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@New Guest @ladyofmagic1974   Thank you, thank you, thank you.    

You've said it ALL.

8 hours, 23 minutes ago on What Pictures Say About You That You Might Not Like…


@ladyofmagic1974 You have made my points.    

One cannot in this modern era give anything to an employer that would exempt you from being hired.     In the 80's and 90's one could blow off certain employers.    NOT in today's world.


One is judged when applying to, interviewing for, and, possibly being hired for a position.   One must not give anything, for ANY reason, to an employer NOT to hire you.

Blackness walks into the room before you do.   So, when a young person blasts "older people that need to die off" for having judgments about nude and/or inappropriate pictures that would harm ones' ability to be employed ARE SADLY MISTAKEN when background checks are done.

So, thank you, ladyofmagic1974 for making my points directly.

10 hours, 4 minutes ago on What Pictures Say About You That You Might Not Like…


@ladyofmagic1974  Exactly, ladyofmagic1974.

Just last week my employer hired a new person (I also have a small business myself) whom she is trying out, you know, for the 90 day probationary period.   She stated that she saw better qualified individuals for a particular position....and guess what......didn't want them in her business because they had their titties and booty out, straight up.   I was shocked myself when she said our department.

She stated she trolls Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Tumbler along with professional work websites for candidates.   If she's doing this what are colleges doing?   The same thing.   What are your future spouses doing?   The same thing.

This blog site has many controls from its' owner.........the open internet does not.

The open internet is also trolled by the alphabet city of law enforcement, DEA, CIA, NSA, FBI, NYPD, LAPD, Secret Service, er'body, lol, though not funny unfortunately.

So my parting words are this.......if you must take sexy pictures go Andre 3000 on 'em (Outkast) and shake it, shake, shake, shake it like a Polaroid picture.   Instant print out pictures for yourself and significant other and not CVS or Walgreen's either, because they will confiscate said pictures then you really don't know where they end up, word.

1 day, 18 hours ago on What Pictures Say About You That You Might Not Like…


@Sfbta  Don't think so hon'.        These photos will live in infamy.......bottom line,..........they ARE. NOT. TO. BE. POSTED, period.

3 days, 11 hours ago on What Pictures Say About You That You Might Not Like…


Young ladies...........

I know in this modern day that "being sexy" is hot on Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and whatever other social media sites there are out there to show how much one is available.   However, THESE PHOTOS DO NOT DIE in this modern era.   They may fall into a dark corner of the internet but don't die in terms of EMPLOYMENT nor future marriage and family.

Art is one thing, such as the "pigeion pose" DANCER (in how I perceive the picture), but being crude, lewd and rude is another.

It was high school teacher that I'd come across that saw the internet coming........and said to treat it as though it is the PUBLIC SQUARE.     One would NOT go into the middle of your street and expose themselves such as the first sista to the public at large.         Why would you do it here (internet)?

I like being sexy like the next person...........NOT ON THE INTERNET.

EMPLOYERS are looking at YOU, be it Facebook, Tumblr, Twitter and all those other social media sites out there.  

Those of you going into the STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) fields REALLY need to stay off the net other than going to professional work related websites, along with other professions.

That 1st picture is SOOOOO WAAAAAYYYY too much.........NO ONE WILL HIRE YOU.

Think with the BIG HEAD!   ..Smdh!

3 days, 14 hours ago on What Pictures Say About You That You Might Not Like…


@jenny flagg , I feel what you are saying, jenny llagg, and not.    This man, Bill Cosby, has been a comedy legend now for 40, 50, going on, now, 60 years, the father I never had (Americas's Dad).........yet, I feel robbed.    I feel lied to, I feel as though he's a hollow ghost of what I wanted to believe was a better man.    I am sadly mistaken and what I thought of this man has now blown up in my face, which is on me.    I made the sad mistake of believing a celebrity Black man nattered, for once, in my life.   I must take ownership of the fact that this man cared nothing about Black people, just himself, as usual.

I didn't have that luxury of having a father that gave a damn.   I thought, for once, I can see a Black man in a positive light.      The last of the last has now been, yet again, stripped away from me.

Woody Allen, Mia Farrow, the adoptive mother of his current wife STILL has much hatred for her adoptive daughter whom's name doesn't come to mind right now and HIM.    She will hate him until the end of her days, for which I do not blame her.

My respect for, or what little of, Black men, of which I have very little of and is now even lower, has all of now, dissipated.

I have no respect nor have any love anymore for Bill Cosby in spite of and despite his comedic genius.

He will continue to be famous "just not as he once was".

5 days, 11 hours ago on The Official Bill Cosby (Alleged) Rape/Rant Thread…


@Ri74, How you doin?, Lol.      

Yeah, friends gave me some DVD's and we checked out the movie sometime ago.   It's an old black and white (colorized by now) film and is excellent and stands the test of time.   One has to be in the mood for it, no real "action" and the storytelling is good and solid, still.    Though this film is of an "old" era it is still about the media.   Today's world is Twitter, Facebook, Tumbler, etc., this movie was on the fairly "new" media of the newspaper.

