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@Sybellis  Another thing,  a lot of fields that don't require a degree as a hard rule(like web design, web development and programming, these are all quite lax on the degree, but many employers prefer a degree or at least an associates degree or some college) will not look at you without a solid portfolio AND a high school diploma.  In other words these people want to see what you are capable of before they hire you, and people work HARD to build a solid portfolio. No high school diploma is a NO, unless you are the second coming of Steve Jobs.

14 hours, 54 minutes ago on Dating Scarcity Perspective Leaves You Vulnerable; Only 3 “Good” BM for Every 100 BW

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@Sybellis  Seriously, I am not even that picky when it comes to the college degree.  What matters to me is does he enjoy learning new things, is he self-driven(drive is a big factor) and what has he been doing(I know plenty of firefighters and business owners with no degree), but no high school diploma?  WTF it's free and you need it for 99% of jobs that pay more than minimum wage.  In fact MOST places will not hire you if you have a criminal record and/or no high school diploma.



I can also attest that 30k is barely enough for one person, never mind someone with mouths to feed. Really, 30k isn't much in small town America, never mind a large city where cost of living is usually much higher. 

14 hours, 58 minutes ago on Dating Scarcity Perspective Leaves You Vulnerable; Only 3 “Good” BM for Every 100 BW

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@DWB  I know right?  Why not open a business or get a GED?  How about mentoring troubled kids?  How is burning down your house and engaging in domestic terrorism going to solve anything?

17 hours, 59 minutes ago on Dating Scarcity Perspective Leaves You Vulnerable; Only 3 “Good” BM for Every 100 BW

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@Alana 2 @thecrazyartist  Exactly, usually the people looking for unicorns are well below average themselves.  These are the guys that will fault you for gaining 5lbs or for not having a 4.0 gpa.

18 hours, 8 minutes ago on Dating Scarcity Perspective Leaves You Vulnerable; Only 3 “Good” BM for Every 100 BW

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I can't even with some of this BS.  I am going to say what I have said a million times before:


These men wan ta woman who looks like Halle Berry, cooks like Martha Stewart,  is educated, has great credit, has the brains and ambitions of Condolezza Rice, is as supportive and loving as June Cleaver, and fucks like a video ho.  They also want her to be submissive and not argue or disagree with him, she has to have that alluring feminine quality like a 1950's movie star.  They want all of this for no other rhyme or reason than having a penis, because this is what women are "supposed to be and do" simply because he is male.  If you call out any of his faults then you are a bitch and a gold-digger, who doesn't know her place.


Am I right here?  Black men NEVER do wrong it's all on the women right?  Go on and say it, just be honest with your opinions and I won't fault you.


20 hours, 40 minutes ago on Dating Scarcity Perspective Leaves You Vulnerable; Only 3 “Good” BM for Every 100 BW

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@jazzyfae45 @trinigirl1  Apparently the crips, bloods and the nation of islam are "protesting" the police.


Is this reality? Is this what "the community" want black women to risk their lives marching for?


http://nypost.com/2015/04/27/rival-gangs-team-up-to-take-out-baltimore-cops/

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2015/04/27/the-bloods-and-crips-anti-cop-ceasefire-in-baltimore.html



20 hours, 32 minutes ago on Dating Scarcity Perspective Leaves You Vulnerable; Only 3 “Good” BM for Every 100 BW

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@Veronique Valesquez @onmywayup @thecrazyartist  People just don't want to work at maintaining a relationship.  I wish they would be more honest and just admit they want to fuck around with no strings.  I would also like them to admit they are looking for a financial resource and maid, not a girlfriend they have to reciprocate favors and love to. Why try tricking someone into sex? Just keep it real. I would respect them a lot more if they kept it real.

5 days, 23 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@kennaGransberg  The thing is there are a TON of black couples doing the same tag on youtube.  In all of these videos the women are having fun, are feminine, and sweet.  Why did they use fight videos as the comparison?  Whoever made this just dislikes black women.

6 days, 12 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@lili2009 

"And BTW, THEY date and marry out way more than black women but somehow that makes sense, that's innocent "

We are all foul, aggressive heifers remember? They lack The Mans(TM) white voodoo(TM) that instantly tames us wild ass heifers so they have to date white women out of necessity. 


