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@Brubino844 Yeah if you look at the stats the South and the West have pretty good numbers when it comes to interracial dating and marriage. 

12 hours, 15 minutes ago on It Should Be a SIN for Women Like This to be Dateless!!

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@zipporah @cns @tf9009 Ehh, I'm not down with all that "true" stuff because that only seems to get thrown and Indigenous folks. My own tribe has a lot Black mixes who get "You're not a real Native" thrown at them. It's hurtful. 

12 hours, 17 minutes ago on It Should Be a SIN for Women Like This to be Dateless!!

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@ChocolateDiva They say "Give a brotha a chance" then if something goes wrong it's all "That's what you get for being with a no-good man" or "You attract what you put out, work on yourself."

15 hours, 59 minutes ago on Deion Sanders Acknowledges the Reality of “Damaged Beyond Repair” (DBR), But…

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@Harold13 Atlanta is its own beast.

19 hours, 2 minutes ago on It Should Be a SIN for Women Like This to be Dateless!!

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@darkandlovely @joytulip I don't find this true either. Most of the other cultures in America want a woman who is educated. This harping on submission seems to be a big thing in certain Christian and African American circles. I remember talking about this with my boyfriend because I was talking to him about my experiences dating and how once I considered taking off information about my degrees on my profile because it might scare men away. I was told (by Black men) that men don't care about degrees. He told me "You weren't around the right men." My degree is a plus for him. If we are married we are more likely to be financially stable, the kids are more likely to be healthy and educated. It's a win-win for everyone. 

19 hours, 17 minutes ago on It Should Be a SIN for Women Like This to be Dateless!!

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Both man. It's pie.

2 days, 6 hours ago on Is Pumpkin Pie for White People?

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Go to Meetup.com and find a meetup. I'm so jealous of you guys in big cities that have tons of meetups. If I was there I'd go. I actually did go to a new tech Meetup in my city. I was one of 2 women, out of maybe 40 people. I'm already taken, but I wondered how it would have been if the group was around years ago!

3 days, 18 hours ago on Leona’s Love Quest:  The ABC’s of Finding Love 

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@Swirlgirl28 That's sad. Yeah it's rough. I have a Native friend that had three kids by two Black men. They are barely in the kids life. She ended up marrying a White man last year. I've seen too many fatherless half Black half Native children to count. And it really makes me mad because these kids need to learn about their Black heritage too and it can be hard for a mixed blood on a reservation, whether you're mixed with White or Black. I don't think Black men understand what they are getting into with Native women. Men in Native culture have a lot of responsibility and if you marry in you're expected to pull your weight too. I think some Black guys can't deal with that. 

5 days, 12 hours ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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@caligirl94117 @AnakaMuthaEarth You can get a DNA test, but no tribe accepts that as proof. It's better to get names of family members and trace where they were from. If you're from the South, the Dawes Roll is a good place to start if you want to find Native American family members. 

5 days, 19 hours ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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@tonyrog @dani-BBW @AnakaMuthaEarth  Also wanted to add there is a professor by the name of Tiya Miles who is married to a Native American man: http://tiyamiles.com/biography/

https://www.facebook.com/TiyaMiles?fref=nf

She's written for the Huffington post about interracial marriage and Black women too! http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tiya-miles/interracial-dating-and-marriage_b_4213066.html

6 days, 6 hours ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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@tonyrog @dani-BBW @AnakaMuthaEarth @keimiasmoon I remember this pic I think the guy is Ojibwe. He looks a bit like my boyfriend who is part Ojibwe too, complete with the straight haired "fro" lol. But yeah there aren't a lot of public couples. I was thinking of starting a blog if all goes well between us. There was one about a Navajo man and a Black woman  but it's not updated anymore: http://zhindian.blogspot.com/ Still a good read though. 

6 days, 7 hours ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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@dani-BBW @AnakaMuthaEarth @keimiasmoon Yes I've seen plenty Native men date Black women. I'd say Native men as a group are interested in Black women. The problem is that a lot of them don't live in areas where there are a lot of Black women to date! Also they tend to get ignored by everyone on online dating sites except for the weird German women and White women who have read too many drug store romance novels. 


Then you have the problem of enrollment. We have high rates of marrying out in general but it seems like in my generation we are all trying to marry back in. Many tribes have blood quantum requirements which makes dating a bit harder. Most of the guys I've dated have been full blood. They don't have to worry about their children not being enrolled because any child they have will at least be 1/2. I imagine a guy who is like 1/4 might be more inclined to look for a fullblood than someone who is mixed. 