What I've stated could apply to Paula Deen, her large food empire destroyed because of  her words about other peoples she and her empire deemed as "less than".    She will continue to be famous "just not as she once was".

As far as Ms. Whitney Houston, she, sadly and unfortunately, did not have the "right" handlers around her as far as I'm concerned and was, even further, a cocaine addict, who after two years of rehab, relapsed into old behaviors.    This woman should have been at the Barbara Streisand, Celine Dion level, if not having, dare I say it, even having surpassed them, a Black woman (who'd of thought?).

I no longer look at "celebrities" in the same light.   These folks are PEOPLE. Just like everyday people with highly lucrative careers.

Such a shame with Bill Cosby, though his words on Black America still stand, his credibility is now lost and, my trust, is now gon'.

I grew up watching Fat Albert, loved it.    Loved the Bill Cosby show to this day, you know, The Huxtables.    Makes me wonder now why Lisa Bonet left the show so abuptly?   It was strange and she had no explanation.     Hmmmm.

Just bein' real with it.

5 days, 15 hours ago on The Official Bill Cosby (Alleged) Rape/Rant Thread…


Late to the party, er'body gon'......LOL.    

In the room by myself, with maybe a cat or a dog, lol, this whole sad and sick madness with Cosby reminds me of a movie I saw sometime ago called A Face In The Crowd with Andy Griffith, Patricia Neal and Water Matthau.   An evil, egotistical, handsome and charismatic Andy Griffith is a salt of the earth everyday country man who through encounters in life becomes a large televangelist whom Patricia Neal falls in love with during his ride up to big fame.    Griffith takes Neal's love for him for granted and marries someone else KNOWING she's in love with him, though it is Walter Matthau as a newspaper publisher who loves Patricia Neal through her love for Griffith.      At the top of Griffith's game Patricia Neal exposes him over the radio with an open mic in his description of his following as dumb monkeys and illiterate ignoramuses and shows him for whom and what he REALLY is while in deep love with him.  

In the end, it is Walter Matthau that ultimately states "he'll still be famous just not as he once was".   

(All while finally expressing his deep love for Patricia Neal whom wasn't checking for him at the time but ends up with).   Never thought I'd see a "bad guy" Andy Griffith (Mayberry RFD, Murlock).   

I am hurt and n deep dismay, that a childhood hero could embarrass, stoop so low, and is now to be identified as a rapist.    

Walter Matthaus' words, from a movie I saw a long time ago, came back ringing in my ears, louder than ever.

5 days, 17 hours ago on The Official Bill Cosby (Alleged) Rape/Rant Thread…


I agree with ALL of you here and Christelyn regarding the stereotyped depictions of Black women on Bravo, VH1, etc.

Good on Color of Change to hold Bravo's feet to the fire regarding negative depictions of Black women and the untold affects to us in the real world. 

I'mma come at y'all a l'il differently in terms of reality t.v.  

Due to my being a small business owner and having a (paycheck) job I noticed my penchant for business reality t.v. such as Shark Tank, The Hungry Investor (with a highly positive and professional Black woman, Chef Tiffany Derry) with John Taffer and John Besh and the show Bar Rescue.   I've gained an immense education and knowledge of how a business is run, why they fail, what's holding a business back (owner and/or employee abuse, non-care), what to invest in, what sells, what doesn't, marketing, etc.    Yeah, yeah, I know, it's reality t.v., but GOOD reality t.v. where I've employed some of the tactics from Shark Tank and Bar Rescue (though I'm in food hospitality not bar hospitality) which do work and have blended said tactics of keeping, retaining, and marketing to customers.

I love Shark Tank with its' billionaire investors, Mark Cuban (owner - Dallas Mavericks = who has his own issues with Black folks, another story for another time), Kevin O'Leary, sold his tech company for near 3B, a White woman, Laurie something, owner of QVC network, Damon Johns, FUBU, another White woman sometimes Barbara somebody, real estate, and a high technology dude Robert Hershevec, think Formula One (race car) technology. The point is to get money for your entrepreneurial business to grow and expand and how to go about doing that.   I've also employed some of their knowledge to my business and guess what?   The knowledge works and can be quickly employed to my business and does work, well..

We all know television is a powerful tool.    I've actually gained a serious education with the above mentioned.  As is anything, or most things anyway, anything in moderation.

Awesome post Christelyn and thank you for everything that you do for Black girls and women (your pictures have been most beautiful, been meaning to say that for a minute, lol).

1 month ago on I’m Taking a Hard Line. Either You Are With Us, Or You Are Against Us.


@NicoleLittle BWAAAAAAAAHHHHAAAAA!   Tell it guuuuuuurrrrrll, TELL  IT!  BWAAAAAHHHHAAA1  OMG, TELL 'EM AGAIN!     The truth has been spoken, omg.  FINALLY!      ROF.........TELL IT, LOL!