The more these men show their asses the more I think they are enamored with white men.  They view white men as some sort of deities with divine powers that make panties melt off women.  WTF is wrong with these people? They are really grasping at straws.

6 days, 13 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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OK, so the person who made the ignorant ass video is comparing educated, classy, and intelligent black women who are most likely upwardly mobile and going places in life, to the women you see featured on world star hip hop. That is completely unfair and the equivalent of me comparing Suge Knight to Steve Jobs and asking why black men are all such thugs.  Has it ever occurred to some of these DBR men that  the "hoodrats" are all that is available to them because that is all they deserve?  Most of these men like to leave out the little fact that they will get with any woman who is "bad" enough for them and personality be damned.  Most of the men complaining claim to be "nice guys" because they have never been to prison and don't physically abuse women, emotional and verbal abuse is just fine in their book.  A lot of black men assume all black women are loud and brutal and approach them as such.  Some black men compete WITH black women not FOR them, this is why they are seeing so much anger and disrespect.



Another thing is this, I will be the first to admit that I am quiet and soft spoken, but I am really not a feminine woman( leather jackets and menswear watches are my fashion vices, and I live in jeans and t-shirts) . I am not really warm and come off as a little standoffish and unavailable(I am working on that, people sometimes get the vibe I don't like them when it's far from the truth, others call it "mysterious"). How I react is entirely based on how I am approached.  If a guy is respectful, and I am comfortable with him, I really open up. I flirt back, I giggle like a schoolgirl and I smile a lot.  If you are a jerk, get loud when rejected, or are a general pain in the ass then I ignore you and plan my escape(confrontation is not my thing at all).  My point is women are submissive and vulnerable when they feel safe with you.  A woman submitting to you and being warm/soft/open with you comes AFTER you have earned her trust, it is not something that just happens because you are male and exist.  Healthy relationships have a foundation of trust, respect and mutual understanding.  When these things are in place then BOTH partners feel safe revealing their softer side. 


What some men fail to realize is anyone who is in a pressure cooker situation of disrespect and nasty attitudes is going to react accordingly. 


Unfortunately, a lot of black women are fed the "strong black woman" trope and see being soft-spoken as weak.  A lot of black women were raised from minute one to "fight for the community" and ourselves.  When someone is taught life is a constant struggle and fight then they are going to act accordingly.  If anything some black men want to fight and compete with black women.  These men are not treating women like delicate submissive flowers, they are treating them like one of their boys, and expecting them to reciprocate with submission.  Instead of competing with other men, they are competing with black women.

6 days, 13 hours ago on Epic Responses to Dumb A** Video Claiming Black Women are More Submissive to White Men

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@C_Pompadour31 @starlightbubbles27  Same with my dad, he HATES it and always encouraged us to judge people on character.

1 week ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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@giantrafflesia  Another thing, this "man" refuses to show his face, how do we know that he is even claiming who he is to be?  How do we know he is not some disgruntled middle aged asshole in his mothers basement?


Seriously though, if someone was really well-educated and working in a career how would they find the time to make hate videos 24/7? 


These men treat white men like they are some all powerful-all knowing beings that they have come to understand through some kind of divine man code or some other bullshit.  They worship the ground they walk on and claim to speak for white men because they know white men/work with white men and hear them say all kinds of disgusting shit about black women.  Really? Really?  These white men you claim to know thing black women are the scum of the earth, but somehow they are just fine with black men?  Do you ever wonder what these men think of you? Do you really think someone who is as racist as you claim is just fine with you, a black man, dating white women?  Do you think they really even like having to work with you?  You can say you don't care what they think but clearly you do, otherwise you would not use their alleged hatred to degrade and shame black women.



1 week, 2 days ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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@Tempaccount  Yes, Chris NEEDS to get him on that copyright if she can.  People have been shut down for less.  Not only did he steal content he also left out chunks on purpose to misrepresent her words and paint her in a bad light.

1 week, 2 days ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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@giantrafflesia  Yes.  This "man" once said he could never see himself marrying a black woman, because we are all disgusting.

