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@ScorpioEnigma09 @LaShondaMatlock Good points. which is why they will eventually come around. Numbers will force them to. A lot of the lack of interracial dating of Northern Asian men was due to insularity. Now that Asia is a global economic force, old ties and traditions will become modified.
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@Milla21 "Oppressed people have a way of returning the favor"
Now that is the funniest, wittiest line I've heard since "Get out of "Blackistan", LOL!!
@Kenna: Awesome observation. And throughout the smaller Caribbean islands, citizenship is being sold by politicians who obviously have no forethought about the future of the country.
@BreannaNouveaux Mean what you say, but don't be mean when you say it. A bit of patience and reticence would go a long way to bridge the generational gap.
@Taiyl00 @awaywego2626 LOL, I loved Bruce Lee also; and, Chow Yun Fat could get it!
I agree with you wholeheartedly, but, I was just saying that with an increase in fatherlessness, they are vulnerable because they don't understand that they are precious to Daddy. Also, his teammates aren't going to call him out, they don't know it's wrong, they probably do the same thing, which is disgusting. I'm gonna let 'em know though -- the power of the pen.
Yes, there have always been predators and always silence from our community, with the church being one of the most dangerous places to be for a little girl (and little boy).
2 weeks ago on Objectifying Our Girls…Thank the Gods Malia Has Body Guards.
@Selmix Go str8t to the source, I am. He used his position as a football player, I am contacting the team.
Not good for "the brand", ya know what I mean
@Sfbta Thanx for taking that one. I usually don't respond in a knee-jerk fashion to I hate Al and Jesse.
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All I will say about class warfare is: there is a class warfare going on and Cosby and his ilk are very much a part of it.
There was a quote on here, I forget which discussion about people profiting from oppression. Not necessarily monetary profit, but by imposing their demons on others.
How could he get away with it? Just my musings: Industry protects industry. He was a player in the industry. The women had as they said back then, "reputations". Many women were ready to "play for pay".
Sexual harassment vs. pedophilia, which is worse? Both are awful, but I think pedophilia. There were things going on in that industry that was worse and Cosby knew that about the industry. Mutually Assured Destruction if they blew the whistle on him.
Industry protects industry.
You look radiant.Beautiful eye shadow and makeup you are
wearing and very good advice!
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@janet14 You know I think something is afoot. I cannot call it. But I feel that Black folks are taken for granted by the Democratic Party. I don't think there is much of a difference with the Republicans, but I think the Republicans are no longer as cohesive as they used to be. We will see, but I do feel a time of reckoning will be upon the entire nation and it will be a good idea to have "our house in order."
@SirLoinDeBeef No, just what I have seen in my neighborhood which is why I wrote corrupt cops, not just cops. There is a lot of undercover madness in the BC. Also, never presented it as fact, just as "my take" which was me offering a hunch which can be "taken" or "left." No harm no foul.
Good Luck and Best that Love has to offer to you.
If only someone had told me 25 years ago what "rescuing" actually was and that it was not a leading or a great role to be in.
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@DWB @Ri74 Will do!!
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Prosecutors can "indict a ham sandwich" if they want to. It is their show. Interesting how the man who filmed the abuse was indicted by a grand jury on a frameup.
Now maybe the SI Prosecutor did a good job and the SI residents were not indicting a white cop for contributing to the death of a black man. It is that kind of borough:
Please read that article.
@Ri74 Thanx for the advice, esp. number 3, I didn't think of that and I really cannot waste anything right now.. I use to make beans all the time and have a hambone in the freezer. Maybe i will do that this weekend, LOL.
I am actually grateful for this time to my parents for busting their a$$es to show me this is not the way and it will be temporary.. It has also made me less lofty and rooted in reality. I am more aware than anytime in my life. I can only "rescue" myself right now. I guess God knows how to deliver a wake up call.
@BWC Unless of course, you are not breaking any law or disobeying the police or resisting in any way. To watch the video and assume that Eric Garner was disobeying or becoming combative with the police is to be in agreement with martial law. Police also have an obligation to be in compliance with constitutional law.
I will be writing to the PR Dept. of this POS's football team. It is the only way to stop this BS. Had lots of sexual harassment as a young girl and I will be standing up to stop this because the issue really is, "What about our daughters"?
Our daughters are left vulnerable by the fatherlessness in the BC. How will they know this is wrong if we don't say anything. A
backhand in the form of a backlash is in order.
2 weeks, 1 day ago on Objectifying Our Girls…Thank the Gods Malia Has Body Guards.
