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Can the mystery writer provide data that shows "beautiful women, especially those who have a lot going for them, are way more likely to be single than 'regular', 'normal', 'average' or 'unattractive' looking women"? I want figures, an experiment, surveys from straight men something. Because all I see is a bunch of rubbish. Straight up, insecure woman, spewing ignorance, hating on smart, attractive black women RUBBISH.
1 day, 2 hours ago on Opinion: Is Being Beautiful Keeping You Single?*
@Lannie That's what people do when they write caca.
@Jamila Are you still Sr. Editor of this website? If so why don't you know the Guest Author?
1 day, 3 hours ago on Opinion: Is Being Beautiful Keeping You Single?*
First having too much education will keep us single. Now being beautiful will keep us single. And if I'm "educated, well mannered, impeccably dressed and have a lot going for you, in addition to being beautiful, [I] might want to start looking at adopting a dog, cat or, child." So basically I should just get a GED, don't comb my hair, or brush my teeth, wear raggedy clothes, maybe get on welfare to support the kids I've looked into getting, have a bad attitude and not contribute to society in order to get a man? Sounds like more bulls#it to disempower black women. Chris, can you start blogging again b/c I'm not feeling these posts? By the way one of my mentors is a former beauty queen, kind woman, very stylish with a degree. She is black, married and wealthy. One of her neighbors was Tiger Woods. And I love how the writer says we should look for a cat or child if we're educated, beautiful and go it going on. But then ends, "Finally, ladies, please love yourselves. Own who you are and who you are not. One day, when the time is right, the right person will find his way to you." This is contradictory bull.
1 day, 6 hours ago on Opinion: Is Being Beautiful Keeping You Single?*
@uninterracial I know employers who throw applicants resumes in the trash when they see those schools on their resumes.
1 week, 1 day ago on Black Women Are Spending Too Much Time and Effort Going to School, They Should Be Spending That Time Trying to Get Married
@Aabaakawad Well since you can read my mind I won't write my full response b/c you know what I'm thinking. Bye!
@Toni_M It wasn't ITT. But I know people that went to ITT and they couldn't transfer their courses.
@uninterracial I said the same thing about diploma mills. And I agree with going to community college as well. I mentioned in another discussion that we need to look at why black women are in so much college debt. And I've noticed that a lot of sistas going to back to school later in life are going to those diploma mils. And employers aren't hiring them b/c they don't take their degrees seriously.
@Toni_M @Jamila @StephanieTodd I usually agree with most what's said on this website. This time I don't. I'll probably agree with Jamila's next article.
@Jamila But if that's going to help her reach her career dreams, why should she turn that down? And people date in college and grad school all of the time. Again I know your intentions are good but I disagree with you.
@Toni_M For clarification when I say advanced degrees I'm talking about grad schools. Second what schools are these bw going to? A lot of us who didn't finish college or are getting degrees later in life are going to diploma mills. These schools are leaving black students in serious debt and jobless because employers don't take their degree seriously. I had a family friend, she went to one of those schools that have an 800 number and their commercial airs when Judge Mathis and Maury Povich are on. She went with the intention of getting a raise at a job. Well, she didn't because the school was not properly accredited. And she got stuck with a ton of debt. I went to a way better school than her and left with way less in loans. That's an issue that needs to be explored when looking at black women and college debt.
@Jamila @StephanieTodd See I agree with you on this one! And again I read your ENTIRE comment.
@DU2 @Toni_M @ChrisGreen1 I never said for them to write off marriage. I find it amazing that b/c I disagree with you, you're putting words in mouth and thoughts in my head.
@Aabaakawad Really so you're in my head now? So you're sitting at my computer watching me read her article?
@Aabaakawad Don't break anything down for me. I'm not going debate this. I disagree with the writer. Period. I get what she's arguing and I know her intentions are good but I disagree.
@Toni_M @ChrisGreen1 I've never disagreed with the notion of looking for a mate. I'm tired of hearing about black women having too much success or too much education and that's why they're single. If a black woman wants and advanced degree which is a post-BA or BS then that's her choice. You can go back to school in your later years and still find a mate.
@Jamila I read that quote and again I'm saying if a black woman wants to get an ADVANCED degree that is her choice. If a black woman in her 30's, 40's or older gets' a full scholarship should she turn that down? Don't insult people's intellect because they disagree with you. I read what you wrote and I don't agree with you entirely. I've agreed with you on other articles and I don't recall my literacy or comprehension being questioned then. Everyone is not going to agree with you. Everyone is not going to disagree with you.
@Aabaakawad I'm reacting to what I READ. I read the article twice. Just b/c I disagree doesn't mean I didn't read it.
@ChrisGreen1 Yes I read it and I understand what she's saying, but I'm not going to co-sign telling a bw not to advance her education to get her a man. If she wants to get an advanced degree get it. If she wants to be a stay at home mom that's her choice.
This is the 2nd article I've read about black women's education hindering them from finding a mate. All of this is a bunch of bull to me. Now we shouldn't further our education so we can get a man? Wow, I remember when people were telling women to go to college to meet an educated man. So a black woman who wants to be a lawyer, doctor, college professor, etc. shouldn't live her dream, get an advanced degree and further her knowledge to get a man? Are white women being told the same thing? This sounds similar to the rhetoric I hear from black folks who tell educated black women their standards are too high and they should be more open to dating blue collar men or men with less education because that's the best you can get. If sistas want to go back to school and get advanced degrees, so what. I'm tired of educated black women's singleness being blamed on their desires for education and a good income. Last thing, for that sista who wants to be a lawyer, but doesn't go to law school because she wants a man...Let's say she stops at a BS in criminal justice gets married and has kids. Divorce rates are high. If her husband decides to peace out she won't have a lawyer salary to fall back on. I know the writer had good intentions but I can't co-sign this. Live your life sistas, he'll come. If you don't believe me ask my aunt with an MBA, my friend who's a psychiatrist, my other friend with a master's in HR, another friend with an MBA, the many sorors I know with master's, doctorates, MD and law degrees.