Recovering journalist. Sometime tech blogger. Lifelong sci-fi geek. Mommy. Bacon queen.
@dcon34 I think the fact that we got knocked on our asses again with the economy woke a lot of us up up, you know?
5 days, 4 hours ago on Say It Loud, I’m Gen X and I’m Proud
I was also one of those who joined the Drama Guild but still never really felt like I fit in there. I worry for my boys sometimes, but also realize that all my experiences made me who I am today - and I wouldn't want to be anything other than who I am. And your lovely daughter has a lovely mother who will help shepherd her through the difficult times and blossom into her best self.
6 days, 8 hours ago on The Tale of the Mermaid Tail and Other Stories About Being Different
@ScooterLivingston Sometimes people are going through their own painful experience and can't deal with things. Maybe at some point, she'll be able to talk about what happened and why she did it.
Meanwhile, you are correct in that you're probably better off without her in your life.
2 weeks ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Being Unfriended
@allenmireles An excellent point. I do think it's good to reach out to make sure that there hasn't been a misunderstanding. But sometimes people need to put distance between themselves and others they considered friends. It may not even have anything to do with anything they did. On the other hand, it may be completely "legitimate."
Fact is, no matter what, it's "legitimate" - it's how the person feels. And if they don't want to be friends with you, then you're not friends. Exception for Andy Samberg's character on Brooklyn Nine-Nine the other night, though. ;)
2 weeks, 2 days ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Being Unfriended
@3HatsComm Absolutely! Who's doing the asking is so key. Glad you found the post edifying!
2 weeks, 5 days ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Brain-Picking
@bobledrew Err, can I just take your word for it? ;)
@wordwhacker It seems to have just been magnified even more in the last two years. We all thought the last presidential election was nasty on social media. Sigh.
3 weeks, 2 days ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Commenting
@Sarterus @SocialMediaLaw1 Absolutely. It just proves it's all about protecting their fannies, and not about informing the users.
@bobledrew That blows my mind. Thank you!
@RonCallari Thanks, Ron! I really was tempted to just say, "Yes, just click 'I agree.'" But what lesson would I be teaching him then?
I watched this and it was really fantastic - and important.
1 month ago on How To Become Internet Famous
@annelizhannan Well-said, Anneliz! I was very fortunate in that my parents always told me I could do whatever I wanted when I grew up. But, as both were public school teachers, they asked me to just not become a teacher. :)
1 month ago on Parents: are WE the real reason girls aren’t dominating STEM careers?
One thing I've noticed a lot with many of the top women in tech is that their fathers or mothers were in tech and encouraged their daughters. In my case, I emphasize all the time to my boys that pink is not a "girl's" color (they're not buying it, though - society's done a number on the color) and that there are no "boy" jobs and "girl" jobs.
@JillGoldworn Thanks! I thought @laniar's advice was terrific.
1 month ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Brain-Picking
@CarrieMorgan Exactly. The vetting of the person is the most important. And sometimes we're not the person this person really wants or needs to talk to anyway. Much better use of everyone's time if we know what is up ahead of time.
@laniar Absolutely, @laniar - I am on Emissary and Clarity, which allow you to coordinate paid consulting meetings. My signature says if you want to "pick my brain," to connect with me there. As a result, I virtually never turn down coffee meeting requests from folks, because they're friends, students or a person I've met and wanted to get to know better and we've been talking about catching up over coffee or drinks or something forEVer.
Completely agree. It's just as important to know when to ignore people who are saying nice things (sucking up) as it is to ignore people who are being negative. I learned a long time ago that if you're being true to yourself and not being disrespectful of others, who cares what other people think?
1 month ago on The Beautiful Freedom of Not Giving a Crap
I think there is still a place for personal blogging - but I totally relate to the difficulty of finding the time (even just emotionally finding the time). If your'e blogging for yourself and your own purposes, whether or not anyone responds shouldn't matter, though of course it still does. It's hard to blog out loud and be met with silence. Raising great questions.
1 month, 1 week ago on Is Personal Blogging Still Worth it in the Age of Content Marketing?
After reading both responses, @samfiorella & @RicDragon really aren't far apart. Sam accepts that there are cases where it would make sense, and it's similar to the cases Ric cites. I think, like anything, it's all in how you do it and how much you rely on it. Can it be a great tool? Sure. But can it lead you down the wrong path? Hells yeah.
1 month, 1 week ago on – Debate – Final Round <br />Crowdsourcing: Good or Evil?
