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@BeautyIAM I'm seriously side-eyeing that dude right now...Racism in all black neighborhood....Right. It's no wonder no black women want you LOL
1 day, 5 hours ago on QOTW: One Viewer Asks, “Why Do Black Men Seem to Flock to White Women, But Not the Other Way Around?”
I think it involves a lot of male privilege and misogyny against black women. I would like to think that there are just a large number of black men that are meeting, falling in love with, dating and/or marrying white women. But it really isn't that simple. I think that concept was true at some point. We have to remember that just in the last century there were black men and white women (and BW and WM) who legitimately fell in love and had to fight the law and face discrimination to get married. That was a point in time when black women and black men still married quite often and black woman hate wasn't so prevalent as it is today among black men.
So what happened, I wonder? I think it may have started with famous, wealthy black men marrying white women as a form of status. Also, over time, many black men started to turn against black women. This can be attributed to increased misogyny (or misogynoir as applied to black women). Keep in mind that black women in general were never necessarily held high and glorified. It can also be attributed to intra-racism. I think it has passed the point of black men simply happening to date white women out of choice or coincidence. Combine this with black women relentlessly supporting black men, despite mistreatment by black men while black men do as they please.
1 day, 9 hours ago on QOTW: One Viewer Asks, “Why Do Black Men Seem to Flock to White Women, But Not the Other Way Around?”
Hair in general, no matter the type doesn't need to be washed daily. Those oils produced by our scalp are very essential to keeping hair moisturized. It's just that people with straight hair tend to get oilier hair because those oils produced by the scalp travel down the hair strand quicker. It's funny that people complain about having oily hair because we black women actually put oils (such as olive and coconut) in our hair for moisture, to promote growth and to make it manageable. It is actually a common practice to slather one's hair with oil before washing to counteract the drying effects of shampoo. The more you know...
1 day, 17 hours ago on Hilarious Video Pokes Fun of Common Questions White Guys Ask When Dating Black Girls
@MadamCJCPA I have to agree. It is almost impossible to look like that, with a perfectly toned flat stomach after giving birth. The stomach doesn't go back to being flat immediately after the baby pops out. No matter how skinny you are, the baby bump still remains. I had my kid pretty young (age 18) and I was always underweight. In fact, my highest weight while pregnant was around 135-140ish.. A couple months after I was instantly back to under 120. I didn't diet or even exercise, it just how I am. Not even my stomach looked like that. I know that for about a week I still had the bump. It does not disappear like magic. And I had a fairly low weight. So I will have to call BS on this.
3 days, 15 hours ago on RANT: Want Us to Stop ‘Fat Shaming?’ Then STOP With the Skinny Shaming!!
Who are Treyon Martin and Emmit Till? (And this a rhetorical question to point out the gross misspelling of those names)
4 days, 21 hours ago on White Guy Asks, “How Do I Protect Black Women from DBR’s in Public?”
I think we must make a difference between boys and men. Males who feel the need to sexually proposition, demean, harass and threaten women in public are not men, but BOYS. They do not have the maturity nor mental capacity to be called a man. These males are simple-minded boys. They may be men in physical stature, but their minds have not matured past ten years old. Heck, I'm sure there are little ten year olds that do know better.
I will share a story. At my old apartment, I was followed around constantly by a black male. This male would show up whenever I went to check my mail, do my laundry, take out my garbage or go to pay my rent. At first I thought he was being friendly, but I realized something was up when he would follow me to my door when I walked back from doing these errands. The laundry room, dumpster and mailboxes were all close to my apartment, and I'm guessing his apartment was nearby as well because he would literally always be around whenever I stepped foot outside.
At the time, I was dating a black man. He's rather tall and muscular man. I told him about the guy who was following me around. He asked if I would like for him to ahave a word with this guy. He did. The guy never bothered me after that.
Now, I'm not mentioning this to say "SEE NOT ALL BLACK MEN ARE LIKE THAT." Everyone here knows that. A MAN, regardless of race, will go out of his way to protect a woman he sees is troubled or in danger. The males in this letter and the males described in the comments below are not men. They are male children with no concern for the safety and well being of black women. So instead of worrying about stroking the collective black male ego, we need to be concerned with something more important: black women's safety.
Yes there are quite a few larger black women on tv, plenty of slimmer black women are still present and getting roles. Black women in general get fewer roles but to say that there are no black women characters that are presented as sexy or attractive is pushing it a bit.
1 week ago on The Dumbest Reasons Offered For Why Black Women Should Stay Fat
@Browncow @Tammy_Ghalden @Karla I'm still waiting for this naturally round or large behind I'm supposed to have. I have been told that it's round, but I still feel my butt bone when I sit down. It would be nice to have some cushioning.
