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 @Lori You make a great point, Lori.  I think I need to slow it down a bit and pick a few images that inspire me.  I do this everywhere else, why not a device I look at every day?

 

As always, you make me think :)

2 years, 1 month ago on What’s Your Desktop Wallpaper?

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I have never put a Wallpaper on any of my devices!  I wonder what that says about me?  Can't be bothered? Lazy? I really don't know.  My husband puts different family photos on his.  

 

It's so funny, when I log onto a device, I just want to log on and get going......

2 years, 1 month ago on What’s Your Desktop Wallpaper?

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 @Lori Absolutely.  It's kind of like how they say that you will find love when you stop looking for it...almost like if you let the issue go, it loses momentum, diffuses and manifests into something potentially good.

2 years, 4 months ago on How Do You Let Go?

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Hi Lori and LFI.  Great suggestions for resources to help with letting go.  I read the "Sedona Method" a few years back and really liked it .  Now I need to take a look at "The Secret of Letting Go"

 

While I have not had anything as horrific as Jennifer has happen in my life - I can't even imagine the process that one must go through to deal with an incident like that.  I have had my share of pain and things that just brought me down.  I used to obsess over those things, think about them all the time and it created a lot of negativity in my life.  I think I just reached a place that I was so unhappy and so stressed that I literally could not live like that anymore.  One day I just decided to 'give it up to the universe' and truly let all that stuff go.  I thought about the fact that I have always been OK and worrying and stressing over those things was a waste of the precious time I have here.  I have also been one to keep everything inside and to think I needed to work through any issues on my own.  I decided to truly trust my husband and surrender to the fact that I can count on him to help me walk through everything - that was very freeing.  I have been thinking a lot about the idea of 'surrendering' (I have a post partially written about it) and how hard it is for us to completely, and I mean completely, let go and trust.  It started in yoga class where the teacher asked us to surrender and I found I was still physically holding on just a little.  It's a journey, I think, to get to a place that you can truly let completely go and breathe.  For me it happened in one fell swoop - it had to.  I don't think that is the case with most.  I still do work on things not creeping back in, but I use yoga, meditation and reading positive materials to help with that.

2 years, 4 months ago on How Do You Let Go?

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 @StaceyMJHughes  I am perplexed too that people think it is OK to omit.  I do think that they find a way to 'make it OK" for themselves, because, really, how could they live with themselves otherwise?

 

It's interesting about your childhood experiences and your subsequent feelings that you can't enjoy unconditional trust.  I had the total opposite reaction to youth experiences.  A family member had a chronic lying problem and it was so devastating to me that I vowed to not accept it ever again.  Now, I have been fibbed to again, but when I found out about it...that was the deal breaker.

 

On an encouraging note, I do believe that there are trustworthy people in life.  I have faith that there are good people that deserve our trust.  I think the hard part is giving people the benefit of the doubt (innocent until proven guilty) when you have been hurt in the past.  It is not easy, for sure!!

 

Off to Yoga to center myself...but I will check back in when I get back.  This is a great conversation.

2 years, 4 months ago on What’s Your Deal-Breaker?

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Hi Lori,  My deal breaker is pretty simple.  Don't lie, fib or hold something back because you think it will hurt my feelings.  You would think this type of behavior is not prevalent, but I have come across it lots of times in both my personal and professional life (more the holding something back, rather than outright lying).  I simply want the real truth all the time.  It may hurt for awhile, but at least I know I can trust you.  

 

Your deal breaker is grounded in trust too (as evidenced in your calligraphy motto).  You want to feel confident and at peace that what you have been promised will be done.

 

Trust is everything in my eyes.  When it's lost, it's lost forever.  Even if you 'turn the other cheek" as Stacey has shared, there is surely a small feeling of distrust at the pit of your stomach.  I think that adds so much stress to our lives and when we are trying to maintain a pillar of peace...it makes it all the more difficult.

2 years, 4 months ago on What’s Your Deal-Breaker?

