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I wonder if there is an online equivalent of the "human wall" that would work with someone like her. What you're doing is great for when she directly attacks someone (and they feel strong enough to engage her), but not everyone can do that. The women who she attacks in the midst of their grief-which is ridiculously evil in my book- might benefit from that type of "wall" and frankly, it would infuriate her and people like her if they know that their message isn't getting to the intended audience. But until I can think of a suitable equivalent to the "human wall", kudos to you for taking her to task for her crap!
Not only do I really love this post (I love it anytime someone not only stands up for themselves, but takes bullies to task respectfully for their bullying), I love what I see as a recent "trend"-for lack of a better term- of bloggers stepping up and saying that they WILL have standards of behavior that are expected when visiting/commenting on their blog. For too long, there have been too many bullies who try to hide behind "free speech" (and often don't really know what free speech even means) in order to justify spewing hateful words and actions. Yes, people should be allowed to disagree and even debate a point with someone, but they should never be allowed to use their difference of opinion as a battering ram to beat down someone else. I applaud you for deciding that you will hold people to a higher standard if they want to interact with you and your readers and I applaud you for taking them to task in an adult manner (despite those same individuals behaving like immature children).
On the bullying note, I have a funny story: My parents always dealt with bullying, towards us and about others in a humorous fashion. Essentially, if you can laugh (genuinely, not "I'm trying not to cry and to seem strong, so I'll laugh when you call me names") about a bully, then they've lost all of their power. So one day, my father, who is a very proud man who takes insults seriously was coming into the store to meet us. Some woman got mad about something trivial, looked at him in disgust and says "N****r!" (as a man who grew up in the DEEP South in the 40s and 50s, and then fought for civil rights, this is not a term that he would take lightly). My father looked at her, smiled and said "N****r lover" and walked off. The poor woman was left speechless and even more, was left with no weapons in her bag. Sometimes, the only thing you can do with a bully is let them know that there are worse things that what they think of you......
Stay strong!