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When i read the title I chuckled, because so many people have psychological problems and that is seen there.

However, I really do not mix up with anyones that sound like that and if black actresses sitting down and allowing that, then they like it so. If I was a passionate actresses and have to read this categories there would be a problem.

5 days, 22 hours ago on Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER

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I am done with the discussion, exhausting.........

1 week, 5 days ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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I agree there is some dysfunction in families.

1 week, 5 days ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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I am calm, trust me. Not going to make a blog post anger me in anyway. I just do not like the comments on here. Some of the comment really put a bitter taste in my mouth that's why I have not been commenting at all. I used to comment more often even before you become moderator so it has been a while. However if it is okay for you guys,I will just read the article and not the comments. Problem solved in my book. 



1 week, 6 days ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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I have no problem with people being critical, which I said before, I said that before, but would you like someone to call you "a hot mess?" And say, " She got what she was looking for?" I think the article above was critical, understanding and well rounded but then people went on to bash her in the comment area, my problem is with that...

1 week, 6 days ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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@Daisy_inthe_Field @nyaw @Swirlgirl28 Ugh??...Either I was writing in another language, that's strange but last time I check it was English I replied in...ummmm.


I said what I said and that's that...not going down your road, sorry...

1 week, 6 days ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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You should have said something to her supervisor.

1 week, 6 days ago on That Awkward Moment When Numbskulls Assume Your Biracial Baby Isn’t Yours…

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@Swirlgirl28 @Kels Why are you so hung on being so negative! Okay so what negative can you guys pin point on the show "Married to Medicine"? Please share! Yeah! I watch all the shows and reject what does not entertain me about people and learn for myself. Sports is the same as RHOA they are all for the soul purpose offfffff...ENTERTAINMENT! If it does not entertain you do not watch and as people stop watching they will take it off.

1 week, 6 days ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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@Kels I do not know about Todd Though. He said Kandi wanted him near her so he gave up on jobs that required him to travel. I think he is sacrificing too much for the relationship. She has to allow him to take those jobs and travel to see him if necessary. She knew the industry he was in. That is like a actress saying no to a acting job because her husband does not want her to travel. He might have to get a job with Tyler Perry! Or do more plays like they did together. I love the partnership of them. AGAIN  I THINK THE COMMENTS ARE TOO CRITICAL AND HEADING TO BASHING! Mrs.Karazin the convo is too negative and not uplifting at all. it is ok to be critical but OMG! Please people....disgusting....

1 week, 6 days ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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I do not know why Phaedra picked him as  a mate. But if she knew about this blog years ago maybe she would have thought, I did not know my options could be opened up so much! I think still she should know about the blog. I do not like the bashing of her! If you have nothing positive to say shush!!!! critical criticism is okay, BUT YOU CAN DO BETTER PEOPLE!!!

1 week, 6 days ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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I never said nyc was not friendly, it is rare to see bw/ wm couple. You might see it once every, month and a half. Also Once in a blue moon to see a bw/wm couple twice in one day

2 weeks, 1 day ago on Interracial Friendly States, City by City, County by County!

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@ShataviaWhitaker I never thought of Atlanta.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Interracial Friendly States, City by City, County by County!

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@ShataviaWhitaker I agree nyc should not be on, it predominantly Asian woman and White guy interracial. once in 2 months I would one couple BW/ WM, and that is average.

2 weeks, 2 days ago on Interracial Friendly States, City by City, County by County!

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At the end of the day bloggers like African export blogger have to know why they do what they do. Is it for money? Do they have a market? Oprah is not the most beautiful according to American standards, but she had an audience.

Michael J not the most handsome but he could entertain!!!!

3 weeks, 6 days ago on Oh Lawd. The “Ghosts of Mississippi” Have Arrived in the Natural Hair Community

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I feel hair is like dating, I want to date who I want and do my hair how the hell I want. I have no hang up. I will shave my hair in a heart beat and relax it like that!!

I think it is the Trini in me! Lol

3 weeks, 6 days ago on Oh Lawd. The “Ghosts of Mississippi” Have Arrived in the Natural Hair Community

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Guch, this makes me cringe. Do other people here just want to do your hair how you want to!!! And not be judged! Lets start a movement, "do your hair how the hell you want". I had,

natural as a kid

Relaxed as a teen

3rd year college a dread locks for 4years!!

Then natural

Then relaxed currently.

I just like to change it up, try something, what the hell!!!

3 weeks, 6 days ago on Oh Lawd. The “Ghosts of Mississippi” Have Arrived in the Natural Hair Community

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Why can black men, who are just men in the human race just look up other men in general, no matter their ethnicity? The problem is money in the US, that separates us.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Watch a Bunch of Black Women Cheering as Their Pastor Shouts, “These H*es Ain’t Loyal.”

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Noooooo....I am not satisfied anymore with the excuse that cancer is an epidemic. Something is seriously going on in our environment. We need to roll back 70years from now and also look at countries that have the lowest rate of cancers.

....please "3rd world countries" you are doing something right! Do not try to be like these "1st world countries"

My condolences on the family loss....so sudden.

3 months ago on Sad News: Former BB&W ‘Hottie’ Succumbs to Cancer at 41

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I had this discussion this weekend with my cousin. We have to get rid of the color to identify each other. . Black, white, hispanic, Asian ? We need to stop that, we tend to identify with ethnicity culture more, that is the only way to help society. If I live in a Greek neighborhood and eat the food from the neighborhood and love the neighborhood, I would have Greek health issues, not Southerners issues. All Americans from the South eat fried chicken, black, white, mix.

Thus concerning this young man congrats, but I view him Ghanian American, I am sure not all Ghanaian identify with him, because there are a million Ethnicities there. I do not identify with African American either. I put other, I am from the Caribbean.

3 months, 1 week ago on African vs. African American: Can We Still Legitimately Claim Racism When Folks that Look Just Like Us Come Here and WIN?!

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I saw the interview and I am so sorry that it had to be like that some negative media exposure to rain on Lupita success. 

There is no evidence of what he is saying. It is like he wants to force the future or cause something to happen. When the White commentator said something racist about the basket ball team, he could have said he was being racist, because the evidence is there. 

His speculation is biased and has ill meaning as Christelyn said why is there no speculation when Beyonce is praised or Rihanna.

4 months, 1 week ago on Can We Please Stop with the Black Woman Fetish Hysteria?

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I watched, It was great!

1 year, 5 months ago on Toni Braxton Plays in the Snow on Lifetime

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I think a question should be possed like>>> For plenty years women of many back grounds including women from African countries, when looking for a male prospect, they look at how can this man provide for a new family, yes they looked at material wealth. Now in the hood that is seen as being a gold digger, something negative!!!! So LOL!!! What is so wrong with wantning a better partnership. BM/ BW need to stop severely bashing each other and making these stereotypes of ourselves. So can we also bring back that traditional requirement for a union, plz!!!

1 year, 6 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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I do not know what to say...I think they were feeling like the black women on essense blog when they found out that hot actor was married to a white woman...lol! Also perhaps he was one of the hot ones...

Some people stare at couples when they do not match in attractiveness as well... However...he is super hot so I wonder if that could be a factor as well....LOL! Women are strange but what is funny you never hear white men vocalizing their disgust of white women as black men. There are plenty gold digger white women out there but rarely you hear white men saying white women are gold diggers...lol! crazy though. Who would willingly marry someonee with nothing positive happening in their life, ?? Black women, lol, so come again with gold digger talk... 

1 year, 6 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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 @KinkyBottleBlonde00

 I had a discussion with family about homosexuality and that is why I used it there. I know this forum is not for that so it makes no sense to even go more into it.