There is poverty, alcoholism, abuse as with any impoverished community. But I have to say the difference that I've seen is that these problems are addressed in a structured way. And I really have to give it to Native men because they are out there leading the efforts to combat all these problems at the same time honoring and praising Native women while they are doing it.  And when there is a Native woman doing her thing she gets support.  I can say there is some really good healing going on in Indian country that makes me proud despite all of our problems. I do often wish the Black community was more structured in addressing things :( I usually don't talk about comparing the two groups because it's a touchy subject and people can get offended. 


How are Native American men raised? That's a broad question but respect for women is placed pretty high. You will always have the men who will take easy booty regardless so don't automatically expect they are all princes lol. 

6 days, 7 hours ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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@AnakaMuthaEarth @keimiasmoon Osiyo dohijv! Lol my ex spoke Cherokee. I don't date White but I do get comments about why I don't date within my own tribe. The answer is because I'm related to a good chunk of the men! Then of the remaining I have to select those that align with my values. Coupled with the fact that I live far from my reservation makes it very hard. I understand though.

6 days, 7 hours ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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*Sigh* I think his intentions are good but misguided. I know there are Black men that read the site. To them I would say, yes while we're venting it may seem like a "Crap on a Black men" parade. But most us already now there are good Black men out there. I have great members of my family who are great men including my own dad. I've never believed the stereotypes that all Black men were thugs. I hardly was ever around the thuggish type growing up anyway.  I don't need a Black men to tell me I'm great as much as I need Black men to tell other Black men I'm great. Think of it like this, if I was in a room surrounded by men who were shouting at me and telling me how awful I am, what good would it do me if another man came in, told me that I was a Queen, then turned on his heels and left? That's what these "compliments" feel like, empty. I get the feeling that as a group this younger generation of Black men like Black women, but they don't really love us. Black women have suffered for decades of bad Black men destroying the image of the Black woman for bucks, laugh or whatever while good Black men have sat back and let it happen. That's what hurts. It's good that this poster mentors Black male teens. Part of what needs to be corrected is the harmful pseudo-masculine culture of Black men, but they'd never take that advice from a woman. I see the way it harms young Black men and doesn't allow them to fully express their feelings like love while valorizing harmful emotions like misdirected anger, indifference and physical and emotional violence. I really do hope the OP is planning to come out. There needs to be a movement by men for men. I am done asking for their love. I saw the writing on that wall real early.  


As far as dating I look for values. I want to be married and have children within wedlock. Good Black Men milk the cows for every last drop and only when the milk becomes scarce do they think of buying the cow. (Sorry to use the cow analogy, lol). I don't have time to wait until a man is nearing 45 to decide that he wants to settle down. Other men are marriage minded in their 20s and 30s. That's who I go for. I'm Black and Native American and now I pretty much date Native men. Some of the stuff Black men say towards Black women would never fly in the Native community. 

1 week ago on Could What Ralph Richard Banks Said in His Book Be True Regarding How Swirling Might Help Black Women Marry Black Men?

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@MimZ241 I definitely thought that while the issues are valid the writer was not the right messenger. I saw that "genetic gift" comment too. 

1 week, 3 days ago on Listen Ladies! If You’re Going to Complain About How “Black Men Hate You” While Scoffing at Expanding Your Options…Then You’re Just Begging.

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Holy sh*t. You exceeded the goal in record time. 

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Video: Update on the BB&W Fund Raising Push!

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I say name and shame the people threatening. Also remember YOU HAVE POWER TOO! When you see a threatening comment, hover over the person's name and you will see a little "x" appear in the upper right hand corner. This is an option to hide the comment, but when you click on it, it will give you an option to report the person.


Have you gotten in contact with Facebook? Considering your status as an author and business woman you have a good chance of fighting them. Not saying you're gonna get to talk to Zuckerberg, but Facebook probably doesn't want to lose your business. 

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.

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@Tempaccount Yeah I've already said before I can go to any Native American reservation and see half Black half Native kids with no fathers. One Navajo woman said that to me outright that the Black fathers don't stay. Black men already have a reputation up there. Almost all my Native friends that have mixed Black children don't have the fathers around. Only one does, and he's a an old-school Black man who is a great father. I see way too many mixed Black kids in general to know that the problem is with the men who think they know what they want but they really don't. When the women start to ask them for more committment and to take more responsibility, they bounce. 