@Tinu I do know people who accept any and all requests from anyone on any platform. I also know people who used to do that and then spent months cleaning up their accounts or unfriending everyone so they could start from scratch. It seems as if being a little pickier at the start might be an easier way of dealing with it.
1 month, 1 week ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Strangers
One of the things I found frustrating in the people who were pooh-poohing any security concerns was this fact - that even if these did not pose any security threats, people need to be more aware of the permissions they're giving. And just because a certain permission is needed to do something, it doesn't mean that's the only way it will or can be used.
I have chosen to give permissions to certain apps, some of which are due to my assessment of the company in question.
Also: Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean no one's out to get you. ;)
1 month, 2 weeks ago on Facebook to Fix Security Issue in iOS App
@Tinu That's the point. I tend to be much more low-key with charitable donations. And whatever charity it is, is worthwhile to those who donate.
1 month, 2 weeks ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of the Ice Bucket Challenge
@KathleenRoseAnnMaghie Absolutely. And I think the point from Pamela was more about how she knew of other charities that needed help far more at the moment. All of them have a long way to go, for sure.
@Tinu Oh! I love Continuum.
I think your'e absolutely right, though - the biggest issue is educating ourselves, and others when we're able. But I think that the companies who serve as stewards for this information also owe us some sort of guarantees - in plain English - on what liberties they're taking with our information.
Thanks for reading!
1 month, 2 weeks ago on Privacy vs Progress: Can they co-exist in the information age?
@aryl First, I just wanted to note that Livefyre didn't post your comment and I went to check my dashboard today and saw it unapproved, and just approved it, so that you know that I wasn't so thin-skinned that I wouldn't post your comment.
Second, I do understand they're emoticons. I like FB stickers and use them a lot as emoticons. I especially enjoy the Despicable Me stickers.
I'm not insulted by facts. I like facts. In fact, I agree that the Internet is mostly for porn and cats. When I talk to a class at Baruch about the Internet, I point out that porn is the most popular thing on the Internet. I also bring up cats.
So, there's that.
I'm not going to respond to everything, point by point, because you have your viewpoint, and I have mine. I'm not going to change your opinion, and you're not going to change mine, in a comment exchange on a blog.
I will take you at your word that you signed the comment with love, and appreciate that you actually took the time to read my post and comment on it - the length of your comment shows how much it actually meant to you to respond, so at least I provoked some thought, which is more than most things on the Internet do, no?
1 month, 3 weeks ago on Gender roles, or a tale of two Facebook stickers
@SearchDecoder Thanks, Matt! I really am torn between loving the technological advances and being concerned about privacy issues. I am not concerned about the privacy for myself, but as a society, it's not unimportant. But I'll take a way to pay for things via thumbprint or retina scan. :)
1 month, 3 weeks ago on Privacy vs Progress: Can they co-exist in the information age?
@subatomicdoc I think the medical setting is one of the most important areas for privacy to remain. Other areas are not nearly as important (with some exceptions). However, I think, as you note, the most important issue is people being cognizant of who has their data and how it's being used. I will have to check out Brin's book, thanks!
@kamichat True, Kami. So I can put you down for #TeamOptimism? :)
@aryl As I noted in the post, it was an observation, and I recognize it isn't, in and of itself, earth-shattering.
@SharonTurcotte I originally wrote the post when Hacker Boy came out. It and Mobile Girl came out at the same time. Hacker Girl wasn't in the sticker store yet. I updated it after Hacker Girl showed up in the store.
@DavidBarton While you do raise some good points, David - including the entire newsjacking of newsjacking of newsjacking question - this is a blog about PR for PR professionals. And Edelman is a PR firm. This is a post targeted at people who practice public relations, and this was an excellent example of what not to do.
That said, I don't really disagree with most of what you're saying. :)
2 months, 1 week ago on Newsjacking Tragedy
@Joe Loomer Thank you for reading, Joe! I appreciate Benn's perspective so much, especially as the mother of two boys.
2 months, 1 week ago on Raising the Next Generation of Women in a #YesAllWomen World
@Howie Goldfarb I am honored to have been the person to teach you to facepalm properly, Howie.
Also, that paragraph is worth a DOUBLE facepalm, at least. :)
2 months, 1 week ago on PR is More than Media Relations
I saw something today where a venue was trying to bill a bride $500 apiece for bad reviews left by guests at her wedding - deducting it from the safety deposit. How about these businesses spend the time and energy making their businesses worth giving good reviews to?
I can't believe I'm linking to the NY Post, but: http://pagesix.com/2014/08/04/hotel-charges-500-for-every-bad-review-posted-online/
2 months, 2 weeks ago on Are We In Danger of Losing the Right to an Opinion?