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This is such an interesting concept that I had never thought of.  I am so glad you made me think about it.  I agree with you, particularly when the secret primarily impacts you (a book deal, a promotion, a decision about your future, etc.)  I think that no matter how much the person you share it with loves you or knows you, they cannot feel or express the joy quite in the specific, personal way you do, so that may be the letdown (even though they are very happy for you).  I do love that feeling of savoring the secret, but I think over time, as you get used to the idea, and it becomes more real, there are diminishing returns of joy (not a bad thing, just a natural occurrence), then I think it is time to share it and get excited all over again because the cat is out.

 

Where I do have a hard time containing a secret is when it is something specifically for someone else (a special gift, a surprise, a vacation plan, etc.)  I get so excited in that case that I want to share and enjoy the other person's happiness, but keeping that in is even a little more fun, because it builds up more joy & momentum.

 

Interesting the diversity of opinions here...some sharers, some not.  I wonder if that has anything to do with the difference of being a 'people person' (for lack of a better term) and the desire for constant connection and transparency and that of being a bit more reserved and inward focused.

2 years, 4 months ago on Should You Keep That Secret?

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 @Lori We sure do need to recognize them.  My starting place was actually when I left my corporate job, which was consuming me.  Probably not an option for many, but I feel blessed and lucky that I have had this opportunity to get back to peace.   It has honestly been the best year of my life.  Now I am working towards finding balance in work and life.  I think part of the secret when you are working full time is to ask (or pay) for help.  I never did that....I simply thought it was too much of a luxury, but it is not.  Should I jump back into a full time job again, I will definitely be looking for things to outsource so that I can spend my free time finding those special moments for myself and with my family and friends

2 years, 4 months ago on What are the Dark Chocolate Moments of Your Day?

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Lori, What a delicious topic for this Monday Morning.  I think it is awesome that you are applying your 'savouring' mentality from your love of books to your everyday life.  That is a beautiful thing.

 

I find that since I have deliberately slowed my life down, I am much better able to savor the simple things which I find to be the best.  I wish I were a morning person, but that is simply not the case.  It seems like so many of the LFI enjoy early morning moments.  I am simply in a fog until about 8:30.  But then, I begin the savoring.  Some of my lovely moments are:  listening to the morning birds singing (I am doing that right now :)), the Spring breeze that blows in my window, a snuggle and a belly scratch for my sweet dog, Austin (hmmm, I have several of these a day), some quiet reading time, my delicious Yoga class, the moment my husband gets home from work, the moment I see my son after school, stretching, reading in bed with my son, my hubby's arm around me while we watch a show, and that moment in bed right before I doze off.  Isn't it interesting that none of these activities cost money or are extravagant........

2 years, 4 months ago on What are the Dark Chocolate Moments of Your Day?

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 @MelanieAThomp Boy, I think it is so hard to teach young girls especially to appreciate their natural beauty and not be so focused on what others think when they are so targeted and bombarded with marketing messaging about being skinnier, prettier, and in need of having the latest, most expensive brands.  I was absolutely appalled the other day when I heard about the trend of young women pinning malnourished, unhealthy images on Pinterest labeled #thinspo.  It is so incredibly sad that they have to feel that pressure.  

 

I think the best way to counteract this and be happy with their natural attractiveness is for parents and individuals that they admire to continuously reinforce the message "You are beautiful as you are" and to encourage them to focus on other activities such as sports they enjoy.   I also think getting young women involved in organizations like Girl Scouts, clubs, faith and charity is a great way to encourage focus on positive, grounding themes.  I would love to see more celebrities get behind self-love campaigns like they have with bullying, because, like it or not, celebrities have klout with young people.  

2 years, 5 months ago on Why is Pretty So Important?

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It's so nice to see you back, Melanie and a with great topic for this Saturday.  As someone who has built a career on design and creating products that people (hopefully) like, I have always struggled a bit with overcoming any shame I feel with this being such a big focus in my life.  Over the years, I have come to to a much better place with it, because I do think that pretty and/or beauty is a wonderful aspect to add to our lives.  The problem becomes when people are obsessed with it, at the expense of other virtues and activities.  

