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@mzsunshine @thecrazyartist He's not conventionally attractive but for whatever reason I fond him so...HOT.
1 day, 8 hours ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall
Is anyone else an Adrien Brody fan? I am, I think he is sexy. I can't wait to see the Houdini miniseries on History Channel.
2 days, 12 hours ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall
@RodR I live in Colorado. *Borat Voice* It's nice!
It sucks I am just now realizing I have wasted months, at the same time I can fully acknowledge that my love life/lack of love life is mainly because I was(and still am) not mentally well enough to date.
2 days, 19 hours ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall
I finally realized I have a problem and decided to get help. My anxiety and stress issues snowballed and I spent most of my days doing body checks and worrying that I was coming down with some horrible, life threatening disease. Not to mention panicking over the slightest thing. Uggh, I hope fall goes more smoothly and I will be better come winter...
2 days, 22 hours ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall
Russell Brand isn't even relevant anymore. 8-10 years ago at the height of the "emo" and "scene" trends(I remember this I was an emo kid), he was eye candy. That came to an end and most people now know him as the coked up manwhore that was married to Katy Perry.
This doesn't shock me in the least though, many liberal hipsters are racist and seriously offensive. The best part is they fail to see anything wrong with their statements or attitudes. From "You are too cute to be black" to "Why are you so quiet?" to the assumptions that you grew up in abject poverty and consider going to Chipotle a treat. Really, it's that bad. Brand, offensive comments and all is just the poster child for many "revolutionaries".
3 days, 20 hours ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry
@dani-BBW @caligirl94117 @sbstewartlaing
Some of the creepiest come-ons I have gotten have been from liberal white "visionaries". Right up there with street cat calls in terms of discomfort.
Ditto, some of my friends find him absolutely hilarious but all I see is some passable scene eye candy. Dude is seriously offensive and unfunny.
3 days, 21 hours ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry
WTF, people have lost their damn minds. It's getting ridiculous out here.
Lovely story and great couple.
I wish you the best!
4 days, 11 hours ago on How Yours Truly Played Cupid with New Power Couple, Film Maker Chris Silber and Dr. Misee Harris
@Brenda55 @dani-BBW @DWB
To this day I am blown away by the sheer amount if men that think they cannot be upgraded/traded for someone better. They truly think that they are God's gift to women.
I refuse to hate black men as well(I don't "hate" anyone really). My father is a great man and has done so much for me and my sisters over our lifetimes. I know not all black men are bad, but I would be telling an outright lie if I didn't acknowledge that the pool of dateable black men is very small. If you exclude the baby daddy's, ex cons, basement dwellers and abusers then there is not much left. The men that are high quality date out of their race and sure do not limit themselves. Even my own father knows this and has always emphasized finding a man that is responsible and cares for you, regardless of color. This is also someone who is willing to admit that a lot of black men and women have a warped mindset and will try to destroy or discourage you whenever possible.
5 days, 21 hours ago on Is It Okay to Discourage Your Daughters from Dating Black Men?
@SiennaDiva @BebaBrook Older white men swirl, I had a gentleman in his late 40's tell me: "If you were just 10 years older I would date you, you're a little too young for me". I am 23, I like older men but a lot of them see me as a kid still. It doesn't help that I look younger than 23 either.
1 week, 4 days ago on Here’s Another Rainbeau Who Just Came Out of Lurkdom
" I think your doctor is racist. Diabetes is a completely manageable condition. So what you're are 100lbs overweight real men love curves".
Hilarious, the worst part is we have all encountered people like this.
2 weeks, 1 day ago on Video: Sh$t Black People Say to Black Women to Keep Them Stuck in the Matrix
This doesn't shock me in any way, I have seen countless videos like this since youtube's inception back in the mid-2000's. Nothing surprises me anymore in terms of people degrading black women. Beauty is beauty, and it's a damn shame that some people fail to realize this.
