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Great, concise post with heart, @ginidietrich . Sometimes having some time on your hands is when the revelations come.

 

When I was job-hunting two years ago, I absolutely stepped up my digital profile on all of the platforms I cared about & knew I could maintain. I'd come from a magazine that was in turmoil and found in  interviews that no one really *knew* what I had done there for years - they knew I'd  helped manage a newsroom but they had no idea what an 'editorial business analyst' was. An interview at Warner Bros. (with an executive I'd stayed past deadline for years to help), when she asked me ,"So you answered phones, riiiiight?" was the catalyst that drove me over the edge to fix any professional misconceptions in my own sincere yet assured voice. I wasn't  a Hollywood spaz and branded myself with that professional distinction in tone: results, not chaos.

 

 Whether it's FB, LinkedIn, a blog, Twitter - there's a way to throw your hat into the ring successfully. Even my blog, which was a random, intimate niche blog helped and I got a lot of positive, private feedback. Branding yourself to the market you're in and contributing to (as you do in Chicago) with reliable confidence works wonders. You've earned it, so keep your eyes on the prize, as they say!

2 years, 4 months ago on Four Steps to Create Your Personal Brand

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 @AmandaMagee That's a brave response and I agree with you and Julie Tyios. I am 42 years old, stepfather of three before my partner died (the kids are all adults now) and I know there's only so much parents can do. I would never lay blanket blame on parents; most parents have no idea what is happening and would never allow these atrocities to happen.

 

I was 11 when my Mom's car broke down on the way home from work and I was 'babysat' by friends of the family while waiting for her to come. I had three adult men in a basement pin me down at this house- I already had a broken wrist and a cast up to my shoulder - and while I was iinexplicably able to fight them off sexually, I got beaten for that by adults who put on nugget rings and ran a punching train on me. I walked out of there with fractured ribs and a cracked cast that had to be reset at my house that night for another month. I told my Mom it happened playing football after school and other code words she could never have known.

 

 It wasn't her fault as my parent and no one 'asks' to be sexually assaulted. I just know that from when that happened in 1980 to now, thank God we have more communal awareness of these things happening where hopefully there's a dialogue we can have with our kids to arm them in this new landscape where looks and intentions can decieve in the worst way. The company we're talking about here, Skout, is handling this atrociously and hopefully it leads to discussions like we've seen on this blog today where we can translate "bad acting" to what it really is. Rape. It should be said. Thanks to you, Amy and everyone here for what we've been able to express.

2 years, 4 months ago on Social Flirting App Leads to Child Rapes

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 @AmyVernon True and I'm certainly not saying all parents as a generalization because that would be insane of me. I guess I speak of people I have discussed this with whose kids overrule them on the tech side completely. I know people who don't want to learn the basics of what their kids can do with ease online or on mobile devices. Parents who can't get their kids' attention for them texting in front of their faces. I hear a lot about peer pressure - their classmates are on Facebook and 10 years old, but since when did that matter? There's only so much parents can do, I just hope we don't stop having these discussions with them about safety. And Skout's PR strategy on this is clearly an oxymoron.

2 years, 4 months ago on Social Flirting App Leads to Child Rapes

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Amy, thanks for posting this as well as your earlier tweets after the NYT mentions that helped put this in perspective in real-time. I think it's horrendous and horrible what happened to these individual minors. I applaud your criticism of Skout's handling of this.  It's wrong to handle this as a tight-lipped PR crisis more suited to a benign indiscretion versus the breach that it is that will affect its victims for a lifetime. They should absolutely be transparent about it and help prevent more of the same for unknowing users who will just take their profiles elsewhere.

 

I am sure not blaming the kids - trust me, I'm a kid of the '70s, so I know this can happen with or without apps/technology - but I don't think 'we' as adults can ever stop having safety discussions with our kids about the dangers of online connections. Dangers from predators and pathological adults before the internet were tactile: you saw body language, leering/shifty people, you got your sleeve pulled by adults and it was presently real, which is lost and filtered out in the fourth wall of digital artifice. Parents can't police everything but these sort of web-related assaults are only one generation old. It's a relatively new frontier beyond what we dealt with in our respective youth. It's beyond compare and much more initially seductive and consequently tragic when it goes beyond one's strength to stop invasive crime.

2 years, 4 months ago on Social Flirting App Leads to Child Rapes

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