1 month, 1 week ago on I’m Beginning to Think that Many Black Folks are Contented in Dysfunction.


Is there a physical address where I can send you a money order that you can provide to my direct email address?   I don't like using credit cards online.   Don't have a whole lot to give you, change is kinda strange right now, lol, but would like to talk with some chedda.   It would be most appreciated to have that info.

I told you, Christelyn, we love you, I love you, and we'll be here for you....later for the naysayers (being most kind right now, don't want to get banned for goin' off on these mentally challenged folks you dealin' with, LOL).

2 months ago on We Broke $5,000 in just THREE Days! Get Your “Troll Tears” Sippy Cup Today!


@darkandlovely @Lady A  i was thinking the same thing, that security detail will, unfortunately, become apart of Ms. Karazin's life.    Saw Oprah speaking regarding the Michael Brown (Ferguson, MI) matter outside a NYC hotel with four guards of security detail in her TMZ interview and and was SERIOUS with the detail;.

Sorry to say that Ms. Karazin, however, you may want to include some type of (security) detail while out and about, which is, highly unfortunate.   However, you are now a HIGH PROFILE woman and may need to go the way of Ms. Winfrey herself with security detail................just a thought, sadly.

2 months ago on Beyond Black & White Fan Page is Under Attack Again. Time to Go to War.


Want to apologize for posting "share" twice.....thought I'd deleted one or the other.......just wanted to say that.

2 months ago on The Death of Beyond Black & White…


Stop worriying about Black men.   They ain't nobody, ain't been nobody for about 60+ years.   They have

and in agreement with you in your video).

Little to no power (especially over us Black women).

Don't protect Black women nor their offspring,

Don't care about their communties,

and  the haters are just mad.   Later for 'em.

The haters are gonna hate, most particularly Black-male identified women and Black men.

Black men literally move out of my way in everyday life because I give off the true notion that they don't know me, don't own me, don't lay down rules for me, nor have me under their their thumb and have little to no respect nor any form of power over me thus something they decided for themselves. thus my reaction to that, thus the "chill" that eminates from me toward them.

It ain't the end girl, we love you, I love you and will support you with the little that I have.

In the words of Frank Sinatra.........I did it my way......(he way you need to go).......they don't like it.....they know what they can do (and I'm being polite)......."let the records show that I took the blows and did it'............

Do your thing.........don't let the B.E.Y.O.T.C.H.E.S bring you down.........

EFF 'EM ALL........"cause I did it my way"'s lonely at the top, always has been.......

WE. LOVE. YOU. CHRISTELYN.    EFF, THEM. HEAUX (don't like calling names however it applies well here)!

WE KNOW WHA'T'S UP!   You. are. changing. the. world.     Thank. You.

2 months, 1 week ago on The Death of Beyond Black & White…


Stop worriying about Black men.   They ain't nobody, ain't been nobody for about 60+ years.   They have;

I agree with you in your video.

Black men have o power (especially over us).

Don't protect Black women,

Don't care about their communties,

Don't care about us, Black women, period.

Your haters are just mad.   Later for 'em.

The haters are gonna hate, most particularly Black-male identified women.

Black men literally move out of my way in everyday life because I give off the true notion that they don't know me, don't own me, don't lay down rules for me, nor have me under their their thumb and have little to no respect for me thus something they decided for themselves. thus my reaction to that.

It ain't the end girl, we love you, I love you and will support you with the little that I have.

In the words of Frank Sinatra.........I did it my way......the way you need to go.......they don't like it.....they know what they do (and I'm being polite).......let the records show that I took the blows and did it............

Do your thing.........don't let the B.E.Y.O.T.C.H.E.S bring you down.........

EFF 'EM ALL........"cause I did it my way"'s lonely at the top.......


2 months, 1 week ago on The Death of Beyond Black & White…


@simplylois, Because, frankly, these everyday Black women are NOT "the Beyonce's, Rihanna's, Paula Patton's or even Halle Berry's" type lookin' women......they are everyday dark hued mulin' women........anything for a "brutha"......even a deceased one.  

I doubt very seriously that ANY Black male celebrity would help any of these'd be shocking if it did happen, to me anyway.  Through protesting for a man that would not give any of the women in the above photo the time of day they have hurt their future career prospects and will incur thousands of dollars in fines and fees and have what to show in the end......DEBT.

Will a brutha be there in the end with financials to help any of these ladies?   Highly unlikely; unless a parent or another woman - mother/grandmother - is there to help her out, which, probably neither can probably afford as Brenda55 already pointed out.

I like what Christelyn stated about them......they are drones.    Will do everything for everyone else with little to no reciprocation, just the "yeah, the sistas are holdin' down" meme.

Maybe, just maybe, three of the six ladies I can see in the photo wake up and smell the DEBT they've incurred for themselves and their families all for a man who would not have done the same for them.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on A Picture Says 1000 Words…


@pioneervalleywoman Examined the photo further, got it.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on A Picture Says 1000 Words…


I agree with all of you here.    

