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The list is too long. However anyone can get pregnant even, well educated women. This rate really encourages women to

1. Pick better partners. 2. Marry before having sex, but the reality is we all have sex before marriage and many women are 1. Those who are health conscious and are not putting birth control in their bodies 2. They take the chance of using it. 3. Just use condoms 4. Pull out. Now after ask thus is said as a single woman who do not want to be in that situation, if pregnancy happens then an abortion must be the way to go, if 1. Not a good partner 2. Not ready. This is my opinion..

Just trying to figure out a solution for some women.

4 weeks, 1 day ago on New Documentary Decrying 72% Out-of-Wedlock Rate…Love the Content But…

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I know all you say, it is not new. We have to take what we read and make sense of it and form a solution. We either wait until marriage before having sex. Or if you want to be a sexual single woman, utilize the option of birth control, condom or an abortion if you do not want this to happen. The fact is state by state they are closing abortion clinics and we need to stand up for that.

4 weeks, 1 day ago on New Documentary Decrying 72% Out-of-Wedlock Rate…Love the Content But…

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I would love to know, how many black women actually have abortions? Has religion forced us into a decision and then let us down by not forcing the man to marry???? I know for a fact parents of sons discourage their sons from marrying and then put the shame on the girls.

4 weeks, 1 day ago on New Documentary Decrying 72% Out-of-Wedlock Rate…Love the Content But…

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When i read the title I chuckled, because so many people have psychological problems and that is seen there.

However, I really do not mix up with anyones that sound like that and if black actresses sitting down and allowing that, then they like it so. If I was a passionate actresses and have to read this categories there would be a problem.

1 month, 2 weeks ago on Hey, Did You Know Hollywood Grades Black Women Just Like Color-racists Do? Truly WTF-iest Casting Call for “Straight Outta Compton” EVER

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I am done with the discussion, exhausting.........

1 month, 3 weeks ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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I agree there is some dysfunction in families.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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I am calm, trust me. Not going to make a blog post anger me in anyway. I just do not like the comments on here. Some of the comment really put a bitter taste in my mouth that's why I have not been commenting at all. I used to comment more often even before you become moderator so it has been a while. However if it is okay for you guys,I will just read the article and not the comments. Problem solved in my book. 



1 month, 3 weeks ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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I have no problem with people being critical, which I said before, I said that before, but would you like someone to call you "a hot mess?" And say, " She got what she was looking for?" I think the article above was critical, understanding and well rounded but then people went on to bash her in the comment area, my problem is with that...

1 month, 3 weeks ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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@Daisy_inthe_Field @nyaw @Swirlgirl28 Ugh??...Either I was writing in another language, that's strange but last time I check it was English I replied in...ummmm.


I said what I said and that's that...not going down your road, sorry...

1 month, 3 weeks ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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You should have said something to her supervisor.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on That Awkward Moment When Numbskulls Assume Your Biracial Baby Isn’t Yours…

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@Swirlgirl28 @Kels Why are you so hung on being so negative! Okay so what negative can you guys pin point on the show "Married to Medicine"? Please share! Yeah! I watch all the shows and reject what does not entertain me about people and learn for myself. Sports is the same as RHOA they are all for the soul purpose offfffff...ENTERTAINMENT! If it does not entertain you do not watch and as people stop watching they will take it off.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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@Kels I do not know about Todd Though. He said Kandi wanted him near her so he gave up on jobs that required him to travel. I think he is sacrificing too much for the relationship. She has to allow him to take those jobs and travel to see him if necessary. She knew the industry he was in. That is like a actress saying no to a acting job because her husband does not want her to travel. He might have to get a job with Tyler Perry! Or do more plays like they did together. I love the partnership of them. AGAIN  I THINK THE COMMENTS ARE TOO CRITICAL AND HEADING TO BASHING! Mrs.Karazin the convo is too negative and not uplifting at all. it is ok to be critical but OMG! Please people....disgusting....

1 month, 3 weeks ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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I do not know why Phaedra picked him as  a mate. But if she knew about this blog years ago maybe she would have thought, I did not know my options could be opened up so much! I think still she should know about the blog. I do not like the bashing of her! If you have nothing positive to say shush!!!! critical criticism is okay, BUT YOU CAN DO BETTER PEOPLE!!!

