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@DWB Agreed.  And in CA you cannot block a pedestrian crosswalk.  If your front wheels are over those hash marks you must go through the light.

1 day ago on False Claims of Racial Profiling Like Son of Taraji P. Henson and Daniele Watts Make It Hard For the Rest of Us.

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@dani-BBW @Maxine I got a Sleepy Hollow vibe from the description: she's a cop and he communicates with ghosts.  I don't know if it will be romantic or not.  If they draw the demo I suspect they will--progressive black women and young black girls--it would be wise of them (after a good amount of tension and build-up) to eventually take it there.  The male lead has a biracial wife in real life:  http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2863886/Amber-Stevens-marries-former-Greek-star-Andrew-J-West.html

2 days ago on More Film and TV Projects Featuring Black Women

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@formeonly @PoetOfDarkness @kennaGransberg @jazzyfae45 I assume he meant why are you so GUNG HO black people and his phone just autocorrected.  

2 days, 6 hours ago on Wait…WHET?! Azealia Banks Dates White Guys? Is She Not Allowed to Complain of Black Men Now?

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@starlightbubbles27 @MadameX I think she sees European white men in a whole different light than American white men.  I think she did some fashion modeling over there.

2 days, 7 hours ago on Wait…WHET?! Azealia Banks Dates White Guys? Is She Not Allowed to Complain of Black Men Now?

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@PoetOfDarkness @Kaley28 It is a black woman's magazine.  Not as gossip-centered and D-list celebrity-driven as those other sites.  Like a lifestyle zine.

2 days, 7 hours ago on Wait…WHET?! Azealia Banks Dates White Guys? Is She Not Allowed to Complain of Black Men Now?

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@The Working Home Keeper @trinigirl1 @StarStroy Well they do call USC the University of Spoiled Children.  I guess it goes for black Hollywood as well as white.

2 days, 7 hours ago on False Claims of Racial Profiling Like Son of Taraji P. Henson and Daniele Watts Make It Hard For the Rest of Us.

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Yay for Sleepy Hollow's renewal!  


I have another one to add, a new sci-fi show on the CW:  http://deadline.com/2015/03/jaime-lee-kirchner-cast-dead-people-cw-pilot-1201396402/

2 days, 8 hours ago on More Film and TV Projects Featuring Black Women

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These stories are always a bright spot in my day.  Good-looking couple!

1 week, 1 day ago on Jim and Allie – Timing Is Everything

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Such an interesting story (esp. the school experiences in different locations) with a beautiful ending.  Thanks for writing this!

2 weeks ago on Kesha: “My Husband Was Not the Man of My Dreams”

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@sarah conner @Maxine @miami2ibiza2121 @awaywego2626 @Elegance "MALE BASHING IS COUNTERPRODUCTIVE."


Wes Murphy is not representative of the male sex.  No one here who condemned Wes extrapolated that to mean all or even most men.  Female bashing is counterproductive as well.  Hasn't gotten you very far on THIS forum.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@sarah conner @miami2ibiza2121 @awaywego2626 @Elegance No, Elegance and AnnieRUok have not placed 100% of the blame on Carrie, nor does it sound like they condone Wes lying to Christelyn from jump street.  Elegance even asked who approached who about the fix up, because she knows it makes a difference.


I find it suspicious that your first and only comments on BBW were to say Carrie didn't talk to Wes about her relationship goals on the date, which you wouldn't know unless you were there.  I find it suspicious that the minute Carrie called you emotional warrior, your account went dead where no one could reply. I also find it suspicious that a black woman would reference Dr. Laura, who's show infamously ended after she berated a BW caller with a WM husband and racist neighbors. 


If you are not Wes, then that is even more pathetic that you'd be this passionate about going to bat for him. 

2 weeks, 2 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@sarah conner Wes, you already implied that all men lie all the time (or least that women should operate on that assumption), have no morals, and can be expected not to respect women's boundaries, so what difference would it make if Carrie discussed her relationship goals on the first date with you?  You make no sense and are full of it. 

2 weeks, 3 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@sarah conner @Maxine @BellaVoce Do you think grown men are EVER responsible for their own behavior?  The point is to let him know he can't build his Youtube brand on the backs of black women.  We may not be able to change his private behavior with every black women he meets, but we can make damn sure he doesn't do it on BBW again.  

