure creativity is the next phase of evolution (or growth of consciousness) and that our current suffering and challenges will soon be the old paradigm.
Maybe today’s world is just an imperfect perfection on its way to a more exciting, freer and less painful perfection.
@belllindsay Wow, another year younger, smarter, and more beautiful ... happy birthday Lindsay! :-) Pouring you your favourite drink.
@Lori In a way, a hot bath is the very essence of acceptance. You're right, it's not about escaping (Calgon, take me away!) At first blush, we might see it as such. Just as we may see surrender as weakness.
Neither surrender nor acceptance is weak. Try seeing them as powerful. Instead of struggling to control ourselves or the situation, what if we understood that the greatest power we can exert is that of allowing, accepting and surrendering.
We don't want "out." We want through. Row the boat gently down the stream.
Thank you, Lori. It's good to be here. :-)
1 year, 11 months ago on Where is Your Solid Ground?
You said "I can’t pretend it isn’t so. It is." For me, that about sums it up. And that's my solid ground. it's the non-judgmental acceptance of whatever is, whatever is going on, whatever I'm experiencing.
It leads me to ponder the notion that we should be seeking something. It leads me to question whether we should be solving things. It makes me doubt the need to answer the conundrums of life. Why struggle against them? Why DO we feel the need to do these things?
So, personally, when I am in that state of hurt, unknowing and/or confusion, I step back and realize that I'm never going to master these things because no one ever has. All I can do is accept, experience, and allow the moment to envelop me and enrich me in whatever way it wants to. I can then move on without external expectations or any contrived "duty" someone else (or my false self) lays on me.
And it brings me peace. Nothing else is needed.
Thanks for being you and for sharing exactly where you are even if you're baffled at times. It's all perfect. :-)
@Sevans Deal! :-)
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@Lori @Raji Mohan @PennyK @Julie | A Clear Sign I think I understand. I think I mentioned before that when my best friend died years ago, his wife was very much into the books, the stages, etc. I think it just must be different for everyone which is what prompted my question. It's probably so important to be yourself and to not try to live from another's perspective or in some "right" fashion. It has to work for you ... and you're doing it organically. :-)
2 years ago on What Do You Say to Someone Who is Grieving?
and thanks to you too, @ginidietrich
@Sevans Really neat stuff! I'm up in Carson City, NV which is almost a world away, i know. I was in Vegas for the NMX Blogworld event a couple weeks ago. This is going fast and furious (naturally) but I've been trying to catch up since i came late.
I've just finished my book and I'm fascinated by the questions and answers. Would dearly love to know the results of this "interview" and its impact on sales! Will you return to tell us?? :-)
Hi Lori. I'm grateful for your thoughts on this. Knowing how hard it must be for the mourner makes it difficult to find words, of course ... just as with your cousin. Maybe it stems from having a lot of self-consciousness about saying just the right thing? Anyway, it's really helpful to see what is better for you to hear and receive from others.
I have an extended question. Have you found that the words you want to hear have changed over time? They talk about stages of grief and for me, that complicates things ... not knowing "where she's at" emotionally at that particular moment.
I find myself wanting to know so much more about Alex ... his fearlessness for one, and how that translated to the way he lived.
Hugs, Lori :-)
@Lori A wild and circuitous ride, eh? :-)
2 years ago on Are You Trying to Change Your Life?
@Lori LOL... feel free! (But I want a full report! Kidding.)
Yeah, that is exactly what I've been wondering ... the look and feel of a world without struggle, fear and pain as a requisite to change. In nature we see struggle all the time but there's no anxiety. It's simple struggle that leads to the needed change (the butterfly) and I doubt there are "expectations" as you and I would define them.
You pose good questions Lori! Choose and do! Why wait for difficulties to mount then force the issue? Do we not trust ourselves? Or do we just not know ourselves?
Hey, Lori. Another topic that really grabs me. :-)
It’s really interesting that you felt obliged to say you’re not advocating laziness when suggesting “Accept it” as a mantra. It’s understandable that you did. But, it’s most interesting to me that laziness even comes to our minds when we think of being accepting and content.