@oneboobee It pains me what we go through as young black girls. Black Lives Matter should be amended to say, Black Girls' Lives Matter Too!
@PJDeanwriter I am glad you were saved from that punk and sad at the same time that a child had to have that presence of mind like a commando.
@BWC LOL, so true.
@ole'skool Hi! Totally I believe it also, because like you, we were told to have babies for the "revolution". We wuz lied to. However, what we weren't told was that the "revolution" was for BM, not BW and black children. Baby mamas became acceptable because the revolution was a mass exodus from the BC/Black Family for BM.
Black men have been trendsetting for 40 and 50 years. When did they decide not to get married to the mothers of their children? When did they decide that their futures were not to include Black Women? When did they decide that their survival was not mutually dependent upon the Black Community? When did they decide that it was okay to publicly declare BW as bitches, hoes, etc.?
I really believe in justice for all. Life ain't fair, but the dispensation of justice should be immutable. We are not seeing that with police excessive force. We are also not seeing it with the presence (or lack of it) of BM in the community and family.
I just pointed out the change in demographics because we only have individual control of our image as BW, not a "network" control of our image, so, we should just know that when we are used as the "face of public benefits", we can say, uhm, that picture needs more global diversity.
"All of the southside of Chicago is NOT a ghetto or crime-ridde, but if you think the parts that are are being kept safe by cops, you really have NO clue what's going on (and you probably shouldn't speak on it)."
Then please tell us. I would like to know. I've learned a lot from this site in the short time I've been here. And I have no prejudice about Chicago, I just wanted to know if the heroin trade is driving the crime rate higher in some areas and is that terrible WMD making a comeback into the BC or is it being sold from the BC to the suburbs?
@Ri74 Some Black folks wanted to claim Pres. Obama as their own. I was not one of them, but I expected that he would rectify some things that negatively affected black people. State/municipal police forces receive federal money, esp. in these times of terrorism. Perhaps the number of brutality complaints, tied to federal money?
I realize that he couldn't do things without the Congress, but he was way to appeasing to the Republicans. He could have gotten the single payer option, but then what about his corporate healthcare sponsors? The Affordable Care Act is really horrendous. Why? too many compromises with the Republicans. I don't know why Pres. Obama even claimed that. Search and seizure is constitutional law. Major fail on Eric Holder's part, esp. since it was a case that involved the NJ State Storm Troopers and Eric Holder lived in NJ. Amnesty, well, that is his choice, but he might want to consider doing the same for people who got caught up in federal drug conspiracy laws. Many folks are in federal prison on someone's lie.
But then it should behoove our black political leaders to start making a list. Why do I think that will not happen.
LOL about Charles Barkley, he really is undesirable.
@ole'skool I agree with your statement about BW making better choices with whom to procreate....
But please, I was recently laid off so I am doing the public benefits thing. First time in life and it has been an eye-opener. Let me tell you, the demographic has changed. White folks, lots of Africans, Latinos... English speaking Black folks are in the minority.
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@BWC Eric Garner's murder was ruled a homicide by NYC medical examiner.
@Selmix Cosby's back story leaves a lot to be desired. The chickens came home to roost. It is a tragedy, really.
@Ri74 Hi, I couldn't agree with you more about the choices, or really the lack thereof in the presidential political arena at the time.
I don't blame folks for voting for Pres. Obama the first time, the second, well, to each his own.
What I mean by the con is, I am not your only constituency, but the main one and you do for every other political interest except mine?. It is a black male move: stringing BW along for many years and then lo and behold, they meet the white/Asian/Latina, or just remain players.
Pres. Obama stated on his campaign platform that police brutality is an issue. Now, 24 mos. before the end of his term, he is "considering" a panel on police brutality? He just "pardoned" illegal aliens who will outnumber us and outmaneouver us for jobs and political clout. And before anyone comes at me, let me disclose that I am the granddaughter of immigrants. But he has a solution for illegal immigration, but none for police brutality? He couldn't do an executive order to extend unemployment benefits, the single payer option and a host of other democratic political issues?
The first black U.S. Attorney General argues, himself, before the Supreme Court that unreasonable search and seizure is okay, as long as it is applied to all, not just Black people?
That is what I mean by the con on Black people (esp. women). We are expected to support black men, and expect nothing in return. That is illogical and it is not working for us.
As for Barkley's preference for a spouse, I believe I am on the right website to speak on that. If a black man has a white spouse, my swirl (when it happens) ain't his swirl (Christalyn Karazin's words, not mine). Separate and distinct. BM will try and get up any way they can. Will BW recognize when BM try to incorporate our diverse dating choices into their agenda? My eyes and mind have been closed for so long, I'm not missing a beat (at least I hope not) going forward.
