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I'm a liberal for many reasons that have nothing to do with race.  And since Brand is not an American legislator, a political strategist, a judge, or even an American, I fail to see what this has to do with the Democratic party.  He's on nobody's side but his own thirst for attention.  Honestly I'd take his ridiculous, ignorant "jokes" over right-wingers trying to justify Eric Garner's strangulation death or rallying behind Darren Wilson.  Ultimately racists come in all political stripes and we can't look to any one political party to "save" us.  No one can save us but ourselves.

20 hours, 52 minutes ago on I’m So Glad Russell Brand Opened His Big, Fat, Mouth. Proof the Many Liberals Practice Soft Bigotry

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I agree with Christelyn that telling her daughter not to date BM could lead to just that because teenagers like to rebel.  I also think by explicitly banning a certain group of men, the daughter will wonder what's so bad about them and make it her mission to go through every BM DBR to find out.  Depending on her relationship with the mother, she may even set out to prove that she's different from her and a better woman by trying to make it work with a BM DBR.  You know how inexperienced women believe they can change a man and take pride in being the ride-or-die chick for someone so not worth it.  Emphasize quality not color, or else the daughter may bring home a non-black man who happens to be a loser.

2 days, 19 hours ago on Is It Okay to Discourage Your Daughters from Dating Black Men?

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@Brenda55 @ChicMystique I'm trying to figure out what was in the mostly-eaten appetizer bowl. Looks like some fried crunchy goodness.  And now I'm having an onion ring jones.

1 week ago on Here’s Another Rainbeau Who Just Came Out of Lurkdom

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@Zetahille @Keioni Uh....did you seriously write that women can clamp down on a man during sex so he's unable to pull out???  Between that and the "powers of seduction" and Adam and Eve stuff I'm flabbergasted.  Please don't tell me you also think our vaginas have teeth and our periods ruin crops.

1 week, 1 day ago on Stay Away from Sociopathic Men Who Wish to Corrupt and Shackle You Via Single Motherhood!

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Roasted garlic is divine!

1 week, 1 day ago on How Roasting Makes Everything Better.

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@Tammy_Ghalden @SirLoinDeBeef Children are in school for 12 years.  OF COURSE there's time to cover the history of 2nd largest group (or what was the  2nd largest up until a few years ago) of people in this nation, who have been here since the 1600's.  The economic engine of slavery and then sharecropping, the upheaval of Jim Crow, but also the uniquely American musical stylings of jazz, how WW2 nudged integration, art/lit of the Harlem Renaissance...you don't get American history without African-American history.

1 week, 1 day ago on (Bonus) QOTW: “How Can I Talk About My Culture with My White Boyfriend?”

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@Diversitymom Yes!  This article immediately made me think of him.  Time to rent White Nights and the last season of Sex and the City.  Though he didn't dance he did get to run and leap over a trash can to chase after a cab!

1 week, 2 days ago on Man Candy Monday: Arabesque, Allongé! The Beauty of Ballet

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@SirLoinDeBeef @Maxine @RhondaSpeights I think I've only been exposed to the cheap stuff.  Absolutely love my microbrews though!

1 week, 2 days ago on Ask a White Guy: The Online Dating Quandary

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@Leona_LoveQuest Yes I've been through that.  Though it wasn't explicitly stated that I wasn't black enough, there were assumptions made about my attitude toward class, money, career, etc.  He had a chip on his shoulder about "rich people" (read: anyone not poor or blue-collar) and expected me to be down with the struggle.  I was livid when his coworker (I wasn't there) referred to me as a "Cosby kid" and he didn't call him out for it.  This coworker knew nothing of my background, but I was lumped into a special stereotype because I guess because I have a bachelor's and don't speak Ebonics!   


Once Broke White Ex called me while I was on my laptop outside late at night in an affluent neighborhood.  The coffee shop was closed but their wi-fi was still on.  I mentioned a passing police car.  He remarked that they would bother me because I was black.  This was a rather liberal area and what little I'd seen of the police they were friendly. Broke White Ex's attempt at solidarity with me was misguided and showed his inferiority complex (because HE had been harassed by cops before).


Bottom line it's nobody's right to tell us who we are!

