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@MeliaFavors  Exactly.  It demonstrates how immature they really are.  I wonder sometimes when I see them and how they feel the need to be so exhibitionistic about their relationship.  Not much going on of substance there.

4 days, 14 hours ago on QOTW: IR Dating Black Woman Hates Seeing Black Men Do It Too

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@CarrieThompson1 No, a region does not render a group of people a blanket uniform behavior.

4 days, 14 hours ago on QOTW: IR Dating Black Woman Hates Seeing Black Men Do It Too

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@onmywayup This needs to be a mantra on every little black girl's mirror! 

4 days, 14 hours ago on QOTW: IR Dating Black Woman Hates Seeing Black Men Do It Too

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@trinigirl1  So true.  I am working in a very small office and the birds these BM come in with, Spanish, White, even Asian.  I'm like, so you want to erase yourself that badly?


But I gotta look at the BM.  Game recognizes game as "the brothas" always say.  My mom just use to put it plainly, "show me your company and I'll tell YOU WHO YOU ARE"

4 days, 14 hours ago on QOTW: IR Dating Black Woman Hates Seeing Black Men Do It Too

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@darkandlovely Isn't it amazing how marriage is not even in their lexicon?

4 days, 14 hours ago on QOTW: IR Dating Black Woman Hates Seeing Black Men Do It Too

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When we start to see ourselves separate and apart from Black males, their presence and choice of mate will be a non-issue.I mean, do you make any connection with the folks coming out of the methadone clinic?Yeah, they have some type of medical insurance and you have some type of medical insurance, but is there really any connection?


I appreciate Godiva’s honesty and it helps all of us to identify with her raw feelings and to then move on from those feelings.Other than skin color, black men have let us know that there is no affinity or connection.If we look at things in a metaphysical context, the actions of black men are forcing us (Black Women) to make choices for suitable long-term mates on criterion other than race.It is natural to be attracted to one’s own race, as it is familiar.However, black men have been scheming for years to abandon black women and “create a new race”.The sun is rising in the east, the Far East that is, and the black man has been vanquished, unequivocally by the white man and also by his own hand.The battle is between the West and Asia so let’s think strategically.It will be a complete alteration of the matrix our heads are in, but Ladies, open your options.Make sure what you choose is even in the fight.The black man was defeated long ago and his unconscious anger is at the black woman for creating him (as if we can do that by ourselves) to live in his sub-status.  We are NOT defeated.


Keep it moving and go towards the future.Love all the comments and all my sisters!

4 days, 14 hours ago on QOTW: IR Dating Black Woman Hates Seeing Black Men Do It Too

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Thank you for this affirming and celebratory tribute.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Zara: Eight Reasons Why We Love Black Women

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@Lady A  Those NBABMBW are going to have to do some soul searching.  Their souls have not yet been shocked into revulsion by the behavior of black males.  For decades our souls did not respond and now, the physical is reflecting what is happening in the metaphysical.  There is no longer an attraction to that which repulses us.  This shift on the soul plane will soon manifest on a grand scale in the physical plane and there will be nothing anyone can do to stop or reverse it.

2 months ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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Why are so many folks up in our pantyhose?

I believe the doctor is sincere, but did he really feel the need to write us and tell us about he and his other black doctor friend?

Does he attend any black doctor conventions?  If so, how many are there with white/latino/asian wives?

What is the difference between this, and the provincial white underexposed soft bigot who can count his/her "black friends" on her hand.

Is he as concerned with the choices of spouses made by his BM colleagues?  I am really taken aback by his (and that of other BM) "concern" and I don't trust it.

BM need to keep the focus on them.  BW are actually doin' kinda well since BM aren't checkin' for them, and that's okay!

2 months ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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@your epiphany They were str8t psychos and rabid racists.  I hope they suffer everyday.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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@Christelyn  Thanks for the author and full quote!

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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@Tina Adams.  Exactly but "driving them nuts" could bring out a violent reaction which is what we have to be cognizant of.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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@kennaGransberg  "Bring on the rain dance", LOL!!

We do this because we believed the lies, but no longer.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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@coco78728  Yup, yup:


"All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident."


And BW being desired by non-BM and dating interracially is the truth!


If someone knows who that quote belongs to, please holla back.  Thanks!

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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@SavannahPost Yes, but he probably thinks he's a real catch, LOL.  These black men embarrass themselves terribly with this manchild, ghetto, unpolished, but I got bank act.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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@BlackWomanGamer  Exactly, BINGO!!


Amazing what happens when people wake up.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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I have only one thing to say about DeltaRoots:


http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/trial-begins-4-marines-charged-torture-slay-sgt-wife-article-1.1311076


And I am seriously thinking about becoming licensed to carry with black men like this around.  I hope my first date with a WM is at the gun range.  No joke!