A sad photo     Bail, jail and no mail for a male, Michael Brown, that wouldn't have given any of these ladies the time of day let alone protest for while alive.

They and other Black women such as they will be left behind.

Will a "brutha:" come pay any part of your (most likely non-refunable) bond?

Doubt it.

Will a "brutha" be there when you're sentenced to days or months in lock up and give you commissary while there?

Doubt it.

Will a "brutha" be there when you're handed down fees to pay for your jail time and/or possible community service?

Doubt it.

Wll a "brutha" be there to make up for a possible job/wage loss during you're time in lock up?

Doubt it.

Will a "brutha" support childcare fees to the family member your kids are left with while in lock up?

Doubt it.

I can go on you know.

These ladies will be left behind in the bigger scheme of the many things going on in the world today.

Leave 'em.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on A Picture Says 1000 Words…


3, 14, 33, 41, I think, LOL  I like Enrique Iglesius sittin' on the bed waitin' for me, lol.    Love Robert Downey in laughter, very handsome and sexy.   Love Gerard, can't remember his last name at the moment, the beauty is wiping my memory out, lol.

The Rock, Dwayne Johnson, simply beautiful, "Can ya smell what The Rock is cookin?"     Oh, yes, sweeheart, I can.and want you to cook for me nekkid!

Ooooooooh, chiiiiiiiiiile, there's some beautiful men up in here........lucky my boyfriend and I enjoyed our day off.....with all this beauty goin'  on I may have to wake him up again...LOL.

2 months, 4 weeks ago on MAN CANDY MONDAY: 50 Shades of Bae’


@bellechose @LacretiaBranch   "let's stop dancing around this, shall we? there is NOTHING bw can do to reverse the damage. leave now or die trying to save people who don't want to be saved are bw's two options."


I've left the "Black Community" 30 years ago, never to return and infinitely the better for having done so.  

You younger Black women are finding out what I've learned loooooooooooong ago.    Black men want nothing to doi with Black women other than to use Black women as their mammies / handmaidens, "bed wenches", and nowadays, ATM's.     THEY. DON'T. WANT. US.   (particularly us dark hued Black women).   Black men have made themselves exceptionally clear,,,,,,we don't have the long pretty White girl hair nor the White or Latina or Asian skin tone thus we, Black women, are to be used, abused and thrown into the refuse.

I feel about them the way they feel about us.    I want nothing more to do Black men, including relatives, for most part, as well.    

As to Ray Rice...........he epitomizes what turns me off about Black men.    Know, in fact, he'd NEVER, and I mean NEVER, do what he did to a White or non-Black woman, STRAIGHT UP!

He lost his job due to HIS behavior, albeit "late".    I suspect his now wife is under some type of duress, threatened.

I've come to the conclusion to leave Black males alone altogether.   They now will fight their own battles.    

I do not support Black males in any way, shape, form or fashion any longer.

They will have to save themselves.   I will not fight for people (Black men) that hate me (Black Women).

3 months ago on Black Militants Call ESPN Journalist, Jemele Hill “Race Traitor”; “Bed Wench” for Calling Out Ray Rice Disparity


@DWB. BWAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!,   Omg, omg, omg,   Sooooooooo true, omg.   LOL, LOL!     That's funny, though NOT funny!   (Omg, omg, lol).

3 months, 1 week ago on Celebrity Interracial Couple, Daniele Watts and Partner Detained by L.A. Police Who Mistook Her for Hoe and Her “John”


(Congratulation, Serena Williams, the dopest, tha baddest, the biggest to ever the play the game of tennis- - her 18th championship win at the U.S. Open - tied with Martina Navaratolova and Chris Everett.........the baddest Black woman in the game of tennis) and history making..........Bad (Ass) Black Women.........that's what's up!))

Total purse.......with bonuses..........4 Million.

YEAAAAAAAAHHHHH, BOYYYYYYEEEE!,    Lol, lol, lol, lol, lol.

3 months, 1 week ago on TBT: Lady Sings the Blues


The baddest Black woman, EVA.   Ain't nobody got more SWAGGA then this woman here.   Give Ms. Diana Ross her credit where it's due.

She comes from the projects of Detroit, Michigan.   Came from nothin' the biggest pop figure EVER in life.

We (Black women) ALL, and I mean ALL OF US,  owe this woman ALL of our debt.

The dopest, the biggest, the baddest woman I've ever laid laid eyes on.

Hats off this woman.................THE BADDEST EVER..........


3 months, 1 week ago on TBT: Lady Sings the Blues


@tracyreneejones, So, the point is to LIVE.   I, as a Black woman, choose to, at times, to live outside of my "norm", step outside of the "Black Box".   I'm a human, a woman, and Black, seriously, afterward.   I've met and know of some Black women that say "I won't do......(X), "i don't do.......(X)"",  "I won't try......(X)".      "Black people don't, won't, are not expected to do......(X)" what I face from my Black women friends in the real world offline.   The Black women I know and am friends with offline tell me this all the time.    And, I'm like, "Why Not try (X)".

