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@trinigirl1 ..and not a day goes by, that i hear non blacks bring up the MLK streets looking like a mess.....these black men aren't fooling ANYBODY.. and its just too sad......especially when it could have been changed for the better in the late 1980's.

now, when other groups come here and outdo many blacks--set up businesses, etc.

10 hours, 45 minutes ago on Why Are “Struggle Discussions” Always More Important Than Anything Else?

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@PaoloP @zipporah @Christelyn  @Ri74 WOW... you are a 'good man' PaoloP, and i think just because you let them go first, GOD allowed your finger to heal

as far as my bro in law, this happened about 15 years ago.... bu... yeah.. you are careful...

@;^D

10 hours, 57 minutes ago on Once Again, Main Stream Media Awards Black Dysfunction, and You LOVE It!!

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@jazzyfae45 it true! you are starting to see many BM bringing up to NOT MARRY OUT... because they are seeing many of these WM providing for these BW

it only seemed like after 2006 that this started

12 hours, 13 minutes ago on Why Are “Struggle Discussions” Always More Important Than Anything Else?

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@onmywayup @Aquagirl1 @thecrazyartist @PoetOfDarkness @blackvalkyrie there IS a phenomenon though....the WM could be 'anti asian' pro white but don't want Miss Blondie who MIGHT put them down

12 hours, 17 minutes ago on Why Are “Struggle Discussions” Always More Important Than Anything Else?

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@PaoloP @Christelyn  @Ri74 WOW.. be careful with that TABLE SAW.. my bro in law just sliced off the tips of his fingers.....(i love it when MEN use tools though)

12 hours, 42 minutes ago on Once Again, Main Stream Media Awards Black Dysfunction, and You LOVE It!!

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@zimekcyn blackface and minstrel shows? remember the cartoons? and people used to make up excuses until the late 1960's about it

12 hours, 44 minutes ago on Once Again, Main Stream Media Awards Black Dysfunction, and You LOVE It!!

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@Canola_Q "entertainment"? like c/RAP was entertainment in the late 80's? and didn't know how bad it would be for our kids LATER.. and now in 2015, its LATER

12 hours, 45 minutes ago on Once Again, Main Stream Media Awards Black Dysfunction, and You LOVE It!!

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@Brenda55 could it be, because she NEVER GOT MARRIED? and is being passive/aggressive about it?

--just sayin'--

12 hours, 46 minutes ago on Once Again, Main Stream Media Awards Black Dysfunction, and You LOVE It!!

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@StarStroy i will NEVER WATCH EMPIRE or even BLACKISH... i rather do quilting, play keyboards, or do crosswords...LOL

and GUY with the 27? kids, the WHOLE WORLD is watching this NONSENSE.. and looking at black americans like we are ALL LIKE THIS....even THEY know, a man can't raise this many kids, and most cannot because the women wouldn't allow it

12 hours, 47 minutes ago on Once Again, Main Stream Media Awards Black Dysfunction, and You LOVE It!!

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@trinigirl1 i happen to like the old movies from TCM--and the old movies from the 1960's 

really NOTHING ELSE.. and 

there are SOME BLACK MEN complaining about these shows, but simply NOT ENOUGH...5723michael with all of his faults is one of the complainers, and even using derogatory words to try to get BM to DO SOMETHING about it--(shaming)

12 hours, 50 minutes ago on Once Again, Main Stream Media Awards Black Dysfunction, and You LOVE It!!

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i'm also noticing some silly WM acting like some HOTEP type BM saying this is 'breeding out the race' 

its really funny, since most people marry don't usually interracially marry as a rule.... but they are so scaaarrrred....LOL

12 hours, 53 minutes ago on Advertisers Take Notice at Rise in Multicultural Families

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@StarStroy women ARE slicker than men 'AS A RULE'....LOL, and WW do see that WM/BW marriages tend to LAST.. also, as a rule, many BW wont try to put WM in the street by making him pay oodles of Child Support and not allowing him to see his kids (this could be a reason why AW are the next thing)

it also could be a reason why many BM are finding places where BW fight and putting it on WSHH.. TO MAKE US LOOK BAD FOR MARRIAGE PROSPECTS...

1 day, 12 hours ago on Why Are “Struggle Discussions” Always More Important Than Anything Else?

