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I believe it is a sad state of affairs that this remains a topic. Not for SpinSucks, but for the world, mind you.
I remember being told ages ago "If you doubt the fact that it is a man's world, we should have a fist-fight."
Well... When I was in the USN, based in Hawaii, I made all of my party
money (with enough left over to buy my first car, a classic Chevy
Chevelle) by betting on and hitting one of those old punching bags (like
a speed bag?) that measured the pressure of force of the hit. Wanna get
into that fist fight now? Anyhow.
Gini and others have
written about this over the years I have been around as well. Honestly,
I don't see any of our posts making a difference in this issue, Clay. I
see YOU making a difference and others such as your self- excluding
your anatomy- but people (mostly parents, but certainly not all!)
raising our future adults with the knowledge that with respect, kindness
and understanding, we can, will and ARE changing the world and all the
stuff inside it that needs to change.
10 hours, 48 minutes ago on Gender Roles: Is it Really a Man’s World?
Beautiful, Erin. Thank you for this.
2 months, 1 week ago on Do Good Work
William! Cool ~ hmm, what is "six-sigma"? (I know, I know- I'll go look it up! LOL)
Now, William, I am certain I cannot be the only one actually learning "how" to be a leader, here on line, but I feel outrageously lucky and blessed to be learning from such a diverse group of leaders. I can say honestly that I use all three boxes (although the concept is brand new to me as of today). And I would say my weakness is #3- and I don't feel it is terribly weak so much as it is just so hard for some to understand how important it is to embrace changes, instead of resenting the change itself. I wouldn't say that it is even fear so much as true resentment. For myself- I feel that you must be underestimating your own power (unless I misunderstand the post) because for me, Box #3 is really (at least for us) a growth from Box #1!! And Box #2 came easier to me than the others, I think, simply because suddenly, I was ready to see it in a positive light that brought me to today. (Instead of a longing or giving into shame or "what ifs"). Great post! Thank you for this.
2 months, 3 weeks ago on Three Box Leadership
Mila. Read, printed, saved and ready to read it again.
We have "round table" meetings... they are "nothing" meetings. Now, I have to admit, every once in a while , the team needs a push to come... as they are not mandatory, but actually, we have a lot of fun and some real discussions, ideas, inspiration and a whole ton of respect during them ~ it encourages them (those that come) and rarely do the absentee(s) miss the next. When I started these (and they are held in my area- either at the table itself or out at the campfire- the team thought that I was simply flexing my muscle- the idea for me behind them was to get Terry involved with each PERSON- instead of only the orders and barking corrections- (the campfire was good for stilling this)- and just BE together, as a team, but as individuals too. When we began, (over 10 years ago now), I would have to bring up the tough subjects or events to get everyone talking, now- I start feeding them and they start talking all on their own. Even though there are only 2 of the original Team still here from when I began- the meetings are such a part of what and how we function now that if the days get away from me (and they often do)- someone - even the newest to our crew sometimes will say "Tonight? At 8?" to me during the day- they all just know. :)
What I have witnessed, stepping back and listening (which I am especially good at- observing) is that there is almost no "he said-she said" here and grudges are just a word. Not everyone is a pal, mind you ~ but everyone is free from looking over their shoulders or working against anyone else on the Team.
Thanks for this, Mila.
2 months, 3 weeks ago on One Important Meeting That Most Leaders Miss Out On With Their Teams
@davidallenspell ~ And it really is, isn't it? Exhilarating! When you finally step or even push through something, anything... that has been in your way. It is amazing.
2 months, 4 weeks ago on Fear and Failure
@davidallenspell @KDillaboughOH YES!! I love that ~ "Do it scared"
Thanks for this, David! What a great post. My own focus this year is to Be Fearless. And it has absolutely nothing to do with the lack of fear- it is acknowledging them, butterflies to outright terror and moving forward anyways. And again, YES! Sometimes, that one step- asking someone for help- is the most terrible of all. Thanks for another great post.
