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@Law Wanxi @Goddiva  I used to live at Fort Benning as a child, I remember the first time I saw people from off the base,  I was well, enlightened I guess but really wondering what these alien like beings were, I had never seen anything quite like it.

22 hours, 47 minutes ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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@Kaley28  Bill O'Reilly is an effing mess.

1 day, 3 hours ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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@N2ition  Right, the father almost never gets custody.  The mother has to be a true mess for the judge to even consider giving the man custody.

1 day, 3 hours ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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To be honest I am not surprised by this interview.  Rolling stone has a track record of posting offensive, off the wall content for attention.  Magazine sales are in the toilet so most will literally publish anything just to get a few hits(Remember this ya'll?  I rest my case:http://www.cnn.com/2013/07/17/studentnews/tsarnaev-rolling-stone-cover/). 


Kid Rock is probably feeling some kind of way about the black woman he dated, hence why he has custody of his son.


All he did was state his preference, granted he did it in a crude way.  That is because black men do it all the time and there are no consequences for insulting black women.


No one is really checking for Kid Rock, no one, mentioning Beyoncé and getting attacked by the Beyhive is a means to get publicity for his new album.


That is all.

1 day, 3 hours ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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@kennaGransberg  Chile, I just got back from there LMAO.

1 day, 3 hours ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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@N2ition @StarStroy  The Beyhive is going to drag him for filth.  All I am saying, now excuse me while I head over to Kid Rocks instagram.

1 day, 3 hours ago on Kid Rock (Crudely) Highlights How Preferences Can Change Over Time

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@StarStroy @thecrazyartist @BWC  Do not use it before a big event, with my siser it took about 2 weeks for it to stop, for me it took a month.


I just made an account with paula's choice last week,  I ordered my other stuff from dermstore.

1 day, 5 hours ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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@BWC  Be forewarned though, this stuff is the real deal and your skin might shed and whatever gunk is deep in the pore WILL start to come out.  I switched to the 1% gel, and more gunk that I even knew I had began to come out of my face.  All this time I skipped exfoliating because my skin is dry, mild rosacea, sensitive and a pretty extreme combination(oily T-zone and dry skin everywhere else), after using this stuff I realize I need a good exfoliant.

1 day, 21 hours ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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@brownbeautUK @thecrazyartist  Yup, the troll sport is VERY entertaining.  You could basically make an entire comedy act of infinite length based on caricatures of these people.

2 days, 8 hours ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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@BWC @thecrazyartist  Yes, she used the Paulas Choice 2% BHA liquid, she had moderate-severe acne and it cleared relatively quickly.  She tried BHA because it apparently can penetrate the pore and is soothing to redness and rosacea.  It was kind of an accidental discovery,  I initially bought the product for my blackheads and rosacea, but it was too strong for my skin so I gave it to her.  


Here is the website: http://www.paulaschoice.com/

2 days, 8 hours ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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@bernardethg @thecrazyartist @Sameriah 99  Yup!  Our skin is also thicker, meaning collagen breakdown is less obvious.  It seems like while mid-late 20's is the "official" start of skin aging, black women(even those of us with dry skin) don't really start until late 30's- early 40's and 50's isn't unheard of!

2 days, 20 hours ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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Our biggest advantages looks-wise are our skin, and muscle tone.  As black women age we just don't have to worry as much about losing tons of muscle mass or premature aging.  Even dermatologist will tell you that darker skin just shows fewer signs of premature aging.  I'm 24 and already can see my fairer peers who spent a little too much time tanning showing signs of aging, and these women are only 24-28. 


Our skin also seems to recover from trauma quite easily, case and point my sisters acne.  She recently started using a BHA exfoliant  and in less than 2 months ALL of the acne and 90% of the scarring is gone.  It's as if it was never there.  Her dermatologist is not used to working with ethnic skin and is shocked the scars went away so fast. 

