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@Bellatrix79 It would be much easier if one of you called. It sounds like the both of you are really confused about the other's feelings. Texting will do that. Not to mention, texts get lost or delayed and they can live the other person feeling confused.
3 hours, 31 minutes ago on Hot Out of the Oven, Another Off Topic Thread
@DWB The thinking of someone who is abused is different from someone who is not. Of course we on the outside think that she can get a better guy, but what matters is what she thinks. Judging from the way her family reacted, I think there's other issues going on. Her own father has said that he thought Chris Brown was a fine young man for her. This was after he beat her. I mean if your own dad is saying that, yikes! Before that she had not kept in touch with her family. They didn't know where to reach her. I can't go a couple of days without out talking or getting in touch with my family. Her family dynamic makes me think that there are a lot of issues that she's dealing with.
3 hours, 34 minutes ago on Hot Out of the Oven, Another Off Topic Thread
@Toni_M I've always said "g-i-f". I spell it out, though I know it's wrong. Thankfully I've never had to say it out loud to someone. Both "gif" and "jif" sound weird. If I had to choose I'd probaby say "jif" because "gif" sounds too much like "gift".
9 hours, 42 minutes ago on Hot Out of the Oven, Another Off Topic Thread
@Brice Cameron Well I didn't say she experienced no compassion but less. Many times abused do go back to their abusers, it's not uncommon. It's a teachable moment and more compassion should be had. Imagine how messed up in the head you have to be to go straight back to someone who beat you so horribly. It's awful I felt so bad for her.
9 hours, 44 minutes ago on Hot Out of the Oven, Another Off Topic Thread
I thought the Onion article was more damning of Chris Brown than Rihanna though I understand the anger behind it. t I've seen in many places where Rihanna's beating is taken as a joke. One suburban school re-enacted it as a skit (with blackface) for a pep rallly. Contrast this with when Kanye took the microphone from Taylor Swift. Everyone reacted in horror. One celebrity told Kanye on Twitter that it was like he "stepped on a kitten." President Obama called him a jackass. I think as a result of her race and "sexy" persona, Rihanna is seen as someone that doesn't need much compassion or protection.
9 hours, 55 minutes ago on Hot Out of the Oven, Another Off Topic Thread
@Skayi You know I actually was watching a documentary on Darfur where one of the Black African Muslims actually said this. He said only Westerners came by and helped, the Muslim countries gave nothing and started to cry.
10 hours, 6 minutes ago on Hot Out of the Oven, Another Off Topic Thread
@Funmis3 My friend isn't named Kevin, lol. But he says the same thing. It stopped his alcoholism cold turkey. It wasn't even a really hard prison but it was enough to make him not want to go back ever again.
3 days, 11 hours ago on Why Not Give a Guy in Prison a Chance?
@onmywayup Use almond flour and sweetener. It works and is delicious!
3 days, 12 hours ago on Beyond Black and White, The Cupcake
@Law Wanxi @Christelyn @kia That explains sooooo much.
5 days, 9 hours ago on Abercrombie’s CEO Michael Jeffries Created a Public Relations Disaster When He Decided to Diss Fat People | Beyond Black & White
@heyimPearlilikefries Yeah it's kinda weird. Because it assumes that the person marrying interracially believes that a person of their own race is their natural mate and is somehow going against that.
1 week, 1 day ago on What Types of People Marry Interracially?
I guess I can fit into a few of these categories, but I think it's more attributable to the fact that I was a child I was never told that I was supposed to marry someone who was Black. So I never grew up thinking that it was something "wrong" or "weird" to date and marry another race. What I look for in any mate regardless of race is do they share the same family values as I do.
I actually think the next census is going to show a huge jump in interracial marriages for Black women. Didn't it already grow 30% from the last census?
1 week, 1 day ago on What All Those BWE Bloggers Predicted is Finally Coming True… | Beyond Black & White
This is a really great piece! I've always wanted to be a mother since I was a little kid playing with my dollies! I also had an awesome parents including an awesome dad so I decided I wanted the same for my future children. I determine whether they get a good father or not so that's why I decided to wait. If I can't find a good enough man then I simply will not have any kids. Thankfully I have a lot of great men in my life to make me think that it's possible I'll find Mr. Right, haha.
1 week, 4 days ago on A Mother's Day Message To the Non-Mothers
I actually dated someone who went to prison. He went there during his alcoholic days (got into an accident while under the influence) and only spent 6 months in there. By the time I met him he had been out for a while and had stopped drinking. We actually were just friends at first but it turned into something more. He's matured a lot and he's very changed, even in the years since I've known him. Jobs were never a problem for him since most of his family worked in construction and were able to guide him into that career. He's also very smart so he passed the construction exams with no problem.
That said, would I do it again? Hell naw!!! He was in debt paying his restitution and had to get permission from his probation officer to travel out of the state. I spent many times being resentful of him and wishing that part of his life never happened. We're best friends now. I think he's a wonderful human being and would be an awesome husband and father to someone in the future. But yeah, a lot of girls are wary of dating him.
1 week, 4 days ago on Why Not Give a Guy in Prison a Chance?
@Bren82 Many Blacks do foster and adopt, you might not notice it. My sister is adopted, from the Caribbean though. But it does cost money to adopt, and some people might not have the funds to do so.
1 week, 4 days ago on 'Swirling of a Different Kind': Interracial Adoptions...How Do Those REALLY Work Out?
This looks sooo good, but alas, rice is something I can have only on special occasions. :( Hmm, I wonder how they will taste over cauliflower rice?
2 weeks ago on Southern Red Beans and Rice
@tifa1 I think that's part of the point. That a multimillionaire Black guy would say that a White insurance broker is perfect for his daughter instead of some blinged out rapper considering he had no problem peddling this image as an ideal to ther rest of Black people.
2 weeks, 1 day ago on BET Heiress Marries a Rainbeau! Just Goes to Show Rich Folks Want Ratchet For Eveyone Else EXCEPT Their Own.
@DWB I heard a hit dog'll holler.
2 weeks, 2 days ago on BET Heiress Marries a Rainbeau! Just Goes to Show Rich Folks Want Ratchet For Eveyone Else EXCEPT Their Own.
@Ladybug7 @Dandelion100 Hmm, really, I went to HS in the late 90s, and got attention from both Black men and Hispanic. My prom date was Hispanic. :) I wasn't too much interested in boys in high school though.
2 weeks, 3 days ago on What the Cuss?! "Once You Go Brown, You Get The Crown," Says Random Black Dude...
@kia I saw that movie a long time ago, it's a hard movie. I did get to see him do the haka a few times, it was sexy lol. Head to NZ, Maori's don't mind Black people. Or in fact just head to NYC and hit up a Polynesian or a New Zealand event. I love all my Maori friends, so cool and they know how to throw a good party. Having access to so many cultures is one thing I love about NYC.