I honestly think that if there were fit black women promoting weight loss, there would be an outcry from the black community, especially women. There would be the inevitable "How dare you tell me to lose weight when everybody knows men (black of course) love REAL women with curves. Don't nobody want no skinny toothpick!" And of course black men would cheer them on, all the while complaining about the abundance of obese black women and using that as an excuse to leave black women behind. The black women will continue to encourage and promote obesity for the sake of being "thick" to please the black man, because being thin and being fit is for white chicks. The black women will continue to unknowingly contribute to their own destruction.
It's just hard for black women to stand up for their fitness and health with so many opponents. This has happened on this site. Look at what happened to Michelle Obama when she dared to fight obesity among children. I agree that there should be more black women actively and visibly promoting fitness, but it won't be easy.
1 week ago on What Just Happened to Maria Kang is the Reason I Quit Talking About Black Women and Fitness.
@_Toni_ Yusss lol. Have you heard that he will be starring in a new US movie with Bruce Willis? He will also be releasing a new album next year.
1 week, 2 days ago on BB&W’s First Annual “Sexiest Man of the Year” Nominations!
I could do more but I'll be here all day. Still waiting for a hot Asian guy appreciation thread....*winkwink*
@_Toni_ OMG thank you! He's one of my favorite Japanese actors! While we are on Asian guys....
@Jamila All I can say to that is WOW. Gargled milk....
1 week, 3 days ago on What the Cuss?! Another Girl Threatened With Expulsion Over Her Natural Hair!
@MySmile What I mean basically is a man who puts effort into his appearance, like actually taking time to think about what they're going to wear for the day instead of throwing on any old shirt and jeans like most guys. Men caring about fashion or their appearance is typically seen as feminine. Also, having hobbies and interests that fall outside of the typical male spectrum, like art, music, literature and so forth. I guess men that aren't typical in-your-face alpha males.
By too much on the feminine...well have you seen RuPaul's Drag Race? Basically those guys LOL. I'm not interested in any man who can out-woman me...like to the point of wearing make up and spending hours perfecting their hair. And yes there are straight me like that. To use a celebrity example I would say a Ryan Seacrest type.
1 week, 3 days ago on Adam Levine “Sexiest Man Alive”…Really?!
This is a shame. I have a feeling that if she were to have it braided or twisted they would still call it inappropriate, so you just can't win. I for one usually don't keep my in a neat style (it's usually an afro, but not it is in twists, which quite a few people, including black people mistook for dreads). I wonder, when did hair become more important than education?
Also, if I may suggest another story for a "what the cuss?!" article it would be this, about a black man wearing naked white women as scarves....http://elitedaily.com/news/world/guy-casually-wearing-naked-white-women-scarves-nothing-see/
@MySmile @ElfeV Exactly! I don't do internet dating (probably never will to be honest) but it seems that when it comes to black women and dating period, we are treated like special snowflakes...and not in the good way either. :/ It's like we have to at our %150 while other women only have to give %50 or even less...I understand that society and media hasn't portrayed black women in the best light, but at the same time we are women too, just like the rest. To use another animal analogy, it''s kind of like these articles and studies portray as vultures who are left with the scraps and we have to fight with beaks and claws for what we can get. I'm not saying we shouldn't have to be at our best, but at the same time, it would be nice if these studies and dating articles portrayed us more as human beings worthy of love and affection instead of being at the bottom. :/
1 week, 3 days ago on One Social Scientist’s Advice for Black Women Dating Online: Make the First Move.
"I am not into lanky men who border on femme."
Sometimes I feel like I am the only woman actually into these kinds of men. I prefer men on the slender side and I do admire a man in touch with his feminine side (just not TOO much lol). With being said, Mr. Levine here just isn't doing it for me either LOL.
@uninterracial I believe Maya Rudolph was on SNL? She is half black (her mother is Minnie Ripperton). BUT she is very passing and played both white and black characters. In fact, I didn't even know she was black for a while.
2 weeks, 1 day ago on New Web Series: The Pursuit of Sexiness
@Law Wanxi He's not on SNL but have you heard of Ryan Higa? He's a pretty funny Asian guy (Japanese-American) on Youtube. He doesn't rely on the typical stereotypical humor like the fake Asian accents and the fried-rice jokes and such. In fact I don't think he's done anything like that...
@Kiwiwriter Look up "Sh*t White Girls Say to Black Girls" on Youtube
2 weeks, 2 days ago on Franchesca Marries Her Boo on the Beach!!