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@Gijou @itsgoodtobeme @Arabella12 I agree with everyone else but Camilla alves is very pretty, and so are you.  People often confuse "sexy" and "pretty".  I don't consider Camilla Alves "sexy" but she is pretty.


To add to this I have seen many very handsome men married to women who were pretty but not bombshell sexy.  The wives were usually naturally pretty, but didn't dress in a fashion forward way or spend a lot of time on hair or make-up(classic pretty girls dressed down cases).



2 days, 6 hours ago on “Did This White Guy Use Me for Sex?” Yeah; Probably. But Not Because You’re Black.

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I am happy to see this, I like Keke and think she is gorgeous, perfect for Cinderella.  I like fairytales and I like that Cinderella gets her prince in the end.  It shows that black women are worthy and the ending does not need to be altered.  Love it!


OT:  Have you all heard of Misty Copeland? She is an ABT dancer and will be leading as Odette/Odile in Swan Lake.  I love seeing black women in the arts, it is a nice departure from the booty shaking rap girl we see so often.

http://2paragraphs.com/2014/08/misty-copeland-first-african-american-ballerina-in-abt-swan-lake-lead/

2 days, 14 hours ago on First Photos of Keke Palmer Playing Cinderella on Broadway!

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@onmywayup @Arabella12 @SacLove76 

This goes into ideas about white supremacy and beauty standards, but people fail to realize that white and blonde is still the idea of a trophy wife.  Many people will not see a black woman as a trophy wife simply because she is black.  Looks really have little to do with it.  White supremacist beauty standards dictate that a black woman will always be seen as less beautiful than the white woman, no matter how attractive the black woman is.  Do not think for one minute that a handsome white man with a black woman regardless of how pretty the woman is, is not going to get the "why is he with her?" question.  People are not overt with this, but it is not uncommon. 


We also do not know what the author looks like so making this assumption is a little out there.

3 days, 8 hours ago on “Did This White Guy Use Me for Sex?” Yeah; Probably. But Not Because You’re Black.

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@CharlesCaptainBlesi 


I'm happy to hear things worked out for you and your wife, but I politely have to disagree about "testing" commitment.  I am not jumping through hoops for anyone, there are just other fish in the sea.  I find the idea too stressful and tend to show people the door swiftly.  It's great if it works out for other people, but not everyone is willing to put up with this sort of tactic. 

4 days, 6 hours ago on “Did This White Guy Use Me for Sex?” Yeah; Probably. But Not Because You’re Black.

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@SweetGardenia @KKendall 


Men don't care about your looks as much when you are just a booty call.  This guy clearly had no intention of taking her around his friends and family and probably just wanted more sex.  A study also shows that men drop a lot of their ideal standards when they just want sex.  Personality, appearance and quality of individual go out of the window, they are just hooking up, all that matters is the sex is good.  He is not out to get to know you, that is the difference between a booty call site and dating site.  With a booty call site you know right from the beginning that it is just going to be sex.  It wasn't because she was "playing games", he probably just moved on to the next one in the meantime. 


Some men have a library full of women they know they can have no strings attached sex with.  They usually call them or text them when they need some sexy time. The author should have realized this and moved on sooner. 

4 days, 13 hours ago on “Did This White Guy Use Me for Sex?” Yeah; Probably. But Not Because You’re Black.

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@docwatson223 @dani-BBW  Divorce, alimony and kids are the reason I am not as keen to date a man in his 40's.  Just too much baggage to deal with.

6 days, 12 hours ago on Ask a White Guy: Older Men, Younger Women?

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@SirLoinDeBeef @lindsaynagle  I look young too(most people guess 18-19 but I am 23 soon to be 24), people have told me though that they know I am older as soon as I open my mouth. I just don't "sound like a kid".  True story, I have had old weirdos lose interest as soon as the conversation started. When I wasn't as impressed as they thought I would be, I heard one guy mutter "she must just be a really young looking 30, she has no bubbliness and standards are just too high for her to be a teen or even early 20's".