1 month, 3 weeks ago on RHOA Demonstrates How Some Black Women Waste Their Potential on Shifty Men

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I never said nyc was not friendly, it is rare to see bw/ wm couple. You might see it once every, month and a half. Also Once in a blue moon to see a bw/wm couple twice in one day

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Interracial Friendly States, City by City, County by County!

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@ShataviaWhitaker I never thought of Atlanta.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Interracial Friendly States, City by City, County by County!

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@ShataviaWhitaker I agree nyc should not be on, it predominantly Asian woman and White guy interracial. once in 2 months I would one couple BW/ WM, and that is average.

1 month, 3 weeks ago on Interracial Friendly States, City by City, County by County!

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At the end of the day bloggers like African export blogger have to know why they do what they do. Is it for money? Do they have a market? Oprah is not the most beautiful according to American standards, but she had an audience.

Michael J not the most handsome but he could entertain!!!!

2 months, 1 week ago on Oh Lawd. The “Ghosts of Mississippi” Have Arrived in the Natural Hair Community

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I feel hair is like dating, I want to date who I want and do my hair how the hell I want. I have no hang up. I will shave my hair in a heart beat and relax it like that!!

I think it is the Trini in me! Lol

2 months, 1 week ago on Oh Lawd. The “Ghosts of Mississippi” Have Arrived in the Natural Hair Community

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Guch, this makes me cringe. Do other people here just want to do your hair how you want to!!! And not be judged! Lets start a movement, "do your hair how the hell you want". I had,

natural as a kid

Relaxed as a teen

3rd year college a dread locks for 4years!!

Then natural

Then relaxed currently.

I just like to change it up, try something, what the hell!!!

2 months, 1 week ago on Oh Lawd. The “Ghosts of Mississippi” Have Arrived in the Natural Hair Community

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Why can black men, who are just men in the human race just look up other men in general, no matter their ethnicity? The problem is money in the US, that separates us.

2 months, 3 weeks ago on Watch a Bunch of Black Women Cheering as Their Pastor Shouts, “These H*es Ain’t Loyal.”

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Noooooo....I am not satisfied anymore with the excuse that cancer is an epidemic. Something is seriously going on in our environment. We need to roll back 70years from now and also look at countries that have the lowest rate of cancers.

....please "3rd world countries" you are doing something right! Do not try to be like these "1st world countries"

My condolences on the family loss....so sudden.

4 months, 2 weeks ago on Sad News: Former BB&W ‘Hottie’ Succumbs to Cancer at 41

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I had this discussion this weekend with my cousin. We have to get rid of the color to identify each other. . Black, white, hispanic, Asian ? We need to stop that, we tend to identify with ethnicity culture more, that is the only way to help society. If I live in a Greek neighborhood and eat the food from the neighborhood and love the neighborhood, I would have Greek health issues, not Southerners issues. All Americans from the South eat fried chicken, black, white, mix.

Thus concerning this young man congrats, but I view him Ghanian American, I am sure not all Ghanaian identify with him, because there are a million Ethnicities there. I do not identify with African American either. I put other, I am from the Caribbean.

4 months, 3 weeks ago on African vs. African American: Can We Still Legitimately Claim Racism When Folks that Look Just Like Us Come Here and WIN?!

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I saw the interview and I am so sorry that it had to be like that some negative media exposure to rain on Lupita success. 

There is no evidence of what he is saying. It is like he wants to force the future or cause something to happen. When the White commentator said something racist about the basket ball team, he could have said he was being racist, because the evidence is there. 

His speculation is biased and has ill meaning as Christelyn said why is there no speculation when Beyonce is praised or Rihanna.

5 months, 3 weeks ago on Can We Please Stop with the Black Woman Fetish Hysteria?

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I watched, It was great!

1 year, 6 months ago on Toni Braxton Plays in the Snow on Lifetime

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I think a question should be possed like>>> For plenty years women of many back grounds including women from African countries, when looking for a male prospect, they look at how can this man provide for a new family, yes they looked at material wealth. Now in the hood that is seen as being a gold digger, something negative!!!! So LOL!!! What is so wrong with wantning a better partnership. BM/ BW need to stop severely bashing each other and making these stereotypes of ourselves. So can we also bring back that traditional requirement for a union, plz!!!