@jetirado Thank you so much, ANOTHER GREAT QUOTE.
I need these quotes for my deprogramming away from black community issues, men, etc. Thanks!!
@Christelyn I see what you are saying. It is just that I don't need those who practice exclusion at certain social strata (Cosby) and those who have exempted black women from marriage (Barkley) are the ones to speak. Cosby and Barkley have access to the media so they can shape an argument to the convenience of THEIR AGENDA or that of their bosses.
Sharpton and Jesse ain't perfect, hardly, but you cannot accuse them of violence (rape like Cosby) and abandonment of black women and the community (Barkley).
I just wanted to say, in a rather garrulous way, and I apologize, that it is another con by black men. He has the nerve to say that there are too many crooks in the black community? Has he ever heard of Enron, WorldCom, Ameriprise, Bear Stearns, hell, the Teamsters? The man is ignorant and he is generalizing a community he despises and doesn't really know that well (at least, not anymore).
Am I saying there are no problems in the black community. Not hardly, but excessive force by the police is not the solution to crime, fatherless, drug abuse and lack of services. I have to question a man who chastises an entire community but not his industry colleague Michael Jordan, whose sneakers, made in deplorable sweatshop conditions in Southeast Asia, are marketed at a 200% markup to poor black kids.
Imma just sayin', "Barkley, as a man, are you gonna get your pro ballers and step up and help and lead?
Oh, that's right, like he said in the 1990s, "I am not a role model"! (with emphasis)
@jetirado @Christelyn Thank you. How can Cosby talk about single motherhood and he is raping women (and was probably slangin' pills)?
A consistent argument, that's all.
@The ArchAngel Thank you so much Arch Angel, what a powerful quote.
Which is from where my exasperation comes from! Why is it the same in 2014 as it was in 1904?
The enemy is within (who, by the way, does not discount the enemy outside) but can do just as much, if not more damage.
I just want to issue a word of caution:
Let's not fall for the okey doke from Charles Barkley.He is the one who put the ghetto into
professional basketball.He wants to
pontificate about issues in the black community, but like Cosby, does not look
at his own behavior.If he wasn't
blessed with physical athletic talent, he would be singing a different
tune.He is only saying these things to
raise his capital among the white community.Charles Barkley always wanted racists to love him. How can he call Eric Garner's murder a
non-murder when the Medical Examiner of New York City ruled it a homicide based
on scientific evidence?He wants to
discuss race honestly and openly yet he always hid his white wife and his
half-white children?I remember when he
use to brag about his wife not being black and said that discussing race was a
This is the new okey doke my friends.The "black guy" cosigning on white
racism.The "black guy" pointing
out problems in the black community, but denying that he is part of the problem
and offers no solution.The "black
guy" who will contradict scientific and empirical evidence because he goes
home to agenda, which is his white/asian/latina wife.And that is the name of the game, the black
man's agenda which is not ours; in fact, it is contrary to our agenda.
I find it laughable that a pro athlete and sports
commentator make comments on black and latino community relations with the
police from his precipice of privilege.If we want to get really serious about the conversation, this is about
the militarization of our police force and their unchecked shoot to kill and right
to confiscate (on the spot) policies.The
worst place for police brutality in America is Albuquerque, New Mexico and most
of the victims are Latino and Native American.What would Charles say to them?
My take on Eric Garner and Michael Brown:they were dealin' for the corrupt cops and
the money got funny or they wanted to go straight and they wound up dead.Michael Brown might have even been shaking
down immigrant store owners for the cops (hence, that video).
But Barkley's poorly constructed thoughts and vapid
commentary only goes to show how thirsty black men are for the white man's spot.They are now not only throwing women and
children overboard, they are throwing each other overboard.Let's see where this gets them.Part of Pres. Obama's campaign platform was
police brutality and he is now "considering" a presidential panel on
excessive police force in ALL communities.If it wasn't out of control, why would he address it?Of course, he took his campaign website down after
the election, but BEFORE he was even sworn into office.
As a black woman, I just have one thing to say to the black pro
athletes, the black elite, the black misleadership, the black politicos and the
black "entertainment" classes:enjoy your time in Pres. Obama's last two years in office, because when
it is over, it will be over.Your passes
from more and more black women who can peep your game will be revoked and let's
see how that will work for you. Pres. Obama is the last con game run on the
black community and that will apply to the black pro athletes, the black elite,
the black misleadership, the black politicos and the black entertainment class.Pres. Obama is your last con.Black men take note.