6 days, 12 hours ago on Ask a White Guy: Older Men, Younger Women?

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@jazzyfae45  I am 23 and it seems a lot of guys that are 22-25 still just want the casual "friends with benefits" atmosphere.  I was never into the hook-up scene so this is a big "no" to me.  I also notice a lot of them are still obsessed with video games and notch counts.  I want a real relationship, and most men around my age are not down for that.  The ones that are, are already married.

1 week ago on Ask a White Guy: Older Men, Younger Women?

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I like older men, I'm 23, but 15 years older is as old as I will go. I like men in their early 30's, most of them are in tune with current tech and video games, but are old enough to have a life outside of gaming and skirt chasing. Most people(men and women) also still look quite young in their early 30's.

1 week ago on Ask a White Guy: Older Men, Younger Women?

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SMDH I can't even.


This is just further proof that the "community" could give a flip about actual issues.


I'm not even shocked really, this type of BS is such commonplace now that I would be shocked if someone was actually trying to listen to this woman.


1 week, 1 day ago on Black Militants Call ESPN Journalist, Jemele Hill “Race Traitor”; “Bed Wench” for Calling Out Ray Rice Disparity

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@Browncow  I'm light and have mixed ancestry but I have kinky/curly hair(it's quite literally like a sheeps wool)  I got teased by other black and mixed girls in middle school for it.  I also have a fairly broad/strong nose so that was also a teasing point.


I got called a nappy headed indian and all kinds of names, I was also into the scene and hardcore movements so I was accused of being a Satanist.  There were only like 5 other black girls at my school and they still managed to infight and carry on with the same bullshit.  One girl was even angry because she wanted to date my friend(who is gay) and she thought he was dating me. 

1 week, 2 days ago on How Blackistanis Police Their Own: Girl Gets a Beat Down for “Acting White” (And Being Too Light)

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@kennaGransberg  It's a way to keep people in their place.  Loads of black people can't stand to see another black person achieve happiness and success.  Wanting your own identity means that you are no longer part of the collective and therefore cannot be controlled and molded to fit the agenda.  So many black people are brainwashed into believing that they have to struggle and live in poverty.

1 week, 2 days ago on How Blackistanis Police Their Own: Girl Gets a Beat Down for “Acting White” (And Being Too Light)

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@dani-BBW @onmywayup  This whole thing has me thinking "WHY!?" just look at this LOOK AT IT!  SMDH, why do women have to be rude? A simple "no thanks" will cut it. 


http://dontwearsweats.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/adam-levine.jpg

1 week, 4 days ago on And We Wonder Why More Non-Black Men Don’t Approach Us?

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@MissFLondon @thecrazyartist @Chicago404 @darkandlovely 

I learned some of the dumbest things about sex from 11-14.  It makes sense that many of these men are still stuck in that mindset, since so many of them never had to evolve past that point.  Top that off with a lack of guidance and you have a pretty pathetic situation.



1 week, 5 days ago on Iyanla Can NOT Fix This Man’s Life! I Just #Cant with These Silly Women Who Think They’re “Special!”

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@bellechose @LorMarie 


Co-sign on the latino men.  I grew up around a lot of Spanish and Mexican men and they have no problem making their interest known.


Other groups I have noticed that are not easily intimidated are:

Eastern Europeans- these guys truly don't GAF

Australians

Brits from rough areas

Arabs

1 week, 5 days ago on And We Wonder Why More Non-Black Men Don’t Approach Us?

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@Chicago404 @darkandlovely 

" I mean isnt that the first thing people talk about when they come after black women who swirl? Pink peen this,little white peen that? Cant compare to the megaladon of mandingo? "


This.  I notice the first thing out of the mouths of these people is how the non black mans penis looks.  A lot of these men have an unhealthy obsession with other men's private parts.  I have never met a group of straight adult men so obsessed with the size/shape/color of another dudes penis.