Scott ~ Thanks. Sincerely, thank you for choosing this post to share with us here. I am well into a massive and important project myself and well, it is HARD. Not the work and all the ins and outs that I needed to learn and utilize ~ work is good, it only takes time. I have learned a tremendous amount already. What is HARD is asking. Asking for help. Asking for content, in any form. Even knowing to my core that we (humans) were never intended to do or be "alone" ~ and knowing in my heart that people are willing and even anxious to help- we need to be capable of asking. So thanks for the reminder.
2 months, 4 weeks ago on Good Content Sometimes Means Never Being Afraid to Ask
What a blessing, Kristine!
I feel that we all were honored in your sharing all of those (familiar) judgements that you had made with us. Honored that you would share your own weaknesses with us, because really, it does make not only you but us too - stronger! This is a great step in becoming a great leader, so says I to my own team over and over again! But even more ~ who of us have not passed judgement on others? And who of us, just a bit older know now that most things (if anything) are not as simple as we saw them -then? It also struck me, that you said that you had been working on this post awhile (the first time you posted it)- well, that is funny because lately I have been working on something circling in my mind about "Glass Houses" and the like. That could be why your post touched my heart- because this has been so much on my mind lately. Judgement. Thank you for all of this and thank you very sincerely for choosing this one to repost here on #bealeader. It gives me great strength.
2 months, 4 weeks ago on Suspend All Judgment
@CASUDI~ LOL, I was actually still thinking about all I have learned from you (and others) and the lessons, posts, self checks; this morning. It is ironic you replied with the words you did- BE Fearless, our focus, my own focus for the year ~ ALSO makes me think of this ~ #bealeader, could I have found more clearly what I was searching for? It all leads to Leadership. But not only that. It all leads to Great Leadership. For us all. To help us break the boundaries- "from where we are at right now" to know that "we are ALL leaders". ~Thank you CASUDI (all) for all you have taught me, reminded me, shown me during this long journey.
2 months, 4 weeks ago on Tell Me About Your Entrepreneurial Journey
@Bnixon1 LOL! How do you think I feel?!
3 months ago on What’s So SPECIAL About Leadership?
CASUDI ~ You know that I am NOT an entrepreneur (I would hate to be anything so difficult to spell every time!LOL), but these lessons and insights I learn from listening and researching what you (and others) share, have helped me to become more. A better leader, manager, learner (yes!) and even, IMO, person.
It seems to me what you are saying is an Entrepreneur is really someone who has passion! A passion that will not be held back or down by an apparent or real lack of any resource, but will find a way.
Ha! Thank you.
3 months ago on Tell Me About Your Entrepreneurial Journey
@KDillabough Thank you, Kaarina! Thanks for being here, and thank you for all you do I treasure you and Ali both, so much!
@AliRodriguez @KDillaboughHa! (Shh! He certainly doesn't need to hear too much more of THAT!)
@AliRodriguez Aww! Yes, he has been blessed with a quick and curious mind. "Stuff" happens to us all. When the bad "stuff" or the sticky "stuff" occurs ~ that is when we have to be at our most agile- in thinking and in the actions we take.
LOL, Kaarina is the one- ha! My whole team blames KAARINA for the vision boards I now have EVERYWHERE!! They are wonderful ways to stay positive, and as you say- keep your eye on the goal. We work hard, take the bruises that come from living and working but we can always SEE the point. Thank you for this! Up till now- it never even occurred to me to make it a group effort. oooo! I can just picture the wall that would be just dandy for a Team board! Thanks for this!
3 months ago on Keeping A Team Focused Using A Vision Board
So cool. Okokok!
3 months ago on One professional life. A 3 minute video. The real American dream. Until the end.
Wow Cate! Powerful stuff here today.
What an amazing and inspiring post. I feel as if you have refueled me for ...more than another day or week, but for and with PURPOSE. Thank you for this and thank you to whatever inspired the words inside you to share it with us.
3 months ago on What Makes A Leader Toxic?