@storageDiva Thank you. It was one of the prouder moments of my life, actually. Sadly enough. :)
2 months, 2 weeks ago on Street Harassment, or a Tale of Every Woman
@CecilHelton I think sometimes our emotions get the better of us. I think she recognizes she didn't handle it very well and felt badly. In that regard, she shouldn't be too hard on herself, either. But as @James Rothaar points out - you never know where the right opportunity is going to come from, so thanking is always the best route.
2 months, 3 weeks ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Helping Friends Find Jobs
@MarkStory Thanks for your input, Mark. You're absolutely right about personal introductions being a better route, if you can provide it.
@kamichat Oh noes! I hope he didn't mind. ;)
On the flip side, I've had photos from my teen years posted and I didn't mind at all. It's really a hard question, because what if you can't get in touch with the person? Or what if you want to share, and the person says no, but you're in the photo, too? Lots of elements to the issue.
You just can't ever go wrong by asking, though, even if you don't like the answer.
2 months, 3 weeks ago on The #SMEtiquette of Sharing Old Photos
@BalancingJane I've seen your site on Centup, too, Jane! Really like it.
Thanks for your comments; we are making a lot of these rules up as we go. And your point about the scope vs the motivation is very true. I think the other issue at hand, though, is also the *ease* - times when we might have thought twice about sharing something, we just go ahead and do it, because it's easy. Not only are we able to share more publicly and widely, we're able to share so easily that we may not even have our motivations in mind when we do share.
Interestingly, a friend of mine whose children are in college now said his daughters actually have a *greater* sense of privacy than we'd have thought. They are more acutely aware of what is private and what isn't, and are more careful than we think they would be. I think the main difference is that the things that we feel we might be embarrassed by are not things that embarrass them.
@thatdarnhelcat Ah, perms. :)
@LiLo335 inorite? It's like the son and mom never bothered to learn ANYthing about this country. And that the daughter is so blinded by her wealthy white American upbringing that she believes she has the right to say whatever she wants to whomever she wants, without regard to the repercussions it could have on that person. But at least she knows what a cesspool this country is.
3 months ago on FX’s ‘Tyrant’ Exceeds Low Expectations
My main problem is that of all of Barry's family, only his daughter has a brain and her shrill complaints are getting annoying, even though she's on point. His wife is an idiot. How could she be so unaware of what his home country was like? Did she never watch the news? Did she decide to not learn anything about his home or his family because he didn't talk about it?? I yell at the TV every single time she opens her mouth, practically.
@Ike Ha! Love that.
3 months ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of the Twitter Block
@Tinu @Danny Brown Interesting points, Danny. I do agree that we throw the word "hate" around way too much. I don't hate much, because that takes a tremendous amount of energy - as much as love, as it's as strong an emotion. That said, people do use it to mean stupid things like this.
But Tinu is onto something when she talks about the blowback against Sandberg. There are people who really feel this venomous hatred for her and it's troublesome. Disagree with her, dislike her, sure. Hate? That's strong language, but there are definitely people out there who are really hating on her.
3 months, 1 week ago on Can We All Just Agree to Stop Hating Sheryl Sandberg Already?
@Tinu It actually takes effort not to be judgy - Not enough people make the effort to not be judgmental. Wait. Did that sound judgmental?
3 months, 1 week ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of Disagreeing with a Co-worker’s Non-Work Behavior
@amvandenhurk Absolutely. If people would just talk to one another, and realize we're all different, so many things would be better.
@Kelly Whalen Absolutely, Kelly. It's so short-sighted and I don't understand why, purely from a business viewpoint, this keeps going on. SMH.
3 months, 1 week ago on Booth Babes Are Still A Thing, Apparently
@Ike Absolutely, Ike. One of the things I try to deal with in my #SMEtiquette posts, too, is that we all use social in different ways and there may be multiple reasons that something happened. I find that often it comes down to: If you have a problem with someone, TALK TO THAT PERSON. (Side note: Livefyre trapped you in moderation hell and I only found this comment today.)
3 months, 1 week ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of the Twitter Block
@Danny Brown Right? Just deal with it. Who cares? (Side note: Livefyre trapped this comment in moderation for some reason. Maybe it was "ASSHATS" - just found it today. Sometimes I have to do multiple searches to find things.)
3 months, 1 week ago on Dear Amy: The #SMEtiquette of the Mass Unfollow
@Howie Goldfarb Absolutely. Especially because the Twitter unfollow bug does seem to still exist. But the people who follow just for a follow back are so lame.