I think it’s our natural inclination to want to grow, to change, to improve. We struggle and we want to figure things out. We are challenged and we want to solve the problem. Difficulties drive advancement. But, then something else happens. We get caught up in forcing change to the extent we become unhappy with who and what we are. A never ending cycle. :-(
The question could be stated differently. Is it change we’re really looking for? And if so, does it require effort, force, and discipline? What if change or understanding or growth or advancement came as a natural result of acceptance and existing peacefully? Maybe our most effective change comes more from being true to ourselves.
My mantra became “Notice, observe, and allow.” It’s very similar to “accept it.” My experiment, which is ongoing, is to see what natural changes come about from this perspective. No force, no self-discipline. And therefore no judgment or unmet expectations because there aren’t any expectations.
@Lori That is awesome, Anonymous. It's really good to hear that you have received some benefit from everyone's contributions and caring. I wish you much happiness and confidence in your life. Reading all the responses is captivating and has helped me as well! We really appreciate your question.
Keep those good feelings! :-)
2 years ago on Dear LFI: How Do I Deal With My Fear?
@johncharlesowens So true, John. And all this makes things fun and interesting.
@Lori I didn't mean to say that at all. Of course we can eradicated fears. I just meant to say it's not only a mental exercise. Gosh, I suck at writing. lol :-)
@Lori Well, I do think that it's the fear that gives birth to others. Fear of embarrassment, fear of losing control, fear of loss, fear of public speaking, etc. all seem to stem from the fear of death in that we lose ourselves or our image of what we are as we subject ourselves to scrutiny.
But, I could be wrong, I OFTEN am! :-)
I wonder about effectiveness of rejecting things we absorbed from our primary caretakers and society. Perhaps we can intellectually reject these things that cause so many fears but maybe they remain lodged in our "bones." and it would definitely seem logical that as we age and unwittingly hold on to fears we can also adopt new fears if we're not vigilant.
Lori, I'm with you! It's just more wholesome and rewarding to go with that gut feeling that there's much more to us than what we see. It's liberating too! :-) It might even lead to unconditional love - and that's juicy!
The fear of death is probably the mother of all fears. What happens after that? Are we judged? Do we just disappear? "Half" the world tells us it's all over when we die and the other "half" says we'll be judged and either forgiven or condemned. Then there's a third "half" that is our intuition/inner being, deep self that, through feelings tells us that our souls or essences (consciousness) will reunite with our family and friends after we leave the body.
Society has colored our thinking about all this and these things can scare the life right out of us. What "half" do we buy into? Which one of these beliefs has been drummed into us all our lives? That's probably where these type fears originated.
It seems like until we come to peace with this mother of all fears we'll continue to struggle with other fears along the way. My guess? Through vigilant awareness and introspection we can tap into and live in the inner being feeling that tells us what science can't prove ... that our true identity isn't found just in our physical bodies - which simply feels much better. And this can lead to allowing fears to crumble due to lack of support.
PS Has science proven we ARE just soul-less physical bodies? I don't think so.
@Sandi Amorim @Lori I couldn't agree more Sandi. How could one judge his or her giving as more important or valuable than the person receiving? It just wouldn't make any sense. And would probably involve judgment and comparisons.
2 years ago on What Gives Your Life Meaning?
@Lori@smargo@Ali Mac@Harleena Singh
Wow, one can’t leave this porch for very long before there are new things to consider!
What’s the purpose of grief? Is there meaning in it? Is there connection in grief? Maybe grief tells us to let go of attachments. Maybe the goal in life is to let go of wanting to orchestrate things. To let go of defining ourselves by what we think we have/own and who we think we are.
Maybe it’s about connecting without possessing. Maybe it’s all about reaching a depth we never knew was there and finding the love that transcends the physical existence that we’ve always treasured.
I think treasuring the physical is wonderful yet, are we also to learn to let go of it? Could letting go be meaning in itself? Or, would letting go reveal true meaning?
