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I get that whole "intimidating" thing too. I have no idea what's up with that especially because I'm so nice! At least you recognized the problem! Plenty of fish in the sea though =]

1 year ago on The Cost of Not Smiling

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Was it just me or did it seem like the video cut off mid conversation? Anywho this was a hard one.. I'm not quite sure what I would say to this woman either.

1 year, 2 months ago on QOTW: “Should a Woman Ever Play Down Her Accomplishments to Attract a Man?”

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I think arguing is fun as long as its not hurtful and the makeup is even better! So yes you have your opinion and he has his...thats it. Leave it at that. I just learned to let things be no point in being angry for an extended amount of time about it. If you're STILL mad later go back and have the conversation again once you guys have cooled off?

1 year, 3 months ago on Question of the Week: Swirling and Racially Charged Subjects.

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I loved this post!

1 year, 4 months ago on Aye Papi............One Woman's Love Affair With Latino Men

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I always loved summer! I find that I always end up with a natural golden glow to my skin and its because the sun bleaches the tiny hairs on my body. That plus my extreme tan = a happy Asia =]

1 year, 4 months ago on It's Summer, So Let it GLOW! (Your Skin, That Is) Four Products to Bronze Your Body.

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I loved this! I want more Tracy make more vids =]

1 year, 4 months ago on Come Hither 101: Tracy Renee Jones Schools Us On How to Enchant the Opposite Sex!

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That's so funny you two brought that up! My ex boyfriend after dating me has like black girl vision or something. His other friends and I now joke that if he's in a room full of people he will somehow find the one black girl there. He loves us now ladies I'm not sure what happened but yeah its cute. He's also noted that somehow black women know that he dates black women. This has him baffled I however think it's just because he notices them now.

1 year, 4 months ago on Matthew Hussey and I Talk "Interracial Awakenings," Part I

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 @LemonCrush My friend does that all the time! She doesn't think the guy is attractive but she talks to him anyway. Oh well hes funny or blah blah. I on the other hand refuse to date a guy I don't find attractive physically. What is the point in that?! She tells me I'm too picky/ shallow. It's just the truth I don't want to waste my time on someone I don't want to sleep with. Guys do it whats wrong with me doing the same?

1 year, 5 months ago on Lead, Follow, or Get Out of the Way: BB&W Is NOT Just a Swirling Club.

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 @Infinity88 It was so obvious when they started to use black models. As in hiring them ( because that's what they call the sales people). I have yet to see a black model on those huge pictures they post in the front of the store. Again I'm not surprised one bit by his comment because we all know that's what other stores are saying in their meetings and such. But you're right he could had tried to take the healthy lifestyle road.

1 year, 5 months ago on Abercrombie’s CEO Michael Jeffries Created a Public Relations Disaster When He Decided to Diss Fat People | Beyond Black & White

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I don't shop there particularly because I never see black models displayed in the stores. This only makes me avoid the place even further. I'll admit I've been tempted by Hollister's jeans (they make really nice ones) but again they are sister stores so I avoid.

1 year, 5 months ago on Abercrombie’s CEO Michael Jeffries Created a Public Relations Disaster When He Decided to Diss Fat People | Beyond Black & White

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Of course not! That was easy.

1 year, 5 months ago on Why Not Give a Guy in Prison a Chance?

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I feel like this shouldn't need to be reiterated but not ALL men like thin women. Some men like bigger women and that is OKAY. It just so happens that this particular guy likes thin women. He is entitled to that however I don't think anyone should ever change for someone else. If bigger women want to slim down then that's fine but they need to do it for themselves because at the end of the day they are the ones living in their body. Now why didn't he go to another website? Or perhaps get off the internet and go out into the world to find woman? I think he needed to clarify a bit more in his letter. Men SIMILAR to him who are fit nuts MAY be more inclined to go after women who also value being slim and healthy. Those thicker women don't need to slim down for him. He just needs to say thanks for your interest but no thanks.

1 year, 6 months ago on A White Guy's Honest Opinion About Black Women...and Their Weight.

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I like what I read so far. It would be a fun read.

1 year, 6 months ago on Weekend Read: Excerpts of Matthew Hussey's Upcoming "Get the Guy" Book!

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The mother shouldn't be jumping down the girlfriends throat. Obviously they come from different cultures, so mom should had calmly stated that in their culture this is what potential wives do. On the other hand as a guest in someone else's home the girlfriend should be volunteering to do dishes and cook SOMETIMES. She can't just stay there and never clean the bathroom or kitchen... she uses those areas doesn't she? I think they all need to sit down and talk through everything.

