Recovering journalist. Sometime tech blogger. Lifelong sci-fi geek. Mommy. Bacon queen.
@PamMktgNut Absolutely, Pam - I think it was just a great lesson to learn from the circumstance. I've definitely thought through things in similar circumstances because I just hate it when I phrase things poorly. I thought @alisoncummings 's blog post was a great reminder of how we should think about what we're writing online.
What I want is some nice way to aggregate all comments in one spot - without having to add FB and G+ comments to my blog. I like having them with the post itself; always feel like the conversations add a value to the blog posts that you're not going to get if they're all somewhere else. But you're certainly not the first to consider removing them. :)
Thanks for commenting!
1 day, 7 hours ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Commenting on Blogs
Thanks so much for this post. What you're saying makes so much sense. I thought the study was an interesting tidbit, but was half, "Of course" (to anyone who's used the site more than a couple of times) and half, "But wait, what about...?"
2 days, 3 hours ago on Reddit Front page is not a Meritocracy…. or is it?
@LauraPetrolino @ginidietrich @Digital_DRK @belllindsay I have read the book more times than probably any other book. And the original short story that he expanded into the book. One of the best stories ever.
2 days, 9 hours ago on Anonymous Social Media: Why You Shouldn’t Participate
Yep. If you want it to be a secret, don't put it in writing. Period. I've seen all these examples of how people have been able to hack (whether true hacking or more in the lifehack realm) these secret-sharing sites and figure out who sent what messages.
@AdrienneSmith I appreciate your kind words, Adrienne! I guess the main thing is if we're more cognizant of how we come across, we can avoid some of the problems that crop up online. I've definitely experienced similar things.
5 days, 20 hours ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Commenting on Blogs
I *so* know what you mean about working to deadline. I'm right there with ya, and it's smacked me in the face like this more than once, too. Nice job at making silk out of sow's ears.
6 days, 9 hours ago on Bad Planning: A Cautionary Tale
1 week ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Commenting on Blogs
@alison Thank you for an excellent topic and for sharing your experience. I really appreciated how forthright you were in your post and how you sought to pull the positives from the experience. If more people were as thoughtful about their experiences as you, this Internet thing might be a more positive experience for all. ;)
@wordwhacker Not quite sure I understand exactly what you're saying. But I helped a friend at Popular Mechanics do it and there were no issues at all - she changed the name and renamed another account to the original name, and there was no lag. Once you change the name, it's changed.
If it's an account you really fear someone might snag the name for, you just have to have someone helping you to be ready to make the switch. The chance that someone will swoop in and take your name in those seconds between switching are rather slim.
2 weeks, 5 days ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Changing Your Twitter Handle
@missnicolina @ShellyKramer Thanks for sharing, ladies!
3 weeks, 3 days ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Using Photos You Didn’t Take
@Tinu Exactly, Tinu. If you mean what you say, there's so much less room for confusion and misinterpretation. Of course, there are those who assume you don't really mean what you say, but when you are genuine like that over time, people *do* realize it, and appreciate it.
And I know you are not a serial LOL-er, so I appreciate that very much. ;)
3 weeks, 3 days ago on I spent a day responding to Facebook posts with stickers
@Danny Brown Thanks, Danny! It really was a lot of fun. I was really surprised at the end of the day, though, with how differently I was thinking about communication. I'm *trying* to move forward with the lessons I learned. And your seal of approval means a lot.
But, sometimes, LOL or *facepalm* do express my feelings succinctly. ;)
@AdamPalmMe Of course. But if it were a post-feminist world, I wouldn't need to be a feminist. It's not, and that's why I am.
3 weeks, 5 days ago on I Don’t Want to Be a Feminist
@ginidietrich @AmyMccTobin Absolutely! I think it's the cobbler's son has no shoes thing. We work our hardest for others and our own kind of suffers at times. However, I think that also allows us to keep exercising our creative muscles - by being less methodical on our own things, we can sometimes stumble upon something we'd never have found otherwise.
Now go fix all those typos! ;)
4 weeks ago on How to Write a Compelling Headline
@ginidietrich @AmyMccTobin Since when would I tell people to lie in a headline????
This is actually pretty interesting stuff. I'd say, though, that it depends on your purposes. Obviously, a news site isn't going to have the time to do this , though it would be interesting if they did do it for longer projects they already were spending time on.
For my own stuff, though, I do still tend to fly by the seat of my pants.
@dcon34 I think the fact that we got knocked on our asses again with the economy woke a lot of us up up, you know?
