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I so agree with Christelyn regarding the profile picture.  Smiling is KEY.  A woman conveys so much to a man with her facial expressions whether she realizes it or not!  I know selfies can be hard so she probably doesn't realize it but....with her head tilted that particular way and her eyebrow cocked, she is literally looking down on the viewer.  It is a somewhat cynical, sassy expression that can be intimidating, particularly to a 22 year-old white guy who is clueless about black women.  Also, she is wearing all-black in the photo.  On a subconscious level, dark colors do not convey a femininity or openness to relationships that light or vivid colors do. Some color would look great with her beautiful skin, pretty lipstick, and cute hairstyle.  

1 week, 2 days ago on QOTW: Twenty-Something I.T. Girl’s Swirling Woes in New York

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Yes!  I have always suspected skiing that was a great way to meet fun, open-minded, financially solvent white men (or other non-black men).  Unfortunately my black girlfriends are allergic to the outdoors and my white girlfriends are either sun-and-sand bums or went skiing with their families as children and are now over it.  Thank goodness for the Internet so those of us of like-mind can connect!

2 weeks, 2 days ago on What Skiing in Big Bear Taught Me About Interracial Dating Prospects for Black Women

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Beautiful pics and a beautiful couple!

3 weeks, 2 days ago on Winter Wedding!

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@ShunJack Wringing of hands, wailing and gnashing of teeth.  #ReverseRacism

1 month, 2 weeks ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@Uvo I have one of Diop's books.  The ancient Egyptians trace their lineage, in their own annals of history, from the south.  Sudan has more pyramids than Egypt, albeit smaller ones.  And people need to realize Arabs aren't indigenous to Africa but invaded and colonized from SW Asia over several centuries long after there was no more ancient Egypt, Greece, or Rome.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@Michael Miles @chocolate_fashionista @ADWPDX North African, Sub-Saharan, and Middle Eastern are not scientific terms but modern political terms created by the United Nations to denote majority Arab areas.  They have nothing to do with that region of the world 3000 years ago.  In fact 3000 years ago there was no Sahara Desert--it was a fertile plain, not a dry boundary preventing travel from the south.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@dani-BBW @Brenda55 I believe Ridley Scott that studios won't finance a picture of this caliber with an all-black cast, or with the four main characters black.  Egyptian royalty PLUS epic figures from the Bible?  No way is that happening. Then it wouldn't be a tentpole movie but a "black" movie.  On the other hand Joel Edgerton and Aaron Paul are not A-list actors.  Their names do nothing for box office.  Will Smith is a proven international draw and would be a bigger name as Ramses.  And adding a black Zipporah (I doubt her role is that big anyway) probably wouldn't hurt.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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I'm so glad you called out this mess, Christelyn.  I sincerely hope this movie flops.  Christian Bale is a beautiful but very pale WELSH man and it makes zero sense for an African man to look like that, even if it is North Africa.  People love to bring up Cleopatra's Greek lineage, but she was born over 1,000 years after Exodus.  Look at how Joel Edgerton looks in real life.  He literally wears "brownface" for this movie--they have painted him bronze the same way they painted white men to play Native Americans in Westerns and Mickey Rooney squinted his eyes to play Asian in Breakfast at Tiffany's 50 years ago.  That braided wig stuck on Sigourney Weaver's head looks ridiculous.  In what white civilization is it customary for the women, esp. royalty, to stick African-textured hairstyles on their heads?  


I actually went to see the Ramses II Smithsonian exhibit about 20 years ago when it toured the country.  It was chockfull of paintings, little figurines, and statuettes.  ALL of them looked like the typical black African with dark brown skin, cornrows, and full lips.  It was plain as day.  I did not see one image of light-skinned, white, or mixed royalty either.  North Africa was not even Arab-occupied until the 7th century AD!  People think they know history but what they know is what's repeated from racist 1950's textbooks and the same overplayed images of a mixed Egypt right before its fall.  


http://www.ipoaa.com/todays_black_egyptians.htm

1 month, 2 weeks ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@Lei "Moses was of Hebrew or Jewish descent so it would be nice if they used the correct ethnicity for him as well. Which means that the actors playing Moses and his family would more resemble Seinfeld or David Schwimmer(Ross on Friends)."