1 year, 9 months ago on Asian Guy Gets Serious with His Black Girlfriend, Mom's Response Stuns Him.

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 @DUsher  @JennMJack But even though they focused solely on Django I don't think a few more scenes of Hildy would had completely taken the focus off him. I feel like there was a big todo about her being in the movie but she hardly said or did a peep. Jen mentioned alot of her scenes got cut so maybe that is the cause.

1 year, 9 months ago on Spike Lee, Tyler Perry, and Quentin Tarantino: Why the White Guy's 'Django' Did it Right for Right Now

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 @JennMJack  @DUsher I also thought she could of been more involved. Maybe see how she interacted with the other slaves and candy? Or maybe we could had seen her escape attempts? I mean a three hour movie they could had gone back and forth between the two's efforts?

1 year, 10 months ago on Spike Lee, Tyler Perry, and Quentin Tarantino: Why the White Guy's 'Django' Did it Right for Right Now

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 @jakethewrestler I feel like there were a ton of other much more positive dances and actions she could had done upon winning. Why she choose to promote that kind of behavior, I don't understand.

1 year, 10 months ago on Serena Williams Caricatured By a White 'Friend.' Was Her Response Appropriate?

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I was very upset when I learned of Serena's crip walk after winning. Anywho she just needs to kick her butt if they ever get a chance to play against one another.

1 year, 10 months ago on Serena Williams Caricatured By a White 'Friend.' Was Her Response Appropriate?

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What exactly are they getting a pass with? Like not having a job or not wanting commitment or something? There are things I look for when I'm deciding to date someone or not regardless of color. He has to have a job, car, be in school or done with it already, and depending certain things his own place. Along with of course the obvious nice funny, and smart.

1 year, 10 months ago on The "White Guy Pass": Does It Exist?

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 @oneofthegirls  @VictoriaAntoine I think the reason we aren't first choice to black men is because they like to believe all these silly stereotypes about black women. I can't tell how many times I've heard black men young ones anyway talking about how they don't date black women. Because we're this that and the other. They need to realize they're talking about their mothers, sisters and other family members. But I don't want a man who is narrow minded enough to believe an entire group of women behaves a certain way. I deserve someone with more common sense! Preferably a Christian Bale look alike.=]

1 year, 10 months ago on Why Are These Bitter Chicks Hating On Michael Ealy Because He Married a Non-Black Woman? Oh. I Know.

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Its funny this question has come up on here because I took an ethnic studies course at school and my professor ( a white french man married to a black woman) asked us to write a paper answering this. Particularly whether we felt we were first and foremost our race and then gender or the other way around? When i wrote my paper I felt that I am black first and then a woman. However now a few years later I think about it and I am certain it's the other way around. I am a woman first and then my race comes second.

1 year, 10 months ago on Poll: Which are You, "Black Woman" First, or "Woman" First, "Black" Second?

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This was an interesting read however I'm always skeptical of these studies. I mean where exactly did they find these men? Location is important. I noticed it said men of all ages but how many men of each age bracket? I don't know like I said I find them interesting to read but I'm not about to change up my life over it.

1 year, 10 months ago on Examining the Trend: The REAL Reasons Why Black Women and White Men Are Not Hooking Up

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Great post! Now is the time for people to really start taking a look at our gun policies. These incidents are just becoming far too common place. Multiples incidents in 2012 alone honestly? Maybe we can't undoubtedly prevent these "crazies" from getting guns but we can sure as heck make it a lot harder. I'd rather we did something than nothing. I'm willing to bet if these guns weren't readily available in their homes, these shootings wouldn't had happened. Hello it's so easy to get an underground gun because guns are legal! Make them illegal = making it harder to obtain on the black market!

1 year, 10 months ago on The Next Time Someone Says Newtown Is Not a Political Issue, Ask Them if the Sky is Blue...

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 @LaFemmeSphinx Well yes it seems all you can do is stay positive. It's really unfortunate that is how people view black women there. But you never know maybe you'll stumble upon someone wiser!

1 year, 10 months ago on New Study Reveals Black Women Viewed as "Masculine;" Asian Men Sterotyped "Feminine." How This Affects Swirling.

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 @LaFemmeSphinx In Swirling Christelyn and Janice make it very apparent that location is very important. It may be hard but maybe you should try moving somewhere more "black woman friendly"? Or maybe you should stop worrying about it so much. Maybe you're paying too much attention to your friend getting hit on that you're missing the eyes other men in the room are giving you?

1 year, 10 months ago on New Study Reveals Black Women Viewed as "Masculine;" Asian Men Sterotyped "Feminine." How This Affects Swirling.