I am 23 and if I could tell other women my age or even younger one thing it would be to go where you are appreciated. Don't waste any time on people who think you are too dark, or not "exotic" enough, or people who think you are disgusting simply because you are a black woman. Find people who love you for you, expand your options, choose character over color. Don't limit yourself to people who can't stand you, you deserve love, life is too short and too precious to be wasted on ignorant people like the men in the video.
4 weeks ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.
The author is in a tough place right now, but it is not hopeless. Right now you need to plan as much as you can and get as much info as you can. Gather resources; apply for jobs, see what your education and childcare options are. Do as much as you can to secure a future for you and your children. It will be tough but nothing is impossible, stay strong.
1 month ago on #NWNW: Don’t Look for the New Man to Clean Up the Mess.
A lot of men get the whole "submissive wife" thing twisted. If you want a woman to let you lead then you need to:
1.) Exhibit leadership qualities
2.) Be willing to financially provide/provide a comfortable stable life for your wife and children
3.) Be willing to marry said woman, quoting scripture related to marriage while rejecting marriage is just plain ol' ignorant.
Most men spewing this do not possess any of these qualities so there is no point in getting angry at them, just keep moving.
1 month, 2 weeks ago on (Bonus) QOTW: Black Women, Multiple Children, and Interracial Dating.
WTF, that's all I have to say.
I am bed, bath and beyond done with this sort of fuckery.
1 month, 2 weeks ago on Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER
@KingsDaughter @LadyHumor I tend to lean more towards the esoteric church, which regards Christianity as a mystic religion and places an emphasis on your personal relationship with god. Building a personal relationship with God is important, yet for some strange reason(*cough* money *cough*) a lot a preachers fail to place an emphasis on this. People fail to realize that God has already provided salvation through Jesus, it is yours for the taking. You don't have to pay a preacher for salvation. In fact the bible doesn't even explicitly mention that you must attend church. Salvation is not a man made building.
2 months ago on New Documentary on the Black Church Shines a Light on Prosperity Pimps for Dollars
I'm a new believer, but I still have an issue with organized religion. Any church that says you must give them money and hang on their every word to be saved is running a scam imo. Salvation is free, all you have to do is accept Jesus into your heart, repent and believe. Throwing money at a corrupt preacher will not save you. A lot of people have turned their back on religion because of these greedy preachers. It took me years to realize that God is not the problem it's greedy humans.
WTF?! I am completely amazed by the lengths people will go to to defend and normalize the rampant dysfunction in the black community. Instead of encouraging people to get their ish together we are told to find ways to "adapt" to messed up situations. This is so stupid and I am beyond done with this. If people want to live like this then fine, just don't tell me to do the same.
2 months ago on Open Thread: Hotep-Dude’s Idea of a Legit Harem….You Know, for ‘Black Unity’
This is epic!!!
2 months, 3 weeks ago on Tichina Arnold is Not Here for DBR Men and Their Interweb Bull*hit
Love this couple!
2 months, 3 weeks ago on Congrats, David and Iman, for 22 Years of Wedded Bliss!
Let me start by saying that Essence magazine was completely unprofessional for doing this. Had this been "Cosmo" or "People" excluding black actors then there would be blood, protest, and general outrage.
That being said it's their magazine, the publishers can print whatever they wish. However, others can exercise their right to criticize their ill-conceived promotion. Take it from the tech savvy and web-addicted, print magazines are on their way out, subscriptions are down across the board, and the main competition is blogs and online magazines(like this lovely site owned by Christelyn Karazin). My personal response to Essence isn't much, I am not even upset with them because:
1.) I do not buy print magazines regularly, why pay for information and entertainment when it is all free(or much cheaper) online?
2.) I do not read Essence magazine(see previous), sure I bought one some 5 years ago and it most likely collected dust on my shelf before it was discarded or used to line trash cans.