2 weeks, 3 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@sarah conner @BellaVoce "Why would I have a discussion about moral boundaries w/ Wes?"


Because it was immoral of him to seek out Christelyn and lie to her by saying he was searching for the love of his life.  Because it's immoral to present one persona online in an effort to make money off of black women subscribers while treating your black woman date shoddily.  Because it was immoral to ignore the calls of the person who spent time and energy fixing you up on that date in the first place   

2 weeks, 3 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@Kaley28 @CarrieThompson1 "I tried to respond to sarah's post but it was pending."


That's because that probably was Wes, who flew the coop when Carrie outed him.  I can't imagine who else would be screaming about 'but she went to his house and took her bra off!'  I guess she was supposed to ask for an engagement ring first, or else he had carte blanche to jerk her around.     

2 weeks, 4 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@sarah conner @Maxine @jazzyfae45 @Elegance Uh...nobody claimed the sexual contact wasn't consensual.  How do you know she didn't discuss commitment on the date unless you were there?  Or what he told her right after the sexual contact?


Well you deleted your profile so I guess it really is you, Wes.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@Elegance @Maxine @sarah conner @jazzyfae45 I was actually responding to Sarah Conner's post, but I think with the timing of the 'submit' buttons it somehow looks like I was responding to you, Elegance.  What I  mean is that at some point you have to have faith that a grown man is not a liar/predator/sex fiend.  It's impossible to be guarded and have low expectations of men all of the time, with a view that they will always disappoint.  That's a lot of pressure on women.  Of course vetting is important but unless you can read minds, at some point you're going to have to trust another person to mean what they say even if said person is male.  And Wes is 32, not 20.  I think the whole purpose of Carrie going through Christelyn/BBW was to weed out the liars and players.  She had every right to have higher expectations (that he was seeking a relationship) because it wasn't some random guy from out of nowhere.  Remember he said "a lot of women want me."  Well then he didn't need to waste Christelyn or Carrie's time.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@sarah conner @Maxine @jazzyfae45 @Elegance I don't care if Carrie wore a burqa and met him for a timed, chaperoned date in a crowded coffee house that ended with a handshake...men are also human beings with mouths to say what they do or don't want.  It sounds like you're advising women to go through life with the assumption that all men could be lying at any time, and 100% of the onus lies on the woman to constantly police her own behavior as if that would change anything.  Carrie already made a step toward her goal by agreeing to participate in a scenario where the other person contacted Christelyn and stated the same goal.  There's nothing wrong with us calling him out on it.  In fact because he used public platforms--both this site and his Youtube channel--for his agenda, it is more than appropriate to shine a light on his phoniness.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@sarah conner @jazzyfae45 @Elegance "Let me ask you this. If she said no to the invitation to going over to his house, or even said no to him removing her bra, would the outcome had been the same?"


Yes because he's building his brand as a Youtube personality and is using the issue of BW/WM dating to do so.

2 weeks, 4 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@jazzyfae45 @sarah conner @Elegance I don't even know why there's a debate about this.  Dude lied about his intentions.  He said he was seeking a relationship (Christelyn posted that he said "the love of his life") when he was not.  There is no strict list of rules that Carrie could've adhered to to change a liar into an honest man.   Yeah we know there are guys that play the field, that will never turn down the chance to get physical, or that change their minds etc., but to seek out a platform with as much visibility and popularity as BBW through which to do it is just wrong.  Christelyn's set-up was on the eHarmony/Match.com level while Wes isn't ready to move past Craigslist ad/Tindr.  Christelyn and Carrie had extensive contact with this guy in person whereas we've only seen the persona he's presented on Youtube, so why not accept that they know more about him than we do?

2 weeks, 4 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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I didn't watch enough of his channel to discern whether he's a sociopath or not, but if he really filmed his first interracial date as it was happening then that is inappropriate and creepy. His page is a little over a year old, yet he's set himself up as the Christopher Columbus of dating. These women are experiments to him.