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I also just thought I'd add look how the media portrays the "sex talk" the parents get all weirded out the kids try and run off like it's gross to talk about that with their parents. Even Twilight there is a scene with Bella and Charlie and he hints around as to whether or not shes "being safe" and Bella runs upstairs. Sorry but no the media complains about teen pregnancy the they run and send mixed signals. They should depict these characters as being comfortable talking about this stuff.

1 year, 11 months ago on Would You Give 'Plan B' To Your Daughter?

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As a young adult 21 about to be 22 in two weeks yay!! I think more parents need to be open and willing to talk to their children about sex. The truth is if people didn't make it seem so awkward to talk about it with parents young people would be more willing to do it and even if it seems like they aren't listening keep talking anyway. I watched so many girls in high school get pregnant and all I could think is where are their parents? Maybe their parents did talk to them about it. Maybe these kids were too embarrassed to go buy condoms? Maybe they weren't ready to admit to their parents they were having sex and that they should be put on birth control? Maybe just maybe if most people didn't make it so awkward to talk to their parents about it they would had been on birth control and we wouldn't be worrying about Plan B. I think a lot of it is that they just weren't communicating enough with their parents.

1 year, 11 months ago on Would You Give 'Plan B' To Your Daughter?

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I've been wanting to study abroad for a LONG time. However somewhere along the way I just kept getting sidetracked with life. This article is fabulous and I feel has given be a big push to just do it. Thank you for writing this!

1 year, 11 months ago on Want to Get Your Degree Overseas -- for Free?

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I would had loved to go to this! It makes me think of my exboyfriend's niece. They're both white, the little girl is three now. When she first started noticing that I was a different color it started off as her seeing black women on the street and thinking it was me. And her mom would say no that's not Asia. She's in preschool now and somewhere along the way shes learned who's black and white. She says hes black shes white I'm white and she's describing her family members which she considers me part of her family and she then says he's black but Asia is white. And when they told me this I thought how odd that she would think that. I'm not considered "light skinned" so I don't know why she would be confused about this? Anywho I want to see this movie!

1 year, 11 months ago on Film and Panel Discussion: "The Souls of Black Girls"

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WOW I'm really shocked! I wish I could had seen that Thanksgiving dinner ! Why bother with a sperm donor when you have super hot Gabriel to give to you?

1 year, 11 months ago on Halle Berry's Ex Goes HAM on Turkey Day; Olivier Martinez Kicks His Ass, Makes Citizen's Arrest

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 @Oaktown Paul   you are so right it's the whole honesty thing. People have a hard time being honest.  I also think you are right that women need to make sure their partner knows and fully understands that we want honesty even if it is painful. It sounds obvious but I think a lot of people don't really talk about it.

1 year, 11 months ago on Thoughtful Response to Last Week's Holly Patraeus Post

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I'm so glad I get another chance to say what I was thinking about all of this! I couldn't understand why everyone was blaming her and being mean to Holly either. Maybe she doesn't look "hot" anymore but that does not give him the right to cheat on her. Why cheat when you can just leave the person? I say this time and time again. If her appearance really was an issue for him, he should had sat her down and talked with her about it. That way they could had compromised. I don't know the details of their marriage but I feel that would had been the best course of action rather than cheating.

1 year, 11 months ago on Thoughtful Response to Last Week's Holly Patraeus Post

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I'm not shocked but saddened by this. It's sad that this is happening. More people need to try this and as Christelyn says call out these companies!

1 year, 11 months ago on Would You "Pass As White" Online to Get a Job?

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 @NewMaya3 I don't think that is true. Maybe a lot of black men have thought of being with a white women before but to group them all together and say that they all have that dream is unfair. Not only that but the script could easily be flipped and it could be said that black women are every non black mans dream. I don't think most people want to be someones fetish/ fantasy. Even if he did want to do scenes with white women who cares he is allowed to want that. Its not like he ONLY wanted to do scenes with them.

1 year, 11 months ago on While Promoting 'Flight,' the REAL Reason Denzel Washington Avoided On-Screen Romances With White Women Is Revealed

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 @somethingdifferent22 I know!! I find myself trying not to be too extreme. But often I want to go and talk with them but I stop myself.

