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@femmemuscle "Whatever you do on one side of 40 will meet you on the other side of 40.  And whatever you do on one side of 50 will meet you on the other side of 50, and so on. ". <-- Straight up wisdom!

4 days, 16 hours ago on Video: Black Women, Capitalize On Your Unique Assets!

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@The Working Home Keeper @Fae Quince I make sure I tell all the little Black girls in my circle they are beautiful and then I explicitly point out a physical feature that is beautiful (usually hair, because they don't get told it's beautiful enough.) I know I'm going up against a mountain of media that tells them they are not beautiful which is why I don't feel like it's a problem to say it. I never got told I was beautiful and for a long time I believed I was ugly. 

4 days, 16 hours ago on Video: Black Women, Capitalize On Your Unique Assets!

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To be honest that is one of the reasons why I hesitated dating Asian men in the past. I know there are plenty of Asian men who are fine with dating interracially but so often the families disagree. Family is really important to me and I couldn't imagine having a children with a man whose parents want nothing to do with them. I've seen it and it's very sad. I'm glad his mom and dad accept her. 

6 days, 18 hours ago on Another Online Dating Success! Yes; They Met on AfroRomance.

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It's spreading to Europe now? Wow.

6 days, 18 hours ago on BB&W Continues to Touch the Lives of Black Women Across the Globe…

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@ole'skool Nope. It depends on the state. For non-traffic/non-driving stops a person may refuse to show ID and totally be in their legal rights to do so. In Arizona, I am required to carry ID at all times and show a police officer on request. In California I would not be required to do so. I think what's needed is to revisit the law, because many people are confused about what to do. If police believe that their jobs are easier when they can stop people for ID then they should petition to have the law changed in their state. As it stands now, things are murky and is ripe for abuse of power by cops. 

2 weeks ago on Update on Danielle Watts: BB&W Exclusive Interview with Boyfriend, Brian

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@caligirl94117 Yeah mine pays for the plane tickets to visit him too! It's so sweet.

1 month ago on How Yours Truly Played Cupid with New Power Couple, Film Maker Chris Silber and Dr. Misee Harris

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@BeautyIAM @keimiasmoon Makeup! Why didn't anyone tell me to use it earlier?! In my house makeup was only for special occasions. I wasted a good part of my young adult years not looking as fly as I could be lol. I love skirts and dresses now, jewelry makeup etc. I'm glad to see more and more Black women paying attention to those too. Some of these girls are looking so hot I can't compete, it's wonderful to see. 


I agree, Black women are Ferraris but sometimes we treat ourselves like Toyotas. 

1 month ago on UK Girl’s Response to Skinny Pickings for Swirling Across the Pond

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@BeautyIAM At least in my case I've had to spend a good part of my growing years stifling it because the Black men and boys in my neighborhood were so aggressive. I suspect a lot of Black women and girls are growing up in neighborhoods where they have to do the same. Not to mention the unaddressed sexual abuse that goes on. 

1 month ago on UK Girl’s Response to Skinny Pickings for Swirling Across the Pond

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Setting standards early is the best thing that you can do for a young girl. It's not a surefire way but it definitely helps. I knew growing that I could never bring home a guy wearing a white tee and saggy jeans, no matter what the race. No. Frakkin. Way. Heck, it was a struggle for my parents when I was dating a guy that didn't have a college degree. I could also look to my parents' relationship and see what the guy should bring to the table. Be explicit in the good qualities that a man should have. Everyone has their ups and downs in dating, but my struggles were definitely a lot milder than a lot of my peers. I feel sad that a lot of Black girls do not have this guidance. 

1 month ago on Is It Okay to Discourage Your Daughters from Dating Black Men?

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I don't know if it's because I love sci-fi, but I love seeing prosthetics that look like prosthetics. They look cool, though it's probably un-pc to say.

1 month ago on Man Candy Monday: Able Bodied Men

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@jazzyfae45 I had an ex that made similar "jokes". He wanted to get married and I think he thought he could force the deal by getting me pregnant. It made me uncomfortable and I left. Now that I am in my 30s I am starting to see that some men have a biological clock that's ticking loudly too. 

1 month, 1 week ago on Stay Away from Sociopathic Men Who Wish to Corrupt and Shackle You Via Single Motherhood!

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@oekmama Yeah I need more information about that Black female falconer, she sounds awesome!

1 month, 2 weeks ago on As Millennials Support Dating Out, the Black Community ups the “Fetish” Rhetoric

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@_Toni_   I've been following the BWE movement since it first came out and I have seen a very noticeable shift in attitudes in Black women. BWE ideas have no entered the sphere of mainstream Black female thought. It's incredible. Before you'd get a cacophony of "Nothing but a Black man", now you more women are saying "We support them, but they don't support us". It's amazing when I look at the comment section now on some articles. I can't believe how the view has shifted toward BWE. Personally, I thought it'd take a little bit longer to be so prevalent!