The "bachelor" is nothing but a manchild.  He has unreasonable expectations about women, so he lies about what he wants because he doesn't know.  He is emotionally violent.


Both of these black men are what I call mentally, spiritually and physically poisonous.


As for the three clowns in the middle, just a new hustle to make money off of BW who are still caught in the Black Matrix.


That is all I wanted to say.  All the comments from this post should be printed and sold by BB& W as a book for relationship advice to Black Women.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Who Didn’t See This Coming? Threatening the Monopoly of Dating Black Women…

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Thank you for your story.  Looking at your picture as a young girl, I know the devil is a liar.  You were and are beautiful.  As our stories are told, the collective healing will begin.  The journey will be long, but the destination will be at progress, not perfection.  I too could not look in the mirror as a young girl -- too much hate thrown at me from my mother, relatives, so called friends.  Now, I look long and hard in the mirror and I am liking what I see.  Pray over your daughter as was already suggested and teach her who she is and what is happening and we can break the cycle.


With stories like these, I am encouraged that the light is getting through to the darkness.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Mamie: “I Am Damaged, But Not Broken.”

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@Karla Thanks Karla.  School is in session.  When I was young, in the 1960s, people were taught to ingest, (yes, unbelievably by the very screwedup society we were in) to learn about what it was like in "other places".

I remember when my cousins came to visit from California and they flew in on a 747!! (LOL) and we listened to how life was because there was no latimes.com or an app or all the conveniences of very modern technology, shit, modern technology was a color TV and princess touch tone phone, (now referred to as landlines),

We listened to learn and looked at polaroid pictures.


We had to stick by those same ignoramuses with the knives and box cutter and shit, or else you were down with whitey, was that some crazy ish or what?  These people talk about courage or cowardice, they need to have a seat!

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White Men Being Judged for “Suddenly” Pursuing Black Women?

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I just want to add that the second to last paragraph was a description of life in the 1970s and 1980s.  Yeah, not that long ago.


BW please embrace the adventure and live in the times you are living in.


This IRR is our "movement", our march, our desegregation policy, we just don't see it because we always needed the BM lens to see ourselves with.  Let's be honest with ourselves and take off the BM's shades.  The spirit of KKK is in our hoods killing and raping our children, except they don't have sheets or hoods, they have bandanas across their faces and sagging baggy pants.  Which one of us is gonna step to these thugged out MF'ers?  What will we say when 30 years from now we are asked why didn't you do such and such to prevent the killing of children??


*Crickets.*


So, we have to be open and seek to understand more than we need to be understood.


Unless the non-BM guy was part of a racist violent gang, or openly disenfranchised black folks, staying in one's lane was, and is, still not a crime.  So let's listen to learn and learn to listen and when we hear something that doesn't sit right, let's seek explanation and a different point of view rather than a show down.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White Men Being Judged for “Suddenly” Pursuing Black Women?

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You know, I can see into Stan's dilemma as a human being.He seems a little aspergy (if that is a word) but he also seems to be very gentle and caring.A lot of black women think that is being "soft".Because our biggest problem is our identity.


To the people judging him:I was born at the beginning of the 1960s.Corporal punishment was still quite the norm in school.And if the teacher hit you, you didn't dare tell your parents, because that would be a serious beatdown.


Children were to be seen and not heard.Grownups were always right and didn't lie.Do as I say, not as I do.


And that was school and at home.Should I continue 'bout the neighbor['hood]?


Now I have spoken to white people my age and it is amazing how there were codes not to be broken in all "hoods".You didn't speak against the nuns or the priests no matter what if you were Irish; you paied your "tax" to the mob if you had a business in an Italian neighborhood and you never called the police if you had a disagreement with a mobster, low or high level.I spoke to a white woman from Georgia, and the Klan would burn crosses on the lawns of white Catholics.


But people would make life miserable for you if your lifestyle and existence challenged their narrow purview of the world.A lot of parental and community love was conditional.You had to follow a script or a formula.You know the draft was discontinued in the 1970s.You know how many guys I knew served in peace time:almost all because you knew your bosses were all WWII ("we are gods because we killed Hitler") racist asshats.Only thing is, the script was always being flipped for Black Women.


Unless you know what an ironing cord across your thigh feels like for giving a grown up a dirty look; or having to ask the guy in the office next to your secretarial assignment if he would mind having a male secretary when his secretary goes on vacation; or being sent home for wearing a pantsuit or being fired for wearing braids, or being threatened to be fired by a closet homosexual because they feared you would use it against them . . .


