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Chris Brown is an emotionally damaged man-child with a bad temper (which he's shown over and over again even years AFTER the Rihanna incident).  That said, if Rihanna wants to keep dating him, then she knows what she's dealing with and I have nothing to say about that.

 

Rick Ross' rapey song was a lot more recent than 10 years ago (more like last month).  Not to mention, his apology was half hearted (and only because he lost his Reebok sponsorship).  No sign of redemption here- only trying to do damage control when his wallet took a direct hit.

 

As for OJ- I'm indifferent to him.  He was found not guilty of murder by a jury of his peers.  And he's probably going to spend the rest of his life in prison now.  

 

R. Kelly had sex with several underage girls.  Not to mention, he married Aaliyah when she was 15.  The man is a career pedophile who also shows no signs of redemption.  I would not want my children supporting or listening to the music of a man who abuses young girls.

 

Lil Reese only apologized because he got caught and is losing money out of the deal.  Unlike Charles Ramsey, he didn't serve jail time for his actions.  

 

As low-class as Shorty Lo and Lil Wayne are, I don't think they're in the same category as these other men.  They promote dysfunctional and irresponsible behaviour that negatively stereotypes blacks, and I don't blame anyone for boycotting or not supporting anything that hurts the black race as whole.  

By all accounts, Mr. Ramsey has not offered any excuses for his actions, is trying to do right by his family for the mistakes he did over a decade ago.  If his ex-wife and family have decided to forgive them for whatever damage he has done by them, then that's between them.  

 

None of the aforementioned celebs have made a genuine effort to redeem their jack-up ways (and in most cases, haven't served a day of jail time).   It takes more than just saying "I'm sorry" to make things right.  You have to make a genuine effort to redeem yourself as a human being that counts.

1 week, 2 days ago on As a Black Woman I Do Not Support Charles Ramsey!

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Also only one of the women is Hispanic.  The other two are white.

1 week, 2 days ago on As a Black Woman I Do Not Support Charles Ramsey!

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I think we as a society tend to either idolize or demonize people when we're all capable of good and evil.  

 

I don't condone what Charles Ramsey did all those years ago, but he's served time for his crimes and made amends amends with his ex wife and children (which I am sure does not want their past dragged in the media anymore than Ramsey does).  If he's trying to do right by them now, I don't see the point of holding his past against him.

 

He's not an angel for saving those three women, nor a devil for beating his wife and neglecting his children. He's a human being with all the flaws and complexities that comes with being human.

 

We need to let go of the need to view people in such stark contrasts.

 

 

1 week, 2 days ago on As a Black Woman I Do Not Support Charles Ramsey!

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While I definitely think that Bob Johnson is a hypocrite, I also see him as a businessman and a capitalist.  He was about getting that buck and since trash sells quickly and easily, he just went ahead and peddled it.   It's the same with all of these entertainers and rappers.  They talk about 'hood life, but haven't lived it in a loooooong time.

 

At the same time, the average person is responsible for their own lives and choices and just because BET is offering one message, doesn't mean they should mindlessly drink that kool-aid.   It's up to parents to teach their children better, instead of letting pop culture raise them.

1 week, 3 days ago on BET Heiress Marries a Rainbeau! Just Goes to Show Rich Folks Want Ratchet For Eveyone Else EXCEPT Their Own.

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Wow.  The bride is absolutely gorgeous!  I wish them both the best of luck.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Swirling and Marriage: Themba and Caspar

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This man sounds like an abuser (in addition to being a pervert).  He knew what he was doing when he told his wife  to quit working so he can care for her.  He wanted her submissive.

 

Also- is this chick *really* worried about losing her "lifestyle"?   To hell with that!   She needs to leave him now while she has no children or attachments.  I am sure her Ivy League education and connections will land her a good job. 

1 month, 1 week ago on Abiola Abrams and Mollena Williams Address Now-Infamous Letter That Called Interracial Relationships Into Question

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 @Serita  I agree with your assessment.  Not to mention, as @Aabaakawad  mentioned before, atheists and other non-religious people marry all the time, and not in a church; yet they have the same rights and privileges as any other couple who married in a church.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on OPINION: "Government Shouldn't Be Involved in Gay Marriage Debate"

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This is a pretty interesting post. Regardless of whether you (or your religion) believe homosexuality is wrong, the government cannot deny US citizens rights because of their sexual orientation. It is unconstitutional.I do disagree with his point about marriage being a state and not a federal matter, especially since DOMA is a federal law. This law discriminates against same-sex couples nationwide and this is why SCOTUS should be involved.  And unfortunately- the government has already involved themselves in marriage- as they have many rights and privileges that civil unions don't include.  