 

As pointed out by within the discussion here, there are 2 kinds of pretty....1. our physical being and 2. our surroundings. With regards to physical beauty, I think it is very healthy to do things that bring our natural attractiveness out in whatever ways feel right.  I do think as we get older and appreciate what is naturally beautiful about ourselves and let go of a desire to be perfect, a certain contentment and happiness is the result.  I do worry about younger people who are overly concerned about what others think, rather than what makes them feel content and happy.  Pretty/beauty should be primarily for ourselves and if other people appreciate the efforts, well, that is simply a sweet little benefit.

 

With regards to our environment, I think it is simply fun to create a space, wardrobe, environment, etc. that makes us feel good.  With all the beautiful things available to us, sometimes we can feel like we need more more more, but pretty can be found in simple things such as the new bloom of a flower, candlelight, a DIY project, just as easily as it can be found in a new bauble, a beautifully decorated room or a piece of artwork.

 

I suppose it all comes down to balance.  I absolutely love to look at and be inspired by pretty things, even if just to admire them from afar.

 

2 years, 5 months ago on Why is Pretty So Important?

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 @Lori Thanks so much for the book recommendation - it sounds like something I need right about now.   I have an amazon order ready to go and this is going right in my basket.

 

Agree, we need to celebrate our solutions.  Sometimes we focus so much on the next issue that we don't enjoy the wins.

2 years, 5 months ago on How Do You Respond to a Problem?

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Lori, I love this topic and the advice that has been given so far.  I think in general, many people have an idealized view of a life without problems or interruptions to your flow (myself at times too), but I do think that life is just a series of challenges we need to overcome to be the people we want to be.  It gets even tougher in our fast paced life when it seems like yet one more problem is getting in the way of  meeting our goals.  I had a boss tell me once that (in regards to work) "you are paid to solve problems, period, that is what you do"  That stuck in my mind.  Whether we work for a boss, for ourselves or are the leader in our family, group or organization, it is our duty to watch out for problems and find solutions.  Some of the advice that really stuck out to me here is (forgive me for regurgitating, but I find it helpful to write it down):

 

1. Getting to a place of calm: you have a problem, get a plan...this takes the emotion out of the situation which is more than half of the problem

 

2. I love: 'You need to", rather than "Would you please" (I'm stealing this one).  Again, this gets us to an unemotional place of action

 

3. Nothing is impossible.  "Don't worry, we'll solve it".  This statement alone is so comforting.  It's can be so helpful to know you are not in it alone

 

4. There are many solutions/options.  Knowing that there is not one right plan takes some pressure off the situation

 

5. Immediate action (this is so important.  I have a tendency towards procrastination, so this one speaks to me loudly)

 

6. Bird's eye view - just that visual gave me peace when I was thinking about the topic at hand.

 

I am going to be implementing these ideas into my own daily life.  Thanks Lori, for raising the topic and to the LFI community for so many great 'solutions" to problem solving :)  I love it!

2 years, 5 months ago on How Do You Respond to a Problem?

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 @Lori Lori, Thanks for the link to the Magical Color Shower - that is awesome.  Interesting, my CD also starts with breathing - I think that is so important.  Glad to have another meditation to add to my repertoire.

Yes - it is ironic that we continually find ways to try to recreate the most natural of things.  I suppose it is necessary in our fast paced day to day, but it sure would be nice to simplify without all these extra 'things'.  I keep trying to simplify, simplify, simplify and whenever I do, I always feel better.  I guess we keep striving and doing the best we can to get back to basics :)

When I researched the light boxes, I found them on Amazon, by Phillips.  Let me know what you think if you do happen to pick one up

2 years, 5 months ago on How to Get a Good Night’s Sleep

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I was so glad to see this topic, because I have big struggles with sleep (for about 8 of so years)  It definitely started with stress, but I am similar to Melody in that I am a natural night owl.  I much prefer to stay up late and sleep later, but, of course, that is not an option for me.  I have read that natural light can help re-set your clock, with I think is true, but I rarely have time to sit outside for the recommended 15 minutes in the AM.  I have contemplated getting a 'blue light' box to keep it next to me while I am getting ready.  They get great reviews.