2 weeks, 5 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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I didn't wanna give this guy clicks, but I forced myself to watch the post-date video so I could know what everyone was talking about.  I didn't know Wes had an entire channel devoted solely to interracial relationships with black women, which included filming those dates.  (He included a video about being rejected, so maybe he's making subsequent black women pay for what this one chick did to him?)  Ugh just UGH at the prostitute question!!!  Would he have asked a white woman that?  I think he's flighty and doesn't think of women as whole persons with feelings--they're stepping stones on his frou-frou "journey" to his OWN self-discovery.  Remember when he came clean about not being a Christian in his Win A Date With Wes video, even though it seemed like a strong part of his identity up until then?  Yesterday he was Christian and into black women (supposedly) but tomorrow he could be Buddhist and into Latinas.  Who knows.  On top of that he's an actor/TV host living in LA...he needs subscribers and a niche if he's going to break into the big leagues.  I'm convinced that he's convinced that life is a reality show and the women he interacts are just guest stars, tools to teach him a lesson each episode and then fade away.  

2 weeks, 5 days ago on On Vetting: Beware of “I Can’t Find a Black Woman!” Men. They’re Full of It.

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@dani-BBW @Maxine Sci-fi has always been more progressive than other genres it seems.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on The Latest Film and TV Projects Featuring Black Women

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Great news!  I've got one to add--Jill Marie Jones is going to be in a TV series based on the Evil Dead movies:  http://deadline.com/2015/02/jill-marie-jones-ash-vs-evil-dead-casting-starz-1201376901/

3 weeks, 2 days ago on The Latest Film and TV Projects Featuring Black Women

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@Christelyn The girl in the second picture also looks bigger than the girl in the first one.

4 weeks ago on Leona’s Love Quest : “Sheezus, It’s Hard Out Here for a B*tch!”

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@melissamak007 @Vivaforever I noticed that Issa mentioned Twitter in regards to that comment. Just like the OK Cupid study, Twitter and it's very vocal and often very ignorant niche population is not to be taken seriously. 

4 weeks, 1 day ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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@trinigirl1 @Brenda55 @lili2009 @Vivaforever Oprah went on a couple of dates with Roger Ebert.  It was a blind date/mutual friend set-up situation.  http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/A-Date-With-Destiny_1  I remember her having a show about interracial dating and she said she's never felt any anger or sense of betrayal from seeing a black man with a white woman like some of the BW in the audience were expressing.

1 month ago on Issa Rae, Jacque Reid and Others Talk Interracial Relationships on “Nightly Show”

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@PoetOfDarkness @onmywayup @Cami2210 @Cherrysoda I agree with this as well.  Though I'm medium-to-dark brown with African hair, when I was growing up and we put on talent shows to dance and lip sync, my white friends always suggested I play Paula Abdul or Mariah Carey, even though they were technically closer to them in phenotype than me!  

1 month, 1 week ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@lily ot valley @Christelyn  @PhillipBrown2 Yes, she is completely nude.  Look at that evil white man taking advantage of Christelyn.  Instead of a embracing at a vineyard he should've grabbed her boobs to show us bitter black women what Real Love is.

1 month, 1 week ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@Christelyn  @PhillipBrown2 Oh no Christelyn.  All your photos of your family vacations at beach resorts, hosting neighborhood 4th of July parties, and your popping journalism career are no match for a selfie in a Motel 6 with random naked chick that may or may not have been "compensated."

1 month, 1 week ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@Cami2210 @Maxine @Christelyn  @caribbeanlady @itsgoodtobeme @MamieMooney Yes that's how it is with my sister-in-law and her family.  And until I moved out West where blacks are only 10% of many cities, I didn't know there were so many blacks ignorant of this (and I don't mean biracial, but people who've been classified as Negro/black/colored for generations).  In California I see the reverse one-drop rule where many black women, unless they're the shade of Alek Wek, claim every speck of remote "other" blood in order to seem exotic, and to garner more acting roles in a racist entertainment industry.

1 month, 1 week ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@Chicago404 Well he was with this girl before Amber Rose, but notice they didn't get the couples spotlight like Rose-West and Kardashian-West.  http://www.buzzfeed.com/naomizeichner/kanye-west-alexis-phifer#.hyZ7AD3PeK

1 month, 1 week ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@Cami2210 OK I didn't want to go there but you took the words right out of my mouth.  Thighs and butt like that do not come from Scotland lol.

1 month, 1 week ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@Myka Fisher Speaking of Disney....*cough* Miley Virus I mean Cyrus *cough* ....Can you imagine a black girl getting away with that???

1 month, 1 week ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@GoldenPrecious "The part that offends me the most is the idea of holding a Black or half-Black woman as a placeholder until the woman of his dreams is available. A lot of successful BM do this and think it's okay, even though they are wasting the woman's time and youthful years."