1 year, 6 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @KinkyBottleBlonde00

 LOL! okay! All I am saying is when it comes to those situations of dysfunction I will always be "????" in my head when it comes to both situations. I cannot tell people who does not want to do the traditional thing to do it, this is about the family above. It is up to them to grow out of it or just do it. However I refuse to have all black people viewed in that way. There needs to be more of the opposite of that on tv, in the media, to balance it out.

1 year, 6 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @GetMeOutofBlackistan  @MaxineI understand...This is all the reason why Christelyn needs to be louder each day since she is in the public realm and we here have an obligation as well. I am not going to be stereotyped, I just think as people get to know me they realize that  I am not a stereotype.

okay yes I can daance...lol and can do a booty shake that does no mean a thing..lol!

 

1 year, 6 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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I know this video is ridiculous and the story is a little crazy...I totally agree! however some remarks are crazy as well...I am sorry but all the crazy Black people can be on tv but there needs to be more the regular old doing good black people on tv with out all the drama.

1 year, 6 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @greengirl7

 I know there are studies out there and people are trying to normalize homosexuallity. I for one am not judging anyone or hatng anyone I, my opinion, which belongs to me, just think it is dysfunctional, regardless of what you say. Look at the definition of dysfuntional. I believe there are all types of people in the world, some might have some abnormalities, using different parts of the brain than others.  Perhaps I might have some to myself but those things make us all different. At the end of the day somethings are just logical and with time, we realized that the human race can have defects which is not the norm like conjoined twins.

Call it what you will...   

1 year, 6 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @dasdbobb  @Toni_MThat is the point! there are a bunch of people out there that love drama!

 

1 year, 6 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @Toni_M

 There really nEEEEEEDDDDDs to be more positive, forget positive, just normal, down to earth, I just do not know how to describe it. Just more of that type of Black people out in the spot light. It is not so much about their chose of life style it is being soooooo proud of it! Just live it as crazy as it may seem. It seems like the negative perceptions of both Black and White people is taking over the media, "Jersy shore, all the red neck shows, Love and basketall Atlanta, etc" There is no lower any community can go at this point.

1 year, 6 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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I am not even going to watch the clipping....

1 year, 6 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @Tonnya  @Christelyn   @Elegance

 LOL!!! You must be new!:-D...lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 This blog is for those that think there is another way, besides the lunatic antics taking place which is mentioned above.

It is for many that think there is a right way to do somethings.

... It is dysfunctional and weird!!! 

1 year, 6 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @Maxine

 I am sorry but who are we to look down on their life style! As stupid as it may seem they are incharge of their destiny. However I think there is a need for a balance in black perceptions and very strong perceptions on different sides. Not all Black people choose this life. And this is why we must push even more for Christleyn to do well!!! I believe as a public figure she represents a different BW from even Michele Obama. I think It is important to realize not every BW will choose the route many on here will choose!

1 year, 6 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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I do not want to be the one to say DAaaaH!!!...However there are many dysfunctional things that happen in this world!!! Unlike many who think a gay marriage should be normalize, hence the new comedy coming called, "The new Normal". This is the same. In the Black community it is considered normal but it is dysfunctional as hell, same with gay marriages, polygamy...etc. What is not part of the norm is dysfunctional... I do not know if a discussion can change that. There are women out there that think if there is no drama in there life, they will die of boredom...lol...That is there drama. Everyone around them want more for them but they want the drama. The best we can do for them is expose them to another option, which is what this whole website is about. Through the articles about love and interracial experiences. If they do not like seeing BW/ WW/ rainbeau relationships well, move on to the next.

  I do not get the surprise in the article though. There are many things we might think are nasty but it is not me to judge and look down on others especially like all the dysfunctional thinks I mentioned above. That is just my opinion!  

1 year, 6 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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The fact that most women on here might end up having biracial daughters...I wonder if the skin color is the real issue and all that comes with it? There will be times where coming together with women similar to yourself is important, example dark skin black women, brown skin women and light skin women, though we are all "black" we all have different issues and treated differently in the Black community. I think we just group with who we have things in common with. Example I want to know how to do my hair I look at women on youtube that look like me in complexion and see what type of hair they have and decide if that is what I want. It is not that plain cut anymore, just like the "race" check box is not that clear cut anymore. There will be biracial kids being raised here and they are neither black or white!

1 year, 7 months ago on Poll: Which are You, "Black Woman" First, or "Woman" First, "Black" Second?

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 @VictoriaAntoine  @oneofthegirls Black love is an American thing. African women who can, date out more than American Black women so, if they want black love they can get it there but they will still be seeing mix relationships coming out from there.

 

1 year, 7 months ago on Why Are These Bitter Chicks Hating On Michael Ealy Because He Married a Non-Black Woman? Oh. I Know.

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 @toichennellI wonder what was Essence true intensions of the article? I think they were successful!!!! Bravo!!!!!! Essence!!!!!! great job, to bring all the lonely troubled BW who date BM only to say something! To prove a point that, I think I should comment to show not all Black women are like that!....I think they want to show a stereotype that all Black women are this. 

 

1 year, 7 months ago on Why Are These Bitter Chicks Hating On Michael Ealy Because He Married a Non-Black Woman? Oh. I Know.

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 @Toni_M  @CJMD

 I think you wrote that well! It is up to the individual to know their value. Society can think what they want but when I pass by full of confidence with someone into me and  they are not black, they will realize the studies do not relate to all! People feel that way bc of personal experience and how they respond to revolutions in society.

1 year, 7 months ago on Why Are These Bitter Chicks Hating On Michael Ealy Because He Married a Non-Black Woman? Oh. I Know.

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I think everything you expressed about BW is nothing new to me and many people here. We know this and I think our job to society is to show it is not true change the perception. Whether it is just a few. So I do not worry about it really it. We must know the perceptions and be proud about who you date. I will laugh and feel sorry at all who need a psychologist to deal with their color issues.

1 year, 7 months ago on Why Are These Bitter Chicks Hating On Michael Ealy Because He Married a Non-Black Woman? Oh. I Know.

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so you are saying the interracial critics go both ways.black men to BW and WM to WW?

1 year, 8 months ago on While Promoting 'Flight,' the REAL Reason Denzel Washington Avoided On-Screen Romances With White Women Is Revealed

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 @ieishah WAW!!!! what a story. I think  anyone in a interracial relationship should put their stories together like this and write a book...this is pure drama!

I am sorry that you had to experience that.. Honey should know because as Christleyn say you guys need to start to surround yourself with positive people who support your relationship.

1 year, 8 months ago on That Awkward Moment When Your Rainbeau's Black (and IR Married) Friend Hits On You...

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 @AuraBorealis

 how about move to nyc...LOL!

on a serious note, it is so sweet to put a hand to the skeptics.

1 year, 8 months ago on Twenty Six Year Old Southern Guy Takes On Swirling in the South, Starts Blog

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 @Kia

 maybe lazy parenting...it could be so many reasons for her not providing a alternative ...so many parents are over worked and depend on schools to be the co-parent...GUCH What to do!!1

1 year, 10 months ago on News Bits: Single Mother Ruins it for Everybody, Gets Daddy-Daughter Dance Banned!

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 @Kia

 Exactly!!! Lazy parenting!...

1 year, 10 months ago on News Bits: Single Mother Ruins it for Everybody, Gets Daddy-Daughter Dance Banned!

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What about a male fiigure in her life!!!!!! Perhaps she coud have taken him...why such lengths?? There are some children that might have lost the fathers to death!! Soooo in cases like these some parents would at times get remarried or expose their child in someone like a male fighure to her life...I was just thinking

 

1 year, 10 months ago on News Bits: Single Mother Ruins it for Everybody, Gets Daddy-Daughter Dance Banned!