1 week, 2 days ago on (Bonus) QOTW: “How Can I Talk About My Culture with My White Boyfriend?”

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@caligirl94117 I agree.  This is the difference between dating online and dating someone that you were paired with by a mutual friend or other means IRL.  We are visual creatures and it's both time-consuming and impractical to click on every opposite-sex person in your area in your age range and then thoroughly read all those profiles, and then ignore those red flags in her profile because underneath all the bitterness she MAY have a good heart?  A man could find himself messaging 50 women a day at that rate!  The choices online can be overwhelming, and if someone's paying money they don't want to take forever to find a date.  Honestly it's like shopping for produce.  How many of us choose slightly bruised or discolored fruit, even though the inside could be perfectly fine to eat?

1 week, 2 days ago on Ask a White Guy: The Online Dating Quandary

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@SavageTango @Law Wanxi Perhaps more people need one of these?  http://www.eversave.ncrowd.com/national/34661-selfie-stick-w-mount?aff_id=&ref=507800382&key=4B5D2EEF47424B2DA3B32812550F6124&sourceid=168151  I guess it was only a matter of time before someone invented something like this.


Your colleague's selfie looks great, but most people end up taking the self-absorbed-teenager-on-myspace or attention-starved-reality-star-on-instagram type of selfie.    

1 week, 2 days ago on Ask a White Guy: The Online Dating Quandary

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@SirLoinDeBeef @RhondaSpeights @caligirl94117 "IMO, avoid 'art clubs' and art galleries - you will meet men ... gay men & metrosexuals ... or the married guys, being dragged there by their spouses."


Ditto for wine tastings.  Go to brewery tours or whiskey tastings instead.  Whiskey tastes like nothing but fire water to me but oh there were several men happy to school me about the craft and convince me otherwise.  

1 week, 2 days ago on Ask a White Guy: The Online Dating Quandary

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@tonyrog @Beautee_85 I know there's more than one version, but here's Shirley Bassey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZqG7RkDKmdE

1 week, 3 days ago on Ask a White Guy: The Online Dating Quandary

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@Leona_LoveQuest @caligirl94117 I know what you  mean.  My married friends literally have NO single friends except for me!  They are very insular, particularly once you get into your thirties and people move to new cities because of marriage or career, leaving behind friends from their single years.  My married female friends do have female friends that are living with a guy or engaged, but their husbands are no longer friends with any single males.   I guess it  doesn't hurt to at  least put the word out, though.  Maybe the next new guy at the office will be single.

1 week, 3 days ago on Ask a White Guy: The Online Dating Quandary

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"You still gone be black in Italy" lol!  You had me CRACKING UP!  Leroy was so good he needs his own show...I could watch you do him all day :)

1 week, 4 days ago on Video: Sh$t Black People Say to Black Women to Keep Them Stuck in the Matrix

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@lindsaynagle Because of media image.  Leading men consistently with actresses 10, 15, 20 years younger than them.  And while the women are dieting and botoxing within an inch of their lives their male counterparts go grey, go bald, gain weight, sport crows feet and laugh lines and we're told they're distinguished.  And among the younger set, Seth Rogen with Rose Byrne, Jason Segel with Cameron Diaz, Jonah Hill with Emma Stone!  The Most Interesting Man in the World commercials where an old buzzard has size-zero 25 year-old models hanging off of him.  Not that there aren't good-looking older men but they're scarping the bottom of the barrel here.  All the TV and movie storylines of the geek/loser winning over the hot girl because she has a good heart and he's a good guy who deserves her, and because the accomplished, attractive, popular guy is evil as usual.   On top of that all the blogs and books by men telling other men that women don't care about looks or age, only power and confidence, that she can won over by the right combination of mind-trickery and swag.  

2 weeks, 3 days ago on Are Black Women Extra Clueless When White Men Approach Them?

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@PamelaFoster Oh yeah Lance is super cute!  

2 weeks, 3 days ago on Man Candy Monday: The Blacker the Berry

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@tonyrog He was with Kimora Lee Simmons, who is half-black and half-Japanese.  Have not heard of him remarrying since.