1 month ago on Say It Loud, I’m Gen X and I’m Proud
I was also one of those who joined the Drama Guild but still never really felt like I fit in there. I worry for my boys sometimes, but also realize that all my experiences made me who I am today - and I wouldn't want to be anything other than who I am. And your lovely daughter has a lovely mother who will help shepherd her through the difficult times and blossom into her best self.
1 month ago on The Tale of the Mermaid Tail and Other Stories About Being Different
@ScooterLivingston Sometimes people are going through their own painful experience and can't deal with things. Maybe at some point, she'll be able to talk about what happened and why she did it.
Meanwhile, you are correct in that you're probably better off without her in your life.
1 month, 1 week ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Being Unfriended
@allenmireles An excellent point. I do think it's good to reach out to make sure that there hasn't been a misunderstanding. But sometimes people need to put distance between themselves and others they considered friends. It may not even have anything to do with anything they did. On the other hand, it may be completely "legitimate."
Fact is, no matter what, it's "legitimate" - it's how the person feels. And if they don't want to be friends with you, then you're not friends. Exception for Andy Samberg's character on Brooklyn Nine-Nine the other night, though. ;)
1 month, 2 weeks ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Being Unfriended
@3HatsComm Absolutely! Who's doing the asking is so key. Glad you found the post edifying!
1 month, 2 weeks ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Brain-Picking
@bobledrew Err, can I just take your word for it? ;)
@wordwhacker It seems to have just been magnified even more in the last two years. We all thought the last presidential election was nasty on social media. Sigh.
1 month, 3 weeks ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Commenting
@Sarterus @SocialMediaLaw1 Absolutely. It just proves it's all about protecting their fannies, and not about informing the users.
@bobledrew That blows my mind. Thank you!
@RonCallari Thanks, Ron! I really was tempted to just say, "Yes, just click 'I agree.'" But what lesson would I be teaching him then?
I watched this and it was really fantastic - and important.
1 month, 4 weeks ago on How To Become Internet Famous
@annelizhannan Well-said, Anneliz! I was very fortunate in that my parents always told me I could do whatever I wanted when I grew up. But, as both were public school teachers, they asked me to just not become a teacher. :)
2 months ago on Parents: are WE the real reason girls aren’t dominating STEM careers?
One thing I've noticed a lot with many of the top women in tech is that their fathers or mothers were in tech and encouraged their daughters. In my case, I emphasize all the time to my boys that pink is not a "girl's" color (they're not buying it, though - society's done a number on the color) and that there are no "boy" jobs and "girl" jobs.
@JillGoldworn Thanks! I thought @laniar's advice was terrific.
2 months ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Brain-Picking
@CarrieMorgan Exactly. The vetting of the person is the most important. And sometimes we're not the person this person really wants or needs to talk to anyway. Much better use of everyone's time if we know what is up ahead of time.
@laniar Absolutely, @laniar - I am on Emissary and Clarity, which allow you to coordinate paid consulting meetings. My signature says if you want to "pick my brain," to connect with me there. As a result, I virtually never turn down coffee meeting requests from folks, because they're friends, students or a person I've met and wanted to get to know better and we've been talking about catching up over coffee or drinks or something forEVer.
Completely agree. It's just as important to know when to ignore people who are saying nice things (sucking up) as it is to ignore people who are being negative. I learned a long time ago that if you're being true to yourself and not being disrespectful of others, who cares what other people think?
2 months ago on The Beautiful Freedom of Not Giving a Crap
I think there is still a place for personal blogging - but I totally relate to the difficulty of finding the time (even just emotionally finding the time). If your'e blogging for yourself and your own purposes, whether or not anyone responds shouldn't matter, though of course it still does. It's hard to blog out loud and be met with silence. Raising great questions.
2 months, 1 week ago on Is Personal Blogging Still Worth it in the Age of Content Marketing?
After reading both responses, @samfiorella & @RicDragon really aren't far apart. Sam accepts that there are cases where it would make sense, and it's similar to the cases Ric cites. I think, like anything, it's all in how you do it and how much you rely on it. Can it be a great tool? Sure. But can it lead you down the wrong path? Hells yeah.
2 months, 1 week ago on – Debate – Final Round <br />Crowdsourcing: Good or Evil?
@Tinu I do know people who accept any and all requests from anyone on any platform. I also know people who used to do that and then spent months cleaning up their accounts or unfriending everyone so they could start from scratch. It seems as if being a little pickier at the start might be an easier way of dealing with it.
