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@BerniXiong @TheRelationshipInsider Berni, being scared isn't the problem. Fear is a normal part of the human state. It is a there to protect us. It is only a problem when we let it paralysis us and keep us stuck. It isn't about becoming fearless. It is about fostering courage to move forward in the direction you want to go with integrity, despite the fear. And you role model that beautifully.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on A Candid Letter to Future Entrepreneurs

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Good on you for calling it as it is Berni. Respect to you. I totally get your angle on the way being transparent is bandied about. And don't even get me started on how overused the word "authentic" is in the industry!! The Entrepreneur journey can be a tough one and takes a lot of courage to stick with. And as you point out there are masses of obstacles, setbacks and failures along the way. But it sure as hell is an adventure and beats settled for mediocrity of a life that no longer serves you or fulfills you.   

1 month, 3 weeks ago on A Candid Letter to Future Entrepreneurs

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Over the years I have found that the most effective way to be more productive is to ditch the focus on time management and to focus on nurturing self management and self discipline and automating this by focusing on creating habits - creating habits, routines and rituals is one of the most powerful ways to become more effective.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Time Management: Six Tips to Be More Productive and Get Things Done

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@lauriemazz @PointA_PointB@Ali_DaviesLaurie, I can totally relate to what you are saying. Same happening to me when I was working in the Corporate world many years ago. It was the turning point to that triggered me really taking a step back and asking what I wanted from my life, career etc. As a result, I eventually left the corporate world to set up my own business so I could live and work on my own terms, putting my health and wellbeing top of the agenda. I prioritise that these days in my own business.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on The Silent Partner You Can’t Ignore

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Spot on Catherine. So vitally important yet so often overlooked.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on The Silent Partner You Can’t Ignore

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Interesting you say this Suze. I feel the same too. And I see and hear alot of other people in the same space. It will be interesting to see how social media evolves from here and how that might be different for different generations.

4 months, 2 weeks ago on Social Media’s Coming of Age

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@PointA_PointB @Ali_DaviesCatherine, his advice is even more poignant now as he has incurable cancer. He is also the person who taught me that "life is too short to settle for mediocrity."

4 months, 3 weeks ago on A Trick for More Stable Cash Flow

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Something that has always stuck with me since I was younger is something my Uncle Chris said to me "life and business isn't about taking risks, it is about knowing which risks to take." That advice has served me well through the years and helped me keep focussed on calculated risks versus just taking risks.



4 months, 4 weeks ago on A Trick for More Stable Cash Flow

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My three words are experiment, simplicity and relationships. My phrase is "stepping up and being bold" - a phrase I used a few years back that served me well so I am re-instating it as a permanent fixture in my life and business.

6 months, 3 weeks ago on Join my Big Collaboration Experiment in 2014 – #MyThreeWords

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When the brown stuff hits the fan there is always an opportunity lurking in there somewhere.

7 months, 2 weeks ago on When a Leader Learns of Unethical Behavior

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@Sandi Amorim Gosh, don't ask me that Sandi - we will be here for hours!!! Will just pick a couple from major changes this year - living in Vancouver and starting to homeschool our son. And on the business front - being self employed which gives me the freedom to change my focus when I want (major biz change just being born!!)
 

7 months, 3 weeks ago on 99 Things I Love (because I love a good challenge)

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Really enjoyed reading your list Sandi. Based on your comment below re 67 and 69, I am a brave soul!!!!!

7 months, 3 weeks ago on 99 Things I Love (because I love a good challenge)

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I read your post with interest as our 9 year old son left traditional bricks and mortar school yesterday to follow a self designed educational path to match who he is as a person and how he learns best and to follow his passions and interests. A journey of experimentation and adventure ahead which we are very excited about. Looking forward to seeing how your journey unfolds too.

8 months ago on How to Educate Your Child (ren)

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As I read your post this quote jumped to mind-> "The aim of an argument or discussion should not be victory, but progress." - Joseph Joubert. Am thinking the world might be a lot better place if this was a standard more people held themselves to.