2 weeks, 3 days ago on Man Candy Monday: The Blacker the Berry

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Anybody listen to Clark Howard?   He's a consumer/financial guru with a popular radio show.  Whether it's choosing a bank, a cell phone plan, credit card, car repair, eating out at restaurants, medical bills, etc...he gives tips on everything under the sun.  If they don't carry his show on your local AM channel you can subscribe to his newslettero or check out his website:  http://www.clarkhoward.com/.

2 weeks, 3 days ago on Ready to Flee to Freedom? Tips to Get You on Your Way…

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@MixedUpInVegas I could eat hummus every single day.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?

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@lindsaynagle @Daisy_inthe_Field Hemp milk and oat milk are my favorite non-dairy milks.  They have the faint taste of chocolate.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?

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@Nikki Alecia @Lady Cheetah @The Working Home Keeper Was it Vegan Rella?  I tried it once years ago...never again!  I think Daiya is the only fake cheese that gets a proper melt.  


Has anyone tried Bragg's nutritional yeast?  Looks like yellow flakes in a canister.  I sprinkle this on popcorn instead of cheese powder.  I wouldn't  swap it out for something really cheesey like mac and cheese but if you just need a little bit of cheese-ish flavor.

2 weeks, 6 days ago on Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?

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@Lady Cheetah @Maxine @The Working Home Keeper I really don't know.  Yes it's soy based but I thought tofu was just fermented soybeans, not that it contained any wheat??  They do sell a line of ice cream sandwiches so I wouldn't be surprised if those contain wheat.  I doubt their ice cream bars, cream cheese, or sour cream do.   You'll have to check the ingredient label though.

3 weeks ago on Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?

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This girl is so cute and fun to watch...she veganizes comfort food and other popular dishes, even McDonald's and In N Out! 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKJd2Ckx1b8

3 weeks ago on Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?

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@The Working Home Keeper @Maxine @Lady Cheetah Soy Dream and Rice Dream are good, but my favorite non-dairy ice cream is mad with coconut milk. So rich!

3 weeks ago on Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?

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@Lady Cheetah @The Working Home Keeper I'm a cheese lover, but  I have substituted Tofuffi Better Than Cream Cheese in cheesecakes for potlucks at work and everyone gobbled it up!  

3 weeks ago on Could You Be a Vegetarian Until Dinnertime?

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@tonyrog I saw The Stones twice and Mick waved at me!

3 weeks, 1 day ago on SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: From Hair to There

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@tonyrog Naomi's homage to Marsha Hunt!

3 weeks, 2 days ago on SirLoin’s Babe Wednesday: From Hair to There

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@ladyofmagic1974 Show them the actual crime stats, Hollywood fantasies be damned.  Any way you slice it, Canada and most of Europe are safer than the U.S. for both men and women.  If you want a good laugh, look up some of the educational videos that Japan shows to its citizens about safety when visiting the US.   We have a reputation as a bloody, violent nation and many are frightened to set foot in America.         

4 weeks, 1 day ago on JQ Abroad Open Thread: Share Your Overseas Experiences!

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@Brenda55 I could eat hummus every single day.  

1 month ago on Quick! Help Me Create Some Meals with the Massive Harvest!

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Caponata, which is Sicilian eggplant caviar, if you like capers.  Serve in lettuce cups or endive spears instead of toast. Could also make baba ghanoush from the eggplants. Throw the tomatoes and sweet peppers, along with carrots and a little radish in the Vitamix for homemade V8 juice.  Or make gazpacho.  You can stir pureed red peppers into store-bought hummus.  I don't know about the green bell peppers...they just scream salad to me.  Leftover cucumbers for water, lemonade, or white sangria.

1 month ago on Quick! Help Me Create Some Meals with the Massive Harvest!

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@HaroldBozarth @Kaiju_Bleu Out in the sticks?  Sounds like perfect picnic conditions.  For low-key physical activity you could play a game of washers, croquet, ring toss or horseshoe toss.

1 month ago on Fabulous Date Ideas for Cool People

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@CamilleJones Yes the PCH (Pacific Coast Highway).  I've wanted to rent a convertible and drive up with a guy who's not afraid of narrow, curvy roads on cliffs!