One thing I do in when I get in bed at night is what I consider a form of meditation.  I learned this technique when I went to a hypnotist once.  What I learned about hypnotism is that it is not "putting you to sleep", rather it is the act of getting you to the semi-concious state similar to the very first state of sleep.  Hmmmm, sounds about right.  The hypnotist created a CD for me in which she talked me into a state of relaxation by creating a visual of a beautiful, safe environment in my mind, combined with the exercise of starting at your toes and relaxing each part of your body as you mentally walk all the way up.  Much emphasis is put on the hips, hands, shoulders and face, where we hold a lot of stress.  One thing I found amazing is mow much stress you carry in your face - your eye sockets, jaw and mouth.  I suggest anyone at least try the facial relaxation at night...it does wonders.  I have listened to the CD so many times, that I have it committed to memory and don't need it anymore.  I just run through it in my mind.

I also find that the position of laying on my back helps with my feet elevated.  Weird, but it just does work.

Even with this, I still have a night or 2 each week that I can't quite get to sleep, so I find that if I move locations (to another room), I can more easily fall asleep. I think this one is purely psychological, but if it works, I go with it.

 

I think the last thing I need to do, per yourself and so many on here, is unplug earlier.  It's clearly working for you, so I think it is worth a try.

 

BTW, I had one of those Zen clocks years ago.  I really liked it.  It uses a chime to wake you, starting out at first very faint and gradually getting louder each time it rings.  Now they have them with simulated natural light that gets brighter with each ring.  I just haven't invested in a new one since mine conked out.  Just wanted to share in case anyone wanted to look into one.  No' snooze' though, for those that love their snoozing.

2 years, 5 months ago on How to Get a Good Night’s Sleep

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Hi Lori, such a wide array of inspirations from your post and all of the comments.  I am definitely not as well-read as yourself and many others here - I am  a work in progress, and I am OK with that :)  I do find that I am most inspired by small acts and the simplest of things....a generous act of kindness I witness,  smiles and encouragement at a difficult times, noticing things in nature, Yoga principles....just the everyday things that warm your heart.  I love Galen and sons "Christmas Spiders"...how wonderful!  2 books that come to mind are "The Giving Tree" by Shel Silverstein  and "Light on Life" by B.K.S. Iyengar...so many more, but like I said..the simpler, the better.

2 years, 5 months ago on Who Inspires You?

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 @Lori Hi Lori,

It's interesting, I think since my son is young, some of this will have to come later, but I suppose we do adapt for his 7 years.  Lately, we have been talking a lot about bullying.  Our first small incident came a few weeks ago when he came home and told me about an older boy who pretended to hit him.  The Mr. and I talked about it a lot and are trying to share advice about confidence and how to handle these situations.  It's  tough though - the good thing is that there are so many great resources about bullying, so I am trying to read up some.  We also focus quite a bit on treating others as you expect to be treated, selflessness (very important as an only child) and responsibility.  At this age, it is tricky, and I think you have to just be repetitive with these things, because it's hard for them to pay attention and you hope they are taking it in.  Repetition worked with me, although I didn't like it at the time.  Only time will tell with my own young man.

2 years, 6 months ago on Sage Advice from Mom and Dad

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Love this topic!!  How awesome, Lori, that your Dad was so supportive of your book journey.  It is such  a comfort to turn to your parents in times of big decision making.  That always felt like a little safety net to me.

 

I love your example of "Pardon Me".  My mom said that one too and I had forgotten all about it.  Glad to add it back into my repetoir!!

 

Let's see..... a few of the ones that really stuck with me:

1. Dad: "You make your bed, you lie in it".  He always added; "I will always be here for you, but you will be responsible for your own decisions":  This had a great impact on me because although I knew he loved me immensely and would be there to listen, but I also knew he wasn't kidding and I would have to work my way out of any trouble I got myself into - he wasn't about to 'fix' anything for me.

2. Mom: "Anything worth doing, is worth doing well"

3. Dad: "Many, people will come and go in your life, but in the end If you can count your true friends on your 1 hand, you are very lucky".  I have found this to be true.  I have all kinds of friends and people I care about, but the ones that I know I can count on or call in the meddle of the night in an emergency and vice versa...well, they are about 5.  And, to think when he told me this back in my teens, I thought it was crazy-talk!!

