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Tell us how you really feel America.... Sad just how little we've changed.... could you imagine if the wife was fit curvy naturalista and the father was white????? People would be falling all over themselves to call her fat ugly and dark (no matter how light she was) Sometimes i just wanna fly away
2 weeks, 4 days ago on How Far Have We Really Come? Cheerios Commercial Draws the Ire of Rabid Racists
This makes me so sad.... What really hit me in the heart was when it talked about the woman who got mistaken for her childs nanny... That happens to me quite often although I like in a small but modern town however to be mistaken for anything but a mother sometimes hurts... People forget Mariah Careys father is quite dark and she is able to "pass" my daughter in comparison to me is extremely fair and the only thing that gives her away is her nose otherwise her race is ambiguous. Sometimes I like it that way because i kinda feel like if people cant figure out what she is they cant be racially insulting to her...
3 months ago on Why we should be concerned about the attacks on Michael Jackson’s children
This is so sad and its people give in to the requests who are worse than the idiots making them... If someone is black and can do their job the same as anyone else whats the problem...
3 months, 3 weeks ago on No African American Nurses To Care For My Baby! What The Cuss?
whats a DBR
3 months, 4 weeks ago on A Self-Proclaimed 'DBR' Black Woman Reaches Out To Us. It's a Bird's Eye View Into How Some of Us Are the Way We Are.
Also I think some of you guys need to move to the west coast... Doesnt seem so hard to get ANY color of man up here in washington state.....Its actually borderline overwhelming... Mass exodus to washington state yall!!!
4 months ago on Serious Question: Why Can White Women Get Married Five Minutes After a Divorce?
@CAPT SMOOTH black women and any interrracial coupling have lower divorce rates.
it is because of the historical idea of white femininity versus black femininity... White women were and are seen as more fragile, less able to take care of themselves without a man, where as just the opposite is seen of black women to the point where we are viewed as almost masculine. Its a sad state of affairs
@Mika85 also I venture to say that I know alot of people that feel the same (desparate vibe) coming from those who frequent BB&W...So I guess perception is everything and nothing at all
4 months ago on Question of the Week: On Dating Asian Men, Demanding Someone Christian, and Improvising Race on Online Profiles.
@Mika85 @keimiasmoon @Brenda55 thats a bit presumptive dont you think??? I dont think that they are.
@Toni_M @Christelyn Also I think you are pegging a whole slew of groups based on the ramblings of a misguided few...
@Christelyn @Toni_M I also disagree there is NOOOOO NOBODY WANTS YOU DOCTRINE I think that to imply this is very misleading as the point of these groups is to connect groups that may hold stereotypes or bias against one another (not necessarily malicious bias or stereotypes) and gettting together to address and dispel them while also getting to know each other... I am the Admin and Creator of the new AMBW Unite and our conversations in the group commonly address issues of race and how we relate to each other there have been heated debates and moments of clarity within the group and none of that has anything to do with who does or doesnt want us.
@Brenda55 There is no target audience... In those groups we encourage people to not just try to met people online but to go out and meet people, I think that in general women and men in their 30 is not the target audience for Fb and thus not super represented in specialty group but they do exist... I think also that women expect that they will find someone that they click with over night and no relationship has ever been successful that way.
To quote my earlier conversation with Christalyn: I think that we are definitely last picked and most picked on in termsof interracial dating and within the realm of stereotypes (Asian men and black women) but aside from that I think (AMBW) is less about shoving together cultural whipping boys than finding and uniting two groups that perhaps hold stereotypes or bias or preconceptions about each other and shattering all of those for the sake of a common attraction both romantically and platonically" I am a successor/creator of a pretty successful AMBW group on facebook with over 500 members and have been in a relationship with an asian man for over 2 years... We weed pretty well through the ratchetry more than other AMBW groups thus eliminating women who idolize asian men or are merely there to satiate a fetish. I agree fully that alot of AMBW unions dont happen more often due to a duty that some asian men feel to their families to uphold the family name and to not make waves as asians are overwhelmingly from collective cultures where not making waves or being the one to make trouble is common.... Christalyn told a story of a man going to college and his parents finding out he is dating a black woman and stop funding his education (THAT IS MY CURRENT SITUATION) HOWEVER thats not all asian men or families but I think we'd both be lying if we said it wasnt an issue in alot of AMBW unions. My boyfriend fortunately is amazing and doesnt care what his parents throw at him he is in love and that is what matters to him but alot of guys fold under that kind of pressure. I also wanna say that you find women who are after certain types in ALL interracial dating facebook groups not just AMBW ONES,thirsties know no bounds or restriction.