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This is sad!! And should not be happening....Also I cannot help myself but to use this as an example!!!

-Why when people talk about their disgust of interracial relationship due to black women being raped by their owner not look at this!!!!!!!!???

-If I could send them mail I would say-- Rape is rape and it is a pschological game!!! regardless of color!!!!-----> women were being raped by bm, wm,etc....unless you were not directly raped please!!!! do not use that as a reason to for not IR...plz!

 It is not funny and does not make any sense!!!! -

 

My condolences to her family:_(

 

1 year, 10 months ago on News Bits: It Keeps Happening--16-year-old Rape Victim Killed to Keep Her Quiet

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LOL!!! You are hilariuos SAYING, "that is all they have to complain about the term "swirling"...

Seriously... I think they live in the Republican bubble, people do have issue with interracial dating! Their issue is they feel like they are entitled to date the person of the opposite sex that looks like them...

 

I think once they get that out of their system and realize there fault that, BW do not belong to a black man or have to have some loyalty to BM then we are good!!!!

 

And what is so confusing... is they say oooooooHHHH you can date who you want, I don't care!!! REALLY!!??? Then why do you have something negative to say about the union etc...

 

They are the ones with the issuess!!!

 

THOSE ARE THE QUESTIONS THEY NEED TO ANSWER AND ISSUES, THEY NEED TO FIGURE OUT!!!

1 year, 10 months ago on Liars and Gaslighters: How the New Anti-Swirling Meme Falls Flat

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WAW!! 60!!!!??

1 year, 10 months ago on Wendy Ida: Most Definitely a New, NEW Black Woman!

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OHH GUCH!! everyone knows that!!! LOL...they just have to stop their poor reasons for thinking so in particularly the men, talking about "slave rape master". Last time I checked we are in 2012 and when you look in the prison there are rapist of all shades of color!!!

 

Why don't they say they ENVY!!! and cut with that nonsense!

1 year, 10 months ago on Friday Funny: "Swirling Hypocrisy"

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 @mahogany

 same here!!! I have friends of different back grounds compliment me on how I look and my mother and friends who are black women always compliment me and joking doubt my mother when she says that I am her daughter...lol. I think my shape is not a typical shape that men claim to adore in a black woman, I very tall, slim and curvy almost nothing on my chest, and packing more than enought booty for my size, with hips. Some ask why I never went into modelling that is another story...

 

But so many that ponder on these issues need to re- evaluate your self-confidence, not ignoring that people have this preferrable treatment, which is pure stupidity and most be addressed if can or move on...they will learn their lesson because it is through their experience or brain washing they make certain assumptions.    

1 year, 10 months ago on A Peculiar Situation: One Black Woman's Complicated Relationship with White Women

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 @Ifeedemlead

 you know what regardless of that! What i will say is BW have a whole lot of confidence!!!!! We have the lowest suicide rates!!! You see when you do not feel that pressure to live up to you have less headache!!!LOL

THAt is the best thing!!!!!!!

1 year, 10 months ago on A Peculiar Situation: One Black Woman's Complicated Relationship with White Women

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 @Toni_M

You should have corrected them!!! my mother said the second one. it sounds like, because "white people" do it I must to, a type of looking up to or worshipping. You do what suits you.. but do not say white people!!! Please...!! I do not like it. We are all people...just people... and if someone place looks nice, just say so. It is also a sense that if you have a nice place you think you are better than me like the "white people" another sense of envy towards a whole people(hope I explained that right). WAW!!!

 

This is why I am not going to hot my head up over this kind of thinking! If I catch myslef thinking that way I will snap it out.

 

I want to treat people the best way can and not betteror worst because they are "white".

 

you know what so ironic the same people or "black people" who are against BWWM relationship will talk up to some people because of their skin color( white) and talk down to people ( dark complexion people). And yet they think we are self haters!!!! LOL!!!!

 

1 year, 10 months ago on A Peculiar Situation: One Black Woman's Complicated Relationship with White Women

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i READ THE article...all I can conclude is this p.s.this might sound doom and glooom. This country is not made of angels, people can come out from basically making a sex tape to fame...  What I realize is that "white culture" people do not act old crazy about sex and name calling of women because men, very rich men control things! they will allow the little women groups, anti-abortion groups etc..to say a little this and that.

 

People in the "black culture"  cannot expect, again expect every woman to be angels...LOL!!! I know "white culture" do not say that!

 

At the end of the day young women have to know there is a choice. we give them a choice...do you want to be the wh**e, the B***H, or a hard working woman...Once they know that...that is the point of this blog i think...But Lupe Fiasco cannot think to save the world...just keep rapping your positive music....!!! It speaks for it's self you are not one to talk down to women....some rapper talk about many things...okay.

 

 Well I do not know how many song Tupac sang about, B***h, but he is talking about a particular woman, then he talks about the hard working poor woman...

 

I made up my mind...young women you choose what you want to be!!! If you do not choose the positive one...I am not going to judge you...because if miss perfect B***h can do it. you can.

 

Also.....I think people think of this as a normal think NOTHING is normal about this society!!!

1 year, 10 months ago on Full-on Blackistanis: Look What Happens to Black Men Who Stand Up for Black Women

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I do not want to say ignorance is blist but..ever since I came on here reading articles in particular like these that generalize people experience. I always keep leaving feeling like, really people go away feeling this way about other women or asian women are seen as more beautiful...etc. Is it that I was grown up or raised to feel confident about myself.  

 

Guch!! The more I read I realize that I do not know that much about black culture here, I am from the Caribbean(Trinidad). I was raised almost half my life here, in nyc...I cannot say people are wrong to feel this way.

 

when come to people who laud other women over other...I feel sorry for them...then I move on but it is important to point out their fault.

 

It is not news to me to here people say as they enter someone house, "you have your house looking like the white people house".  or "you know white people do not use as much sheets as us" LOL! It is always to compare and to do things there way. which I gues could relate to what you say.

 

I know that is reality and I can correct people on their behavior or let them be...They will figure out the madness they say and do have no grounds...lol.

1 year, 10 months ago on A Peculiar Situation: One Black Woman's Complicated Relationship with White Women

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wonderful pic...both of you...ALso he is super handsome!!!!

1 year, 10 months ago on Photo(s) of the Day/Night: Me and My Buddy Matthew Hussey, and a Deal for BB&W

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I agree with everyhting said. I am from the Caribbean. That thinking still exist!

1 year, 10 months ago on Video: Skinfolk Ain't Always Kinfolk--Culture Often Clash in "Swirling"

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 @Black Women With Other BrothersWhat do you mean by "dropped dimes on them"? I have not seen some beat their child like that in awhile.

 

1 year, 10 months ago on Dr. Boyce Watkins Thinks Welfare of Girlfriend-Beater is More Important Than the Victim

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 @Patricia Kayden

 yes they did feature black women. There was a show in the 70s about a white man and black woman marrying on daytime tv in England. Also they  interviewed a  British Indian man marrying an British African woman. I would not have stopped watching if  most "mixed race" relationships were about "African men" and "White British women though". Though those relationships were the ones that left a large number of mixed race children in the hands of the State. That is what I realized.

1 year, 11 months ago on Must See Video! Marriage, Sex, & Swirling: A New Yorker in the Midwest

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THe video story was very interesting HUMMMM!!!! makes me wonder if moving there could be an option.

1 year, 11 months ago on Must See Video! Marriage, Sex, & Swirling: A New Yorker in the Midwest

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Ohhh this off topic but check out a  BBC special called Mixed Brittania.