Wonderful post to share! Yes, these are the hard ones- more so when we sit down with ourselves for a very transparent, raw-truth seeking way, even more so than when we do a full meeting of heads and spreadsheets. (I find) ~ I have gotten pretty good at being transparent, with myself and others over the last years. I found myself nodding along with your words- until I came to #5- and where you said "Maybe the business you first started is not the same one you are engaged
in now; either because your focus has changed, or your customer’s focus
Pioneer is 90 years old this year. Yes, everything has changed. The laws, people, weather... Most of all- the people. The new generation of Guides and well as the new generation of clients. This change was gradual, for a long time- and now very quickly, has completely and utterly become something different. The expectations with a heavy dose of what we here have discussed calling it the "entitled mindset". So yes, I and we are working hard to adjust to this new way of thinking and to still be able to give people the joy, inspiration and fulfillment we have always provided.
Thank you for sharing this!
3 months ago on Reality Check For Your Business
Kaarina, this post is so full of great insights ("the ratty old.." cracks me up) and reminders to us all. What I have been experiencing...maybe just now acknowledging and seeing finally, over these last few years is exactly the point you made at the end! Oh yes. My cup runeth over with the goodness and bright the world, no, the PEOPLE of the world have to offer, if you can see. Thank you for sharing this, this particular one, with us all here.
3 months ago on Business and Life Lessons From A Garage Sale
I am so sorry I was late! LOL, I got all puny unexpectedly yesterday and missed letting you know how great this post was! Luckily- it still is! (snort!)
There is so much, so many little points, characteristics, values, ethics and traits that make GREAT leaders and for incredible, world changing leadership. There is one thing they all balance on however. People. Serving, in one way or a million others, people. No matter how you mix it, as you say, there is no absolute combination. But underneath it all is the desire and commitment to serve others, bring others to a greater day, accomplishment or understanding. Thank you for a great post, Brian.
3 months ago on One Part Solid Manager + Two Parts Strong Leader = An Excellent Solution
@AliRodriguez LOL, no I hadn't heard that ~ but the one I do know is "I know God wont give me more than I can handle, I just wish he wouldn't trust me so much!" By Mother Teresa. LOL Lord knows if SHE can feel like that I am not doing to badly when I feel like that.
3 months, 1 week ago on Do You Have What It Takes?
It is amazing to me how the universe spins and we are given what we need when we need it. LOL, Being the terrible moments that maybe get you thinking that quit-word or like this post appearing, a reblogged post- just when maybe I needed to persevere and remembering that the hardest and most miserable times ARE most often before the world opens up and it is a brand new day and view. Thank you for this, David.
3 months, 1 week ago on Maybe Just Persevere
@CASUDI Oh yes! There are some we do tend to modify, that is wisdom and grace I believe. And there are some, as there should be, as you say "Beyond which I will not go!" Absolutely. Those lines The ones we hold so strongly, they are really WHO we are, and who the world sees us as - looks to us for. Thank you, CASUDI, for being here.
3 months, 1 week ago on Hold The Line
@William Attaway Thank you, William, for being here!
@KDillabough ~ Ha, I do agree. Again, Jen (I think) is the one that mentioned and reminded us all as we were speaking of Tolerance and Inclusion- just how many different shades of grey there is in the world. But also that there are lines one does not cross. You must, especially as a Leader, stand firm.
@AliRodriguez Thank you Ali! Although I must admit, the little dude in his boxers is coming pretty close to my own line, LOL!! It's funny, because this is a lot of what we touched on during the tweetchat of Tolerance and Inclusion ~ Holding your own line...while being tolerant and inclusive of others as well as their own lines.
Great share, Ali!
~I can just hear some people saying "WHAT?! I thought I was supposed to be serving others!" LOL ~ I council my own trainees with these exact points! Those we serve ARE our highest priority. But we absolutely MUST take care of ourselves to be able to do that. We must come first. ~ Actually, simple first aid classes even go through this- you cannot even begin to offer assistance unless you make sure you will be safe to do so! You cannot help or serve anyone else if you are hurt, run down, lost or left behind.