I agree. Some idiotic pro football player who is black just made a sexually
suggestive comment about one of the Obama girls.Let's see if his collar gets pulled.This guy is 33 years old and he is commenting
on teenagers, sexually.As usual, black
men think that it raises their profiles with whites if they jump on the
bandwagon when black women are the target.If it can happen to these girls, imagine the average black girl without
Secret Service protection.
2 weeks, 2 days ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected
@darkandlovely @onmywayup @GoldenPrecious Many BM took advantage of the insularity of segregation and abused women and children. The public misogyny we see for BW today grew out of a very private, yet very real and intense misogyny for BW back in the day.
2 weeks, 2 days ago on The Official Bill Cosby (Alleged) Rape/Rant Thread…
I believe the Cos man was slangin’ prescription drugs and
pills.Way back when, that wasn’t a
felony.Then it became a felony and was
considered just as dangerous as heroin, cocaine, etc.
Like most drug dealers, they become their own best customer.So instead of realizing that it ain’t the
1970s or early 1980s anymore, Cosby kept up his sex addiction with the help of
the prescription drugs he used on unsuspecting women.2005, that is a little too recent for me.He pushed his luck too long.Hell, even his wife looks doped up to
me.I don’t take seriously the
accusations from the 1970s, those women were either looking for a come up and
got played, or they were drug addicts. Not that those women could not have been date
raped, but at that time, I gotta really give you the side-eye if you took a
pill from someone you just met, in a hotel room, you knew what was coming next.
His predilection for harassment is very well known within
the industry.I am surprised he hasn’t
been sued under Title VII of the Civil Rights Act for sexual harassment
Karma baby, it always shows up unannounced,
especially when you aren’t ready for company
@darkandlovely Exactly, and what has surfaced about this fake etiquette critic?
Yep, got a record for shoplifting at 17. If I were her, I would never critique the teenage years of adolescents as she had a colorful adolescence herself.
But as I said previously, she looks like a boozer, henceforth the bar comparison.
This white woman revealed too much of who she is: "a spot at the bar".?? Yeah, I am sure she has been carried out of several. Her comments were totally inappropriate. The references of teenagers who are not legal to drink and a bar in the same sentence??
These are the kind of white women we have to look out for. The ones who appear to be "concerned", "giving advice", "sharing thoughts", and that other bullshit. They can only like us if we have a rag on our heads and a mop in our hands. But of course, if you would read this trash to her face and called her out like the racist that she is, she would burst into tears.
Another lesson in stealth, no thanks to this particular white woman, I don't need your commentary, your advice and especially your concern.
2 weeks, 4 days ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected
@SweetGardenia @Cheree But you know, I don't think Black Churches will address this. If a black woman gets a covering from a white man as a husband, the Black Church won't be operating as usual and those who are pulpit pimps will be out of business.
4 weeks, 1 day ago on Sad News. Jacque Reid Pulled Out if the IR Dating Challenge, and it’s All Over the New York Post
I am so sorry for you and your sister. It is just terrible to have cancer. the cancer protocol in the U.S. is not good and all doctors follow it. If your sister is to receive chemo and/or radiation, please make sure she gets her vitamins and nutrients, in very healthy doses -- if she will listen.
I have struggled with 30 lbs all my life. You see, it was the cakes and pies and cookies from the corner store which had HFCS even back in the 1970s. When you eat that shit young, you damage your liver for life, I am convinced. I have always been overweight, for about 15 years, I was 10 pounds overweight.
I am now 30 pounds overweight and I am awaiting the results of a genetic test for propensity to cancer. If I have the gene, I will have to fast. For some reason, that is the only way I lose weight. I will start by totally cutting out starches. Apparently, my liver cannot process it.
It really hit me when I went to the wake for the father of a friend of mine and in the funeral home lobby were nothing but brochures about diabetes. It reminded me of the late 1970s when there were brochures about smoking and lung cancer in the lobbies of some funeral homes.
We need to make very creative salads, cut all died and process foods, and eliminate starches until we make significant weight losses. Also, cut out soda and fruit juices. Natural juices, no more than 4 ounces a day.
Now, if I can just follow my own advice.
God bless your family Chris.
4 weeks, 1 day ago on Obesity Wins Again. My Half-Sister Is Dying.
Steve Harvey and Tom Joyner are trifling. These fraternity men cannot hook a sistah up with a decent brotha? No they cannot.
Because black men have so alienated themselves from black women and re-oriented themselves toward non-black women, that they have got all of us thinking it is more natural for them to be with women of other races/cultures.