1 year, 11 months ago on Must See Video! Marriage, Sex, & Swirling: A New Yorker in the Midwest

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 @shericeidawson

 Exactly!!! because HE has so much going on does not mean he is an ANGEL!!!!! Why THEY get it confused! I think what people should be focused on is CHARACTER!!!! BUILDING a good character for your child!!!!!!! Then all these BRIGHT things for the FUTURE will be inevitable!!!!!

 

AS Christelyn say CHARACTER OVER COLOR!!!!!!

Lets build our kids CHARACTER!!! BY building a foundation for them!!!!!

1 year, 11 months ago on Dr. Boyce Watkins Thinks Welfare of Girlfriend-Beater is More Important Than the Victim

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 @Brenda55

 I complete agree!!! jail is a punishment...not a place to heal!!! He could choose to be better and not do it again but it will take serious self-evaluation which I am not sure he is capable of.

1 year, 11 months ago on Dr. Boyce Watkins Thinks Welfare of Girlfriend-Beater is More Important Than the Victim

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This looks like a mother beating her child!!!!!!!!!!!!

HE needs a beating so!!! I think people like that have a problem!! When you become 18YEARS OLD, no other adult can control you and persuade your choices unless you choose by some other reasoning!!!! HE clearly does not know that!!!!!!! He choose to use force to persuade and hurt her!!!!!!

 

Despite!!!!! what he did I HATE the prison system here!!!!! Because he can go to prison and come out and do the same thing again!!!! He need to be pschologically treated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

1 year, 11 months ago on Dr. Boyce Watkins Thinks Welfare of Girlfriend-Beater is More Important Than the Victim

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THis looks like a mother beating her child!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

1 year, 11 months ago on Dr. Boyce Watkins Thinks Welfare of Girlfriend-Beater is More Important Than the Victim

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 @Sergine

 he did marry her. They show them getting the license and everything it is just that in the reception they broke up he said he wants to end it.

1 year, 11 months ago on "Bridezilla" For Friday Funny, Cuz PLEEZE Let This Be a Joke!

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 @eugeniaberg   @ann4950  @reem11

 no..I think if it was not for his family who could not stand her sh*t and saying something about it. He would have married her and be her puppy dog. His family gave him a back bone. They were opposites.

1 year, 11 months ago on "Bridezilla" For Friday Funny, Cuz PLEEZE Let This Be a Joke!

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I saw this to...this show condones this behavior, hence bridezilla. I look on with my mouth open most times..lol

1 year, 11 months ago on "Bridezilla" For Friday Funny, Cuz PLEEZE Let This Be a Joke!

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I think the problem with the BC is the commitment. So many are jumping from one relationship to another with children being produced from each. Leaving a trail of single mothers and kids with no structured home of a mother and father there. I know couples in BC who are not married and been together years and have kids! I wish they would get married but if it works for them, great, the Europeans have been doing it for years. Even that dynamic of cohabitation is nonexistent in BC.

However I am Christian and I value marriage and I understand what are saying.

2 years ago on Murder the Messenger--The GAT-DL Blacklash of NWNW

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I have not been on here in awhile because while there are new people coming on here who wants to know more about stories like these. I think there needs to be different but similar stories for those that have heard the same stories on a broken record. Stories like the black man who is dilusional. Hope this is helpful.

2 years ago on Light-skinned Women Are Naturally Dominant? OK, I've Heard It All

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Many people have to re-evaluate what does marriage mean to them. Some see it as a piece of paper others, who are not so religious, see it as a thing everyone is doing and hence put it on a high pedestal. I am religious and I think it is important and I must show to God that I want to share this man with HIM. That is my purpose for why I want to get married. So many has drifted away from religion and do not see it as important, because everyone is not getting married. We do not have to get married but if you are a Christian well if you fancy a guy or gal...maybe it is time to wed them.

   A  relative of mine is having a second child and is not married, I think he should get marry even though he cannot afford a family and though it may not last, do it. I think marriage is just a resonsible thing to do. Just the way we want a contracted job, I want a contracted relationship!

 

IT IS LUDACRIS ALL OF THE INFO ABOVE CHRIS!

2 years, 1 month ago on You Just Can't Ignore It: Cultural Outlooks About Out-of-Wedlock Babies

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It was about time the US did something because other countries such as Canada know what type of immigrant they want living in there country. In Canada if you graduate from college and you are not a resident you can apply to be one...They want the college grad immigrants...also there are other means of becoming a resident there(found this out from a relative that is an immigration lawyer over there).

 

Also the fact that this law change is directly targetting those who want to achieve and help grow the economy, because you never know if there is an "Genius" who will be affected by this.

 

2 years, 1 month ago on President Obama Announces a Shift in Immigration Policy, Hispanics Approve

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 @AnInterestedObserverlol... she/he does not know what is sarcasm. I want what Christleyn want for BW but when they do not want more for themselves...tough love has to come out... some are very delusional, perhaps you prefer that than "crazy" an expression used by many. See you would not see that... 

 

thats it.

  

2 years, 2 months ago on A Walking, Talking Reason for "No Wedding No Womb!"

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that is crazy!

But update in nyc...I have been seeing in the past couple of days lots of swirling with black men dating white women and not much black women swirling at all...lol. I love it, BM r following their heart, once they do not feel like they own mine.

This is hilarious:))))))) so now I began to wonder what will all those black women who are loyal to black men do....lol???

-- Will they be grouping up to attack black men and tell them come back b/c we r loyal....lol. These black women are crazy... so sad. Christelyn youuuuu neeeeeeeeeeeddd to give them a ruuuuude awakenin!!!!!!!!! STOP the LLOYALITY crap!!! we r all human beings, let us date each other.

 

2 years, 2 months ago on A Walking, Talking Reason for "No Wedding No Womb!"

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NICE!!!! I have this as my fav! It is bookmarked when in need!

 

2 years, 4 months ago on Feeling Green? Six Tips to Help Get Over Jealousy

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Very good post! I have been open to interracial anything for along time. I like to meet and see new people every where I went. I would love to do more travelling in the future for sure!

2 years, 4 months ago on Oneika: "How Travel Opened Me Up to the Rainbeau"

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lol!!!!! hilarious!!! but awesome the way he handles it..

2 years, 4 months ago on Friday Funny: Why Do Women Keep Fainting During Obama Speeches?!

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he is getting all the hot spots!!! Jamaica then Brazil!!!! They were thinking WOW!!!! Where did that one come from!!!!  lol!!!1

2 years, 4 months ago on Fist-Biting Footage of Prince Harry Getting His Grove on in Jamaica!

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I do not know if I closed my hearts off to Black men, however I am rarely interested in them. I do not look at any of them at all or at least one that has not interested me. My eyes however have been seeing alot of very attractive "white guys" left and right from ordinary to good looking. I find that I am attracted to "black guys" that is my complexion dark, like Kimora Li"s husband's complexion or "white guys". I do not like brown skin so much, so in other words no in between.

I think @christelyn answered well, on everything else. That friend is not nice at all!!!!!!

2 years, 4 months ago on Question of the Week: "Are we wrong closing our hearts to black men?"

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WOW....Now I would actually watch her go around some time...lol. Just to see what she has...sooooo brave!

2 years, 4 months ago on The New, NEW Black Woman: America's First Black Female NASCAR Driver, Tia Norfleet!

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 @Toni_M I watched black in Latin america in Brazil and she is considered a hybrid so. To conclude Latinos in the Caribbean are mixed/ hybrid of many backgrounds! That is all, so if your husband is white and you are black, I know society sees her as black and I wish people just see it as it is, she is mix..full stop. Ohhh forget the point before.