I really like this post, Ali, thank you.
This is a very GREAT point to bring up, Christopher. Yes, indeed. The long haul can be as devastating as panic under fire, if you are not ready for it (and all that comes).
One degree equals 92 feet?! Holy shmokes. Although, even in my line of work- I can see that- and how drastically you can miss the only safe way across a bog, just being a little lackadaisical. I believe that passion- and remembering your "why" is the answer for those long drawn out ordeals as well as the little but terribly wearing "issues" that come up and have to be dealt with, day after day. Thanks for this, Christopher- this is a great reminder.
3 months, 1 week ago on Slow Fade
@TheJackB ~Getting pretty sloppy! (Have I mentioned yet this year how much I detest Spring time in Alaska?!) LOL Have a lovely Easter Sunday, Jack.
3 months, 1 week ago on The Most Brazen Approach To Blogging…Ever
Always, always so awesome, Jack. LOL Dude.
@KDillabough “You never make the same mistake twice. The second time you make it, it is no longer a mistake. It is a choice”
~ Lauren Condrad
3 months, 1 week ago on Mistakes That Transform
Wow, this is a position I have never had ~ hiring, but I can see exactly how these 9 points could happen and why they will almost always lead to disappointment ~ or worse, disaster. Thank you for this!
3 months, 1 week ago on 9 Reasons Why Your New Hire Didn’t Work Out
@KDillabough I have to admit- it wasn't my own words- I read it a while back on a card at Pinterest, but I loved it instantly because that is exactly my own thought!
3 months, 2 weeks ago on Can You Concoct A Leader?
How grand. My personal favorite and the one I am relentless in both myself and passing along to others is that mistakes are COOL! Sheesh. We MUST be willing to make the mistake if we intend to grow and reach our goals. The absolute key is not making the same one twice- I kinda lean towards if you make it (the same mistake) twice- it is not a mistake- it is a choice. I also believe very strongly in talking about and owning our mistakes with others- not only does it help our own minds solidify what was wrong- but it could very well help others not to make the same one. Thank you for a great post.
Burke ~ You always touch my heart with the posts you share with us. Always. Leadership has quickly become a passion to me as leading my Team, the team I love deeply and what we do, is another passion. To be able to help us all (everyone, not only my own very small team) to become stronger ~ together ~ is a passion that has captured my heart as surely as Alaska did, so long ago.
Together, we can do this. Anything! It seems so clear to me. It makes perfect crystal clear sense then that the key to making awesome and strong teams in business would be the same. Together.
Thank you Burke.
3 months, 2 weeks ago on Examining The DNA of High-Performance Leadership Teams
CASUDI ~ My brain is still recovering from a total melt-down yesterday when an entire day's work went poof! as the power died. But this, as much as reading it made me grit my teeth (I guess I am not quite finished being a crank over yesterday!) ~ is a great point. When the trash (for want of a much better word) hits the fan ~ you have to be capable of a pretty nifty turn to survive it...or at the very least to keep moving forward.
My phrase is "Don't get stuck on stupid" ~ meaning that if something is not working ~ Switch! That simple. An yes, it is. Three quarters of the choices of directions we can ride out of Chisana, leading guests and clients involve crossing the river. The trick is first- having enough distance between myself and the person directly behind me that if (and so often it is "when") Thunder and I step into quick sand- we can get right back out of it without a major disaster. Then, if it isn't a quick reverse- sometimes, the sand and gravel wall collapses when you step into the quicksand- and there is no easy back up- lots of things have to happen very quickly- all while I am controlling a 1,600 pound worried animal.
Thanks for reminding me that these quick turns are something we all deal with and have to be prepared for.
3 months, 2 weeks ago on Turning On A Dime
I knew this was going to be a winner when I saw that Jen had chosen Magnus to take part in your graphic! Oh my gosh! I am so thrilled to hear all you shared! Sheesh, most of the time you would think I was the only person on the planet with a pointy stick at the ready!