Not even.  That is what they look like now after 2000 years in Europe.  A Jewish population living in Egypt around 1200 BC would've looked more brown/Middle Eastern.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@balexander0136 And Cleopatra was later in Egyptian history, when they'd already been ruled by and mixed with Greeks and Asiatics.  The people 1200 years earlier, during the rule of Ramses II, would have been even darker.  

1 month, 2 weeks ago on As Much as I Love Christian Bale, I WON’T Be Watching “Exodus: Gods and Kings.”

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@_Toni_ Didn't Whoopi defend him too?  Then again she said Roman Polanski didn't commit "rape rape" and that Mel Gibson's not racist cause he played with her grandkids.

1 month, 4 weeks ago on The Official Bill Cosby (Alleged) Rape/Rant Thread…

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@friendswmimi Oh yeah I remember when she did that movie (though I didn't see, and never will).  I thought he actually tried to dissuade her from doing it, told her it would be bad for her reputation and career?  It seems he only targeted white actresses who didn't have a foothold in the industry yet.

1 month, 4 weeks ago on The Official Bill Cosby (Alleged) Rape/Rant Thread…

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@ShunJack @alecsilva  I thought it was bad to mock Bristol and I agree MHP's comment about the black Romeny baby was out of line, but this is NOT a one-to-one comparison.  Neither Sarah Palin nor Mitt Romney were the sitting President of the United States.  Bristol was an adult when her mother was on the ticket.  Harris-Perry joked about the fact that there was a single black baby in a photo of 20 white people; she did not scold the baby's looks or behavior or say a single word about whether the parents were raising the baby appropriately. And finally, a TV anchor is not a paid staffer of a politician who's currently in office.  As communications director is she is official word of a man making legislation.  No comparison between that and a talking head trying to get laughs and ratings. 

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected

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@Ri74 By this time next year she'll have a job just as influential and lucrative, if not more so.  I'm reminded of Joe what's-his-face in SC who shouted out "You lie!" during the State of the Union and went on to raise more money than ever.

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected

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@trinigirl1 @pioneervalleywoman But Malia is tall with long legs.  The standard issue skirt will always look short on her.  

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected

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@Statuesque " I'm not sure what preppy nerd bar she thinks these teenaged girls are going to dressed as"


Some bar near Harvard, or any top tier school that the Obamas girls will likely attend...much to the chagrin of bitter Becky.

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected

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@SweetGardenia Yes the hatred is astounding.  Even as children they can't escape the black woman stereotype of being hypersexual with bad attitudes.  And this from a fatty with too much makeup, a bottle in her mouth, and a shoplifting record!

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected

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@kennaGransberg If they did dress up she'd accuse them of putting on airs and alienating the common folk with their elitist celebrity ways.

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Resignation of GOP Staffer Proves What Happens When Black Womanhood is Protected

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Oh.  My.  God. A corpse with a straw wig on its head.  It's truly sad that someone raised in a nearly all black country feels compelled to do this.  She's had a modeling career and landed a wealthy Canadian so why the need to mutilate herself?

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Are African Women More Desperate to Look White Than Black American Women?!

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@ole'skool I agree with you.  What is the highest compliment one can pay to a women in today's "black" music?  Being a "bad bitch."

2 months, 1 week ago on Black Female Aggressiveness at Epic Levels. Why?

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@McKenzieGirl @dani-BBW @mlank64 @Shanda Panda To be fair, Shonda didn't create and doesn't write for HTGAWM.  She's a producer but it's created/written by Peter Nowalk.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on I’m Taking a Hard Line. Either You Are With Us, Or You Are Against Us.

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@jazzyfae45 I feel the same way.  Without character flaws you have no conflict and without conflict you do not have a television show.  Drama is different from the family sitcom where the parents are intended to be role models, i.e., Claire Huxtable.  And Scandal went to great lengths to portray the presidential marriage as already dead in the water and a matter of political convenience before Olivia came along.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on I’m Taking a Hard Line. Either You Are With Us, Or You Are Against Us.

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@Olivia2016 Exactly.  These shows make it look like being a black woman is like being in the mafia.  Constantly on edge for every little bit of behavior and every word and every perceived slight is blown out of proportion.  

2 months, 2 weeks ago on I’m Taking a Hard Line. Either You Are With Us, Or You Are Against Us.