2 years, 6 months ago on Sage Advice from Mom and Dad

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Hi Hajra,

Nice to meet you via LFI. Thanks for sharing your mechanisms for dealing with your challenges through the years. Interesting how they changed over time or maybe there are different mechanisms for different types of life challenges. I find that the case for myself....it depends on the degree of the problem. I have to agree with Elena that having a young child (mine is on the way to 7 next week) helps ease pain and put things in perspective. They are so resilient and things roll off their back and that tends to be contagious. I tend not to dwell on things, but I do use retail therapy occasionally. I also tend to retreat into books - I think it is a combination of the solitude and the escape that is a salve for me. I am definitely a person that needs solitude to manage through difficult times. My husband is so good at just letting me 'be' when I go through those times and I generally come out stronger and lighter afterwards.

2 years, 6 months ago on How Do You Deal With Life’s Lemons?

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@Lori@Hajra Lori, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Sending prayers and warm thoughts your way.

2 years, 6 months ago on How Do You Deal With Life’s Lemons?

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Hi Lori and LFI community....I had hoped to get over here sooner, but alas, Sun is the first time I have had to sit down and comment. How awesome that you are 'quitting' perfectionism. I think everyone should! I agree that we should all try our best, but these ridiculous standards that we often put on ourselves have gone too far. A few things I have read recently have resonated with me. 1. Seth Godin said in one of his blogposts (I paraphrase)......spend more time getting good ideas out there and less time copy editing. That really hit me hard. I think about all the time I have spent writing and re-writing presentations, proposals, blog posts, memos etc etc. until they are perfect. Isn't it more important to get the ideas out there rather than trying to endlessly improve 1 or 2 phrases here or there? I have since changed my approach and do not spend so much time on editing. 2. Some brilliant mommy blogger (I can't recall who at the moment) said "the day that all the toys and legos are put away and the house is immaculate is indeed a sad, lonely day" I thought..."wow" how true. When the chaos is gone, the loved ones are probably gone too. The only way to have a perfectly ordered, super clean house is when noone is around. I will take a little mess any day!

One last thought - you never have to worry about 'letting your blog readers/community down' There are no stupid comments or lame posts. There is so much goodness that comes from this place you have created, I just don't think any of us would ever be judging of anything you write or share.

2 years, 6 months ago on Are You a Perfectionist?

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@Lori@deliberateblog Hi Melody and Lori,

Lori, thank you for having Melody guest post. You have such wonderful, insightful people share in this community. I love reading the posts, hearing all the comments and meeting new people. It is also wonderful to get exposure to great new blogs like Melody's.

It is freeing to be disengaged, but for everyone out there struggling with it, it's worth reiterating that it can take a lot of work to get there. We are all human and life is a journey, right? I do think caring about the opinions of the people we love is a little different in that sometimes when we are working through an issue, we intentionally seek out the opinion of someone we know cares about us. It may help us to see outside our normal view, but ultimately we have to make our own decisions.

I so agree with your comment, Lori, about the strong conditioning we receive from our caregivers to please our parents and others. There is definitely a whole lot that can be delved into regarding that, right? It would be interesting to see the range of parent pleasing that different people try to manage.

2 years, 6 months ago on What Offends You?

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I am with you Melody. I do not 'feel offended' by others. It took me a long time to get here, but I do not internalize other people's actions anymore. I have nurtured this ability so that as soon as I hear something unsettling, I automatically put their comment, issue ,complaint etc. back on them (mentally). People are responsible for their own actions and I have no control over them, nor do I want that responsibility. I am not totally sure how I got here, probably with age and a lot of reading and study. I also think I have been party to some pretty brutal business situations that have forced me to let things roll off my back. It gets easier the more you are exposed to it. This was not the case when I was younger. Back then, I was very vulnerable to what others said and did around me and took much of it to heart. I spent a lot of time trying to fix stuff in response to what others said. What a waste of time!!