1 week, 2 days ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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@mlank64 yup. These males are already pissed that the women currently in their prime years don't want them.  Now they realize that the upcoming generation does not want them either and it scares the hell out of them.

1 week, 2 days ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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Have you contacted YouTube over him stealing your content and their policy on that? The easiest way to get someone shut down is copyright infringement.  Check with a lawyer.

1 week, 2 days ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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@Nikki J  Exactly, Chris has also called out black women as well.  She has actually critiqued behaviors as a whole more than anything.  All she has really done is point out the negative DBR behaviors that pose a direct threat to the well-being of black women and their children.  What is wrong with that?

1 week, 2 days ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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@Peruse7  He's pissed that Maxi is gorgeous and doesn't want him. Deep issues with these people.

1 week, 2 days ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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@HillaryNicole  He attacked Maxi  because his incessant attacks on Chris were not getting to her.  So he decided to take a young black girl and "put her in her place" to make SURE she knows she doesn't have options and no one wants her as a means of spreading his poisonous DBR garbage.  If he can destroy a young girls self-esteem then that is just another victory to him.  The men supporting him are just as filthy and disgusting.  No wonder no decent woman wants any of them.

1 week, 2 days ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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Flagged it, what a complete asshole!  I hope he feels like a real man for attacking a 17 year old girl.

1 week, 2 days ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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@socialbutterfly  Yup, seek legal action as well.

1 week, 2 days ago on BB&W Family, I Need Your Help. This Man is Attacking My Family

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@Silverroxen  I know right?  His comment is harmless...

1 week, 4 days ago on Azealia Banks’ New Boo is HAAAWWWRRRRTTT!!!

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Damn, he fine!

1 week, 5 days ago on Azealia Banks’ New Boo is HAAAWWWRRRRTTT!!!

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Adorable!

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Maxi and Her Buddy Launch a You Tube Channel!

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@zimekcyn @dani-BBW @thecrazyartist  I liked the original Tom better, now I have a love-hate relationship with the character.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Open Thread: White guys and why we dig them.

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@butterfly11  Beautiful couple!

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Open Thread: White guys and why we dig them.

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I have a thing for guys with glasses.  The fine hipster/geek is totally my thing, I think this guy is really hot(I've really been crushing on Ryan Eggold these past few weeks):



2 weeks, 4 days ago on Open Thread: White guys and why we dig them.

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My current fav is Daisy Dream by Marc Jacobs.  I have all three daisy's but I am really feeling daisy dream for spring.  It's light and very fresh.  Heavy fragrance is not really my thing,  I am also a fan of sportier/cologne inspired scents so liking this was a surprise.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Why Every Woman Should Have Her Own Signature Fragrance

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I need this in my life...

Darn Chis! Providing me with s much spending temptation!

2 weeks, 6 days ago on OCC Does Smashes with New CRÈME COLOUR CONCENTRATE

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@coco78728  So was my mom, I had the Barbie rainbow coalition growing up.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Kenyan Short Film, “Yellow Fever” Show How Pervasive, and Absurd the Quest for Skin Lightening Has Become Globally

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@Law Wanxi @Patricia Kayden  Lol Law.  They are really beautiful, now excuse me while I go be jealous....

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Kenyan Short Film, “Yellow Fever” Show How Pervasive, and Absurd the Quest for Skin Lightening Has Become Globally

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I find this crazy, these women are basically destroying their natural beauty.

3 weeks ago on Kenyan Short Film, “Yellow Fever” Show How Pervasive, and Absurd the Quest for Skin Lightening Has Become Globally

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Congrats and may you have a long happy marriage!

3 weeks ago on Fan Bought “Swirling” Started a Journey that Ends with an Engagement!

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@darkandlovely @One n Only  To me that is just a no, a married man is off limits, I don't care what the situation is.  If he is involved with ANYONE in ANY way shape or form even if it's allegedly "just a bootycall"  then DO NOT GO THERE EVER.  Reality is they rarely leave their woman, and if they do he WILL cheat on you too.