2 weeks, 3 days ago on The Iyanla Vanzant Cluster Cuss: We BB&W MUST Keep Discussing the High OOW Rate

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@oekmama I don't think that's much of an excuse. I'm sure he does plenty of interactions by internet. Does he use email? Does he (or his assistants) pay bills online? Etc. The internet is real life in his world unless he's one of those people who live off the grid. 

1 month ago on Is Robert Pattinson a Lame Swirler? Leaves Black Girlfriend to Save Himself From Online Bullies!

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I think he should make a statement soon. Does he have to curse them out, no but a statement of support for FKA to his fans would at least let people know his stance. I think defending and standing up against racism is really important in interracial relationships, and White men have the most social power in this society to address that. Why wouldn't you want to protect the one you love? Sure choose your battles, but this one is fairly easy.

1 month ago on Is Robert Pattinson a Lame Swirler? Leaves Black Girlfriend to Save Himself From Online Bullies!

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@LilaLeslie Lol I asked my my non Black male friends what actions a woman does that stop a man from being a man and they were confused. The conversation was hilarious, one of them was like "Well, like in the bedroom..." haha, I had to cut him off because he totally didn't understand the question. That concept doesn't occur to them, the same way when I have discussions about love and marriage with them they don't start spouting off nonsense about being submissive and cooking and cleaning. 

1 month ago on Three men who say they are “good.” Three types of men black women should stay the hell away from.

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@femmemuscle "Whatever you do on one side of 40 will meet you on the other side of 40.  And whatever you do on one side of 50 will meet you on the other side of 50, and so on. ". <-- Straight up wisdom!

1 month ago on Video: Black Women, Capitalize On Your Unique Assets!

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@The Working Home Keeper @Fae Quince I make sure I tell all the little Black girls in my circle they are beautiful and then I explicitly point out a physical feature that is beautiful (usually hair, because they don't get told it's beautiful enough.) I know I'm going up against a mountain of media that tells them they are not beautiful which is why I don't feel like it's a problem to say it. I never got told I was beautiful and for a long time I believed I was ugly. 

1 month ago on Video: Black Women, Capitalize On Your Unique Assets!

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To be honest that is one of the reasons why I hesitated dating Asian men in the past. I know there are plenty of Asian men who are fine with dating interracially but so often the families disagree. Family is really important to me and I couldn't imagine having a children with a man whose parents want nothing to do with them. I've seen it and it's very sad. I'm glad his mom and dad accept her. 

1 month, 1 week ago on Another Online Dating Success! Yes; They Met on AfroRomance.

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It's spreading to Europe now? Wow.

1 month, 1 week ago on BB&W Continues to Touch the Lives of Black Women Across the Globe…

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@ole'skool Nope. It depends on the state. For non-traffic/non-driving stops a person may refuse to show ID and totally be in their legal rights to do so. In Arizona, I am required to carry ID at all times and show a police officer on request. In California I would not be required to do so. I think what's needed is to revisit the law, because many people are confused about what to do. If police believe that their jobs are easier when they can stop people for ID then they should petition to have the law changed in their state. As it stands now, things are murky and is ripe for abuse of power by cops. 

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Update on Danielle Watts: BB&W Exclusive Interview with Boyfriend, Brian

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@caligirl94117 Yeah mine pays for the plane tickets to visit him too! It's so sweet.

2 months ago on How Yours Truly Played Cupid with New Power Couple, Film Maker Chris Silber and Dr. Misee Harris

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@BeautyIAM @keimiasmoon Makeup! Why didn't anyone tell me to use it earlier?! In my house makeup was only for special occasions. I wasted a good part of my young adult years not looking as fly as I could be lol. I love skirts and dresses now, jewelry makeup etc. I'm glad to see more and more Black women paying attention to those too. Some of these girls are looking so hot I can't compete, it's wonderful to see. 


I agree, Black women are Ferraris but sometimes we treat ourselves like Toyotas. 

2 months ago on UK Girl’s Response to Skinny Pickings for Swirling Across the Pond

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@BeautyIAM At least in my case I've had to spend a good part of my growing years stifling it because the Black men and boys in my neighborhood were so aggressive. I suspect a lot of Black women and girls are growing up in neighborhoods where they have to do the same. Not to mention the unaddressed sexual abuse that goes on. 

