The secret to life in two words: Resist Nothing.
@AndyFox This idea of "choosing to accept a free gift" or "rejecting the free gift" or "flawed lives" is religion itself. That's not spirituality. That is christian dogma. Your entire response is nothing but dogma, so you can get to write a response you judge beautiful, but right at the end you give yourself off for what you truly stand for: "if you choose to reject the free gift... that may be something YOU regret ultimately." That's not beautiful nor righteous. That's Christian dogma of exclusivity, which in spirituality is senseless. And once your message gets taken by people who would like to FORCE it upon others, bypassing separation of church and state in this country, then it gets complicated.
Dude, I can't stop laughing. But I've got to admit that it does look good.
Dan, truth flows out of you! And it is always simply and beautifully put.
I just became a reader a few days ago, but already feel as a part of your blogging family. Best of luck to you Dan. You're an inspiration to me and I'm thankful you had the guts to put yourself out there and make a difference. And you truly do. Don't let others dictate who and what you have inside. That they can't touch.
I went five years without seeing my parents. First thing we did upon seeing each other after all that time was hug, kiss and cry for 10 minutes nonstop. I don't see anything wrong with showing love and caring through touching your loved ones. I grew up lying in my father's hairy beer-belly listening to his daily business and work schedule, and after he was done, I'd tell him my daily stories. This was an essential part of my childhood and I cherished every moment of it. We would kiss and hug each other when departing or coming home, etc. I was a late-comer at a time when my parents no longer expected to have any kids, both in their late forties, so according to my mother I was the only child to ever have that kind of affection from my father. Today, unfortunately, we have distanced ourselves a bit due to my coming out, and moving to the US, but when we get to speak on the phone, in his best moments and in mine, we always end with an affectionate "I love you and I miss you so very much." I truly believe it was due to those early bonding experiences that we still remain emotionally close, even though he does not approve of my acceptance of myself as a gay man, he still loves me. Today I am as affectionate with all my close friends, male or female, as I was with my parents. Touching, hugging, kissing, scratching is part of my daily repertoire when showing that I truly care. I just wish more people were as open. Some of us can barely bring ourselves to a simple handshake, much less a hug or a kiss.