1 year, 8 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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I do not know what to say...I think they were feeling like the black women on essense blog when they found out that hot actor was married to a white woman...lol! Also perhaps he was one of the hot ones...

Some people stare at couples when they do not match in attractiveness as well... However...he is super hot so I wonder if that could be a factor as well....LOL! Women are strange but what is funny you never hear white men vocalizing their disgust of white women as black men. There are plenty gold digger white women out there but rarely you hear white men saying white women are gold diggers...lol! crazy though. Who would willingly marry someonee with nothing positive happening in their life, ?? Black women, lol, so come again with gold digger talk... 

1 year, 8 months ago on Hot Abercrombie Guy Tells of "Awkward" Interracial Dating Experience

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 @KinkyBottleBlonde00

 I had a discussion with family about homosexuality and that is why I used it there. I know this forum is not for that so it makes no sense to even go more into it.

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @KinkyBottleBlonde00

 LOL! okay! All I am saying is when it comes to those situations of dysfunction I will always be "????" in my head when it comes to both situations. I cannot tell people who does not want to do the traditional thing to do it, this is about the family above. It is up to them to grow out of it or just do it. However I refuse to have all black people viewed in that way. There needs to be more of the opposite of that on tv, in the media, to balance it out.

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @GetMeOutofBlackistan  @MaxineI understand...This is all the reason why Christelyn needs to be louder each day since she is in the public realm and we here have an obligation as well. I am not going to be stereotyped, I just think as people get to know me they realize that  I am not a stereotype.

okay yes I can daance...lol and can do a booty shake that does no mean a thing..lol!

 

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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I know this video is ridiculous and the story is a little crazy...I totally agree! however some remarks are crazy as well...I am sorry but all the crazy Black people can be on tv but there needs to be more the regular old doing good black people on tv with out all the drama.

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @greengirl7

 I know there are studies out there and people are trying to normalize homosexuallity. I for one am not judging anyone or hatng anyone I, my opinion, which belongs to me, just think it is dysfunctional, regardless of what you say. Look at the definition of dysfuntional. I believe there are all types of people in the world, some might have some abnormalities, using different parts of the brain than others.  Perhaps I might have some to myself but those things make us all different. At the end of the day somethings are just logical and with time, we realized that the human race can have defects which is not the norm like conjoined twins.

Call it what you will...   

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @dasdbobb  @Toni_MThat is the point! there are a bunch of people out there that love drama!

 

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @Toni_M

 There really nEEEEEEDDDDDs to be more positive, forget positive, just normal, down to earth, I just do not know how to describe it. Just more of that type of Black people out in the spot light. It is not so much about their chose of life style it is being soooooo proud of it! Just live it as crazy as it may seem. It seems like the negative perceptions of both Black and White people is taking over the media, "Jersy shore, all the red neck shows, Love and basketall Atlanta, etc" There is no lower any community can go at this point.

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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I am not even going to watch the clipping....

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @Tonnya  @Christelyn   @Elegance

 LOL!!! You must be new!:-D...lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 This blog is for those that think there is another way, besides the lunatic antics taking place which is mentioned above.

It is for many that think there is a right way to do somethings.

... It is dysfunctional and weird!!! 

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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 @Maxine

 I am sorry but who are we to look down on their life style! As stupid as it may seem they are incharge of their destiny. However I think there is a need for a balance in black perceptions and very strong perceptions on different sides. Not all Black people choose this life. And this is why we must push even more for Christleyn to do well!!! I believe as a public figure she represents a different BW from even Michele Obama. I think It is important to realize not every BW will choose the route many on here will choose!

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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I do not want to be the one to say DAaaaH!!!...However there are many dysfunctional things that happen in this world!!! Unlike many who think a gay marriage should be normalize, hence the new comedy coming called, "The new Normal". This is the same. In the Black community it is considered normal but it is dysfunctional as hell, same with gay marriages, polygamy...etc. What is not part of the norm is dysfunctional... I do not know if a discussion can change that. There are women out there that think if there is no drama in there life, they will die of boredom...lol...That is there drama. Everyone around them want more for them but they want the drama. The best we can do for them is expose them to another option, which is what this whole website is about. Through the articles about love and interracial experiences. If they do not like seeing BW/ WW/ rainbeau relationships well, move on to the next.