Example:   White water river rafting.   Kids LOVE this stuff.....the water splashing, going down river in a raft, with a guide in the raft along with you, fresh air, fresh water, being loud with kids screaming with joy, a great lunch as part of the experience (PB&J, turkey, cheese, bread, soft drinks,.....back onto raft and heading down river with life jackets on, paddle oars, splashing water and rapids.....(we're talkin' beginner here....not experienced rafters with Niagra Falls type rapids (lol).     Obviously, this is just one example.      And, there's a strong possibility of meeting your future husband on an outing such as this, which the Black women I know and haw encountered tend to easily blow off.

It would behoove some Black women to open their minds to brand new experiences outside of their comfort zones.   Your mind changes and, thusly, ones' life does so as well for and to the positive.

That's just one example of many.

So, in meeting the men I've talked about, it brought new prospective in how I thought a man "should be".

The fellas I talked about, I didn't see their chairs, but them themselves.

I've grown and expanded into the woman I've always wanted to be, which takes effort, and am now reaping the benefits of living "a life worth living".

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Man Candy Monday: Able Bodied Men


@tracyreneejones @DeepWater Well, Thank you, TRJ, lol.  Will have further response in regard to your statement later today sometime.

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Man Candy Monday: Able Bodied Men


Mmmmmm, hmmmmmmm....the 1st guy and the last guy with his doggy friend and American flag draped over his shoulder are damn near edible, lol.      Last fella is packin' too, lol.

I've dated two different men in "chairs".......and let me tell ya.....they both (in different years) twisted me up like pretzel in their chairs, LOL.   Everything functioned too.     Generally, the assumption is that folk with disabilities cannot be sexual, that is SO not the case.   Both men taught me all kinds of new tricks, lol.   Actually they were better in areas than "able-bodied" men and far more attentive to a womans' needs.

Was gettin' ready to cross against the red light in SF when I heard "I wouldn't do that if I were you" (with that deep mans' voice).......I turned to see the deep blues and shock of blonde of a fella in a chair with a beautiful leather (and ironically) American flag jacket on.    He was foine, lol.    It all began there for about a year until the fool started stalkin' me and had to ultimately move to a different apartment, lol.  (Funny now, wasn't then).

Dude number two was a good friend until some drinks entered the picture and intimacy developed.   We're still friends though we've all moved on.......(he could play "Twister" in the chair,very well, LOL)

So, yes, ladies keep that mind'll be amaaaaaaaazed what (some of) these men can do........yum, yum, yummy, LOL.

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Man Candy Monday: Able Bodied Men


" Oh, no, sweetheart, I don't think so" is what the above picture iterates........we can agree to disagree.     We all will not necessarily get along, however we must as man and woman try and agree with our differences.

Homegirl is lettin' him know.........I ain't fallin' for your mess and drama, kiss it goodbye, however, you betta bring it (your point) otherwise,  your point apart will be torn it.    

That's what's up.

3 months, 3 weeks ago on How to Talk to Your Partner About Racially-Charged Issues


@tonyrog @Leille Chiiiiiiiiilllllle, YEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSS (as water bursts out my

4 months ago on Man Candy Monday: Arabesque, Allongé! The Beauty of Ballet


So after having ran across Mr. Williams during my first encounter with him around '94/'95 (lived in Oakland but worked in SF during those years), we passed each other in our travels again at SF Library again around 2000, this time on other side of the block, again, while parking my bike at the library, (I've always appreciated good bikes, especially in SF where you can take bikes on Muni (public transit and get where you're going quickly with the bike) and stated "Didn't I run into you before and I said think so "good seeing you" he'd said (shock, lil' ole Black me?, lol)........until, again....stepping back a little bit.......and this time I got it out my mouth....."You're Robin Williams"......."All year" he replied, lol, I doubled over laughing, and yes, the man was quite handsome in person.    However, we were all goin' where we had to go and he'd quickly, when I'd finished locking up the (now different) bike, went on to tell me what this bike could do, where stuff was made, and how to work the gearing on bike while going up and down SF hills - which are major.   With that, he'd said simply enjoy your bike and have a great day and was off.   I stood in complete shock for, maybe, a minute or two.  Shocking to meet someone of that stature without their "peoples" (entourage) around them.   He was totally by himself.   He was still living in San Francisco at that time (died in his Tiburon home in Marin County across the Bay from San Francisco).     I won't forget it (like having met Whoopie Goldberg - a compadre of Mr. Williams - in Oakland while she was shooting "Made In America").    Bizarre, I know.   True, yes, lol.

(Was on the move with the food truck and serving customers at the same time, lol, while gettin' my hurt feelings down on this particular thread.    That was some multi-taskin' for your ass right there, LOL.    I'm one of the New New Black Women of 2014, lol, lol, lol, omg).