1 week, 5 days ago on Iyanla Can NOT Fix This Man’s Life! I Just #Cant with These Silly Women Who Think They’re “Special!”

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@ChocolateDiva 

Maybe they draw straws?

Logic tells me that it's the one the dude lives with, but I don't know if logic applies because the whole thing makes no damn sense.




1 week, 6 days ago on Iyanla Can NOT Fix This Man’s Life! I Just #Cant with These Silly Women Who Think They’re “Special!”

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@marie_christine2 @ChicMystique  This is how I feel, I am currently 23 but 10-15 years down the road I would rather be childless than put up with these losers.  I am not wasting my ovaries on trash.  Most of the "just have a baby already!" crowd are miserable and chained t deadbeat men and relationships they hate.


1 week, 6 days ago on Iyanla Can NOT Fix This Man’s Life! I Just #Cant with These Silly Women Who Think They’re “Special!”

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@marie_christine2  I didn't bother showing my dad the preview, this is a new laptop and the last time I showed him something this trifling he just about kicked in the TV.

1 week, 6 days ago on Iyanla Can NOT Fix This Man’s Life! I Just #Cant with These Silly Women Who Think They’re “Special!”

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@Tammy_Ghalden  I made $11/hour and I can't imagine having to support a family on that.  It's barely enough for one person to live comfortably.

1 week, 6 days ago on Iyanla Can NOT Fix This Man’s Life! I Just #Cant with These Silly Women Who Think They’re “Special!”

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@ChocolateDiva  As a young childless woman I would be reluctant to date a man with kids.  Too much drama that I am not willing to deal with.  It also kills me when 40+ baby daddy's think they are entitled to women with no children. It's like no man you effed up your life(and your children's lives as well, I am not going down with you.


The "boys will be boys" and "the women tempted them" excuses are old and worn out.  These are grown men not boys, they should be able to exercise self control and judgment. It also doesn't help that some men are under the delusion that the term "damaged goods" only applies to women. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you are damaged goods, no sane woman will put up with you and you are delusional if you think that you are somehow exempt from slut status.

2 weeks ago on Iyanla Can NOT Fix This Man’s Life! I Just #Cant with These Silly Women Who Think They’re “Special!”

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@HowardTyroneSmithII @Christelyn   I'm 23 and I agree.  Teaching women to hold men to a higher standard and not fall for the Casanova BS would be a big improvement.  Men like this guy have made it clear that they are not going to change and don't want to.  Cutting off the supply of enablers would make it much harder for them to pop off 30+ kids.

2 weeks ago on Iyanla Can NOT Fix This Man’s Life! I Just #Cant with These Silly Women Who Think They’re “Special!”

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@Christelyn  @HowardTyroneSmithII 


People also confuse "single father" and "baby daddy".  Single fathers actually take care of their kids, baby daddy's are just sperm donors.

2 weeks ago on Iyanla Can NOT Fix This Man’s Life! I Just #Cant with These Silly Women Who Think They’re “Special!”

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@Christelyn  @HowardTyroneSmithII  Let's not forget enablers, no matter how trifling these men get there will always be a group of women and men willing to defend them and have a kid with them.  Combine that with talking heads making excuses and you have a recipe for disaster.

2 weeks ago on Iyanla Can NOT Fix This Man’s Life! I Just #Cant with These Silly Women Who Think They’re “Special!”

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Is it wrong for me to say that I am so used to seeing stories like this that I am unfazed by it all?

I can't even get mad anymore, reading stories about trifling men and the women who love them is like checking the weather.  It's a sad state of affairs when this sort of behavior is not only common, it's accepted and defended by other dingbats. 


Since when is it "manly" or "cool" to have a bunch of kids you can't afford?  The women hooking up with these men need to be shamed too.  This sort of crap should be unacceptable.


I feel sorry for the kids though.


2 weeks ago on Iyanla Can NOT Fix This Man’s Life! I Just #Cant with These Silly Women Who Think They’re “Special!”