3.) I do not have any plans to go see this film, I did not see the first one and romantic comedies don't really appeal to me. I actually plan on getting the "Penny Dreadful" set on my kindle, I like the concept and storyline, and "Sir Malcolm" is a silver fox.
4.) I am not really checking for black men, so who they date and marry is none of my concern. I would be a hypocrite if I dated interracially while disapproving of others doing the same. I wish them the best like I would any other couple, but that's about it.
That is pretty much all I have to say on this subject. I am not here to argue a point or anything, I just don't care enough to get really upset over this. Just give my 2 cents.
2 months, 3 weeks ago on Essence Excludes Gabrielle Union’s Interracial Romantic Interest on “Think Like a Man Too.”
@WorldTravelingChic WBC ugghhh don't even get me started on these people. Any who the offer was very nice.
2 months, 4 weeks ago on Biker Gang Rolls In to Protect Maya Angelou’s Funeral from Being Infected by Westboro Church Douchebags. Or…Not?
I love the mods! This site is one of the few sites I actually feel 100% safe on.
2 months, 4 weeks ago on Coming Down from the Mount: Lay Off the Mods!
@Christelyn @MixedUpInVegas Read through the comments and whoa, is it heated in here.
Anyway I co-sign 100%, I don't see WW as a threat and if I marry a white man chances are I will have a white sister in law and mother in law.
2 months, 4 weeks ago on QOTW: White Woman Asks, “How Can I Get My Family to Accept My Black Boyfriend?”
I am happy to hear you are doing well! Best wishes to you and Bella!
2 months, 4 weeks ago on EarthJeff: Swirling on Planet Earth Part 14 – The Journey Continues
Black women struggling and being abused in the black community has become so normalized that no one bats an eyelash at this sort of thing. In fact if you are a black woman and you actually live a comfortable, low-stress life then something is wrong with you.This all ties into the "struggle mentality" that the black community embraces. If you notice from the video most of the congregation is black women. This demonstrates that many black women not only see being trashed as normal, they also support the denigration of other black women.
The pastor is just using God as a means of justifying his own views of black women. He is likely salty from his wife's "failure" to uplift and support his philandering ass. As a means of coping he is projecting his own lack of loyalty on black women and then claiming that God intended for you to support a cheating, abusive, and generally soul-draining man.
2 months, 4 weeks ago on Watch a Bunch of Black Women Cheering as Their Pastor Shouts, “These H*es Ain’t Loyal.”
@Swirlgirl28 There is no way I am "dreaming" for a grown man and motivating him to better himself. As a grown man you should have your own goals and dreams and your own plans for the future, I should not have to provide those for you.
I am also tired of women bragging about putting their significant other through college and then chastising other women for not doing the same. If you want to waste your time and a small fortune on these "men" then fine, do what you want, but please stop harassing me over not doing the same.
You are right, these "men" bring this sort of crap on themselves. This isn't a real pastor and people like this are part of the reason why I refuse to give religion a second chance, it's infested with delusional creeps like this guy. The women in the audience are beyond saving and I don't feel sorry for any of them. Disgusting and absolutely pathetic.
@Christelyn @Mimi_Louise I love DIY face mask and scrubs, I don't remember how my life continued without avocados and coconut oil! I am also young(23) but I am making it a point to take care of my skin(sunscreen, basic cleansing and moisturizer are now daily priorities before it was "a majority of the week").
2 months, 4 weeks ago on Does Your Face Look Good Naked? Three Natural Products that Should Be On Your Skincare Radar
@Savannah18121 @Justme65 @Reaching_100 While I agree that once most of these guys make it to the mainstream it is hard to boycott them, but black women need to stop supporting them when they are still trying to gain mainstream success.
3 months ago on And This is Why We Still Talk About Black Men On Beyond Black & White.
@Savannah18121 @Swirlgirl28 @Vivaforever I might go see "magic mike 2", but I am not watching "chocolate whatever it's name is".