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@SirLoinDeBeef @Brenda55 @Vivaforever ..no longer is RIGHT.. too many young women need to be DUMPING the crazier sides of FEMINISM or else they wont be able to find adequate dates, for choices of marriage--

i'm really seeing this with the 20-35 year olds (some guys of those ages, weren't raised with their fathers and have a 'feminine vibe' especially BM & WM).... and once upon a time, most women were married by 27, and 30 was almost 'too old'

2 days, 8 hours ago on Has Feminism Killed Our Marriage Prospects? Controversial Author Says It Has.

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@MGTOW the MGTOW movement..i mean

although there are some horrible women taking advantage of the 'system' but that is not what we are talking about here.

2 days, 11 hours ago on Has Feminism Killed Our Marriage Prospects? Controversial Author Says It Has.

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@MGTOW I ACTUALLY think its a FAD.. ESPECIALLY when men find out they are going to be ALOOOONE when they are older, with no female interaction on an intimate level

because you see, both women and men NEED EACH OTHER.. or there would be no future

2 days, 11 hours ago on Has Feminism Killed Our Marriage Prospects? Controversial Author Says It Has.

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@Vivaforever perhaps the BW with her non BM boyfriend is thinking of the 'future' since her sons, if she had them would look black or at least half black.. 

still, its time for BW to stop doing this--we are all for ourselves, and whomever you marry, you take HIS LAST NAME.

he doesn't take YOURS

2 days, 11 hours ago on Why Are “Struggle Discussions” Always More Important Than Anything Else?

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@Vivaforever perhaps, its the 'ability to compartmentalize'  which be the 'key' why BM are able to do this

since they are men and men have more ability to do that..... so, they don't have to stay around for the 'struggle' when BW feel like they have to take care of people--with a nurturing spirit

its time for them/us to let it GO.. 

2 days, 11 hours ago on Why Are “Struggle Discussions” Always More Important Than Anything Else?

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@nyaw ..and sometimes, your career, just might be your HOME,,LOL, ...IF you meet the right man.

some women want to homeschool after they have kids.....(lots of work) but it pays off later.

3 days, 10 hours ago on Has Feminism Killed Our Marriage Prospects? Controversial Author Says It Has.

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@Canola_Q i'm so sorry this happened to you, but even today, many girls OFFER TO LIVE AND SLEEP with their boyfriends hoping it will lead to marriage BUT IT DOESN'T

there is a book out called THE RING MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE by Glenn T. Stanton

3 days, 12 hours ago on Has Feminism Killed Our Marriage Prospects? Controversial Author Says It Has.

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@Leille basically, the radical feminist talk is 'NOT NEEDING A MAN" when in fact they actually NEED US......and most men actually used to get women

NOW they see so many of us, just like this article giving ourselves away for nothing; and not all birth control is 100% accurate

3 days, 13 hours ago on Has Feminism Killed Our Marriage Prospects? Controversial Author Says It Has.

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@Leille I have been told this back in the LATE 1980's about radical feminism... and how some of these idiot males started to act by putting foul language in their music

also its possible that the SONY WALKMAN may have had  a part in that one--by listening to foul language music while GRANDMA and GRANDPA couldn't hear you...

if you had a stereo with 33 1/3 records (even disco records were 33 1/3) the older generation would tell you NOT IN MY HOUSE.. etc.

3 days, 13 hours ago on Has Feminism Killed Our Marriage Prospects? Controversial Author Says It Has.

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@Leille perhaps, but its the radical feminism who LED to this generation, since the ones who are 35 were born in 1980.

when i was younger and didn't see that many kids, i've noticed that too many moms started NOT TO WANT TO be around their children at young ages...

they would have been 'luckier' if they had grandparents to be close to--but many didn't and let their kids grow up in daycare (remember this is from 1980 forward)

3 days, 14 hours ago on Has Feminism Killed Our Marriage Prospects? Controversial Author Says It Has.

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@oceanspray well, President Eisenhower( through his moms side) got away with this.. if you really look at him, he looks black..LOL

6 days, 10 hours ago on Totally Awkward Conversation with Jay Smooth Challenges Who Has the “Right” to Be ‘Black’

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@PaoloP i think, its because women want to try something NEW.. although this 'may' be healthier than STARVING.. similar to KAREN CARPENTER... (before her, very few women knew of anorexia) and now many women are having anorexia

6 days, 14 hours ago on Corsets and Waist Training…So It’s Really a Thing?