Elena mentioned 'disrespect' a behavior that I find simply intolerable, but I am not offended by it: I feel it is important to address the individual instigating the behavior right away and be done with it. Whether they acknowledge or change is up to them, but truly it is their issue/ignorance. If the disrespect is directed at a 3rd party, hopefully by speaking out, we give them another viewpoint and some support/strength to move past it.

2 years, 6 months ago on What Offends You?

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Lori, Such a great topic. I was smiling as I read your post and all the comments. I think just the mention of chivalry brings a warm feeling to me. For whatever reason, I tend to relate chivalry to men. I love that feeling when a man goes out of his way to take a bit of care with a lady....it's kind and sweet. I do think acts of kindness by either sex are wonderful. I consider it selflessness, kindness and care. I do think these things, while not dead, are dwindling in society today. Why? 1. It's no excuse, but the pace of our lives is ridiculous and when people are stressed, tired and overwhelmed, these social graces can suffer. 2. I think much of it is nurture (not all though, some is nature), I think mothers of the 1960's and earlier had more time and made more effort to reinforce these values and concepts throughout the raising of their children. It was expected. Are many modern moms teaching these concepts? Certainly, but some aren't - I see it at my son's school all the time. My parents were very strict, as were my husbands parents. They made sure that we were very aware of our actions with others. My husband is not macho at all, but I know he has been raised to put his lady first. It is most always evident. I am committed to teaching my son about kindness, consideration and, yes, chivalry, but I can say that we are not as strict as out parents and I wonder how that will impact his learnings.

I do think some of it is nature too. I think there are naturally empathetic boys...your son sounds like one of them. He loves you so much and is so present with you, that he naturally wants to nurture you a bit. While he has likely seen your husband care for you and treat you like a lady, that instinct also likely comes from within. He sounds like a very caring young man.

I hope that we can continue to instill these values in our children and not allow them to slip away over time.

2 years, 6 months ago on Is Chivalry Dead?

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I have really, really mixed emotions on this topic. For one, by nature, I am a somewhat shy person, but since I am not of the technology generation, it has been critical & necessary for me to get very comfortable with pushing myself well beyond my comfort zone with regards to communication, in person conversation and, dare I say, getting out in front by speaking in front of people. I have also had the benefit of the great guidance of my mother who was expert at the 'social graces'. However, with advances in tech and social media, I often worry about young people with introverted tendencies like mine. What will come of them? Will they be able to push themselves past their comfort zone to reach their full potential? Will it matter? Is this new way of communicating simply an evolution and will we (ahem, earlier generations) not recognize communication in the future?

On the flip side, I have made some really amazing friends and new relationships online that I can see deepening over time. I do agree with some of the other posters.....putting away the phone and truly focusing on who you are with, when you do have time with someone is so important.

I also agree with something Melody and Ashvini said - it's not just technology, it's the crazy pace of out lives too....and, think about how transient we are these days! Our families used to live in the same place their whole lives. Many of us move around so much that relationship ties are weakened...add on a crazy pace and it becomes hard to maintain those deep relationships that nourish us.

Ultimately, I see positive and negative to the 'new communication'. I do think it is up to us to teach the new generations the value of real connections and in person communication.

2 years, 7 months ago on Who Are We Talking To?

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@Lori Hi Lori, I don't really consider myself a huge risk taker. I suppose I achieved a certain level of success in my corporate career mostly through hard work and determination, with some moderate risk taking. I feel like I am so new in the blogging arena with so much to learn. After a much needed break from my prior job, I needed a creative outlet and the idea of getting back to my roots was appealing (I studied fashion design as an undergrad and began my career as a textile designer). A blog seemed like a great first step. I am formulating my next steps now and I think the future will be my biggest test of comfort with risk..if I am willing to bet on myself.

2 years, 7 months ago on A Story of Faith and a Whole Lot of Family Fun

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Lori, This as an awesome story. How amazing that you did this as a family!! Your success will be a such a legacy and fantastic memories for your family. I am glad I got to know more about you, your family and your business through this post. Love it!!!!

