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I once studied abroad from Madrid, Spain to living in the Pyrenees Mountains in a little town called Zaragoza. My experience was the greatest ever. I had my hair done by one of the local hairdressers who feathered my natural hair with a blowdryer and brush. I looked great. I had a chance to teach English to those who spoke Spanish. I was given this little side job that even paid me. This was not expected. As the only African-American in this town, I was embraced and stopped by everyone. I was told that I had the smoothest skin and even kissed by someone who I was hanging out with because he found my dark skin to be beautiful and soft. Um, maybe I will return. I was also invited to a wedding to be an honored guest. The best food experience ever. OVERALL, I m very fortunate to have gone there.
1 week, 6 days ago on Calling All Expats!
Beautiful colors shown on a beautiful face.
2 weeks, 6 days ago on Pinks and Blues…Get the Look!
Apparently this young woman, is not comfortable in her own skin and has not stop listening to people who should not define her happiness. I hope she grows and learn that love can come any color. I hope that she learns to except herself as worthy and beautiful. And truth be told BM still do not look at me as their object of desire. I fall for the person who falls for me. Best wishes for happiness.
1 month, 1 week ago on Black Woman Writes Apology Missive for Preferring White Men; Seeks Understanding and Forgiveness.
This is wonderful. Best wishes...and a HAPPY LIFE TOGETHER......
1 month, 1 week ago on Couples Making REAL, Offline Connections on Our G+ Page!
@Deanna125 @darkandlovely What is that saying? Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones and let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
3 months, 4 weeks ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected
Ok, who died and made her a fashion icon. I can pick out just from that pic that there are a few things out of line. I am soo tired of the public hating on the Obama's. That is very disrespectful of Lauten and she is being a racist. I have never seen such disrespect of a President and his Family. No other president has had the outbursts and comments and not to mention invasions of their "safe haven", the White House. What is wrong with this? Well being AA. I am sure she was not a "All American Good Girl". The Obama girls have values and know what is expected of them. They are young ladies, children, girls. They should be off limits for all. To insult the young ladies parents and them being bad role models, shows that she had mal-intent and is racist. To each is his/her own. You may or may not agree with Obama, but as the POTUS and FLOTUS, respect is due, as we all gave every other president and his family before the Obama's. I'm sure that it bothers Obama, that the people who were appointed and paid to protect and serve under him, may be out for him and his family all because they are AA. Not a fair deal, so I applaud the Obama's for holding their heads up high through this nightmare of a job and breaking barriers in more ways than one.
4 months ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected
I have you and your family in prayer. I can understand what you are going through. Take good care of your emotions, because you have tried and there is nothing you can do but enjoy and keep showing how much you love your sister.
4 months, 1 week ago on Obesity Wins Again. My Half-Sister Is Dying.
I have been away for a while and I am playing catch-up. I wish that I could have been a part of this fight. You have been so instrumental in changing views on how we as black women think about ourselves and how to have our happiness with whom we choose. I thank you and love you and if there is any support you need, you got it. We need you... I hate you had to experience this pain. We are with you.
5 months, 2 weeks ago on The Death of Beyond Black & White…
I love watching them and I have always thought they were made for each other, I mean just for each other. Congratulations and I look forward to seeing more of you on You Tube and on this site. You two can offer the rest of us advice on how to make it last....
6 months, 3 weeks ago on Video: You Tubers, Shelly and Michael Tie the Knot!
@The Working Home Keeper Gorgeous.
6 months, 4 weeks ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall
Changes do make us better rather we go through the good or bad to get there. This week I learned a valuable lesson after being robbed. I could be agoraphobic, but I must realize that I need to be more aware of who is around me, who is let into my home and that i can replace those things, even the things I thought was most precious. My things do not own me, I own them. Yes I work hard for them and some given as sentimental gifts, but they are still stuff.
I am in awe of both video's. I love the romaticism of the first video, the second is could be depicted as more of the Hoochie type. I think it is based on the maturity of the artists. The first video was done with class.
6 months, 4 weeks ago on R&B and Hip Hop Asian Artists Featuring Black Women: Is it Good?
@Yorkshireman in Michigan @Swirlgirl28 @Beautee_85 I go online every year looking for pumpkin spice lattes are back... I even have a special anniversary cup, their 10 last year for Pumpkin Spice Latte. I love fall and everything about it. Pumpkin Spice Latte, brisk air and colorful leaves. Not to mention after the Pumpkin Spice Latte a nice glass of red wine by the fire pit in the dark night air.... Ahhh
I meant hearts although heat is great to have... LOL
7 months ago on How Yours Truly Played Cupid with New Power Couple, Film Maker Chris Silber and Dr. Misee Harris
GO Misee GO!!!! I am soooo happy for you. You two look marvelous and I hope you are marvelous with each other and that your heats know nothing but love, admiration, respect and kindness.....Amen....