2 months, 2 weeks ago on It Started with Just a Few Voices, and Now a Cocophany: The Forces Speaking Up for Black Women Are Being Heard, and Some Folks are Scared

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This is an obvious fake. 

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Illegal Immigrant children issued Air Obamas??

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@nubianinthedesert I'm also in Arizona and I've seen so many BW/WM pairings here. 

2 months, 4 weeks ago on QOTW: “Should I Move to More Interracial Relationship-Friendly Pastures?”

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I notice she has waist beads. I read that some African women (I forget which part of Africa) use these to stay thin. Once the waist beads start getting tight it means you need to cut back and lose some weight. 

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Oh. My. Gawd. Lupita N’Yongo and Her Bikini Body. Tips to Get Yours!

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@nomad77  How much do I have to say it: IT'S NOT THE ACTION OF THE BAD ONES IT'S THE SILENCE OF THE GOOD ONES. 


4 months, 2 weeks ago on Before Dr. Dre Sold His Earphones to Apple, He Sold Black Girls Out to Everyone

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I love long hair on a guy, and even better when I get to brush it! My friend/ex  always hands me the comb if I'm around when he's getting ready. :-P

4 months, 4 weeks ago on Man Candy Monday: Long Hair, Don’t Care

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She could already make money Christelyn and open up her own Whiteboard animation company. There are already companies that do this and there's software to make it easier. Maybe just invest in some lighting and a good audio recording setup (which you might already have). 

5 months ago on Maxi Me Is Awesome, and Here’s the Proof!

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@nubianinthedesert  I'm in AZ and I see a lot of BW/WM couples around here. Which is understandable because there's just not that large of a Black population here. 

5 months, 2 weeks ago on And the States with the Highest Interracial Marriages Are…

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@LadyHumor  Your dad's list is hilarious. The ONLY guy my parents have approved of is the guy that I dated that was an Assistant Professor. 

6 months ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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@kia  They're rich so they are largely insulated from this type of thing. I don't think they're going to do anything at all. 

6 months ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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@Brenda55 @Aabaakawad  After googling his name I found someone made an account with the same username (Aryan of Valhalla) on the Roosh forum, but hasn't posted yet .

6 months ago on White Feminist Pretending To Be “Concerned” for Asian Women Marrying White Men…Yeah Right!

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Wow, Asian women are going in on White women in the comments.

6 months ago on White Feminist Pretending To Be “Concerned” for Asian Women Marrying White Men…Yeah Right!

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@Keyasha  They do not like their mothers. They do not like their sisters. Don't know about daughters. But it's clear they have a lot of mommy issues and issues with women in authority.

6 months ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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Roseanne's playing folks like a dollar store guitar. First she tried to get all nice with Black women through Kola Boof now this? Cut her loose. And I'll remember this when it comes for her to announce her run. That quote about Jewish women alone means the end. 

7 months, 1 week ago on Roseanne Barr is Running for President, and She Thinks Siding With Known Black-Woman Haters Will Get Her the Black Vote.

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This question sounds a bit suspicious. This co-parenting nonsense was brought up some time ago on two other popular websites for Black women. The Swedish argument has been brought up over there as well.


#1 If you can't share a space with an adult, don't expect a child to be easier. Children will be all up under you. 


#2 I can't help how sad this is. I understand there are people that are introverts, but to not want or care about being loved enough for a man to want be with you and marry you? 

7 months, 1 week ago on QOTW: “Why Can’t I Just Be a Baby Mama?”

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Any man who takes Return of Kings seriously is a lost cause. Honestly once a guy is in that PUA mindset he's been tainted. Let them deal with the bad advice they get. 

7 months, 2 weeks ago on Listen white guys, you REALLY need to get over your fear of the black man’s penis.

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My boyfriend is a Walking Dead fan and is totally in love with Michonne lol. For the premiere it was a no talking zone. I like the storyline but the show is a bit too gory for me at times. And I think zombies are just totally gross. 

7 months, 3 weeks ago on Michonne…. The Magnificent (Or My Reason to Discuss Walking Dead and Danai Gurira)

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I love her dress!

7 months, 3 weeks ago on Christine and Daryl – Swirling and Marriage Down Under

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@bellechose @dani-BBW To me her facial features are very endearing. Her facial structure is very neotenous. She has a large forehead, large low set eyes, a cute round nose and  small mouth. Her short hair amplifies the baby features as well.  It's no surprised that her beauty melts hearts. 