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THANK YOU Christelyn.  We do need to draw a hard line.  We can't be so desperate for entertainment and a black female face on screen that we support what's essentially a minstrel show.  Make no mistake that these "characters" are created just like any soap or scripted drama.  As cynical as it sounds, people really are dumb enough to believe what they see on TV and do make broad generalizations based on race when they're hammered with these images over and over.  Especially when the behavior is done by real people.  We don't have the luxury of being seen as individuals and this hurts us all.  




2 months, 2 weeks ago on I’m Taking a Hard Line. Either You Are With Us, Or You Are Against Us.

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@rexy012 Oh you said it.  Hollywoood knows how to market what it wants.  Nene Leakes no doubt was pushed to the front as a star because she fits multiple stereotypes at once.  She was the one most out of control with her emotions--not only the loudness and anger but the crying and breakdowns.  She's super tall (read: masculine), started out as a stripper (oversexed black harlot), and the ridiculous platinum hair and nose job she got on camera lets us know the racial inferiority complex is there, she's still a black woman who's beauty ideal is white so she's not threatening as a female icon. And the idiots at Ebony, who put her on the cover, bought into it.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on I’m Taking a Hard Line. Either You Are With Us, Or You Are Against Us.

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@jazzyfae45 And the fact that these women have millions of dollars sends the message that no matter how rich or business-savvy a black woman is, or how much access she has to privileges that only 1% of the planet joys, her basic nature is still classless and savage.  It's the worst.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on I’m Taking a Hard Line. Either You Are With Us, Or You Are Against Us.

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@Cami2210 @Maxine @Statuesque There is evidence that good nutrition lowers your risk of sun damage.  This includes carotenoids and lycopene in red, yellow, and orange vegetables ; omega-3 fatty acids from fish; vitamin C and vitamin E. http://feelhappiness.com/natural-sun-protection-without-sunscreen/

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Ageless Advantage’

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@Cami2210 @Statuesque I question it too.  We don't see black women living on the equator dying en masse of skin cancer.  Makes no evolutionary sense.  I also don't like to slather chemical goo (what IS it?) to be absorbed into my skin just because there's a 0.01% of black people developing melanoma.  

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Ageless Advantage’

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@coco78728 @SacLove76 I agree.  I think contouring is unnecessary unless you're acting on stage or screen or under the flash bulb of paparazzi.  I also think that unless you're using natural or mineral makeup, putting all those cosmetics on your skin every day will eventually age you.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Ageless Advantage’

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@LadyHumor @Maxine I don't like it so hot I'm sweating all the time, but I never shy away from warmth.  I like how the sun brings out the golden glint in brown skin.  People are starting to buy this now in lotions (which grossed me out when I learned that it's fish scales).

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Ageless Advantage’

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@trinigirl1 Love the color of your dress!

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Ageless Advantage’

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@LadyHumor @coco78728 Wasn't BB cream an Asian invention?  Since living in CA I've discovered the Korean spa.  I believe that's a huge tool in their anti-aging arsenal.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Ageless Advantage’

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@LadyHumor @PamelaFoster @ole'skool Dark skin doesn't absorb Vitamin D from the sun as efficiently as white skin does, so it behooves us to take a supplement or get it in food.  

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Ageless Advantage’

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Not only does dark skin age better, it is SOFTER too.  Yes we have to handle ashy-ness in dry, cold climates, but in temperate or warm weather, chocolate-colored skin can feel like spun silk.  

2 months, 2 weeks ago on Asset Maximizing: Black Women Have the ‘Ageless Advantage’

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@PaoloP Actually considering I drink rice milk, homemade rice ice cream sounds DELICIOUS.

2 months, 2 weeks ago on AAWG: Wow her with your Whiteness by Savage Tango

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Consider it added to the list!

2 months, 3 weeks ago on On Vetting: When a Guy Expresses Doubts About Interracial Dating…

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Indonesia was a Dutch colony so many people of Indonesian descent live in Amsterdam and have influenced the cuisine. Curry peanut sauce is also popular with fries. I must go back and try all varieties!

2 months, 3 weeks ago on On Vetting: When a Guy Expresses Doubts About Interracial Dating…

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@dani-BBW @Maxine I was only there a short time--2 or 3 days and nights--but I surprised myself by actually liking mayonnaise on fries.  The sauce was warm and didn't quite taste the same as storebought American mayo.  I think the fact that I'd been drinking had something to do with it too.  

