@DWAdams I advise you read the rest of what I wrote. And "shrill" is a description of the frequency of the tones of my voice. I presume you mean something different than its literal meaning. Perhaps "vocally feminist." In that case I take it as a compliment.
@dpinsof Rape is torture, and it's a hate crime against women and non-gender conforming men.
And it's still quite acceptable in our society. It wasn't until the 1990s that the last state in the USA outlawed rape by a husband of his wife.
That's the difference. Everyone understands that murder and genocide is bad. Not so much with rape. Well, people SAY they're against rape, but when you point to specific instances of rape, they'll have a laundry list of excuses as to why it doesn't qualify as rape: she was drinking, she was out alone, she was dressed that way, she was wearing makeup, she should have known better, she should have left him, she was leading him on, she just regretted her one-night-stand, she was just trying to ruin his reputation, etc.,etc, hundreds and hundreds of reasons to claim that the victim was "asking for it" and thus not truly raped. See Whoopi Goldberg's comments on Roman Polanski's drugging and anally raping a 13-year-old girl for a well-known example. Giving alcohol and quaaludes to a child, refusing to let her leave your house, intimidating her, and then finally assaulting her--it's hard for me to see how that could be anything but rape. But Whoopi said it's not "rape-rape." So.
There are jokes that involve rape that are quite funny--but these are invariably jokes that make the perpetrators and the apologists for rape the butt of the joke, rather than the victim. http://www.theonion.com/articles/raped-environment-led-polluters-on-defense-attorne,817/ See this Onion article for an example.
Hope that helps.