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3 hours, 49 minutes ago on How Self Described “Good Guys” Usually Aren’t Good for You
This is worth a read.
21 hours, 22 minutes ago on “My Name is NOT Baby,” a Rant About Street Harassment and Discrimination
@Law Wanxi I can say I have been street harassed by all colors of the rainbow, but never an East Asian man. I have noticed that some Asian men will stare, but they will never approach. I had a Middle-Eastern man behind the cash register allow me to pay for an item even though I was short a quarter because he thought I was "pretty" but that's it. But then again I don't encounter too many Asian men on the street anyway. I would have to wonder what it's like on the actual continent and respective countries, though.
21 hours, 24 minutes ago on “My Name is NOT Baby,” a Rant About Street Harassment and Discrimination
This is completely off topic but I have seen a couple of Mexican restaurants with Lupita in their names. I guess it's a Spanish name? lol
And about the fetish thing, I think the assumption that no black, especially dark-skinned black woman can be attractive without being fetishized is backwards. It's like basically saying that black women cannot be attractive to any non-black man without it being in a purely sexual context. These black men that are showing "concern" are really no better. They can't imagine that a dark-skinned black woman that is considered to be beautiful by a wide audience of more than black people. So it must be a fetish, because why would anyone find a dark skinned woman attractive if it isn't sexual? That basically shows the value that they put on black women. And I wonder, when is the last time these men considered a dark skinned woman to be attractive and admitted it openly? Do they use their voice to uplift black women? Do they make an effort to fight against colorism? Or do they only decide to speak up when the white man heaps praise on to one of "theirs"?
1 day, 18 hours ago on Can We Please Stop with the Black Woman Fetish Hysteria?
@rena215 But she's not a natural hair blogger. Like you said there's plenty of bloggers out there who already provide the information. I don't see anything wrong with her or any other celebrity or anyone for that matter taking a picture of themselves or their hair and posting it on the internet. You can simply look away and not pay attention to it. We all know that celebrities wear weave and extensions (even white ones too). It seems to me that no matter what a black woman does with their hair or appearance, they get criticized. Whether you wear a weave, natural, short cut, color, relaxed, even if you have long hair...sigh.
And speaking of those natural hair bloggers, I used to follow them too (and still take a glance on occasion). Some just post pictures of their hair and don't show any regime/ hair care tips (and if their regimen isn't 14 steps long people complain! lol). It's the internet; the place for anyone to be an exhibitionist. Some of the more famous bloggers even make videos just to show themselves playing in their hair and showing how long it is. I honestly don't think it's a big deal. People can do whatever they want on their social networking sites as long as it isn't hurting anyone.
4 days, 20 hours ago on Really, Nicki Minaj? What Are You Trying to Prove?
How is this different than the legions of black women who have entire blogs and YouTube channels about growing their hair? Some of them measure every 4th of an inch that their hair grows...lol. And why the shade for wearing weave? Many natural hair sites promote wearing weave as a protective style for hair growth. She gets criticized for wearing weave and makeup, but still gets criticized for taking it off? You just can't win.
5 days, 5 hours ago on Really, Nicki Minaj? What Are You Trying to Prove?
@kia I'm not saying to "throw him a crumb," I'm saying that his existence and what he does is not harmful to black women at all, and he (to my knowledge) has not publicly expressed hate of or degraded black women. That's it! lol Take it as you will. We're talking about an album cover but there are so many black men out there who have gone on entire tirades against black women, like D.L. Hughley. Pharell isn't doing anything wrong, and he looks good while doing it! lol
1 week, 1 day ago on Dear Black People, Can We Support More Songs Like This?!
This can relate to the other post about black men being allies even though they are married to white or non-black women. Pharell's girlfriend (or significant other, whatever) is black or at least bi-racial. He has featured dark skinned women in his videos. In one of his videos a dark-skinned woman is the main love interest. In fact, one of those women was Lanisha Cole, who was featured in a post recently. At the very least, he is not publicly degrading black women like so many black male celebrities out there. I honestly don't see how the popularity of this song or his album is hurtful to black women at all...even in the video there's black women and people of all races. He seems like a multi-cultural guy who associates with all types of people. His group N.E.R.D. consists of a black guy and a Asian guy. So no complaints, here.
"We learn the names Schwarzenegger and Giuliani, but we cannot learn an Asian, or African, or even African American names?"
So true! lol If people can pronounce Benedict Cumberbatch or Hermione Granger (Harry Potter character) then they can learn how to pronounce an African name.
1 week, 3 days ago on What’s In A Name?
FYI, some of these "ghetto" names do have a meaning:
"Laquisha originates in ‘Lakeisha’, a Swahili name meaning ‘favourite’. The popularity of Laquisha originates in the French influence on black people in America, where the ‘La-’ naming prefix became popularized among freed black slaves."