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@The Working Home Keeper i think these would be good for women who just had a baby, as soon as they are able to wear one, should

i remember seeing this hair dresser that said something about 'binding' right after you had a baby, but i didn't understand what she meant---if she mentioned CORSETTING.. i probably would but back in 1995, they were non existent

6 days, 14 hours ago on Corsets and Waist Training…So It’s Really a Thing?

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@SavannahPost @miami2ibiza2121 ..also BW having more degrees that other women, could give off that 'STRONG BLACK WOMAN vibe....

6 days, 14 hours ago on QOTW: “Should I Continue Dating Someone Who Might Be Racist?”

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@SavannahPost @miami2ibiza2121 ..although its true that BW get more degrees, the BM do NOT.. and that may be one of the problems... and anyone having degrees today is a leg up.......

it also depends on what you get degrees in--IF its STEMs, perhaps its ok, but many BM don't have those

6 days, 14 hours ago on QOTW: “Should I Continue Dating Someone Who Might Be Racist?”

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uh oh.,.,,,DAVID CARROLL has just filmed himself at a bookstore filming himself reading SWIRLING

if you go on 5723michael ON YOU TUBE.. you will see it..LOL

HE JUST BOUGHT SWIRLING!

1 week, 1 day ago on What? Starbucks Wants Baristas to Talk About Racism?

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@BWC @zipporah @lily ot valley @Christelyn  @Robin1 i guess the COUNTERPART are women who go into CRAFT STORES and buy fabric for quilts.etc..

THERE ARE some REALLY CUTE FABRICS!

@;^D

1 week, 3 days ago on How to Date an Alpha Male…Do You Have What It Takes?

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@onmywayup there is interracial pressure in other relationships besides black

my sis in laws were a little 'ashamed' of their grandparents picture because they had white husbands who were a little racist

the picture is of a SPANISH GENERAL and his dark skinned PHiLLIPINA wife---in the picture, she was 45 and pregnant with my mom in law

I actually helped them change their minds a little bit.. since i'm black.....one of the sis in laws is redhead with green eyes from my husbands OTHER grandfather..

1 week, 3 days ago on QOTW: “Should I Continue Dating Someone Who Might Be Racist?”

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@allie1231 @CornerStoreng ..but BM brought on the disrespect all by themselves on how BW were treated in the media for the last 35+ years or so...

with the 'n' word and calling women B**ches and hoez, etc.....

1 week, 3 days ago on QOTW: “Should I Continue Dating Someone Who Might Be Racist?”

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@PaoloP @Cami2210 @trinigirl1 @AnnieRUok LOL... a MEXICAN? PURE? since they themselves are a mixture of other things... perhaps if they are closer to SPANISH then they wouldn't be treated as weird...because they might be half anglo

real spanish looks closer to what a french person is than an aztecan

1 week, 3 days ago on QOTW: “Should I Continue Dating Someone Who Might Be Racist?”

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@jazzyfae45 i wouldn't even BRING UP CHILDREN without MARRIAGE FIRST

and if you don't marry him, don't have kids by him... or else they would be messed up royally

1 week, 3 days ago on QOTW: “Should I Continue Dating Someone Who Might Be Racist?”

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@lily ot valley @zipporah @Christelyn  @Robin1 that could be the case.. (i may have spoken too soon) because we didn't have this many betas in the culture at least until the late 1990s

being a computer nerd, is really not a beta, unless he has other problems


but i also noticed many times that some BW would 'overdress' more than WM or the ones i've known

the tennis shoe craze.. AKA jordans, could be single moms sons (2nd generation), as a whole because many men wouldn't pay that much for an article of clothing

they would rather buy 'tools' etc...

1 week, 4 days ago on How to Date an Alpha Male…Do You Have What It Takes?

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@SirLoinDeBeef @Chicago404 you also remind me of the guy from BIG FAT GREEK WEDDING.. since the GIRL had too much family, and the guy looked like he had two only parents and he was also an only

1 week, 4 days ago on New Study Points to Parent’s “Over Praise” as Narcissism Trigger

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@lily ot valley @zipporah @Christelyn  @Robin1 IN TACT FAMILIES are the KEY.. since many betas were raised only with women.. i guess, and that is the problem

1 week, 4 days ago on How to Date an Alpha Male…Do You Have What It Takes?