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I like both, the women are beautiful, and it's nice to see innuendo instead of the usual in your face twerking/"back dat big ass up gurl" that we are so used to seeing.


I think it might be the "exotic" factor that is causing this, despite what blackistan and the beauty industry tells you, good looking black women are considered to be exotic and desirable by many.  I don't mean that in a fetish type of way I mean in a "wow she is gorgeous, she looks so different" way.

2 weeks ago on R&B and Hip Hop Asian Artists Featuring Black Women: Is it Good?

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@mzsunshine @thecrazyartist  He's not conventionally attractive but for whatever reason I fond him so...HOT.

2 weeks, 3 days ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall

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Is anyone else an Adrien Brody fan? I am, I think he is sexy.   I can't wait to see the Houdini miniseries on History Channel.


2 weeks, 4 days ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall

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@RodR  I live in Colorado.  *Borat Voice* It's nice!

2 weeks, 4 days ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall

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@BeautyIAM @thecrazyartist 


It sucks I am just now realizing I have wasted months, at the same time I can fully acknowledge that my love life/lack of love life is mainly because I was(and still am) not mentally well enough to date. 



2 weeks, 4 days ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall

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I finally realized I have a problem and decided to get help.  My anxiety and stress issues snowballed and I spent most of my days doing body checks and worrying that I was coming down with some horrible, life threatening disease.  Not to mention panicking over the slightest thing.  Uggh,  I hope fall goes more smoothly and I will be better come winter...



2 weeks, 4 days ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall

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Russell Brand isn't even relevant anymore. 8-10 years ago at the height of the "emo" and "scene" trends(I remember this I was an emo kid), he was eye candy.  That came to an end and most people now know him as the coked up manwhore that was married to Katy Perry. 


This doesn't shock me in the least though, many  liberal hipsters are racist and seriously offensive.  The best part is they fail to see anything wrong with their statements or attitudes.  From "You are too cute to be black" to "Why are you so quiet?" to the assumptions that you grew up in abject poverty and consider going to Chipotle a treat.  Really, it's that bad. Brand, offensive comments and all is just the poster child for many "revolutionaries".

2 weeks, 5 days ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@dani-BBW @caligirl94117 @sbstewartlaing 


Some of the creepiest come-ons I have gotten have been from liberal white "visionaries".  Right up there with street cat calls in terms of discomfort.

2 weeks, 5 days ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@Soul_Incites 


Ditto, some of my friends find him absolutely hilarious but all I see is some passable scene eye candy.  Dude is seriously offensive and unfunny.

2 weeks, 5 days ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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@caligirl94117 @DanielEwens 

WTF, people have lost their damn minds.  It's getting ridiculous out here.

2 weeks, 5 days ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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Lovely story and great couple.

I wish you the best!



2 weeks, 6 days ago on How Yours Truly Played Cupid with New Power Couple, Film Maker Chris Silber and Dr. Misee Harris

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@Brenda55 @dani-BBW @DWB 


To this day I am blown away by the sheer amount if men that think they cannot be upgraded/traded for someone better.  They truly think that they are God's gift to women.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on How Yours Truly Played Cupid with New Power Couple, Film Maker Chris Silber and Dr. Misee Harris

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@Divalicious @bellechose 


I refuse to hate black men as well(I don't "hate" anyone really).  My father is a great man and has done so much for me and my sisters over our lifetimes.  I know not all black men are bad, but I would be telling an outright lie if I didn't acknowledge that the pool of dateable black men is very small.  If you exclude the baby daddy's, ex cons, basement dwellers and abusers then there is not much left.  The men that are high quality date out of their race and sure do not limit themselves.  Even my own father knows this and has always emphasized finding a man that is responsible and cares for you, regardless of color.  This is also someone who is willing to admit that a lot of black men and women have a warped mindset and will try to destroy or discourage you whenever possible.

