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Hi Nick,
Learning that quitting is not only a viable option but imperative to being successful has made a major difference in my life. Not too long ago, I believed that I needed to finish everything I started. The problem was that this left me stuck trying to finish a bunch of projects that were pointless, I didn't enjoy and were only preventing me from really moving forward in my life. On top of this, I would eventually end up quitting some of these projects anyways because they brought no joy. Recently, I have begun really asssessing what matters and what to stick with. It has made a huge difference. Good post.
I guess this make me wonder how do I get to real growth? It seems to me it starts with truly living out a life based on my authentic character. If I am living in any manner that is not authentic to who I am, then I am living a life based on others expectations.
I think that sometimes, it can be very difficult to identify if I am truly being authentic or not. I think it is one of those things that I have to constantly sit and reflect on... Of course too much sitting and reflecting can drive a man insane. But it is a question that needs to be looked at on a regular basis: Am I being authentic?
One of the scariest and liberating realizations that I have ever had is that if I am going to make the most of my life then I have to do it. I cannot blame fate, luck, chance, or anything else. I have to do it. When I first realized this it was scary because it also meant that I couldn't make any excuses.
I enjoyed this post. I'll check out your blog :)
Wow, what an inspiring post! The honesty that you speak with really hit me hard.
A few years ago, I was working at a job that I despised. I was overwhelmed, stressed out, and always working. I still remember that weekend when I had to pull over on the side of the road and I just broke down in tears because I was so overwhelmed at my job. It was at that point that I decided things had to change. Over the course of the next few years I made a plan to live and work internationally (which is something I had wanted to do since college).
I now live and work in Japan and am learning new things everyday. Like your story, without that time in my life of intense pain and anxiety I never would have had the strength nor the push to live and work in another country.
A great post! I am now going to go check out your website.
I think one of the challenges that many people face is first identifying that they are riding other people's waves. A few years ago, I was a teacher and I thought I was doing what i wanted with my life. I had plans to teach for a little then become a principal. After a few years through a series of events I discovered that I actually was riding someone elses wave. But this took me a whie to realize this.
I think in many cases people have no idea that they are riding anothers wave. It seems to be a rather intense process. First someone must realize they are riding another wave. Next, they must create a new wave. Then they have to have the guts to follow it. Finally, they got to stick with it.
I hope this does not appear that I am disagreeing with you. As I completely agree with everything you said. But to get to a place in ones life where they are capable of creating a new wave can be very complex.
What do you think?
You say it how it is! I knew inside my head that money was often used as an excuse but until you put it (rather bluntly) that the real issue is fear I never truly was able to put it into words.