I'm a young African-American woman who has big plans for the future. With God, all things are possible. So I will continue to live my life happily with no regrets.
I'm definitely showing this to my little sisters. I want them to grow up knowing that black women do have options. This is such a cute video, And I wish nothing but happiness for Themba and Casper
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This is one time that my youth has been of great help. Lol. I saw this video a long time ago and it's still hilarious. "Ratchet Girl Anthem" is also great because of the outstanding impressions.
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This is great advice. I especially like the sentence that said the louder they are, the better you are becoming.
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@CAPT SMOOTH ! "They still wave and decal the rebel flag down here." My goodness. Yes, some folks still do. Moving to a small cuty in central Florida from Miami gave me the culture shock of my life.
But they call it "Southern pride" and get a little testy when you ask about it. That might be another tradition that is also wrong. The Confederate flag represents racism and implies that a supporter of it is a proponent of slavery.
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@Curious_Asian_Man "No matter what kind of woman you are seeking, you should just be real and straight forward. Don't try to come at them with a false facade where in the end will leave you the one being the party that will be hurt. One thing I've learned about black women is that they don't play with nonsense. "
1 month ago on Question of the Week: Rainbeau Needs Advice on Dating Older Black Women
Awww. Congratulations to the beautiful couple.
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"No other group of men so loudly and publicly and often denigrates women of his ethnic group. To find other men who do so, you'd have to search the internet, not live life--walking down the street, running errands, listening to the radio, watching television, etc."
Good point, girlfriend. It's really pathetic. But remember to be positive by not allowing ignorant individuals to take your joy.
2 months ago on Since We're Discussing It...The Pot Calling the Kettle ONYX...
Well whatever. I love my hair, and I refer to it as nappy proudly. My hair texture is unique and beautiful. And nobody can make me feel bad about it.
@CanV Relax, relax. I have as much a right to be here as anyone else. And so I will continue to do what suits me best. You mind your business and I will continue to worry about mine. Thanks.
2 months ago on Brenda55: "Why talk about Black men at all?"
"Pray tell, why would the affair of BM be important to any BW interested in IRRs?"
Exactly. But I've only read negative comments about black men as a whole on this blog, and it's disheartening. Why not just let sleeping dogs lie?
@MrsGlam @CAPT SMOOTH
"It would be best for people to understand that what these discussions bring up does not reflect on every black male, but rather bad experiences black women have had with black males in relationships."
I don't think a random viewer of this blog understands this. I frequent this site and I'm definitely not feeling the love.
I love the fact that this is an IRR blog for black women. It brings me great joy. It's about time black women start to push the limits of what society dictates is good for us.
But I noticed recently that some people here have an anti-black man agenda that reflects poorly upon their own self image. And if we never talk about black men negatively or positively here again, no one will be upset. So if we could lay the black man hating to rest, the world would be a better place.
"I'm only sorry that they didn't get charged in adult court."
That's another issue entirely. That's really complicated.
One of the rapists is white so that was not going to fly anyway though.
2 months ago on Lets Talk About 'Rape' and 'Consent', Steubenville High School Edition
Nice post. To answer the question "Why talk about black men at all?":
It is understood and accepted that this is a space for black women who dare to escape blackistan. We all understand firsthand the kind of trouble that being gung ho about people who don't reciprocate the affection could get you into.
However, there is no trouble in posting articles/comments, etc. about the viewpoint that not all black men suck. While there are not as many married black couples as there should be, these people do exist. And most black people (who are married) are married to other black people. Let's not ignore that fact just to try and prove points.
In addition, learning is multiplied exponentially when healthy debates are utilized. Rote memorization in the form of reading the same message in a different blog post over and over again is not the best way to learn because it is not stimulating.
This is almost too simple: These are not the in-laws children, they need to respect other peoples' wishes.
2 months ago on White Man At Odds With Black Wife's Family Over Spanking
These ideas are all really cute
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@kia And its not my job to list the name, persona, job and religion of every black man in the States. Be a black man hater if you want, but don't drag other women down that path of self destruction. I read on this very blog that one should avoid people who profess strong dislike of all others in their race or ethnic group because it signifies an underlying self-hatred.
2 months ago on Time to Own It: My Mea Culpa on No Wedding No Womb 2010
@kia Listen. You don't know me, don't make quick assumptions, okay. I do not engage in nor condone premarital sex for any man, woman or child. It is easy to say "no" when a person of the opposite sex solicits you for sex. And isn't that the basic premise of NWNW? (It is my belief that sex is something only married couples should do, so that's what I will write comments about) Again, I'm not sorry for rejecting the I-hate-black-men club.
@Brenda55 "Grow up."
Really, me? Hmm...
@Toni_M I see where you're coming from. Thanks for contributing.
@AJ2011 "You are well within your right to be inclusive to black men romantically for whatever reason. . ."