3 weeks ago on Is It Okay to Discourage Your Daughters from Dating Black Men?

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@SiennaDiva @BebaBrook  Older white men swirl, I had a gentleman in his late 40's tell me: "If you were just 10 years older I would date you, you're a little too young for me".  I am 23, I like older men but a lot of them see me as a kid still.  It doesn't help that I look younger than 23 either.

3 weeks, 6 days ago on Here’s Another Rainbeau Who Just Came Out of Lurkdom

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" I think your doctor is racist. Diabetes is a completely manageable condition. So what you're are 100lbs overweight real men love curves".


LMAO


Hilarious, the worst part is we have all encountered people like this.

1 month ago on Video: Sh$t Black People Say to Black Women to Keep Them Stuck in the Matrix

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This doesn't shock me in any way,  I have seen countless videos like this since youtube's inception back in the mid-2000's.  Nothing surprises me anymore in terms of people degrading black women.  Beauty is beauty, and it's a damn shame that some people fail to realize this.


I am 23 and if I could tell other women my age or even younger one thing it would be to go where you are appreciated.  Don't waste any time on people who think you are too dark, or not "exotic" enough, or people who think you are disgusting simply because you are a black woman.  Find people who love you for you, expand your options, choose character over color.  Don't limit yourself to people who can't stand you, you deserve love, life is too short and too precious to be wasted on ignorant people like the men in the video.



1 month, 2 weeks ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.

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The author is in a tough place right now, but it is not hopeless.  Right now you need to plan as much as you can and get as much info as you can.  Gather resources; apply for jobs, see what your education and childcare options are.  Do as much as you can to secure a future for you and your children.  It will be tough but nothing is impossible, stay strong.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on #NWNW: Don’t Look for the New Man to Clean Up the Mess.

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@Brenda55 @GardenOfEden 

A lot of men get the whole "submissive wife" thing twisted.  If you want a woman to let you lead then you need to:

1.) Exhibit leadership qualities

2.) Be willing to financially provide/provide a comfortable stable life for your wife and children

3.) Be willing to marry said woman, quoting scripture related to marriage while rejecting marriage is just plain ol' ignorant.


Most men spewing this do not possess any of these qualities so there is no point in getting angry at them, just keep moving.

2 months ago on (Bonus) QOTW: Black Women, Multiple Children, and Interracial Dating.

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WTF, that's all I have to say.


I am bed, bath and beyond done with this sort of fuckery.

2 months ago on Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER

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@KingsDaughter @LadyHumor  I tend to lean more towards the esoteric church, which regards Christianity as a mystic religion and places an emphasis on your personal relationship with god.  Building a personal relationship with God is important, yet for some strange reason(*cough* money *cough*) a lot a preachers fail to place an emphasis on this.  People fail to realize that God has already provided salvation through Jesus, it is yours for the taking.  You don't have to pay a preacher for salvation.  In fact the bible doesn't even explicitly mention that you must attend church.  Salvation is not a man made building. 

2 months, 2 weeks ago on New Documentary on the Black Church Shines a Light on Prosperity Pimps for Dollars

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I'm a new believer, but I still have an issue with organized religion.  Any church that says you must give them money and hang on their every word to be saved is running a scam imo. Salvation is free, all you have to do is accept Jesus into your heart, repent and believe.  Throwing money at a corrupt preacher will not save you. A lot of people have turned their back on religion because of these greedy preachers. It took me years to realize that God is not the problem it's greedy humans.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on New Documentary on the Black Church Shines a Light on Prosperity Pimps for Dollars

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WTF?!  I am completely amazed by the lengths people will go to to defend and normalize the rampant dysfunction in the black community.  Instead of encouraging people to get their ish together we are told to find ways to "adapt" to messed up situations. This is so stupid and I am beyond done with this.  If people want to live like this then fine, just don't tell me to do the same.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Open Thread: Hotep-Dude’s Idea of a Legit Harem….You Know, for ‘Black Unity’

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