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@emmerdale94 I miss it so much! It was nice being the "it girl" for a while.... lol. I think I'd have a better chance finding a husband there than here... haha
1 year, 7 months ago on Are the Brits Down with the Swirl? YES.
@DUsher It makes sense! You can tell more about a person based on their nationality than their color.
hmmm... @Christelyn I work at the mall, so I may have to make a trip to Abercrombie ;) lol
1 year, 7 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience
@Law Wanxi Yes I did! I sent in my absentee ballot last week :)
1 year, 9 months ago on Even from London, BB&W Intern Niala Nags Us Like Aunt Ethel to Get Out and Vote Today.
@dasdbobb I'm sorry, but I'm not in Greece anymore. I stayed for a week. Unfortunately I don't know of any recipes! However i LOVE Greek food, so I would suggest looking in to it.
1 year, 10 months ago on Amongst Greece's Economic Woes, BB&W Intern, Niala, Finds Beauty in the Ancient Land
@VictoriaAntoine I'm glad you are! it is THE BEST. There are so many places to go, and so much to see! You will have a great time:)
@oekmama haha yes! ask as many as you like:) I did talk to one, and he was saying that it's getting harder, because Greece is cutting many of their entitlement programs in order to cut spending. He also said that on average the greeks are making about 500$ a month, so this is obviously not enough to rent a place. Because of this a lot of families are living together.
@introvertedwanderer @aceontopofkings @KingsDaughter We can't be responsible for what people think of us, but we can control what we put out their for people to view. I wish Black producers would do a better job of this...
1 year, 11 months ago on Reality Show Fatigue: What Ever Happened to the Cosby's?
@aceontopofkings @KingsDaughter @hes I don't think most people view hip-hop videos as the "norm" when thinking of Black culture. But there are people who definitely try to imitate what they see in videos.
@Jamila "Niala, you should just go read a book, because the more you try to add to this conversation the more you show just how much you don't know. "
I find this comment rude and uncalled for. I am merely giving my opinion based on my experiences. As a blog everyone's comments should be welcomed in a discussion even if they do not all have the same opinion. You stated in your post that Black immigrants are more privileged than Black Americans. Yes, in some cases this may be true, however that is not everyone's circumstance, as I have witnessed myself. You are defending yourself, but not even trying to understand the experiences of others. I believe that it is a mischaracterization to discredit immigrants success because of selection bias. Just as I think it is wrong to say Black Americans have not succeeded because of their work ethic. We all have struggles we need to overcome. I do not discredit your post, because it is your opinion, and you are entitled to it. Please give me the same respect.
1 year, 11 months ago on Who Mia Love Is, and Who She Is Not
@travelgal456 @Jamila EXACTLY.
@Jamila Not all immigrants come from their countries with this education. I don't know Mia's parents background, but if they did, i doubt they would be cleaning toilets. Unlike you, I do not discredit those who have achieved rags to riches. I commend them, while understanding that there are a lot of things that go into being successful, and it is not always solely hard work. At the end of the day I commend any person of color who "makes it" whether or not they are from this country.
@Mayanew I am not saying that there are not Americans with this same mentality. If that was the case the US wouldn't be half as successful as it is. Like Jamila said, there is a divide between foreign blacks and native blacks. What I am saying, is that the successful immigrants have this mentality. They want to change their circumstance. That is what they came to america to do.
@Jamila It is no secret that foreign-born blacks achieve higher incomes and levels of education than the former. However the reasons that you have stated in your article are in my opinion, incorrect. Not all Black immigrants come here being well off. That is falsely discrediting their hard work. I know for a fact that the people in my family and others were not the upper-crusts of the Haitian community. Those that are stay in Haiti, because the system is working for them. And actually, Chinese immigrants are the most educated and wealthy minority group in the US.
I really don't think this article came from a bad place. (I think) the author was trying to say that although Mia's parents (and her) worked hard to succeed, not everyone can be expected to lift themselves and get the same results.
Even though you may think the Black immigrants that are coming from their respective countries are better off than the vast majority of Black Americans, that is just not true. When they come to the US they are starting all over again. Both of my parents are Haitian immigrants. Being well of in Haiti is far from being well off here. A middle class family there cannot afford middle class luxuries when they come to the US. Lets not forget they are coming from a third world country. When my parents came from Haiti they were thrown in the same boat as the poor Black Americans. They were not living in a nice suburb, they were living in the 'hood, using the same schools as everyone else. What separates all immigrants from Americans (regardless of race) is the fact that they have a different mentality. No matter what the circumstances they are going to try to make something of themselves, because that is what they came to America to do.
He should be in the Swirling movie!;)
1 year, 11 months ago on Photo(s) of the Day/Night: Me and My Buddy Matthew Hussey, and a Deal for BB&W
@LadyT13 Same here. Both of my parents are haitian, and from a yound age I was told black americans were "different" than us. When I was younger I never thought I had anything in common with African-Americans. We were raised differently. Alot of Haitians see uneducated African-Americans as ghetto, and somewhat responsible for the situation their in. To them African-Americans don't value hard work and education as much as they do. African-Americans think Black immigrants are usually worst off than them, but the immigrants don't see it that way.A girl at my high school even told me her mom said Haiti had the earthquake as punishment from God for practicing voodoo! SMH.