@your epiphany @lindsaynagle I always wonder what these girls will think when they read their fathers remarks. I am all for free speech, fine you can have an opinion, but I am also all for calling out hateful bullshit. I am personally tired of people using the "comedy" label to get away with spewing hatred. I mean Whoopie Goldberg is called out if she crosses a line, Melissa Harris-Perry was called out, yet these "men" are never forced to face any sort of consequence for outright hatred. It's excused, coddled, and even defended. The outrage is nowhere near as widespread, and is swept under the rug in many cases.
The BW doctor show really pissed me off, which is hard to do because reality TV rarely ever gets me angry. These are highly educated women of means acting like hood boogers. There is a certain amount of respect and prestige that comes with having "MD", "DDS", or "PHD" after your name. All this is doing is sending the message that "It doesn't matter how highly educated or well-to-do black women are, they are all just hoodrats at heart".
Woohoo! I love this! Guys #2 and #6 are fione!
3 months ago on Man Candy Monday: Sexy Men Doing Yoga
@Brenda55 @_Toni_ @black men privilege
Why, why, why, do I always miss the trolls?
@Tempaccount @Savannah18121 Ahhh, I remember that guy, he would spam out IMDB with rants about "race traitor" Halle. You would think he knew her and did something personal to him.
@Nippyfan89 Plenty of light skinned and non-black women eat this kind of trash up. It's like an ego boost to them, they know that they can have a DBR black man at the snap of their fingers if they ever get desperate. I am light and I do not find this flattering or amusing in the least, just pathetic. What grown man needs to constantly put down women in order to feel better? It takes a special kind of low self esteem to find this flattering. It's sickening and time to ignore these cretins.
@LorMarie That is what I was thinking, who really finds Kevin Hart and Lil' wayne attractive? Anytime men like this start spewing this garbage I think "Really? Look at you, you are not Shemar Moore or Denzel."
I agree, we need to stop supporting these males, I see nothing funny about this.
looking great as usual Chris! This thread has me inspired! I am planting heirloom bell peppers, jalapenos, beets, berries, basil, and melons. I can't wait to see what happens! I am debating the greens lettuce, and I want to get my hands on some purple potatoes(basically I am growing stuff I can't find at the supermarket, like all those cool heirloom veggies).
3 months ago on How Growing What I Eat is Getting Me the Body I Want
Thanks for posting this, the implication that a woman "invited" rape due to how she dresses always bothered me, even as a young teenager. I grew up in a conservative area, and the constant "modest is hottest" mantras left a sour taste in my mouth. Every other month a group of women would come to our school and preach to all the young girls there about modesty. The implication was that men have no control over sexual impulses and that it is entire up to the woman to prevent rape and assault through the way she dresses and carries herself. This effectively absolved the perpetrators(in this case a group of teen boys who thought it was funny to grope girls and threaten to rape them) of any guilt or wrongdoing. It was the girls fault for not being modest enough. When questioned about this by girls who were not dressed provocatively all they did was emphasize that some women truly did not contribute to their rape. All this line of thinking does is triage victims, instead of seeing all rape victims as equals, some are seen as more "worthy" of sympathy or justice than others. As a result this hurts all women, because many people will assume you also played a role in causing your own rape(which is warped but many people do see the victim as partially responsible). The virgin/slut dichotomy is at play here, and many women promote it(not every woman is your friend, think of it that way).
3 months ago on Pella’s Rebuttal: When Women are the Misogynist.
@LovelyLulu That story made me puke a little, it was disgusting beyond words. I was like "really, you are going to KILL a girl over a prom date? WTF is wrong with kids these days?" I hope he is charged as an adult.
Excuse my French, but this is all so fucking scary, to think you can be physically maimed/killed over a simple "no thank you". This is America, we are not run by the Taliban, no one "owes" you a goddamn date, I refuse to sympathize with these demons(these males are not even human or animal anymore).
