Former suburbanite. Femme. Bucket list blaster. Follow my adventures @ my blog.
As much as I dislike Nicki Minaj (and I dislike her ALOT), I am not bothered by the hair pic.
The nudity however, bothers me because I don't know if it's appropriate for celebs to show off that much flesh. Then again, I am a little on the modest side.
2 days, 22 hours ago on Really, Nicki Minaj? What Are You Trying to Prove?
"Blurred Lines" and the Arby hat aside, I've liked Pharrell ever since his N.E.R.D. days. He's a talented producer that thinks and acts outside the box. I don't think he's either a BW ally or basher so much that he's just transcultural and will work with whoever.
Also- he is a MAJOR supporter of the webseries "The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl" and ran the series on his YT channel (i am OTHER). He's cool beans in my book.
And in one OT regret: I *really* wish i had gotten that "Awkward Since The 80s" t-shirt from the ABG shop...They're sold out now :'(
6 days, 21 hours ago on Dear Black People, Can We Support More Songs Like This?!
@Karla Basically. I just scrolled down that textual tripe.
6 days, 21 hours ago on Sh!t Haters Say to Discourage Black Women From Dating Out
@UnlimitedBeauty @horrorjunky It also means "whore" (like the Italian word putan).
@kia That's exactly why I take black oscar wins with a grain of salt because usually their winning role is either dysfunctional or destitute. Hollyweird gets off on seeing black actors in roles like that.
1 week ago on Judge Not An Ally By Their Skin Color or Whom They Marry…Support is an Action
I missed the Oscars, as they aren't my thing, but totally agree that not every bm who dates/marries ww is bw's #1 enemy. As long as they aren't saying nasty, hateful $#!+ about blk women, I couldn't care less what their preference is.
This sounds pretty good. I definitely will print this recipe and try it.
I also tried the chicken paprikash last year, which was awesome (though very heavy lol). Thanks for sharing your recipes.
1 week, 1 day ago on Cheddar Bacon And Scallion Souffle
@MACI I agree.
Also- I thought the judge was overstepping her boundaries by changing the kid's name (though NGL, I think "Messiah" screams "megalomaniacal" lol ). It's not like she named the kid "Adolf Hitler".
1 week, 2 days ago on What’s In A Name?
@Reaching_100 I love your name!
My name is Kanika Ameerah.
My first name originates from Kenya and means "black cloth". It also is a popular name in India (it means "gold", "atom" or "seed" in Sanskrit). My middle name means "princess" in Arabic.
Here's the wikipedia for anyone who cares lol: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kanika_(name)
My parents wanted to name me "Black Princess", as they were big into the black power movement back in the 70s (when I was born). They wanted to give me a name that reflected pride of who I am as a black woman. It was a move of love.
I am not going to lie and tell you that it was easy...People used to mispronounce and make fun of my name as a child. Not to mention, it just wasn't that common to have a name like mine back in the 80s, so I pretty much disliked my name coming up. One thing I do remember is that when I was a child, I wanted name barrettes. Of course, they didn't have any in my name, so for my birthday, a family friend had a set of name barrettes custom made for me. I still have two of them.
It was only recently that I noticed the negative association that my name has with some people. For example, I've been looking for another job for quite some time, and I rarely, if ever, get callbacks, even though I've had my resume looked over a trillion times. And now that I am looking for an apartment (in a nicer part of NYC), when I call to inquire about an apt for some reason it is "already rented".
Does it make me angry? Yes. Because I am being judged on a non-issue such as my name, when my credentials should speak for themselves. They don't see me as a responsible tax-paying, law abiding citizen that has been @ the same job for fifteen years, lived in the same apartments for years at a time and always paid their rent/had a good relationship with their landlords. They see me as a stereotype.
That said, I wouldn't change my name for anything. As I mentioned, my parents carefully chose my name out of love, and I want to honor their love for me by keeping my name- no matter how hard it is. Especially now that my father has since passed away.
And that's what it comes down to for these "ghetto" names. While I admit that many of them sound completely ridiculous and are aesthetically unappealing, most of these parents named their kids out of love, not to damn them. It's not the fault of the parent that we live in a racist, backwards and sick society that judges people based on silly stereotypes, instead of doing a proper background check to see what the INDIVIDUAL is all about first.
The racism and egoism that plagues America will be the downfall of it- not the person with the "ghetto name".
Wow that comment was just unnecessary. You weren't so much telling the truth as you were projecting your insecurities and internal ugliness onto someone who did absolutely nothing to you.
Trolling a message board won't do much for your self hatred issues...I suggest taking a hobby.
To Keyasha- I am glad that you haven't faced any issues with your name. And even if you did, don't change it ever. Let your accomplishments and credentials speak for themselves and the people who are smart enough to see a valuable employee will hire you.
I can't mess with pastel pink. It makes my lips look chapped. I would totes wear the second shade though (in gloss form).
1 week, 3 days ago on A Rose by any other name: Pastel Pink Beauty Trends SS 2014
@Savannah1812 You should've trolled him by saying "yes" lol...
1 week, 3 days ago on Tyrese Gibson Speaks on DBR Men “They Love Low Standard Women Because They’re Easy”
@Dandelion100 Yup. I read that part as well...I was just reiterating my agreement of your post.
Whatever, Robin! While I hope you and Ms. Patton have a civil parting for the sake of your child, she deserves WAY better than what you've given her...especially considering how she stuck by you when you were struggling to make it! Just learn your mistakes and grow a pair!
1 week, 3 days ago on Latest from Robin Thicke: “I’m Just Trying to Get Her Back”
@Dandelion100 I agree with your assessment. There's nothing wrong with a BW exclusively dating BM if that is her preference. However, there is definitely a community and societal expectation that BW should automatically be unconditionally loyal to BM (even though this loyalty is not expected and often times, unreciprocated), and BM can automatically lay claim to BW as if we're property of the "race" rather than individual beings with free will.
1 week, 4 days ago on Tyrese Gibson Speaks on DBR Men “They Love Low Standard Women Because They’re Easy”
Tyrese is dumber than a sack of rocks...BUT- when you're right, you're right...
And yes- he's not saying anything new.
She sold CD years ago. I used to make the trek from Yonkers to Bklyn to stock up on CD prooducts when I was in college...they were so amazing back then. I believe Erykah Badu was a huge fan of CD and once modeled for them.
I stopped using CD when the quality went down. I am not mad at Lisa Price for capitalizing on her craft, but sad that CD is now another crappy, overpriced product line and that they separated themselves from their fan base for more mainstream acceptability.
1 week, 5 days ago on Oh Sh!t…Robin Thicke and Paula Patton Divorce!
@ChristieRJohnson The work abroad opportunities seem to dry up after the age of 30, which is frustrating because there are a lot of us who have plenty skills and wisdom to offer an employer.
I am 36, no spouse or kids...I would love to work overseas for a year, but there's no programs for folks our age. I have no interest in returning to school, as generating student loan debt isn't my thing. So wondering what my other options are?
1 week, 6 days ago on Must Read: Endless Opportunities Abroad For Women of Color
@chocolateadmiral @Brenda55 @Statuesque Ironically, Lost Without You was basically about how Robin feared losing Paula because his musical career was struggling (while her acting career was taking off).
I also liked this song below...Totally different from Blurred Lines.
1 week, 6 days ago on Oh Sh!t…Robin Thicke and Paula Patton Divorce!