3 weeks ago on Author Tells Women to Use Their “P*ssy Power” to Get the Men They Want

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@SirLoinDeBeef @Law Wanxi  I can believe it, I recall reading somewhere that the average video game consumer is female and between the ages of 25-30.  I think it's because many  of the men gaming are using their wife or girlfriends money to support their habit.  I like video games and all, but they don't consume my life.

3 weeks, 1 day ago on Matthew Hussey Live Event Gives Female Pickup Lines that Work!

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@Neil Marsden @trinigirl1  You were cute as a button trinigirl! Great point you made, why are so many grown men having such a hard time approaching women? Particularly black women? 

3 weeks, 5 days ago on Letter Writer Explains Non-Black Male Hesitancy in Approaching Black Women

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@Awesee  Forgot to add I also see the outright abuse as one of the many rewards of black men constantly degrading us.  Black men abuse and do not bother protecting us, so why would other groups of men respect us?  Seriously other women are off limits because they have a level of protection that we don't.  I am willing to bet that some of the men doing this were black men.

3 weeks, 5 days ago on Letter Writer Explains Non-Black Male Hesitancy in Approaching Black Women

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@Awesee  I just avoid online dating period.  Too much BS to look through, too many racist and dirtbags who are feeling some kind of way.  Plus my already mediocre social skills need  improvement.  Online dating isn't going to help that issue.

3 weeks, 5 days ago on Letter Writer Explains Non-Black Male Hesitancy in Approaching Black Women

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@coco78728


I agree, where are the fathers and family? I am 24 and my mom or dad will still call me if I am at work too late or if they have not heard from me.  I can't imagine anyone not checking up on a little kid.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on Breaking Point? What’s Up with All These Stories of Black Women Killing Their Children?!

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I am not making excuses for these women in any way shape or form, but I am going to keep it very real.  The unsettling truth is that most blacks would rather cover up a friend or family members mental illness than get them the help they need.  There is a massive stigma towards mental health awareness, but in the black community it seems to be intensified tenfold.  Psychiatric hospitals, medications, and counseling are viewed as being for "crazy people".  I have heard people in my own family write off mental illness as "white people problems".  I have even heard people go as far as to say seeking treatment is just a way for "The Man"(TM) to find something else wrong with "us".  The amount of conspiracies swirling around is just mind boggling and downright sad. You don't just up and behead, drown or suffocate your child one day, in cases like this there are almost always signs leading up to the big snap that have been ignored or written off as "just a little postpartum"(which is another issue, it's not "just postpartum" or "just anxiety", some women NEVER recover from postpartum and quite frankly hate being mothers).  There is also such a thing as being criminally insane.


Another issue is that the black community has glamourized and hyped up single motherhood, when in all honesty some women should not be having kids period.  I would consider a woman who is mentally ill a high-risk pregnancy.  I am not sorry for stating this but being destitute, single and pregnant(and to top that off mentally ill) with little to no support is not an ideal situation at all, it's downright sad and preventable on so many levels.  If you can handle it kudos to you, but stop promoting the "strong black woman" and "by the bootstraps" trope and trying to sugarcoat these situations.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on Breaking Point? What’s Up with All These Stories of Black Women Killing Their Children?!

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I will admit Azealia is quite a character and has some growing up to do, but this is her preference.  So typical that clutch and the BC would be her cheerleaders until she let this cat out the bag.

4 weeks ago on Wait…WHET?! Azealia Banks Dates White Guys? Is She Not Allowed to Complain of Black Men Now?

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@coco78728  Right, when we report a crime we need to make sure ALL the details are in check.  Crying racism will just not work.  If we do cry racism we better have evidence to make it stick.

4 weeks, 1 day ago on False Claims of Racial Profiling Like Son of Taraji P. Henson and Daniele Watts Make It Hard For the Rest of Us.

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This sort of BS really cheapens the definition of racial profiling and makes it hard for real victims.  If you were doing something illegal and then were stopped by the cops, then it is not racial profiling.  Yes there are abusive cops and yes, racism exist but trying to vilify all police officers is the wrong way of going about things.

4 weeks, 1 day ago on False Claims of Racial Profiling Like Son of Taraji P. Henson and Daniele Watts Make It Hard For the Rest of Us.

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