2 months ago on UK Girl’s Response to Skinny Pickings for Swirling Across the Pond

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Setting standards early is the best thing that you can do for a young girl. It's not a surefire way but it definitely helps. I knew growing that I could never bring home a guy wearing a white tee and saggy jeans, no matter what the race. No. Frakkin. Way. Heck, it was a struggle for my parents when I was dating a guy that didn't have a college degree. I could also look to my parents' relationship and see what the guy should bring to the table. Be explicit in the good qualities that a man should have. Everyone has their ups and downs in dating, but my struggles were definitely a lot milder than a lot of my peers. I feel sad that a lot of Black girls do not have this guidance. 

2 months ago on Is It Okay to Discourage Your Daughters from Dating Black Men?

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I don't know if it's because I love sci-fi, but I love seeing prosthetics that look like prosthetics. They look cool, though it's probably un-pc to say.

2 months ago on Man Candy Monday: Able Bodied Men

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@jazzyfae45 I had an ex that made similar "jokes". He wanted to get married and I think he thought he could force the deal by getting me pregnant. It made me uncomfortable and I left. Now that I am in my 30s I am starting to see that some men have a biological clock that's ticking loudly too. 

2 months, 1 week ago on Stay Away from Sociopathic Men Who Wish to Corrupt and Shackle You Via Single Motherhood!

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@oekmama Yeah I need more information about that Black female falconer, she sounds awesome!

2 months, 3 weeks ago on As Millennials Support Dating Out, the Black Community ups the “Fetish” Rhetoric

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@_Toni_   I've been following the BWE movement since it first came out and I have seen a very noticeable shift in attitudes in Black women. BWE ideas have no entered the sphere of mainstream Black female thought. It's incredible. Before you'd get a cacophony of "Nothing but a Black man", now you more women are saying "We support them, but they don't support us". It's amazing when I look at the comment section now on some articles. I can't believe how the view has shifted toward BWE. Personally, I thought it'd take a little bit longer to be so prevalent!

3 months, 2 weeks ago on It Started with Just a Few Voices, and Now a Cocophany: The Forces Speaking Up for Black Women Are Being Heard, and Some Folks are Scared

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This is an obvious fake. 

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Illegal Immigrant children issued Air Obamas??

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@nubianinthedesert I'm also in Arizona and I've seen so many BW/WM pairings here. 

4 months ago on QOTW: “Should I Move to More Interracial Relationship-Friendly Pastures?”

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I notice she has waist beads. I read that some African women (I forget which part of Africa) use these to stay thin. Once the waist beads start getting tight it means you need to cut back and lose some weight. 

4 months, 4 weeks ago on Oh. My. Gawd. Lupita N’Yongo and Her Bikini Body. Tips to Get Yours!

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@nomad77  How much do I have to say it: IT'S NOT THE ACTION OF THE BAD ONES IT'S THE SILENCE OF THE GOOD ONES. 


5 months, 3 weeks ago on Before Dr. Dre Sold His Earphones to Apple, He Sold Black Girls Out to Everyone

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I love long hair on a guy, and even better when I get to brush it! My friend/ex  always hands me the comb if I'm around when he's getting ready. :-P

6 months ago on Man Candy Monday: Long Hair, Don’t Care

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She could already make money Christelyn and open up her own Whiteboard animation company. There are already companies that do this and there's software to make it easier. Maybe just invest in some lighting and a good audio recording setup (which you might already have). 

6 months ago on Maxi Me Is Awesome, and Here’s the Proof!

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@nubianinthedesert  I'm in AZ and I see a lot of BW/WM couples around here. Which is understandable because there's just not that large of a Black population here. 

6 months, 2 weeks ago on And the States with the Highest Interracial Marriages Are…

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@LadyHumor  Your dad's list is hilarious. The ONLY guy my parents have approved of is the guy that I dated that was an Assistant Professor. 

7 months ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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@kia  They're rich so they are largely insulated from this type of thing. I don't think they're going to do anything at all. 

7 months ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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@Brenda55 @Aabaakawad  After googling his name I found someone made an account with the same username (Aryan of Valhalla) on the Roosh forum, but hasn't posted yet .

7 months ago on White Feminist Pretending To Be “Concerned” for Asian Women Marrying White Men…Yeah Right!

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