I have a tendency to react very badly to any kind of an attack. Or, more importantly IMO, and kind of "perceived"attack. To me, allowing the attack has always seemed like leaving the corral gates open and wondering where all the horses ran off to. Now, some may feel that (and very well may be correct!) it (the attack) should just be ignored, because to respond may be "beneath" me or that those that know me should very well know that I Walk the Talk ~ However, if you allow the attack to go by without harsh and immediate correction- who knows what the smell of fresh blood might bring next.
As I have grown, both in age and my own experiences, I have become better at the 4 steps you mentioned and a whole lot less likely to come out of the corner swinging and I know that this is the better way and certainly a better example for others.... but seriously? I wouldn't count on it. LOL!
3 months, 2 weeks ago on Do You Poke The Sleeping Bear or Let Sleeping Dogs Lie?
Oooo, Hot diggity! This is going to be a busy one, I can already see that. Personally- the point you made above, Gerry- saying that someone who WANTS to do something, produces so much more and better outcomes than a HAVE to- is huge for me. So I am looking forward to your chat and unless the world implodes or the power goes flippy on me- I'll be there, with my cape on!
3 months, 2 weeks ago on Are You A Leader, An “Inspirer” Or Both?
Oh boy! My own kiddos were put straight up too. Horses are a huge focus in our lives so my thought process was start it early, no fears, no worries. Well. BOTH children (My son who will be 16 this year and my daughter who will be 7 very soon) were bucked off and scared by horses too well broke and trusted to ever do such a thing! But both times- unexpected things happened. Both times the heartache from what they both perceived as personal betrayals was horrendous. And BOTH times, it took quite a long while to get them comfortable again riding alone.
I love the parallels you took from Joker and the force of momentum. It can happen in a blink and it can be pretty darn scarey- whether we are talking horses or talking professional success (or anything in between). I've been in some spots- I am in a couple right now as a matter of fact and there isn't a dang thing I can do about them- unless I want to just "bail off" and that really isn't an option. So I will just ride it out and see where I end up. Hope for the best, do my best to keep up and remember all I have learned. Thanks for this, Tony.
3 months, 2 weeks ago on Ride The Momentum
Sean, I LOVED this list! LOL, a great different way of defining what leadership should be. Or rather, not!
3 months, 2 weeks ago on The ABC’s Of What Team Leadership Is Not
What an important point. So very important and yet, standing where I am right now~ so incredibly hard. It is all well and good for us to speak of it (when we do) but now, focusing on the idea and fact of trust and how it relates to us each leading- it very well could be the most difficult thing of all to do.
The point you made ~ about the story that was shred with you, really makes the point. And truly, if we want to grow as leaders- we need to be able to trust others, give them (empower) the respect they have earned and let it go... and yes, it does feel as if this important business, this goal, is slipping out of your hands. But yes, it is our own progress and growth as leaders and as a business. It is also most likely, one of the hardest steps- for themselves (myself) to take. But we aren't here just to tread water, are we? Thanks for this post, Barbara. Very nice.
3 months, 2 weeks ago on Stronger With trust
A great big pink sign (mine is pink- not that goofy yellow) that says "Under Construction". ~ LOL, this is what I see when I look into a mirror! ~ Well, that ... where DID those lines come from?!
Ali! This topic is so very important to me, on every single level of my own personal growth to each and every part of my life as a professional, trainer, as a leader and as a Mother.
We each, absolutely MUST look inward. But even more importantly, we MUST force ourselves to be brutally honest about what IS there. You know how we say that our little kitty "thinks" he is a Tiger? Just exactly like that. It is all well and good to see what we want to become, but unless we also see all the warts and dents that need to be removed and smoothed ~ we are only, ONLY, fooling ourselves. Once we truly see and acknowledge our shortcomings, our own weaknesses (and warts) can we then set about learning what we need to, strengthening what needs to be stronger and finding a dang doctor to remove the ugly wart! LOL
What a great post! Thank you.
3 months, 3 weeks ago on What Does Your Reflection Tell You?