You need a history lesson, not a platform to shame.I know this was a little left field, but I am trying to point out to you that TIMES WERE VERY DIFFERENT and there were real consequences for getting out of your lane (even though that never stopped a black man).Stop emulating the way black men treat black women.BM don't have unrealistic expectations for non-BW, only for BW.So don't emulate BM by treating non-BM the same way as BM treat BW.



2 months, 3 weeks ago on Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White Men Being Judged for “Suddenly” Pursuing Black Women?

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@Oaktown Paul  THIS!!

Thank you.  That is what I love about this site, the real deal, story.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Everybody Ain’t “The Lovings”: Why Are Older White Men Being Judged for “Suddenly” Pursuing Black Women?

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Thanks, the hyaluronic serum and the Perfect Prep Hydrating Eye Brightener are definitely what I need.


Believe them when they tell you that you look decades younger, they ain't neva lied, you look fantastic.

2 months, 4 weeks ago on Full-Feature Make-up Tutorial: Secrets to Smooth and Poreless-Looking Skin

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@Peruse7  Thanks, just writing from experience, observation, and the heart.

2 months, 4 weeks ago on When IBM Nonsense Doesn’t Go Over Well with White America

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@caligirl94117 @darkandlovely  No, they really think that they are the be all and end all.

2 months, 4 weeks ago on When IBM Nonsense Doesn’t Go Over Well with White America

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I am laughing because this type of "advice" from BM has been "offered" since the 1980s.Back then, we (BW) needed to "let the man lead" and don't flaunt our educational or professional accomplishments, because the "white man only gave the BW the same if not more opportunities than BM to hold the BM back, etc." and other assorted nonsense.Our standards were too high, or too low.We wouldn't give a "regular brotha" a chance.We wanted too much from our BM. Or it was open forums and discussions about Black Female/Male relationships.Or the whole black speed dating in the late 1990s. It was a whole up the down staircase road map to BM's psychosis because as we now know, they were never checkin' for us anyway.


We were also told that we had to sleep with guys by a certain time, and if the man isn't into you, then it is just chemistry and we should move on, even though we are doing everything "right". Our heads were seriously fucked up by these games.It was assumed that a BM with means and "pedigree" would marry out and if you were a BM, you were deluded to think that you were "good enough".


Well, these young men are in for a great surprise, both financially and socially.No one is coming to their book signing and no one is buying their book and no one is buying into their BS.You see, BW now have enough frame of reference to know exactly what this is:an attempt to get in our purses by getting into our psyche with BS.


These men are up against something that didn't exist in the 1980s and early 1990s:THE INTERNET.


Now, BW can go to sites like BB&W and learn, share, laugh and vent.BW didn't realize (lack of internet existence) in the 1970s, 1980s and 1990s that BM were dating/marrying interracially more often than not.Now, these men are going to discover that BW are either preparing themselves to date interracially, are dating interracially, marrying interracially and just plain, flat out, no longer, if ever, attracted to BM.

So in the next decade, I would like to see what scheme BM have up their sleeves to try and pull an okey doke on sistahs, cuz their days of BS are numbered. Many, many BW are not even considering a BM as a potential mate, and that is a great step forward for us as BW.


On a sad note, in Queens, NY this weekend, a mother, her mother, and 7 yr. old daughter were killed by the baby daddy.He also shot in the head his 12 yr. old daughter.He thought the baby momma was cheating on him, even though HE would not put a ring on it.

I bring this up because we can laugh at the fools in this video, but this story is where this kind of "it's all the BW's fault" goes terribly wrong and tragic and deadly violence is committed against BW and black female children.

2 months, 4 weeks ago on When IBM Nonsense Doesn’t Go Over Well with White America

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@Vivaforever 


Internecine fights exist among women of all races.


Yet, BW are fighting over nothing (most BM) so the fighting would be at a higher pitch.


They are trying to win the battle by counterpropaganda and bullhorn projection of the exact opposite of the truth.  I know there are BW out there who "aint wit dat", meaning IRR.  They only have the fcked up BC to call their own (which it really isn't) so "dey stay praisin' dey kangs" to hold onto something that never was.  In every community, when someone rejects the BS, it is always those who would benefit from the same change of view (and vue) who will oppress she who ain't stayin'.  Look at the lye attacks on women in India and Pakistan -- most are orchestrated by other female family members of the wife, not even the husband.


But every movement needs a defining event.  And, after that defining event, Keysha will either get that wake up call or she will be in some far off public housing development holding a "Black Citizen's Council" meeting to hold it down for da brothas on lock down.


It is getting close to that "event", but it is approaching.  It will be so egregious (as if there have not been countless outrageous and egregious acts of violence and disrespect of women and children by BM in the BC) that not even Tanikeya and Keysha and Laquanda will be able to ignore it.