1 year, 11 months ago on Video: Skinfolk Ain't Always Kinfolk--Culture Often Clash in "Swirling"
@DeepWater AMEN. They didn't act that way because they were black, but because they were young and inexperienced. Being young and inexperienced myself, I EASILY could have made the same mistake. I don't think their actions were anything close to "weave-snatchin" behavior. Let's keep this in perspective. If they really were to act ghetto, they easily could have snapped at the reporter, and started taking their earrings out...LOL.This isn't a colorism issue. Everyone knows black people dominate track. Darker hued people have never been shunned out of track and field media before. This time, Lolo was just the "shinier" object used to attract viewers.
2 years ago on Etiquette 101: Graciousness in Competition
@DeepWater With the media i don't believe "alleged" lol. Only direct quotes with video. They like to trick us too much!
and I don't think their Wells' comment was directed at Lolo, but the media. At the end of the day she was expecting the media to care about "the three girls who earned their spot on the podium". Before the question asked by the the media, neither of them had mentioned Lolo's name, because they knew she wasn't the issue.
As a track athlete, I definitely understand the pain these two woman must have felt. I'm sure everyone does. This scenario is played out too often. We all know about the movie or t.v. show plot with the prettier sister getting more attention than the other sister. But the problem with this particular situation is that now, looks matter in sports. Sports are supposed to be as unbiased as a math question.
Especially track. In track there's no fighting about "the ref was unfair." No matter what, the end result is simple. The fastest person wins every time.
With this in mind, I know that if it was me who felt that my talents were overlooked, there is no doubt that I would be mad. Not at Lolo, but at the media. This interview was taken the day after these two girls had medaled. They did not act this way at right after their race (even though they were interviewed), because at that point they thought they had won the battle. After a night of seeing all the hysteria on social media sites, about how bad everyone felt for Lolo, instead of congratulating them. No one had their back.They felt understandably hurt.
As an athlete I looked up to Lolo Jones (and still do), but I never knew about all the obstacles Dawn Harper faced, because they media never said anything about it (listen to the interview). I look up to both Harper and Jones. Although Wells and harper's response were by no means perfect, I do not think they were all that bad, because i saw the tone in the interview. it could have been ALOT worse. There were no snapping of the fingers, eye rolling, or explicit language spoken. What they did is bring light to the issue. If they hadn't we wouldn't be talking about it now. I for one do not expect them to grin and bear it, like women IN GENERAL are always expected to do.
And no. I am not being sympathetic towards them because of the "woe of the black woman" that is not the issue to me. I would feel bad for Harper and Wells no matter what their skin tone, because I believe that at their level success should not go unnoticed. With so much media surrounding the Olympics they shouldn't have. Not many people get to attend the Olympics at all. They will most likely not get this chance again. I bet their whole life they had dreamed about the day they would be held in high regard for standing on the podium like the athletes before them, but they were not given that chance.
@CocoaFly You are so lucky! That's a great opportunity that I hope to have some day:) I'm a broadcast journalism/economics double major so that sounds great! I definitely won't have the "typical" American attitude when it comes to experiencing Europe!lol. I really like your term. fine porcelain it is!;)
2 years ago on One New Adventure, and one problem… What About My hair?
@Asia I think the term "bad hair" is very demeaning. Natural black hair is not 'bad' it's just a different texture. My hair is thick too! So thinking going natural gives me flashbacks of when it hurt to do my hair when I was younger...lol. I was offended when a hairdresser told me I must be indian because of my hair. NO. You don't need to be mixed with something to have what they would consider 'good' hair.
@CocoaFly That is why I am going to get braids. They seem so easy! I can't wait to be there! How was your experience there?
@naturalbeauty1 I agree with you. Because of my experiences, and where I have grown up, it was just another way to be different. But now that I have grown up, I don't see it that way. However, I do not feel the need to go natural (at least now) because I don't think I should be ashamed of what I do to my hair. Every girl, no matter what race, does things to enhance their beauty in their eyes. Not all girls wake up and go around with their natural hair texture. Even white girls take time to straighten their hair or get a perm. I am not saying that just because white girls do it it makes it okay, but I don't see a problem with "primping" yourself, as long as it doesn't become an obsession. Every girl has the right to do something extra to themselves. MODERATION IS KEY! I also do not feel the need to change my looks based on what men think. All men are different. I'd kill myself trying! I just choose to be comfortable with myself. I want any guy that is attracted to that:)
@emmerdale94 Thanks! those are all very good ideas. I just don't want to do all of that! haha. I'm just going to do braids. I scheduled my appt. today. I actually have heard nothing about Brit boys! Only Italians. Tell me about 'em girl;)
@Etine Thank you so much! lol you are right! I do have more important things to worry about:) In regard to your previous comments, I knew London was diverse, but I just didn't want the hassle of searching a completely foreign country for a hair dresser. I'm REALLY picky with how my relaxers are applied. And also, the pounds to dollar exchange rate is horrible, so I will have to end up paying double for everything. So any price for you is like double for me!haha. But I would love to get you and your friend's info:)
Thank you for all the hello's:) Hello to you all too! I am glad to be here, because you are all a wonderful group of people! Now let me get to all of these comments...lol
@Karla @Toni_M Yeah. I just recieved that. I feel like replying: Why should I support you when you don't support me? In Hollywood and the Fashion world in general it's "trendy to support Obama. So that's why she does it
2 years, 2 months ago on Recognizing the Necessity and Importance of Dark-Skinned Feminine Beauty
@Karla In this day in age SO much could be done with that recording. I can't believe she had the guts to say that....