2 years, 4 months ago on Gasp! Black Leading Lady Alert, AND! She's Not a Wh*re, Mammy or a Maid!

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 @R. Kamaria However in some cases, like myself, she might have in common her latina side than her African American side to be specific. The chick however, just sees herself as an American not identifying with either side. She said in an interview she goes shotting for fun and did ballet as a child. 

I more identify with my Caribbean side than African American side, similar thing with Anya Choung, Project Runway 2011, she would identify more with her Caribbean side than her Chinese/ Indian/ Afro side.

It is all about ETHNICITY:  is a group of people whose members identify with each other, through a common heritage, often consisting of a common language, a common culture, ETC. Which ethnicity you fancy more!  

2 years, 4 months ago on Gasp! Black Leading Lady Alert, AND! She's Not a Wh*re, Mammy or a Maid!

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I think it is a afraid of change. They are not used to being in different circles, also there are stereotypes about WM, that sexually, they are not well endow etc. so fear of that can cast a bit of fear. I Knew someone that dated a WM for like a year, he was in love with her but she never, very fearfully did not want to be intimate, (I believe to hold off sex after marriage so) before thinking the way I do, I thought she was mad! I think she was using him, he really took care of her.

All that being said, every man is built different, they should not let those fears keep them back if they want to explore. 

2 years, 4 months ago on Video: "Why So Much Hate For Black Women Who Swirl?"

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OMG lol.. I was just on the youtube site for the video and found that there are some psychos there... they are hurt!!! They must have been abused by a BW or been in some horrible relationships where their tiny heart was broken into pieces. They say you are hating BM when in fact you are talking to a particular crowd of people. The psycho crew, both BW and BM involved. You like well respectable men (black, white or inbetween) who speak the truth or have high standards for themselves. But the choose to see it one way. Maybe you should list the type of Black men you like!!!! Then who you consider them to be.

2 years, 4 months ago on Video: "Why So Much Hate For Black Women Who Swirl?"

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I just looked over some flicks for the year and most might not have one Asian in it and much less Black. Just one question, is Jada Pinkett the only black actress willing to do action, like her husband? Movies like "Resident Evil" also whimsical movies do not have one BW in it. Then those girl next door movies whether comedy or serious, can't BW be the girl next movie..lol.  I do not expect black people to be in all movies, because we are the minoirty of this country and it does not look close to the real think( if so needed).

2 years, 4 months ago on At LEAST it's Not Just Me: Someone Else Notices the Obvious Problem with Flicks Like "The Help"

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YOur opinions are welcomed alright! :) It is okay for a movie to portray black women as maids...But the problem is why so many lead roles for BW have to be something, on a stereotype. Most not lead roles are, STRONG BLACK WOMAN, ...wait that is the only one...lol. wait then there is OVERLY SEXY PERFORMER. However it should be more diverse when coming to lead roles and nonlead roles(supporting). Most lead roles are, GIRL ABUSED, BABY MOMMA, THE WOMAN NO ONE WANTS, etc. There is more stories to being A BWOMAN than that!!!

 

This goes to show how much the world does not know about us. They only go by stereotypes because they know it is a true scenario. I would like to look at all movies  that come out from now on and see if a role that is played by a white woman can easily be played by a BW and if so how would the movie change? And why? Maybe we could help future movie writer, producer, maybe we could help pick out actors that would best play a role, since the movies are for use to watch! lol

2 years, 4 months ago on At LEAST it's Not Just Me: Someone Else Notices the Obvious Problem with Flicks Like "The Help"

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 @MDNA2 I love history, any kind of history, the good the ugly. If a movie was made on it if I am able to see I would. 2012 does not mean anything, the same thing that was happening in America some 70years ago is happening in places today, in places closes to America than you may know, like Haiti!! So 2012 what!! People please do not harden your hearts because when movies like these do not come out, we forget how it feels. That so does not mean that Hollywood is right to only give BW roles with substance where we are inferior.

2 years, 4 months ago on At LEAST it's Not Just Me: Someone Else Notices the Obvious Problem with Flicks Like "The Help"

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"The Help" Shows a time period of the past that we must not forget, but how could a black woman come up and persevere in a different way. I guess people forgot "The Dream" what stereotypes did that portray and Jennifer Hudon winning. I am not disagreeing with what you are saying. However look at the women in that category nominated. All the women showed courage and strength, all in a different way. There are many good movie to come where black women are in high positions and do something great, I hope Jennifer Hudson does the Mandela movie!  

2 years, 4 months ago on At LEAST it's Not Just Me: Someone Else Notices the Obvious Problem with Flicks Like "The Help"

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I think attractive is attractive is attractive so no matter what, sometimes it is who makes you salivate more but then again sometimes it is first looks or  first personality that brushes your fancy. 

Because I know we all have a friend where she was not the most attractive but she has the most awesome personality!! Now she is dating this super attractive guy...and all those around her know why he is with  her because she is awesome, you just never know. You might be shock who you fall for...lol.

2 years, 4 months ago on What Da Cuss x100: Club Owners Pit Light-Skinned Girls Against Dark-Skinned Girls Under Guise of 'Racial Pride'

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All this flyer is just telling prejudice 10% melanin people(WP) that black people fancy you more and basically agreeing the KKK. There are 99.9% melantin people(BP) who would not talk to someone who has a dark complexion, they would treat their 50% melantin child better than their 99.9% melantin child. Something is wrong with that. You know they would try to connect IR dating to that...lol. That BW will not give BM a chance and forgetting them. I treat every man the same!!!! However I have high standards. So I hope they do not feel this site is trying to promote dating white men and not black men  or whoever b/c it is not. It is all about character over color!! luv it!

2 years, 4 months ago on What Da Cuss x100: Club Owners Pit Light-Skinned Girls Against Dark-Skinned Girls Under Guise of 'Racial Pride'

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LOL!!!!!hehehe!!! He is 24... seriously, my age!!! He knows alot for his age!! I guess he is like me, have lots of advice to give but do not have a clue on your own (I might be wrong)....I love the marriage counselling field, I always said if I did not study Architecture I would have done that.

2 years, 5 months ago on Oh Boy. You Guys are In for a Treat. BB&W, Feast Your Eyes on Matthew Hussey.

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WOW Christleyn great discussion...! Though I felt I missed out, writing here so late. Thanks for posting the question( I tried with typos) ! I found many were learning lots about each other and what they thought of different cultures. The comment @Bunny77 comment of putting gasoline under the fire, when the old heads hear about non-American BW having kids out of wedlock, they think they have no shame!! Now the old people think of the youths as being Americanized when they do that, because it seems as an okay thing in American culture and they should feel shame like the their generation and get married off, (I can sign to that). At one point in time America was like that being shame when you were not married and prego.

As for how the thinking could change for African American Women about IR dating, express your interest in WM more, someone mentioned the Asian Women doing that, also bury the hatchet of the slave master rape thing, BM rape to and what?? I hate the actions of that generation but how could I hate the man, he does not know better, because there were white people that saw black people as humans and treated them with respect and did not understand how are things so. This Blog is making a change! If everyone was to say, I think White men can really be HAWT, I would date and marry one and say it like you mean it!! I think plenty WM will come over wondering who is that woman with curiousity! lol

2 years, 5 months ago on Question of the Week: "Why Are More West Indian and African Women Open to Interracial Marriage?"

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Really 14 years!!! I thought it was closer!!! Christelyn you look really Good!!! I did the math, he would turn out the age I think he is.....