Anyway, I'm hurt and sad and will continue on, what a great loss for us all.

Nanu, Nanu. to my "inner child" was good having you come across my travels.

Rest In Love, Mr. Williams...  You will be sorely and terribly missed.

4 months ago on Open Thread: Share Your Favorite Robin Williams Moments



Chiiiiiiilllle, put the pipe down, put it down, Christelyn, lol, omg..

Too funny......needed the laugh, badly.

May want to go into comedy or some type of acting.......fuuuuuuuunnnnny!

4 months ago on Video: Sh$t Black People Say to Black Women to Keep Them Stuck in the Matrix


Still busy but have a few moments.

Though not funny, a neighbor, maybe about 5 to 7 houses away somebody is playing "My Heart Will Go On" (the movie "Titanic") by Celine Dion (whom I know little about other than this song and her being Canadian)......and playing it many times since the death of Mr. Williams.......a great song......evidently someone is feeling his death (along with the rest of us) immensely (lol, though extremely sad).

I've no more to say other than I'm extremely disappointed and hurt by Mr. Williams' death.....also the manner of his hanging.    As a Black woman the noose is an immediate threat to African-American for him to take his life in this manner is most distasteful, though, obviously, as a White male.

Anyways, (yeah, I know, bad syntax)  I'm terribly hurt and saddened by my childhood "hero".  I loved Mork & Mindy.   He was the funniest thing I'd ever seen and I'm terribly disappointed at this loss.

Sorry that I'm still busy (lol), and want to continue to comment further however, my life is calling, and still have more say and will holla at y'all soon.


Met him at SF Library (many things there e-everything, not just "books"...).   Parked my bike, and now, unbeknownst to me then, he was a SERIOUS bike enthusiast and that's why he began talking to me.   Was parking bike in like '94 or '95 and all I heard was "cool bike" (thought it was some fool hittin' on me, but was this dude in a hoodie and fairly expensive bike gear and stated "cool bike", I looked up and stood ram-rod straight recognizing who he was and his immediate reaction was "get over it" and proceeded to tell me what my bike could do, lol, no lie.......(will go further later.....).

I'm torn with all the "star" death in that, imo, these folk have everything.....and, at the same time, people are people are people are people......we all have issues.......but damn......why?    Why this way?   Why not therapy?    

Anyways, gotta go, still busy, gotta business to attend to, holla at y'all y'all.

4 months ago on Open Thread: Share Your Favorite Robin Williams Moments


@tracyreneejones @zipporah   I'm good with the death that will come trj, however, I want it to be in peace, not in a car, train, or plain wreck or some bad murder......I want to to die with my friends and family at my bedside with a good, solid, great comforter, in a fabulous robe or some type of comfies, in a fabulous home, with a "j" in my mouth, that's the bottom line......don't want to die horribly.........just fabulously........the way I deserve my mind anyway.............

......maybe a "shot" too.or few.....BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

4 months, 1 week ago on Open Thread: Share Your Favorite Robin Williams Moments


@Kaiju_Bleu  I sat down cried myself, I'm truly hurt by this mans' death, my child and young adulthood died with him.....

4 months, 1 week ago on Open Thread: Share Your Favorite Robin Williams Moments


So upset at this (great) mans' demise.

I'm busy at this moment, however I will comment further when I get the time.

Sad, hurts me.   I met him twice.  Both times at SF Library, by himself, no entourage.

He was awesome, what a sad loss to us all.   The man was gifted. 

(so sad after the loss of now, Lauren Becall a great actor (actress)......and, previous.......the great Phillip Seymore Hoffman).

4 months, 1 week ago on Open Thread: Share Your Favorite Robin Williams Moments


@Swirlgirl28 You beat me to the punch, I was gonna say, it's kinda like "Sweet Brown", some lady caught on YouTube regarding some matter, a crime I think, and stated "Who Got Time For That".........BWAHAHAHAHA!

4 months, 1 week ago on Blackistani Light Skinned Privilege: Aren’t You Glad You’re Free of It?


I also want to say that I agree with Nikki J in that both ladies are beautiful in the poster but only one is valued.

4 months, 1 week ago on Blackistani Light Skinned Privilege: Aren’t You Glad You’re Free of It?


The term "Black and Ugly" come from Black men.   I've never been called this from light or dark hued Black women, except a now dead damn-near White Black aunt who didn't want my Blackness to rub off on my cousins.

The only thing I will add is that I'm done with what Christelyn calls "the ferals"

Black men have, in my opinion, have spread the ultimate hate toward dark-hued Black women around the world through music, media and the streets.

Kind of goes back to the Gloria Steinem (actually Inna Dunn) saying "women need men like a fish needs a bicycle".

All the nasty terms "chickenhead", "skeezer", "heaux" "masculine", "THOT", are all terms referred to dark-hued Black women all coined by Black men.