Be open to all changes rather expected or unexpected. I have had my bag filled with changes lately.
7 months ago on Open Thread. Summer is over on to Fall
@Patricia Kayden @Morenika Yeah Karma for being messy... I am glad he is off...
7 months, 3 weeks ago on Blackistani Light Skinned Privilege: Aren’t You Glad You’re Free of It?
@Yorkshireman in Michigan @Morenika @KayJacks We will be congratulating you with shouts in November.... I hope you and your wife throw a party.... I agree if you hate it here you do have a choice to leave the country. You are not anymore special than anyone living here. Yes the big cars will honk if you are driving properly and they are not, oh I drive a cross-over and I am still scared for my life when I am in your area.....You may want to have double padding on your body and armor on top that will stop damage to your fragile body against the huge BEAMER headed your way... LOL
7 months, 3 weeks ago on Feelings About Renisha McBride…
So if me and my Mom went to this event (and she is still hot, she rides a Harley with my Dad) I would be left with my purse open having to pay and my mother (LOL) is in the club partying. Imagine that.... Mom wears her hair blonde most of the time. and my hair can be in twists, they would then still be dumb-founded. I have recently experience a group of women who were not very taking or kind to me as each of them felt a little more elite about themselves, began to get more friendly as the saw my Mom. That is not the first incident. I am probably the one who talks to everybody. Even a lamp-post if it talked back (LOL). But when you have your own race of people being this dumb and separating you out because of your dark skin, we still have a lot of educating to do.
I was very upset when DJ Michael Baisden, had a show about who can cook better light or dark, well I thought I guess my creole, bi-racial granny and her sisters cooked they learned from their very-dark skinned West-Indies African Mother, how do you explain that? I wanted to call him and did not. darn.... Black women can birth babies with blonde-hair and blue eyes to velvet chocolate. Will be ever learn not to do what is on that poster which hurts us and eventually their children.
@Yorkshireman in Michigan @KayJacks @Morenika I love the idea of you being a citizen now as we need to stomp out all racism together. I am sorry that you face others stupidity. I am sure you had a surprise learning about the history of Dearborn and Dearborn Heights. It's funny because the Caucasian community looks down on AA everywhere and there especially, but when you have other people that were not a part of building this country and making the very ground and market what is is looking down on you also that is bad. I know for a fact that the population that does not have a rich history here and lives in your area, are the one's who drive the largest BMW's, Escalades, and Mercedes, but uses our medicaid insurance like no other. Just ride past the Department of Human Service office in your area and you can see what is out there in the lots and drive to any given shopping store near by, you will see this. I am a descendant as most AA's are of the Native American's and those who bled their blood,fought battles, and shed many a tear here, if I lost my job tomorrow and I have worked to put into the system for a very longtime, I could not get medicaid and other free government assistance. They would make me go back and fight wars and shed blood through whippings before I get that little bit of assistance and I would need the most. Oh your sis-in-law will think OMG.
Tooo darn cute. What a story and a gorgeous couple. They have endured pain and triumph together... I always get happy and want to cry over stories like this. Be Happy and Blessed...
7 months, 3 weeks ago on Swirling and Marriage: 2014 Couple of the Year
@KayJacks That's where I get saying "Yo Mama" from....... LOL
LOL I was just in Taylor-Tuckey to train a group of people. The mind set there is like being in the old Kentucky. You Mom is too funny. I will always remember his feeling, the event there and the actions taken. Taylor-Tuckey reminds me of a time when I was a young child probably 4 or 5 years in age. My Grandfather always drove us to his home town of Nashville every year. He liked to start his drive in the we hours of night. Usually with to cars caravanning to Nasvhille, his brother and family. I remember we were the only two cars on the road as a third car was speeding up behind us. It was a black Trans-Am with the bird on the hood. He pulled on the side of us, my father riding in the back holding me, rolled down his window. We though something was wrong with our car. I remember his fiery red cheeks and mean look, he did all that to call us based Ni@#'s . My father yelled at my Grandfather his father-in-law to pull up. My father who was also an officer and the black version of Arnold Schwartnagger (sorry about the spelling) yelled back and said "Yo Mama".... The man turned even more red and flew off into the night. My Grandfather had to explain in horror to me that that man was ignorant and stupid. What a night that was.