@Lori LOL, sorry to spin you around. I need a lesson in communication! :-) Yes, feeling good (through connecting) has to be right up there.
@Lori I did answer! That is, until you flipped it back. Ha! It’s true that we can see it from both sides. I guess my point was that often we get caught up in a constant search for things we already have. We seek love and forget we ARE love, etc.
Your knitting not only brings you peace and joy but it brings peace and joy to others whether you intended that or not. The fabric of life is enhanced and strengthened by those who are “going merrily along his or her way” as you said. And yes, that not only makes us feel good, it is giving!
So, feeling good – that’s the ticket? I think you nailed it! Okay, now I can answer another way. I find meaning in feeling good which, in turn, makes others feel good. Don’t you just love making others feel good? It’s pretty awesome. :-)
@Lori @Ali Mac Lori, you do such an excellent job of traveling that line. It's not easy making the choices you make. Even though you attempt to express things positively and thoughtfully you also infuse your personal doubts and struggles and that's perfectly fine. We're all in that same boat in our lives when you take our lives as a whole. We appreciate you. :-) (just as Ali expressed.)
You love to tackle the toughest questions. Love it. I wonder ... what if we flipped the script?
Like I'm sure we all have, there have been times when I’ve been thoroughly lost in wondering what would give my life meaning. I look at those people who are actively engaged and accomplishing amazing things that blow your mind. And I wonder if the things they’re doing give life meaning for them. Yet, I see how so many of them are unhappy and just in a headlong pursuit.
It’s so tempting to wonder what gives life meaning. What if we looked at it from a different perspective? What if we, instead, sought to find ways to give meaning TO life?
Who are the happy ones? Are they the ones who have found meaning in what they do? Or, perhaps are they the ones who are infusing meaning into life … day to day, moment by moment, item by item, in whatever they do? And not just in THEIR lives but into the fabric of life itself.
So, I’ve come to the thought that perhaps we’re here to create meaning not get it or find it. It isn’t out there anywhere. We’re sculptors of meaning. We’re free to make it whatever we wish it to be.
Does it boil down to this? "It's better to give than to receive." Maybe! :-)
@Lori Can't find you.
2 years ago on How Pinterest Will Change the World
@Lori Oh, and yes you DID say that! :-) (selective hearing on my part? hmmm, overdeveloped sense?)
@Lori I dunno. I may actually have a profile page. I know that a while back they sent me an invitation and I may have signed up. I like your pictures here. I'm a "green" fanatic and like that one the best. I'll go take a look and see if I can see your page.
If I get involved, you have to promise to help! :-p
Oh no, we've lost you, Lori. I can feel the enthusiasm oozing from your pores. You'll never be the same again. A sad, sad day. ;-)
So, hmmmm ... you want to take over the world? (your response to Bill) Actually, many do predict that "girls" will rule and that the world will be a better place because of this. I'm sure that's far from news here at LFI! :-)
And if Pinterest is the vehicle for that, I better jump on board! I've resisted and resisted. Heck, I can't find pictures for my posts much less extra pictures for Pinterest! Doesn't it take forever and don't you have to pay for these????
I'm so out of it.
@MelanieAThomp @Lori Yes, that was the point of your post and a good one! Children don't have the filters built that they develop over time. Another good thing to think about is how we react to what our children draw. If we allow them and encourage them to express without judgment or negative reactions, maybe they won't develop as many filters and restrictions. Something to think about?
As to my kids comments now, it's very interesting. It only happens on rare occasions but it's very insightful when something slips out about how they felt as children. At those times, we as parents get a glimpse of ourselves as they openly recall things through their unfiltered vision. They are recalling and relaying emotions as they were back when they were more pure. It can be shocking at times! ;-)
I'm really supporting your notion Melanie ... and I love that you're being so aware! You're going to do great as a mom! :-)
2 years ago on How Would a Child Draw You?
@galenpearl That's really neat, Galen. I do something very similar. I'm lucky enough to live along the Carson River and take a lot of walks. I'll often pretend that i can experience the walk with just one single sense. I like to "see" what I can learn or absorb with just the one sense. Then next time I'll pick another. At times I try to use all my senses equally as I go.