 

I think a fair compromise should be a clause to include that if a religious institution refuses to marry a same-sex couple, they will not be sued.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on OPINION: "Government Shouldn't Be Involved in Gay Marriage Debate"

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 @Lexi88  Gotta tell you a secret- there's no such thing as "Ex-Gay".

 

"Ex-Gays" are usually closeted gay people or bisexuals who have decided to stop having same-sex relations.  If you're born gay, it ain't gonna be prayed away.  

1 month, 3 weeks ago on BB&W Sound Off: Is the Gay Marriage Debate Just Like Lovings Vs. Virginia?

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As EvieE said- yes and no.  The elements (and arguments against) same sex marriage are basically the same ones that were used against interracial marriage.  However, same-sex couples of today didn't have to face the same abuse as the Lovings did.

 

Also- before her death, Mildred Loving stated she supported marriage equality:

 

"Surrounded as I am now by wonderful children and grandchildren, not a day goes by that I don’t think of Richard and our love, our right to marry, and how much it meant to me to have that freedom to marry the person precious to me, even if others thought he was the “wrong kind of person” for me to marry. I believe all Americans, no matter their race, no matter their sex, no matter their sexual orientation, should have that same freedom to marry.

 

Government has no business imposing some people’s religious beliefs over others. Especially if it denies people’s civil rights. I am still not a political person, but I am proud that Richard’s and my name is on a court case that can help reinforce the love, the commitment, the fairness, and the family that so many people, black or white, young or old, gay or straight seek in life. I support the freedom to marry for all. That’s what Loving, and loving, are all about." 

1 month, 3 weeks ago on BB&W Sound Off: Is the Gay Marriage Debate Just Like Lovings Vs. Virginia?

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NGL, I think Adria Richards seriously overreacted by taking the matter to twitter.  She could've handled matters better by bringing it to the attention of an organizer in person rather than on Twitter.  Anyone who works with computers should know the impact that social media has, and not be surprised if it blows up in their face. OTOH, I don't think anyone should have been fired either.  A firm reprimand would have done finely.  

1 month, 3 weeks ago on The right way and the wrong way, respectively, to handle being slighted, as demonstrated by Olivia Pope and Adria Richards

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It doesn't matter to me if those are MJ's bio children or not. He raised, loved and protected those kids until the day he died, and that is the only father they knew. That is what matters.  If the children are not worried about his paternity, why are we?

2 months ago on Why we should be concerned about the attacks on Michael Jackson’s children

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 @Tammy_Ghalden    Um- I never "made up" that Wentworth Miller was half-black, I merely presumed he was half-black since I've read reports that his father was black.  It was an error on my part, and it's not even that deep that it merits your hostility, nor the assumption that I was making stuff up.

 

Get a life and find something else to care about.

2 months ago on Why we should be concerned about the attacks on Michael Jackson’s children

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 @Tammy_Ghalden  Ahh okay.  But even a mixed person with mostly-white ancestry isn't guaranteed fair skin.  For example- take a look at Thandie Newton's kids (who are only 1/4 black as well):  http://celebsview.info/thandie-newton-children/   My main point really was to say is that genetics is a funny thing.  Also- I definitely be down for a proper date with Wentworth Miller myself. ;)

2 months ago on Why we should be concerned about the attacks on Michael Jackson’s children

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Also- Wentworth Miller...He's pretty damn white looking, but half-black.

Wonder what he's been up to since the end of Prison Break?

2 months ago on Why we should be concerned about the attacks on Michael Jackson’s children

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I'll probably change mine if future hubby has a cooler last name.  If not, then I'll hyphenate.  I don't have an attachment to my maiden moniker.

2 months, 1 week ago on Do you plan to change your last name when you get married? If so, you might want to think a bit more about that choice.

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 @Toni_M This.  I am not even upset that the white feminist majority failed to stand up for Quevenzhané because I expected that this would happen.   And I am a little over articles like the one @ Clutch, which basically amounts to begging white feminists to acknowledge that black women exist.

 

The sooner we realize that mainstream feminists are not our sisters, the happier we will be.   Better to invest energy in being with like-minded folks who want the best for black women rather than fighting with people who only care about themselves.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on "Clutch" Gets it Right...White Feminists Dropped the Ball On the Quvenzhané Wallis Debacle

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 @Blanc2 Yeah I'm thinking he probably shot himself as well...He knew he wasn't coming out of this alive anyway.  

3 months ago on Chris Dorner Burned Alive: Is This a Movie or Real Life?

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 @Brice Cameron  Agreed.  Calling out police corruption doesn't mean you're anti-police. 

3 months ago on Chris Dorner Burned Alive: Is This a Movie or Real Life?

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