But please don't judge Jacque. Re-orientation takes a minute. I am in the process of doing it myself. I am re-orienting myself away from the "brothas", the "struggle", the "'hood", the "message" and I am 53 years old. It takes a minute.
She is indoctrinated and that takes time to come out of. This reality check that the black man has always been against us was very well hidden. For it to be in these numbers (black man/other woman) and it has been going on, very quietly, steadily and STEALTHILY. And no one pulls their collar. So I cannot ignore the obvious, so I have to be deprogrammed and thank God for a site like this and participants like all of you.
She will come around and it will hit her when she least expects it. When she finds out she's been had, all of a sudden it will hit her and she will come around. I look at black men now the way I looked at white men in the 1980s: all they want is their "black" experience. Sorry, but no black men is parking his ______ in me until his Latina/Asian/White fairytale comes along.
But, just give Jacque a minute.
And to any black woman lurking, if you leave in Missouri, please don't go anywhere near Ferguson, MO. Don't rally for Pres. Obama when they come for him after the Republican majority is sworn in in January 2015. Don't contribute to any black male initiatives.
Re-orient, deprogram and "exorcise" your mind. It isn't easy as I am presently doing it, but it's necessary and it is healthy and healing.
1 month ago on Sad News. Jacque Reid Pulled Out if the IR Dating Challenge, and it’s All Over the New York Post
@kennaGransberg @Deanna125 You know, I didn't understand his decision to jump in. At that point, it just looked like a free for all. I am just glad the "chivalrous" guy didn't get hurt.
These little crazy kids need to learn that people are very stressed in this economy and everyone is a ticking time bomb. I am overly polite on the trains because I am living a very stressful life right now so I understand what frayed nerves are. Work, school, dr. appts. and a big dip in pay since I have been laid off.
I think the guy who slapped her was stressed and the guy who jumped in was just trying to stop something that was going to end very badly. The girls also started fighting a guy who was trying to restrain her.
1 month ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?
@trinigirl1 @JackieDee Thank you both for sharing. What a gift to share such stories. I too was verbally and physically abused by my mother who was very troubled and never really grew up past the age of 17.
We have a different relationship and the thing is, I somewhat forgive her because she was separated from my father when we were young and all the responsibility was on her and she came from a family of trouble-makers. And guess what, now her family of trouble makers are reaping such trouble.
Trini: Although you suffered, you were blessed to see karma in action as your mother died young (sounds like it if you were 24 when she died). And Jackie, I was called everything under the sun and I figured it out as I am sure you did also: jealousy. My own mother and her family was jealous of me. As a child, I was always so confused.
We are new sojourners because so many want to see us fail. Old black hateful women, young ghetto black women, black men, why? because we don't have their same mindset. Forget white racism, hell we got Ferguson everyday in the 'hood. Not to take away from the issue of Ferguson, but there is a vibration of violence and anger in Blackistan and it starts in the homes of Blackistan.
1 month ago on QOTW: “How Do I Stop Believing I’m Undesirable?”
@kennaGransberg very true.
@BreannaNouveaux Beautifully written Breanna. You are truly transcendent. I went to school with girls like this in the 1970s except they didn't step to a man, only other women.
We are blessed to have found this community because we are going to have to detach with love from black women and girls like this. We will have to leave this ratchedness behind.
They are under the "witchcraft" of negative images from television, reality TV, movies, and most of all, rap.
These negative images are then confirmed by daily disrespect by the community -- everyone in the community, not just black men.
There is no male in the household due to single motherhood syndrome in the black community, so they don't even realize their femininity. Furthermore, Blackistan (a word I learned on this site) doesn't allow black girls to be feminine. They have to be hard to survive.
Of course, I am sure many black men are jumping for joy because this fits into their pseudo-science about how black women are not marriage material or dateable.
I will continue to be the ambassador for myself and other black women who are pushing forward and through and away from all negativity in the black community, whether it is in the elite black "mis"-leadership strata or in the underbelly of the ghetto low-life.
I am here almost in tears. Congrats to both of you, stay blessed!
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@NicoleLittle @mlank64 Christianity started in Africa. It is Romanism, which is the basis for modern day Western Christianity, which is the basis for many of the world's troubles.
IT is the responsibility of all Black Christians to find their way back to the original Christianity.
1 month, 1 week ago on I’m Beginning to Think that Many Black Folks are Contented in Dysfunction.
@London Calling I agree, but let's not forget the Caribbean community. OOW births are very common, especially in Jamaican households in the US.