2 days, 20 hours ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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@Sameriah 99 @bernardethg  My aunt is 66 and only started showing fine lines after she turned 60. Her skin is still smooth and even though she loved the outdoors in her youth there are virtually no signs of sun damage.

2 days, 21 hours ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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@brownbeautUK @thecrazyartist  I am all for sharing experiences and pointing out double standards(ie. black men encouraging black women to look for the good black men but no encouraging black men to look for the good black women, black men dating interracially trying to discourage black women from doing so, black men constantly putting down black women then losing it when anyone points out their flaws, black women being cast aside as the beauty standard in their own community for light and increasingly white women, chronic degradation and mistreatment by men who claim to love Nubian queens, and a plethora of other examples),  I just don't get the chronic explaining.  On one hand I think some of these men need to be made aware of the constant BS black women are subjected to by black men.  On the other hand plenty of these good black men encouraging black women to hold out are well aware of the abuse that goes on, and are likely to spin it as black women chasing thugs and not paying any attention to the good men while deliberately ignoring other issues(like the high number of black men that are professional baby daddy's, career criminals, and seriously mentally unstable men that are basically untouchable at this point). 


These men are also deliberately ignoring the difference between men who are working low wage jobs while in school, between work(laid off) and getting their act together, and men that are career low earners with no desire to do better.  They fail to acknowledge the difference between the seasonal worker looking for drug, weed or sneaker money, and the contractor starting his own construction company.  They deliberately fail to see the difference between the part time mechanic, and the guy getting ready to open his own customization shop.  These men are deliberately being dense, trying to gaslight, and blowing off black women's experiences.  No amount of explaining will get through to them because they don't want to hear it.

3 days, 1 hour ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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@CassieM12345 @thecrazyartist @oceanspray  Me too! I have been meaning to learn JavaScript, Ruby and some frameworks for about a year now and I got started in January! I really had to realize HTML and CSS alone is no longer good enough(I know intermediate c++ but the language is irrelevant for my chosen field)  Good luck on your endeavors!

3 days, 1 hour ago on Four Ways to Be Your Best You

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@oceanspray  Do programming languages count too?

3 days, 3 hours ago on Four Ways to Be Your Best You

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@ole'skool  NOTHING and I means NOTHING beats homemade chicken or beef stock.  So rich, so delicious, and so easy to make in the slow cooker.  Best of all there is no garbage in it!

3 days, 3 hours ago on Four Ways to Be Your Best You

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@melissamak007 @marie_christine2  I have not experienced name calling as an adult or even as a high school kid but I did as a child and junior high student.

3 days, 7 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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Another thing, why are most of these men writing in assuming black women are only going for white men because they can't find a good black man?  Has it ever occurred to them that some women actually want and maybe even prefer white men because that is what they are attracted to?  Seriously the main complaint on this site isn't that black men are dating out or even prefer lighter women, I think I can safely say that the women on this site don't care if black men date out or have preferences.  The main complaint is the chronic insults, disrespect and hatred that is spewed by black men as a means of justifying their preferences and relationships.  Why can't black women date out without an excuse, all the excuses and explanations are doing are fueling these kinds of letters.  I mean the only answer to "why do you date interracially?" should be "because I can, it's my life". You don't owe anyone an explanation.

3 days, 7 hours ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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@giantrafflesia @thecrazyartist  I also want to add that the privilege light skinned women receive is conditional.  A DBR black person may want to help you because they perceive your skin tone as better than darker black women, but that privilege is thrown out when pitted against a non-black or white woman.  A racist white person may view you as "superior" to darker skinned blacks, but will never see you as an equal when compared to whites. It can be taken away at any time and is subject to change.

3 days, 21 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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Complete "ripped in 30" exercise plan.  I am very inconsistent with exercise so completing this will be a big step for me.


Manage finances.


Be more consistent with diet.


Further my employment skill set.  I am mainly a self-taught programmer, so this next 6 months-year is me taking it to the next level learning new languages and really putting myself out there.  In web development the degree doesn't matter anywhere near as much as the body of work, and I feel I am lacking.  I know I can do better.