2 years, 5 months ago on Oh Boy. You Guys are In for a Treat. BB&W, Feast Your Eyes on Matthew Hussey.

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I did to see the chemistry in the beginning... Christelyn, you were smiling more than uggghhhm... He is attractive plus full of personality!!!! AWesome cannot wait for the full interview!

2 years, 5 months ago on Oh Boy. You Guys are In for a Treat. BB&W, Feast Your Eyes on Matthew Hussey.

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I am remembering when Michel Jackson went through his children endangerment cases...people did not like that part of him. He was odd but people still bought Micheals records and claim him to be the best, CB is no different.

2 years, 5 months ago on Should We Just Get Over It and Forgive Chris Brown Already?

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I think CB did feel a pinch in his pocket because the facts are there in his popularity and sales... While Charlie Sheen is an older man and lived most of his life already... he did it all! Also Charlie Sheen has the name, the fame(his father is a huge actor) money, so different. Charlie Sheen still gets popular media coverage check TMZ if you do not believe me. Media is biase!!!! I will agree with that I am not going to feed into that at all! Chris Brown is young and dumb! Take it as it is! He is a great performer.

2 years, 5 months ago on Should We Just Get Over It and Forgive Chris Brown Already?

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I know the media can be very biased...very!!!!!! I just shake my head and hope people realize what is taking place and not buying into it...but then again there are people in the world today that think like in Virginia 1958 (Loving's v. Virginia)... once they are on top they could care little about the little man..ugh Romney...(acting like poor people want to stay poor)..SMHHHH!

2 years, 5 months ago on Should We Just Get Over It and Forgive Chris Brown Already?

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@sparel@IAOSingleMoms I do not watch Charlie Sheen so, he is just a man that do not care about his image! He knows he could act and has a name for himself. Another man who is a jerk and does not care is Kanye West, there might be more than we think. Chris cares maybe too much and wants people's approval. He needs to live a quiet life for a while, work, continue building his character and shut his mouth...

....boom shut...

the end.

2 years, 5 months ago on Should We Just Get Over It and Forgive Chris Brown Already?

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THis is wonderful!! Great job! I love the picture to the top!

2 years, 5 months ago on The New, NEW Black Woman: Fri Forjindam

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I read the report and he sounds like someone who needs extreme help!!! I pray he is getting it!!!! Because criminals do need to be forgiven and given another chance especially by us because no one here can say they are an angel or Jesus. Rehabilitating criminals is a serious matter because they could be repeat offenders, less prisons and more rehabilition centers in the normal side of towns (not the hood) where they could see how life should be lived.

2 years, 5 months ago on Should We Just Get Over It and Forgive Chris Brown Already?

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@kiki100 I know these people made a conscious choice to put their life on blast, some pretend they are good when they are bad behind the scene and others just do not care. What ever the case if a hidden camera was places in your life would it look like Chris Brown's life. If it is not so, and you deem yourself righteous great, but we are no angel. Allllll of HollyWood needs help, if you ask me!!! Also the whole world and whether you have money or fame it should not matter. It is hard to forgive spoil brats!

2 years, 5 months ago on Should We Just Get Over It and Forgive Chris Brown Already?

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Hey I think it is time! I was learning about love yesterday and part of it is having patience with someone. When someone abuses another they need help, one should not stay if that happens because the relationship is toxic... Some personalities just should not be in a relatioship, especially if one is preventing the other from becoming a better person for God. As I divert back, everyone deserves a chance...let this be even across the board. I forgive you Kim K. for really making a fool of me by saying your show is real, causeing me to watch it which gave you lots of money, when it was all acting... Now I am not going to make that mistake and watch it again.lol...

2 years, 5 months ago on Should We Just Get Over It and Forgive Chris Brown Already?

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I am not comparing us to France I do not want this country to become like France. Or perhaps we are completely secular in society already but we do things a bit different form France.

2 years, 5 months ago on Prop 8 Overturned in California. Anyone Vexxed?

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I am being openminded when I say that, I believe if you are a Chrstian we should have the same belief in common but if you are not it is okay, though I would love for you to be Christian, we have to live and let live...(good one). The government have to govern all of us with no biases. I love people and not all that they do, also, "black" people cannot change being "black". We cannot pretend to be something else as a gay man can to be straight!!! So PLEEEEEASE do not compare the 2!!! The struggle is similar only difference because there is scientific proof on the other...lol... Darwinism was soooo?ugh..

2 years, 5 months ago on Prop 8 Overturned in California. Anyone Vexxed?

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@candielady357 It is impossible to ignore it, or in other words, mine my own business. It is on my tv everyday, I do not really watch the news now, just watch the things that matter to me, so in other words I mind my business however I comment on here because Christelyn ask what is my take on it.

Frankly it does not matter to me what the government does in concern with this, they have to govern plenty people, all kinds of people!! Religious people of all walks of life as well as non- religious, however the state does believe the bible is still a good book and respect it because it was the faith of the founding fathers, so it is given due respct (seen on the money, on the witness stand, when hand goes on the good book, when the president is sworn in).

So people unless you want the government of United States to be completely secular, being very secular in my eyes mean divided...in Europe it is so, especially France(I believe) where islamic women cannot wear their hijab (no religious belief shown in a secular setting ex. street, schools, etc.). Now what will have to happen is what many Jews do, segregate their children in Jewish schools and communities. I am not afraid of change but I hope this is not wide spread where people cannot show their faith in anyway, we will be going backwards instead of forwards, (jews, christians, Africans slaves had to worship in secret).

2 years, 5 months ago on Prop 8 Overturned in California. Anyone Vexxed?

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I have examined that for along time, with the help of my disciplers, but at times it feels like God does not want us to have no fun...lol, but he is like a father he knows what is best for you... It is so much more joy to know that I am striving to be more like him each day...

P.S. I love what you are doing and I to would love to write a book but on architecture in the Caribbean, still a dream...but each I think of it.

2 years, 5 months ago on Prop 8 Overturned in California. Anyone Vexxed?

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Veery attractive guy and good story! but might be much to old for my age group...hehehe.

2 years, 5 months ago on Candy Tolentino: "How to Date Gerard Butler!

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@Christelyn was completely convicted about the topic of masterbation. It is complete self gain. There are many things that could go under some of the laws in the bible like this, "Turn my heart toward your statutes and not toward selfish gain" Ps.119:36. The laws in the old testiment is raw and tells of the time but the roots of the story is what must be grasped. The new testament also really is clear as to what us gentile must do get into heaven..

.As for the laws I do not agree with it... It does not apply to me so why am I worried about, it will only makes it a bit harder for poeple to really take God seriously because they see the world around them changing... but it is okay...Seriously God does not want peace on earth...he just wants people to follow his laws, tell others of him( he gives us all the opportunity to follow him) he knows alot of people may not follow him in spirit and truth but when he comes at least people will know of him.

2 years, 5 months ago on Prop 8 Overturned in California. Anyone Vexxed?

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The deal breaker should be no ambition!!! soon the secretary would not have any men to date? lol All the bricklayers are taken by the lawyers...hehehe(jokin).

AGAIN...No Ambition should be the deal breaker....not someone that wants to remain the bricklayer for his entire life....that would so annoy me!!

2 years, 5 months ago on Your's Truly On the Radio with "Champ" from Very Smart Brothas Talking Swirling

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Hey very interesting but what I am shocked by is by there reaction with somethings you said...you know it just escaped me....ooohhh boy... Anyway, the host later on goes on to say maybe your environment as a child, living in a melting pot community contributed to you having a liking to non black men. Okkk(sigh) yes BW at times do feel that pressure or added responsibility to have this loyalty, because even after being exposed to many cultures/ colors in college they leave still thinking they will find this IBM after ignoring all the nice guy in school. Guess what, when she comes home to visit the IBM school mate across the street, who went to college got exposed to many cultures/ colors (even though he grew up around Black people) decided to come home with Becky. It has nothing to do with where you lived, whether around black people or mixed community.