8 months, 2 weeks ago on New Rule: America Needs to Get a Grip on Its Anger

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I think you hit the nail on the head early on in your post when you say it is about habits. Creating intentional habits with strong boundaries around them. Gadgets aren't the problem. Lack of self discipline and intentional use is the problem

8 months, 2 weeks ago on Why Extended Digital Breaks May Not Work

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@Diana Schneidman I agree Diana. When to-do lists are driven by vision they become very powerful. It is to-do lists driven by day to day noise that are the problem. Stephen Covey's book "first things first" offers some great food for thought on this topic

10 months ago on Are You Making This Time Management Mistake?

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@Word Ninja I do that too. I do it annually. I find it acts like a compass to keep me heading in the direction of what is most important.
 

10 months, 1 week ago on Work/Life Balance: The Cost of Always Being On

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@jasonkonopinski I like that Jason. For me, there is just life. Everything else in life is an activity. To use your word, how we blend those activities to achieve a meaningful and fulfilling life is the challenge. And I think that is were the design focus comes in.
 

10 months, 1 week ago on Work/Life Balance: The Cost of Always Being On

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Always good to meet another paper and pen fan. I think the benefits of using paper and pen for all sorts of things is highly underrated. I am a raving paper and pen fan. Use it for organising myself, business planning, meetings and even my diary is a paper one.

10 months, 1 week ago on Why Paper is Still My Favorite Productivity Tool

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I think chasing the outdated and mythical concept of work life balance is so last century. I suspect the quest for balance in itself is part of the problem. For me, I prefer to substitute "balance" with "design." Far better to design the life you want based on your values, what is most important to you and you own definition of success and design life and work around that. I love my work and business. But I want it to serve and protect what I value more  - not balance with it.

10 months, 1 week ago on Work/Life Balance: The Cost of Always Being On

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We have faced quite a bit of adversity over the last few years with Mr D suffering serious health issues that spanned over 5 years (including two situations that were potentially life threatening). Two things we found really powerful during this time were taking a back to basics approach to life and work. We often over complicate life unnecessarily and stripping everything back, simplifying and gonig back to basics helpsenormously. The second thing was having a string self care programme. In the face of adversity it is easy to neglect yourself but that only makes things harder. Prioritising a self care programme really helps navigate the storms of prolonged periods of adversity. 

I am abig believer that mindset does play a big part too.

10 months, 2 weeks ago on Being An Optimist is About More Than Just Making Lemonade

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Happy birthday to the whole Spin Sucks team. And thanks for the reminder that this whole blogging malarkey is a process that keeps on evolving, consistently  - as do we. 

10 months, 2 weeks ago on Seven Years of Blogging. Happy Birthday, Spin Sucks!

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@caroljsroth @Ali_Davies Wow, that really surprises me Carol. Did they elaborate on why they want to look like a celebrity? Am curious as to why that is important to some folks. Maybe my naivety knows no bounds because not sure why being seen as a celebrity is something to aspire too and alter your behaviour to achieve (whether on twitter or any other form)

11 months ago on Why I Follow so Damn Many People on Twitter

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Always interesting to see different folks approach to twitter and how they choose to use it. Thanks for sharing yours. And for me that is the bottom line - personal choice. None of us know, unless we are specifically told by an individual, why they follow a shed load of people or why they choose to follow just a few. Saying "I am secure with who I am: I guess some people think that it makes them look more important or cool or something to have lots of followers and only follow a few back" is one option. MAybe some do. But there is, of course, a whole load of other possibilities. As someone who currently doesn't follow many people on twitter, I can say that it isn't to make me look more important or cool. My purpose on twitter currently is maybe just different from someone who follows loads. There is no right or wrong way to use twitter - just personal choice (I would caviat that with saying as long is it isn't used in a way to hurt others or is offensive). I think we all need to avoid casting judgement on people and making assumptions about  them based on how many people they follow and the choices they make that might be different to ours.