Staying positive in a slump, finding full time employment has been rough, planning my move is a nightmare and I spent most of December in despair over maybe being trapped in a low wage job forever and thinking about giving up.  My goal is to have the ball rolling by May and I am getting(very) close.

3 days, 22 hours ago on Four Ways to Be Your Best You

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@Calypso2 The cover didn't do her any justice, the ESPN cover shows her natural beauty and she looks relaxed, the Black Men Magazine cover looks like cheap photoshopped garbage.

4 days, 2 hours ago on Dear Black Men, Did I Hurt Your Feelings? You Don’t KNOW Hurt Feelings…

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I was going to write a longer response, but I am not checking for black men so this letter really doesn't do anything for me.  It would be better suited to "black people meet".com or another black love site.  I don't know why anyone would think this letter is aligned with the values on an interracial sight.  Plus the man that wrote the letter is married, why does he care who other black women are checking for? 


BTW  nice reference to Dr. Ben Carson at the end, nice man, but again I am not checking for married men who are over twice my age.

4 days, 2 hours ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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@marie_christine2  I'm light, I acknowledge that within blackistan there is a privilege system, but outside of the usual damaged, blackistanis I just don't see it.  Black men are more likely to give light and/or mixed women the time of day but in a mixed environment I don't really see any privilege, especially any that affects me in a positive way like employment, pursuing mentally healthy men for dates and opportunities like education.  DBR and colorstruck men will be willing to put you on, but seeing how quick they were to drop Amber Rose and countless others then I am not sure how much of a privilege that is.


The entertainment industry is another instance I can see privilege at play, in how many rom-coms and generic TV shows is there the biracial/ambiguous friend and sidekick(*cough* Vampire Diaries*cough*)?  In a sense biracial and light women are used as a representation of all black women, but that is slowly changing with more black female leads(Scandal, Sleepy Hollow, and Getting Away With Murder).


I do get irked when people tell me I am not really black though, I mean I grew up in a mixed environment so I sure as hell wasn't white.  I have endured taunts(from black, white and mixed) classmates over my kinky hair, I have been told to "shut my black mouth" on numerous occasions, and have even been called the n-word(mainly by black males with a few whites and latinos mixed in). 



I also keep saying this but it takes a special kind of low self esteem to be flattered by the "light skin long hair red/yellow" talk that so many black men spout off.  As evidenced by what happened to Amber Rose, as soon as you disagree and step out of line, and as soon as someone lighter and even white comes in, you can be demoted to "bitter black heffa" in the blink of an eye.  Do I feel sorry for the women this happens to?  Yes and no, yes because they are now receiving the same piss poor treatment that so many other black women receive, and no because they benefitted from messing with men who degraded other black women, and they knew what these men were about when they got with them.  People forget that their light and/or mixed daughters are fair game in blackistan, and I hope more black women realize this and stop giving money to men who diss black women.  Seriously these men have made it clear they despise anything black, what makes you think that they like the black that is in you?


Really for me it's just about finding a safe place where I can embrace every part of me and not have to hide who I am.  It's about feeling free to acknowledge you are a black woman and having others like your blackness and not have it drug up and used against you to shame and humiliate you.  Going where you are loved, cherished and respected for who you are as a person and not because of your skin tone and being called beautiful because of your black features and not in spite of them is important to me.  Really who wants to be around men(and people) who only focus on your looks?  As soon as they fade or something that is perceived as "better" comes along they will drop you.


Sorry if this is a ramble but I really needed to just let it out and could not organize my thoughts completely.



4 days, 2 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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This needs to be a landing page and/or needs an award. PERFECT  I have nothing to add to it.

4 days, 4 hours ago on Dear Black Men, Did I Hurt Your Feelings? You Don’t KNOW Hurt Feelings…

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@AllenR @NYMan  The whole damn family are just a pack of attention whores who built an empire out of a sex tape and fake injected ass.  They show no signs of slowing down either.