@diamondgal @Deepwater Horizon Yeah, I think she is lighter too. I just find it interesting how at one point it was beneficial for her to be that color, and at another time it wasn't
@diamondgal @Shulamit They are! Diamondgal, I can see my experiences are different than yours because I am of the younger generation. (i'm in college). Because I haven't had to deal with a lot of the things you are talking about, I can only hope that means things are getting better:)
@Shulamit It's equivalent to Essence never having a black woman on the cover... sad
@Shulamit I know. It is a HUGE contradiction.
@Shulamit @diamondgal @AnInterestedObserver @The Working Home Keeper @Morenika EXACTLY. As the black community has begun to stop divisions within the community, their idea of beauty is shifting because of the media. Once the media embraces everyone, we will be able to put this behind us. By bringing these issues back to light we are pressuring the media to change:)
@diamondgal @Shulamit @AnInterestedObserver @The Working Home Keeper @Morenika Just as you feel those times are passe, so are the times in the Black community. Yes, there are still some issues, but they are not as severe as they used to be. It's not like it is socially unacceptable for Two black people of different shades to marry each other...
@Shulamit In Asia they are always trying to make themselves look white, because to them that is beauty. The most common plastic surgery is eyelid surgery to make their eyes bigger. In addition to the blonde hair and blue contacts
@diamondgal @AnInterestedObserver @The Working Home Keeper @Morenika I don't think anyone here is descrediting Beyonce or Halle's beauty. Instead people are saying (which I think was the authors intent) that ALL shades of black women should be considered beautiful instead of a select few
@diamondgal @AnInterestedObserver @The Working Home Keeper @Morenika No, but I don't think it's like that in the black community either. At least I haven't experienced it that way... At the end of the day all black women regard Beyonce, Rihanna, and Halle as one of our own, As much as Michelle Obama and the Oprah. I personally have never excluded someone as a friend just because they are light-skinned, or have had that done to me.
@diamondgal @AnInterestedObserver @The Working Home Keeper @Morenika Actually I have a lot of friends from other races, and they all seem to do the same thing. In the asian community fillipino and Vietnamese people are all thought of as "less than" because of their darker shade. And in the Hispanic community, women of darker shades are thought of as "less than" too. In fact I've known black, asian, and hispanic people that have used bleaching cream on their skin
@Deepwater Horizon BECAUSE SHE IS!! :) Yet I've never seen her on the list of most beautiful women
@blackpanthershay She's in the show Rookie Blue! AND in the show she is dating a VERY cute white officer:)
It's weird how things change... Does anyone remember Beyonce's Dangerously in Love album cover? In it she was wearing a sparkly stranded top with jeans. I remember looking at that cover as a kid and thinking: "wow, she's pretty and looks like me" but over time she has been marketed lighter and lighter... If you haven't seen the album cover google it! Very interesting:)
@Bunny77 I will definitely have packages by then. I will be working on some next year! My school focuses on making us well rounded, so that I can also work behind the scenes. My communications department does suggest some internships, but I don't think they have their own...
2 years, 2 months ago on Question of the Week: "Help! I Don't Want to Leave College Alone & Single!"
@Bunny77 You NAILED IT. No diversity in the white people.. haha. Do you teach at a school with a french name?lol I am looking into internships. and I am involved with news production there. However since I just finished my freshman year, it is very difficult to find an internship, because they favor upper classmen. I want to be on CNN one day:)
@Bunny77 haha yes! Precisely:) So you know what I'm dealing with..lol
@CocoaFly I mean I flirt, when being flirted with! lol. I am not one to make the first move. I do smile at guys, and take care of myself. But at my school there are a lot of "starers" guys that I can expect to just stare at me whenever I come into contact with them, but do absolutely nothing. I don't know if this staring is a good or bad thing
@Christelyn And yes, you are right I need to go to USC and UCLA more often... haha. I guess, that now that I think of it, a lot of the guys at my school are the same. not a ton of minorities (not just black, but others), and not a ton of people from different backgrounds...
@Christelyn haha. It's not the "vanilla" factor that bothers me, it's the PERSONALITY factor...lol. I'm all for vanilla;) lol. I'm just not one to go for fake guys... I don't want to be mean, but a lot of them are a little girly, and VERY conservative. I think I'm drawn to the athletes, because they are more relateable to me. They are neither of the two.