  I do not get the surprise in the article though. There are many things we might think are nasty but it is not me to judge and look down on others especially like all the dysfunctional thinks I mentioned above. That is just my opinion!  

1 year, 8 months ago on "All My Baby Mamas"...Well, What Do You Expect When You Try to Normalize Dysfunction??

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The fact that most women on here might end up having biracial daughters...I wonder if the skin color is the real issue and all that comes with it? There will be times where coming together with women similar to yourself is important, example dark skin black women, brown skin women and light skin women, though we are all "black" we all have different issues and treated differently in the Black community. I think we just group with who we have things in common with. Example I want to know how to do my hair I look at women on youtube that look like me in complexion and see what type of hair they have and decide if that is what I want. It is not that plain cut anymore, just like the "race" check box is not that clear cut anymore. There will be biracial kids being raised here and they are neither black or white!

1 year, 8 months ago on Poll: Which are You, "Black Woman" First, or "Woman" First, "Black" Second?

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 @VictoriaAntoine  @oneofthegirls Black love is an American thing. African women who can, date out more than American Black women so, if they want black love they can get it there but they will still be seeing mix relationships coming out from there.

 

1 year, 8 months ago on Why Are These Bitter Chicks Hating On Michael Ealy Because He Married a Non-Black Woman? Oh. I Know.

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 @toichennellI wonder what was Essence true intensions of the article? I think they were successful!!!! Bravo!!!!!! Essence!!!!!! great job, to bring all the lonely troubled BW who date BM only to say something! To prove a point that, I think I should comment to show not all Black women are like that!....I think they want to show a stereotype that all Black women are this. 

 

1 year, 8 months ago on Why Are These Bitter Chicks Hating On Michael Ealy Because He Married a Non-Black Woman? Oh. I Know.

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 @Toni_M  @CJMD

 I think you wrote that well! It is up to the individual to know their value. Society can think what they want but when I pass by full of confidence with someone into me and  they are not black, they will realize the studies do not relate to all! People feel that way bc of personal experience and how they respond to revolutions in society.

1 year, 8 months ago on Why Are These Bitter Chicks Hating On Michael Ealy Because He Married a Non-Black Woman? Oh. I Know.

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I think everything you expressed about BW is nothing new to me and many people here. We know this and I think our job to society is to show it is not true change the perception. Whether it is just a few. So I do not worry about it really it. We must know the perceptions and be proud about who you date. I will laugh and feel sorry at all who need a psychologist to deal with their color issues.

1 year, 8 months ago on Why Are These Bitter Chicks Hating On Michael Ealy Because He Married a Non-Black Woman? Oh. I Know.

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so you are saying the interracial critics go both ways.black men to BW and WM to WW?

1 year, 9 months ago on While Promoting 'Flight,' the REAL Reason Denzel Washington Avoided On-Screen Romances With White Women Is Revealed

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 @ieishah WAW!!!! what a story. I think  anyone in a interracial relationship should put their stories together like this and write a book...this is pure drama!

I am sorry that you had to experience that.. Honey should know because as Christleyn say you guys need to start to surround yourself with positive people who support your relationship.

1 year, 9 months ago on That Awkward Moment When Your Rainbeau's Black (and IR Married) Friend Hits On You...

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 @AuraBorealis

 how about move to nyc...LOL!

on a serious note, it is so sweet to put a hand to the skeptics.

1 year, 9 months ago on Twenty Six Year Old Southern Guy Takes On Swirling in the South, Starts Blog

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 @Kia

 maybe lazy parenting...it could be so many reasons for her not providing a alternative ...so many parents are over worked and depend on schools to be the co-parent...GUCH What to do!!1

1 year, 11 months ago on News Bits: Single Mother Ruins it for Everybody, Gets Daddy-Daughter Dance Banned!

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 @Kia

 Exactly!!! Lazy parenting!...

1 year, 11 months ago on News Bits: Single Mother Ruins it for Everybody, Gets Daddy-Daughter Dance Banned!

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