4 days, 21 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@trinigirl1 @desertdiva 2015  WHY do people think an "open forum" where they can bring up erroneous off-topic shit and derail others should be allowed?  Come correct, be respectful and you can disagree without being thrown out. 

5 days, 4 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@NYMan @thecrazyartist  This is why people thinking Kim is somehow "better" than Karrine Stefans and Amber Rose is hilarious.  People are even bringing up "Kim never talked trash about anyone" and are forgetting she used Chris Humphries and countless others for money and publicity.

5 days, 4 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@PoetOfDarkness @NYMan 

"I can overlook her sex tape, but what Kim did to Kris Humphries was so despicable, reckless and cruel. What goes around will eventually come around. "


THIS.  I mean no matter how trifling/hilarious/WTF the whole fiasco appeared on the outside, it was pretty sad seeing Kris Humphries get played on national TV like that. Totally disregarding his feelings and basically humiliating him was cruel and immature. It's like really Kim? Really?

5 days, 4 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@SavannahPost @BrittanyIsse 


Girl is the trolling starting again?  I wanna grab some popcorn but I really need to work on my portfolio(launching a career ya'll)  Mind if I toggle back and forward? 

5 days, 8 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@kennaGransberg @BrittanyIsse  Just to make it clear for future posters: NO ONE IS TELLING BLACK MEN WHAT TO DO OR WHO TO DATE, I REPEAT THIS ARTICLE IS NOT ABOUT TELLING BLACK MEN WHERE TO GO OR WHO TO DATE.


This article isn't even really about Kim K or Amber, it's about the double standards stacked against black women. 

5 days, 8 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@LADoll @BrittanyIsse  This conversation is not about "acceptance from black men"  it's about the double standards that are stacked against black women when it concerns their sexuality and expression.

5 days, 8 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@jazzyfae45  Really, I have read through the comments on a few other sites regarding this and the same woman that was the grand prize 5 short years ago is now a "bitter bald stripper living off child support",  a "skanky ho who is just jealous of kim", and a "fatass attention whore". Really?  I remember when ALL the black media sites were worshipping the ground Amber walked on and praising her "exotic beauty" and "unique style".  How times have changed.

5 days, 9 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@Sameriah 99  I get this vibe too.  If Amber were built like Halle or Nicole would people have a different perception of her?

5 days, 9 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@Aabaakawad  It's cray it's only a few short post away from 2000!  This ruffled A LOT of feathers and pissed quite a few people off.  From innocent conversation to the nude motel 6 selfie to beating the trolls attacks off.  I would not be surprised to see this hit 2500!

5 days, 23 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@Smauggy @thecrazyartist @PoetOfDarkness @jazzyfae45 @MeliaFavors 


That is Ben Barnes. The photo is from a History Channel miniseries called "Sons of Liberty". Not really a documentary and heavily embellished with lots of speculation but entertaining nonetheless.  The whole lead cast is actually quite attractive, the styling just isn't working in their favor and this picture isn't really doing them justice, especially the guy on the far left(Ryan Eggold) here is a better image.



5 days, 23 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@AllenR @thecrazyartist @PoetOfDarkness @jazzyfae45 @MeliaFavors  Hotep Brothers and Sisters(TM) are black people that are obsessed with ancient Egypt and really don't know too much else about black history. Usually they are lumped in with the umbrella term of conscious.  They like to spout off conspiracy theories about aliens, enslavement of black people and all kinds of crazy stuff.  Just google Hotep Movement and Concious Community for a bigger picture.


A Unicorn is a man or woman who is perfect in every way.  In this space it references the perfect black man so rare he almost doesn't exist.

5 days, 23 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@PoetOfDarkness @_Toni_  Reading comprehension keeps slipping among the population so these levels of density and ignorance were bound to happen sooner or later.