Black men do not feel that added loyalty at all.

Once they go around and see what else God has made they get hocked...me to thats my thinking! I grew up in the Caribbean always was fascinated by cultures and people that looked different than me. It could be tiring seeing the same people all the time, sometime a mix is good. Now I have lived in the US almost same time as I did in the Islands and being able to see different things is GOOD!

2 years, 5 months ago on Your's Truly On the Radio with "Champ" from Very Smart Brothas Talking Swirling

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@sparel I did not want to reply..but here I go... I just do not like the expression in the context you are using it. I do not respond to anyone on here like that unless I am comfortable with the person and like the dialogue .. maybe I am a little uptight :-) and maybe that is just how you are, calling people honey left and right... just that this the first time seeing you on here... It is great to see more people jumping in the dialogue. I would rather on here be replied to than honey... lol... Hope to see you more on here, I am a newbie to...

2 years, 5 months ago on Do You Support Marriage for All?

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please do not call me "honey" especially when you say something that contradicts what I say. Because I am not very verse on atheist history... I cannot comment on it. I do say I should have read many people's comments before I replied here, because mostly everyone does not share my opinion...:-) that is okay, we all have that right...At least I know where most are at with this topic... keep the articles coming.

2 years, 5 months ago on Do You Support Marriage for All?

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@Jazmine

"or let the religious people have marriage and the state have civil unions."

I don't know. This may be a slippery slope. If a heterosexual couple are atheist, would their union be considered a civil union then? I know at least two couples who fall into this category.

I do like your point there! Yes if you an atheist then you would not want a marriage and would preferr it to be called a civil union. In fact this should have been done long ago once the idea of atheism came into play...The separation of the 2 is a good idea. Though I would love it to be one. I think so because I am more and more learning each day to love and respect marriage through my love of God. I have always thought that... The state has a job to represent and aid to everyone's need in this country, but the church(which is the people that believe in God) has alright to retain their point of view for whatever reason they have and if they think the union of marriage the way they know it should be maintained as man and woman they have the freedom, Thank God, to do so. I love everyone and God loves everyone but not their actions, I had to come to grips with that when I think of genocide in Rwanda, Europe and enslavement of African. I will try in my power to look at people higher than me at all times.

2 years, 5 months ago on Do You Support Marriage for All?

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@Penny and all who you listed has their parents' background, in the small islands, to thank for their drive as well. Ohhh do not forget Harry Belefonte(grew up back home in Jamaica), He walked side by side with MLK... In the end even the non AMerican Black had a great vision for America as their fellow brothern.

2 years, 5 months ago on Millicent Hunter: "Being Raised Outside of the U.S. Gave Me Something I Could Never Get Here."

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I think just overall striving to be more cultured is what you are trying to say. I did grow up in a culture predominantly one color(black) in the Caribbean which causes me to feel differently about certains topics affecting black america. However living here I was able to have a different experience which I am thankful for b/c then I have something to share about my journey of life. Then when I go somewhere else I learn something else there to add to my journey of life.

2 years, 5 months ago on Millicent Hunter: "Being Raised Outside of the U.S. Gave Me Something I Could Never Get Here."

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I do not want to sound like we should be proud of it, but as you said the issues should be out there because when it is all out there we can work on it, if possible. However for years if a survey was to be done on women in America it was done with white women. It was about white women and what they think of their bodies etc. It seemed like our issues were not looked at or reflected in surveys, now it is happening I am glad! I want to see America interested in issues affecting alllllllll American!!! Including black American. Yes some of it is hard to hear, but with books by Chris and Mr. Bank, they could open our minds. If the surveys were not done, interviews and Chris would not be here!!!

2 years, 6 months ago on Survey Says: Majority of Black Women Interested in Interracial Dating, But...

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I do believe that black women are ventureing out as you showed in the blogs on BW traveling, yes more need to do so. The things is this trend just recently started. I also believe these studies are happening becasue the majority of this population(white) do not know too much about black women, so this is there way of doing so. The difficult surveys to read about black women feeling lonely etc. are all true but it does not reflect all though. However I do not like the stereotypes at all, I think they are fading with the increased attention given on the intelligent and college grad black woman looking for a husband, which is a large number compared to "baby momma" on welfare doing nothing, loving the drama in her life black woman. I do believe the surveys about IR dating should be more specific in number if possible, because there is wAYYYYY more white people in America than black so if 600,000 black women are into IR dating I am suree there is double that of WM willing to date IR online or in life and triple that of WM who did not say willing to do IR online but would do it if felt right.

2 years, 6 months ago on Survey Says: Majority of Black Women Interested in Interracial Dating, But...

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Yes I heard of their story already. Yes you are sorter late...that okay..hehe

2 years, 6 months ago on OMG, Have You Seen "Wedding Nouveau?!"

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Now that I think about it and saw more interviews about the movie, yeah I think the story line takes trump! Because when people start taking nothing and making it something, the purpose of the story is ignored. Not everyone will be happy all the time. When I come to think of movies made in this time line most times black men are seen in a negative light(maybe because that was a way to make the story more juicy).

The movie the Help, the only black man in the movie, was abusive, same with color purple(well I heard that was a controversy, since I did not live here I did not know this) and there are quit a few. But enough of that, I would go see it for the history...I love history (not to go support the black man but to let movie makers know that because the color of your skin of the screen actors does not mean slow ticket sales).

2 years, 6 months ago on Jamila on BWE: Will You Be Going to See 'Red Tails' When It Comes Out?

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@EliseYMason@deleted_1895823_Pearl

WAW! I understand you ladies, I was really turnd off with the many things going on in a church I went to. There were people gossipping behind backs to, there was no discipling (giving guidance to be a better disciple). But NOW I am around people talking the talk and trying each day to walk the walk, even leaders in church being open about there struggles of impure thoughts especially something like masterbation. I have never before seen this.... When I see people like you guys chatting like this it makes me want to just share about where you all can find that peace and grow spiritually and if anyone is struggling with anything (being lustful etc.) they are put in check, guided but the key is to be open about what is going on in your life...so there are churches (definition, the whole body of Christians) out there.

2 years, 6 months ago on Is There a Conspiracy in the Traditional Black Church to Keep Black Women Single and Lonely?

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part 2.

PEOPLE see religion(definition, a specific fundamental set of beliefs and practices generally agreed upon by a number of persons or sects: the) as a dictatorship someone telling you what to do...so why do people not want to do good and live blameless? To live this life is not as bad as people think it is, at the end of it all when you prepare to die you know where you are heading.....just saying..luv this :)

2 years, 6 months ago on Is There a Conspiracy in the Traditional Black Church to Keep Black Women Single and Lonely?

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I only was now able to follow the convo, there are so many good topics being posted...AWESOME! @deleted_1895823_Pearl Yeah you are so right you do not have to compromise on something important to you for love. @EbonyLoveandMarriage The relationship people, including myself, have with God is like a relationship. So if something is important to you and you go along and get yoked with someone indifferent, it would be the beginning of unhappiness, disappointment and lots of convincing ( why you make the choices you make). What brothers(no particular ethnicity and stereotype) in churches should be doing to help their sisters is getting more men involved in living a righteous life so they could have spot with God, that is only if they want it. Also train them by living the life they should live as well.

2 years, 6 months ago on Is There a Conspiracy in the Traditional Black Church to Keep Black Women Single and Lonely?