2 years, 7 months ago on A Story of Faith and a Whole Lot of Family Fun

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@Lori I never did see the JLC movie. Recently, I saved it on DVR to watch and somehow I never watched before it erased. Will have to try again. Lately, it seems I don't watch as many movies as I used to. I miss it, especially watching Independent Films and Documentaries. So many great blogs and books to read and people to converse with online.

2 years, 7 months ago on Why Do You Read?

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Hi Barbara,

I just discovered your blog via your comments today on the post by @melanieathomp about 'Why Do You Read?" on the @lifeforinstance blog. I am so glad I did! I think I will spend a good deal of time here.

I love Pinterest. Melanie and I were just chatting on Twitter about it yesterday. I used to pull all kinds of swipe and inspirational photos for various creative projects and file carefully file them in folders for future use. Now I can just collect all my imagery online...so much more convenient. There are so many creative, talented people curating images there - I find it so inspiring. I look forward to following you there too.

Now I need to check out the 366 project was well. Sounds very interesting. Thanks so much for sharing.

2 years, 7 months ago on The Idle Girl

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@Lori@HerSparkle I haven't read any other of her books, so thanks for sharing these 2. I will add them to my list since you recommend them!

2 years, 7 months ago on Why Do You Read?

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@MelanieAThomp I absolutely think it helps us empathize with others. I also think it helps us see that everyone struggles with something or other - it humanizes the subject of the book.

Looking forward to seeing all the recommendations here.

2 years, 7 months ago on Why Do You Read?

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Such a great topic. I am always looking to add great books to my 'to be read' list. I lean towards non-fiction because I am intensely curious about what makes people tick and what sparks ideas. I do like a good fiction book too - it is such a luxury to get completely lost in a story and I love the bittersweet feeling when you get to the end of a book and it was so good, you didn't want it to end.

Here are a few of my non-fiction favorites:

The Facebook Effect: I loved learning the 'non-Hollywod-ized' story of the company from the beginning, all the deals, potential deals and all the players

Delivering Happiness: A Path to Profits, Passion & Purpose: Tony Hseih of Zappos amazes me. He s a true leader and such an inspiration. His dedication to creating a 'happy' and satisfying corporate culture for his employees is amazing

The House of Gucci; A Sensational Story of Murder, Madness, Glamour and Greed: Yes, another company profile, but this one adds the dimension of a wildly passionate Italian family. Absolutely fascinating.

My French Life: Heavy on beautiful photos, Vicki Archer shares her story of moving to France and restoring a 17th century farmhouse over 3 years with her family. Just Breathtaking!

Ava Gardner: Love is Nothing: A juicy profile of this tortured soul

My Lobotomy by Howard Dully: As one few that survived or were not seriously mentally damaged by this barbaric procedure, he tells his story so eloquently. He was only 12 when his parents chose this procedure. Very sad, yet inspiring.

Gang Leader For a Day by Sudhir Alladi Venkatesh: I learned of this books when I was reading the first Freakonomics book (another awesome read BTW). It profiles how Sudhir, as a part of his studies, infiltrated the Chicago projects and it's gangs to eventually be considered one of them.

Fiction:

The Secret Life of Bees: So much better than the movie, the book interweaves all the intricacies of these unique women and their life in such a traumatic time.

A Tree Grows in Brooklyn: Such a classic - should be required reading

The Joy Luck Club: Again, intricate relationships between women

Room: I am not finished with this one yet, but this story about a Women kept captive in 1 room who eventually has a child by her captor is pretty amazing. Very unique approach to prose.

OK, I knew once I going it would be hard to stop. Now I need to add Lori's book to my list of 'to be read'

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I remember that movie, back in the 80's I think, called The Seventh Sign (with Demi Moore). Stellar movie it was not, but I do remember being chilled by the idea that we won't necessarily notice Biblical signs that we are near the end because they may not look like we expect or we just aren't paying attention.

Regardless, I agree with the sentiments stated here that it's not worth worrying about - if it happens (in whatever form it takes), I have absolutely no control over it, so my time is best spent living each moment to the fullest, doing the things that make me happy, and spending time with friends and family. As a recovering worrier, I feel much freedom in that.

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