3 months ago on Take That, Haters! BB&W ‘Circle of Support’ In Action with Wronged IR Couple

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This is what love looks like


marriage bands included

3 months ago on Take That, Haters! BB&W ‘Circle of Support’ In Action with Wronged IR Couple

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This was probably the most important discussions I have heard in a long time.  This is the BS, from a white woman and a black man (who else) that Black Women are no longer tolerating.  A white woman has the nerve to lecture to a black woman about interracial dating?  Don't make me laugh.  This is how BM screw with our minds, or try to.  They want us to be perfect.  Well, they don't demand that from any other race of women that they MARRY, but only BW must be perfect.  So since no one on this earth is perfect, then BW are seen as not up to the mark or standard.  So black men use this as a reason not to marry at all or definitely not a black woman.


BUMP THAT.  My head ain't allowing that mess inside anymore.  Since black men are off my menu, the words of this fool are like raindrops on my window -- they just fall off.


But there is an interesting piece on muslim bushido this month about the insanity of black men and the deadness in their eyes.  Interesting what happens when the crazy a person is trying to spread comes back around on them. 


Black women should take away from this a good laugh and a lesson in verbal bushido from Christalyn.  Well done, Chris for checkin' those two idiots.

3 months ago on WTF? Worst and Most Racist Interview Ever!!

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@SweetGardenia Super sad, only prayer is going to break the "spell" over BW.

3 months, 1 week ago on Reader Weighs In: Wife vs. ‘Wifey’

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@SweetGardenia Excellent post.  Historically accurate and demonstrates how we as BW feel now.  I feel about BM today as I did about WM in the 1980s (they only want their "black experience").  BM think they have some type of supernatural hold on BW.  Many of us, multi-generational are waking up and leaving BM to star alone in their own nightmare. 

3 months, 1 week ago on Reader Weighs In: Wife vs. ‘Wifey’

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I was utterly blown away by the story of Madame CJ Walker when I was assigned to do a paper on her two years ago.A totally remarkable woman.She made a way and made a way for many black women as well.


I enjoyed the movie Selma.I liked it because it was not focused on the reminder of "not all whites were racists" but the subjection of Black people to outrageous hatred and bigotry.The real story was told, and it was a propos.I do not tire of civil rights era movies, but I tire of civil rights era movies that do not tell the TRUTH.Selma got a 96% from me on the truth factor and 100% on acting.


I look forward to more diversification of genres of films with Black folks, but the opening scene of Selma IS the story of U.S. domestic terrorism against Black people and that story has yet to be told in its truth and its entirety.

3 months, 2 weeks ago on Civil Rights: Can We Focus Less on Marching and ‘The Struggle?’

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Beautiful Girls, you young girls go get it!

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Young, Beautiful, Sexy, Talented, Accomplished and Single? Not For Long!

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Beautiful and romantic

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Winter Wedding!

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@Christelyn  You know I passed over that because it was so absurd and I guess that was a big mistake. I was just impressed by the comments of the Black Women whose eyes are being opened to the swirling by black men and the disrespect by same of black women.  Perhaps this was inappropriate so feel free to delete it or add a disclaimer. 


I was just wanted to acknowledge that BW Interracial dating may be taking a big leap in 2015 and beyond by many, many black women, given that that site is really a hip hop gossip site. Those comments on a site like that are atypical.  I just wanted to point out that a new mentality may be flourishing, even among die-hard Black women hip hop fans.


Again, if you feel that the link is offensive and/or a poor example, please delete.  I meant no offense, if anything, I meant just the opposite.

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Utterly Speechless…Is Kim Kardashian Wearing Blackface?!

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Happy New Year Everyone:


All I have to say to this is that the masses are slowly awakening.  Start reading comments at 12:22.


http://www.rhymeswithsnitch.com/2015/01/rip-stuart-scott.html


Perhaps not the most appropriate forum for the comments, but ahem, it is all so obvious now isn't it?


Will this be the year Black Women awake to the purpose of Kim Kardashian, Iggy Azalea and the public attacking of Black Women by Black Men and take some kind of action.  Even if action is not taken, the seed is implanted in the mind.

3 months, 3 weeks ago on Utterly Speechless…Is Kim Kardashian Wearing Blackface?!

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@jazzyfae45 So true Jazzy, we are the awakening giant.

Check out this artist on youtube that I saw on another BWE site:

Artist:  Monsieur Nov, Song:  Trop Fresh, He is singing in French, but OMG, what a voice!


Black Male R&B Who?

4 months ago on The Battle of the Azealias: Who Gets Mocked, Who Gets Protected.

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