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Treatment for mood disorders is time consuming and often long term.  Since there is no blood test or DNA analysis currently in use to narrow the diagnosis, doctors and therapists must use their judgment, experience and best estimation of the nature and causes of the patient's symptoms and begin there. Also, the patient must be diligent, honest and consistant in the course of treatment.  No one can read another's mind.  There has to be give and take between the mental health professional and the patient to fine-tune the treatment until and optimal result is achieved.

Even so, the therapies currently in use for mood disorders and mental health issues are pretty limited and moving forward slowly.  The brain is probably the least understood organ in our bodies.  What treatments and medications we have now may not always be equally effective all the time for every patient, but you cannot know there is no hope of relief from your symptoms if you don't pursue every avenue that modern healthcare has available.

Why live half a life when you can probably have better?

2 days, 16 hours ago on Founder of “For Brown Girls,” and Advocate for US, Karyn Washington Committed Suicide, and I Suck.

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Happy birthday, Tanisha!!!! I'm a cancer married to a Pisces. I wish he would make up his mind once and for all about stuff. Other than that, he is a delight in every way. I just make him a good dinner and wait for his next crazy idea.

Many good wishes to you!

1 week, 1 day ago on StarTalk: What’s Your Astrological Power Color?

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Zac, you are quite a man. The fact that you know who you are and what you want in life puts you head and shoulders above the pack. My fervent wish for you is that you find a woman as grounded and bold as you are. Take it from and old lady, your masculine nature is beautiful and rare in one so young. May your wishes be fulfilled with a woman who is your equal. Godspeed, Zac!

1 week, 3 days ago on Essay by the Newest BB&W Blogger: ” The truth was I loved black women.”

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And sometimes there is no reason--you love the person, not their ethnicity. That is incidental to the person he/she happens to be ( fill in the ethnicity.). You love that person because of who they are, not what they are. Presumably the reflexive is also true. Your love for that person makes ethnicity irrelevant.

Who can explain love? Beloved Spouse is a psychiatrist and I asked him about that once. He threw up his hands and said "Don't ask me about love! There is no scientific or medical explanation for it. It simply is what it is!"

1 week, 3 days ago on Essay by the Newest BB&W Blogger: ” The truth was I loved black women.”

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Girl, I can make some serious gumbo. Turns out my family recipe is identical to Chef Bob's! Maybe We're related to his late wife . . .

1 week, 3 days ago on Essay by the Newest BB&W Blogger: ” The truth was I loved black women.”

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:::looking, searching, turning over rocks:::

Where dey at?????

2 weeks, 5 days ago on Did You Know? Black Women Are Bashed On You Tube for Page Views.

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My dear young sister, how refreshing and enlightening to read your letter! Surely good things will come your way because you are prepared for and open to them.

Please know that you will always have a support group/cheering section here. Many of us have had a good measure of success both in our careers and in our personal lives and we wish even more than that for you. You are clearly a gifted thinker and we all hope you continue to grow and enjoy the fruits of the success that will surely come your way.

Godspeed, young sister and may your brilliant mind guide you to the place in life you deserve.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on A Letter from a Teenager Who Found BB&W

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Eeflowers, you are SO right. I have another BW friend of18 years who is a businesswoman and has scared off people I have referred to her by just being so mean! She actually scares people! Needless to say, I don't send her prospective clients anymore because her angry Black woman behavior reflects badly on me. She is outstanding at her job, but DANG! Her excuses range from "this craziness in here is pissing me off" to 'well, I am PMSing." I referred her to mental health professional and even paid for her visits. She got somewhat better as long as she takes her meds but I cannot get through to her that she needs to cut that shit out.

I mean, what does it take? Sometimes BW just don't get it! If she worked in my office, I would have fired her ass long ago. She is a basically good person and good at her job, but at times even I have trouble putting up with her angry ass!

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Recognize Yourself? Five Signs You Are An Angry Black Woman

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Ooooooo! Rose gold! (Drool!!!)

3 weeks ago on SS 2014 Preview: An Ode to Rose Gold

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Girl, ain't that right?!?!? I'm reasonably sure that the only one who appreciates me in the buff is Beloved Spouse. His enthusiasm is all I'm interested in. Delighted to report that he is frequently so enthused.

3 weeks ago on I Love Yoga, But I’ll Keep My Clothes On, Thankyouverymuch!

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In the spirit of "beautify America" ( thanks to Ladybird Johnson) I would decline to give my fellows a view of an old ( but not overweight) woman's sagging flesh. Hey, nature takes its course but better not to advertise it. I mean, to what purpose?

3 weeks ago on I Love Yoga, But I’ll Keep My Clothes On, Thankyouverymuch!

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Excellent points, Fae. I can site you numerous examples, particularly in workplace anger outbursts that have cost even high-profile BW their jobs. One woman I went to college with was moving rapidly up in her career. When we would meet for drinks or dinner, she would laugh about how intimidated her coworkers were of her wrath. I thought she was nuts. She was the darling of the corporate execs and they invested money and time in mentoring her and grooming her for her rapid ascent in her career. One day she pitched a typical hood rat fit and threatened the life of one of her coworkers. She was promptly fired; she had just bought a beautiful home the year before and found herself unable to get a job anywhere doing anything. I was working as a journalist for the local business journal at the time. One of our more exalted columnists was well known to be mad about her and was also giving her a lot of good (and free) press. He almost broke a leg running in the opposite direction. She lost EVERYTHING.

It took about 5 years before she was able to secure a menial job in her chosen field. All because she was perceived to be more of a liability to any potential employer than anything--experience, good public perception, community service--she could bring to the table. What a waste of talent, preparation and ability!

I can tell you from my own experiences in behavioral health that no good ever results from uncontrolled anger. Beyond the obvious problems with the law, employment issues and interpersonal discord, it is simply bad for the individual. She will never have good familial, career or romantic relationships by acting out in anger. Better to seek whatever help seems most appropriate to deal with the underlying issues than to be angry and unhappy in life. Uncontrolled anger is dangerous, ugly and sick.

3 weeks ago on Recognize Yourself? Five Signs You Are An Angry Black Woman

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Very clever, dear Tracy. Being an old lady , I dont do ebooks. Since our books are spilling out into the garage, though, maybe I should

3 weeks, 3 days ago on Active Voice…..

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My dear sisters, please forgive me for pointing out something that is missing in this conversation: our feminine nature IS our power! By embracing our natural womanhood, we can find the man who responds to it in the right way. Each woman defines her femininity in her own way; but there is always going to be the yin and the yang to intimate bonds between the genders. Accept that and develop the feminine beauty that resides naturally in you and become completely comfortable and delighted.

To me, being a woman is a great gift. We can give life; we can nurture in a way our masculine counterparts cannot fully do; we are the natural feminine counterweight in the male/female relationship; we are the softness and the beauty to our partners in a world that isn't all warm and fuzzy. The best thing we can do is to use our natural feminine being to best advantage for ourselves and those we love. We are what we are by the grace of a Higher Power.

1 month ago on Tired of Feeling Like the Dude? BB&W Fan and Friend, ‘Nicole Abundance’ Gives Lessons in Femininity

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