5 days, 23 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@PoetOfDarkness @LovelyLulu @CS 

This sounds really mean but I don't think they are smart enough to defend ANY position they have.  I didn't see anyone providing links and most of the "rebuttal" was more "black women are jealous/angry/only want a thug/picky" nonsense.


5 days, 23 hours ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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@Kaley28 @_Toni_  I don't think I have ever seen a thread on here grow this large and remain very active for such a long time!  Congrats BBW! It's a milestone!  A troll of every type came out of lurking and tried their BS.  This post hit a major nerve!!!!!

6 days ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@Law Wanxi  I honestly think the black community has a more fluid idea of race than what many care to admit.  Some of the examples I have run across:


Lightskin and /or mixed black women are black, but lightskin and/or mixed black men are not unless said man has power and status, then he is black(see: Barack Obama).


Asians are white, even though Asians still face unflattering stereotypes and racism they are white because they have the highest earning and education rates.


A mixed person with a white father is not really mixed, they are just white.


Black people tend to enforce the One Drop Rule more than anyone else.


If a black woman marries out she is abandoning her community and is therefore no longer black.


If a black person values education, stability and career then they are "acting white" because only white people have these traits.



6 days ago on Want To Know What Black Men REALLY Think Of Black Womanhood? Ask Kanye!

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Great follow up Toni!  A lot of people(mainly trolls) were screaming that neither woman was white or black and missed the point entirely.  I remember about 6-8 years ago Amber Rose was the prize for black men, that was until Kanye got with Kim K and Amber was relegated to placeholder status. 

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@PoetOfDarkness @jazzyfae45 @MeliaFavors  "i guess he's saying that WW are the 'true' queens for BM. that i can't disagree with. they can have each other. "


Of course the White Nubian Queen is the true queen for a Strong Hotep Adonis(TM)!!!!!  White boy you're just jealous that the Hotep Adonis and all his dark chocolatey goodness is all over your White Nubian Queens!  This is payback for you being The Man(TM) and creating the establishment that holds Hotep Brothas(TM) down! You and all the Hotep Sistas(TM) that were too weak to resist your white voodoo brainwashing! You devils have been plotting the demise of the Hotep black Adonis(TM) and all his rich 100% cocoa(NO MILK) goodness since like 300 years ago!  Just look at these devils plotting the Hotep Brotha(TM) demise! The founding fathers were BLACK HOTEP BROTHAS(TM) DAMMIT LOOK AT THE LIE THE MAN(TM) IS SPREADING THESE  WHITE DEVILS STOLE OUR GLORY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

6 days ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@jazzyfae45 @coco78728  I take it you're a Ben Barnes fan?  Me too, I liked him in Easy Virtue and Dorian Gray and as Prince Caspian.  Good actor but never really seems to get the shine and recognition that others do.

6 days, 1 hour ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@coco78728  Ok, joking aside the colonial hottie is Ben Barnes in "Son's of Liberty" on History Channel.  The series itself took a lot of liberties and embellished on a lot of history and isn't really a documentary, but this guy looked good as Sam Adams so I am willing to over look some of these details(besides when was the last time History channel actually played history?).

6 days, 3 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@Kaley28 @thecrazyartist @StarStroy  Careful girl that's The Man(TM)!  You don't really find him hot he just brainwashed you with his white voodoo to turn you against the black man!  Don't look! RESIST LIKE A HOTEP SISTA SOLDIER!

6 days, 3 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@StarStroy @thecrazyartist

"So I guess white boys are the thugs." 

Hell yeah they're the thugs, they're The Man(TM), who developed the establishment that keeps the black man down and makes him abandon his children and disrespect his women, it's ALL The Man(TM) fault that the black community is ruined! It's his fault that the Good Black Women(TM) with the White Man Stamp of Arroval(TM) are now fleeing in droves to line up for their slave rape.  It's because of the establishment, these bastards built  way back in the day!

Just look at these smug fools, plotting the demise of the True Hotep Adonis like 300 years Ago!!!!!!


6 days, 3 hours ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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