I think the issue in the black community is that there are too many fingers assigning blame and not enough people willing to not only lead by example but especially not enough people to become involved in educating others about the collective and cyclical indoctrination process that keeps many black people bound to poverty and general ridiculousness. I think that the plight of black people is very unique in that we are very willing to help each other out yet other such races are very quick to help out struggling people of their own race. My sociology teacher calls it the plague of selfishness and blacks who are " not perpetuating the stereotype" are just as guilty of the plague of selfishness as the ghetto mouthpieces who think about themselves over the well being of their children and families while chasing a man etc the fact that you aren't perpetuating a stereotype doesn't make you better or any less broken than a woman with five kids in the ghetto if you both have the same all about me mindset. Something to consider .
4 months, 3 weeks ago on Are You Willing to Be A Full-Time Activist For Black Women or The Black Community?
@LongNguyen My boyfriend still waiting for word from you!! :) I wish I could convey the need he has to talk to someone who has gone through what we are going through and is also vietnamese.. He feels super alone and it would be great for him to hear from you and learn from your experience... Maybe find out what works and what doesnt work :) He is Tony Do on Facebook and Email is AnthonyDo503@gmail.com (assuming no one will spam him or whatever lol)
5 months, 3 weeks ago on Vietnamese Guy Gives Real Talk on His Blasian Relationship, Plus How Things Went Down with His Parents
B@Dandelion100 @AshleyFisher black women while not the only Women with these features have been historically scapegoated and discriminated against and even exploited due to these features I think that's the source of the offense thus the racist accusation .
5 months, 3 weeks ago on Serena Williams Caricatured By a White 'Friend.' Was Her Response Appropriate?
He is Tony Do on FB and I gave Christalyn his email address for you... I showed him this article and he was floored and said "This sounds just like ME!!!!"
5 months, 4 weeks ago on Vietnamese Guy Gives Real Talk on His Blasian Relationship, Plus How Things Went Down with His Parents
@terrametoo This is because asian men carry on the name, the culture the legacy traditionally.... Girls its different because parents ultimately just want someone who will treat them well and take care of them in the general sense... With men though he carries the family name....
6 months ago on Vietnamese Guy Gives Real Talk on His Blasian Relationship, Plus How Things Went Down with His Parents
PS @LongNguyen if you are on FB you should talk to my boyfriend about how to emotionally deal with this situation I feel like I can be sympathetic but I cant really understand the depth of what he is going through... Just like you he is the only son and also the oldest so alot rides on who he marries... I feel like he needs someone who knows what he is going through from a cultural standpoint to talk to about how they dealt with it.... If you could I would be forever grateful...
This gives me hope but also makes me said... My boyfriend Tony is Vietnamese and we have been dating for 2 years he just recently told his parents we were dating (he is currently in college and his parents are extremely strict thus prohibit him from dating till he is graduated which is why we kept our relationship a secret for so long) but I grew tired of being a secret so he told them and they werent too happy and told him that "We only date and marry Asians" he got in a fight with them and defended me and our relationship and even went so far as to call them hypocrites as they always taught he and his sister to look beyond race and that racism is wrong... But alas Im sure despite their anti racist teaching their plan for Tony didnt involve marriage to a black woman (He sure did tell them that he was gonna marry me! *does double snap*) Im going to meet them OFFICIALLY during graduation in 6 months (we both graduate from college yaaaaaaay) and we plan on getting engaged within the year, Im hoping that his parents come around... I kinda feel like Ive tried to do so much to make sure that they know I fully respect their culture including learn vietnamese without even knowing them it hardly seems fair that they judge me without knowing me but im hoping that just like the story above they come around.... I have some pretty close bonds with Tonys sister and cousins and I know that they are in my corner... I just feel horrible to be the reason that someone I love could possibly have a bad relationship with the people who gave him life because in that sense I owe my happiness to them and their love for each other... Cross your fingers....Six more months.....