8 months, 1 week ago on The Media Message: Lupita Nyong’o Is Another Man’s Treasure

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@itsgoodtobeme I love chard better than kale, it has a great flavor!

8 months, 2 weeks ago on Fall In Love with Kale. It Makes Your Hair Grow.

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@robjk Sounds like my boyfriend. He said "Of course they stare, they're thinking 'Man that guy is so lucky to be with her.'" :)

8 months, 3 weeks ago on QOTW: Worried White Guy Frets About Stares

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@smartacus @Brenda55 So lycasin is maltitol? That explains a lot. I call maltitol "Sh*t-it-all", because that's what you'll do when you eat it. 

9 months ago on LMAO, I’m All For Cutting Out the Sugar “Butt”…

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@emmerdale94 Unfortunately for people like me stevia will always be bitter. It cannot taste it as sweet due to genetics. So I'm stuck with the myriad of sugar substitutes. The way I cope is just by eating less sugar overall. 

9 months ago on LMAO, I’m All For Cutting Out the Sugar “Butt”…

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@smartacus It is bullying plain and simple and I wish more Black women would see that. I mean there is some abuser level stuff going on. Telling BW that they're ugly, that no one wants them, that they're bitter, that they're desperate. They are just methods of control, designed to keep a BW in her "place". 

9 months, 2 weeks ago on Is This Blog Making Black Women Look <em>Desperate</em>?

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@Lili2009 WOW, he went straight to the mammy stereotype. 


I kinda wish that the women would think before taking these roles as well. 

9 months, 2 weeks ago on What the Cuss?! More Media-Driven Anti-Black Woman, Anti-Swirl Propaganda by Way of Arsenio Hall.

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@chocolate_fashionista @Jabezz of Neter They don't care about their mothers, sisters, aunties, female cousins etc. They really don't. 

9 months, 2 weeks ago on What the Cuss?! More Media-Driven Anti-Black Woman, Anti-Swirl Propaganda by Way of Arsenio Hall.

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It seems like it's a requirement for any Black male celebrity to dump on Black women in some point in his career. It's getting to the point where I expect they're going to do it sooner or later.

9 months, 2 weeks ago on What the Cuss?! More Media-Driven Anti-Black Woman, Anti-Swirl Propaganda by Way of Arsenio Hall.

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@Jahbezz of Neter Lol, ya'll need to learn this gaslighting ain't gonna work anymore. Jig is up folks. 

9 months, 2 weeks ago on What the Cuss?! More Media-Driven Anti-Black Woman, Anti-Swirl Propaganda by Way of Arsenio Hall.

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I remember the first time I learned that I was supposed to just sit back and wait for a man to send me a message online. I've never done that. It doesn't mean that I'm out asking guys for dates, but saying hello doesn't hurt. I treat it the same offline. Offline I do things to make guys know that I'm friendly like say hi, strike up a conversation etc. Same thing for online. It's online dating, not the club or a bar. Also realize that some of these sites might not be showing you all the same results for eligible people. I've heard friends say that the person who contacted them never showed up in their search results, or showed up at the end of them. Personally, I rarely look at the list of guys that view my profile. I focus on the men I'd like to talk to. 

10 months, 1 week ago on One Social Scientist’s Advice for Black Women Dating Online: Make the First Move.

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DBRs want the mule but they don't like when it kicks. 

10 months, 1 week ago on Rapper Nelly Is Still Blaming The Black Women of Spelman for His Faults, Even After All These Years

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@Brenda55 That's a good point. In the video the women said they later did organize a drive by themselves. Looks like no one was a match. 

10 months, 1 week ago on Rapper Nelly Is Still Blaming The Black Women of Spelman for His Faults, Even After All These Years

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@riri93 I really believe men like Nelly don't like any of the women in their life. Not even their mothers and sisters. I think they might think they love them, but they don't have that deep unconditional love for them. If he did he woulda been on his knees at Spelman. 

10 months, 1 week ago on Rapper Nelly Is Still Blaming The Black Women of Spelman for His Faults, Even After All These Years

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I remember a case in NY where a woman's son was killed by her boyfriend. The man beat the boy because he said the boy was too girly and needed to act more like a man. The boy was 2 years old. 

The Shaniya Davis story broke my heart. Both of those adults were pure evil. 

10 months, 2 weeks ago on “Legion of Doom Mothers,” Lead Their Children Like Lambs to Slaughter.

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Where is the link to the man who spoke out? I didn't see a link to it underneath the video. 

10 months, 2 weeks ago on WTF?! People GLEEFUL Over Our Negative News…Plus a Sobering Acknowledgement.

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