I am one who fully understands the Stand your ground law. I myself come from a long line of officers and believe in protecting your home, I know in this day and age it is hard to tell rather or not someone knocking on your door for help is legitimate. I don't believe that for one minute a bloody young woman could have been a threat. Even if he did not want to let her in, he should have called 911. In the area he lives in and the city that is neighboring is know for its racism as in the local mall in Dearborn, at the Lord and Taylor was sued for a racial incident a few years back. The past mayor also made it a point that people should stay out of the parks meaning AA. Now that particular area is also inhabited with one of the largest Arab-American populations in the country. Local mosques has had issues with the caucasian community there, but yet in still African Americans have not been welcomed because even the Arab community had proven that AA is not welcomed there.
I am sure the past mayor that was in office 20 years ago who did not welcome AA in its community is turning in his grave. I lived in a town neighboring Dearborn Heights and Dearborn and yes racism is still an issue. Even in the little area in Dearborn Heights where few AA live, it is set up as townhouse, but to me this is a classic housing project that is near an old housing project that was torn down in recent years.
I believe he that the man that killed Miss McBride thought he would be seen as a hero and on the news telling his story of victory such as (yeah I stopped a crime happening in my home). What he got was an innocent young woman who's family and her surrounding community left with grief and asking if we ( meaning me also) AA should be traveling through that area. Just like an area here called Howell, where the Grand Wizard of the KKK was know to live in recent but past years. As my Mother would journey to East Lansing, Michigan where Michigan State University was to pick my brother up, I remember her saying "Oh no, Howell lets move down the highway quickly" and my Mom was at the time a well know DPD Officer turned Investigator who is licensed to carry a gun all over Michigan. She is a Sharpshooter and Marksman and she was afraid.... So imagine how powerless most AA feel in situations such as the Martin and McBride case.
@Yorkshireman in Michigan Hello again... You have beat and proven two odds, 1. Online dating and 2. Long distance relationships cultivating into something wonderful. I listen to you wonderful story over again.
7 months, 3 weeks ago on #OnlineDating Success…She Made the First Move.
I am happy for them both and that online dating, well it can work for some. Wishes for a long and happy future together.
Unfortunately this is the "Ole Plantation, House N/Field N mentality. His mother is not even ashamed, because its sad when you don't know, that you don't know. My Mom, a lovely light-skinned woman, has always praised me as her chocolate baby, especially when light-skinned cousins were cruel. Lets just say I trump all....... I always knew that a lot of people in the AA community felt this way. I would also encourage our darker-skinned sisters to step-outside the box if that fool is even with in a 10 mile radius of them.
7 months, 4 weeks ago on Blatant Rejection of “Traditional” Looking Black Women. See for Yourself Why Expanding Your Options is Necessary.
Somebody's kid need to mind their own business, and get some of their own. If Mom can handle it, they should also. Companionship at their age is very important. Good love, lasting love may be keeping them both alive.... Remove one from the other and one my not make it. Why not take both mom and her husband.... After all, they are Man and Wife... Someone is worried about their inheritance here!!! Hum
8 months ago on OMG…Let These Folks Be! In Their Ninety’s, Interracial Couple Fights to Stay Together
@EarthJeff Hey there... I know you know what you are talking about....
8 months ago on Writer Reads “Swirling,” and Is Overwhelmed with Tears. Find Out Why.
I say go get her back... I think that is a wonderful contribute to Christelyn's hard work, experience and research. I wish you al the best.
@Yorkshireman in Michigan @Morenika Oh I do understand. My Brother and his wife. College Sweethearts, then they split apart. Years later when he matured, he found her in Florida. So from the time she moved to Chicago from Florida, the relationship was solid. He lived in Michigan. However her job caused her to spend three weekends in Hong Kong every other month, even after he moved to Chicago to be with her. She quit her executive job and now is at home in Chicago while trying to start their family. Long distance relationships cultivation can work. His plan was mapped for him and her... I go yuk overtime my sister-in-law goes, "MYYYY HUSBAND"..... that is like every other word for her.......Love them both...
8 months ago on Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?
@Yorkshireman in Michigan Sweet!!!!!!!!
@Lady Cheetah @_Toni_ I love what you said... I agree... I must admit I have been a naive fool once or thrice.... LOL I am just hanging up my dating hat and concentrating on me. I usually blame me when the predators come and in part that may be true. I am told I am way too friendly and too nice. Well I didn't believe being bitc$y (LOL) would land them either. Maybe bitc$y does? Hum..... I am honest and upfront no game. I hate games and it is the hated player that could get a broken leg.......
I always understood that there is more to intimacy than sex. I understand that it is the mind, the soulfulness of the conversation as well as eye contact. Meeting needs on a higher level should take place in order to get to that WOW factor. Great article.