11 months ago on Why I Follow so Damn Many People on Twitter

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@SteveWoodruff  Oooooo, the challenge deepens! I'm on it!

11 months, 3 weeks ago on Be a Distiller and a Thief

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10 Words? Like that challenge. This article is great food for thought for Small Business Owners. Many thanks for the thought provoking ideas.

11 months, 3 weeks ago on Be a Distiller and a Thief

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Well said.

11 months, 4 weeks ago on The A List Conundrum

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What a fun list. Found myself nodding to many of these. One I would add, although it is a word not a phrase is......guru. It is overused and often inappropriately too. Often a word people use for ingratiating themselves with someone else by calling them a guru. e.g. "Our guest today is xxxxxx a guru in yyyyy." Yuck. Always very wary of people who call themselves a guru.

1 year ago on 35 Business Phrases that You Wish Would Go Away

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Reminds me of something my very first coach said to me when I left the corporate world back in 2001 "Always start with the gold in your own back yard." Such simple and practical advice yet often overlooked.

1 year ago on Want to Broaden Your Network? Start Close to Home

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Great points. I was told by a client a couple of years back that I sold "hope and freedom." As a coach, mentor and consultant for business woners, this was really thought provoking feedback. This got me really thinking and so I started to ask clients and others what they thought. Things that came back were "quality of life" "freedom" "possibility" "hope" "fulfillment." It is a great reminder that often the return on investment clients are looking for has nothing to do with money and figures at all and everything to do with something they want to feel.

1 year, 1 month ago on What Do You Really Sell?

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@Susan Daniels I love that quote of his too. I have more than a hint of the crazys but I hid it for many years in order to conform to the status quo - especially in business. When I very first saw that quote from Steve Jobs it really made me feel liberated. Since then, have set my crazys free!!

1 year, 1 month ago on The Sunday Share - 7 Awesome Quotes from Steve Jobs

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You can't beat a little blast of such real wisdom to give the day an extra kick. 

1 year, 1 month ago on The Sunday Share - 7 Awesome Quotes from Steve Jobs

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You raised a really valid point when you said "it is hard work. It doesn’t happen overnight." We live in a world that wants everything to come easy and now! So it is a bit of  a shock for many folk when they realise they might have to break a sweat to achieve the results they want. Relationships and community that are strong, healthy and lasting  don't come easy and immediately. They take time, commitment and a shed load of hard work.

1 year, 1 month ago on Building a Community: What’s the Secret Sauce?

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Classy! Lovin' the fresh clean feel.

1 year, 2 months ago on How to Choose Social Media Tools

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A great reminder that it is important not only to create our own unique definition of success but to make sure it is based on our core values - because that is where fulfillment lives. An individual success definition based on our most important values is what we should measure ourselves on. To do otherwise is to set ourselves up for regrets and unhappiness

1 year, 2 months ago on The Success Trap and Regrets of the Dying

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 @SteveWoodruff That is exactly why I left the corporate world back in 2001 Steve. Being Self Employed means that I can orientate my business and my life totally around my own values. 

1 year, 2 months ago on Discover Your Fit

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 @PointA_PointB  Thanks Catherine. Glad you liked it.

1 year, 2 months ago on Discover Your Fit

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Great points Steve. If I may add one to yours it would be to get clear on your core values and orientate your work around that as work that is orientated around our values is where fulfillment lives.

1 year, 2 months ago on Discover Your Fit

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Couldn't agree more Sandi. I like to think about values as being like a compass. Makes decision making so much easier and helps to avoid problems and heading off in the wrong direction. 