1 year, 11 months ago on EarthJeff: Swirling on Planet Earth Part IV, “The Look”

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I too enjoy getting the look. I find it fascinating and I often wonder why they feel the need to give these looks or what their experiences have been like for them to feel that they need to give a look. I also make it a point to smile brightly at other interracial couples especially bwwm. Whenever I do see them there is just this understanding that transpires between us. =]

1 year, 11 months ago on EarthJeff: Swirling on Planet Earth Part IV, “The Look”

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I also was not impressed with him. They didn't seem like a real couple they didn't hold hands or anything and I found that strange. I got the feeling she was more so into him than he was into her which only made me feel a bit sorry for her. Not to mention some of the things he was saying were off. Just because you have a black friend or black partner doesn't automatically exclude you from being racist.

2 years ago on Watch this Short, Award-Winning Film on Interracial Relationships in Germany: Schwarz Weiss Deutsch

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My mother is quite feminine so naturally I grew up with quite a few of her ideals. Of course when I got older I picked and chose which suited me and what I believed. She's also very " old fashioned" in my book. I love wearing dresses now and I think that is because she made me wear them when I was younger. I happily obliged, she even jokes about when I would wear a dress I wouldn't go out and play with my brothers because I Didn't want it to get dirty nor did I want people to see my undies that was unlady like according to her. She always wanted me to wear makeup and I didn't start until recently. She would always tell me and my brothers that they weren't aloud to hit girls not just people in general but don't hit girls. Once I got into like 5th grade she didn't like me hanging out with my friend from down the street because he was a boy so we had to go our separate ways. It was okay for me to cry but not my brothers. She would always tell them to "stop all that crying!". So for me she's kind of like the extreme form of femininity. There are other examples I just can't think of them right now! =P

2 years ago on Black Femininity: Who Decides What?

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 @amiar10 Just as a side note I can't stand big mama's house or the Tyler Perry "Madea" movies. I live in an area where there aren't very many black people most of them reside a few cities over. One of the main malls in the area is in the city I'm near. So whenever I see a lot of us in the mall I know it's because a Tyler Perry movie has just come out. I can't understand why so many black women willingly go watch that junk!

2 years ago on Mammy, the Mule and Equally Yoked: Observations of Black Female Gender Identity

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 @amiar10 I LOVE watching movies and I feel the exact same way you do. It irritates me that all these cool movies never have black female lead characters. I talk about this fairly regularly with friends and family. Then i wonder well what can I do about this? Refuse to watch movies that don't have appealing roles featuring black women or black people in general? I tried that and it didn't last long. =/

2 years ago on Mammy, the Mule and Equally Yoked: Observations of Black Female Gender Identity

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Aww that was so cute! I enjoy reading your stories and thoughts. Keep it up!

2 years ago on EarthJeff: Swirling on Planet Earth Part 2 "The First Date"

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 @jillodelight I've watched JAYLOVE's videos too at first I'm thinking okay yeah he gets it! The next second I'm like wait what did he just say? Oh never mind he doesn't get it LOL. I find that he tries to out black men who have color issues with black women. In all honesty I happen to find those vids humorous.

2 years ago on "It's Cool If You Date White Men, But....": Why is the GAT-DL Trying to Regulate Black Woman Who Date Interracially?

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Yay I'm so excited for her!! Issa's awesome! I hate LA dudes is funny too

2 years ago on Issa Rae is Doing Her THANG! Shonda Rhimes Brokers Deal with ABC.

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They are beautiful!

2 years, 1 month ago on Will You Be in New York to See the Work of Njideka Akunyili?

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 @eugeniaberg   @Karla I saw that. I was disgusted when I saw that another way for men to take advantage of women back then.

2 years, 1 month ago on Does Good Sex Matter...and If So How Much?

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 @Toni_M  @Jamila It irritates me that the white woman is the default and somehow we are all suppose to be okay with that!? Oh Canada =S

2 years, 1 month ago on So Much for Multiculturalism, Canadians Say 'No' to An "Asian-looking" Woman Appearing On Their Currency

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In all honesty if I had seen an Asian woman behind the microscope I would think they were stereotyping and I would not had been happy with that either.

2 years, 1 month ago on So Much for Multiculturalism, Canadians Say 'No' to An "Asian-looking" Woman Appearing On Their Currency

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 @VintageNarcissa Yeah I know I read one of your stories actually yours was the first I read on there. It was a challenge You responded to. I know I enjoyed it! And I will  check out sweetest taboo =]

2 years, 1 month ago on VintageNarcissa: An Example of the Future of Our Family Trees?

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 Btw VintageNarcissa I know this is totally off subject but I must thank you for mentioning The Chamber here. Ever since that day I saw you write about it I've been hooked! I check everyday for updates to my fav stories. Not to mention the fact that the main characters are all black women makes the stories so much better.

2 years, 1 month ago on VintageNarcissa: An Example of the Future of Our Family Trees?

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