I like the eyes-closed nunchuck work. Those are not only fun things to do they just put an entirely different spin on your actions. And, yes, it really can improve or expand your awareness.
2 years ago on How Do Your Five Senses Shape the Life You Lead?
Gosh, children can be painfully honest, can't they? They sure can tell us how the world sees us. It's scary sometimes. I solved this problem by not allowing them to draw. (Kiddinggg!)
As an extension your thought, it's interesting to hear your adult children tell you some things they thought about you when they were young children ... that's another indication of how the world sees you, albeit a bit late! :-) I'm lucky that my "kids" are kind and tactful, ha!
@ngoloskokova Hi! Thanks for dropping in! Marketing is a fascinating subject and exercise. I like to think of it as the art of shaping people's opinions and beliefs. You're so right that the more of our senses that can be stimulated by a message the more we're apt to remember it and then, perhaps, act on it. Are you in sales and/or marketing?
For me, music can really drum up memories and emotions. So, associations based on sound really is a factor for me at times. Advertisers use jingles a lot to create these associations that hopefully lead to actions (buying) when faced with alternatives. Sometimes, however, all they get is a type of branding that doesn't necessarily lead to buying.
Tell me more about the "language learning" you spoke about. how would we incorporate more senses into that?
@Sabrina at MyMiBoSo I like that, Sabrina. I've often taken meditative walks where I focus on a sense individually and sometimes all of them collectively. Getting access to the body is really valuable, isn't it? It's the core of our being. I think too many times we want to escape it or transcend it as if it's less important.
@wonderoftech Hi Carolyn. Thanks for stopping by! You're so right about technology bringing access to things formerly unattainable to those who have lost a sense. How interesting that your girls just asked you that. I wonder what prompted the question.
I would agree that sight would be a tough one to lose. As you said, so many things we do depend on it.
@Late_Bloomers @Lori Oh, wow. That would be a challenge for sure! I'm not a cook. (Are you going to suggest that's not an excuse???) :-) You know? My mother rarely, if ever, used a recipe. I can remember my dad often saying something like: "Wow, this was good, can we have it again sometime?" Mom would always answer with a shrug and a comment that indicated ... I'll try but don't hold your breath!
But, she NEVER failed to cook for us all every single day and it was always good.
2 years ago on YOUR TURN! Lori’s Winter Tabbouleh!
@Late_Bloomers Perfect! And it's my pleasure. :-)
@Julie | A Clear Sign Hey Julie. Yes, absolutely that sixth sense is important. I thought that "sense" would be brought up! Who's to say it's not the most important? Yet, it's a difficult one to describe and its effectiveness varies so greatly from person to person.
We would likely make up for a lost sense if we had to. But, it's hard to know who we'd be in that situation. Or how we'd be different. Might we be the same? I can think of people who have a weight issue, or are unusually short or tall, or have a speech impediment and the effects these things often have on their personalities and even career paths ... it all fascinates me.
@Lori @Late_Bloomers I will often answer "green" when someone asks me my favorite color. But, which green do I mean? And when someone else calls something green there are times when I would disagree. Strange, in a way.
Makes one wonder about the trustworthiness of an eye witness, huh? (eh?)
@Late_Bloomers Thank you! :-) Well, no trips planned at this time. But, it will happen again. I was there again in 2002 (gosh over ten years now?) Italy, briefly in Switzerland, Germany, Austria. yes, loved Perugia. Have you spent much time there?
2 years ago on The Introspective Life of a Blogger
@Sandi Amorim Hmmm, do we eat less when we can't taste? I wonder if that could be a weight-loss tactic that would capture the world. We should do a test Sandi! ;-) Eating just isn't as fun when we can't smell/taste.
It's funny the things we know intuitively, isn't it? Sometimes we listen and sometimes we don't. Could we describe the soul as a sense? An entire array of senses that we can't describe or define? Just because it's spiritual, does it preclude it from being a type of "sense?"