Like you, it concerns me how often this is overlooked even in the personal development world as values are the foundation on which a fulfilling life and business are built

1 year, 5 months ago on How to Use Your Values to Thrive in Life & Business

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 @SociallySavvy4U I think you have hit the nail on the head there - our schools really need to give as much focus to life skills as they do to academic skills. I was asked to give a talk to a group of school students last week (age 17-18) on that very topic (the life skills and mindset to create the life and work you really want) - listening to these kids points, they felt that they had a lot of "textbook" and "theory" work bit little practical help and life skills help to allow them to head off into the "real" world full prepared and ready.  I think it is time for a fairly hefty change in the education system.

1 year, 7 months ago on Unwrap Your Listening Skills for Social Media Once & For All!

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Some great food for thought here. Thanks.

I think listening is one of the most important elements of communication and building healthy relationships (both personally and in business) yet so often neglected. As you have pointed out here, it is as important online as it is offline.

1 year, 8 months ago on Unwrap Your Listening Skills for Social Media Once & For All!

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Amen sister. Just been through that cycle recently myself. I have come to see those times in my life as just that - a cycle. A bit like the tides - they ebb and flow.

1 year, 8 months ago on From Nothing to Something

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I am a raving fan of creating simplicity in my life and business so I thoroughly enjoyed this article - great food for thought. Another question I would add to your list, that I find helps  create more awareness is "what is complexity in my life and business costing me." Often the answers that come up can be a great motivator for taking action. 

1 year, 8 months ago on Doing Better With Less: The Laws of Subtraction

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Another benefit of doing the exercise you describe here is that it also gives powerful information to improve your time management as you can make sure the most important "hats" you need to wear get regular and protected "slots" in the diary.

1 year, 8 months ago on Do You Have “Dropping Balls Syndrome”?

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So many great perspectives. I use this mantra to stop me getting stuck in regret -> "Learn the lesson. Apply the learning. Move on."

1 year, 8 months ago on Entrepreneurship: Biggest Business Regrets

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 @Sandi Amorim Yes it did. We have been big on designing our ideal life since we escaped the corporate world 10 years ago. But Martin's accident made us realise we had slipped back from our usual approach to life and had got in a bit of a rut.

 

So once Martin was well on the road to recovery, we sat down with a blank piece of paper and asked how we would shape our lives if we were starting from stratch again. And over a few weeks the blank piece of paper morphed into out latest road map for the life we really want for our family.

 

We are now making the blank piece of paper exercise an annual event, just as a health check to make sure we don't slip back into that rut again. Lots of fun!!

2 years ago on Regrets of the Dying (and other possibilities for life)

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Sandi, this post really tocuhed a nerve for me as last year Team Davies had a fairly hefty wake up call. I was running a session with a room full of Self Employed Women when a call came it - it was a paramedic saying that my husband had been in a serious car accident and to get to the hospital.

 

I knew it must be bad as I know he would have spoken to me himself if he could. But he couldn't. He was trapped in the car with a number of broken ribs, breathing difficulties and legs, stomach and chest bashed up.

 

They had to cut the roof off to get him out. I sat at the hosipital for an hour before he arrived at the hospital in the ambulance. For that whole hour I didn't know what state he was in.It is a horrific feeling I can't put in to words.

 

But we were lucky. Although it is a horrific smash and even the police said they don't know how he survived it, his injuries were not life threatening. 

 

It is easy to take your plans for life for granted and think you have plenty of time to make them happen. But the reality is that you don’t know when something will suddenly happen that will rob you of the opportunity to have the life you want with the people you want.

 

Wake up calls don't always have happy endings like ours did. And that is why it is so important to not wait for a wake up call before you grab your life by the scruff of the neck and shake it into something you really love.

 

Thank you for raising this topic. A subject close to my heart and an important one to bang the drum about.

2 years ago on Regrets of the Dying (and other possibilities for life)

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Great list Emelia. I would expand point 12 to say as well as aligning with purpose we should get crystal clear on what our core values are and align all areas of our life and business around those. I believe doing that is the key to a fulfilling life - even when life gets tough.

2 years, 1 month ago on 12 Most Essential Habits for Success

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