8 months, 1 week ago on Intimacy Is Not Built Through Sex. Surprised?
I love the color on you. I have worn pinks for years now. Just the perfect shade of pink....
8 months, 1 week ago on OMG Pink for Dark Girls…Yay Mineral Fusion!
That is wonderful and congratulations. Good looking couple..
8 months, 1 week ago on Love It! Couple I Interviewed for Loving Day 2014 Tied the Knot!!
She is phenomenal. I think that she we never have to worry about paving her way as she has already done so.
8 months, 2 weeks ago on Willow Smith Snags the Cover of Teen Vogue
Yes I would relocate for love especially where swirling is great. I say move where the options are present. Oh and not off the subject, you look great on the video for the article Christelyn....
9 months ago on QOTW: “Should I Move to More Interracial Relationship-Friendly Pastures?”
Very breath taking. I will also be looking at Lancome.
9 months, 1 week ago on Lupita Graces Her First Lancome Ad… Take a Look!
It looks like a great time. Kids have all the fun.....
9 months, 1 week ago on Valid Excuse? Why You’re Not Seeing a New Post Today…
Oh I have a true story about meeting the most gentle , sexy, Police office of Italian heritage. He stopped me and asked me why I ran through the light. I innocently said "Well if you said I did, I did". He was so shocked that I did not yell, curse and scream at him as you know some sisters can do. They will curse you, your mama, your family and all of the unborn children. He said wow most people are yelling at me. I hate I wrote this ticket. I told him about my parents being officers and he said, what you should have told me that. He started to apologize and I felt then as I should get out and hold his hand. Again as I am shy, and find myself doing things out of the norm lately, I sent him an invite to see me speak at my toastmasters meeting. He called a day to late. He had to make sure that I was not just using him to get out of a ticket. now ending, we talked all the time and had planned dates, but he is concerned of what others might think if he dates me. I told him to bad, he was missing out on a good person.
9 months, 1 week ago on Man Candy Monday: Men in Uniform to Service You
She is gorgeous, I don't think her curves will stop her from meeting her dream man...
9 months, 2 weeks ago on QOTW: “Do Non-Black Men Like THICK Black Women?”
Very lovely couple. Beautiful couple.
9 months, 2 weeks ago on Astrid & Maher “L’amore est eternal”
Finally, I am happy for Eve and Maximillion. They look great...
9 months, 2 weeks ago on Eve Becomes “Mrs. Maximillion Cooper”
I do believe that childhood experiences shape who we like later in life. It did for me. I think that this is an excellent article and for the new blogger, what a great idea. He is soo handsome and his daughter is just absolutely incredible. I wish I had gone to school with this author as I would have stayed with hime through grade-school, high school, college and happily ever-after (LOL). He will not be single for long.... And who love him has to love his children. That is the whole package.
9 months, 2 weeks ago on The Evolution of a Swirler: One Guy Tells His Story
@smartacus @LorMarie @jaylwo @LovelyLulu
when I say typical AAW, I mean what people expect us to act like. fighting and pulling hair and cursing. Just had to clean that up.
9 months, 3 weeks ago on When Exploring The Global Village Becomes A Nightmare
I as a counselor understand that it is important to remain in control of a group even a group of women. I use to be a little mousey however, I can also take it to the street. As a person who is also working on her Ph.D. and recently diagnosed with Essential or in my case Familial Tremors, I dare anyone. I have voice tremors, so sometimes it may come across like a stutter. My heart also is in teaching. I have been through the work place bullying where the person and others had to be told about, but I also fought back not what people think a typical African American woman would do, I went to leadership. They did not want any lawsuits and these people were put in check. Granted I did have verbals and they also knew that if I felt the threat of physical violence, I had the power. (LOL) I might have a strong dose of pepper spray waiting on you. and just like yesterday, I had worked a very long day over and my voice was tired and my tremors were there, I was asking one lady a question when her friend said" Oh Spit it out". I turned my head like the exorcist and told her politely, I have voice tremors. Even though I have the Et disorder, it was non of her business and I get tired of smart arses like her. She was embarrassed afterwards, I held my head up and kept on going. Bullying regardless of personality, race, or for any reason should not be tolerated. I will not have it....even on my worst tremor day.
congratulations on the marriage, baby and med school. Much happiness.
9 months, 3 weeks ago on Another You Tube Couple Shares Their Story: Val & Andrew
I Think we should flood them with emails and letters letting them know how shameful, un-just and small minded they are. I have the email address to the Tempe Unions Superintendent. My heart cries for her and her pain.
9 months, 3 weeks ago on Tichina Arnold is Not Here for DBR Men and Their Interweb Bull*hit