1 month ago on Fabulous Date Ideas for Cool People

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@LemonNLime @kiki100 I've been to England, France, Italy, and Holland, but have had Germany as well as the Czech Republic on my list for a while now.   Interesting about the Balkans. We hear so little of Eastern Europe.  A black male classmate in college said he loved living there, that people were so friendly and inquisitive, would come up to him and strike up conversations. They just don't get the amount of American tourists that Western European receives much less black people.  I never thought about the region until I saw The Unbearable Lightness of Being, a movie with Daniel Day-Lewis based on a book by a Czech author.  I also love beer--the pilsner style was invented there.  And I'd love to check out the Bohemian art glass.  Sounds like you had awesome adventures.

1 month ago on JQ Abroad Open Thread: Share Your Overseas Experiences!

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@LemonNLime Thanks for sharing.  One of my best friends in high school did summer abroad in Spain and disliked it because her host mother told racist black jokes o_O.  



1 month ago on JQ Abroad Open Thread: Share Your Overseas Experiences!

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Three years???  Was this a long distance relationship?

1 month ago on Ladies, Be VERY Careful Dating Ethnic Men. Parents and Family Often Come First

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@LemonNLime Can you do a quick summary of what you liked about your favorites and what you didn't like about China and Spain?  

1 month ago on JQ Abroad Open Thread: Share Your Overseas Experiences!

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@QueenAnne What is scary is that he apparently wasn't selling untaxed cigarettes at the time of this incident but back in May.  Unless a cop can give you a reason for detaining you and tell you that reason, you're under no obligation to talk to him.  They had it out for him.  

1 month, 1 week ago on Gotta Say Something Because This is Inexcusable: Eric Gardner Didn’t Have to Die for 50 Cents.

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@Tammy_Ghalden @robjk Guys said he couldn't breathe.  Chokeholds are NOT permitted according to NYPD's own rules.  They took him down like a steer for  their steak dinner. Murderers.

1 month, 1 week ago on Gotta Say Something Because This is Inexcusable: Eric Gardner Didn’t Have to Die for 50 Cents.

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@robjk Did you notice the cop from behind with his arm around his neck?  I'm not a police officer but I don't think strangulation is part of their training to subdue a person. 

1 month, 1 week ago on Gotta Say Something Because This is Inexcusable: Eric Gardner Didn’t Have to Die for 50 Cents.

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@lindsaynagle Agreed.  He doesn't have  50-11 children by umpteen baby mamas, I've never seen him cavorting with DBR Hollywood types (like the guys that made the colorstruck casting call for the gangsta rap movie), and even if he dates mixed or light-skinned women in his personal life (after apparently having had a black first wife), I've never heard him make racist, sexist, or colorist remarks.  

1 month, 1 week ago on The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?

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@VadimvandenDonk I assume you're from Holland?  Interesting to get the perspective of a European.

1 month, 1 week ago on Open Thread: Reader Questions Her Commitment to ‘Black Love’

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Between this guy and Jason Momoa, I  think a trip to the Pacific Islands is in order...

1 month, 1 week ago on Man Candy Monday: Wrestling with the Remarkable that is Roman Reigns

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@ElLagoJeff @Fiji808 Agreed.  Many non-black women's attraction to black men is a matter of eye candy, not seeking a lifelong partner.  Women like to look too!

1 month, 1 week ago on The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?

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@Lady A @Demilinda4 I think Demilinda4 is referring to the fact that his last wife was fully black/not light-skinned.  The woman in this picture gave birth to his baby a few months ago, but he already has an older, dark-skinned child by a former wife.

1 month, 1 week ago on The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?

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@Tempaccount @Lady A  "On youtube black men say they are ideal (not us) because they are tall, dark and handsome ....really something saved for men who were Italian I'm guessing? Or just dark hair and blacks adopted the term I believe"


Oh geez...are black male ignoramuses really thinking that term applies to them? That is a term by white American women to express their  desire for tall, Caucasian men with brown eyes and brown black hair!  Like Christian Bale types.  Some women do use the phrase to express a preference for tan or olive-skinned Southern Europeans, but the term was around before black men had any status and pop culture and when the races were legally segregated.    

1 month, 1 week ago on The Unfair ‘Options’ Media Message: What Do These Two Magazine Covers Tell You?

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