I will admit that some of these "ghetto" name amalgamations are ridiculous, but it really is no different than crazy celebrity baby names. Some people just get too creative.
But names like Keisha or Shaniqua actually have etymological origins. These are not names people made up off the top of their heads. In this country, many things associated with black people are deemed "ghetto" simply because of the blackness associated with it; names are no exception. Take twerking, for example. Before it became mainstream, such dancing was considered low class and ghetto. Once whites took a hold of it, it suddenly becomes a trend. Now there are videos of white girls twerking everywhere, getting more credit and praise than black women who have been doing for years.
Another example: black girl decides to try a new hairstyle. To avoid damaging her natural hair, she gets a colored weave. She is called ghetto and hair hatted. White girl does the same; " cool hair"!
So what is wrong: the names, or the society that stigmatizes those names?
1 week, 4 days ago on What’s In A Name?
Your post has no glaring grammatical errors, and even if it did, who cares? Are we writing essays here? ShortVut, you need to crawl back down the hole you came from to foster your bitterness. If anyone needs to change their name (or screen name at least) it's you. What the heck is "vut"? Speaking of grammatical errors, ShortVut, your first sentence is a run on and you have a word unnecessarily capitalized in the middle of that sentence.
Anyway, Keyasha I genuinely think your name sounds awesome (kind of like a video game character's name) and you keep doing what you're doing. Any haters can have a seat.
@Suburban Soulgirl I definitely agree. I believe I addressed that in my comment.
"Remember that black women are constantly told to settle for less as long as a man is black. "
1 week, 5 days ago on Tyrese Gibson Speaks on DBR Men “They Love Low Standard Women Because They’re Easy”
@Brenda55 But what if we don't eat meat? lol
@FriendsofJay The majority of people want to date within their race, white, black, Asian, etc. There are plenty of black women who manage to live happily with secure homes and nice friends when marrying black men. I personally don't think that marrying a white man= happiness for black women, because we all know there are plenty of DBRs of all races (you will recall the recent Robin Thicke article *ahem*). I don't think the problem is these women wanting black men, but the WRONG kind of black men. Remember that black women are constantly told to settle for less as long as a man is black. If a black woman wants to exclusively date black men, and she has been brainwashed by her community, societal expectations, and is driven by her desire for a black man, then she will make the wrong choices. This isn't necessarily black women's fault; it is very difficult to erase conditioning that has been ingrained in their minds since a young age. Unfortunately for many black women, this type of behavior is normal; and there are black men who know this and will exploit black women for their own means. This is the male privilege that black men have.
Dating/marrying black men doesn't mean a live of poverty and single motherhood. It's dating men with immature mindsets that have no idea how to be an adult, much less a man. I think it's a shame that black women who truly do desire to date/marry a black man may not get to do so because of the poison that is affecting many black men's minds nowadays. We can't blame black women for the actions of black men, especially when these black women have been conditioned to stand by these black men no matter what.
Yes, the obvious solution would be to open their dating pool to more than just black men. But unfortunately, for these "NBABM" women, if they continue to be used and abused by these type of men, will have to learn the hard way, as many have...
As to your last question...huh? lol
According to Google, he was born and raised in London. Couldn't find anything about his ethnic background so for all we know he's not "Arab." I know too little about the Muslim culture to make any comments about it so I'm not touching it. But I can imagine going into the marriage these two people were fully aware of what cultural differences may arise. Ultimately we know nothing about their personal lives, so there can be many reasons for a divorce, but most will pin it on the religion. Can I mention how great Janet looks at that age? Black certainly don't crack! Lol
2 weeks, 2 days ago on Janet Jackson Rumored to Divorce: Are Some Differences Just Too Difficult to Overcome?
I have been here for a while but I am still having trouble understanding this whole "blackistan" thing. Is this some sort of buzzword? I understand it to be a combination of "black' and I assume Pakistan? What do these two things have in common? What does blackistan have to do with these atrocious acts?
2 weeks, 3 days ago on Legion of Doom Mothers on Steroids — What the Cuss?
Booty water. HA!
2 weeks, 4 days ago on Roseanne Barr is Running for President, and She Thinks Siding With Known Black-Woman Haters Will Get Her the Black Vote.
Didn't Beyonce lip sync the national anthem once? And wasn't Ashlee Simpson's music career ruined by lip syncing? lol
@Serita You can find out about him using this step by step process:
1. Google his name.
2. His Facebook page should be one of the first things to appear. Click on the page.
3. Scroll for five minutes (if you last that long).
4. Proceed to vomit and question everything in the world.
Looks like she lost more than weight. She lost her mind too.
2 weeks, 5 days ago on Roseanne Barr is Running for President, and She Thinks Siding With Known Black-Woman Haters Will Get Her the Black Vote.