2 months, 3 weeks ago on On Vetting: When a Guy Expresses Doubts About Interracial Dating…

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@PaoloP I absolutely love this!

2 months, 3 weeks ago on AAWG: Wow her with your Whiteness by Savage Tango

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@MikeStStation @Maxine @Cami2210 @Keioni I know very few people who engage in the same behavior/attitudes at 35 that they did when they were 17.  If they don't try new experiences, learning and growing, then they're not the person for me anyway.  I think you have a view of sex as inherently bad or dirty that just doesn't jibe with my worldview.  Or at the least you regard it with more suspicion than myself.  I think there are so many variables that go above and beyond the number.  I'd rather be with someone who's number was 20--but they never got anyone pregnant, do not have STDs, and didn't cheat and treated their partners respectfully--than someone who's number was 4 but they had a couple of baby mamas, a disease, or treated their partners poorly..

2 months, 3 weeks ago on On Vetting: How Men Run Game By Holding Your Past Against You!

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@MikeStStation @Maxine @Cami2210 @Keioni I'm not saying I don't want to know *anything.*  I am only talking about knowing someone's number.  It has no bearing on the present or future of the relationship like say, infertility, an ex-spouse, or an STD. After you know their number, then what?  You ask who each guy was and under what circumstances she slept with him?  And then, despite the great chemistry and love you have for this person in the present, you dump her over something that happened a long time ago?  I have had male friends with near-pristine sexual histories and it didn't make them any better prepared to be someone's mate. 

2 months, 3 weeks ago on On Vetting: How Men Run Game By Holding Your Past Against You!

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Culture is learned.  Culture is fluid.  We aren't a different species.  Anyone, including black women, can wear wooden shoes and put mayo on their french fries....so what is he afraid of?  Count me with everyone else who says "Next!"

2 months, 3 weeks ago on On Vetting: When a Guy Expresses Doubts About Interracial Dating…

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@NYMan Oh yeah because just silently walking the street showcases her acting skills.  Do you remember her name?  Cause if you don't I highly doubt any agents do.  And what does her vocation have to do with the rude behavior of the guys that she passed by?

2 months, 3 weeks ago on So…Street Harassment is Important Now That White Women Are the Focus?

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@Christelyn  @Aquagirl1 @MikeStStation @Keioni Guy that runs that site clearly suffers from the delusion that he's going to be young forever.  

2 months, 3 weeks ago on On Vetting: How Men Run Game By Holding Your Past Against You!

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@MikeStStation @Maxine @Cami2210 @Keioni My reason for refusing to answer has nothing to do with me thinking I've done wrong, but with the realization that someone who asks that does not have myself or the relationship's best interest at heart. Your argument is the same as people who want to tap a person's phone or read their mail and say well if you didn't have anything to hide you wouldn't protest.  

2 months, 3 weeks ago on On Vetting: How Men Run Game By Holding Your Past Against You!

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@Cami2210 @keimiasmoon @caligirl94117 "The second most common cause is a stressful, chaotic childhood."


I will co-sign that.  I know from experience. 

2 months, 3 weeks ago on So…Street Harassment is Important Now That White Women Are the Focus?

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@SirLoinDeBeef I can really see this being a Twilight Zone episode.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on So…Street Harassment is Important Now That White Women Are the Focus?

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@Brenda55 Oh for the love of....I didn't read the whole article, but that paragraph you quoted sounds to me like a totally different ballpark than street harassment.  A guy at a college party or in a bar checking her out is NOT harassment.  If she sends cues that she's not interested and he persists then yes that can devolve into harassment.  But her description of these guys sounds like awkward social mores or bad manners.  So they looked at her and circled around, in a setting where the opposite sex has been meeting to hook up since forever.  What would the author have parties and bars look like?  Males on one side and females on the other, like a  middle school dance?   

2 months, 3 weeks ago on So…Street Harassment is Important Now That White Women Are the Focus?

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@MikeStStation @Maxine @Cami2210 @Keioni But where is the line drawn then? How many men per year is acceptable? She may have had many serious relationships that were short-lived but monogamous.  She may have been wild in her teens and gone totally conservative as an adult, but her number would still be high.  Maybe the one-night stands she had were in Vegas and it was her birthday yada yada.  I'm just pointing out that these imaginary lines in the sand don't work.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on On Vetting: How Men Run Game By Holding Your Past Against You!

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