Mark this is great! Although I believe that pineapple has absolutely NO place on pizza!
I also really liked your mention of the substitutions- I know that in our business everyone has to be able to pick up or take over where someone else left off. Stuff happens, and in our world, sometimes it happens with no warning and no time for a trip to the "store". It may not be one person's job, but everyone has to have the skills to pick it up and keep cooking. Thanks for this. A fun way to start the day.
3 months, 3 weeks ago on Kitchen Chemistry – Cooking Up Some (Company) Culture
Gosh! Absolutely. Jennifer, this is perfect. Excuses- all. People, Leaders most especially, leaders of absolutely anything and everything need to get over their bad selves and come to grips with the fact that this IS life today. (I wonder if people acted like this when the first phones were installed in everyone's homes?...Hmmm)
Absolutely, absolutely. Connections. Real connections- not simply "Oh I have this huge number of followers" or "So-n-so follows me" THAT is so totally NOT a connection. Do they know your name? Do they recognize your gravitar? I can share with you this- I had 3 names (not including the one I was given upon being born!) and 4 different avitars when I started out on Social Media- trying to learn and catch up with everyone else without sounding like a total moron- but I knew (had learned in one of my first lessons) that REAL connections HAD to be made! And folks KNEW me! LOL, now maybe that was because I was a likeable moron, but hey! I was trying! And I was talking not only to people- but with them! Meeting new folks, every day! And they ALL knew something I did not know.
Thank you for this, Jennifer, and again, welcome to #bealeader. It is going to be wonderful getting to know you!
3 months, 3 weeks ago on No More Excuses
So true and so inspiring. Thank you for this.
3 months, 3 weeks ago on Who Inspires You To Be A Leader?
This is amazing. Truly. Not only the post, choosing this exact post to share with us here or the words you used ~ I just wrote a post about "Letting Go" ~ Cut it Loose ~ because I see this too often also lately. Holding onto the past, be it a particularly painful failure, betrayal, heartbreak or loss; can only be learned from and let go. Otherwise it truly is like dragging an anchor. Thanks for this, Lalita.
3 months, 3 weeks ago on How Do You “Let Go”?
Righteous, Chief! Simply awesome.
Hey, you know that so many of us were (and possibly still are) raised to give 100% ~ and therein is the downfall and trigger to those unacceptable thoughts and actions of "I give up." We must know now that the key lays in Willie's sugar happy mind. It actually takes more than that 100%.
Some, may wonder "how this is even possible?" But those of us who have learned this the hard way knows that it isn't as impossible as it sounds. How do we grow? How do we give more of ourselves? By doing what needs to be done to #bealeader ~ by learning. By stretching ourselves so far, so consistently, that there is more room inside of us. By not giving up and by not only understanding but embracing that we are not alone, even as leaders.
Thanks for this, Chip. An awesome way to start my day.
3 months, 3 weeks ago on What Would Willie Wonka Do?
Absolutely. Trust is so very personal and people are the base of all we do. If we have no trust, we cannot begin to do what we must. Personally or professionally- as a team. Thanks for this, Mila. It is good to remember.
3 months, 3 weeks ago on Finding Your Company’s Secret Weapon : Trust & Innovation
In all I have read, researched or even written in my own words ~ Devotion is a new word describing leadership and yet it seems to sum up everything that encompasses it. Such a beautiful word and it says so much more than commitment, loyalty or any of the other words I have used. I found myself nodding, saying to myself "yes, uh-huh, yes" as I read through and when I came to "Devotion" and read on, that was the ringer for me. Reminding us all that it really is all about those we lead- even more so than our own hopes, desires, dreams. Thank you for this.
3 months, 4 weeks ago on The Four Dimensions Of Leadership
Martina, what an inspiring post to share with us. Thank you for this. I agree with Kaarina and will add to say it out-loud too.Tell someone you count on to not let you back down away from what truly makes you happy, better or stronger. A leader, mentor or a pal who has your back. Clarity. I like this!
3 months, 4 weeks ago on Clarity Leads To Achievement