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After watching their interviews and reading some comments, I realize we all have many reasons for seeing the movie. There are those going to see it because they are fans of the directors, others because of the history behind it and what it means to them but for those that want to see it to go oooohhhAHHH he is so cute and is loyal to black men they will be very disappointed... Then their is the main topic of why not to see it (because there is no black women leads) can be a good stand. However I am a history gal! I have no problem with the swirl with the BM, but I will wait until it comes out on tv. The arguement is valid and I stand by it.

2 years, 6 months ago on Jamila on BWE: Will You Be Going to See 'Red Tails' When It Comes Out?

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WAw! What great advice! Is he a christian:) I want him to be one, very gorgeous, handsome and what a wonderful smile!!

2 years, 6 months ago on Video: "Get the Guy" Expert, Matthew Hussey Explains Why [some] Men Lose Interest as Soon as You Show Yours

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Then you must check out the LA church the site is http://www.caicc.org/ tell me what you think? I have not had the chance to go I am all the way in nyc going to nycicc. Each year all family churches meet up to fellowship!!!

2 years, 6 months ago on Is There a Conspiracy in the Traditional Black Church to Keep Black Women Single and Lonely?

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@NATruthstudent@deleted_1895823_Pearl In the Caribbean there were freed black people that had slaves. This happened with black people that came from the free French creole islands. So slavery was a way of life. In Americas it became a color thing when complexion was associated with level of education, etiquette, wealth. If you are black, you should be this, if you are white you should have this. That is how racism all began.

Pride is where this all grows. Get ride of the pride we should be good to go, get ride of if you are "black" you must expect this, or white expect this. If you are thinking that way you are good. :)

2 years, 6 months ago on Should We All Have Racial Amnesia? The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Swirl

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When I think of the history of people, how they treated each other and then how I have hurt God, I must forgive ignorance, I must forgive prejudice, because I have made faulty chooses to. We must separate the person from the action, the action is bad and worst because it became a norm. It was a norm in medieval Europe, it was a norm in North Africa, it was a norm in Rwanda, it was a norm in the Western World. All people did it of all back ground to each other. We just have treat each other better as how we would like to be treated.

SO I FORGIVE!

I want "white" people to just hate their ancestor actions that is all, they do not have to apologize because if we are both God fearing people we would understand it is how you treat the person you are around that matters, better than yourself.

2 years, 6 months ago on Should We All Have Racial Amnesia? The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Swirl

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What a great article! It really is an acceptance of being at the lowest caste. Sad ...

2 years, 6 months ago on Ghetto Nation: What Went Wrong in the Inner City Black Community?

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@deleted_1895823_Pearl What region of the US do you live in? I am attend this awesome church which happens to be a movement, nondenominational, they will be planting a church in boston and just did one in Paris, France and soon other places to. I mean if you are in the regions where is one near you, you can drop by. check out http://dcicc.net/churches to see if there is one near you. Love this conversation.

2 years, 6 months ago on Is There a Conspiracy in the Traditional Black Church to Keep Black Women Single and Lonely?

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@deleted_1895823_Pearl It is sin when the person does not believe in the same doctrine and you become yoked with someone... that is not only interracial relationships but same "race" to. It is hard though (when you meet people you might like them and you try to show them God and they don't believe, could be sad) because these relationships can pull you away from God and his teachings.

2 years, 6 months ago on Is There a Conspiracy in the Traditional Black Church to Keep Black Women Single and Lonely?

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@Bunny77 Well they saying that "do not judge" because they read the bible but pick and choose what to follow. It is okay to judge your fellow bro or sis, but from a loving place by helping guide them and they have to be humble about it because that is how he wants us to be. When it comes to everything in the world, that, we do not judge. That will be left up to God to do.

2 years, 6 months ago on Is There a Conspiracy in the Traditional Black Church to Keep Black Women Single and Lonely?

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@deleted_1895823_Pearl No not brainwashing, but false doctrines are being taught leading people astray... Many are not set appart from what is happening in the world...It is the same. God's children look different and we should worship together, not appart.

2 years, 6 months ago on Is There a Conspiracy in the Traditional Black Church to Keep Black Women Single and Lonely?

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WAW! What a story that is sad, if anybody you should feel the safest around it should be a brother of the church...Thank God I have found the Kingdom in nycicc, if anyone is curious about it you can check out the website it is nycicc.org (it is a movement with churches in LA to). Honestly the church should be colorful with people of different amount of melanin... So white church and black church should be a no no..Then no one knows what their husband will look like. So those who asking for a black man and after passing 35yrs and still single should start to think maybe the man God have prepared for me is not black.

2 years, 6 months ago on Is There a Conspiracy in the Traditional Black Church to Keep Black Women Single and Lonely?

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Exactly, I agree! The way we look have evoled form over time based on the environment out ancestors lived in! And now that we could move as we want to and date and marry who want to and resulying in the mixing of the DNA of our ancester history...is really forming something beautiful here! Sometimes Government policy of census, is annoying and it causes us to think we are so different from each other. In the end we use this same data heavily like in the book by Ralph Richard Bank's. I think the way to end the "race" thinking is to not think of yourself as anything but human but a person with melanin. Stop the dater collecting to weigh the difference between black and white. We need to live around each other more.This way when talking about diseases, the media will not say that happens more in black people than white... Yes I know that people with melinan needs to take vitamin tablets in the winter time b/c they would be exposed to many things. That is all it is, say, have melanin, that is your issues. Not, you black this is your list of issues, you white, this is your issues.

2 years, 6 months ago on Should We Cease To Embrace the One Drop Rule?

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The person you mention will have lots of problems with their point when situations come up that a person looks black, dark complexion with beautiful coarse hair, but has a biracial parents, what then...There is an issue with how people look and what they are! Like Halle Berry looks like any black girl any where but her mother is white and dad is black. There are some black girls who, look like Halle Berry and both parents are black, so they not black then? This confusion of one drop is confusing that is why it should not exist!!!!!! And buried like "Strong Black Woman"!!!!!!

It makes no sense!!! We cannot explain why DNA does the things it does...Sometime you make the child and they come out looking like your grandmother's grandmother!

2 years, 6 months ago on Should We Cease To Embrace the One Drop Rule?

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I think mixed is right on! When someone is out exploring one of their culture whether it be, asian, black, white, and someone asked them what is your back ground it could be said, mixed...not black, or white or anything. I mean this is for someone who has knowledge of what their immediate background is. It does not count for the black people who say they are mixed from years ago...If you could retrace that far and could put a culture to it, then fine you are mixed and not just " black". Because plain and simply it is hard to tell someone's "race", ethnicity when recently mixed much less far down in yeard mixed? I cannot wait when there is a time when this does not matter!

2 years, 6 months ago on Should We Cease To Embrace the One Drop Rule?

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@blooomune You are right...that is the philosphy behind their logics but that group of black folks do not want to admit what you just said... And if they do admit it..they prefer to stay ignorant and the laughing stock...but the sad thing is... We all might get dealt the same stick as though all black people are that way...

2 years, 6 months ago on RANT! Biggest Racists Of All: Black Folks!

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@deleted_1910844_AJ1997 I did not mean to reply to you...I just wanted to add to the conversation...I was out tonite in Time Square and I saw lots of black men swirling...lol so funny because the delusional person you mentioned above is trying to say what really???.. While she is trying to encourage bw to not venture out, blackmen are venturing out and doing there swirl...so let her stay with this PRO blackman mentality....The more wm for me who want to meet a good woman....

2 years, 6 months ago on RANT! Biggest Racists Of All: Black Folks!

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