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@NYMan there is a 'male bashing' commercial that really bothers me from WALMART... for one thing, it shows a boy around 8 who tries to play baseball but breaks his glasses EVERY TIME.. and lastly, when the boy tackles his dad, the dad breaks HIS GLASSES with the boy and shows FEAR telling his wife.. i really don't think that is funny--they should showed the boy and his BROTHER instead of her HUSBAND with the 'boys will be boys', mess

i will not buy glasses from WALMART

1 week, 4 days ago on How to Date an Alpha Male…Do You Have What It Takes?

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@The Working Home Keeper ..but you looking FEMININE at all times... actually helps him lead.. maybe times its all in how the women 'dress'

i remember how it was before the 1990s---it seemed like there were more alphas and betas to choose from in the 1980s

1 week, 4 days ago on How to Date an Alpha Male…Do You Have What It Takes?

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@MomofIV @Robin1 i have a feeling there are more negative type betas today.. BECAUSE women are acting 'alpha' by dress, and other things...

there are some good betas, my husband and I are both BETA types.. although he has been in ALPHA situations

1 week, 4 days ago on How to Date an Alpha Male…Do You Have What It Takes?

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@MomofIV WOW, i've seen you on other blogs.. welcome to BBW ....LOL

1 week, 4 days ago on How to Date an Alpha Male…Do You Have What It Takes?

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@Christelyn  @Robin1 ..and guys who know how to 'camp' with you and make it seem FUN.. know how to 'chop wood.. etc....(although i don't like  hunters)

the only thing with some of these activities, rock climbing, hiking car shows, even rodeos, there are FEW BM--the ones who are into stuff like this, are usually ones raised around WM

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@NYMan @zipporah @ladyofmagic1974 THEY MUST BE.. or else WHY is the black community in the SHAPE its in with  churches everywhere....

1 week, 6 days ago on New Study Points to Parent’s “Over Praise” as Narcissism Trigger

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@NYMan @ladyofmagic1974 this is why, IMO some of those big time BLACK CHURCHES aren't SOLID////and may have CHRISLAM or 'BLACK LIBERATION THEOLOGY' more than just having BIBLE...

1 week, 6 days ago on New Study Points to Parent’s “Over Praise” as Narcissism Trigger

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@friendswmimi sometimes at first grade, the child simply isn't developed yet... and are slightly dyslexic

many don't even do math well

sometimes, when they get into 3rd grade, they are still slow, when it comes to bookwork--but by 9 or 10 they could CATCH UP.. and later, they love to learn, learn how to learn WHICH IS NEEDED THESE DAYS with the INTERNET and do better than those in early elementary

1 week, 6 days ago on New Study Points to Parent’s “Over Praise” as Narcissism Trigger

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@PJDeanwriter @BellaVoce  i notice that usually those are 'nicknames' in the 'white community' except maybe Todd--Skip, Chip are like Jack---i also like 'one syllable' names with men as a rule,, or could shorten their names....

like MARK, BRAD, etc.. 

1 week, 6 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@giantrafflesia not all arab guys think the same..... but usually if they are arab, they are muslim--and you don't know what KIND of muslim he is either...

1 week, 6 days ago on Maybe Next Lifetime (My intercultural dating experience)

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@MySmile @onmywayup @thecrazyartist "white women are too spoiled and need, that is why l love black women"?

THE guy is a  DBR.. and think he will get 'help' from a BM to not let him 'man up' and take care of you.. and you are less than a WW..or he thinks it.. 

the way some of us act, like wanting to be 'too independent' and SAY IT.. doesn't show wisdom at times

hey MEN aren't independent either, because when a couple gets married, they get INTERDEPENDENT....

1 week, 6 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@indiestar777 @keimiasmoon true, especially when there are too many BW fighting their battles.. INSTEAD of letting the BM fight their own

but in the last 40 years, too many BM were NOT WITHIN families who were strong and together...MARRIED.etc

IT affected boys period, but blacks the worst

1 week, 6 days ago on Black Doctor Wants You To Know: “There are Good Black Men Out There.”

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@LCStrings @NYMan i wouldn't marry an 'atheist' as well... coming ALONE to church would be kind of hard, and the kids could a little confused

THE BOYS would be 'atheists' and the girls would follow mom to church, and repeat the same thing--if she couldn't find a christian

interracial and interfaith can be two different things

1 week, 6 days ago on Maybe Next Lifetime (My intercultural dating experience)

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