Black men and Black male identified women are destroying "Black People" with their mean and disgusting hate toward self.

"Black and Ugly" was/is coined by Black men toward dark-hued Black women.

Speaking for myself, as a Black woman I have parted with Black men and most Black male relatives with the above prevailing mindset.

I stated in another subject "The Blatant Rejection of Traditional Looking Black Women" on this site that I've left Black men behind and that my life is infinitely the better for it.

The man I'm with for six years, this very morning, stated he loves me and that I'm beautiful.    I know for a fact that a Black man would never tell me that, not even old Black boyfriends.

Again, I've parted from Black men and my life is soooooooooooooooooo much better for it.

I care about y'all as humans, but I will not have Black men in my life.    

Y'all have chosen to hate us and, therefore, I have no use for you (useless).

4 months, 1 week ago on Blackistani Light Skinned Privilege: Aren’t You Glad You’re Free of It?


So......the mental illness shows itself, lol.

Words such as that of the above Black male are common among Black men here in the U.S.   I've traveled quite a bit in this country and the refrain "don't want dark-skinned women" remains the same in most regions I've been to.

Been hearing the above words for 30+ years now, from relatives as well.

I've left Black men behind.   My life is infinitely the better for having done so.

The man I've been with for six years now (Irish) has just got me a car (not off the showroom floor, but new to me and not a hoopty either, LOL), paid my bills this month, all without asking.   I have my food truck and have a job.  I know for a fact ain't no "brutha" I ever met would ever do that for a Black woman, not the ones I knew and know whom were/are with Black men, they always had/have to beg for diaper or gas money, let alone, other major bills, heyall to nawl.

Done with Black men and their serious cases of mental challenges and illnesses.

Black Men = Useless.

4 months, 1 week ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.


Hey now.   The above is a sad telling of how little Black lives matter.   Most particularly Black women's lives in the larger "missing" picture.

I agree with SweetGardenia when she states "I suspect that many of these young women could be missing because of the men who played a romantic role in their lives.  They are usually looked at first as a person of interest."   I think this is ONE truth.

However, Anthony Sowell of Cleveland, OH, where 11 women, all Black, were found dead in and around his home, and a copycat Michael Madison I believe his name is also of Cleveland, OH, whom's home also had 4 women, all Black, dead in and around his home stated themselves they preyed upon women without "perfect" lives..........i.e. looking for love, drugs, alcohol, and and/or shelter.

This is not to say that this is what happened to all 64,000 Black women missing.   They are missing, unfortunately.

In the Black Largesse our lives mean little........also some people do know what happened to some of these women but are living the "no snitching" credo that Black Thug Life support.    Not cooperating with authorities as to what may have happened or has been done to some of these women.

In Black Life "this is White folks's stuff"......"this doesn't happen to us".      This is what serial killers DEPEND ON.   They know that Black womens' lives mean little at this time.........until we change the narrative.

I know its easier said.......however,

Do not talk to strangers (I'm talkin' total strangers).

Do not take rides with just "acquaintances"....they are just that.

Be aware of whom you hangin' with.

Watch your surroundings.

Be wary of whom is in your home........the cable guy, "the Geek Squad", contractors, etc.

Make sure someone else knows the above is coming to your home and/or have another trusted person with you upon their arrival.

Hopefully, some of these women will be found.......some will not.

Use your intelligence ladies......not that that means all that much when somethin' weird is going down.....get to the police, ASAP, if you can.    Use that cell sista used it while kidnapped in trunk of a car and got herself does and can happen.

Yet again, we, Black women, have to do it ourselves.......that's the bottom line.

4 months, 2 weeks ago on Where Did 64,000 Black Women and Girls Go?


@Love_Kiddo How ya doiin' (in my New Jersey Mafia voice, big LOL', Love_Kiddo?    Welcome.

Just know, it will be on and poppin' at don't always agree with er-body.....that's how it be.     We, at least me, as Black women share varied experiences and developmental processes on this site.   We don't always agree, however, we do "speak to the choir" in our experience as Black women.

So, welcome to you.   This site has changed my life.   I hope it does the same for you.

Again, WELCOME (to the "pit".........BIG LAUGH OUT LOUD!).

Welcome to YOU!

4 months, 3 weeks ago on Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’


@Justme65.   Oh, yes, he is the real deal and those whom lived to now from that era still want him gon'.  He gave up all dirty cops he knew of and sent them down in flames thus Serpico's name is still verboten among NYPD, even, from my understanding, to this very day.

4 months, 3 weeks ago on Gotta Say Something Because This is Inexcusable: Eric Gardner Didn’t Have to Die for 50 Cents.


Frank Serpico......still alive.......gave up NYPD cops in the '70s over their corruption and evil toward the residents of NYC.

There are those cops whom are now NYPD brass that still want him and his name dead and buried.

I was a child, though I do remember it being a big deal, when Serpico faced the then Mayor John Lindsey's Knapp Commission regarding said corruption and gave 'em up, names, ranks, and metaphorically kicked ass.