Eddie Murphy comes to mind.  

1 month, 1 week ago on Kanye’s Comments About Amber Rose Highlights How White Women Are “Always” Virtuous No Matter How Skeezy Their Past.

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@candi79 @Brenda55 Is it me or are the most successful stories--at least profiled on BB&W recently--are the ones where the people live in different states or even different countries?  Extra motivation I guess!

1 month, 1 week ago on Kelly and Vallina – Put No Limits On Love

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@Brenda55 Oh really?  Looks like I've been missing out by not riding the train lately...

1 month, 1 week ago on Kelly and Vallina – Put No Limits On Love

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They look so happy and cute in that pic at the cruise dining table.  I love these stories of real life couples!

1 month, 1 week ago on Kelly and Vallina – Put No Limits On Love

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I've never heard of Mary Seacole but am happy to learn of her story, plus I'm happy Octavia Spencer is getting work.  If our story is left out of history books, perhaps the entertainment industry can fill in the gap.  Stinks that that's what it takes, but if that's what it takes to get the information out there...

1 month, 1 week ago on Octavia Spencer to Star in Biopic of Mary Seacole

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Wow this is so interesting.  We were surprised to learn of Chinese ancestry in my own family when a relative did some digging.  A Chinese man married into the family in South Carolina but now I wonder if he came over as one of the MS Delta workers.  Thanks for this!  

1 month, 1 week ago on Black Women’s History (Kissing the Asian Guy): Chinese and African American Marriages in the Mississippi Delta 

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@sparel @Maxine I didn't think I needed to Google search because I do remember prenatal ads in real life, before Google existed.  And like the Internet is never wrong...

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Open Thread: Is Fighting Against the Black 72% Out-of-Wedlock Rate a Lost Cause?

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I remember the billboard of which you speak. It was addressing the dangers of pregnant women who smoke, drink, or do drugs. It was basically a PSA for prenatal care.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Open Thread: Is Fighting Against the Black 72% Out-of-Wedlock Rate a Lost Cause?

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This was a great idea and very interesting to watch. Unlike other commenters, I had no clue who he'd pick.  I like that her personality was still able to shine through without sound.  I hope they hit it off.  Oh and excited to see this done with the sexes reversed!

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Update! So Who Did Wes Pick??

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Well you knew this was coming.  Came across this on my facebook timeline.  A black woman defending Kanye's jerkishness as black self-love.  Not sure when rudeness and insulting another person's talent became equated with self love.  http://www.buzzfeed.com/hnigatu/in-defense-of-kanyes-vanity-the-politics-of-black-self-love#.jkLY216R2

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Zac: “ I wish a muthaf#^%*a WOULD,” and Other Kanye West Observations

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Well, Tom Mison didn't mince words about his character's feelings for Abbie.  If the lead actor can see it, hopefully the writers can too.  http://www.tvguide.com/news/sleepy-hollow-abbie-vs-katrina-ichabod/

1 month, 4 weeks ago on Sleepy Hollow is on the Verge of Cancellation. What Happened?

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I so agree with Christelyn regarding the profile picture.  Smiling is KEY.  A woman conveys so much to a man with her facial expressions whether she realizes it or not!  I know selfies can be hard so she probably doesn't realize it but....with her head tilted that particular way and her eyebrow cocked, she is literally looking down on the viewer.  It is a somewhat cynical, sassy expression that can be intimidating, particularly to a 22 year-old white guy who is clueless about black women.  Also, she is wearing all-black in the photo.  On a subconscious level, dark colors do not convey a femininity or openness to relationships that light or vivid colors do. Some color would look great with her beautiful skin, pretty lipstick, and cute hairstyle.  

2 months, 1 week ago on QOTW: Twenty-Something I.T. Girl’s Swirling Woes in New York

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Yes!  I have always suspected skiing that was a great way to meet fun, open-minded, financially solvent white men (or other non-black men).  Unfortunately my black girlfriends are allergic to the outdoors and my white girlfriends are either sun-and-sand bums or went skiing with their families as children and are now over it.  Thank goodness for the Internet so those of us of like-mind can connect!

2 months, 2 weeks ago on What Skiing in Big Bear Taught Me About Interracial Dating Prospects for Black Women

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Beautiful pics and a beautiful couple!

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Winter Wedding!

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