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I only started reading recently and I have so many things to say. 1) I LOVE that you're moving toward a more authentic type of post because so many of us bloggers feel like we need to present the sanitized version of things. Otherwise we feel the vitriol. 2) I've been through a few breaks and though it hurt my traffic, it allowed me to come back energized and full of new ideas. 3) Somehow I've managed not to delete my blog. I took it down a few times and I struggled with not wanting it up. I went to therapy for my anxiety and feeling exposed and dealing with trolls. Yes, I sat in therapy and complained about comments like you write about. I complained about people looking to me as a guru and I complained about needing space from people who needed friends or help that found me because I blog. I dearly love those people and want them in my life, but I've learned who I am in the process and who I am is actually quite private. 

I wish you well during this break and although I'm just getting to know you, I know it's tough to step away and it's tough to deal with the judgement and bullying bloggers receive. Just know that you're not the only one who goes through it and even though it feels lonely being the blogger among so many readers, there's others out there who feel like you and we're here for you if you need it. When you're done with this break you're going to sit back and relax and look at what an amazing community you've built. By yourself. With your own two hands. It's pretty fucking cool. :) 

9 months, 2 weeks ago on Why I Need to Bail for a While

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Isn't it funny that people use your blogging platform and popularity against you? They have no idea how hard you've worked to get here and how long it takes to make this kind of stuff happen. I haven't had this happen but I had one guy ask me for writing critiques on a memoir he was writing (I'm a writer) and when I said 'No, I don't read anyone's work and give feedback except my writing group' he proceeded to cuss me out, then harass me on my blog, then harass me for the better part of the year. People are so weird! 

1 year, 3 months ago on Finding Out a Friend Was Never a Friend at All

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 @KimRippere I think it's important to distinguish something here: we're talking about two different things. ONE: a rape joke, which is...a joke. As someone below pointed out, Louis C.K. made a joke about the holocaust and no one was outraged. That is baffling to me as the Holocaust was an event of genocide where people were LITERALLY burned to death. TWO: The issue of women being raped is serious; however, the argument people are making cannot be taken seriously. It's like when FOX news supporters say that Obama is a Socialist. I think that's a bit unfair and unethical of this cookie blogger/rape survivor to have started this issue--because Daniel Tosh didn't rape her, and she chose to attend the Laugh Factory in Hollywood (which--spoiler alert: you WILL be offended at a comedy show in Hollywood). That this has gotten this out of hand is really outrageous. 

2 years, 1 month ago on Rape, Still Not Funny

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 @dpinsof You're making too much sense. ;)

2 years, 1 month ago on Rape, Still Not Funny

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I love @reverendsteveii 's response. That the entire "feminist" community is appalled at this is just infuriating to me. I'm glad everyone jumped on the bandwagon on this. (Rolls eyes) Think for yourself. Have a laugh once in awhile. Double check the story for accuracy. There are a lot of women who are trying to be objective and educated, including using critical thinking skills to examine their own "feminist" movement. I happen to have shifted myself away from the feminist movement months ago for various reasons and many women I've spoken to are feeling the same way. We don't feel the movement represents US or men who are supportive of women. We also don't feel there's a place for non-white women or trans-women. I also took personal offense when women attacked me for standing up for Daniel Tosh. There's a bit of mean-spirited, holier than thou group think/speak going around. I've been in a situation like that--fundamentalism. I do feel the radical feminist movement has some similarities to the fundies and as a result, I don't want to get sucked into group think again. I thought Daniel Tosh was funny long before this, and he's told rape jokes before. I've laughed. His response to this whole thing was pretty funny and light hearted, considering the amount of internet HATE he got from some women: http://tosh.comedycentral.com/video-clips/in-her-skin---uncensored?xrs=synd_facebook 

2 years, 1 month ago on Rape, Still Not Funny

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