I remember Amadou Dialo being shot 41 times in the vestibule of his apartment building when he'd offered up a cell phone that was assumed to be a gun.

I also remember Abner Louima whom was raped by NYPD with a broomstick handle because he didn't "bow down" to them.

(so sad what happened to man in the video......losing his life over some 50 cent cigarettes.....word?)

4 months, 3 weeks ago on Gotta Say Something Because This is Inexcusable: Eric Gardner Didn’t Have to Die for 50 Cents.


@VadimvandenDonk, I shall and thank you, you do the same.

5 months ago on Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’


@VadimvandenDonk @Kaiju_Bleu  I don't speak to the majority, just to the reality, of how Black men, in my experience with them, are.

Never kind, never "gentlemenly", never sweet, never just "interested".......always dirty......never kind........"Black women are always up to something"........are the experience I've always had Black males.     They are rarely sweet in a genuine way......always "You're a bitch in not speaking to me in the way I desire" from Black men.     Never kind......never. "Hey, how you doin, how is your day?"     Always "Hey mama, why you can't holla a brutha"..............BIG TURNOFF.

So when I used the term "share".......I look at that with serious skepticism.....and that is my right..........don't trust Black men in any way, shape, form or fashion because of past encounters with them........which are NEVER sweet.........always vile, dirty......and......disgusting.

So your "share" is dripping, from my point view, with heavy sarcasm, skepticism, and suspicion.     Don't trust Black men with mighty reason whether you dig it or not.

5 months ago on Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’


@sparel @kia Let 'em know, Kia.    If you don't know, now you know.

5 months ago on Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’


@VadimvandenDonk @Kaiju_Bleu, Lady A:

I've read your "share".

I will make this plain.    Black men have clear and present hatred toward Black women.

The individual that wrote the letter to Ms. Karazin is now finding out the very real "reality" that Black men, at least those I've encountered as a Black woman, and statements I've listened to by Black men, "high profile" or not, continue to tell us dark-hued Black women that they don't want us.    They shout it from the mountain tops "we only want, light, White, or anyone else but you".......That is Black men for you.

Sugarcoat you will NOT get from me.

Black men WILL not give protection to Black women, overall (Tom Joyner for witness Jeantel in GZ trial is one of rarity).

Black men will not stand up in majority Black communities and stop the killings, rapes, and denigration of Black women on THE DAILY.

Black men kill each other like dogs in the street, go to prison in unbelievable numbers, and expect us Black women to continue to support their sorry asses with our time and MONEY, (I ain't yo' Mammy).

Black men such as Kevin Hart, Dr. Dre, D.L, Hughly (following up Don Imus' calling the Rutgers College women "nappy headed hoes" on Jay Leno), and others continue to call us names and state they'd never date anyone that look anything remotely like "us".

Black men have expressed this now over the last 60+ years by not marrying Black women, by leaving their families for "something better"......ask Lauyn Hill about it......the woman has 5 (or six, not sure) children with a Bob Marley son.....and the man, damn near out of the blue "dumped" her and married some Brazilian model within a year of meeting the woman.

I've heard Black men personally state to my face "you're cute - for a dark girl" you form your face to even say something imbisillic such as that?

This woman is inquiring as to what she is now finding out to be the truth.

Black men have lost their manhood.    Few, if any, are MEN.

Black men have shirked their responsibilities to their communities, to their "families", to their whole of ownership of being Black men.

There are the few, Bill Cosby, being one.     The man called Black America out on its' bs and Black folk couldn't handle the truth when he stated "stop naming your children names you can't pronounce, stop speaking Ebonic, pull your pants up and look like a young man so you can get a job, stop going to prison".........the man stated this and Black folk saw it as an affront to them when, in fact, he was stating THE TRUTH.

Black men throw us under the bus daily........where do you think the names "chickenhead", "skeezer", "heaux", and nowadays THOT (them "heaux" over there) come ain't Black women, so where those names come from?    It shole ain't White or other men?     ThIose names come from Black men.

This woman is finding out what I've now come to understand over the last 30 odd years, Black men don't want us.   They say it in various ways, not marrying us, having multiple children without the legal marriage that offers her and offspring legal protections, having children with other women that the wife may know, not supporting any of them and not just use her for a baby-pumping machine, hand-maiden and ATM........I mean, I can go on, and on, and on, and on, and on,..........

You won't save yourselves, let alone, Black communities going downhill, you won't stand up for Black women, but y'all will sell us down the road, for your Ferragamo belts, your "gold" pieces, and your "boys".........You'll stand ANYONE but us.

Black men have thrown their families away, never to call the family, or any type of life sustaining help or any type of love..........this I can attest to.

So, I wish this woman good luck in finding a "new type" of mate.   Someone who will offer her genuine love and care and who wants her and wants to be with her, and she, he..........and not some damned loser.

5 months ago on Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’