2 months, 1 week ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Strangers
One of the things I found frustrating in the people who were pooh-poohing any security concerns was this fact - that even if these did not pose any security threats, people need to be more aware of the permissions they're giving. And just because a certain permission is needed to do something, it doesn't mean that's the only way it will or can be used.
I have chosen to give permissions to certain apps, some of which are due to my assessment of the company in question.
Also: Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean no one's out to get you. ;)
2 months, 1 week ago on Facebook to Fix Security Issue in iOS App
@Tinu That's the point. I tend to be much more low-key with charitable donations. And whatever charity it is, is worthwhile to those who donate.
2 months, 2 weeks ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of the Ice Bucket Challenge
@KathleenRoseAnnMaghie Absolutely. And I think the point from Pamela was more about how she knew of other charities that needed help far more at the moment. All of them have a long way to go, for sure.
@Tinu Oh! I love Continuum.
I think your'e absolutely right, though - the biggest issue is educating ourselves, and others when we're able. But I think that the companies who serve as stewards for this information also owe us some sort of guarantees - in plain English - on what liberties they're taking with our information.
Thanks for reading!
2 months, 2 weeks ago on Privacy vs Progress: Can they co-exist in the information age?
@aryl First, I just wanted to note that Livefyre didn't post your comment and I went to check my dashboard today and saw it unapproved, and just approved it, so that you know that I wasn't so thin-skinned that I wouldn't post your comment.
Second, I do understand they're emoticons. I like FB stickers and use them a lot as emoticons. I especially enjoy the Despicable Me stickers.
I'm not insulted by facts. I like facts. In fact, I agree that the Internet is mostly for porn and cats. When I talk to a class at Baruch about the Internet, I point out that porn is the most popular thing on the Internet. I also bring up cats.
So, there's that.
I'm not going to respond to everything, point by point, because you have your viewpoint, and I have mine. I'm not going to change your opinion, and you're not going to change mine, in a comment exchange on a blog.
I will take you at your word that you signed the comment with love, and appreciate that you actually took the time to read my post and comment on it - the length of your comment shows how much it actually meant to you to respond, so at least I provoked some thought, which is more than most things on the Internet do, no?
2 months, 3 weeks ago on Gender roles, or a tale of two Facebook stickers
@SearchDecoder Thanks, Matt! I really am torn between loving the technological advances and being concerned about privacy issues. I am not concerned about the privacy for myself, but as a society, it's not unimportant. But I'll take a way to pay for things via thumbprint or retina scan. :)
2 months, 3 weeks ago on Privacy vs Progress: Can they co-exist in the information age?
@subatomicdoc I think the medical setting is one of the most important areas for privacy to remain. Other areas are not nearly as important (with some exceptions). However, I think, as you note, the most important issue is people being cognizant of who has their data and how it's being used. I will have to check out Brin's book, thanks!
@kamichat True, Kami. So I can put you down for #TeamOptimism? :)
@aryl As I noted in the post, it was an observation, and I recognize it isn't, in and of itself, earth-shattering.
@SharonTurcotte I originally wrote the post when Hacker Boy came out. It and Mobile Girl came out at the same time. Hacker Girl wasn't in the sticker store yet. I updated it after Hacker Girl showed up in the store.
@DavidBarton While you do raise some good points, David - including the entire newsjacking of newsjacking of newsjacking question - this is a blog about PR for PR professionals. And Edelman is a PR firm. This is a post targeted at people who practice public relations, and this was an excellent example of what not to do.
That said, I don't really disagree with most of what you're saying. :)
3 months, 1 week ago on Newsjacking Tragedy
@Joe Loomer Thank you for reading, Joe! I appreciate Benn's perspective so much, especially as the mother of two boys.
3 months, 1 week ago on Raising the Next Generation of Women in a #YesAllWomen World
@Howie Goldfarb I am honored to have been the person to teach you to facepalm properly, Howie.
Also, that paragraph is worth a DOUBLE facepalm, at least. :)
3 months, 1 week ago on PR is More than Media Relations
I saw something today where a venue was trying to bill a bride $500 apiece for bad reviews left by guests at her wedding - deducting it from the safety deposit. How about these businesses spend the time and energy making their businesses worth giving good reviews to?
I can't believe I'm linking to the NY Post, but: http://pagesix.com/2014/08/04/hotel-charges-500-for-every-bad-review-posted-online/
3 months, 2 weeks ago on Are We In Danger of Losing the Right to an Opinion?
@storageDiva Thank you. It was one of the prouder moments of my life, actually. Sadly enough. :)
3 months, 2 weeks ago on Street Harassment, or a Tale of Every Woman