3 months ago on #YesAllWomen: Why Do People Feel So Entitled to Women’s Bodies?
@MimZ241 @DWB @PeBo @_Toni_
No offense to anyone but a lot of comments on this site fail to realize that black women were never really a part of the feminist movement.
@DWB @LadyHumor Nail meet hammer! I am not much older than Rodger (23) and I can attest that many people in the 16-24 range think that sex is the end all be all of adulthood. I also see 14 year old kids that think they are "mature" because they are having sex. Even people my age who are out of college and should be focused on building a career foundation, saving money and generally preparing for life, are instead focused on getting laid. In our culture adulthood=sex, never mind money, job, career home, etc. it's all sex and relationships.
I generally avoid the whole PUA and dating "game" conversations. Most of it is just a money grab and not very many of these "gurus" put an emphasis on personal happiness or actual self improvement. In fact much of this entire scene is focused on using mind games and trying to appear more high value than what you really are. It operates entirely on the belief that women are only interested in having an "alpha male" with lots of money and status, and that men are only focused of having a supermodel girlfriend who yields to his every will. Little to no mention of personality or compatibility. Much of it reads like a grown-up rehash of high school and much of it is fueled by revenge fantasies and a misguided manual of what makes people tick.
Obviously a mentally healthy individual is not going to take all of this literally, but there are quite a few men who feel that they are entitled to a certain type of woman because they are "alpha". Some of these men also see all women as "gold diggers" who just want money and/or status. They fail to realize that no one owes you anything, and that all the money in the world cannot make someone want you.
At the end of the day no one "owes" you a date because you asked nicely, all they owe you is a polite rejection. No one "owes" you sex because you paid for dinner, if you feel that way just make it clear you want to go stag, as many of us women would rather pay our share than deal with a stank attitude. No one "owes" you attention because you catcalled or complimented someone, all you can expect is no comment or a polite thanks. No, you are not entitled to a woman just because you were nice, you deserve a polite rejection, but that's about it.
All I am saying for now, I don't feel sorry for these angry bitter man-children in the least. I don't defend blackistani garbage, I sure as hell am not defending this.
3 months, 1 week ago on #YesAllWomen: Why Do People Feel So Entitled to Women’s Bodies?
@lindsaynagle I actually agree with feminist this time, this is a prime example of misogyny and the vilification of women. No one is saying "not all women are bitches/whores/golddiggers" all people are worried about is making sure women realize not all men are like this and that "boys will be boys". Ugghh, rationalizing this crap just pisses me off. Resorting to violence over not getting a piece of ass is unacceptable.
@Maxine @Christelyn "The MRA movement is filled with extremists and undercover white nationalists"
True, I have even seen some white nationalist women involved, their line of thinking is: " White women need to uplift the white man because Asians and other non white women are taking all the good men. Us white women are the superior feminine race and need to make this known".
A lot of these groups also support DBR black men and agree that it is all black women's fault. Be wary and use caution with these sites, many of them claim to be "libertarian"(which they are not) but are actually closer to the Taliban.
@Neecy @BreannaNouveaux I realize some genuinely nice people have been done wrong by a woman, be it a nasty divorce, custody battle, ect. I also realize a lot of men on PUA sites are shy and want some guidance, nothing wrong with that, but at the same time I have also seen plenty of delusional, entitled, obnoxious, and downright scary man-children on these sites. So you can't possibly say the majority are just guys trying to improve social skills.
@Neecy @darkandlovely I have been harassed while wearing a dirty t-shirt and baggy sweats, red faced, sweaty and looking a hot mess after coming out of the gym, I don't think attire is the reason at all.
@ASwirlGirl @TiaMonae I hate to say it, but a lot of people(men and women, but especially black men) are willing to give non-black women a "ratchet pass". I mean let's be honest here.
3 months, 1 week ago on What’s the Message Here? He’ll Marry His Baby’s Mom If She’s…